P2 V6 Renovate Yourself Renovate Your Wealth Two Paths Exercise

Well, we are going to do an exercise now. I have keyed up my co-host Bailey, and she's going to be what we call a primer for this exercise. And, you know, if we go back to what the premise is, this second premise, and it's really around— there's two parts. There's the reservations, and then there's this positive expectations. And again, another spoiler alert, most people are always in their reservations and don't even know that there's an alternative that you can choose. And what I would love to do is just use Bailey as a bit of an example, and she will go through this and share some of her observations as we do go through these exercises. But I want you to write down what's coming up for you as well. And as we go through, you know, each one of these questions, you know, for those of you who feel like you'd like to share about what's coming up for you, I'd love you to do that. Because there is, you know, two ways of operating. And there is the old way that many of us have, which is from these reservations and these conditions and beliefs or whatever, these old money stories. And there's another way And we may not always have that as our default path, but we have had an inkling that it exists. And I know just by you being here, it is an inkling that, you know, you're aware of it and you can operate from that way. And it's just about showing the two paths and showing what turns up. So Bailey, step on up. You, you are a, a fantastic volunteer. I really appreciate it.

No worries, I'll spotlight us.

Yeah, let's do that. I'll let you do that. Okay guys, so what I want to do is I just want to look at the first way that we show up. So the first way, which is the, um, from our reservations. So Bailey, I just want to ask you just to set the intention for yourself to you know, go back to our values, you know, be focused just on the moment and just be vulnerable and, you know, use this as a self-awareness tool. And I invite you all to do the same as well. You've got in your notebook where you can write down these. So I just want to, I guess, acknowledge the fact that, you know, we do have two ways of operating and When you're looking at your operating system, Bailey, from, you know, your reservations, can you just share, you know, what are your reservations about being wealthy? When you think about being wealthy, what comes up for you?

Yes, when I think about being wealthy, I feel a lot of shame. Like, being wealthy is quite shameful because it means that you've gotten— you have your wealth at the expense of somebody else. Mhm.

Um, so it's like a nil-sum game. It's like if you have it, someone—

yeah, if I have it, somebody else loses. Um, yeah. And I also think if I have wealth, I've got it'll stop me, like it'll impact my relationships negatively. So if I, if I get wealth, I'll lose people I love in my life, um, because I know that people who are wealthy are bad people. People will find me out. Um, other reservations I have around wealth is that I won't even be able to trust new relationships. Because people will want things from me. So by getting wealth, suddenly, um, people are going to want things from me that I, I don't want to give. Like, I just even feel exhausted thinking about the work to, to live. Like, not even thinking about the work to to become wealthy. It's just like being would be so— yeah, because I'm bad and I'll be ostracized even from my family.

So you can't— if you are wealthy, it's such a bad thing that people are going to try to take advantage. So new relationships are going to be disadvantaged for you, new relationships, old relationships you lose because you're now one of the bad people and people will see you for it. Yeah, there's a lot of shame and trouble going on there, isn't there? Does anyone else have anything that came up really obviously for you around what your reservations about being wealthy are? Yeah, Lisa, and then Guy.

I had one on safety. Like, I, you know, would I be personally safe if I had money? Would I be a target in some way? Or my children, would they be targets? So I wouldn't want to tell anyone I had any wealth in case I suddenly became a target.

Wow, right, there you go. Guy?

Wealthy people behave badly. They're tempted into bad habits and sort of wild, careless living, which isn't good for the planet, it's good and good for other people, and it's destructive. So having wealth would just like corrupt my mind and make me live carelessly.

What great reservations we have, hey? Okay, let's, let's go on to the, the second question. Um, what judgments have you made about wealth? When you think of how you judge having wealth, how do you judge it?

Oh, it's just bad. It's corrupt. That just having wealth will, yeah, take away what I love if I pay to it, you know. It just takes over, like, yeah, yeah, that there isn't, you know, there's a judgment that there's no way of being wealthy and being, um, having a positive impact on the world.

Yeah, you're a taker.

Yeah, you're a taker rather than a giver.

Okay, so there's no way that you can be wealthy and also be a contributor because they take?

Yeah, like to be well, like, you know. Yeah, okay. Or the contributions that they have are like, you know, like whatever they do, it's a net negative, but you know, like there's no net positive, like it doesn't matter. That dude bought us all buffet, his company is probably doing horrible things, you know. It's a net negative. Yeah.

Wow, that's good. What about anyone else? Anyone else come up with a judgment that, uh, that really landed with them? Yeah, Lisa and Rach.

That I wouldn't be able to trust myself if I got any money. Like, I wouldn't be able to trust myself with it. I would just burn through it and then it would be gone, and then I'd just be angry at myself. Um, so it would just be a whole self-flagellating exercise of owning money.

Wow.

Okay, cool, right?

Yeah, well, people who are able to make wealth with ease have some know-how that I don't have. They have the magic wand or belong to the club. That I've just not been invited to, so it feels out of reach.

So there's a secret society working out there and you're— you weren't excluded, never to get into the password, right?

It's not happened so far, so I— how do I get into this club, you know? So yeah, I'm excluded.

Thanks, Rachel.

What came up for me was similar to Rachel, that it's easy for other people, they have the ability, capacity, they just how to do it, and I am— I have— I haven't got it. I, I don't know how. I'm not good enough and capable enough to be stinkingly rich.

Guy?

It's complicated to be rich. As soon as it— it's not just in relationships, but also you've got to manage it, and you've got to work out the tax, and you've got to work out how to keep it, and how to reinvest it, and how to It's a burden. So wealth is like this very complicated extra responsibility that's like, seems heavy.

And then like Lisa, you get kidnapped for it anyhow.

Yeah. And then somebody shoots you for it. Like, why would you want it?

Why would you want that, right? Hey, Julie. I think the same as Ursula and Rachel. I'm just not lucky enough to be that wealthy. I think, you know, you've had to earn it, work really hard to get there, and I just haven't done it.

