This YouTube interview (Jack Canfield with Cynthia Kersey) provides coaching on changing limiting beliefs. Key recommendations: use mentors/role models who reflect possibilities back to you, and apply Canfield’s ABCDE exercise (Adversity → Belief → Consequence → Dispute → Energized) to identify triggering events, surface limiting interpretations, observe their consequences, actively dispute them, and re-energize action — illustrated by a sales-rejection example ("one rejection among ten calls").
What would you recommend to someone watching this about if they said, okay, I want to change my belief system, how do I go about that? You're coaching someone, what do you tell them to do?
Well, one of the things, okay, there's a couple. Number one is mentors and role models. So for me, the people who had the most impact in my life are those who believed in me even when I didn't believe in myself. So find people who believe in you and can reflect back to you the possibility. So that's number one. Number two is I have this exercise that I think is very, very powerful and it's called the ABCs. And basically it's really getting clear on the inner dialogue that we tell us all the time. Because of course our language reiterates our belief about ourselves. And I do this a lot with my coaching, but it's called raising your unstoppability quotient. So, so let's say something happens as a triggering event. So let's say I'm in sales and I'm calling and I've called eight people. The eighth person says, no, don't call me, leave me alone. And I hang up the phone. That could be a triggering event. I'm consistently getting rejected. So A, B, C. A is adversity. So you notice what was that triggering event that creates some upset? Right. So let's say it's rejection. B is belief. How do I interpret that adversity? What do I make it mean? So how do I answer? Why did this happen and what do I make it mean about me? So I can make that mean, you know, I suck at this. I'm not very good at sales. People are pain. I'm never going to be able to be successful if I have that belief. C is consequence. What's the consequence of that belief? Right. What's the impact? Well, obviously I'm probably going to quit or I'm not going to be that effective. So what you do is you dispute the belief. That's D, you dispute the limiting belief. So what's another way that I could interpret that exact same thing about the adversity? The eighth person rejects me. How else can I interpret that?
I sell one out of every ten people, I got two more to go.
Yeah, woo hoo. Exactly. And if you have that belief, one no is one step closer to a yes or whatever you just said. Then the final thing is E energized. So whenever you feel a triggering event, if you ever feel anything, and I do this automatically now, if I ever have a thought, well it could be as simple as, oh, this person didn't call me, and they said they're going to call me. You know, this person didn't smile at me or say, hi. This person didn't invite me to something. We're constantly evaluating that. And so we have to kind of interrupt that. And whenever I notice it, I'll go, okay. How else could I interpret that in a way that makes me feel good? Because at the end of the day, that's all that really matters.
