Learn How to Get Your False Limiting Beliefs Under Control

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False limiting beliefs under control.

Exactly. Learn how to get your false limiting beliefs under control. False limiting beliefs.

False limiting belief.

And this is episode 13. So let's talk about what is a false limiting belief. A limiting belief is a false limiting belief. What is that? Is that a person holds true based on incorrect or incomplete conclusions about certain things in life.

Yeah. You know, you know, that reminds me of great character Eeyore.

Okay, tell me, Eeyore. Yes, I do.

Eeyore always felt like everything always stopped because. Felt like everything was going bad. Right?

Right.

Even before you get started. Right. I was telling you before we got on.

On.

On the podcast about my sister, and my sister was saying things like but and kind of sorta. And you know, there's.

That limits. Puts.

Puts limitations. And when you start singing.

She was doing that as a way to explain her current nature. Really? What? She was explaining that she was. She was actually. At least. Did you say it was loud enough was what you're trying to say? I was trying to pull that over closer to you because I'm not sure.

How the sound is on that.

On that.

Got it.

Yeah. It should be fine. Should be fine. Okay, so with your sister, what she didn't realize she was doing. And she wasn't doing it intentionally.

Right.

She was coming from a place of stuck and scarcity. And every time you attempted to help her shift her mind towards possibility, she would reject and go back towards but you don't know about this limitation. But you don't know about this possibility. And none of the buts had even happened. Right. Right.

And you know, a lot of people do that.

Oh, like naturally.

Yeah, naturally. They go, I want to do this, Shondell.

But.

Okay, so. But what?

Right. So you're building in a false limitation with one single word. That's one wor.

A pause.

The other thing with the but on the butt. To me, whenever. When you're talking with someone, you're having a great conversation and you're seeking to make a point and let's say they have a. That they don't really agree or they're not buying in.

Right.

They'll say, but.

They'll say, but.

And when they say, but, they just, to me, negated everything you just said. Yeah, yeah. Instead of saying, well, let's think about what you said. Yeah. And let's consider it. Even if they don't wholly accept it. That It. That. But is a negative for reversing things. Yep. Really. Which is what you're trying to say to your sister. You're working. You were attempting to get her to understand that so she could remove it and create it. Was. Right.

And I wanted to start my own business.

Right. The.

The person who was my GM at the time, none of the guys that were really the iconic guys were real supportive, but this person was like, what are you gonna do? How are you gonna do it? You know, all different things.

Sure.

So other people can try to put their limitations on the time and. And even. It's like, well, you know, I know you got a wife and a kid, so what are you going to do? I said, I'm going to do the same thing I've done here.

Right?

Same. Same exact.

Right.

Nothing I'm going to change. But what happens is we get a false sense of security. And I'm not nobody. Because my. My parents told me I need to be a lawyer in order to make money.

Right.

And so don't take those things as being bad things. Right.

Right.

But if that's not what. Where you're supposed to be or where you're supposed to be placed.

Right.

Then don't limit yourself by what others believe.

I 100%. Don't limit yourself by what other others believe.

Yeah.

And how did you come to that. How did you come to that point.

Where you just said, I came to that point because just at the end of the day, you take. You take a kid out of Brooklyn with kids as you know, in high school, and you tell me that I'm going to be in the military. And every time somebody said, you can't, I have proven I can. Right. So, you know, my captain said they draw. They drew straws to see how long I was going to last in the Air Force. Wow. Before I got there.

Why is that? Because they.

Because, you know, they had the limitation for them was here comes this kid with a wife and two kids, and he got one on the way.

Right.

He is not. There's no way he's gonna make this happen.

Right.

They didn't understand is I had already.

Won because you had chosen. You decided your attitude came in. You came in with a positive, proactive, can do attitude. And you came in with an attitude that wasn't limiting, even though you didn't know.

Yeah. You didn't.

You didn't have proof. You just.

You.

It was. We talked about how you even feeling.

Right.

It was how you felt about your possibilities.

And I had already won. Look, Bed Stuy, do or die nickname. Two out of every ten black males will come out of Bed Stuy. The others, prison, stuck, drunk. Wow. Dead, whatever.

Right.

I had already won. I'm out of Brooklyn.

Right.

I'm already there. I'm already. I'm already beating the odds. Right?

