A facilitator guides participants to hold chairs as a physical metaphor for stress and baggage they carry. As arms tire, people notice patterns in their complaints that trace back to childhood, making invisible weight suddenly felt and visible.
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Do me a favor. Stand up if you will, and pick up your chair and hold it out in front of you. Yeah. If you can't, if you have a medical condition, just hold your arms out without the chair. But if you can, hold up the chair. Hold up the chair. Hold up that chair. While we do this exercise, I'm going to keep talking. If someone starts getting tired, just say, I'm getting tired, but don't put the chair down. Don't hold it up that way. That's the easy way. No, no, that's what most people do. They put the chair on their. No, hold it out. And if you start getting tired, just speak up so I know how the room's doing. Okay? No, okay, okay. Keep holding. Keep holding it. And so you're holding that chair. And that chair is a metaphor for the stress that you carry around. We're going to talk about the circles of life. Holding up the chair. You're still holding up the chair. In the circles of life, we have things that go on in our life that typically come from childhood. And there's something that has happened in our lives, like a persistent complaint. Some people complain. Oh, yeah. Sound off and let me know, because then. Because I don't. Don't hold it against you. You can't hold it against you. You got to hold it out. If I start hearing you moaning and groaning, I'll change. But I don't hear anybody really moaning, groaning. So I know you got that chair under control. So think about a persistent complaint. Who in the room has a persistent complaint? Like, so and so does this all the time. Or my mother didn't like me when I was a kid, or I had a bad parent or all that stuff. Who has one of those stories?