Ep. 23- Treveal C.W. Lynch: I Am Possible

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Today's guest is Treville C.W. Lynch. He is a self-worth specialist and author. He's a certified personal trainer, ordained minister, mentor, motivational speaker, and author of The Corridor to Confidence. Born in Chicago, raised in Toledo, relocated to SoCal, jumped on the crazy decision-making because something moved you deep in your heart and your soul. And his mission is to find the possible in everybody. CW, Traveil CW, thank you for joining.

Oh, thank you for having me. I really appreciate it, Jason Wasser.

Thank you. Absolute pleasure to have you. So you are the possible.

Yes, I am the possible. You are the possible. Yes, yes.

So what does that mean?

What does that mean? I am the possible, at its core, really what it means is the ability for us to live in such a way that we realize in and of ourselves that I am, which is a present tense, right, statement, the possible, which is a future tense statement. I am the possible. I and my possibilities are one and the same. Everything I hope to be tomorrow, I already am today. And it's a philosophy built on the fact that We are our creator's creation and that we are created as, you know, what we are. We are born, we are created, we come into this life as what we are. And so I believe that within each of us, there is a natural organic desire, right, to be the possibilities that we have within us. There's like a DNA of possibilities that are within us. And we just want to realize self. So the possible is self. It's I am self. I am, you know, what I desire and dream to be. And once you have that revelation, once you have that understanding, you are what I call self-inspired. It's an internal inspiration.

So how did that journey of becoming I am for yourself take shape?

Yeah. So I Am the Possible began a few years back.

Ah.

Maybe around 2005, 2006. I was traveling back and forth on— out here in California, we have these Metro rails. And I was traveling back and forth from one city where I worked back to home. And I would do that each day. And as I was riding this commute, I would see individuals on the train And I began to take notice of their eyes. Now, you have to kind of go with me and kind of use your imagination here, right? And I'm very outside the box, but I love to use my imagination. So anyway, I'm people watching. I'm observing. And this is just my truth, right? I looked into their eyes. And day after day, week after week, their eyes were telling me a story. Their eyes were, in a sense, speaking to me. And what I heard, the revelation that I got while I was observing them, was, "I really want to like myself, but not like this." And that was the phrase that kept coming up. "I really want to like myself, but not like this." And what I got from that was this revelation where there was this human heart that desired to appreciate, to accept, and to, as I say, approve of themselves. But they were being held hostage by their current condition and their current situation. Thus, this spark of revelation is, "I am that which I desire." It was almost they were imprisoned by their current state, so they weren't able to give themselves permission, right, to be the possible or to live this phenomenal life because they were saying to themselves, listen, I would love to be this great individual, But because my circumstances don't line up with that reality, I'm not going to allow myself to enjoy that realization of myself. And so one last thing about that was it kind of all came to fulfillment when I was asked to give a message at my church. And I began to study the life of Gideon out of the book of Judges. And I won't go deep into it, but there was a phrase where the angel of the Lord came to Gideon. Gideon was down in a winepress during the season of battle, hiding out, you know, right? Threshing wheat, right, where there was no wind. So obviously he was hiding out. And so in and of himself, he was this coward. He was— he even went on to say that I, you know, that my family, we're the least of all man, and I am the weakest even of my own clan. Well, the angel of the Lord came to Gideon and he addressed him as you mighty warrior.

Mm.

He said, you're a mighty warrior. Now, that's what his creator said and saw of him, but Gideon's perspective of himself was, I'm the weakest of my clan. How could I possibly go to battle? So to summarize that, it's this idea that we are that mighty warrior. We're all that mighty warrior, but we may see ourselves as the weakest of our family or the weakest on our job or the weakest in our community. But the truth is, you and your possibilities, they're one and the same, just as Gideon's possibility of being a mighty warrior was something that he already was.

