Jason Wasser, LMFT 🎗️Founder, Shevet Collective · Therapy & Coaching for Entrepreneurs, Family Businesses 🖥 Certified Neuro Emotional Technique Practitioner Founder Shevet Collective 🎧Host:You Winning Life Podcast 🎤

“NO is POWER ” #shorts

15 Jun 2022 · 1 min

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In this short dialogue, Speaker A introduces the idea that saying “no” is a source of power because it creates choice, control, and the ability to identify one’s true “hell‑yes” – the commitments that genuinely energize life. Speaker B expands on this by describing a decision framework that classifies options as either a “hell‑yes” (full enthusiasm) or a “hell‑no” (definite rejection), eliminating the ambiguous “maybe.” The conversation links this framework to personal bandwidth and boundary setting, noting that openly stating lack of capacity or fit is a form of empowerment. They then connect the concept to broader cultural shifts, especially in entrepreneurial circles, where psychological awareness is becoming more prominent. The dialogue also touches on the role of agreeableness in business environments, referencing Jordan Peterson’s discussion of personality traits and how overly agreeable employees may stay in jobs out of perceived necessity rather than mutual value, likening the process to triage in medical or business settings.

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Over time, I learned that no actually is power. Oh no, it gives you choice and control, and no allows you to find your hell yes, which makes your life much better.
I love that. One of my coaches that I did a training with, he's all about that. It's either hell no or hell yes, but there's no hell maybes. And if it is a hell maybe, then it's definitely a no, right? And, and when I share that with people, they're like, wait, what? And like, it really is that simple, and to have the audacity to just be like, I just don't have the bandwidth for that, or this is not the right fit. Like, I think our society is now in our entrepreneur space that shifted, but I think in as that's trickling into the non-entrepreneurial society, I think that psychology is finally gaining more hold. But when you were talking before about like, it's like, it sounds like triage. Like when you're in a business, and it could be a medical practice, could be anybody that's listening, like you said, they have to say yes, they have to be the type of person that's most agreeable. And I know like Jordan Peterson talks about that one, the psychology of traits. And I know he's a controversial person of himself, but, but in that one thing of like the agreeability that he talks about when it comes to businesses and working for someone, that you— um, and I've talked about this in an earlier episode— that people who are working for others sometimes feel that they need the job and know that they need the job more than the company might need them.