So, you know, why would I? Why would I be wealthy? Kind of not my thing.

Such deep kind of judgments, right? So, so Bailey, back to you. You know, we've got the fact that, um, wealth, it kind of comes up to you.

It—

there's a nil-sum game. Like, if you're wealthy, you're doing bad things in the world. If you're wealthy, you know, you're takers, you're not givers. If you're wealthy, people are going to try to take the money from you, and you can't trust your judgments on relationships with them, and the relationships you have are going to be broken because you're excluded yourself from the people that you love. You've got all these impacts, you know. What inner conflict are you experiencing about being wealthy? Like, do you want it? Like, what's the conflict going on there?

Yeah, that's something that's kind of clear to me, is that there is like this inner desire, that like there is a want there, and then a self-hate, like, so the shame of wanting that, and there's a want to be a part of it. And it's like, I remember my mom always saying, like, cutting off your nose to spite your own face. Like, it's like I'm self-righteous, or I'm like, I'll block you before. So there's this kind of push and pull of like, no, this is what I want, but then just this like self-flagellation of, of, but that's bad, you know. Um, Yeah, so shame is a big feeling around it. So that inner conflict of feeling shame and then this protective part of me that's like, you know, wanting to protect that, that shame is kind of going self-righteous as hell, you know, just kind of being a bit of a battler. Um, but yeah, I would say the inner conflict is like, you know, I— it is something that I want and can do. And I don't have those same feelings around the how. Like, I'm like, I could do that, but it's bad.

And when I have it, I have to kind of hide it because it's shameful. I don't want other people to know I've got it because it's— it means that I've actually done something bad.

Not—

I don't— if I'm looking at the balance of good and bad, I've done more bad than good. And therefore, geez, what a conflict going on, right? Yeah, the war conflict come up for anyone else? Yeah, Patricia and Kim.

I think something that I just realized is like, do I really need it? Like, how much do I need? Like, for me, I relate with like what Guy said before, like Having money can be stressful, can be tiring, and I appreciate my life in another way. So still I want it because I want to have access to experiences and I need money for it. Then how much stress that can be the money, how much can I will allow it in my life, how much do I have to get to get what I want How I can balance it out? How much do I have to get to get wealthy, live comfortable, but without all the stresses? So I don't know how much it could go forward, I would say.

So, so the, the conflict is it'd be nice to be wealthy, but it's so much hard work, there's so much to do, it's so exhausting, and I'm kind of okay, like, yeah, yeah, yes, in a way I could like How much do I need?

Yeah.

So it is just wealthy with this because of the sake of being wealthy, or is wealthy just to access what they need, and after that I don't worry about?

Yeah, beautiful. Great. Kim, did you have your hand up? No.

Yeah, I disagree, you know. Um, do I really, you know, do I really need it? You know, I have enough. And, you know, I've just got, I've just got back from my wonderful trip to Bali and, you know, sitting by the pool and having a wonderful time and just seeing the, you know, inequity in wealth in Bali and also the, you know, the devastation that COVID has placed on the people there. You know, a lot of them are in really dire straits having borrowed money to build villas to then just have 2 years of nothing. And if you think our interest rates are bad here, they're like 17% over there. So In that respect, I feel like I have enough. And, you know, am I wrong to want more? But then I'm like, oh, but then I could try and help them if I had the money. And particularly with the environmental effects, you know, it's absolutely filthy. And, you know, that's something that I really would like to do. So I have the conflict of, you know, I don't—

do I really need it?

I have enough. But then also wanting to use that wealth in a positive way if I had it.

What a conflict, right? There's the guilt of having so much with this, uh, expectation that you won't be able to give. And then you're like, but if I have it, I can give. But then I've got the guilt. Like, why live with the guilt? Because, you know, being comfortable where I am, yeah, I've got enough, you know. And now another kind of effort story coming up. Anyone else want to share conflict before we— yeah, Rach and Guy.

I have concern about, um, would I manage it okay? I've not managed money that well so far, so if I had more, would I just waste more? Would I, you know, not manage it well? And then that'd be really terrible.

So responsibility, like, yes, I would like it, but if I have it, like, am I just going to play out what I've always done, which is get rid of it?

Yes.

So it's easy not to have it, right, than have to manage it and lose it.

Yeah.

Or is it better to have loved and lost?

Oh yeah, I don't know about that.

Guy?

Well, there's a conflict between wanting money so that I don't always have to be working and, and fear of being broke and having to constantly another month to get through and another month to get through. And I want to be a good provider, you know, give my family the life of choice not necessity, but then it's going to cost me my life balance and health. There's this feeling of like, I'm going to work my fingers to the bone. And is that worth it? It's like wanting to be a good provider, but thinking what it's going to cost me more than it'll take my life up to make somebody else's life. And it's like, well, geez, where's that balance to be found about working and playing? And does money really equal love? You provide to your family to be approved of them by them, but at the same time, if I'm never there, we never have experiences together. So it's that conflict of how much time do I put into making money so that we can have the lifestyle we want to do the things that we want to do, but not the time to do them. It's like having all the toys but never using them. So there's that conflict of wanting a boat and wanting, you know, all that stuff, but never being able to use it because I'm too busy making the money to afford it. It's like, so I see a massive conflict in those two.

And even just drawing that out, for some people that could be something like a resent— full resentment for the family that you have to work and you have to turn up and you have to provide. And what are they doing, you know? And it's just like, I have to turn up every single day to do this so you can have it all, but I'm not getting kind of the acknowledgment because I want to have what you're having too. Yeah, that can come up too for people who are in that kind of, that provision kind of, um, conflict. Fabulous. Well, Bailey, back to you. So we've had a look at the fact that, you know, there's this shame coming up, there's this net effect that you have to do more wrong than good to have money, you know. And then there's this— there's almost like a, um, I'm going to call it a badge of honor being the battler, because the, the battler, you know, is self-righteousness comes up going, well, I'm not like them, I'm a battler, I've had to do this and get where I am. So how have you resolved these conflicts? Like you've got this whole conflict going on, wanting wealth obviously, but there's all of these stories going on internally. What do you— how do you take action on that? How do you resolve that?

