True love starts with turning inward. You need to attune to your own needs, become emotionally available to yourself, and embody the qualities you want in a partner. Skip the savior narrative. Ready your nervous system for reciprocal, consistent love instead of the roller-coaster.
The way to shift and heal this is for you to start attuning to yourself and becoming available to your own self. You become available to you. You become the person that you are seeking, that you're wishing to experience in the outer world, right? Because a lot of us are programmed around this idea that there's the savior coming in, that this person's going to come in and make everything okay and make us finally feel safe, and we're finally going to find the one. But that's not the whole story, because we have to actually make that our nervous systems are ready to experience reciprocal love, healthy love, love that is available and present and consistent and doesn't create these highs and lows, highs and lows, highs and lows.
