Jason Wasser, LMFT 🎗️Founder, Shevet Collective · Therapy & Coaching for Entrepreneurs, Family Businesses 🖥 Certified Neuro Emotional Technique Practitioner Founder Shevet Collective 🎧Host:You Winning Life Podcast 🎤

"Get Out Of Your Way and Do It Anyway" Coach Dana Cavalea on the You Winning Life Podcast Ep. 58

12 Sept 2020 · 2 min

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In this segment of the You Winning Life Podcast, Coach Dana Cavalea discusses a shift in her personal development approach. She explains that she stopped trying to "correct" herself and instead chose to fully embrace her imperfections, bringing all of her experiences—good, bad, and ugly—into her interactions. Cavalea describes a recurring pattern of self‑doubt when facing role models or high‑profile athletes, noting the internal dialogue of wondering if she’s ready to talk to them. Her solution is to act despite the fear, likening it to "jumping out of a plane" and hoping the parachute works. By walking toward, rather than defending against, these patterns and presenting herself authentically, she finds she is no longer inhibited or intimidated, allowing open, unrestricted communication with anyone she works with.

I don't try to correct anymore. I actually embrace and walk towards and I bring all my shit with me.
So at that timeframe, right, you're, you're in college. What were some of the headlines that you were telling yourself that you had to get out of your own way? About? Because here you are right now, all these people that you idolize that were your role models, athletic, right? You know, people that you looked up to. Were there some stumbling blocks still in your own head that you had about like, how am I going to talk to them? How am I going to coach them? How am I going to work with them? Was there anything like that going on?
Yeah, I still have those today, right? It's always like, man, I've got to talk to so-and-so on the phone. I've never— I mean, am I ready for this? And I just say, well, do it anyway. I'm really big on jumping out of the plane. And hoping that the shoot works. So my whole life has been sort of this repetitive pattern, and I'm like, you know, instead of playing defense against that pattern, I always walk into it and I just say, listen, I mean, I've tried to correct these patterns in my life, and I realized that in my attempt to correct them, I oftentimes lose pieces of myself that I like. So I don't try to correct anymore. I actually embrace and walk towards, and I bring all my shit with me. And I say, here we go. You like, here I am, and here we are, and here's all my experiences, good, bad, ugly. And I wear it all on my sleeve and, you know, love me or hate me, that's what you're getting. And it's worked well because it allows you to be so, I'm not inhibited, I'm not intimidated, and I'm extremely open, and there's no topic that's off limits.