So how many people are listening right now to this podcast that are. That they are feeling stuck, they are feeling trapped, and they don't even know why they're that way. They don't know what's going on. So the false limiting belief, idea or concept that we want to talk about, we were doing this to help people be released from it. You've done it because you've been practicing that for a very long time.

Very long time.

Even before you probably knew what it was called.

I had no clue what it was called. Right. All I knew was that there was some opportunity for me to move out of the space. And then I. I hate to say this, but I wasn't doing it to prove anybody wrong.

No, that wasn't. That's not what it was about.

It was my belief that. I get what you're saying. And then when I was two years almost getting out of the military, I married Arlene. Okay? We got eight kids, Right? And when I'm transitioning, we go to a program called tap. Tap. Transition Assistance Program.

Okay?

The guy there said, shondale, are you crazy?

Right.

You got a wife and a kid.

This is the best place for you to be.

I said, why do you think that?

Right.

Oh, the military does this, this, this and that. I said, but I'm not feeling that there's something greater that I can go after.

Pulling and a calling. And you knew it. Yes. And you had trust and faith in that. But also it was because the words you put into your head. Yeah. And you didn't allow those negative things. And when they did come, you found a way to squash them. Let's do a couple of these talking points. The first one talking about false limiting beliefs, I want you to respond, I can't be my real self or I'll be judged. Some people feel that way.

Right? Some people feel that way.

So when you hear that that's a false limiting belief, what Comes to mind for you.

What comes to mind for me, to me is, you know, look at Oprah Winfrey.

Oh, she was told all kinds of days.

You're short, you're ugly, you're blah, blah, blah, you're black, you're blah, blah, blah.

Right.

You know, that's when you feel like you have to be judged, right? Or you feel like even Eddie Murphy in his earlier, in his earlier dialogue, she said, you know, I was big nose, big head Ed, you know.

Yeah.

But now everybody likes me because I'm Eddie Murphy.

Right?

So you should always feel like you are that star. And I'm gonna tell you where mine came from. Is my grandmother who we talked about before, right? Very, very light skinned woman. She said when ever since I was a child, you are extremely special because of who you are.

Your grandmother told me you said you should always feel like you're that star. Yeah, but what if they don't feel like they're a star? Shonda, now what?

Now, now you, now you just have to. You have to dig deep into your, into your spirit. You have to dig deep into not, not allowing yourself to be judged.

But what if they don't know how to do that?

If they don't know how to do that. You know what? Talk to me. I'll tell them. I'll talk to you.

Shoot.

Come to your conference.

Come on. Learn your colors. Do something.

But, and, but seriously, when you do, when you start to learn who you are and whose you are. Whose you are. And then when you start learning your.

Purpose, I think it's learning who you are and how you are. Yeah. Not just who you are.

Yeah. Your DNA.

Who you are and how you are. Sure. And so it's, it's. We have to shift the language. It's that language. It's that internal language.

Yeah.

That negative naysaying language.

Get rid of it.

You gotta get rid of it. Process.

Get rid of it. You know, it is. Don't, don't let people, you know, remember kids, right? We, we play the dozens. We.

Yes.

Hey, man, you know, you got a big nose. Oh. You got big ears.

Right. Start talking about daddies and mamas.

Yeah. Your mama this and that. Right. People allow some. And now, you know, nowadays they, it's really, really bullying. They take it real serious. But I never felt bullied. I know people were trying to bully me.

Sure.

Because I was short, you know, dark.

Okay.

You know, never really had nappy hair. My hair, My hair is beautiful.

That part of you got down.

That part I got down. I Ain't had a nappy stuff going. But, but the thing that I'm just telling you is, is one affirmation. Give yourself your own affirmation.

Funny you should say that.

Don't ask.

Funny you should say that because to approve you. I, I was going to get to the end. You skipped to the end on this. These are called 52 Morning Morning Mantras.

I didn't even see those.

52. No. 52. You get one of them, but you don't get to take this with you.

That's favoritism.

52 morning mantras.

I'm going talk to our producer. I'll get one of these producers.

Right, right, right. The producer says save it and you just jump in, bring it in. Just like an affirmation. I just read a few. I'm not going to read all of the. The 52 morning is to retrain. How you talk to yourself is what you talk about. We say affirmations. I'm going to pick them at random. Number six says it's not selfish to enjoy life. What's selfish is to insist on being negative despite all the positive possibilities available to you.

