Enjoying Easter

Everyone, welcome to today's Program Yourself Thin podcast. Excuse me. We're talking about enjoying Easter, if you celebrate Easter, that is. But if you don't celebrate Easter, this lesson is still applicable to any special occasion, holiday, vacation even, that you may go on, because you need to learn how to manage these times. You know, it's not really the day. One day of overeating rarely is going to make much impact on your weight, but it's the effect that that day has on the days before it and the days after it. And if we focus on the day, though, a lot of times we fix those two as well. So a lot of times what people will do mostly is they'll say, okay, once Easter is over, then I'll start my plan. And then some people are already on a plan. And as Easter approaches, they're freaking out because they say, oh my God, how am I going to stay on my plan during Easter? And again, you can insert any holiday here. It's the same, same lesson. But I want to give you an alternate way to approach it that I find works a lot better. And it's to ask the question, how can I get the most pleasure possible out of Easter in this case? And that's such a different question than we normally ask, because typically we think about the things we might typically kind of get caught up in food-wise. And we say, oh, God, I can't— I hope I don't eat all the candy. I hope I don't eat all the sweets and the whatever food may be there. And we start thinking about how we don't want to overdo whatever foods we're focused on. And what this does ahead of time is it primes our brain to overeat. It's literally rehearsing because your subconscious mind does not understand negatives, right? If I tell you, don't think about a banana, well, you're thinking about a banana, even though I said don't do it. So when you think to yourself, I hope I don't eat all the candy, I hope I don't eat all of my Aunt Tilly's carrot cake, whatever you may think, and imagine that way, you're imagining yourself overeating it. And so you're putting those ideas, you're creating that neural wiring literally by imagining that. So what we want to do is we want to start with the question, how can I get the most pleasure possible out of Easter? And what we're looking for is that we're looking to live in an all-or-something mindset, not an all-or-nothing one, because an all-or-nothing mindset is going to say the success on Easter is that I don't eat any candy, I don't eat any cake, I don't eat anything, no overeating. And we're not looking for that because I think special occasions deserve to be celebrated. And what we're looking to do is to start to define a new goal where we're not avoiding everything. That's not a great quality of life, but we're also not stuffing ourselves silly with everything because that's not a great quality of life. We're looking for kind of that middle space where we eat some of the candy, we eat some of the desserts, we eat some of the foods in a relatively moderate way so that not only do we not do too much damage that day, not only can we look forward to it, but then also afterwards we can get back on track quicker as well. This is the sweet spot. And yes, it takes a little bit of work because you probably have never done this. Typically, again, when people go into the holidays, if they're on track, they're trying to be perfect during that day. If they're already off track, they're certainly not going to start on Easter. They're going to wait till afterwards. And so this hits right in the middle where no matter where you are, this question is applicable because it starts to create in your mind a real sense of how do I want to eat and live all the time. And we're always looking to create this. But certainly when it comes to Easter, for example, again, it's always specific to each holiday because we enjoy the holidays a little bit differently, vacations a little differently depending on the context. But Easter is coming and what are your favorite parts of Easter? Everyone's got different things, right? And so focus on your favorite parts and ask yourself, how can I enjoy Aunt Tilly's carrot cake at the highest level? Now, again, your brain is going to say, well, I'll eat all of it. But is that really enjoying it at the highest level? Because times in the past when you have stuffed yourself full and gone past the point of satisfaction to eat some dessert, how did it feel ultimately? And so again, we can't take into account just the eating phase. We got to look at the consequence that follows as well. And so we're looking for that sweet spot where we can have some carrot cake, but we have it moderately so that we feel good about ourselves. We got to enjoy it, and then we can feel ourselves getting right back on track. And if you start to think this way, this sets up a new goal for you when you go into these situations. So instead of trying to not overeat everything or try and restrict everything, you shoot for this sweet spot where you get pleasure. And honestly, it's the highest pleasure possible because, again, not eating anything is not pleasurable. Eating everything in sight is not really pleasurable. It might be for that split second you're eating, but then there's a ton of pain that follows