how to fix your entire life in 1 day

So I have no real script for this video. I just have a couple notes on my notebook on kind of some topics that I want to touch on as far as what has helped me, and I know can help you completely change your life, do a 180, and get closer to the trajectory that you want to be in. You know, get closer to the goal that you've always dreamed of having, get closer to the goal that you know you have the potential to achieve. And I think This is really, really valuable because I've done this for myself multiple times. As we all know, we're all human, none of us are perfect, including myself. And I've fixed my life multiple times. And you might be thinking, what do you mean you fixed your life multiple times? I thought you only do it once. No, you do it multiple times over and over and over again. It's a constant uphill battle, then you plateau at the level that you're at. You fight uphill again, you plateau at the next level, you fight uphill, you plateau. It's never perfect up, it's never perfect down, and it shouldn't be plateaued, which is the way that most people live their life. We're talking about the general population, the 99%. Yeah, as far as myself, if you guys don't know who I am, my name is Jay. I've been building businesses since I was the age of 14. I started with wholesale real estate. Closed my first deal like 7 months into the business for $30,000, and fast forward 7 years later, I run a 7-figure wholesale operation. Obviously, I have other businesses including some service-based companies, obviously the coaching business and all these other things. And I feel like, you know, I've worked pretty hard to where I'm at now, and I've evolved into not 2.0 version of myself, but 3.0, 4.0, 5.0, to the point that I'm like at 10.0 right now. And granted, I still have a lot of work to do, I still have a lot of consistency to to continue, and I still have a lot of goals to reach. So from me to you, I'm coming from the most humble standpoint that I can on helping that person that maybe is just one level under me, or maybe is 10 levels under me, or maybe is that person that I was back a couple years ago when I just started my entrepreneurship journey, when I first started, you know, trying to really change my life. And as far as the actual outline that I have here in my notes is The number one thing as far as changing your situation is being disgusted with your situation, like really being intolerant of what you have going on, really being— understanding that that's not the life or that's not the way that you want to live life. You know, being disgusted with your situation can look like multiple things, right? For some people, it might just be financially. For some people, it might just be the friendships that you have, the family relationship that you have, your success or unsuccess that you have. You know, there's a lot of different aspects. You know, for myself personally, I wasn't financially where I wanted to be at. I wasn't the man I wanted to be. You know, I didn't really have— I'm not gonna say I was moralless, but I didn't have the foundation as a man when I first started that I have now and that I wish I had when I started. Um, so that's, that's the first thing, really being disgusted with your situation, starting to be intolerant of bullshit, you know. From a financial standpoint, it might be, hey, you have to fucking check your bank account every time you buy something, you know. You see something new come out and you can't buy it because you simply cannot afford it, or you can't buy it for some people that are, you know, smarter than the norm, you know, it's not financially the right thing to do. You know, you see other people your age, maybe like myself, where I'm 21 years old, I have a fucking supercar, and you might be thinking, how the fuck does he do that? And that makes you mad because you think you're more capable than I am, because you think you're smarter than I am, which you might be. You know, in no way, shape, or form am I smarter than the average individual, but I've obviously evolved from that first stage of where I was at in life. You have to start seeing your life as unacceptable. Whatever situations you've gone through, whatever financial standpoint you're in, whatever friendships you have, you have to start seeing that as unacceptable. You have to start seeing that as something that you never want to live another day in your life. You, you have to start seeing it as, I really don't want to live this way, and the outcome from me living this way is not the life that I want to live. You know, because we're— our life, our reality is produced by our habits, by our actions, by our mentality, by our beliefs, by our friendships, by, you know, the way we grew up, the environment that we're in, the family that brought us up, you know, the teachings that they gave us. All of these things are combined to the life that you're currently living. There's a reason that you're watching this video right now, and it might be a reason that, you know, started 3 years ago, started 5 years ago. It might be a reason that started a month ago. Whatever it is that took place for you to be here today is a result of all those things. I think I mentioned like 5 or 6 things. So you have to start looking at your life and saying, all right, I'm here right now and I really don't like it. And I really don't like this reality. I hate this reality. But for most people, they believe that way, but they don't do anything about it. They don't hate it enough. They're not intolerable enough. They don't— they're