Jason Wasser, LMFT 🎗️Founder, Shevet Collective · Therapy & Coaching for Entrepreneurs, Family Businesses 🖥 Certified Neuro Emotional Technique Practitioner Founder Shevet Collective 🎧Host:You Winning Life Podcast 🎤

How to have an amazing Family pt 3 with Joe DeSena, Founder of Spartan Games. #joedesena #spartan

19 Mar 2023 · 1 min

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In this interview segment, Joe DeSena discusses the impact of parenting styles on children's self‑sufficiency. He contrasts families that over‑indulge—using the example of organized‑crime families that give their children everything yet produce ineffective adults—with families that require kids to work for rewards, such as earning a car through effort. DeSena argues that making children do hard tasks and modeling that behavior yourself creates resilient, independent adults. He also notes a common parental fear of not doing enough for their kids, highlighting the need to reverse‑engineer a mission‑driven, effort‑based family culture.

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In that neighborhood I grew up in, the organized crime bosses that gave their kids everything because when they grew up they had nothing and they wanted to over-shower those kids turned out to be useless. And I don't only see it there, I see it all over the place. All kinds of wealthy families send me their kids to try to fix them at 21 years old. The families that made their kids work, that made their kids work for to get a nice car and do all the tough stuff, those kids turned out to be self-sufficient and good kids. So get your mission statement right, recognize your differences, and do hard stuff, do hard stuff. And model it, by the way. Don't ask your family to do the hard stuff and then you're not doing it. You're sitting eating popcorn on the couch. Model the behavior you want.
Yeah, I saw that with one of my families. We were trying to figure out, like, their kids were middle school, and they're like, well, I don't know if I've like— the fear of a parent is never doing enough to get them to be be successful. And it was pretty much spot on with what you just said of like, well, let's reverse engineer