Right.

That's one. This is one morning mantra to read. The secret to being grateful is no secret. You choose to be grateful. Then you do it again and again every day. Just like you said about the star thing. That goes to your star quality things every day. When you forget, begin again.

Right.

Okay, point number 12, your track record for getting through hard days is 100% so far. Yeah. See, let's jump down to 18. Do your thing with passion. This sounds like you wrote this because this is reflecting everything you just said.

Amen.

Do your thing with passion and integrity, even if folks don't notice you. We do what we do not for an applause, but because we know it's right. Which is exactly what you just said. Did you not say, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situations, unless you accept that.

It'S over, Everybody thought when my ex wife left and she was back and forth, back and forth, then she left, everybody thought that I should be bitter, I should angry, be angry. One, I didn't have time for that. Number two, it goes back to what we said. I had to be bigger than that situation.

You didn't have space or capacity for that. You know why? Because you knew intuitively, yeah, that was gonna do nothing but hold you down and hold you back. You needed to allow yourself to feel because you had, you felt challenging, heavy emotions from that. But those challenging, heavy emotions were not there to ground you. They were there to ground you.

And you know what's funny is my. You know, you asked Tiara and you asked my kids. They didn't know the difference, right? And I'm not saying what and what they. They noticed their mom left. But what they also got. They still got Disney on Ice, right? They still got the carnivals, they still got Christmas, right? And the thing that I had to do was exactly what you're saying, because what if. What if I went in the other way?

You had to take.

They get none of that.

You had to take flight.

And. And people like, they. I go. I always get this. Just Chandelle really don't care. Shondell things that things are on fire. And you just. You just got this calm, right? Because I believe that there's a solution to everything.

And so that's why you and I are online. Check this out. Is my belief. And you don't have to believe this, but I do.

I don't have to.

I believe I do, though. I know you do.

Because I love Jesse and how you make me feel.

And that's how I'm gonna leave you. So I believe this. I believe that if you live long enough, Shonda, it will all happen to you. Some people like to. Some people die. You know, babies die. 3 days old, 2 hours old, 2 years, 5 years, 10 years, whatever. 21 year old was in a car accident, whatever, right? If you live long enough, my belief is it'll all happen to you. You'll have triumphs, you'll have failures, you have challenges, you'll have loves. You'll lose loves. People come and go in your life. You'll have, hopefully, happiness and joy. You'll have some despairing moments. I believe, this is my belief that at the end of the day, we are all one people. And I believe we're all living the same life. We're just at different points on that pinch as it swings at different points. Some of us are in a. In a. In our formative years. Some of us are in our early years. Some of us are ahead of our times. I know people that are 21 and they act 51. Yeah. I know people that are 51 and they act 18, right? So it's where you're at on that pendulum. So I think if you live long enough, it'll all happen to you, right?

Means.

I think this thing called life is about how do we continue to elevate, how do we can to. I think when the negative things or the mishaps or the Misfortunes or the unfortunate. When those things happen. Yeah, those are points for lesson.

And you know, it's a choice. It's an attitude.

It is a choice. It's how you manage how you do. Which is when you talked about mantras and affirmations. That's where this come from. Let me just read a couple more that I'm going to put this down. I don't even know which ones are just choosing at random. 31 says it's not what you say to everyone else that determines your life. It's what you whisper to yourself that has the greatest power. Which is what you just said. Yeah.

You know what? I talk to myself all the time, right. If my golf swing is not on, I'm like, hey, come on, Chandel. Really?

Right?

Come on, dude.

Right? Let's get this, get over it.

And yesterday I was filming for my church, I filmed announcements and I was getting through because it's like this. You get this paper, you study it, boom. And you want to do the announcements. So I stumbled through it a little bit and then I finally said to myself, I said, shondale, what are you doing? Right, let's knock this out. And the young lady who was doing her first announcement, she said, how did you do that?

Like you shifted and then you killed it.

I said, because it is all right here.

Yeah, I need to refocus.

And isn't it the programming? Right. In the morning and everybody that knows me, I am a. I put on my music loud. My wife is like, oh my God. My dog is like, yeah, that means I'm getting ready to go for a walk. But you know, it's all in how you look at it, right?

