Can You Really Change?

Everyone, welcome to today's Program Yourself Thin podcast. Today we're talking about can you really change? I think this is such a fundamental question to consider, uh, because a lot of times you probably are thinking, no, I can't change. And yet every time you try and change your weight, you act as if you can completely change all at once. So I think you have two dynamics kind of fighting it out in your own mind. One is saying I don't believe I can really change. And the other one's saying we're going to change everything all at once. And I think that this creates a lot of tension and stress subconsciously and not good results when it comes to your weight. Because if you look at how you try to lose weight every single time, it's always around this idea that one day is going to arrive. It's usually a Monday. And you're going to completely act different. You're going to be a completely different version of yourself, right? So maybe normally you say, oh, I'm a sweetaholic, I'm an overeater, I eat really fast, I make bad food choices. One day and for years and years and your whole life maybe. And then all of a sudden, one magical day, you're going to wake up and say that I'm not that person. That's not who I am. I'm this new person. I'm this person who makes all great decisions. I make— eat the right amount, eat slowly, choose the healthy foods. Say no to the unhealthy stuff. This is who I am now. And that's hard to do anyways, but it's extra hard to do if deep down you don't believe you can really change because you've tried to change so many times and you still are the same person in the same struggle in the same way. So can you really change? Well, I believe you can, but probably not in the way that you think you can. And I think dieting is built around the idea that you can just change yourself in a moment and then be this new version of yourself, where I see change happening in a different way, where it's almost like you're not even changing as much as it is you're becoming your true self. So there's change happening, but the— where it's coming from is totally different. So with dieting, it's almost like you're going to take this external thing and force yourself to act different and become this different version. And the change that I've seen work with people is almost like they go inwards and they say, who am I? Who do I want to be? Who am I really? And how do I want to live my life? And so the motivation is much different and the process is different because it's not just about how you're behaving and eating and acting. It's also about how you're thinking of yourself, um, how you want to live your life, who you want to be, how you want to show up. And so I think you can change, but I think it's not the change that you've been kind of aiming at. You're not going to become this totally different version of yourself. That's very rare. What most likely is going to happen is you're going to become a better version of yourself a truer version of yourself? And I think this is a different path. So I hope this means something to you. This is one of those kind of subtle lessons, I would say, you know, but I want you to think to yourself when you are approaching your weight loss and your weight loss goals, and especially on the first day or week of your plan, are you trying to be a completely different version of yourself or are you trying to be a better improved version of yourself? And usually it's a totally different version of yourself. And that's really hard to maintain because at the end of the day, we are who we are. We can certainly change and evolve and grow and get better at things. So please understand, I think change is possible, but I think the way we think about it and the time frame we're thinking in sets us up for failure. So give this some thought. Again, this is a little bit— there's no real clear answer at the end of it, but I want you to think about it because If you start to think about this and realize you've been kind of aiming at a goal that you don't believe is possible, then you're going to sabotage yourself before you even start. And if you want to go the path of really kind of evolving your best self to some degree, click the link in my bio or go to programyourselfthin.com and go get the free hypnosis session I made for you. Um, you can get that there. And if you are if Facebook or YouTube, I will put the link right in the chat window and you can get this. Again, it's a Kickstart session. There it is. Well, there it's not. Yes, boop, there we go. Yeah, and if you have any questions, feel free to ask him. Any weight loss questions are welcome. Hope you all had a nice weekend. For those of you celebrating Easter, I hope you had a nice Easter. Um, nice weather. It's nice. Spring is here and it feels it. Got to blow some leaves. That made me feel better, I'll tell you that. Nothing worse than leaves everywhere. And I didn't get them last year. Winter came fast last year. Never even got a chance to blow them all out, but I got a chance this weekend and it was great. But yeah, if you have any questions, feel free to ask them. You know, people with Easter, I know Monday here it is, and that's another reason I kind of talk about change specifically today Um, well, thank you, Moira. Moira says, buy the program, it really works. Yes, Moira's talking about Program Yourself Thin. Um, that is my program. I think of it as a goal weight program, uh, rather than even a weight loss program. And again, I think that idea just has so many different concepts embedded in it. The idea that you're going to master your weight versus just trying to lose weight. I think just trying to lose weight is such a— I don't know what the word is. It's, it's just It's just a surface-level goal. It's like, it's not, it's not a well-defined goal. And programmers are in, uh, Neuro-Linguistic Programming. There's a concept of well-formed outcomes. And part of that is just articulating the goal in a clear way, in a complete way. And the idea of just, I just want to lose weight, is not that, you know, because you don't just want to lose weight. Not really. You've all lost weight before and then put it back on. You're not happy that you put it back on. You know, and you're not happy that you just lost it for a minute. You're upset that you put it back on. So we need to redefine the goal as not just losing weight, but getting to your goal weight and then being able to live there for the rest of your life on your autopilot. So thank you, Myra. But yeah, with a different approach. And that's my thing here too, as well, is that I try to give you a different perspective, you know, on the whole thing, because I think when it comes to weight loss, goodness gracious, Talk about— I think I can't think of too many things where the perspective on how to do it is so narrow, but not— it's a trick. It's a trick of the diet industry where they, you know, you look at all the different diets, you say, oh my God, there are so many to pick from. They're all so different and they all seem different. But it's an illusion because what makes diets all the same is how you approach them. And it doesn't matter if you're going to do Mediterranean or Weight Watchers or veganism or carnivore, you're going to jump into it 100% on Monday. And that is the diet unifier. That, that, that to me is what defines a diet much more than the specifics of, um, what you're going to eat or the specifics of the strategy. To me, it's the mindset that really binds them all. Connie says, how do you maintain your weight loss? How long did it take you to lose 50 pounds? Um, how do I maintain my weight loss? Well, that's a funny thing. And again, it's just, it's interesting that framing itself is part of the problem, right? So I'm not maintaining my weight loss, I'm maintaining my weight. I know that sounds strange, but it's kind of like if you want to make money, is your goal just to be debt-free? I hope not, right? Then that might be the initial goal, and that's exciting to, to accomplish that. So I'm not taking anything away from that, but I just want to be debt-free. You know, I've maintained a debt-free lifestyle. I've maintained my debt-free. It's like, okay, okay, great, that's great, but don't you want abundance? Don't you want more than that? You know, and with weight loss, we really have been conditioned to keep our goal very limited. So how do I maintain my weight loss? I, and I get what you mean, I'm nitpicking language, but I think it's important because language really does represent the mindset that we live in. And so I don't ever think really primarily about how I maintain my weight loss. I think about how do I maintain my weight that I want to live at? How do I live at my goal weight in the most comfortable, easiest, natural way possible? That's how I think about it. How did I do it? Well, I have a very robust system