Jason Wasser, LMFT 🎗️Founder, Shevet Collective · Therapy & Coaching for Entrepreneurs, Family Businesses 🖥 Certified Neuro Emotional Technique Practitioner Founder Shevet Collective 🎧Host:You Winning Life Podcast 🎤

"Who Are You When You Shake Off The Stories You Are Carrying" You Winning Life Podcast

12 Sept 2020 · 2 min

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In this segment of the You Winning Life Podcast, the hosts discuss the core challenge of achieving self‑authenticity. They argue that to truly know who you are, you must unpack the accumulated stories from trauma, family dynamics, spiritual beliefs, and other influences, and then own your convictions. The conversation shifts to leaders who feel compelled to make public statements that conflict with their personal beliefs, highlighting that such dissonance only intensifies their inner struggle. The hosts emphasize that comfort with oneself comes from walking toward one’s true beliefs, regardless of external approval, noting that public perception—whether love or hate—will always be present, and the pursuit of pleasing others is ultimately futile.

You got to walk towards who you are, what you believe in, and you got to own it.
So would you say that's kind of the underpinning biggest challenge of persons trying to figure out their self-authenticity, who they really truly are when they shake off all of the stories that they've been carrying, whether it's trauma, whether it's family dynamics, spiritual stuff, whatever it may be, but to unpackage all that stuff to get to truly who they authentically are is probably the end result that you and I really are trying to get to.
Yes, I think that's where somebody reaches sort of peak for themselves and they can finally say, "Man, like, I'm comfortable. I'm comfortable in myself." I can't tell you how many leaders I'm dealing with right now. Like, you know, we're recording this during, you know, a pretty hostile time. And there's leaders that are saying, hey, I'm being forced to make statements on something I don't believe in. And I said, well, if you're going to do that, your journey is not going to get easier. It's only going to get harder. So you got to walk towards who you are, what you believe in, and you got to own it. And when you could sort of, um, you know, make the crowd go dark and not worry what they think— listen, people are going to love you, people are going to hate you no matter what. You could have the perfect lines. I've seen Derek Jeter, who's, you know, loved by all. I've seen people turn on him. You know, he's always said the right thing. He's always done the right thing. We've seen that all the time in our culture. So at the end of the day, why are we so worried about pleasing other people? And why are we comparing ourselves to other people too?