it. So we're looking for the answer to the question. How can I get the most pleasure possible out of the whole experience? And again, the whole experience is longer than just a few minutes of eating. It's the time that follows as well. And the more you start to think about this, the more you start to fill your mind in with how you want to behave on Easter. And then the next phase is to start imagining yourself acting that way. And that is the new rehearsal piece of it. So instead of imagining yourself overeating all the foods, you start imagining yourself walking in there feeling calm, relaxed, looking forward to getting eating some food that you like and eating it in a moderate way where you're able to enjoy it and feel proud of yourself for how you're eating it. Stop, feel good, feel comfortable because you didn't overeat. Wake up the next day feeling good and proud of yourself, feeling lighter. That's the ultimate pleasure, in my opinion. And so as you set that as the goal and you start to work towards that, each and every opportunity you get, every vacation, every holiday, every special event that comes up, you do the same thing. And eventually what happens is you start to imagine yourself the way you want to be. And as it approaches, there's no longer this anxiety and this freaking out about what you're going to do, because every chance becomes an opportunity for you to practice being the person you want to be. So I hope this helps you out. I hope you have a wonderful Easter if you do celebrate it. And if you want to go deeper into this whole mindset and support that whole eating the way you want to on Easter, click the link in my bio or go to programyourselfthin.com. And get the free hypnosis session that I give you. And if you are on TikTok, you can click the little picture of me on the left there and, uh, you'll see the link in the— my bio. And if you're over in Facebook land, I just put it in the comments so you can check that out. And if you have any questions at all, feel free to ask them. I know, yeah, it is Good Friday, right? So yes, I don't know, but people— I, I know it's so funny. Again, I, I say this all the time, I've been doing this for a long time and And you start to notice patterns. So I always notice like the weekend before like Easter, things kind of slow down because people kind of wait until after it's over. I get it, I get it. But anyways, if you all here have questions, feel free to ask them. Sarah says, what can I do if eating moderately produces the weight I don't want? Well, I think that's a great question. And I think that what you have to do is consider the weight that you want. This goes right to the heart of everything, in my opinion, uh, how to choose the right goal weight. And I think very few people have any idea or clue how to choose the right goal weight. I think for most people, they have been given a goal weight. BMI chart is giving you a goal weight. That's not you deciding on a goal weight. That's you looking at your height and your sex and saying, oh, that's what I should weigh. That's bullshit. Um, we all get to choose what we want to weigh. And so if eating— we can all choose a weight We can all choose a weight where eating moderately is going to be too high for it too, right? All of us can do that. We can always choose a weight that's lower. Um, we could choose a low weight where it would require us to eat hardly anything to live at that weight. We can all choose to do that. The question is, why are you choosing that? Now, in Program Yourself Thin, the way we choose the goal weight in a general way is that your goal weight ought to be the weight that gives you the best quality of life. And so if eating way below moderately is what you have to do in order to live at your goal weight, is that going to give you an overall better quality of life? Is being at that weight going to make up for the reality of living that way and eating that way and being obsessed with calories and being obsessed with food? Is being at that weight going to make up for all of that pain? And for most people, the answer is no, which is why you're not doing it. So I would say, Sarah, why, why are you choosing a goal weight that's really difficult to live at? That's what I would say to that. Yeah, what's up, Jane? Jane says, I had a friend over last evening for dinner, and because when I went to her place she made a lot of nice food, I felt like I should also, so I bought a whole bunch of yummy food and overate and overdrank. And I spent some part of the time telling this friend about you and your program. Cool. Yeah, I mean, those things aren't mutually exclusive, you know, and that's what I'm glad because I love when you sit there and talk about a weight program and then you sit there and overeat and overdrink in front of them. So what? I love that because it just proves that what you're doing is something different. And they may say, oh, look at this bullshit. Yeah, they told me about this program and they overate and overdrank. I don't 'Who gives a shit?' You know, because it doesn't matter how much weight you lose this week, this month. Where I want you to see is where you're at next year, Jane. You prove to them this program works next year, you know