It is programming. So talk about program. Let's look some more self limiting beliefs. Number two, I can't fall in love or I'll get my heart broken.

But if you don't fall in love, you will never know.

If you don't fall in love, you'll never know love. So you're missing out. I agree. I like that one. Number three, fomo.

Right?

I like it. I can't do false limiting beliefs again. I can't ask for what I want because I may get rejected.

I will, you know, I can, I can go the other way. I expect rejection. I expect rejection.

Okay. And you pursue anyway because.

Because sometimes people are not on my vision track.

And sometimes it's not the right timing for them or for you or the right place. When I used to that. When this one, I can't. I can't ask for what I want Because I may get rejected. That wasn't my concern.

Right.

I never asked what I wanted.

Right.

Because I didn't want to put you out.

Yeah.

How do I know I'm putting you out? Yeah. I made that decision for you. How do I know you're not looking forward to helping me with something?

Right.

But if I don't ask, I don't get.

Right.

Right.

Right.

So that, that was a self limiting belief that I had. I did not like asking because I didn't. I don't like putting people out.

Right.

How do you know you're putting them out? How did I know by me asking, I was putting them out? It was a self living belief that I picked up and I maintained that for my entire life with the exception of two years ago. Right. I lived my whole life not asking for that one reason.

Wow.

How much do you think that is?

You don't want to be rejected.

No, it wasn't rejection. I didn't want to put you out.

Gotcha. So you, you were thinking more about my feelings.

I'm deciding for you that I'm putting you out.

Yeah.

Lisa and I did a program for the Word of Life Christian Academy about the power of asking. Yep. They're a good school.

Great school.

Kelly Marcel is the president.

Okay.

A principal, I should say. So. We're going through this. The reason why we did that for them is because we, we calculated using these statistics and graphs that I created about when I learned that I need to start asking. I put myself on a program where I had to ask five times a day, five days a week. I got two days off. And I, and I, and I had to chart those ask. I had to put down who I was asking, what I was asking them for, why I was asking them, and what were the results of that ask.

Okay.

You won't, you won't. You'll be blown away. What the no factor was less than half percent. Wow. I was told no less than half percent of the time.

Right.

So I calculated the first month that I started asking. We picked up $4,700 that we didn't have specifically tied to the ass. The next month it jumped 20,000. It's 22,000.

Right.

That we picked up.

Just.

And it. So we did the math on what if I start asking at age 16.

Right.

To the age I was at the time.

Yeah.

What was that? 135 million? Yeah, it was 135 million. If I had, if I had the same traction that I was having now from age 16. To age 55.

Oh, can I slap you now?

Right, right. Believe me, I was slapping him. Was that not a false limiting belief that was costing us. Listen, what was it costing us beyond the money?

I'm gonna tell you. The false limiting belief cost you relationships. It costs you money. It costs you life. It costs you experiences.

Yes.

You, you, you don't experience certain things because you have that. You have that. What if.

Yes.

Or why.

Yes.

Just imagine, like doubt.

Yeah.

That doubt. Like if my mom fear. If my mom ever said, you know what? I'm not going to send you to Vermont on your summers. Right. I would never be exposed to a lot of things I'm exposed to today.

Right.

I think the best thing that ever happened to me me is not seeing limitations. The military.

Huge.

Not seeing limitations. Not seeing limitations in relationships. Because I can tell you that growing up in Brooklyn, Brooklyn has changed a lot. Brooklyn is so diverse now. But when we were growing up in our neighborhood, kids that didn't get out of our neighborhood had no clue what other people were like. They were afraid of Jewish people, they were afraid of white people. They're afraid of Irish people, They're afraid of Puerto Ricans. They didn't understand that they were limiting themselves.

Right, right. It was costing them.

It was cost.

Actually, you know what was costing them? Relationship equity building.

Yeah.

And building relationships across people that don't have to be from the same place you're from. Right. You, you cross that barrier. In the early days, you, you could articulate the language. You could pick up some of the mores and the values from different.

And more importantly, more importantly, you can make people feel comfortable. Absolutely. Because I actually, and I don't know you guys tell me because we met several years ago, I think I never give anybody that awkwardness.

