BEMpathy is a three-step technique that uses empathy, casual conversation, and brain synchronization to deepen connection. Research shows chitchat causes neural sync between people, boosting rapport. Many younger people skip small talk thinking it's pointless, but starting with simple greetings helps build relationships.
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So BEMpathy is basically, it's banter with empathy, and it's a 3-step process. So you're going to empathize first. You wanna see the big picture. And then you're gonna do bantering, which is a little bit of chitchat. They've done studies where that cognitively, your brain, I saw you talking about the brain, it gets the brains to synchronize. Did you know that? Do you know that kids today think it's a waste of time to chitchat, a lot of them? Right. Did you know that?
Oh, I can see in there just their communication style and what's being forced upon them where there isn't that engagement is just about getting to the end result.
Right.
Versus building connection and relationships.
Exactly. So I'll even have clients, I say, just say hi to somebody today and just chit-chat.
Why? That's so weird. So, so that's, yeah.
Right. And that's part of empathy. So just doing this chit-chat and having a mindset of a win-win. So that, right, not that black and white thinking.
You just remind me, I have a friend of mine who works in education now, but as a joke, their whole thing is emotions, ew. I'm like, you do realize it was probably an emotion.