that I follow. To be completely honest. And it is summarized, I would say, in this goal weight pyramid. So it's mindset, lifestyle, and eating. And so I am consistently— but, but again, most in the beginning I did a lot of work on my mindset, extra. Most work in the beginning was on my mindset. Then I started shifting my lifestyle, then I started shifting my eating, and now I find most of my focus is on the lifestyle piece. That's where I really consistently put the most energy into is my lifestyle piece, because my mindset's pretty solid now, and the eating really tends to kind of follow the lifestyle piece. So if my lifestyle is dialed in, my eating kind of takes care of itself. If my lifestyle gets a little wonky, I got to pay a little more attention to the eating piece of it. So that's in a nutshell how I manage to live at my goal weight long term. How long did it take you to lose 50 pounds? I don't remember the specifics anyways, but the other answer I have to that is, who gives a shit? Who cares how long it takes you to lose the weight. Because again, the quote I always think of is, uh, most people underestimate how much weight they can lose in a month— no, most people overestimate how much weight they can lose in a month and underestimate how much weight they can lose in a year. And I think the diet industry has gotten us so fixated on how fast we can lose the weight that we, we just completely miss the main— the main thing is not how fast you can lose it, but how well you can live at your goal weight. And when I say how well, how good are you at living at your goal weight? For me to live at my goal weight at this point is relatively easy. I've really dialed it in in a very systemic way. I mean, I've got a, a very robust, comprehensive system I use to live at my goal weight, and most of it kind of runs on autopilot, just like you all take care of your teeth. If you, if you take care of them well, you take care of them well because you have good habits. You floss regularly, brush regularly, Waterpik, you, you do whatever, you eat certain foods, you avoid certain foods. So it's like you've got habits you've developed and now your teeth reflect those habits. And I think of weight being very similar to that. But the problem is you've never learned, you know, you've really never learned how to manage your habits to live at your goal weight. It's just, it's a thing that I don't know, I guess it's just overlooked. Well, that's another story. I mean, dieting is not your friend. Dieting is there to literally sabotage you. So there's that. But anyways, so that's kind of my answer. I don't know how satisfying that is. Uh, Jane says Easter was brutal, so much chocolate. Yeah, sure, a lot of chocolate during Easter time, right? They've really weaved that in there. I didn't really— which I, I actually got one of my— a chocolate thing I really like too, and I didn't even— I didn't even have any yet. But yeah, I get it. Well, Easter's over though. There's, there's a All right, back on. What's up, Anita? Anita says this program has created a calmness when addressing this weight question. Thanks, Jim. Oh, that makes me so happy, Anita. That's what I'm looking for. Um, calmness is really the foundational piece in my opinion. And in Program Yourself Then, I would say the ultimate, the ultimate, uh, foundation is calm. So we talk about that in Program Yourself Then. The ideal state is a calm, motivated state. When you are more calm and more motivated at the same time, That is a very powerful state. And unfortunately for most people that want to change their weight, most dieters, they've never experienced that. Because what you get is you get like stressed and motivated, you know, you get frazzled and motivated, you get anxious and motivated. Very rarely are you calm and motivated with your weight loss, and that's the magical combination. So I'm super happy to hear that, Anita. Yes, very calm, and it's very intentional too. Um, Sanjita, how's it going? Says, Jim, the hard copy of your book is unavailable on Amazon, please help. Um, it's available. I don't know, you know, you might have to go to your— you probably have to go to your country's Amazon. You know, every Amazon— I don't know if it's every country, but, um, a lot of countries have their own Amazon website. Did you know that? I knew that once I started selling a book there. And the book that, uh, Sanjit is talking about is this one. This is my book, The Dab: Living at Your Goal Weight. So just released this in January, right at the New Year. So this is, this is a special book if you're interested in getting control of your weight. But yeah, you can get it there, and you just have to go to your country's website and you should have no problem. But if you do for whatever reason, let me know and we'll get to the bottom of it. Um, Bill says, at what point, at what point do you think therapy is the answer to manage overeating or binges, or is therapy even an effective option for someone that struggles with constant food noise? That's a great question. That's a great question. I think I will just be honest, and you can take this or leave this, folks. You know, I may sound, I may sound delusional here, I don't know. But I have spent over 30 years personally studying what I call weight mastery, your ability to live at your goal weight in the easiest, most enjoyable, comfortable way possible. So that's been my passion in a focused way for over 30 years. And professionally, what I've done for a living is do that for over 20 years. That being said, I have really had to be obsessed with it to figure anything out because I don't see a lot of great information out there when it comes to managing your eating and your weight. I just don't. Now, that being said, I absolutely think that therapy can be a real helpful component to mastering your weight. I have a— a lot of people have gone through Program Yourself Then and have simultaneously gone to therapy as well. Sometimes there's absolutely— they're related. That being said, I have not seen a lot of evidence that there's any psychological modality that's really helpful with weight. They— I think a lot of them can help, but I think what's missing really is the overall paradigm, the overall kind of concept of how you're going to manage your weight and live at your goal weight forever. And this is why, you know, again, I point you back to the goal weight pyramid, right? Just to— because again, you, you most like— if you're watching this right now, you have been trying to lose weight for probably your whole life, or most of it, and you've probably never approached your weight in like kind of this comprehensive, holistic way. And as much as there is of this here, there's also one other piece to it, which is how do I run my mind? So that's the programming piece. But so we basically use the goal weight pyramid to tell us what to do, and we learn how to program our mind to get ourselves to do it. So in my opinion, you need that whole system. You need to know what to do and figure it out for yourself, and you need to be able to get yourself to do it. So I think therapy can help you to get yourself to do things, because I think a lot of times therapy helps us remove like blocks that we're kind of doing to ourselves. But I think even if you get therapy and you clear a lot of blocks out, most likely you don't know what to do. You don't have a clear plan of what to do. You've been taught to think like a dieter your whole life. So we clear the blocks out and now you just try and diet. And dieting is not built for success long term. So again, I, I think the, the answer is a little confusing here where I think therapy can be really helpful sometimes. to understand yourself better and to make forward progress. But it's not a complete system for how to manage your weight either. So hope that helps. Yeah, Sanjita's from India. Yeah, Sanjita, look for, um, look for, uh, the, the Amazon with— and I don't know what it would be, I forget. And I am in India, India, so I know it's up there. So go look in your particular country's Amazon site and see if it's there. What's up, Joan? Joan says, I'm giving myself too much of a pass because I eat healthy. I eat way too much food. There you go, Joan. Yeah, exactly. That's again, that, that's the licensing effect, right? So the licensing effect, the one I wish she used to explain it is when, um, you know, you go to the gym and you think you worked out and you burned 500 calories. So you go to the bakery after and you see a muffin that you think is 200 calories and you say, oh, I still burned 300 calories. I deserve that. And then we eat it and it turns out the muffin was 500 calories and we only burned 200 calories. So the licensing effect is something that like when we do something good or moral or virtuous, it blinds us to the other things. And that's a totally common one, Joan, where