One of the many beautiful things that I just heard you say is the fact that people are waiting for permission to actualize their potential. And my mission statement of my therapy and coaching practice is to minimize stressors so that one can maximize their potential. And I find that many people are waiting waiting for external permission in order for that to happen. And like you said, when you were sitting there and you were watching and you were observing this and you had that revelation, you know, and sometimes in the generic terms, we talk about it by like trusting your gut, right? Something speaking to you, right? And we use that term in the non-spiritual sense of the trust your gut, right? As a therapist, I believe that like when someone has anxiety or stress, and it starts provoking emotional challenges in them, that there's some unfinished business or some message that that stressor is trying to teach them. But by going and dumbing it down by— right, I mean, obviously, if something is needed for its severest meaning, medication might be needed down the road. But if they dumb it down, they water it down, and they don't learn the message, the problem will never get solved and they're never going to reach their truest potential. And I think that goes back to that two-step of one, learning how to hear your own message. Right, of your purpose and that we need to bring into the world. Two, stop waiting for permission for someone else to give you that step to do it. And three is, instead of telling that same old story of telling me how it is, tell me how you want it to be instead.

That's right. I love it. Yes.

And everything really, since you were talking about revelation and the message and the story of Gideon, reminds me of the story of when when Moses first heard God speak to him.

Yes.

And he said, "Go to Pharaoh," right, to deliver the Jews out of Egypt. And God said, "Well, the Pharaoh is this mighty ruler, and I'm this guy who has nothing." And there's actually even commentaries that said that Moses actually had a speech impediment, which is one of the many reasons why he was afraid to go be a leader and to speak in front of, right, his community and in front of Pharaoh. And when he asked God, Who should I say sent me? What's the answer?

I Am That I Am.

I Am That I Am. Yeah. So, so you're hitting on it.

Yeah.

Every day.

There you go. Every day.

So let's talk about, let's talk about your personal, right? Going from being this kid who was growing up to focusing on spirituality, personal development, physical development, family development. What was that like? Where did you start off with, right? Your background as a kid and middle school and high school, and then going all the way to ministering and personal training, right? Mind, body, spirit. So what's that? What was a little bit of that background for you?

Right, yeah. You know, one of the philosophies that I've developed that I like to share with individuals is that we are all, ultimately, we are all contributions. And I like to say that we are all created not only to make, but to be a contribution to the betterment of our society. And what I found in my own story and my own journey is that a lot of the time— or let me just say, again, in my journey— that my contributions were directly connected to those moments in life that crushed my spirit. And what I mean by that is through elementary, middle school, high school, there were 3 pivotal points. In that journey. The first one was I was quoted, you know, as the fat kid. I grew up, you know, at the age of 7— I even see pictures— at the age of 7, I was very thin. Somewhere between 7 and 8, I just gained weight. And I began to be ridiculed and bullied and made fun of because of the weight that I carried. So I was the fat kid. And many people can relate to the bullying and, you know, having their self-esteem just crushed because of something that they can't control, right? From there, I grew up without a father being in my home, my mother addicted to crack cocaine and cheap wine, you know, alcohol. So because my mother was still in the community, I was picked on, I was made fun of because of her condition and because of her Dependencies. And then going on in some of those later years, when I was 18, I was given— in my community, I was given a full ride to college. But by this time, I had been, you know, smoking marijuana for years. And I was addicted to marijuana, let's just be honest. And I wasn't showing up for class. And I remember a pivotal moment when I came home one Saturday morning. My grandmother had a letter in her hand. She met me on the porch. Where I grew up. And she said, "Travell, you've got two choices, all right? This letter tells me that you've not been going to class. You got two choices. Your first choice, you can stay here and start going to class and get your education. It's free ride. Or number two, you can get out." Right? And grandmother loved me, man. She raised me. You know, God bless grandma. But I chose to get out, OK? So I chose to leave. And listen, man, when I tell you, Jason, 7 days later, man, I'm talking 7 days later, my clothes were in garbage bags on my front porch. And for the next 2 years, I was this house-hopping homeless, just nomad, man. I was just in the streets sleeping where I could. And at my lowest point, I was sleeping in a roach-infested apartment building, and my t-shirt became my pillow. I share those stories because they not only broke my spirit, they not only crushed, you know, any self-worth and self-esteem that I had, but it led to if I can share this really quickly, it led to the most powerful moment that led me to personal development, self-worth, my mission statement, okay? During the time that I was homeless, again, back to the marijuana, marijuana just kept getting me in trouble, man. But I had purchased an ounce of marijuana. I was on my way, I was in the backseat of a car, and we were driving back to what we call the hood, driving back to the hood. And the driver said, listen, I got to, you know, go to the restroom. Let me stop off at this house. So he pulled into this alleyway. And no sooner than the driver got out the car, two gentlemen from either side of the car ran up, and they put guns to my head. I remember it like yesterday. Guy had a purple rag on his face. He put the gun right up to this temple, and he pressed it against this temple. And it was a setup. Long story short, it was a setup. But he said, give me your weed, give me your money. And he said some other things that I won't repeat. But I told him no. With a gun to my head in the hood, me realizing in that moment this was a setup, because how could you know what I had so explicitly? But he had this gun to my head, and he said, give me what you got. And I told him no once. He pressed it against my head. He asked me again. I told him no again. The third time I said no. I heard that sound. Now, I don't know if you've ever had a gun put to your head, or if you know someone that had a gun put to their head, but there is a very distinct sound when the hammer gets pulled back and it pops on the side of your head. Now, I don't know what prevented that bullet from coming out. It was a miracle of God, got jammed, I can't explain it. But this is what I can explain. Looking back at that moment, I realized that I was willing to give my life. I'm 19 years old. I was willing to give my very life for, at that time, a $120 bag of marijuana. That's all it cost me. And let's be honest, man, I was gonna leave from that situation and just go home and smoke it. And that's actually what I did, because I didn't give it to him. The guy jumped back in the car, we sped down the alley, they dumped me out in the middle of the street, I ran home. But all I did was smoke it. It was here one second, gone the next. And I was willing to give my life for that. So looking back at that, I understand the pain and the hurt and the misery of being so worthless to myself that I was willing to trade my life for something that cost me $120. And I had a pocket full of money, you know, money in my other pocket. So the realization that— This was something that I was going to smoke and be gone, or I could have given it to him and I could have just replaced it. But I said, no, you can take my life. You can blow my head off because I have zero value in and of myself. So that's what got me to this point.