not willing to sacrifice to get out of that life, because that life, for most people, is home. You know, I've brought this up in other videos too. Videos. The current state that most people live in is what I like to call home. Now, home isn't an apartment, a high-rise, a house, a studio, or maybe a place on the earth. Home is in your mind. Home is in your body. Home is in your habits. And leaving home is very, very hard. Kind of like to some of you guys, maybe you're, you know, 22, 23 and up, or you've already moved out of your house with your parents' house. You understand how kind of hard it was to jump into the uncomfortable, to jump into the unknown, to get behind the wheel when you've never driven a car. You know how hard it was to actually take that action. For some people it was easier because maybe they hated their home life, they were intolerable of it. But other people, they weren't that intolerable of it, but they still made the jump anyways. It's hard. Leaving home is hard. And leaving home to the unknown is even harder. Because for a lot of us, once we break the habits that we are used to, we don't know what our life is going to look like when we change those habits. Now, it might not be a fear of failure. For me, it definitely wasn't. For me, I would say it was a fear of winning. I had never won before, and because I never won before, I was, I was uncomfortable with me doing the consistent actions to get me to win. Because I didn't know if I was going to like that life. I didn't know if that was meant for me. I didn't know if that was set out for me or written out for my lifespan to be successful. So me doing the actions that I knew I needed to do, me excluding myself from the friend groups that weren't feeding into my purpose to get to that goal of winning, were me really just being comfortable at home because I was scared of winning. For some of you guys, it might be scared of losing. Which the simple response to that is, hey, if you lose and you take it as a learning lesson, did you really lose? If you lose and you just quit, what happens? You go back home. You both— you go back to the reality that you're already living. But at least you can say that you tried. At least you can say you tried to leave home. At least you can say that you went out of your way to take action. On the thoughts, on the beliefs, on the dreams that you had in your mind that God planted in your head. At least you can say you tried it. For most people, they don't even try it. I'm thankful for the way that I grew up where my dad, I would say for the most part, was very acknowledging about my goals, my aspirations, and he would push me to try things. He would push me to take risks. He would push me to gain responsibility, to become a man. You know, I'm very glad. I'm very grateful. I know my dad doesn't watch my videos, um, but if you happen to watch this, and I'll probably show it to you, I love you, man. Um, so that's the first thing, definitely being disgusted with your situation. You have to be intolerant of the bullshit that you're currently going through. And if you don't see it as bullshit that you're going through, then you're never gonna take the sacrifice. You're never gonna take the action. You're never gonna put yourself in an uncomfortable position to actually change your life. So until you start seeing it that way, for some people it might be, shit, I'm about to be homeless. And for some people it might be, hey, I don't want to work for my parents' company anymore. I don't want to be in the shadow of my dad being successful. Either one, you know, it doesn't matter what other people think. It's what you think and where you want to go next. Well, not next. I would say to add to that point, it might not be some of the examples that I brought up. It might just be sleeping in. You know, knowing that your day is going to look the same as it did yesterday, the same as it did last week, the same as it did last month, the same as it did last year. You feel that you're making no progress, so you're sleeping in. You feel that you're making no progress, so what's the point of everything? You know, those are the type of thoughts that you start to have before you fully become and fully aware of how bad your situation really is. You start disassociating, maybe with friends, maybe with family, maybe with your purpose, maybe with work. You start not feeling like yourself. You start feeling like you don't have a core, you know. Some might say you might start feeling like you don't have a soul because you feel like you have no purpose. You feel that you're not feeding into something bigger than you, you know. For some people, this might be religion. For some people, this might be finances. For some people, this might be, you know, providing for others and being that, that, that ray of sunlight for somebody else to see the end of the tunnel. Another way could be lack of self-care, lack of going to the gym, lack of eating healthy, you know, eating late nights. Like, all of these things are leading you to where you are now. And for a lot of us, we self-sabotage. You know, I can say this for myself. It was when I go through these phases, I purposely and sometimes indirectly and unwantedly, I self-sabotage. I start going to bed late. I start waking up late, I start eating like shit, I stop working out, I stop taking care of myself, I stop getting haircuts, I stop associating with my friends, even though I'm already financially where I want to be at. But because I have no purpose as far as making more money, because I have no purpose as far as