it's like, I'm eating healthy, I'm eating healthy, I don't understand. But it's like, yeah, so what? I mean, you can eat healthy and still eat too many calories. And it's— that's why, in my opinion, changing your weight is a— it's just like anything else. First you have to start eating healthier food, and then you're now may— might be able to see your your cognitive, like, deletion of, oh, I didn't realize I was eating too much of it. Now you realize that. Now you can start working on that. And that's when you start getting to the levels you never even can, you know, realize were there and considered. So it's frustrating that we didn't just start eating healthy and then start eating less and lose the weight and have it mastered. That's what we expected, and that's what we wanted. But it's very common, almost more often than not, I feel like people that start eating healthier also start eating more. Because there's this licensing effect. Licensing effect is absolutely fascinating. Um, I'm not doing it service by my simple explanation of it. It is really fascinating, and I've gone in deep with it. I should do a whole lesson on— maybe I'll do that. We're talking about food today in the Thrive Program lesson, but maybe I'll do one on the licensing effect because it is so fascinating. And I think once you see it, it makes it easier to identify in your life when you're doing it because it's very sneaky. It's very hard to see when you're being impacted by the licensing effect. It just kind of happens. Um, Iron Man says, what if you want to have something you like? Um, yeah, I mean, if you want to have something you like, I think you should. I think you should eat the things you like, um, but eat them moderately, you know, because eating food— I, in my opinion, your goal weight is the weight that gives you the best quality of life. That's my definition. And so in that definition, it's not just about what you weigh. It's a combination. It's a balance between what you weigh and what you eat and how you live. And I think we're looking for that sweet spot. In investments, we'd call it, um, the highest return on investment, you know, of energy, of focus, of, of all, of quality of life, all of these things. We're looking for the sweet spot. How can I have my cake and my body too? You know, we got to balance these things. So I'm a fan of having what we want, but having it in a more moderated way. So in Program Yourself, then we have two main types of days or meals, you know, depending how you break it down of pleasure and clean. Those are kind of like fun or fuel. So those are kind of the two big distinction, the two kind of food categories we think in. And so the fuel is, I think, is obvious, right? We're eating for fuel to nourish our body, all the rest of it. But we also have the pleasure foods, the fun foods as well. And we look to get as much value as possible out of them. I think this is where a lot of dieters make a mistake because they demonize the pleasure foods, right? You go on your diet and no ice cream, no chips, no pizza, whatever it is you like, there's none of it. And so this puts this idea in your mind that if I'm going to get my weight under control, I can't have anything I like, which is another way to say weight loss equals pain and a lack of pleasure. And your brain's a pleasure-seeking mechanism. So I don't think that's a good strategy moving forward. I think the ultimate plan is one that's pleasurable and feels good. And, you know, and again, the dieting goes way too far on the other side. It's too restrictive. It's too much too soon, and it doesn't work. I mean, if dieting worked, I wouldn't be here, but it doesn't work. And part of the reason it doesn't work— part of it is that you give up the things you truly like. You give up the foods that increase your quality of life. and you're not gonna do that for long. At the end of the day, you really do have a nonstop quality of life measurement system back here, always measuring what you're doing, and you're always gonna go in the direction of what you believe is giving you the best quality of life. Problem is you think that e— overeating the food gives you the best quality of life, and it does not. So we have to clearly look at that. But I think we clearly look at that by figuring out how to moderately eat the foods we enjoy so we can also have the body and health we want. Too. We look for the sweet spot, and I don't think dieting shows you how to do that. It just does the other thing. Iron Man says, how to get your program? Um, you can go to programyourselfthin.com and you can learn about my program. Um, Colongo says, what about teenagers that are 15 who want to lose 20 kilograms? Um, I don't work with anyone under 18, so I can't speak to that. But what I will say is, um, you know, weight loss comes down to— your weight really is a reflection of your average calorie consumption. So anytime someone wants to lose weight, you know, we want to reduce the average calorie consumption and we want to keep it healthy, obviously, the whole time. Oh, hold on a second. There it is. Uh, Jane says, do I have to do anything to restart the program? Uh, yeah, right now, Jane, just shoot me a Go to support, go to the support help desk and just tell them you want to start the program again and it'll be restarted in a day or two and you can restart it. That is going to be something you're going to be able to go to a page, just click a button and it'll restart you automatically, but that'll be probably a couple weeks for that to happen. Um, oops, I missed that one. There's Lois. Lois says, good morning, I did the rehearsal technique for Easter eating and I enjoyed Easter, did not overeat this morning. I hit a milestone goal, 140 pounds. My next milestone is 5%, not looking at a time frame. Thank you for being here for us overthinkers. Nice job, Lois. Proud of you. Yeah, Lois, work in the program. That's wonderful. And again, you know, a lot of times, and this is what we want to do, we want to get more pleasure out of this whole process. And I think one way to do that is to not just look at the scale for your victories. You know, sometimes thriving through a holiday, staying moderate through a holiday, eating slower through a holiday, any of these things can be really sources of pride and, you know, success if you allow them to be. So great job, Lois. And again, because all I'm saying is, of course, we have the milestone goals of our weight loss, right? We all have our weight loss goals that we have, and there's milestone moments there. But along that way, you might as well appreciate, wow, I drank my water today. Oh my God, I had an apple in the afternoon. Oh my God, I got through Easter well. So as you start to like notice more things, it just— there's more things to kind of power the process forward. So great, great job, Los. Sam Gita says, do you ever overeat or eat chocolates or ice cream, Jim? Just curious. Oh, absolutely. Yeah, I overeat. I overeat every single week. Every week I overeat. It's very rare that I have a week where I don't overeat a couple of times. Typically I'm always getting better and better and better, I feel like, but it just shows up too. So again, you can overeat and still be in control of your weight. The real thing is that I think that, um, it's not so much about being perfect. They'll— in Program Yourself Thin, one of our big philosophies is not to be all or nothing, but to be all or something. And I think that's the biggest thing that dieting kind of teaches you, is that as soon as you make a mistake, you blew it. And I think that's completely wrong, because really what we're looking to do is statistically reduce our average calorie consumption. And so if I blow it, blow it, whatever that means, and I overeat a meal, so what? I mean, if you zoom out over a day, if you zoom out over a couple of days, if you zoom out over a week, a month, a year, that meal is not going to mean shit. The meals around it make a huge difference, though. And a lot of times people make a mistake and then that's it. They're totally off track. So I absolutely overeat, but I get on track extremely quickly. I very rarely overeat. Like multiple meals in a row, I would say. And, um, yeah, I eat chocolates and ice cream. So yeah, I love chocolates and ice cream. I eat chocolate every day. Um, I eat ice cream not as much. Honestly, ice cream kind of makes me a little phlegmy. I kind of feel that. So I think that, um, ice cream just for me is like— I, I like it, but it's like, it's definitely something I've done a lot of work on, and I like a little bit of it. It's kind of where I'd say I'm at. Anita says hysteria is no longer connected with this, uh, this— with the weight loss. Um, for me, it has enabled me to understand your chart fully and implemented your ideas naturally and easily. That's awesome. Yeah, hysteria for sure. Um, and that's what I