what I mean? So good for you. And that happens. So again, Jane, that's where the redo comes in, you know. Maybe you got caught up, maybe you're happy with what you did. First of all, there's a time and a place, folks. You're never going to believe what I'm about to say here. There's a time and a place to overeat and overdrink. I think it's gonna happen. You get caught up sometimes. Sometimes you just do it. I don't know, there's a million opportunities and reasons to overeat, overdrink, and they're gonna happen sometimes. So it's not the end of the world. Again, the number one skill of mastering your weight is the ability to get back on track quickly. So I think that's great on all counts, Jane, as long as you learn from it, you know what I mean? Again, a I don't mind that I overate and overdrank yesterday. Fine with it. I wish I'd never eaten, overdrank so much. Redo it. And I'm glad you talked about the program because the more you talk about the program, the more kind of ownership you take of it and the more you understand it. Yeah, okay. Jane says, nope, I wasn't happy about it, but I did do the redo in bed last night. Great, Jane. So yeah, you weren't happy about it. Again, most likely what happened, just kind of got caught up. She had a lot of ton of good food. You had a ton of good food. Now let's just talk about that, Jane. So let's I want to stay true to form here, not even just redoing it, but also just understanding how that happens so that you realize, you know, listen, I, I'm not, I'm not here saying like you're not responsible for anything, folks. I, I think we're all responsible for our own behavior to some degree. However, if we don't really understand what's going on all the times, we get caught up and make bad decisions sometimes. And, um, I think that Yeah, we can take responsibility, fine. But I think part of that responsibility is understanding what contributed to that. And I would say one of the big things I would say, Jane, one of the biggest challenging situations to eat well in is when there's a bunch of different type of delicious foods. And especially if it's a friend's house or someone like, like, again, that's if you go to a restaurant, that's a challenge. If you go to someone's house who spent the time and energy to make it for you, that's an even bigger challenge. And the big reason, the big thing I look at when I hear that description is that I think of the buffet effect. Now, this is a documented scientific fact that humans— there's a thing called sensory-specific satiety. And what that means is if I give you one type of food, you're going to get full quicker than if I give you 6 different types of foods. Because every time you eat something different, again, this is the buffet effect I'm talking about. When you have lots of different things, it's almost like your hunger kind of resets. Hunger is fascinating, folks. You can't think of hunger like a bank account, like just calories down, calories up. I'm full. There are so many different things that affect your hunger, your moods, the context, the situation, the flavors you're eating, the foods in front of you, your energy level, the environment, the noise, the quiet. I mean, the heat. There are so many factors that are impacting your hunger. And I think to, to look at it like, oh, hunger's just hunger and I should have stopped myself and I'm a bad person cuz I ate too much. I just think that's, it's completely inaccurate. I'll just leave it at that. And so I don't like inaccurate things. It's hard to succeed with inaccurate, uh, strategies and ideas. So what's going on there? A, the big one is the buffet effect. And so you kind of got caught in that. So if you go back in time, Maybe you didn't realize she was gonna make as much, and maybe you would've made a little bit less. Maybe you would've gone in there a little more prepared, you know? And so the other piece too, again, is if a friend makes that for you, there's also this reciprocity. It's kind of, I think it's Cialdini. I don't know if it's Cialdini. I'm not good at pronouncing names a lot of times 'cause I read a lot, so I kind of have my own pronunciations. But anyways, reciprocity. So if someone makes a, cooks a lot of food for you, there's this extra pressure to eat a lot of food to show how much you liked it. I, I think about it, right? It makes your guts all hurt when you think about someone making— going out of their way to make you something nice, and you want to have a bite of it and say, oh, this is so delicious, that's so delicious, and you don't need any more of it, right? If you, if you're a normal person, it's like, oh, I can't do that. I don't know, I don't even want to eat anymore, and I got to keep doing it. We— who hasn't done that? So those are just two of the big ones, Jane, that show up, and there's even more things I'm sure we could get into, but Um, so again, you know, I think it's important to recognize those factors too. Yeah, Jane follows. But yeah, definitely had the buffet effect for sure, right? Yeah, plus she bought me Easter eggs as a hostess gift. That's what I mean, Jane. Again, there's just a lot of stuff going on. And so to me, it's an outlier experience. I'm not going to freak out about it because