providing for others, because I have no purpose to gain to the next level, to jump to the next level, I start dissociating and I start going down that path of that downhill downtrend. So that's the first thing. If you want to change, you first have to be disgusted with your situation. That's number one. Number two, the next step is doing an evaluation of your life. Like really taking into account, taking a kind of a P&L in a way. Like putting down a spreadsheet of everything that you've done to the point where you are today. Everything that has resulted from that. What friends you have, what family, you know, you're consistently dealing with, how those relationships are, what you want to change about it, what you don't like, where your finances are at, where you actually want to be financially. Do you want to be financially free? Do you want to be abundant? Do you want to be fuck you rich? Do you want to be whatever, whatever your financial goal is? Do you maybe just want to survive? Do you maybe just want to make $10,000 a month, $50,000 a month, $100,000 a month, $1 million a month? You have to, you have to really see where you're at to really figure out where you want to go. Because if you don't know where you're at, you don't know where your foundation is, you don't know what your starting point is, you're not going to know what are the accurate steps to get to your goal. Your fitness, your foundation, who you are as a person. Are you following the morals, the moral compass that you want? Are you, are you having a foundation that aligns with the person that you want to be, you know, that aligns with the person, with the person that you aspire to be, or with the people that you look up to? Do your morals align with that? Are you maybe conniving? Are you stealing? Are you not being truthful? Are you not being open? Are you lying to yourself? Are you lying to others? All of these things, and I could probably name off 10 more, but maybe I'm not that literate just yet. You have to see where you're at, take that evaluation, take everything into account, and see really where you're at, because a lot of us A lot of us, before we embark on this journey, we're kind of living blindly. We're kind of just following the road. We're kind of just, you know, following in the guidelines of what society tells us to do. You know, the usual. You get good grades in school, you follow all the rules, you don't misbehave, you have a couple friends. Then you go to high school, you do the same thing. You take AP classes, you graduate with honors, you go into college, you have a scholarship, you make friends there, you start networking. I thought my phone was going off. Like, like, and then you go and work, you know, you do your internships and then you go work for 40, 50 years. But if you're watching this channel, that's probably not the life that you want to live, you know. And then the other side of the coin is either working construction, you know, like I was meant to be, like my path was set out to be, uh, working construction maybe 5, 10 years down the line once you have enough money saved, if you weren't too bad financially. You open your own business, maybe you hire out a couple guys, and then by the time you're 50, 60 years old, you have a small service business, you have a small construction company, and you know, you're, you're happy. You know, you have family, you have kids, you got a little plot of land outside of the metro city. You have to figure out what you're doing, and is it the life Is it heading down the life that you aspire to be? Is it heading down the path of the life that you want to live? So that's the evaluation part. You second have to evaluate. Then you have to figure out what the outcome is that you want, you know. So right now, put yourself in this, in this example. This is probably your right or your left, I don't know, this is not sure. But let's just say this is 1.0 version of yourself, all the habits, all the friends, the environment, the teachings, the limiting beliefs, the lack of financial success. All of this is 1.0. This is who you are. This is how you act. This is how you perceive yourself. This is how you look at yourself in the mirror. This is 1.0. Over here you have 2.0. 2.0 lives your dream life. 2.0 has financial success. 2.0 has the right friend group. 2.0 has a very valuable friend group. 2.0 has a friend group that aligns with his long-term goals. 2.0 is a person that's abundant of energy. 2.0 is a person that takes care of his family. 2.0 is a that doesn't have to exchange time for money, you know? And you have to start acting like 2.0 to eventually get to 2.0, you know? You don't have to wait until you gain some of the success, some of these results, to start acting like this person, because you're gonna be fighting an uphill battle unless you already act like that person and let time catch up. I'll say it again: you have to start acting like the person you want to become before you become that person. Otherwise, it's going to be an uphill battle because you're going to be fighting yourself and your old beliefs and your old habits and your old actions because you don't feel like you're 2.0 just yet. But if you lie to yourself, you're delusional about your reality, you're delusional about your goals, you're delusional about the outcome that you want to live, you're going to start acting like the person that no matter what happens, no matter what patterns, no matter what situation takes place, you are going to have the outcome. So that's when you start goal planning, right? You start goal planning to what