mean, like, like the dieting really does encourage your highs and lows. It makes you very manic-depressive, dieting does, right? Because you're manic when you're losing and you're depressed when you're not. And it's just It's very hard to succeed when you're constantly bouncing between these huge extremes, which is the all or nothing, right? Manic depressive, all or nothing. It's all, it's all these very dramatic differences and it's one or the other. And so, uh, again, all or something is really this idea that we're going to get, we're going to be more stable. You know, we're really focusing on the average instead of black or white, we're living in the gray space and we really want to kind of center ourselves in the gray space and then just keep improving on it. So that makes sense, Anita. Yeah, the hysteria is definitely a problem. Um, Joan says non-dieters stop eating when they are satisfied or full. I'm continuing eating after I'm full. Yeah, again, Joan, but that's great because again, as you start to see that— and that's always the first step, is being able to be aware of it and to see it. And again, Joan's a perfect example of this. I mean, Joan's super smart, and so it's like, it's not that she's not smart enough to see it, it's that in her mind she's saying, okay, Um, I, I'm eating healthy. That's what I need to do to lose weight. I need to eat healthy. I'm eating healthy. How come I'm not losing weight? And people can live in that for a long time, you know. And so we have to be able to— aware— our awareness is, is our most important tool, and it's the first one to get us into the situation, because you can't fix what you don't know is broken. So as soon as you know that, Joan, the more you understand your pattern. So first of all, now you can see it. Oh, okay. I've been eating healthy, but I'm still— I'm eating too many calories. Okay. Well, where are you eating too many calories? You're not always eating too many calories. Like if you have breakfast at home, typically you're probably not eating too many calories there. It's probably specific situations when you go out to certain places after a yoga class. Uh, just, I don't know, there's different context and situations where you're probably overeating most of the time. It's the Pareto principle, you know, that 80% of our results are from 20% of our efforts, right? This is— it's the 80/20 kind of concept, and you can apply it to all sorts of things. So that 80% of your extra calories coming in, Joan, are probably coming from 20% of your behaviors. It's probably like when you go to a certain restaurant, when you go to a certain co-op, when you, you eat after a yoga class, having breakfast. There's patterns there. And if you could notice the top 2 or 3 patterns of when you bring the most calories in, then you go to work on understanding that and fixing that, you know. But we're always looking to get specific. We're doing the opposite of dieting because dieting is saying, okay, it's Monday, I'm time to eat. Great. What does that mean? It means I'm not going to eat any carbs and I'm not going to eat more than 1,200 calories and I'm not going to eat any sugar. So you're going to completely change the way you eat is what you're telling me? Yep. How many times you tried this? Thousands. How many times has it worked? Zero. Okay, let me know how it goes. You know, so, so again, going big with it, these big fucking general sweeping, I'm changing everything because today is the beginning of the new me, is bullshit. You can start the beginning of the new you, I'm not against that, but you got to do it more strategically. You can't just change everything all at once. You just can't. I know you want to. I know it'd be pretty nifty and cool if you could, but you can't. You can't just change everything all at once. It's just not possible. Your nervous system can't handle it. Your brain is not wired to do that. You live your life on autopilot. Shit, if you decided to brush your teeth with your other hand from now on, that alone would take you months and months and months to normalize and make it automatic. And that's one thing. And so when you're eating, you know, again, it's estimated we make over 200 food decisions a day. It's an enormous cognitive load to completely change your eating all at once. It's too much of a cognitive load. This is why dieting fails 95% of the time. It's just not built for success with a human brain. So I say that to you not to try to give excuses here, make excuses for you, but I'm trying to help you understand what's been going on. Always blaming yourself because you have no willpower, you're just a bad person. I don't believe it. R says, do you feel like this programming creates a negative connection with food? Yeah, absolutely. I think dieting creates a ton of negative connections with food in the way that you want. Now listen, folks, before I get into this, you have to understand that all the diets you know about are all owned by the big food companies. The diet industry is a branch of the food processing industry. Weight Watchers was owned by Heinz. Jenny Craig was owned by Nestlé. Atkins Food Products was owned by the same company that owns, uh, Auntie Anne's Pretzels and Cinnabon. SlimFast is owned by the same company that owns Ben Jerry's ice cream. These companies do not want you to stop eating their foods and to live at a lean, healthy, happy weight. That's the fucking last thing in the world they want to do. So what they do is they sell you all their food and get you addicted to it and then constantly market it to you. But then on top of it, when you say, okay, that's it, I got to change my weight, then they fill your head with all sorts of shit that doesn't work and ultimately creates all kinds of negative associations that make it almost impossible to change your eating and ultimately your weight then. And so most of you— let me just prove the point. You say, oh, that's bullshit, Jim, I don't know what you're talking about. Okay, let me ask you this. I want you to be honest right now. If I say, okay, you ready to start losing some weight? Do you feel inspired and excited and motivated? Because because losing weight is one of the most exciting, pleasurable things you can do in your life. So when I say, okay, time to start losing weight, do you have a positive, pleasurable association to that nervous system-wise? Do you feel good, optimistic, hopeful, excited, or do you feel a wrench in your gut? I don't want to lose weight. Do you associate weight loss with happiness and excitement and pleasure and health and all sorts of good things, or do you associate weight loss with stress and boredom and frustration and failure? You tell me. You can answer that question yourself. What do you all associate weight loss with? It's a— that can be a shocking realization that something that you think you want, something you all think about weight loss 24 hours a day, all you think about is losing weight and how much you want to lose weight. But subconsciously, on your nervous system, you associate pain to losing weight. That's what the diet industry has done to you. That's their primary goal, is to associate weight dieting and weight loss and eating healthy and being happy with pain because they don't want you to. Does that make sense? Maybe I'm just paranoid, I don't know, but that's my thoughts on it and I believe it 1,000%. I mean, shit, folks, the food processing— the dieting is a branch of the food processing industry, and the food is a branch of the smoking industry. Do you know literally that R.J.R. Reynolds and Nabisco are merged together as one company? Did you know the parent company of General Foods and Kraft is Philip Morris? So, you know, it's like I always find this interesting because I know most people have kind of a negative association to cigarette companies. But then check that— check how you feel about cigarette companies. What are your kind of general feelings that come up when you think about cigarette companies and what they do? Now notice how negative that is. And now think about the associations you have with the food companies and notice that they're totally different. When it comes to the food, you're excited and happy and you love that food and you love the little mascots they got and you love the companies and all this shit, you know. But it's the cigarette companies and they're doing their same shit to the food. What's up, Chocks from the Philippines? How's it going? We get people from all over the world around here. And then Sanjeeva's in India. Oh, I see. Only the— oh, only the Kindle copy is available. I see. Yes. Um, Yeah, that's how it goes. Sorry, Sanjita, I guess only the Kindle copy is the one you can get. I didn't know that though, that's interesting. Anita says licensing effect. I'm the queen of trying to outrun a bad diet. Yeah, yeah, um, I get it. You know, a lot of people do that. I