And that story repeats itself no matter a person's background, no matter a person's experience, that we choose, unfortunately, unconsciously many times, to be in the comfort of stuckness because that's what we know.

Yes.

Wow. And then neurologically, we literally create neural pathways that will then allow us to only see the reality that aligns with that, right? So when they talk about the law of attraction world, it's very neurological-based. The more we tell a story, the more we feed a story, the more we focus on those things that we choose as priorities is the more of what shows up. And we can't get different because we're not going to recognize that which that is different than that. And we create that groove in the record, right?

Right.

So you're just sharing like how stuck you were, because, right, it sounded like as much as you wanted to do differently, the priorities were the priorities that which were for you at that time.

That's right. Right.

So when did that switch? When did that start to change?

So that changed, um, as I write about in my new book. Um, I have a new book called What Is Enough. And there's a chapter in that new book called Sunday Morning. And the son is not S-U-N, but it's S-O-N, as in the Son of God. But it's called Sunday Morning. That's the chapter. How it all changed was I was brought up on charges for grand theft. Now, at that time, I was living in Toledo, Ohio. So grand theft carried a sentence of 7 to 15 years, OK? My girlfriend— my wife today, but my girlfriend at the time— she was pregnant with our first son. And they caught me, man. You know, caught me red-handed. I did it. I was wrong. But I went to jail for it. And it's a Sunday morning. It's over the weekend, so I'm not going to see the judge until Monday. Sunday morning comes, and the bailiff comes down the hall and he says, hey, anyone who wants to get out, anyone who wants to have Sunday morning service, we've got a church representative here. You can, you know, come on out, have service. Well, all I was thinking— was, I need to get out of this cell because I'm tired of staring at these walls. Let me go. Went to this service, and they told me a story, man. They told me a story about this man named Jesus. And I listened to the story. I listened to the things that they were sharing. Now, this is funny because to this day, I don't remember one word that they said. I was spaced out. I just know that I was at the lowest of my low. Remember earlier I said that I didn't have my father in my life. The last thing that I wanted to do, even though I was doing bad in the streets, the last thing I really wanted to do was to repeat that cycle for my son. And so all these things were going through my head. And so they said, if you want to accept this new life, this new life in Christ, this new life in God, raise your hand. And without me consciously knowing that my hand was moving, man, my right hand just flung up in the air. They prayed with me. My pastor at that time from my church, he came. He got me some representatives. I confessed to the crime. We worked it out. I got released. And the way that things changed was for the next 2 years, I served in my local church there. Then we moved here to Southern California on an act of faith to come and to start this new church here. Um, not even a year into being here in California, I was asked to give, um, a 20-minute message on the life of Jesus. So I shared this, this quick message, about 15-20 minutes, and I'm up at the front desk packing up my bags after I've shared. And this pastor at the time, he, he's since then passed away, but he came up to me and he put his hand on my shoulder And he leaned in, and he said 5 words. And I always say that 5 words can change your life. He said 5 words to me. All he said was, "Travell, you are a teacher." And I had never heard this term. I didn't know what a spiritual gift was. I didn't know what operating as a teacher was. I wasn't ordained. I had no clue what was going on. But something triggered within my spirit, man. Something triggered within my gut. And it made sense, right? It just felt right when he said, "You are a teacher." And so from that moment on, I had a sense of what I was. And learning what I am has completely changed my life. Whether it's