Yeah, so, um, an example, um, bought the house of our dreams back in February and it totally slipped me into about a 6-week depressive episode of just feeling so ashamed for what I got. So it was like, oh, you've got something great, I've got to make myself feel really horrible about it if I do get something good to happen. Um, and even, yeah, so, so that bit, or kind of downplay, or, um, a big part is kind of downplaying my achievements. So I have made big wages, I have done those things, I just don't— not really generous, or, you know, or just like, oh, it's not big, that I have this like really big title, or you know, this, or you know, just so that it's minimizing the things that I do have. Um, and another thing is completely ignoring my wealth, and it just grows. Like, um, I've, I've been, um, privileged enough to work for two tech— a few tech companies that have been quite successful and have been a, you know, shares that have gone up 100, you know, very, very high. Um, and that's just kind of there and I just don't think about it. It's not real. Um, so you ignore it.

Yeah, blink it like I've got it, but I blink it to it. And then when I create something that others can see that manifests the wealth, like the beautiful home, I go into guilt, shame, depression of I don't deserve it. What will they think? Will I separate myself from my family and others? And will I attract the wrong person? Who I then have to protect my heart against. Yeah, okay, that's a good way of dealing with that conflict. It's like, how's this working out for us, right? It's good. We're going to get to the good part. And this is the interesting thing— most people are in this 95% of the time, right? So just being aware of it and being aware of being able to vocalize it. And, you know, I really acknowledge you for saying that because These are not simple trite statements. These go into fundamental ways that you believe, you know, the world exists and you exist in it. And, um, you know, they're big observations. And, you know, it's, it's an interesting way that we operate. And just seeing this is a real gift. Anyone like to share how they turn up, how you're resolving these conflicts that you have? Rani.

Hi, hi.

Um, so how I, um, stay— resolve the conflicts is I stay secure and stay like, um, I just like to stay level. I know a couple of years ago during COVID um, we had created wealth and I did everything I could to get rid of it. There was a lot of drama, and I really— I didn't realize till later that I was doing everything to bring my set point down because I felt so uncomfortable, and I didn't know. I was finding every reason to get rid of things and realize what would have happened if, if that had actually, you know, um, been allowed to to happen, get rid of property and stuff like that. And so to come to my set point, at least I can stay in line with my family, stay in communication with my family, and stay in my zone of association with wealth. So my way of doing it was to try and get rid of everything so that I don't have to deal with it.

It's almost like having that loyalty tax, right? So you've got a bit too much, and this is where everyone expects you to be and where you're comfortable and you don't have to protect yourself and separate yourself from everyone else. So why not bring it down and get rid of it? And when most people are kind of like trying to aspire to wealth, you know, we've just had two examples of people like got wealth, you know, but now the separation from, you know, the set point of the families or the norm or what's easy and what makes me good and not, you know, above everyone else or mean or bad, whatever the stories are. You know, I need to get back to where I am. And then you wonder, you know, and wonder, why don't I have what I want? And why is it hard?

I also felt like it was control. I had no control because there was a time I could write, um, all my invoices on a notebook, and then, you know, I would know exactly where I was. But here we had accountants, and I'm like I didn't— I had no control. I'm like, oh my God, you know, we're in debt so much. I was looking, focusing on the debt, and it was bringing me down. And I didn't realize, like, you know, the asset part of it. I was just focusing so much on the debt.

Yeah, no, that's great. And, and that's that liabilities, right, versus the assets. You're kind of looking at the liabilities and they're winning the story. Ursula?

That's interesting. Well, I knew it, but it just came up very strongly because I've decided that I'm not capable, I don't have knowledge, I cannot do it because my parents used to say nobody in the family run any business. And I used to go around and saying the same, oh, I don't know anything about business, I can't do business because I, you know, it wasn't running my family. So I decided that I need help But there is a fine line between getting help or getting addicted to getting help and not trusting myself that I can do it. And I created recently a crisis that Rachel helped me with, like so much shit I could not believe it. In the current reality, I got these plastic balls, remember those? I don't know, when my kids were little, we used to go to these play places where they you know, play with these plastic balls.

Yeah, yeah.

And you can—

so many of them, you can drown. So I had this vision of me drowning in this kind of plastic balls and people just throwing at me. And I'm like, what? Because everybody wants to be like, you know, selling me their courses. And I was like, and, um, and that, that's why I was like asking for help. Um, again, but you know, because I was getting confusing messages. But yeah, my, my, um, resolve— me resolving those conflicts was getting— deciding that I'm not— I need so much help because I need to be, you know, I need people to help me, hold my hand, and I cannot do it on my own.

And it's, it's interesting, isn't it, when you can see that story that your parents told you, which is our family doesn't do business. And your default is I have to go and find someone who does, who has the answer. And there's whole industries, you know, that are set up for personal development industry. You know, let me fix you. And here's a course and here's a webinar and here's a book and here's a way that you can fix yourself. And you're like, gosh, you know, if I have this belief from childhood that our family can't do this, then I have no capacity. I have to find someone who can. And, you know, there's that doubt. Well, is that person the right person? Maybe I should double-check them with the next one and double-check them with the next one. And then by the time you've signed up for 15 courses, you're so confused. The message is you haven't enacted any action towards one of them, and you're like, well, now I don't have money to set up a business either.

And there's another very strong message coming from my childhood that she needs the job security. And I can see it playing in my life and my sister's. She's so talented, an artist and beautiful artwork. I keep sending her your husband's website, but she's attached to this teaching job that she hates, but she won't let go because the parents said, you know, keep that job. You know, you have to have secure job. You have to have salary coming every month. You just have to do it. And year after year, the same story. She goes back to the school, hates it, doesn't sell, and piling up her artwork in the cell, in the, you know, annex. And it's the same with me. I am so attached to my job because it gives me the security and pays well that my neck is killing me, but I'm okay. Okay, it's killing me, but hey, I've got a secure job and I'm, you know, being paid well. So why should I change?