mean, in the fitness world, they always say like you can't, you can't outrun a bad diet, you can't out-train a bad diet. You know, and it's true. And I think as well, me personally, I made a real intentional decision back in the day for me to not focus on exercising to control my weight, but to focus on my eating. One of the best decisions I've ever made, because to me it's way easier to control what's going in my mouth than it is to get myself to exercise all the time. And yeah, the licensing effect, again, I just think is one of the most fundamental concepts to understand if you want to become a more aware person, because a licensing effect is really one of the biggest reasons why you don't see things accurately when you're attempting to lose weight, because the more good stuff you do in a weird way, the more unhelpful stuff you miss. And that's a crazy thing, I guess, to recognize. I've known about it for a long time, so it's just like normal for me now. But I know at first this was shocking to me. And I think I'm still internalizing it. It's just such a weird concept. Um, but, but that's what ends up happening, is that the more, the more good stuff you do, the more bad stuff you miss. I'm keeping it real simple. I don't like to use the word good and bad and all that, but just to keep the concept simple. And it's a weird one, but it's not— it's one that's there, and I think has to be dealt with, you know. Um, CashFed says, do you know how many calories you eat? I do not. I, I have never tracked calories, not even once in my life. Um, I've tried it like a little bit of meals. I hate how it feels. It triggers a bad version of me that makes it harder to eat well. I get obsessed with calories. I start thinking about how hungry I am. I start getting fixated on food. I, I personally do not like counting calories, and I took a more intuitive path to manage my calories and my weight, and, um, that's available to anyone, you know. It just, it's a different approach. But yeah, me personally, I, I've never tracked my calories. Um, I track my eating. Don't get me wrong, my eating is very structured. So whatever calories I eat, I'm eating— well, that's, you know, it's estimated that people eat the same volume of food every day, just intuitively. Um, but that's different than calories. But I, I eat a very similar volume and caloric load consistently. My eating is very structured. So that is what I used. I paid attention to my eating patterns, and I began to tweak and change them to get myself to the weight I wanted to be at. So I took— that's the more intuitive path I took. Yeah, if that makes sense. Um, CashFed says, but some people really love exercise. Oh yeah, for sure. I love exercise for, for people. I, I don't love exercise, and I haven't, you know, I'm just being honest. Um, but yeah, if you love exercise, knock yourself out. But I do think— I mean, shit, here, listen, if you're at your goal weight and you exercise a lot, then just— if you're at your goal weight and you're happy, do what you're doing. I'm not here to tell you what to do. I'm here to help you figure out what to do to live at your goal weight in the best, easiest, most enjoyable way possible. And that's different for each person. Each person kind of needs their own plan because each person's unique and different. So yeah, exercising, if you love exercising, Great. But if you have not exercised in 5, 10, 20 years ever, you don't love exercise. And I would not start my weight loss plan by trying to get myself to exercise a lot. I think that's the worst strategy. Plus, exercise is not really a great, um, it's not a great help for losing weight, just so you know. They've done a lot of studies on this. So ironically, while exercise is not associated with weight loss, it is associated with weight maintenance long term. So that's kind of interesting. But and again, I love exercising for the reasons that it's important. I just don't think it's a very helpful tool for getting your weight down. I think most people, when they use exercise or try to over-rely on it, um, it ultimately ends up being more harmful than good. But if you love exercising, then just do it for whatever reason. So, Lisa, Lisa says, I have an active job, I'm almost 52, and I did not exercise at all. I'm done. I'm down 90-ish pounds. Great. Oh, I've white-knuckled maintenance for almost 2 years now. Oh, okay. I have an active job, almost 52, I did not exercise at all. I'm down 90-ish pounds. Yeah, white-knuckle maintenance for almost 2 years. Yeah, I mean, the white-knuckling is— I don't know. Again, white-knuckling, what's it imply? It implies that you're holding on so tightly that there's no blood in your knuckles, so they're white because you're gripping so tight. And to me, if we— let's zoom out on that a little bit. Anyone that's gripping, this is energy, and it's hard to keep that energy going out. We get tired at some point. And if, if all of our good eating is relying on this white-knuckling energy I don't know how sustainable that is. And again, you, Lisa, great job. I mean, 2 years is a long time too, though, you know. So, um, congratulations. But what I would start considering perhaps is, how can I make this a bit easier for myself? How can I make better choices more comfortably? How can I loosen my knuckles up so that this starts to flow instead of feeling like such a— this energy? You know, but great job. I mean, you're starting from a better spot. You got the results, you're doing good. But now do better, Lisa. You can do better now, right there. That's what I say too. Dieters, unfortunately, dieters think of weight loss as getting to their goal weight and that's it. Psychologically, you don't know— you don't realize how damaging that is. You know, you've been in it your whole life, so you just can't even appreciate it. But it's like, it's so damaging to think of getting to your goal weight is the goal, because it's not. So for you, Lisa, it's time to go beyond now. And the beyond is how can I live at my goal weight in the easiest, most enjoyable, comfortable way possible? How can I flow with this? How can I make this just who I am? And I'm not saying you don't have the answers. You have to figure them out. But as you keep focusing on that, that becomes the next phase that you're going to be in forever. Because white knuckling is very difficult to keep up. That's— that not true, CashFit? So how did you do that? I think I described it enough. I mean, my eating patterns, if that's what you're talking about. You don't need to exercise to lose weight, folks, anyways. But if that's what you're talking about, you don't need to exercise to lose weight at all. And I find for most people, exercising to lose weight from the beginning If you have an ex— if you're not like— if you already exercise, keep exercising, please. It's— there's tons of benefits to exercising. What I'm saying is, if you don't exercise and you want to lose weight, please don't start with exercising. It's, it's not the most useful thing. You're way better off using that energy that you put into getting yourself to exercise to get your eating under control. That's going to serve you way better, way longer. Yeah, Lisa says not on autopilot at all. Yeah, Lisa, well, that's your job now, okay? That's your job. You got to shift again. Listen, I would suggest— I don't know if you have this book, Lisa— that I would recommend you get this book. This book's $9.99 and $2.99 for the digital version, but I would strongly, strongly, strongly recommend this for you. Because notice what the title of this is, right? Don't worry about the Dow piece of it. That's just how to do it in a flowing, fulfilling way. Living at your goal weight. And that's where you're at, Lisa. You're still in I lost 90 pounds mode. You're still in weight loss mode and you don't even have a maintenance mode in your mind. Most of you don't. Most of you, dieting has never taught you how to maintain. It's never taught you how to live at your goal weight. It's taught you how to do crazy, unsustainable shit to lose weight. For a little while. And, um, losing weight and living at your goal weight are two separate things if you're— if you've taken a dieting path and programmed yourself, then they're one and the same. Um, there's just two phases of it. But, you know, it's really important for you, Lisa, because you've done too much good work. But that's the next phase, though. You're not done. That's all. Jane says, I associate weight loss with pleasure and excitement initially, but I know that once I am into it, even one week, the discouragement and pain take over. Um, yeah, Jane, I get that. But I think what you truly associate weight loss to now is failure, you know? And you get tricked because there's that initial excitement, but that initial excitement is created by a fantastical story you tell yourself that you're gonna lose a bunch