No, no, no. You have a nature, you know, you have a nature. This is good for people listening to this program or watching this program to hear you have a nature about you that's inviting. It's, it's, it's, it's like you walk around. Well, like right now, I see on that hat that says something about Las Vegas. Really? You have a welcome mat that's right underneath whatever hat you're wearing. Even if you're not wearing a hat, you have this welcoming sign that when you're in the space of others, you are welcoming and open for whatever you're about, ready to create. See, that's very different than limiting and staving off and said, I don't want to talk to that person because I can't relate to them. You give yourself an opportunity to relate to everybody. Relate to. As an opportunity to build relationships.

Sure, sure.

So that'd be good. In families. There are a lot of families. Dysfunction in families because they're not relating to one another.

Exactly.

There are parents that don't get along with kids and kids, I'm talking kids that are 20 years old, that are 40 years old, that are 50, that are 60 years old. Still complaining about the parent. Okay, let me see. Your mother's 80 years old.

Right.

You're 60 and you're still pissed off about what she did and didn't do as a child. Exactly. That's limiting you. Yes, it's limiting. Not just you. It's limiting the possibility of that being a decent relationship.

Absolutely.

Get over yourself.

Yeah. Let it go.

Put it down.

And you know, it's interesting. And I want to read the next one. I can't trust people lest they betray my trust.

Right. Okay. So in other words, what they're saying is. Want me to respond to that? I can't trust people because they may betray my trust. Right. You're not giving yourself. You're shooting yourself in the foot before you even get up off the ground.

Exactly.

So you're deciding almost like what I said when I was. When I said I didn't like asking because I didn't want to put people out deciding something that's not even true. Yeah.

Because you don't know.

And so what? So what is the big deal? Invest. Start out with giving them trust. And if they do something to violate that trust, you can analyze that at the time and decide which way you want to go. You can call them on it, you can bring that out, or you can say, you know what, this one is not really worth it. I'm going to go ahead and put this down and move on. Just because someone burns you or denies trust thing that you think you thought you had.

Yeah.

It's not the end of the world. But that's a learning lesson.

And I'll tell you where people have a hard time with trust is people have a hard time being honest with themselves. Right. And I say this all the time, you know, because people, people from New York at the reputation of being bold and very brash out there. Out there. You know, a lot of times it's just being direct. Right. And so having trust and just opening yourself up. But then we know how to close the door quickly.

Meaning who?

Being New Yorkers. Right. So somebody comes and you give them that trust. You're not only Going to. You're not going to be around the bush. Right. I'll say that, like, if somebody hurts my feelings, I'm going to say, hey, Jess, you hurt my feelings. Right. I'm not.

You're not going to carry it.

Oh, I'm not going to carry. I'm not going to walk out.

A lot of people carry it.

They do. And I think it's.

It's. And it festers. Yeah. And it becomes unresolved. Yeah.

A lot of my friends from the south, that Southern heart is real. Sure. Right. That.

That.

That caring, that hospitality is real. They don't want to hurt your feelings. But then it goes back to what you said. Right. Give me the opportunity to see if my feelings don't get hurt.

Right.

Don't decide that for me. Right, right. Right.

And if you make a mistake, you correct it. You correct it. Do you know one of the best things when it comes to communication, what people don't get Shondale is. And I want people to really hear this. This is important. So thank you for this gateway. One of the best things that can happen to you in life and communicating is to make a mistake.

Yeah.

And especially if you're someone about recognized, higher status, whether it's college degrees or professional speaker or Mr. Motivation or Mrs. Motivation, whatever, when you make a mistake. I want to give you a quick example. I've probably shared this in the past. I'm in Kansas City, and I'm on the stage and I'm speaking, and I've said probably a couple thousand words so far. But the one word I was about ready to say, I could not say the word. I could not pronounce it. Okay. And so I went out to the audience and I said to this audience member, as I was trying to stumble all over the words, and I reached down into the second row with my lapel mic, I said, sir, what word am I trying to say? He says, testicular cancer. It brought down the house. Everybody starts laughing and screaming and slapping each other because here I am, Mr. Get paid by the Word, and I cannot say the word. But this guy just rolls it off the tongue like that. Right. So what did that. When he did that, what did that make me with that audience?

Oh, they gained your trust because you were transparent, your flaws.