And just be aware of those stories. You know, the stories might be, my neck hurts, or the story might be, it's killing me. You know, and how you— what you're creating out of the stories that you're telling yourself, where you're giving that power as well. But yeah, great. Thank you for sharing. Bailey, thanks to you. We'll finish off on these reservations right now, but just, you know, looking at everything that you've shared so far and, and how you're resolving this conflict. To the extent there's such an amazing creator, you've got wealth, you've linked it to it, you've created this amazing home, feel guilty for it and a bit of shame. And you know, you're, you're almost hiding your— I'm going to say your heart— and behind your wealth because you're separating yourself from relationships because you, you don't want to be exploited or taken advantage of. Now, what messages are you giving yourself in relation to wealth?

Yeah, well, just wealth is inherently bad, um, and if I'm wealthy, I'm going to lose what I love. Like, it's not— it's not safe.

Wow. Why choose that, right? Why choose wealth when it's going to do, you know, make you unsafe, make you lose love, make you bad? Well, that's pretty, pretty foundational. That's, uh, you know, that's really I think it's really deep when you can relate to your reservations and actually see them for what they are and see how they limit you and see that this is how the default is, this operating system that you're working from that, you know, kind of came from like the 2 to 5-year-old sitting there throwing a bit of a tantrum, being open to all the messages coming through, and project that 20, 30, 40 years on and going, this is the way I'm still operating. And it's, it's a choice, right? Then we have a choice, which is so nice because we're going to have a look at that next. But did anyone just quickly have something that just was the message that you can now clearly see that you're telling yourself about your reservations and what's separating you from wealth?

Yeah, Rachel, a belief that I don't deserve it. But there you go, if I don't want to work that hard, I don't deserve Yeah.

Guy, did you have something?

I mean, I have certainly that I'm not good enough to be wealthy. And that not needing to be wealthy to be happy, like, don't equate wealth to happiness. Wealth doesn't bring happiness or freedom. So better to be happy and free. And really scared of messing up. Like if I had wealth, what if I lost it? What if I did the wrong thing with it? What if I invested in the wrong things or mucked up and lost it? Better not to have it than to, you know, get it and then lose it. And then being scared of it corrupting me. I had a lot of wealth and, you know, I'd end up doing crazy things.

It's interesting the badges we put on ourselves to keep us separate from wealth, like the, the badge of there's an either-or. I can be happy or I can be wealthy, and it's much better to be— I'm at least I'm happy, right? Or at least I'm loved, or at least I don't have the effort of looking after millions of dollars, you know. Oh, the pain, you know. And it's interesting because there's almost a— there's, there is this battler badge. This is this kind of, um, you know, mantle that we can wear that says, I'm not separate from other people. You know, I know that for me personally, there was a loyalty tax. I definitely felt that if I was separate, and I defined that by being wealthier or having more money than my friends or my family, then somehow or other they wouldn't love me anymore, or they wouldn't feel happy for me, or, you know, they wouldn't rejoice you know, they would keep me back. And, you know, and I think when we see these conflicts and these just distill down to these messages, and now, you know, unconscious is just playing there in the background going, what's the message? What's the message? Geez, you know, don't want to be wealthy, there's too much work, someone's going to rip me off, everyone's going to be after me, bad people are wealthy, they've done something bad, they're not good. You know, this is the messages that we're just feeding ourselves. This is the awareness that we have. But the good thing is that there's good messages too. And there's these positive expectations and there's positive experiences that we've had with wealth in the past. And I want us to now kind of just redirect our attention to what are those positive, not just expectations, but positive experiences that we have had. And even the emotion that we can associate with those. So Bailey, back to you as our primer to prime us all to get our thoughts and juices going. When you think of yourself, you know, just push away all of the negative reservations, the worries, the concerns and everything, and we just sit into the relationship of wealth that you have from this positive expectation of what you'd like to create. What outcome would you love to create by being wealthy? What could be the best possible solution for you or outcome?

Ah, just using it as a proof point to help people become wealthy in a way that's abundant, that they're making a net positive impact on the world. So by becoming wealthy in a way that's actually creating a lot of value for the world, you know, that's not taking, and being able to blueprint that and support others to do it, to change from a scarcity mindset to an abundant mindset, um, and just show that it can be easeful, it doesn't have to be hard work, and just use it to be a role model for wealth for good and an abundant way of living and yeah, doing it in a holistic way that, you know, it's not a do good or make money. You can do both.

Yeah. And imagine the, the lives that you can change with that, right? What's so beautiful about that is it's no longer about you. Like, you've just taken yourself completely out of the picture here. You're creating a blueprint for others. You're creating, you know, role modeling and abundance for others to make an impact on the world, to create a legacy so that they can in turn, you know, pursue what is, is good for them and create something that is bigger and better. You know, you've taken yourself out of that completely, right? And that positive expectation of this greater value— that wealth isn't a, um, a nil-sum game. You don't take it and someone else loses. You create it and everyone benefits. Like, that's just so beautiful and powerful. And I think, you know, the, the switch of going, you know, this is wealth for good, this is profit for purpose, this is being a conscious capitalist. You know, where am I coming from? Am I coming from my, my doubts, or am I coming from this beautiful place of, you know, serving the world and being able to do that without effort? And modeling it to do it without effort, and they're showing others how to do it without effort. Because wealth empowers you to be able to do things without effort, right? That's a great place to come from. I love that. Who else would like to share about what's the positive outcome that wealth would allow you to create in the world? Yeah, right.

It would, um, yeah, it would prove that I do have the capacity, the value, to— that people want my gifts and talents. And, um, and where did it go? Oh, that, um, it's possible to do that at any age.

You don't—

it doesn't just belong to youth. And that at the jam rat, which, you know, um, you can, you can create it.

And it's, it's great.