what I am on a natural level or what I am on a spiritual level, that began the journey of this self-realization that I am something that has been created for a purpose and for a will, and what I am is something spectacular. I don't have to wait to become this. I don't have to earn becoming this. I don't have to impress anybody to become this. I am this. So again, much like Gideon, you are the mighty warrior. You don't have to become anything. It's what you've already been. So that's what lit the fire in me. 18 years later, 19 years later, I'm still teaching, I'm still sharing, I'm still speaking, I'm still writing, I'm still a teacher. And that's what lit the fire, man. That's what started it all off.

So how much would you credit those 5 words of a mentor, of a role model, of someone who you knew or maybe you didn't know, maybe even cared more about you than you might have about yourself at that moment, allowed you to shift from resistance mode to receptive mode?

Well, again, it was so, you know, I always say, if you could describe the face of God, it was like in that moment, right? You know, obviously he's just a man, But his smile and the love that radiated from him in that moment— because I'm really big on energy, man. I love the study of psychology and energy transfer and the fact that we are energy. And so I really vibe with that. But he gave off such a pure, loving energy in that moment. It was the most welcoming moment that I had ever experienced. You know, even though other people had loved me and given me gifts or done things or taken me here or there, those simple words were so seasoned with love. It was like, it was, it was, it was almost like this announcement of like, okay, for the first 23 years of your life, you have thought that you were crap, worthless, meaningless. You know, nothing about you, you know, makes sense. Why did my mother do this? Why did my father do this? Why did I grow up like this? Why did they, you know, tell those lies on me? All of that Crap. It was like in this moment, no, this is the truth concerning you. This is the truth. And I said, wow, man. All I can say was that it just triggered something that felt right. And I never looked back.

So in addition to everybody listening out there going and getting your new book, which I'm sure, right, all the secrets of the success to getting this, right, the formula's in there.

It is. It is.

What can you share that maybe it does relate to that moment? And it sounds to me like that person broke through your lack of confidence and your self-defeating thinking in that moment. How can we implement that by ourself when we might not have that resource in our life, or we— well, we have those resources, we just don't— we make the choice to not tap into them, right? And I think that's part of the story. And I hear that from a lot of my clients. Well, I don't know where to go. I don't know who to talk to. And I share my favorite example of the first dream team of the Olympics, right? The first year that they allowed the professional athletes from the NBA to play. So if you can create your own dream team, who would that be that you would bring into your life? And like, I don't have the money to access that. I'm like, I didn't say you have to know them personally.

That's right.

We got the internet now, right? Right. You— these people out there can be your coaches. They don't have to know who you are for you to take their wisdom and their—

right.

So, so if you were to break up your life into your 5 most important priorities, right, the 5 categories of your life that are most important to you, right? It's health and spirituality and family and business, whatever it is. Who are the best people out there, whether you know them or not, that you can life hack and just do what they're doing and reverse engineer it for yourself, right, as it makes sense for you. What are some of the key things that you have found as a teacher, as a guide, as a person who helps people find their own revelation of self, which we're going to get more into in another moment. But what are some of those key factors that you would like to say, hey, this is how you can do this at home. This is once you finish listening to this episode of the podcast, here's what I want you to do.