does that 2.0 version have? What car do they drive? And really, really go into detail because lack of detail is something that holds a lot of people back because then it's really hard to imagine something without a lack of— without major detail, you know. So I'll just put you into an example. Maybe right now you're driving a truck, some old 2000s truck. You're working construction. You are maybe working for your parents' company. You maybe have a girlfriend that you settled for. Maybe you have a bunch of friends that go out and party every single weekend. That's 1.0. Let's say 2.0 version of yourself owns his own business. What type of business? In my example, I'm biased, but I would say a wholesale business, right? You own a wholesale business. You have 2 employees working for you. You have a consistent pipeline. You're working every single day. You're meeting your goals. You're meeting your quota. You're meeting your criteria of what you deem successful in that business, right? Really go into as much detail as possible. Number 2, what car do you drive, right? Let's say if you're just starting off, in about a year you can get a nice $50,000 to $100,000 car. Let's just say an M5. I personally love M5. I've had, I've had two of them. I want to get a third one. Let's say you want an M5. Let's say you go for a little bit of an older model. It's going to cost you $70,000, maybe your first nice car. You're going to put down, I don't know, $30,000 so your interest rate isn't too high, your monthly payment isn't too high, whatever the case may be. You put down $30,000, $40,000, Your interest rate's probably going to be like, I don't know, 7, 8, 9%. You're probably going to be paying around $1,000 a month. Your insurance is probably going to be another $1,000. Your gas is probably going to be around $500 a month. Like, this is the color of the car that you want. This is the interior. This is the package that you want. These are the wheels that you want. This is the tunes and the modifications that you're going to do to the car. Now let's talk about your personal self. What is that going to look like for you? You want to have a six-pack. You want to be maybe bulked up. You want to have 25% body fat, but you're fucking massive. Or maybe you want to be 10% body fat and you're jacked, right? Do you want to be healthier? Do you want to have clearer skin? Do you want to have more luscious hair? Do you want to have nicer clothes? What does that person do, right? Go into as much detail as fucking possible because it's going to make it more real. It's going to be easier for you to be delusional about you living in that reality already. We talked about your personal self, finances. What do you want to be making a month and why do you want to make that much money every single month? Why, why, why do you want to do that? Why do you want to do $10,000, $15,000 a month? Why do you want to do $20,000 to $30,000 a month? Why do you want to do $50,000 a month? You know, why? Like, why do you need $30,000 a month? Let's say taxes, putting away, I don't know, $10K. You're, you're after taxes, you're making $20,000, right? Car payment, house, food. Let's say you're spending $8,000 on that every single month. All right. You're left with $12,000. Why do you need that extra $12,000? Oh, okay. You're going to be a good son and you're going to pay for your parents' mortgage. Okay. That's $3,000 a month. Now you're left with $9,000. Why do you need that extra $9,000 a month? Okay. You want to be able to save every single month. You know, you want to be able to save for a couple of months and have a nice watch. Okay, cool. You have a purpose on why you're doing these things. You have a purpose to the goal. You have a reason behind the goal, right? There's no point in setting these goals, unrealistic or not, if there's no purpose behind it. There's no real motive behind it. There's no, no, no, no deep desire for it, you know, because anybody can go out here and say, I just want to be rich. Anybody can go out here and say, hey, I want $100,000 a month. Why? Because when things are going to get hard, you have no purpose for that goal, you're going to quit. When things get hard, you're going to, you're going to crash to your dopamine addiction and scroll on your phone instead of doing deep work. When things get hard, you're going to fire an employee that maybe is going to get you to get to that $100,000 a month, but you can't level up yourself. You can't put yourself in that leadership role. You can't be understanding or be empathetic of somebody else's situation. To the point where you keep them in the company. You know, all of these things are to happen if you have an unrealistic goal. That's number one. And, and a goal with no substance, a goal with no foundation, a goal with no purpose. Setting unrealistic goals is not an issue, but unrealistic goals without that second part, without the purpose, is goals that are never to be achieved, is goals that are never going to take place, is a reality that's never going to happen. So this is why it's so, it's so critical to be so detailed about these goals and why. You have to add a why behind it, because that why behind it is when those tough times are going to come, when those sacrifices are going to feel very hard, when you're going through those pain points, when you feel like everything is going to shit, that why is what's going to keep you going. Because by any means necessary, this is not going to be easy. This is probably the hardest thing that you're ever going to do in your life. Doing a 180 of who you are, how