You're about to celebrate a big birthday tomorrow.

Big-ish. Big in number.

Big in numbers of years. Don't worry, we'll be singing happy birthday to you. Exactly. Don't—

big in experience.

Don't let me forget.

But day after tomorrow for me, still Friday here.

Oh, we'll be celebrating for you.

I'll take it 2 days. That's fine.

We have festivals here for whole weeks for our birthdays. You should move to Australia, it's great. Um, the interesting thing there, Rach, is that, um, your, your connection to the positive outcome of what you can create when you have wealth— what I, what I heard you say again was around how others had validated you to be able to have that experience. Yeah, so, so if you just thought again about what would you love to create if you had wealth, what could you create, what would you love to bring into the world, what would it mean, what do you see then?

Um, what would it mean? It would mean, well, other than sharing what I, what is within me that I want to share, I know I have you know, I can have a positive effect on people. And, um, and it would also create that, um, that legacy that my son gets to see, and he gets to see, and that women can be powerful in their own right. And, um, he gets to see that a shift of balance, you know. Yeah.

And so that's so much more empowering. Do you feel how more empowering that is, is that you're not only you're not seeking that validation. What you're doing is you're actually setting that role modeling, that experience for your son to see, to go, she said, any age you can make a choice of what you want to create and go for it. And not just make a choice about owning that for yourself and your own agency and your own legacy, but being able to then have the opportunity to share the brilliance that you have with the world without a financial constraint and empower other people. So you're role modeling for him the way things can be. Like, what an amazing thing to create. Yeah, like, that's just fantastic. Yeah.

Um, so with the wealth, um, I, I really have a vision of, you know, becoming, and I know I'm becoming, that person of like a magnetic person drawing people, very extremely chill and calm and wise and like really warm, and just passing that to others, particularly medical professionals, but not only, just passing that and help them to become like that. You know, so they can create better, most beautiful, you know, care for patients and be the best versions of themselves and, you know, and love the patients and not be so overwhelmed and stressed out. And also sharing, I have a vision of creating something for teenagers, particularly those with mental health issues. Like a place to hang out, like so they don't have to spend time on, you know, media. And it's a lot of hustle, a lot of problems coming from those spaces, and just space to hang out where they can come and actually see each other in person and spend some time. And, you know, there isn't such thing. It's unbelievable. They go and hang out in the supermarkets you know, just go window shopping, or there is no space that, you know, they can come. It's like a club. I've had that vision. If I was both, you know, when I'm wealthy, not if, when I'm really wealthy, I will have a chain of those, those, those clubs for teenagers that they can come and hang out, and there would be a, even like, you know, help with homework or whatever they have, and, and a psychologist to talk to. And stuff. Um, that's, that's what I would like to do.

See what a beautiful, beautiful thing that wealth can bring. Like, look what you're creating. Not only are you coming to your heart, you're allowing others to see their heart. And on the, the Tina, you know, community concept and that connection, you're actually allowing them to be seen for who they are. Like, this, this beautiful, you know, visionary kind of opportunity that you can create from wealth How amazing is the emotion associated with that? Is there anyone who wants to confess to not being able to see a positive outcome from being wealthy? Is anyone struggling with that? No? Good, because, uh, the dark side can be quite dark. Okay, so Bailey, back to you, beautiful Bailey. The positive end results of what you can expect from being wealthy. What is the end result when we look all the way down the line of, you know, you creating this blueprint for people to be able to, be able to create an abundance and an opportunity for them to leave a legacy in the world? What's the end result? What do you expect from that?

Uh, so what I expect from that is just a ripple effect of real positive change and disrupting how business is done by showing that there is a different way and being that proof point. So by me being wealthy and doing that in a way by following my heart that's quite authentic, I can kind of I see it as like domino effect of raising the, you know, humanity going from more of a scarcity mindset to abundant mindset and kind of really helping the world kind of course correct so that we're having, you know, less disparities with society and with the environment now that we understand our negative impact on it.

So it is so fundamental to everything that we have, right? And, and I love the word that you used there, which was— it was being like a disruptor to the way things are. And it kind of lends its way back to the reservation points that business is bad, but it has a bigger, higher connection point here that is not business is bad, I shouldn't do business. It's, hey, your business has an opportunity to do good. And business has an opportunity to change the way that the narrative of business being out for profits is, and businesses out for making a social and environmental and financial impact on the world, so that we can go and use business as a creative tool to create something that can make an impact, that it has longevity and has legacy and has an effect way past what we're creating. It's for, you know, intergenerational change. That's a good positive end result.

Very powerful, very powerful.

Can't wait to see that. Anyone else like to share their positive end result of what they will have with what they're manifesting and creating? Yes, Sue.

Okay, my personal finances aren't where I want them to be yet, um, and this has opened up some stuff, but I made a decision about a week ago that I was going to take my focus off that, and I had this download, and what I've decided is whatever money I make From now on, 100% of it I'm going to give away.

Wow.

Unless I get a download to the contrary. And I'm just seeing what comes my way, what's created. I don't care if it's $5 a week or a month or a year, or if it's $50,000, doesn't matter. The mindset is there that my finances aren't 100% right, the home I'm living in is not 100% right, it's messy. But I don't want to wait until things are right to start to do the things that are my passion to do. My passion changed and started a week ago, and I don't see any need to change what I want to do now. So it's, um, I'm just waiting and watching the space. I have the finances to move forward and do that. So, so finances are good. In that it set me free. Even though it's still messy, but, um, uh, the changing the focus and making it meaningful instead of me, me, me, uh, that the meaningfulness, it's changed something in this. Flick the switch and it's good.

