Men often initiate sex when partners are already exhausted, missing the window entirely. Better timing: earlier in the day, offering something appealing instead of chores. Men wait for signs of desire, but women's explicit expression of interest actually activates male sexual interest.
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About 30 hours a month.
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Now you talk about mistakes that make men make with women. What are some of those?
Well, I mentioned sex. Is it okay to go there if.
You'Re a man listening? I'm sure we'd all say yes. Big, big, big chorus. Yes.
Okay, well, I just want to bring this up because it's one of the biggest tragedies that happens in relationships. Okay, so. And it's one of the biggest things that men don't know about women. So what happens are two things. One is a man will wait for his wife to come to bed in order to make love. Because of her diffuse awareness and all the demands that she has on herself, she doesn't come to bed until she's exhausted. So his invitation is really bad news.
Too late.
It's too late. It's too late. But as a man, you're going to be hesitant to interrupt a woman because you hate to be interrupted.
Oh, so I think she doesn't want to be interrupted. Like I don't want to be interrupted.
Exactly. Interrupt her. Give her a better offer than cleaning the kitchen. Take her by the hand. Honey, it's 9 o', clock, the children are in bed. I'd like to make lunch to you now. Really? So you got to get us earlier in the day. All right then. The other thing I want to say is there's this dynamic that works terrible, okay? And what it is, is women don't know that the more emotionally involved a man is with a woman, the more difficult it is for him to initiate sex because the more hurtful it is to him to be turned down. Right? So what you guys do is you watch for sign, Right? Right. Trying to see, you know, I mean, if she puts her lengl on woohoo, right? That's a clear sign that she might as well put a green light right on her forehead. Right? So there's. You're looking for the signs. That's okay, you know, I can make a move because she, she wants me. Well, the sad thing is, what men don't know is that your desire for us is what makes us want sex. We just wander around with 87 things talking to us and all these things that get done and 47 movie channels to zone out in and escape our entire environment by just watching someone else's life. There's all these things pulling at us and our hormones don't work the way that yours do. So we only honestly get horny about 30 hours a month unless you express desire for us. And then that activates everything. So by a man waiting for signs he's actually not providing the thing that would have her want him.
I remember buying a netsuke, those little carved things that they Japanese make. And it was a woman's face and it literally moved. It was a little tiny rotation and on one side was a frown, on the other side was a smile. And in Japan, the women, when they were ready, they would put the smile face and if they didn't want to make love, they put the down face. So something in the culture kind of said like, well, we're supposed to wait for you, but what I'm hearing is earlier and express our desire. And that desire may kindle your desire back.
It does. It's actually, I mean, I've surveyed hundreds of women. It's one of the biggest turn ons. You actually give us our sexuality by your desire.
I remember seeing an African American comedian saying, you white guys have it all wrong. He says, you know, in the ghetto we just go, hey, tonight we're doing it. And the woman goes, okay, you white guys are going, well, honey, do you think maybe tonight after dinner? But I think it's true. I feel very sensitive about asking and being rejected. It really hurts.
Yeah, it does. Well, can I tell you a really like ultra cool thing a woman can do?
Sure.
This is what I call like, how good are you willing to have it? Right. So in a partnership, if a woman wants to be amazing, she'll understand that her man is going to get really weird and twisted when he goes without sex for too long. And every man, it's different. Too long could be eight hours or eight days. Okay, you got to find out what's the too long. Right. But if she knows the right interval that he needs sex and initiates sex with him when she knows he needs it.
