Therapist Jason Wasser explains why the truth of your story matters less than how your nervous system reacts to it. He interrupts clients mid-story to check if they're stuck in fight-or-flight, then identifies four to five core scripts that keep them trapped. The goal is aligning your nervous system with your rational brain so you can make proactive choices.
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It's— that's a great question. I don't know if I've compiled, you know, common denominators to that level. I mean, you know, I guess I could say it's— what was that line back in the day about politics and pornography? You know it when you see it type of thing, right? So I kind of feel that same way at this point in my career. You know, I was on an intake call with a referral this morning, and they just kept getting into the story and getting into the story. And I had to say to them, listen, when we're going to get together, I'm going to interrupt you a lot because for me, the story doesn't matter. Because once I get into this, you know, the integrative medicine side of things with my neuro-emotional technique, what really matters is how is your nervous system responding to your story that isn't serving you? I'm not here to tell you what's true or false, lie, not lie, right? Any of those, I don't— that's not the world I play in. I just want to know, are you in alignment and able to be as proactive with as many proactive choices and options in front of you? Or is your nervous system and your rational brain not firing together and therefore creating contradictory experiences where you can't be strategic, which is also keeping you in fight or flight. So I, you know, on the simplest level, yes, there are statements, right? You know, again, like, you know, the I feel statement is a great one. You know, when people are stuck in like so many different variations of a story or there's common denominators in a story throughout life, then you have themes. And I'll typically find 4 to 5 themes that a person is constantly wrapping themself in that's keeping them stuck. And they may describe it in certain ways, but like, at the end of the day, that narrative is supported with a script. And that script will only have certain amount of variables. And if it keeps coming back to the same overarching themes or topics, then that's where it's informing me about a person's belief system and the narrative and the stories that are going to go along with that. So they can tell me 43 other ones, but I don't need to to know that because I already know the outcome is going to be the same.
Sure. You start picking up on patterns, trends, and then you can get that lowest common denominator or denominators to piss off all the math people listening and just address those. So let's flip the question to the opposite side.