it's unusual. Unusual experiences I don't really spend too much time with. I focus on the things that happen consistently. I find that to be a better focus of time. Once I get those things locked down, I know I will work on stuff like that more. What's up, Judy? Judy says, yeah, too much choice, so limiting choice helps. Oh yeah, absolutely. Limiting choice helps. Definitely. The more options you give yourself, the more food you prepare and put in front of you, the harder it is to eat less. So absolutely. This is why it's easier to eat at your house than it is to eat at a buffet. The right amounts, you know, it's real simple. Um, so it's a piece of the puzzle for sure. So Lois— Lois says, I agree that BMI is bull. The idea of being a weight that is comfortable to live that lifetime— forget BMI. Yeah, I like the idea of comfortable weight. Yeah, we got to take that into account too. I, I just— again, this is why I say, folks, get on my email list because I'll— maybe I'll send this out this weekend. I will. I'll send out the, the goal weight peer— uh, the goal weight quiz I have. Which kind of walks you through a different way to choose your goal weight. And again, the shocking part most people experience with that is that you've never learned how to choose your goal weight. I genuinely mean this. I mean it literally. You don't know how to choose your goal weight. Again, looking at a chart and seeing what the number they gave you is, is not choosing. Do you understand the difference? And so I think most people have no clue how to choose their goal weight or even base it on— what are you even basing yours on other than BMI chart? Or what someone's told you you should weigh. What are you basing it on? Most people have a real clear idea of that, and you need that if you're going to succeed with your weight, in my opinion. Um, Jane says, so wondering if I should throw out all the extra food I still have in my fridge. I'm concerned I will start in to eat it all again today. Um, yeah, well, I'm sure you will. You will eat it all today if I had to guess, Jane. So I would ask the question, do I want to get rid of all of it? Do I want to eat it moderately and spread it out over a couple days? Do I want to eat it all today? You know, consider all 3 options you have, or if there's more options that you can think of beyond that. But notice that throwing out is one option you have. One option you have is throwing out the extra food. Another option is eating the food moderately over a couple days. And then the third option is eating all the food today. Those, those are the big three, I would imagine. Maybe there's another one I'm not thinking of. Yes. All right, Judy. Yes, Judy. Judy says, with BMI as well depends on genetics and ethnicity, like Asians are smaller. Yeah, again, please folks, the BMI chart is based on white middle-aged, uh, European men, so it's not really an inclusive chart. Uh, again, it's a data point, and I think it's a valuable one. I, I use— but again, I fall kind of in that category, but I think that the BMI chart, I think it's a, it's a, it's a reference point that can be used amongst some other things. But I think ultimately it can't be the deciding factor. So I can't pronounce that name, but it says how to know which amount of food is perfect for losing weight. I love that question so much. What I like to do is I, I take this a little bit more of an intuitive path than like calorie counting. Which I find to be kind of tedious. And most people kind of quit because it's just— it's too much cognitive load for most people to track every calorie they eat. So what I like to do is I like to get a sense of what are my eating routines. I've never met a person who doesn't have eating routines, eating patterns, and I've had people say that they don't have them. And then when we talk a little bit, it turns out, of course, they do, because to not have eating routines you would almost have to have brain damage. And I mean that genuinely, because the way the human brain works, it likes to automate everything. You know, I'm not saying you automate everything, but there's typically— we live in patterns, so we have to think about every little thing all the time. It'd be exhausting. Our brain is designed to conserve energy, and that's one of the main ways it does it. So the way that I like to do is a bit more intuitive and start to understand, okay, what are my typical eating patterns? What do I typically eat for breakfast? What do I typically snack on between breakfast and lunch? If I do, what do I typically eat for lunch? What do I typically eat between lunch and dinner? What do I typically eat for dinner? What do I typically eat after dinner? And I want to get a sense of what I typically eat. What's my typical patterns? And yes, you do have typical patterns. It may not seem that way to you because you're looking at it like, well, I don't know, I'll eat this today for lunch and I'll eat that tomorrow for lunch. Okay, fine. You're not eating 30 different things. A month for lunch, though. You might have— for the average person, there's like 1 to 3 breakfasts. Now, again, I make a distinction in Program Yourself. Then we have clean and pleasure days. So, you know, for the average