you function, who you're surrounding yourself with, and where you're trying to go is going to be the hardest thing you do in your your life. And it's not going to be a one-time fix-all, you know. This is going to be a consistent self-progress, self-development journey that you're going to be going on consistently for the rest of your life. And you are going to feel even more miserable than you are now if you stop that self-development journey, especially as a man. I don't, I don't think women watch my channel. Maybe I have like 10-20% women, but for the men, I can speak from personal experience. But The second you stop self-reflecting, the second you stop evolving, the second you stop doing software updates to yourself, the second you stop self-developing into the next version of yourself, you are going to be more miserable than when you started. So this is why it's so important to be so detailed about this and the reasonings on why you're trying to be there. Because if it's fake, if it's something temporary, if it's something that you don't really care about, that motivation is going to fade. Those goals are gonna, are gonna fade off into the unrealistic realm. You're gonna quit sooner than later, right? So that's, I would say, what is that, the second example? And once you write down your goals, I want you to reverse engineer it. Reverse engineering is pretty much backtracking or setting a path or setting a blueprint to you actually achieving those goals. Let's just put the car as an example because that's on the top of my mind. You need good credit. You need good credit to have a luxury sports car like an M5, right? If you have no previous car credit history, you're going to have to put a fat down payment. If you don't want to do that, then you have to start going up by the levels, right? You have to start increasing your credit. You have to get, you know, credit lines. You have to do a secured credit card. You have to take off all your disputes. You have to take off all your hard inquiries. Like, these are all things that you have to do to reach the goal of the car. Now, is these things— are these things that are going to happen overnight? No. Are you probably going to want to do this yourself when you're building your own business? Like, sit there and try to email all these, you know, um, credit reporting things and, and talk to the banks and say, hey, dispute this, this wasn't reality, where's the facts on this, where's the— his— you're not going to be doing that. So you're probably going to have to pay a credit guy like I do myself. That's probably going to cost you like $2,000. Okay, where are you going to get the $2,000? You know, so you start like you set the goal, but you have to be realistic about the blueprint, realistic about the journey. Then you want to have a six-pack. Okay, again, we wrote down where we currently are to where we're trying to go so we can see, all right, what points to the consequence, which is the life that I'm living now. I don't have the six-pack. I don't have the skin that I want. I'm not as healthy as I should be. I— this is my current reality. I'm 21 years old, but my WHOOP says that I'm, I'm age 24, which I'm working on. Maybe that's your situation too, right? I'm aging older than what my actual age is. So what has to happen for me to get to that goal where I have a six-pack, where I'm healthy? Okay, I have to hit the gym every single day. What is that going to cost? All right. Am I a person with a big ego to— if somebody looks at me the wrong way, I'm going to want to fight. What is— what happens when I put myself in that situation? How can I avoid that situation? Okay, either build a home gym or I go to an expensive gym where people are less likely to be mad at the world, right? Where people are less likely to want to fight off of nothing, to be in a position where I'm less surrounded by people that have nothing to lose. Okay, now what is that expensive gym going to cost me? Okay, that's going to be around $300 a month. Okay, okay, do we— can we do that now or can I work out at home? Okay, what does my diet have to look like? You know, do a body scan. A lot of gyms offer this for free. What water do I have to drink? What food do I have to eat? How many calories? Like, really backtracking everything for you to get to that goal. And if you're missing something, you know, you can use ChatGPT. A lot of times when it comes down to technical things that are in the field, maybe like learning wholesale, it's not going to be accurate. So in a place like that, what do you do? You hire a coach. You hire somebody that's in the position that you want to be at. A lot of people hire me because they want to learn wholesaling, right? Because they know this is the business model they want to do because they want to become a real estate investor in the long term. They don't want to sit there and waste their time months and months on end, years on end, uh, to close their first wholesale deal. They want to do it in the span of weeks or months, right? That's why somebody would hire me. And that's exactly what I did when I first started off my journey in this business. So these are all the things as far as backtracking and really reverse engineering your goals to get to where you want to go. What is the next thing? Tell 3 people. So once you're done with step 3 of reverse engineering, you know, how you're going to get to your goals, I want you to tell 3 people. A lot of people are against this. I'm not, because I'm one for accountability, and this specifically is social accountability. Maybe you want to tell