I like it. Yeah. And, um, just a, a deeper observation on that is that when we look from our reservations about wealth being money and finances and, you know, the, the dollars or the cents or whatever, or what those things look like— cars and houses or whatever— and when you actually make like that shift change that you have and you just see yourself as a channel of this energy that is represented financially that goes through you, and you actually have the ability to channel it where it goes, it's not something that's tangible. It's not something that is, um, you know, a real structure to it that is, I have some, you don't have it. You actually just making that choice for you to be able to receive it and then put it where the, the need is. And that, in that need, might be for others, it might be for your home, it might be for whatever it is. But, you know, sometimes you can be your own charity, right? So it doesn't have to go elsewhere, but the observation that it's not a coin or a note, that it's actually energy that you can channel, is really a very deep awareness. And that's where I, I hear that you're coming from. Lovely, thank you. Anyone else have an end result that they expect from this? Okay, so Bailey, over to you again. So we've looked at all the things that you can create, these amazing impact, this legacy that you can create in, in transforming businesses in the world and seeing a new way of operating and a new, a new system, a new path, and a new outlook and outcome. You know, what energy are you right now prepared to put in to contribute to making this happen?

Um, my whole heart. So just, you know, my love and my passion and, um, and focus, you know, and just all the skills that I've learned. I've had a really varied career, um, and so I've loved the assets and liabilities, the, the XCA, just loving those references, you know. So I see it all kind of coming and just taking all of those skills that I've learned and applying them and just really directly as well. So just kind of, you know, having such a direct and intentional approach towards this in a way. And I say that, but also just understanding that the constraints are different, you know, I'm doing it in an easeful way. It's being done in a disruptive way. So kind of taking these new ideas and, you know, the creativity skills that I've learned and using intuition towards this goal and just having such a clear sight on the end result of what I want to create. Yeah, so I guess to summarize that, just kind of my focus, my open-hearted, all of the skills and capabilities that I've, that I've, I've just kind of putting them towards this focus, but in a holistic way, making sure that I'm I can do this with integrity because I'm living it. I'm not spouting something and then still coming from my sete or my reservations.

And that, um, that redirection of focus and that, you know, commitment of vision and the observation of, you know, some of the constraints and reservations, but choosing to do it differently and creatively and disruptively and have it easeful. I mean, gosh, you know, why not create something that, you know, comes from your heart and that doesn't take the effort and it doesn't take away from others? It adds, you know, it adds to what can be. It reminds me of a little story that I used to read when I was a kid, and it was around this miserly guy who didn't give smiles because he felt if he gave the smiles away, he only had so many. And then at one point he smiled at someone and they gave one back, and he realized that there wasn't a nil-sum game, right? You know, and it doesn't have to be miserly. It doesn't have to be, um, the way that business is, you know, I take money from you and therefore you don't have the money. You know, the way that business operates here is there's a beautiful flow of energy that allows to create things that people want to bring to the world. That are going to have impact that brings more abundance to the world. So, you know, that's just such an incredible insight of the difference of how to look at it. Lovely. And anyone else, what are you prepared to do? How you going to show up? Where's your energy now? Maybe you're still thinking. Gorgeous, Rachel.

I am prepared to prioritize myself, what I'm doing, and, um, set a boundary around that, that I can't be pulled away from, because I'll always give up what I'm doing to take care of someone else, to go do something for someone else, and like their need for my time is more more important than what I'm creating with it. Even my dog.

That's really powerful. Great. Yeah, prioritize yourself, not others first. Yeah, that whole face mask. Okay, over to Gorgeous Guy.

Hey Jane. Yeah, good. Um, choices. Um, I'm just putting the focus back onto, onto seeing the positives. In wealth and being awake to my beliefs. I mean, we've got a good list of them now. So just keeping me aware of when I'm in that sort of phase of not wanting to be safe or not wanting to be a particular way and shying away from wealth. So really an adult relationship to it and just seeing the benefits of it rather than the limitations or the belief side of it. So staying awake to that, putting time and focus into that.

Perfect. Beautiful. So Bailey, back to you. It's fine to have these great big goals and, you know, this connection to this vision and what you want to create in the world, but sometimes, you know, you just need to have the breadcrumbs that show that you've done it before. And what I'd love you to, to just think about right now and, and, you know, you know, share with us is How have you affirmed this in the past? How have you taken, you know, steps in the past to create wealth? You know, how, how have you— if you had to look back and go, oh, have I done this before? You can actually validate that you have. You have got these success criteria that's already imprinted on you.

Oh yeah, um, I mean, buying my first house, you know, I got pregnant and my husband was like, you gotta buy a house, we gotta buy a house. I was like, oh, I already just have these shares there. Sold them all, but then got more. And I— and they've gone up in value like 5 or 6 or 7 or 8 times. Like, it's ridiculous. I got this house, um, last year. I ended up getting like a $40K raise, like a lot of the time without even asking. Like, you know, a few times without even asking, um, Since starting my career 10 years ago, my income went up like 3 times. No, no, like, like I make, you know, I was making my salary and, um, now I've taken a bet on myself and quit my high-paying tech job to start a business focused on this. So it's kind of, I'm on that early, so really betting on myself to do this despite you know, having issues with money. I think it's really great now having this clarity on like what those things are, because what I've done is I have been focusing on the vision and I have been making those changes, but the blowback I haven't been understanding. But I have a lot clearer understanding now of what was at play there because I just would never let myself look directly at it.

And it's interesting, like everything you've just shared there about some of the success leaves clues, right? Is that all of it came effortlessly and you didn't have to ask for it. You didn't have to work for it or, you know, trade something for it. It was just there. Oh, and the—

what was made me able to do this, of like to quit my job, is that my grandma, who's still alive, but wasn't even inheritance, was just like, oh, I've got $30K USD that want you to have. And so I was like, well, what do I want to do with that? Well, I'm going to buy me Runway, and this is my time. So, and that just came out of the blue without any expectations.

Um, what an amazing creator already, right? And imagine if you couldn't see this. Imagine if you were only in that, that reservations. You're like, oh, I got money, it's going to separate me, I can't do this, I've got to hide it. But now you're in it, you go, this This is the runway for the future where I can create legacy and change. Yeah, you know, you've got the second story. So the 95% of the old operating system, you know, it is uncomfortable and it is scary and you're giving up your job, but you've got the second story. That's beautiful. Thank you. Who would like to share what's coming up for them with this question? Back to Rachel.

