Your subconscious mind chases what feels familiar, not what you actually want. Old belief patterns like abandonment wounds replay automatically, creating the exact outcomes you fear. The first step is spotting the recurring story in your life, then you can see the hidden beliefs driving it.
The subconscious mind doesn't seek what you want, it seeks what's familiar. And here's why this is so important: we will keep recreating these beliefs over and over again, right? So if we have an abandonment wound, for example, we will actually subconsciously behave in the very way that will result in people leaving. It can sound a little scary, but it's actually important because if we don't know these things, we're not aware of them, we're going to keep recreating them. So The first step is really bringing it to the light. What's the experience that you keep having? What's the pattern that keeps playing on repeat, like a bad movie? One of my clients said, he's like, I'm ready to stop watching the same movie over and over again. So what's your movie? What's your story? What keeps showing up in your life over and over again? That will give us an indication of what some of your subconscious beliefs are.
