Define your deal breakers before dating again. Active addiction is a disqualifier because the substance comes first, not you. Same with emotional unavailability. If someone can't show up for you, that's a firm no.
The other thing I'd like you to do is think about your absolute deal breakers. So what are the things that if you see this thing present, you can't work with? I'll give you a few of mine. If someone is in active addiction in any way, that for me personally is a deal breaker. Can't do it. Tried it when I was younger, doesn't work. Shocking. Someone who's in active addiction is absolutely not available. Absolutely, because their addiction is what they're available for, and that is the, the top of their minds, so they can't be available to you. So active addiction is a big one for me, as well as emotionally available. If someone is emotionally available, then that's the green light to move forward. If they're not, that is a hard no, and I can help you with this if you need some support.