person, you may contextualize it more like work, workday and weekend days, maybe. And maybe there's a slight difference in your breakfast on those days or whatever. Okay. So there's kind of that general split. And then there's the meal section. You know, people tend to eat 1 to 3 different options for breakfast, typically 3 to 5 for lunch, and then 5 for, for dinner, or 5 to 7, right, for going the full week. That's just typical, right? So you may or may not fall into that, but I promise you've got a pattern. And so if you start to notice the pattern of what you typically eat, I think that's a good place to start. So for example, what I did when I first started is I focused on my nighttime snacking because literally 7 nights a week I would finish dinner, wait an hour, and then I would start snacking for the next 3, 4 hours. And I was easily putting away 500 to 1,500 calories, uh, at night doing that. So I knew if I could get a handle on my nighttime snacking, that I knew that my weight would be, um, affected by that. And so I began to focus on it, work on it, um, got a handle on it and ultimately got rid of it and lost a lot of weight. So that's an intuitive way to kind of go at it. And then after that, I focused on dinner. Portions. After that, I focused on snacks between lunch and dinner. After that, I focused on lunch. After that, I focused on snacks between breakfast and lunch. And after that, well, I focused on breakfast. I started actually kind of doing that earlier on, so that, that wasn't a linear piece of it. But the rest of it, that's kind of how I did it. So there's another perspective. Yeah, if you have any questions, feel free to ask them. Sarah says the weight I want to be though looks better than the weight I currently am, but it won't shift. Um, yeah, but I mean, the big question— looking better, folks, isn't enough of a motivator? I don't know. You all have to— y'all got to come to some peace with that, which is— I'm not telling you what to do, please understand. What I'm saying is that if you're choosing a weight that's low Because listen, what people— that one of the biggest mistakes people make when it comes to choosing the right goal weight is that they only look at one side of the equation. The side of the equation they look at is they only look at how they want to look. So most people, when they are choosing a goal weight, are thinking about what they want to look like. That's it. And I can understand how you would think that's the most important piece, but to ignore the other side of the equation, which is how I need to live in order to be that weight. To ignore this part is to really participate in your own failure. And this— I hope this illuminates why a lot of you are struggling with your weight, because you're choosing a weight you're not willing to live at. That's what most dieters— I would say this is most dieters in my experience— are choosing a goal weight that they're not willing to live at. I'm not saying you're not willing to live at that number. You would love if you could magically wake up at that number and live there. You would choose it. I'm not saying that. But that's not the world we live in. We live in a world where if you want your weight to be here, you have to eat this way and live this way. And a lot of people are choosing a weight that they're not going to eat and they're not willing to eat and live it that way. And that's what I hear with you, Sarah, that because moderately— so moderately, it's like a normal thing, right? So what if moderately isn't low enough? Well, then you have to be comfortable with forever eating below moderate, and that's going to be a forever pressure. Your body's always going to say, we need more food, we want more food, we got to do something to some degree. Now that does change. There is change over time, you know what I mean? Like hunger and appetite and food and all this stuff. It is malleable. You can change it, no question about it. But I do find a lot of people choose weights that are so, um, that are low, that would require a very, very, very strict diet and lifestyle to achieve. And I find most people are not willing to do that. And there's nothing wrong with that either, by the way, because why are you choosing that number? What you're basically saying to me is I'm choosing a number where I'll look better, but it's, it's kind of a miserable quality of life overall. Well, if it's a miserable quality of life overall, then you're not going to stick with it. Your, your thermostat of what you're doing behaviorally is almost always comes down to your quality of life. So for example, if I said to you, Sarah, I'll give you $1 million every month that you live at that goal weight. Well, now all of a sudden the stress of eating that way just fades away because now you're getting even more benefit from it. But the just looking that weight, just being that weight is not giving you enough positives to justify that way of living right now for you is what it sounds like to me. Maybe I'm close, maybe I'm not, I don't know. But those are my thoughts. Judy says, yeah, yeah, Judy says, like that eating routine, it's easier than counting calories. Yes, absolutely. Yeah. Uh, what's up, Lois? Lois says, a good— a