I can't say it. Yeah. Now I'm human.

Yeah.

Now I'm one of them. And see that.

And that's what I think is the challenge for people in trust is one. Politically correctness.

Right. Yes.

I just don't understand the word. I don't understand the phrase. I don't even know where the hell it came from.

You're like, what's the point of political correctness?

Where'd that come from?

I think that comes from people trying to fit in. Yeah.

Or trying not to. Or trying to determine what hurts my feelings. Or not. Right. Ask me the question. Hey, Shondell, I just said this.

How does this work? Feel.

Sure.

Yeah. So.

And I. I say this is that I do open myself up, but I'm. I'm guarded based on your. Your behaviors.

So you. Guarded based on. In other words, you're watching, Right? You're watching.

I'm a watcher.

And you say. Let me correct something, though. I don't think that you are guarded. I think that you have a guard shield ready to come up if you proceed. Yeah. Because you don't walk around guarded.

No, no, no. I don't walk around guarded. But what I do is if. If. If I observe your behaviors prior to our interaction, I will then make sure that.

That.

That. That shield goes up faster than the other person.

Exactly.

Right.

Exactly.

Because I watch people.

I watch people, too.

And I watch them when they don't think I'm watching.

Right. And I pay attention to things they don't realize you're seeing.

Exactly.

I totally agree. I like that.

That's really good.

What's. What's one of your. Can you. I don't put you on the.

The.

On the spot. Oh, yeah, you do. Don't say, I don't want to put you on the spot. Then put me on the spot. See what I mean?

That's what I'm saying.

Hawthorne guy. That's a false lemon.

That's right.

I don't want to put you on the spot. I want to ask you for money, but can I go on? Can you hook a brother up? 20. 20.

Go ahead.

Go ahead. Falsely believe. Do you have a false limiting belief that, you know, you may have carried around as a young person at all or not necessarily. Nothing kind of comes to mind for you.

So I will tell you that at one point, I, I, I. I struggled with who I was because I was different. Right.

Different.

How so? So you.

You're.

You're in this neighborhood, and everybody. So back then, we carry backpacks, kids carry iPhones.

Sure.

Now we carry backpacks. So I love books. So my routine was, I'm taking all my. I do it now. I carry my books with me.

Okay. Bill Gates, because he does the same thing. He carries a big bag of books.

I do. I carry A bunch of books, just. Just in case I want to read something, right?

And.

And you know what's interesting is I would say that what. What kept hitting me is I'm in this neighborhood and everybody is saying, this is. You're trying to be white. That was all. So I had this. And my father kept saying, don't put that in your mind because it's going to limit you.

Right? Because.

And this is the way my father. This is the way he articulated it. Why do you want to even be just white?

Right?

Because they don't have all the answers. Why do you not want to be Native American? Why don't you want to be Scandinavian? Why don't you want to be Canadian? Why don't you want to be whatever you want to be? Right? So he took it from where people were telling us, you know, if you speak a certain way, if you go to certain schools, you're.

You're attempting to act that way, right? So really you were just wanting to be understood, right? You're articulating language so that on a universal basis, you're understood. Sure, sure. That. That's all it was about.

Yeah, that's all it was. Communication. It's about communication.

Ethnic or color.

But people. What people thought was my limitation was actually has become. Become my strength. What.

What people attempted to label you, Right, As a limitation.

Exactly, exactly.

So having to become a strength. No, but here's what's. Here's what's fresh about what you're sharing. Chandel. The fact that you. The fact that that was happening isn't really where the jewel is. The jewel is that you had a mature enough mind to overcome that and not succumb to it because you easily could have caved in and change your language to fit what they wanted you to.

Exactly. But I'll tell you the interesting part is that when they. When they reflected as I returned from the military or went back home, even when I go back to Brooklyn now, I still didn't change. I still had the roots of the neighborhood. I was just a little. I was very different in the way that I love books, I love the library, I love music. You know, there were so many different things that I loved that it didn't really bring me down. Like, I never walked around like, yo.

Yo, yo, what's up, son?

And that's what you want to do. That's cool.

But.

Yo, yo, yo, what's up, son? Is a language that works in Brooklyn.

It works in New York in a certain area.

In a certain area.

But it's not universal.

It's not universal.