your dad that you really care about how he sees you. You really care about how proud he is of you. You really care of how he's opinionated about you. Maybe you're his only son. Maybe you're his oldest son. Right? Use him as an accountability partner. Tell him all your goals. Tell him your, your goal, right? Tell him where you want to go. Tell him what the, what the timeline that you want to reach it in, right? Not only is this going to help you as far as having that support partner, as far as having that accountability, but also having somebody else that is depending on you for you to reach that outcome, you know? Maybe tell your girlfriend, right? Because the last thing you want to do is be on this journey and you're alongside with somebody that doesn't reflect the same values, that doesn't reflect the same journey, that doesn't want to see you be there, right? Maybe your girlfriend. Maybe you tell your best friend, hey, this is what I want to do. I don't want to party every single weekend anymore. I don't want to live this life anymore. I don't want to drive this car. I don't want to have this friend group. You're with me or you're not. You know, this is what I really want to do. This is everything that I planned out. You can— we can do it the same way, right? You can write down your goals too. We can hold ourselves accountable. But have those 3 people to where, hey, when it gets hard, you can reach out and ask for help. You can reach out and ask for a little wisdom, you know? And also, those are 3 people that you don't want to let down. Make sure that it's important people. Don't just ask some bullshit-ass friend that you go drinking with, right? Ask some people that you really care about their opinion, you really care about the way they view you, you really care about, you know, how you're able to help them or whatever the case may be. 3 people that you care about. Tell them. Go into detail. Because now it's not just yourself. As men, a lot of times we like to isolate ourselves from, from people when we want to lock in, when we want to reach a certain goal, when we want to, you know, stay hidden, move silently like lasagna, or whatever people say. That's the worst thing that you can do, because your network is your net worth. Who you're surrounded by tells you where you're going to go in life. If you're surrounded by 5 crackheads, you're probably going to be the 6th one. If you're surrounded by 5 millionaires, you're probably going to be the 6th one. If you're surrounding yourself with 5 guys that are super serious about their fitness, super serious about their finances, super serious about their religion, super serious about everything in life, you're probably going to be the next one. So it's super important not only to tell these 3 people that you care about, but also to start becoming that person. And then the last part, which I think is, is arguably one of the most important ones, is to take note of what the sacrifice is going to look like. What are you leaving behind for you to get to that next level, for you to get to 2.0, 3.0, 4.0, and live the life that you want to be living. In my case, I'll tell you exactly what I sacrificed. I sacrificed soda. I sacrificed late nights. I sacrificed going to the clubs. I sacrificed drinking. I sacrificed smoking. I sacrificed friends that, you know, I would have super really fun times with, but it wasn't leading down to my next goal. I sacrificed people that I enjoyed being around, but they weren't aligned with my end goal. They weren't aligned with who I was trying to be. They weren't aligned with my morals, whatever the case may be. What else did I sacrifice? You know, I, for, for at least a couple years, I didn't go to any family party. I didn't celebrate my own birthday. I didn't go to family events. I did not probably— yeah, I mean, what's another thing I didn't take weekends off. Like right now it's Sunday and I don't plan on taking any, any weekend off. I don't plan to just because I feel so purposeful, you know, foundationally. I love what I'm doing. I love the help that I'm providing. I love, you know, the results that I'm getting and I love the man that I'm becoming over everything. But these are some of the things and I could probably name off like 30 more, but I don't want to make this video too long. Note the sacrifice and what is going to be the result of that. Because again, if you come in with unrealistic expectations of, hey, I'm gonna do this and overnight my life is going to change, it's not. But it all starts right here. And if you do all these things from one day to another, you can start being a completely different person, a completely different person that lives a completely different reality. So it's completely up to you. You know, again, we'll kind of review everything. You have to be disgusted with your situation. Next, you have to evaluate your life and what's going on. Then you have to set your goals on where you want to go and go into really specific detail. Then you have to reverse engineer, um, what is going to be the blueprint for you to actually get there. You have to tell 3 people to use them as social accountability and to use them when times get hard. And the last one, you have to note the sacrifice to know what you're willing to sacrifice, what you're going to be going through, what are the pain points that are going to take place while you embark on this journey. Yeah, I hope you guys like this video. I really enjoyed doing it, not gonna lie. And if you like this type of content, like, comment, subscribe. And yeah, I genuinely hope this helped.