I'm not trying to hog this.

I appreciate you.

Thanks.

Um, well, looking at the past when I've done things that have been successful, I said yes to something that I wanted to do without questioning if I could do it or how I could do it. I just decided that I want that, I want to do that. And if I'd stopped to think about how I could, I probably wouldn't have done it. But I said yes, and just things worked out.

Great, great example. And just, you know, sometimes just showing up, right? And just affirming that you can make that decision, and not from, um, a point of pain. And, you know, if I do this, am I not having time or effort for some other people? It says, no, I choose me.

Lovely.

So Bailey, back to you. When you've been taking these actions recently, and when these, you know, these monies and these fortunes and the opportunities, the dream home, all these things are just coming up, right? You know, what's— what are the messages that you're giving yourself?

Messages that I'm giving myself is like, I'm innately powerful and have worth.

Yeah.

Um, and you know, it doesn't have to be hard, but this can come effortlessly if you're focused on your end results and what you're in your heart. Yeah.

And also that it's, um, the money just shows up, right?

It just shows up, yeah.

And the money is almost like just the interim thing to get to what you really want. So the message that you're getting is, you know, when you concentrate on what you really want and what's true for you— I want a home, I want a new, a new business opportunity— the mechanisms for you to do that are there. What a, what a great, great way, great, great thing to know. Anyone else like to share what is coming up for them here? Yeah, Ursula. Gorgeous, Ursula.

So, um, the messages that coming up that I give myself are the— I am a powerful creator, and in both, in creating shit and greatness. So, uh, stepping into my greatness, like, every time before making decisions, um, yeah, just stepping into the greatness and take that moment and quiet my mind and just be that powerful creator. And trust the process.

Yeah, I think the— I think what's really lovely about that and this whole exercise— and Bailey, I really want to acknowledge you and thank you for, for sharing with us your experience and letting us use you as a primer to prompt others. But, you know, when we look at this premise, which is that there's two ways we can see our, our relationship with wealth, we have one of reservation, and felt, you know, just hearing everyone talk about the weight of it and the words that came up that were feeling shame, guilt, you know, worry, exhaustion. And then when we look at the, the positive expectations of what we can create, it's not about the money, right? For everyone, it was around what you can do to facilitate what's true to you. And by being able focus on that, you know, and just stepping back into looking at your day-to-day, um, experiences and how you deal with everything that turns up. Are you coming from this reservation and, you know, these downtrodden, you know, emotions and experiences, or you're coming from this higher kind of emotive state that says, well, you know, if I, I have been able to do this before, we have indications Everyone's turned up here and put their hand up to say that they're, you know, they're on a path to understand this better. And by understanding this better with their relationship with money and wealth and finance and what you want to create, you, you can go to the, the place that says, well, I just choose that. And I don't just choose it as a, you know, I want the Porsche in the garage. I choose that as my inner, you know, personal and personal balance sheet, my inner, you know, liabilities versus the assets are now in my control. I have this choice, and I have the choice if I give the energy to the liabilities and I listen to those past money stories, or I give the energy to what I want to create and the opportunity that, you know, having this, this positive relationship with wealth and what I can do is going to allow me to not just renovate what I am and what's internal to me, but it allows me to then be abundant and bring what I see wealth can bring to the world to others. And I think, you know, when you think of that Native American, um, you know, story about which wolf do you feed, you know, which wolf is more powerful— the one around fear and worry and scared and shame and, and all of these, you know, resentment and you know, all these stories that we have? Or is it the one around love and what can I create and how can I connect with people and, and how can I make something bigger than me? And it's, you know, which, which wolf are you feeding? And, you know, and we just go back to the, the workbook. You know, I've got written down there, you know, we live predominantly in our unconscious awareness of the program that's running, which for most people is just built on reservations. And this is how they operate day in and day out. This is how the world operates, because we wake up and we go to the 2,000 bits of information that we get, not the 400 billion bits, and we only see what we can see through the filter. And the filter is one that we've defined, and it's one of reservations, or it's one of positive expectations, and we get to choose it. And this is what, what I find so exciting about this is that by understanding where we've come from and seeing it and the awareness and being alive and alert to it, it allows us to, to make the choice every single time that there is a, you know, a positive expectation where we can come from, or there is a reservation. And it's our choice, and it's the loudest voice that we give the energy to that is going to be how we operate. And it is, you know, it is a constant struggle. It takes will and awareness. And but God, if you can tap into what it can create for you, you know, that just gives you this full opportunity. And if you look at the, the, um, I don't even know I can show it, but if you look at the workbook Now I've got a picture there that actually shows you, you know, when we talked about before, we've got— actually, I can show it. Let me do that. Ah, share my screen. We've got this picture here that, you know, when we're looking previously at, you know, how we were operating, we had our thoughts and feelings that were coming up which were linked to our old stories, our old beliefs. That then went down and drove our choices every day. You know, money's bad, you know, I need— can't separate myself. We have an experience that just reinforces it. We have this deep rush that we're in. Whereas now, if we choose this new operating program, if we choose to come from an area that is actually built on, you know, what is the way that we want to be— awareness is the key to this. So when our old thoughts and feelings come up, they're the link to our old money stories, to our old reservations, and we get a little uncomfortable and we go, you know what, I'm going to make a new choice here. I'm going to choose me today. I'm going to put me first. I'm going to choose to— that wealth, that everything, all the resources I need will come to me as they need to come to me for me to create what I want to create. I need to take action. I need to move forward. I can't let it just wait to turn up. But I'm going to create consciously a new choice, and that new choice will create a new experience. And then you're going to go, geez, look how easy that was. The money just turned up. Grandma didn't even have to die to give me my money. You know, I had an opportunity to, you know, create something, and there was a positive expectation. I didn't lose friends. I didn't lose you know, relationships. No one tried to steal the money from me. It wasn't hard. Then all of a sudden you start creating these new thoughts and feelings. You know, people with money have opportunity to create change for good, as opposed to people with money are mean. And then you start creating these new thoughts and feelings, and you come from this place and you're creating this new future. And for me, you know, this is what's so very exciting about you know, this work and how, how we can bring ourselves into this is that, you know, when we actually are on autopilot and we're on the familiar and we're on the old path and we're coming from our reservations, it is easy. But when you're aware of this information, you can't unsee it, and you can try to ignore it, but it should be there lurking. You know, there is this predetermined pattern that we live out And, you know, conflict is really almost the key, or tension, or concern, or this is uncomfortable, this is a little bit unusual. This is the trigger for you to go, okay, maybe I choose that path, maybe I choose to create a new choice and a new experience. And from that will come a new reality, which is, you know, isn't it amazing how things do just turn up? I don't separate myself from my family and friends. You don't have to be corrupt to make money. You don't have to be illicit. You don't have to start a brothel to go to university. You know, there's things that you can create. And I think that, you know, this awareness and what this premise is all about is that there is two paths that we have. We need to be aware of them. Most people don't even know the other path exists. And by being aware of them, we get to make the choice and we get to design the future that we want. And, you know, when I talked about the fact that this is actually scientific, you know, we are creating synapses, connections. And when we actually create a new experience and we create a new thought or a new feeling that is different and has kind of come from this uncomfortable feeling, we're actually biologically in our body, we are creating a new connection. And that new connection can then start becoming almost the rut of comfortable, because that's our default. Things just turn up. Money just comes to me, the right people at the right time with the resources that I need. And that really is, you know, this positive expectation that we can live from. And it's not, you know, uh, a woo-woo, you know, if you believe it will happen. It is a— you, you've just shown yourself you have had experiences of having this relationship with wealth. That didn't go into your reservations and didn't prove any of them right. And it's just about having day in, day out, this positive expectation and this understanding that you can have what you want, but you have to be aware that there is a very powerful, familiar, comfortable operating system that is there waiting for you, and it's going to catch you out, and you just have to be aware of it and choose awareness. So feedback, guys. Let me know, tell me what's landed for you, what, uh, has come up for you in this session. Yeah, Bailey, please.