Oh, awesome. Awesome question, thank you. Because I love to share this. This is the main— this really gets me excited because I love when people want to improve and people want to change. You know, I Am The Possible actually is a self-development company. And it's founded on the idea that the greatest form of self-development is self-discovery. The greatest form of self-development is self-discovery. So this all ties back into what I was sharing earlier when Pastor Eric— was his name— when he said to me, Travell, you are a teacher. The fact that I had never gone to seminary, the fact that I had never gone to college, the fact that I had never been mentored by a great speaker or a great orator or a great teacher of any kind, the fact that it was It was innate. It was organic that they would just say, hey man, share on this message, and that I could, in the right way, let me say this in the right way, I could perform at such a level that he could see it, said that it already existed, right? So we don't have to invent self, so to speak. It's discovering self. It's discovering what's already there. So I like to put it in the framework of think of yourself as an ocean. There's only so much going on on the surface. There's only so much going on. A dolphin might pop his head up and you may look at that dolphin like, oh wow, amazing dolphin. Or a shark might come by and you look at its fin and oh my goodness, you know. So, but there's only so much going on at the surface. The treasures of an ocean are beneath. It's at the bottom. It's what's covered up. It's what's hidden. It's what, it's what, that, you know, no one else normally sees or gets to behold or partake of except for your creator because he knows what he's put inside of you. And so I like to say, use your imagination. That's another big one. I always go back to that. We have to start to use our imagination in life a bit more. We're a little bit too vanilla kind of in life. I like to put some color back in life. I say self-observe. That's rule number 1. Self-observe. I like this concept of learning to behold life. For example, if you were to go outside, and this is almost like what I would share with someone, if you were to go outside right now and pick anything, a tree, a flower, anything that doesn't move, and sit and behold it, sit and look at it, watch it, study it, be quiet with it, allow it to impress upon you its beauty, without you judging it, without you naming it and claiming it and judging it and making it something that you already know about, so it's more of a regurgitation of thought, but you actually look at it and allow it to speak to you, you would see rare beauty that otherwise you would have never noticed. Well, we get to do the same thing with ourselves. So like you said, if I'm sitting at home doing this myself, I can start to self-behold and I can quiet myself. That's another big one in our society. We're not very quiet. We're very hustle bustle, grind, beast mode, balls to the wall, get it, go, get it, go. And that's keeping us blind to our own beauty. So it's this idea of quieting oneself, meditating in oneself, and just observing what do I do well? What has no one ever taught me to do? I've never gone to college, I've never gone to school, I've never studied for this, but I have a knack for this area. Some people can cook amazing meals and they've never went to culinary, right? Just as an example. So step 1, and there's different levels that I train people on, but step 1 is self-observation. That is rule number 1. Look at yourself. Because many of us are looking through the framework and the perspectives of what other people have said over the years. So that's why I felt when I was a fat kid, and your mother's a crackhead, and your father is no good because he's not in your life, and the weed might as well be more worth than you, and all of these other things that were dumped on me, I was working and seeing myself through that framework. And the only way that you can start to pierce through that is to begin to quiet yourself and really self-observe.

So that reminds me of a really, really powerful story. And it's one of my favorite stories about this person who goes to a guru. And the guru says, "Well, I want you to meditate for 5, 10, 15 minutes," whatever it was, "a day." And the person's thinking, and he goes, "Are you sure that's going to solve my problem?" And the guru goes, "Yeah, I want you to commit to this." And the person responds back, "But I don't have those 5, 10, or 15 minutes a day." And the guru responds back to that person, "You don't have the time not to do that." That's right, that's right, right.

Excellent, excellent. Yes.

So as, as we talk about playfully, right, the guru, uh, that people are out there looking again for permission outside of themselves, right? So much, right, is spent— there's so much money being spent on the self-development world. It's the next seminar, the next workshop, the next book, the next training, the next, uh, diet, right, that's gonna solve my problem. And they're waiting for that to hit them across the face. Talk to me about your, your perspective of that revelation of self versus someone either being the guru or someone looking for the guru.

