Stop looking for a perfect partner. Instead, audit your past relationships to find what consistently failed and what you actually need. Use that to build your own owner's manual for the specific dynamics and behaviors that work for you.
If you're getting really honest with yourself, what were the things that just did not work for you? And what were the things that you deeply desired that didn't show up, that weren't present? And this is not to say that we're gonna go find some perfect person, okay? That does not exist, so let's just throw that out right now. But if this relationship has broken up for whatever reason then let's use it as a way to learn yourself so that you know, okay, this is what works for me, this is what doesn't. Beyond attachment styles, beyond love languages, what is your specific owner's manual and what works for you?