Um, so what's come up for me is, I guess, the title of it is like renovate, you know, it all starts within, you know, just really understanding those stories and And, um, the, you know, for me the big aha was like, oh shit, like, you know, my default is coming from such a scarcity mindset and that's the off, you know, that's not what I want to create. It's just the consciousness around that is so, so huge.

Yeah. And, um, the thing is, as a young parent as well, right, you can actually see now as your parents created stories for you, we're actually creating them for our kids, which is just extraordinary, right? We have the opportunity now to create a new story for our— not just ourselves, but our family. Yeah, who else would like anything from the morning? Anything for the morning at all that is, uh, you know, you'd like to reflect on or share of your experience? Yeah, Guy.

Just that the beliefs are so buried. That was the part that sort of jumped out at me. It's like you've done a fantastic job of dragging them out of us. And I sat there thinking, oh, I think I've probably got some beliefs in there. But as I go through my notes, it's like a lot of notes. And it's like, wow, I'm not aware of it all the time. And this has just allowed me sort of to bring them up into my conscious mind and go, oh yeah, that does play out, and I can see it playing out. And that sort of makes it feel less threatening. Once I can see it, I sort of go, that's a bit silly. But when I'm not thinking and acting just out of that sort of default mode, then it just happens unconsciously. And that's what really sinks me, I think. But when I can, when when I'm reading over it like this, I just go, yeah, I get it. I can see it. It seems much easier and clearer. And therefore, my conviction of going, yeah, let's build a new future. And that's it, you know, get some new experiences. And let's take a few risks. And let's start making a difference in the world and start being a bit more adult about my wealth. It's just a whole lot easier. Just like I really can feel the, the compulsion to do that. Like, Well, why wouldn't I?

It's a choice.

I can see what I want to do, so just get on with it.

Yeah.

And what's so lovely about what you say there is that it's, it's a recognition of the, the awareness and the choice and the beliefs, but there's also the, like, why haven't I done this before? This kind of makes sense. Like, you know, it's like— and the thing is, but until you know, until you see it, you're like everyone else. Like, we just operate on what we're familiar we're with, and it's comfortable and it's easy. And we get up and we turn on our phone and we get the coffee and have a shower and have a breakfast, and then we go, okay, how are we going to turn up? But the lovely thing is, is that you're taking the risk there, Guy. You're saying, yeah, it is a risk, but what if I get it right? Like, how bad could that be? I created a new— a whole new thing, you know? It's all good. And so is that really risky, or is it risky to do nothing? Deep breath. Well guys, thank you so much. If there's anyone who'd really like to share, we can have a last share. Otherwise, we'll go and have a break for lunch because I know we've had a lot of thinking here. Anyone? Rachel, I know it's over there at LA, it's pretty late for you. Bailey, you're ahead over there in New Zealand as well. Recognize it's a Saturday and everyone is, you know, really, really turning up and putting all your energy into this, and I really appreciate your sharing and your honesty. And, you know, some of these things are going to take a little while to, to sit in, but you will start seeing with your awareness how they turn up. And you'll go into a, a talk with someone and you'll feel a belief or an emotion come up and you go, wow. And to, you know, Guy's point, do it with levity. It's not a judgment, it's not difficult, it's um, you know, it's just going to be something you go, wow, there it is. And with humor and lightness, you just go, you know, this is just a story from my past. And maybe that person, you know, wasn't trying to, uh, to ignore me for the last week. Maybe they genuinely lost the email. And, you know, my whole story system that I have created, and the angst and the worry, the exhaustion, the stress, and the fear, you know, is this something that I made up? And, you know, we can make up positive or we can make up negative. And we have positive expectations and opportunities, and we have these success crumbs we've left before, and we can just follow them. So I am going to call a break. Let's, uh,