Right, right. Yeah, the, the thing that I find most fascinating about this world— I actually released a rant video the other day, um, really talking about this because we live in a culture where we're so guru-driven, we're so charismatic, we're so dynamic in our speaking and delivering that we start to idolize, look up to, and really to some degree, if I'm being honest, worship these public figures. And we cling to their every word, and we go to the big events, and we spend thousands of dollars, and we get their coaching and things such as that. And I'm not saying that there's no value out there, and I'm not saying that none of them are sincere. I'm just saying that from the learner's perspective, that in my journey and my experience, I've learned more about what makes a true difference in my life from the quiet, still observations of self. Than I ever have of being at a big event or listening to a motivational speaker. Motivation is a start. It's like a key to the ignition of a car. It definitely does get you going. It definitely does tap in and trigger some things. But what I like to specialize in is sustainable solutions. Sustainable solutions. And systems don't sustain, right? Systems, they don't, because systems will at some point fail you. They all break and they all fail.

And I think that goes back to what we were talking about in our pre-conversation about the— in my training as a marriage and family therapist, the field that— what makes this field different than the average therapy or counseling field is that we base our work and our thinking on systems theory and cybernetics, which is all about the interactions of parts of a right, a larger system and recursive patterns and homeostasis, right, like a thermostatic regulation that someone in a family dynamic or relationship dynamic will trigger something to go on, right, and everybody else balances, tries to balance it out. And there's this idea of what's the difference between different types of change and what makes change successful and a radical possibility for someone. And I learned, and this is kind of what I share with my clients, is the difference between a first-order change and a second-order change. That first-order change is if New Year's resolution. I'm going to go out and I'm going to join the gym and I'm going to go 3 times a week. And they may do that for the first week or 2. And then, as you know, especially from part of your world, how fast does that burn away, right? And that's just the behavioral change. First order change is a behavior change. If I change my behavior, if I change what I eat, if I change the alarm clock to half hour more, maybe I'll get up and I'll accomplish what I want to accomplish. The second order change is changing the belief behind it. So I like sharing this idea with everybody, which is the problem isn't the problem. It's the belief that you have about the problem. Yes, that's a problem. So, right. So, so for example, someone who wants to lose some weight, like I need to lose specifically 15, 20 pounds, I need to eat healthier. That's focusing specifically on behavioral things. And the people who can stick to that with regimen, with not going out or eating what they want to eat, that will eventually fade away unless they're so determined and they're so Type A and they're so— right? Accountability helps. Mentorship helps. But the real way to solve that is that second-order thinking, which is what's the lifestyle as a whole? That's right. That, that would be a result that in other words, I'll get that goal as a result of doing everything differently. So for me, as I shared with you before, is like I want to run 6 half marathons in the next year. As a result of that, I'll be more in touch with a community that has lifestyle and mindset and self-awareness and self-care and diet as a result of a higher level thing. So by the training and by committing to that, I'm going to have these watered-down trickle-down effects. That's the second order, right? Thinking about how to solve the problem differently from a different orientation. What is your biggest insight about how to do that differently from where you're sitting? Instead of, again, that motivation, right? And I love— everybody needs a tune-up. Everybody does need to go to the self-development workshops, whether it's a Tony Robbins or listening to Gary Vee or popping on Ella or Oprah, right? Brené Brown and the vulnerability stuff. We need those to be consistently in our routine. But like emotions, we're not always an emotion.

That's right. That's right.

We're not always, hey, you're a happy. Oh, hey, you're a sad, right?

Right, right. That's right.

You're a pissed off.

Right, right, right.

You're unmotivated. It's the same thing. It's a moment of response to something that's going on around us that we've chosen to put ourselves in, an environment or an experience that will have effect and influence on us.

Yes.

What is your insight on how do you sustain that consistently, uh, with simplicity?