number in BMI was always the goal before, and I always failed. My goal was in the 100 the pound area. In June I was 174 and today weighed 148. Wow, Lois, nice job! I'm proud of you, Lois. Lois, yeah, you've been, you've been doing so great. And again, why, why 100? I think most dieters would really be served well by really reflecting on your goal weight, because a lot of you've been saying the same number for so long that it just doesn't have any meaning anymore. Really, I really mean this, and I know this is shocking for a lot of dieters because you've been saying that number so long in your head, you— it's just has become like part of you, but at the same time you haven't lived at that number for either— oh, I don't know, it is wild. Goal weight stuff is fascinating to me. Uh, what's up, Marta? Marta says, I came off Monjuro and by the end of week 4 food tasted great and I had almost dopamine high when, uh, eating at a good restaurant. I am back on Monjuro at 5 grams, half dose. I've— food doesn't taste same and I find myself looking for that sensation, other behaviors. I feel some dissatisfaction at the level of life with life in general. Now I feel so let down when eating food and not feeling pleasurable. I know it's a big part of my gratification. Marta, I totally understand what you're saying, and I'm glad you said that because I want to validate it. I say this all the time, and I don't think this ever gets enough focus when it comes to the medications. My big issue with the GLP-1s that we're going to start to see— we're going to start to see it now because you lose weight with GLP-1s for about 16 months and then the weight loss stops. And my big question is, what happens then? Because I know I joke, I made a video, the worst person to ask about weight loss is someone who's currently losing weight because they don't give a shit what they're doing. This goes right back to what we're just talking about. When people are losing weight, they will do, they'll do crazy stuff because they're getting such a dopamine hit from watching the scale go down. But once the scale stops going down, once you get to your goal weight, you don't have that dopamine hit of looking forward to the scale going down. Now you're just living at your goal weight. And what GLP-1s do— this is my big issue with them— is that once you get— I mean, let me back it up a little bit more. Most dieters trade the pleasure and excitement of the food for the pleasure and the excitement of the weight loss. And so as long as the scale's going down, their dopamine drip is getting attached to the scale going down. But okay, so let's say you're on GLP-1. It's the same thing. All of a sudden you don't give a shit about food and you're so happy about it. You know, food noise. I don't care about food. This is amazing. The scale's going down. This is incredible. Okay, I get that. But now you're at your goal weight. Now, where does your excitement and pleasure come from? It ain't coming from food because the medicine depletes your enjoyment of the food. Because folks, you've all eaten when you're full. Have you ever eaten food when you're kind of full? How good is it? It's a relative experience. So the thing for me with the GLP-1s that I'm worried about is the quality of life piece. I know, because right now what we're getting is people losing weight and they're so over the moon about it, they don't give a shit about anything else right now. But in another year of not losing any weight and just living at your goal weight, you don't have the special dinner to look forward to on your birthday because you don't really give a shit about food anymore. You don't really care about holiday, you know, Aunt Tilly's carrot cake. Who gives a shit? I'm not even hungry. I feel full all the time. I don't care. And I think food is such a fundamental piece of life. To dim that whole thing is going to be a real interesting piece of the puzzle for me. And I think people don't give a shit right now because again, they're losing weight. So their excitement and pleasure is tied to the scale going down and they're wrapped up in that. I get that. But that does stop. It either stops at 16 months or when you get to your goal weight. And now where are you getting your pleasure and excitement from? Because now you're not getting it from the weight loss, you're not getting it from the food. Where are you getting it from? You say, well, Jim, I'm getting it from being thin and healthy. That's not true either. You already been at your goal weight and you put weight on. So if being at your goal weight was so amazing, why'd you put weight on? I'm not saying you can't live at your goal weight either, by the way, please understand. But I'm saying you with your brain and your body You've already been at your goal weight. And if just being there was so incredible, then why did you ever put weight on? This is why 85 to 95% of dieters that lose weight and get to their goal weight put it back on, I believe. So the GLP-1 is going to run into that same thing. So, Marta, I, I really get what you're saying, and I think we're going to hear more and more of that. And I think that's going to be the big GLP-1 question in 5 years. People have a much different— to me, I'm