Society teaches us to perform and perfect ourselves to be chosen as partners, but that backfires. Instead, be yourself. People who fit will stay; those who don't will leave. That's how you actually find someone aligned with you.
We weren't ever taught how to date consciously, right? They don't sit us down when we're in middle school and say, hey, you know what guys, this is how you navigate this in a really healthy, conscious way. Most of us have been taught that we have to be a certain way, that we have to perform, that we need to be perfect to somehow be chosen, right? But that's actually the exact opposite of how I would say to operate. What you want to do is be as authentic as possible. Just be yourself. That's it. And guess what? You will attract people that are aligned for you in doing that. And the ones that aren't will fall away.