Um, I always go back to the what of life. Um, so as a quick overview to, to, to address that question, um, a quick overview of life, I share with, with, with individuals that, um, the human existence is broken up into 3 elements: the who, the why, and the what. There's a who of you, which is the identity. It's, it's who you are. It's the Jason, it's the Travail. Who are you? Okay, we need to know who we are. And there's some different levels to identity, but, but in a nutshell, it's the who of you. And then there's the why of you. The why of you is, I like to think of it as our creator's intention for your life or your purpose or, yeah, the meaning of your life. Why do you exist? But what I found is the one that has gotten the least amount of books written, the least amount of press, the least amount of airtime, the least amount of dialogue is the what of life and the what of you. The what of you, I like to look at it as the investment. You, as I said earlier, you in and of yourself, you are a contribution. That's kind of one of my revelations, kind of one of my philosophies. I also believe that you are an idea. I believe that you were created in the mind, the imagination, the very thoughts of your creator. So as an idea, what does that represent? That represents a solution to a problem. Or an answer to a question. And so how do you sustain it? What's the sustainable solution? I like to look at it as what is the inspiring image? Because when we go to these motivators, when we go to these, uh, big rah-rah events, what we're tapping into emotionally is a preview or a picture of what we most desire to be. That's why they're so electric. That's why we're standing on our seats and we're screaming and the music's going and the lights are going and we are feeling an all-time high because we're tapping into— we're getting either a picture or a preview of what we desire to be most. Well, my philosophy, what I've learned is I learned how to do that in my bedroom. I learned how to do that at the gym in the morning. I learned— I'm having big events in my kitchen, in my living room. See, I don't have to pay you $1,000. I don't have to wait until Tony comes into town. I don't have to go down to the Staples Center in LA. I got the big event right here, right now, and I can tap into it whenever I want to. And so that's what I want to train people on. It's all you're looking to do is see yourself, but you're not seeing the whole self because what you are is the piece of the puzzle, I like to say, that's being left out. And so the sustainable solution is once I have a revelation of what I am, I am able to internally inspire myself because I see myself as a contribution, which goes back to what we said earlier. I don't have to become it. I already am it. And if I'm already am it, I can do it at any moment and any time.

And if the people who are listening to that do not feel the electrifying power of that, you need to schedule a session with both of us sitting in the room with you, drilling this into you, because this right there is probably one of the most profound insights that we can take home with us, that the unowned part of ourself is what's being attracted to what's out there that motivates us. And then if we, like you said, if we realize we already have that, it's not that if only I had that skill, if only I looked that way, if only I had that body, if only I had that money, if only I grew up in a different place, if only I didn't have that trauma happen to me, if only my parents didn't get divorced, if only I chose a better partner.

Right.

That's all the unowned parts of ourselves. That we are rejecting our true authenticity, that we don't need to wait for everybody else. And I have a mentor of mine, one of my rabbis, his name is Rabbi David Aaron, and he's written a bunch of really awesome books. And he talks about this idea of being a human being versus a human becoming.

That's right.

And if you focus just on the word being, he said, well, why aren't, why, Don't we have permission to call ourselves a human becoming over a human being? If you're a human being, you are being, you are all that you are. And that comes with the limited mindset. But if you take that you already are what you are, and that's going to allow you to do more from the positive perspective, then the becoming is the exciting part, not the I need to wait for it part, right? So, so the idea that I want people to walk away with exactly really impressing upon what you just shared is that you are the human becoming.

Yes.

Don't get stuck in what has been, that I am being just an output of what has happened to me. Then you have no control and you're a victim to that. If only.

Right, right, right.

That was different. Man, people really, I want everybody who's gonna be listening to this episode, I challenge you to listen to that segment of this episode 5 times. Wow. It's that powerful. It's that deep. And it's something that if we just ended the episode right there, it would be enough. Everybody has it in them, right? That's right.

That's right.

Yeah. The phrase that I wrote down as you were speaking is, you are a contribution, which reminded me of I can't remember where I heard it from, but it was the idea of that your birthday is the reminder that the universe and/or God and/or whatever spiritual path, right, that one has chosen needs you to exist.

Yes. Wow, that's powerful. Yes, that's right. That's right.

So for us to be a contribution, we have to own The letting go of if only.

That's right. That's right. Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

Yeah.

So to tie this all together, and if you only had 2 minutes to spend with someone, you know you would never meet them again, and you really didn't know much about their background, maybe after 30 seconds of hearing who they are, what they are, where they are.

Right.

And you can stand on one foot and teach them everything you know.

Right.

In 2 minutes or less. What would that be?