of weight really fast and everything's gonna be magically great. So once you start to realize that, you can stop doing that to yourself. And that helps you keep more stable and balanced instead of having these super highs and lows. You see what I mean, Jane? But exactly what you said there is— that's the awareness piece I'm always talking about. And for you, Jane, you're in the awareness phase. So I just want you to know that. And I say that to you with— Jane's in the program, and I think Jane's— if you were talking about restarting, and I'm assuming you're probably somewhere towards the end of the 8 weeks, um, so what? Like, 8 weeks is nothing. Go take a fucking college course for 8 weeks and see what you know. You can get your— you know what I mean? You don't get— you don't get a bachelor's degree in 8 weeks. So I know, I know, like, for me to say this to a dieting mind is just catastrophic because you're always thinking, 8 weeks, I should have lost 8 weeks something, I should have lost like 15, 20 pounds. If the program works, I should have lost— I'd be down 10, 15, 20 pounds. Well, this ain't nothing like that. So the first step for you, Jane, is absolutely awareness. So yeah, restart it. But again, even the awareness of the, the initial excitement and pleasure, and then that gets replaced by after a week with discouragement and pain. And so at this point, you've gone through that cycle so many times, Jane, it'd be ridiculous for your nervous system not to— things predominantly mean one thing to us. So we think weight loss, it's either positive or it's negative. We can have conflicting ideas in a cert— we can get ourselves in a way, oh no, I'm really excited, I really love it, um, oh, but then it's all— it's negative and it's whatever. We can, we can recognize there's both, there's one predominant one. And I guarantee you, Jane, your predominant association to weight loss is one of failure and negative stuff. And recognizing that is going to be huge in resolving it. So you're in the awareness phase. I just want you to know that. Sangeeta says, Jim, you're a rock star. Well, thank you, thank you. Anita says, for me, exercise is a staple, but now understand I can't use it against myself. Oh, that's great, Anita. Exactly. I love exercise, and I, I do exercise. I've been joking, um, I, I've been exercising over the last year. I mean, listen, I'm an active person, so I rely on that. Uh, the last year, I would say last couple years, I started noticing I'm getting a little weaker. So then, then it's like I have a different motivation. It's not weight so much But I need, I need my strength if I'm going to age the way I want to. So I've begun to add in like push-ups and squats that I do every weekday. And so I love doing that and I figured out a way to do it that really resonates with me and works for me. And from that, I'll start to probably add more and build more on that. So I love exercising. I just want to make that clear. But how are we using the exercise? You know, and you're right on the money, Anita, that a lot of times people use the exercise almost as a punishment. Almost as this miserable thing, and it ends up being more negative than positive ultimately for a lot of people. So again, exercise is not this perfect thing. I mean, if you absolutely— if you hate exercising, if it wears you out, if it makes you sore, if it makes you tired, that's not— I don't know what benefit you think you're getting out of that. The exercise thing's a whole thing. I don't want to get into it too much, but I think you're right on the money, Anita, that yes, you have to use it properly. Jane says, I enjoy exercising and that makes my body feel better. So when I do it, makes me feel more motivated to eat better. Yeah, agreed, agreed, Jane. I think that's a definite— that's called the law of co-action. So sometimes when we do, like, we work out, then there's the benefit of we just feel healthier and we start making better food choices. And so we kind of get in this upward spiral. That's a real thing. But the thing— the mistake I think a lot of people make is that they give themselves one exercise option And it's the extreme one, you know, and whatever you insert, what you want. Everyone's got a different definition of extreme, but it might be, I got to go to that hour-long class every week. I have to go lift weights for 2 hours every week, whatever it may be. Most people give themselves one exercise option and it's the extreme one, and they're able to do it for a little bit and then they can't keep it up and they quit. And so yes, exercising makes your body feel better, makes you want to be more motivated to eat better, but I bet a walk would do a lot of that too. Um, doing some simple stretches would probably do that to some degree too. So I would want to have plan A, the way you exercise now, but I'd also want to have a plan B, C, D, and E maybe. So I always have some, and the plan E might be I just do jumping jacks for 15 seconds, but I find most people need more options when it comes to exercising than less. And I'm talking about intensity-wise and time-wise. Um, Sue says, just ordered your book. I'm really looking forward to reading it. Well, thank you. Thank you. Yeah, you're gonna love it. I know you're gonna love it. This book is so good. It really is good, folks. If you have not— this is my book, 40 chapters. Each chapter is a page or two. Each chapter is a hypnotic story. Uh, this book is really unique because it's not telling you what to do. It's telling you stories that make you want to do the things that help you manage your weight. So it's very unique that way, and people are loving it, and it's really cool. So I think you're gonna love it too. So thanks for ordering it, and thanks for letting me know. Sanjita says, the exercise that I do is just for pleasure. I love to play pickleball and dancing and do both as often as I can. That's wonderful. That's wonderful, Sanjita. I think that's great, and I think people should do that. You should expand your definition of exercising from just burning calories or building muscle to moving my body, better oxygen exchange, better moods, you know, more movement and more physical comfort. I think there's so many benefits to exercising that you can get from going for a walk or doing some simple stretches or just doing simple, easy things, playing pickleball. And again, I think a lot of times people go and exercise. You've been trained, no pain, no gain. And you're looking for the most painful thing. Don't do that. Balance it out with some fun stuff because that's in a lot of ways just as valuable. And of course, if you work out really, really, really hard and burn lots of calories and build lots of muscle, yeah, that would be a strategy to get the best, fastest results possible. But most people are not committed to get the best, fastest results possible. Not really. So to me, I'd rather be strategic and honest with myself that, um, I would love— I would love to work out every day for hours and be— look like a top 1% body on the planet, ripped up abs and cut perfectly. And every time someone's like, oh, look at you, look at your muscles, man. Wow, what a body. Look at you, your body's incredible. That'd be fun. Who doesn't want that, right? That— yeah, sign me up. But then I think about, I don't want to go to the gym every day. I don't want to eat perfectly. I don't want to do that shit. I just don't. I don't really give a fuck. Who cares if my body— I'm happy with it. I don't know, people constantly comment on my body anyways. I don't want that now I think about it. I think a lot of you in the same boat. That's what I think. It says the exercising that I do is just for pleasure. I love to play pickleball and dancing and do both as often as I can. Oh, Jane just said that. My bad, I just— okay, yeah, nice job, Jane. Yeah, well, there you go, Jane. That's wonderful. I think that's wonderful. That's very interesting, Jane. I did not get that impression when we talked. And you were a part of a gym and you had a trainer. You had a trainer and there was a little bit of thing going on there and you didn't really like working with her. It's getting kind of hard and you weren't really enjoying those exercises. Is that exercising too? Was that you, Jane? Am I getting you confused with someone else? Was that trainer and that whole thing doing stuff that was pleasurable for you, or was it painful for you? I believe you with the pickleball and dancing. I just want to get clear on the picture here, and I might have you mixed up too, so forgive me if I do. Um, Sanjita says, hey Jim, going on the holiday for the weekend. Um, yeah, Jane follows up. I was gonna get this real quick. Jane says that, yeah, I do belong to a gym, but I'm not enjoying going. Okay. So it's not just for pleasure anymore. That's all I'm saying, right? We got to look at the whole picture. You might