Break Free From Painful Dating Patterns Now!

Are you experiencing the same painful or challenging patterns in dating or relationships? Maybe you're single and you're dating and you keep having the same experience over and over, or maybe you've had a relationship for many years and you built some resentment and you aren't sure how to communicate in a healthy way. Maybe you're going through a breakup or divorce or other transition and you need some help and support. Whatever it is, the most important thing you can ever do in any of these scenarios is work on your relationship with you. I'm Jess. I'm a conscious relationship coach and I work with individuals and couples and really supporting you in creating what you deeply desire and helping you get to the root of whatever is keeping you stuck so that you can experience the most fulfilling life and healthiest relationships possible. I'm going to tell you guys a secret that is life-changing. The reason why we have to do our inner work and that there's no shortcut is because we can't trick frequency. Here's what I mean. The energy that we carry around and that we move from is going to be felt by those around us. We were taught to go outside of ourselves and fix whatever external circumstance isn't going to our liking so that we can have a different experience internally. So go out there and find the guy, or find the money, or get the relationship, or get the job, or get the car, whatever it is. And we're taught that once we do that, we'll finally feel better. But number one, that creates a destination addiction, which is the story that when I have X, Y, and Z, then I'll finally allow myself to feel peace, or I'll finally allow myself to feel fulfilled. But that is a slippery slope because only when everything is exactly how we want it to be will we ever feel peace within ourselves, which is not really how this human experience goes. When we talk about you can't trick frequency, what we need to do is look at whatever is showing up within us that needs some support and some healing that could be impacting our relational dynamics, most importantly our relationship with ourself. Certain energies invite in peace, invite in connection, invite in intimacy, energies of acceptance, energies of allowing, energies of openness, energies of compassion. And then there's other energies that really repel— energies of neediness, energy of striving, energy of pushing and forcing. Those energies are all pretty repellent. And so we want to be mindful of what it is that we're embodying within ourselves and how— what are we bringing to each connection, each conversation that we're having, right? And so that's why when people ask me, oh, should I hire a matchmaker? Like, that's probably what I should do is just hire a matchmaker to find my partner. And I say no, because the energy that you have now when you're operating in the world is going to be the same energy that you have during that process with the matchmaker. That's again going outside of ourselves and trying to fix the problem rather than looking at, okay, what's going on within me? That's maybe kept me from connecting with a partner? And whatever you do, do not shame yourself because everybody has different timing, everyone has different lessons to learn. It really does not mean anything if you are in a relationship or not, but our society has placed such emphasis on this one thing, like if we have a romantic partner, that somehow means something about us, that we're valuable or we're worthy, and if we don't, then something must be really wrong. But I'll tell you something, just because you're married or just because you're in a relationship does not mean that you know how to have a healthy one or you know how to navigate in a healthy, conscious way. So basically what we need to remember is that our energy speaks louder than our words. And the more that we go in and do some healing and clearing out of any patterns, beliefs, ideas, programs in our subconscious that might be keeping us stuck, the more available we are for what's in front of us and the field of the miraculous where anything can happen in any moment. So what I support clients in doing is really uncovering some of these beliefs in their subconscious mind that really are operating under the surface and usually trying to keep them safe and protect them. If we have a belief that all men cheat, for example, then we're gonna go out in the world and we're actually gonna be looking through that lens that all men cheat, and we're going to be finding evidence wherever we go, rather than the belief that, okay, maybe some men cheat and some women cheat, but not all. And what if there's a different possibility? But if we've been telling the same story for years based on our past experiences, based on our mental filter, then we are going to keep recreating the same narrative on repeat. So this is why our work is really within. We need to really be humble enough to look at, okay, what is my part in what I'm creating in my life, right? Without going into shame or blame or self-condemnation, but just looking at, okay, what is it within me that is asking to be healed? What is this showing me, this current situation showing me about me? And start from there. And so if you would like to do some deeper work here, if you're finding yourself in a repeated cycle or a pattern that you can't seem to shift, maybe you stop looping in a cycle with someone, in a toxic cycle. Maybe it's a love addiction cycle. That's something that I help clients with a lot. Um, you also may be just in a dynamic with your partner that you can't seem to shift, even though you both really want to and you want to show up, but you just don't have the tools. Or you might be spinning your wheels in the dating world trying to figure out how to navigate it. So whatever it is, all of this is really important information for us about what's going on within you, and I can help you get to the root and actually heal it so so that you can show up from a completely different energy, and then everything else will shift too. We don't attract what we want, we attract what we are. So the quickest shortcut to experiencing what we want is to become it. Sounds simple enough, maybe, but the things that keep us stuck are the beliefs and the patterns and the narratives that we keep running on repeat, like a very grooved-in road that we just click right into and we just believe it to be the truth. But what we actually need to do is clear out some of those old thinking patterns and do the healing for whatever is driving them, right? Whatever is fueling those beliefs. And then we need to start creating a new narrative, a new story, and becoming the energetic match to this new story. And watch how things will shift. I'm telling you personally, I have gone through so much in my life, in my relationships, my friendships, and At this point in my life, my relationships are unrecognizable compared to what they used to be, and it is because I learned how to go within myself and actually do the deeper work so that my energy is different. If you're finding yourself stuck, please don't worry. There is another way. I'm happy to help you to have a new experience. And if you'd like to connect more, there is a link to book a 15-minute connection call with me, and you can also explore my website and you can explore the offerings that I have to work with clients. And I work with individuals and couples, and I'd be so happy to connect with you and support you.