The first thing that I would say and that I would want you to hear most, that I would want you to hear the clearest, is that you in and of yourself are enough. Nothing outside of you has ever, currently are, and will ever complete you, make you any greater than what you've always been. What you are is why you are. What you are is significant. Beyond your imagination. What you are, as I like to say, makes who you are prominent. Your prominence preceded you. The fact that you are, the fact that you exist, your existence is the evidence that you are enough. You know, what you are makes who you are prominent. What you are makes why you are possible. And you are, in and of yourself, you are enough. Nothing outside you, nothing outside you, nothing tangible, nothing you can touch, taste, see, smell, nothing outside you will ever determine can ever determine what you are. It never has, and it never will. It's what they've taught us. It's what we've been conditioned to believe. It's what we've learned that with the very innocent sounding, yet very damaging age-old question, what do you want to be when you grow up? It set us on a path to believe that the greater me is somewhere out there. Somewhere down there and someday, someway, somehow I'll finally, eventually earn or equate to or accumulate enough to be enough. You were born enough. You are enough.

Everybody needs more of this. How are they going to get that from you? Where do they need to go? Where do they need to find you? What are the name of your books? Where can they get it?

Everything links back to I Am The Possible. I Am The Possible. That's one word. That's all lowercase. If you're tapping it, typing it into your internet browser or on your smartphone, iamthepossible.com. That is my website. If you go there, you'll learn my philosophy. You'll learn how to book me for speaking engagements. You'll learn about the books that I've released. You'll learn about the events that I have coming up. Everything will, will, you know, link back to iamthepossible.com. If you're on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, it's all the same. I am the possible. One word, all lowercase. And it's not I am possible. It's I am the possible. That's very important that we keep the the in there because it's what you are.

This conversation is exactly why the You Winning Life podcast exists. So if you're listening out there, you're watching this episode, If you found value in this, please subscribe, share it with the people that you care about, reach out to us.

Yes.

Reach out to us. The beautiful thing about social media and technology today is that you can get in front of someone. And I saw you on my buddy Roman's. Yeah. Who I just met about a month ago. And the network gets bigger just by being willing to take the risk to drop a DM.

That's right.

On someone's Instagram. So instead of sliding up into someone's DM that you're trying to hit up for some potential nefarious reasons, I challenge everybody, hit up someone's DM who influences you, who you're like, man, I like what you just said. You saw someone doing some radical transformational changes in their life and hit them up and give them Give them a shout out and say, like, can I pick your brain for 15 minutes?

That's right.

That's the mentorship. Be bold and ask. So I'm going to make a bold request for everybody out there. Subscribe. Subscribe to both of our social media on Instagram, right? Jason Wasser LMFT on mine and I Am The Possible on yours. Subscribe to this show, You Winning Life, on all platforms. Share it. And it's free. Free value, free wisdom.

That's right.

And then go buy your books.

All right.

Drop the money on your books.

Right.

Spend some money on yourself, people.

There you go.

Hire a coach, hire a therapist, hire a personal trainer, get your mindset right. I always joke with my clients that one of my favorite psychologists and philosophers, Dr. Cube, tells everybody to check their self before they wreck themselves.

That's right. Exactly. Yeah. So, so profound. Yes, a small phrase, but powerful phrase.

Much more power than we think. Thank you. It's been truly, truly an amazing honor to spend this time with you. And I have a feeling we're going to have this conversation continue and delve in deeper in our next conversation. And I look forward to that happening again.

Likewise. Yes. Thank you. I really appreciate the opportunity. Trinity, thank you for this moment. I value moments. That's really what we have. And we don't— we never understand the potential of a moment, the exchange of human life. Because of what we are, we've contributed to one another, and we've contributed to the larger audience. So I don't take these moments for granted, man. I really appreciate these moments. I appreciate the questions, appreciate your platform, appreciate your work. So thank you for all that you do. And I'm praying and I am supportive of your work and your mission and your practice. So I'm looking forward to even greater things coming from you and for you. Thank you.

Very much appreciated. All right, y'all, we'll see you next time on the You Winning Life podcast. Thanks for checking us out. And again, check out Treville's social media, @iamthepossible. You can find me on Instagram at Jason Wasser LMFT, and subscribe on all platforms to the You Winning Life Podcast.

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