like aspects of it and there might be parts of it you don't like. Yeah. And it was with the— it was with the trainer. Yeah. So I think there's a little bit more, Jane, there. There's a little more complexity than I only do exercising for pleasure. I think there's some pain somewhere in there. And I think it would be helpful for you to see both of those things to get a clearer picture of what's going on. Because if you start telling yourself, oh, I just do this for pleasure, I just love it all and I can't get enough of it, and then you don't go, well, then it's, well, why? Because you're a bad person? Do you have no willpower? Or is it because there's other factors there that you weren't paying attention to? So again, we want to be congruent and deal with this stuff, you know, the trainer stuff, resolve that, and then just leave the good stuff so that you're more likely to want to go instead of having to fight with yourself to get yourself to go. So Sanjita says I'm going away for the weekend, a little concerned about my weight, need your guidance how to go through it. You're not concerned about your weight, you're concerned about your eating. And so I don't know if you're going to a place that you've never been to before, but if you've been there before, you probably have a good idea of what the challenges are, what the situation is, all the rest of it. Um, so start thinking about how you want to behave in that situation as opposed to how you behaved in the past. Start thinking about how you want to go through the weekend. What would be the ideal weekend? What would be the best weekend you could imagine going through? Please don't imagine a weekend where you don't eat anything wrong at all. I just eat perfectly. That's probably not really what you want. So we're looking for that middle space. How can I go, um, eat moderately, be who I want to be, and enjoy myself as much as possible? And that might help you get through the weekend better. Lisa says, I have the book, I haven't read it yet. I'm my own worst enemy. Um, I mean, yeah, we're all our own worst enemy to some degree because we're always our own limiting factor. Our brain is our main limiting factor in life, and that's just how it is for all of us. Um, but it's no, it's no big deal, Lisa, because a lot of people get a book and never read it. Okay, so the goal today is not to read the book. The goal today is to find the book wherever it is and put it somewhere conspicuous. Put it next to your bed. Um, put it in the bathroom, put it on the coffee table, put it in your car. That's it for today. And then tomorrow the goal will be to read one chapter of it. That's it. Okay, and if you get motivated and once you find the book today and you want to read one chapter, go read one chapter. All right, you're your worst enemy, but you're also your, you're your own best support too. You're both. We can be both. Um, Madeline, what question you got? Go ahead and ask it. I am here. This is real. Um, Peggy says, I went from anorexia to a horrible binge-restrict cycle. We're about to be restricted in a minute. I shouldn't have read that out loud, but that's okay. Um, I've been gaining from +10 to -10 kilograms and everything in between. Any tips on how to get to my goal weight and maintain? Um, yeah, Peggy, I, I think, you know, I talk a lot about dieting teaches us to be all or nothing, and you're kind of the extreme of that, right? You've kind of gone all or nothing. Extremes. And so what I would do in Program Yourself, then we look to be all or something. And all or something is much more than middle path. So we really seek to intentionally kind of avoid the extremes and kind of watch this middle path, um, where we're looking to get better consistently, you know. And you got the right question to some degree. Any tips on how to get to my goal weight? I think that's the wrong question. I think the question should be, any tips on how to live, live at my goal weight? Again, I think the simplest thing I could give you in terms of a big solution is this book right here. Okay. Is because what's it called? It's The Tao, right? This is the way, the way of living at your goal weight, something you've never learned about. And I will only say one other thing, too, that sometimes when there is a history of eating that goes to the extremes like you described, and I'm using language. I don't want to say the exact words of what you said because they will restrict me here, but when you go to the extremes of eating, okay, we know why that's bad in some ways. But what I want to point out is that you're also a really focused person to be able to do those things. And so I think if you take that focus and attach it to how can I live at my goal weight in the easiest, most enjoyable way possible, and you become obsessed with that, that I think you're going to be on a much better path where the way you are, the way your brain works, the way you kind of approach things starts to work for you. Because I think what you've done is you've attached your brain to how can I lose as much weight as possible? And you've gone to those extremes. But I think if you shift the question and make it about how can I live at my goal weight in the easiest, most enjoyable way possible, and what is my goal weight? Let me just speak that to you too. That your goal weight equals the weight that gives you the best quality of life. So it's not just about a number on a scale, it's about a way of being. And it takes into account your weight on the scale and the size you are, but it also takes into account your quality of life— how you're eating, how you're living, how you're feeling, um, all of those things as well. Hello Beautiful Lifestyles, any tips for perimenopausal weight loss? Um, yeah, I mean, you know, listen, all weight loss is the same. It's, it's reducing the average calorie consumption below the average levels that you live at, you know. So, so in that sense, all weight loss is the same regardless of menopause, you know, metabolic disorder issues, no matter what, the answer is always the same. I would say one extra thing to add on to menopausal issues is to be more patient because obviously menopause is real and the symptoms are real, um, but they're also comprehensive. There's a lot of things going on. You're affected energetically, hormonally, mentally, emotionally, physically. Um, all these different things are being affected, and sometimes it just takes a little bit to kind of figure it out. It might take you longer for the weight to move than it did in the past, which doesn't mean it's not going to move. Listen, I have done over 6,000 private weight loss sessions, and 99% of my clients are women in some phase of menopause. So, so again, I know, I know I've worked with this demographic, and, um, the big thing is you got to stay patient. You can still lose weight. There's no reason— again, I always say that the stat that you should remember is Japanese women, their BMI stays the same their whole lives. So there's nothing that happens physically in menopause that makes you gain weight. There's things that happen that, that cause the weight gain, but there's nothing that's absolutely stopping you, um, causing you to be overweight from menopause. So I guess that's more of a mindset answer, but I think that's the key one. I can't read that name, but it says OMAD is good, but I always get angry for some reason. What should I take to help that? Well, water fast. Um, yeah, you know, I, I don't know. Like, OMAD is one meal a day, um, and it— listen, Program Yourself Thin is built around the golden rule, which is that there's no right or wrong, there's only what works for you. That being said, OMAD is, is a strategy. Maybe it works for you, maybe it doesn't. For some people, they start eating one meal a day and it feels like the clouds part and this is the way I was meant to live, this is amazing. They feel great. Then that's a great path for them. But other people experience exactly what you're saying. They get irritable, they get frustrated, get angry. Why? Because you're fucking hungry. You're hungry and you have nothing except one meal a day to manage your emotions, to use it. Listen, folks, we use food emotionally. You know this, right? So all of a sudden we compress that down to one meal a day. We rip that away and it's a lot to take on. So I, I'm not for or against one meal a day. It's just a strategy, whatever. It's just a tactic. Um, I'm indifferent to it, but I do think you should consider how it impacts you. And if it's making you feel energized and happy and healthy and good, then it's probably a good path. If it's making you frustrated and annoyed and irritable, it's probably not a great path because it's very difficult to stay making good food choices when you're angry and irritable and frustrated and hungry. So there we go. Peggy says, thank you for answering. You're