You can't heal through another person. We're drawn to partners who echo our old wounds because familiarity feels safe. These relationships aren't traps but signals pointing you toward the healing work only you can do.
But here's the kicker. First of all, no one else can ever heal us. That's the first thing. But beyond that, the people that we are drawn to that we're trying to heal from or extract— honestly, extract from in order to heal— are going to be people that actually recreate the same wounding because we're going to be subconsciously drawn towards what is familiar. Isn't that wild? Honestly, it might sound like, oh my gosh, well, what are we ever going to do? That sounds like the worst situation ever. But it's actually the fact that higher power, God, life loves you so much that life will keep showing you wherever you're not yet free. And what better way to do that than through a romantic attraction or romantic relationship?