welcome, Peggy. Happy to do it. Um, yeah, and that person, the one OMAD person, follows up, I always binge, that's why I do OMAD, but I binge as soon as I eat more than one meal a day. Um, yeah, well, you know, I'm sure you're probably— unless you've lost a ton of weight on OMAD, you're probably to some degree binging during the one meal. I think fasting, again, I feel the same way, fasting is not good or bad, it's both, and it depends on your reaction to it. But I find a lot of people that try fasting, intermittent fasting, or longer-term ones, it's a great way to start becoming a binge eater. You know, a great way to start binge eating is to really restrict your food for a while and get yourself really hungry and then open the gates and start eating. And I think that's a terrible strategy for a lot of people. Some people, it's amazing. So I gotta leave it up to you to figure out which one you are. Um, but I know that one meal a day, you now think in your mind that if I eat one more If I eat more than one meal a day, I binge. And, um, that's just not— it's not true. I know I could get you to— if I worked with you, we would figure out a way where you could eat more than one meal a day and not binge. But you believe that now, and it's just— it's just not true. It's not the only way. That's all I'm gonna say. But you believe it's true now. And we always, you know, perception's reality. If we believe that's the only way, then we kind of treat it as such. So I would definitely question that. Am I Greek? Yes, I am. And the OMAD person says, I've lost about 16 kilograms after doing it for 4 months consistently, no binge. Yeah, well, great job then. But again, I mean, like, is it sustainable? You know, you're losing weight right now, so anything's sustainable while we're losing weight. But the question becomes, once the weight loss stops, is this how I want to live? This how I want to eat? And, um, sometimes something like OMAD— let's just say we're struggling with our portion, um, sizes, portion control, and we do OMAD. And it's— again, I don't know, like, it's up to you to decide if it works. It's not for me to tell you that, but I'm just saying there's other ways to approach getting your eating under control. Because at the end of the day, it really comes down to the average calories you're consuming daily. And so eating one meal a day is one tactic to reduce your average calorie consumption. But another tactic is you could spread your food and meals out in a way that might be a lot more comfortable for you. So again, there's a lot of ways to the top of the mountain, and I think we should all recognize that so that we can figure out what works best for us. Yeah. Oh, man. Person says it's not sustainable. Can I do a one-on-one coaching session? I don't like how I feel. 1400 calories. Um, I don't do one-on-one coaching sessions, um, at this point. And if I did, you know, it's, it's a lot. It's a lot to work with me. Um, but what I would suggest if you really want coaching is you get in the program, and then there is a path to coaching there that's way more affordable. It's $25,000 to work with me privately, and I'm not working with anyone right now. I'm not taking any new people on, so I do have a program, obviously, Program Yourself Thin, which in and of itself might help you with that, because again, we have the, the goal weight blueprints helps you identify all this stuff in a much more detailed way. Again, most diets really, they just care about calories. Program Yourself Thin is about becoming the best version of you possible. It's a completely different thing. So being miserable and losing weight in Program Yourself Thin is not considered success. It's really about how can I become a person who lives at my goal weight? How can I become the person who lives at my goal weight as easily and naturally and comfortably as I possibly can? And that's what we dedicate ourselves to, you know. So again, just losing weight's not enough. God damn it, folks, you got— you all got to know that. You've got to know that just losing weight's not enough motivation for you. If it was, none of you would be overweight. You know, but it's not enough. No, look at this. Deb says, joined your program after listening to your reels on Facebook and your podcast. Best investment ever made for myself. Thank you for not coddling us. Just got your book and absolutely love it. Thank you. Well, thank you. And in the old testimonial bin, I appreciate you hearing that. So that— Deb's right, you know what I mean? Like, the program is just so awesome. and getting more awesome every day. It's, it's so awesome. It really is. Yeah. Enough of that, but it's so, it's so great. But I'm really happy for you, Deb. That, that's really great that you're using it. I'm glad you got the book too, because the book, as you, you'll, as you already know, I'm sure, as you read through, what a lot of people don't know, this book's written for anyone. Like anyone could get this and read it and get a lot of value out of it. But if you're also in the, the PYT system, it goes through the whole PYT system, like in, in order. There's 40 chapters here, but the 40 chapters literally take you through the entire program yourself in system. Now, again, if you don't know, you don't have to know and you'll still get a lot of value out of it. But if you know, it's just another way to experience the program because the program, it's a lot. I always say it's like college. It's like, it's like college for weight mastery is how I think. There's a lot of material in it. But this book I wrote specifically to kind of be a really easy, accessible way to experience the program. So great job, Deb. And that's probably why you love the program, because you're doing the work. So nice job, proud of you, and thanks for sharing that. Jane says, dump the trainer, but also have not been going to the gym because the weather has improved and I would rather be outside. Oh, that's great then, Jane. Yeah. And again, that's the lesson there from that whole thing though, is to realize that even if we, even if we like something partly, if all of a sudden we got a beef with a trainer that might be something that prevents us from going. And it's not because you're lazy, it's not because you're bad, it's because there's this issue that you— it's unresolved, you're not sure how to deal with, so you avoid it. And now, um, if it's nice out, you're going outside and moving, then great, great, enjoy that. As long as you're aware of it, you're making that choice, great job. Yeah, the only person says, I agree 100%, thank you for answering, I appreciate it. You're welcome, you're welcome. And I'm here every Monday through Friday to help answer your questions, folks. Um, and I do this every Monday through Friday. I've been doing this for over 3 years now. So yeah, I'm here to help you. This is a mission in life for me. So I'm here every Monday through Friday around noon Eastern to answer any questions you have. And I mean, you show up every day and I'll do what I can to help you. This is kind of my service to you all, and I love you to take me up on it. And if you can't make the lives, it's also a podcast. You can go search any podcast platform, search Program Yourself, then it'll pop up and then you can listen whenever you like. And, um, if you're not in my world, click the link in my bio. If you're on TikTok and click my picture up there, if you're on Facebook or YouTube, I just put the link in the comments. Um, go get the hypnosis session I gave you because not only do I give you a hypnosis session, I give you a bunch of stuff. But one of the newest things I'm giving you is my PYT Daily. It's literally free, completely free. And every day, if you have to sign up for, I'm not going to spam you every day. You have to click a link and there you go. But it, um, it's, uh, yeah, every day I'll send you like an email, just kind of motivate you. I'll shoot you like a TikTok video that was really popular that might be relevant. Um, sometimes I'll give you a hypnosis session for free. Everything's free, okay? Um, I'll give you like a replay to a training I did, all sorts of stuff. It's all free. And, um, that I give you as well. Uh, but you gotta opt in for the hypnosis session, then you'll, you'll, um, you'll get an email that will show you how to sign up for that if that's something you're interested in. Okay, but, um, go check that out. And yeah, and finally, my book. So if you're looking for a great book to read about your weight, this is it. People say it's the best weight book they've ever read in their lives, and I think they're probably right, um, because it's very powerful and it's, uh, it's a great read. Don't take my word for it, it's got what, like 85 5-star reviews? So people love it. So go check it out. Um, all right everyone, thank you so much. Have a super day and we'll talk soon. Bye everyone.