not going to say it. I'm just going to— I'm going to stop it there. And that's what I think. So yes, I think that's a real thing, Marta. Um, Jane says, do you have thoughts about drinking a bit of vinegar and water before meals as a way to lower blood sugar fluctuations? Um, I don't know anything about that. I've seen things about like apple cider vinegar. Um, I, I just— I— there's clearly things that will work and help out and nudge you in the right direction. Um, but I prefer to focus on the bigger things than like hacky type things. And that might be a hack that actually helps. I don't know, but I prefer to look on bigger, like more structural mindset, lifestyle, eating strategy levels than the idea that if I do this little trick, all of a sudden I just, I don't like to approach it that way, but that may work too. So go try it out, Jane, if you're thinking about it and then test it out for yourself and your body, you know. Martha says, yeah, I'm not even losing weight even with tracking Amonjaro. Yeah, that's another thing too, unfortunately. I'm sorry to hear that. Um, you know, a decent percentage of people that got on these GLP-1s don't lose weight. That's another thing that, that's not really out there yet. But, um, yeah, I get it. Uh, Karen says, I'm at 160 from 280 highest, but because of my liver, doctor wants me to lose more, but I'm comfy with this weight. Have to figure out how. I'm not very mobile. 5,000 steps daily is all I can do. Um, well, I'm not a doctor, and, uh, 160 from 280, congratulations, Karen. And doctors and weight are two things that really don't go well together a lot of times, I will tell you. I'm shocked. I've been saying this for years and nothing has changed my point of view that doctors, more often than not— there's always exceptions, but more often than not, doctors know know more about weight than you do. And especially now, what's happening is they didn't know shit about weight to begin with. And you know this, folks, you've all been to the doctors. The doctors have all told you you should lose weight. And when you ask how, they say eat better and exercise. They have no— they don't know anything more than you do unless they have a personal interest in it. And now what's happening is on top of that core ignorance that doctors have about weight to begin with, now we're putting the pressure of the GLP-1 medicines in here. And so now they're getting lots of statistics because that's how they market to these, these people is they're getting lots of statistics about how important weight loss is for, for health impacts. And it's true. But the idea that you would get down to 160 and still need to lose even more, that my first reaction is maybe get a second opinion. And I'm not a doctor, please understand. But I do think that in general, doctors really don't know shit about weight. And I don't know what the benefits of being 160 versus 130 on your liver would be versus how much reduction in quality of life you'd experience. So again, I'd zoom out, look at the big picture, maybe get another idea, have them get more specific about what, what their goal weight may be. If let's just say it's 135 they want you to get to, ask them about what are the percentage increases specifically in what areas that would improve from that reduction. You know what I mean? Get— have them get specific. And maybe they've got those reasons, maybe they don't. Ask them what those reasons are specifically. Ask them where those studies come from, and then take it forward from there. Because I think going from 280 to 160 is wonderful. What an accomplishment. And if you feel amazing there, um, I would think in most situations you're going to be pretty healthy there. But, but again, I'm not a doctor, so, you know, Take it or leave it. Um, yeah, and it took you 4 years to do that. Congrats, Karen, so proud of you. I'm always so— anyone gets past the 2-year mark in my book is just a real winner, um, because whatever you're doing, not only are you doing it, you're getting the benefits you want, but you're doing it clearly in some way that you're sticking to it. And when you start getting past 2 years into 3 into 4 years, your mindset starts to change too. So that's where things start to get really fun and interesting. But that for you, Karen, has got to be I bet you felt like the rug kind of got pulled out from under you when you were told that. And that's why I'm kind of pushing back for you a bit on that, that I just think getting from 280 to 160, what an accomplishment. I mean, Jesus, that's almost a 50% reduction in your body weight and now you're down to 160. And so I don't know, you know, unless you're 4'1", I don't know that those numbers just seem off to me that someone pushing you to lose even more. So I'd want to know specifically what the things are. I push back on the doctor a little bit. Listen, doctors are just people, folks. You know, I love doctors. Please understand, I'm not— I'm not shit-talking the medical establishment. I love doctors, but they, they're not experts on weight. They're not experts on health. Let's be honest, doctors take a woefully limited amount of nutritional information in medical school. So again, I think that sometimes we're kind of conditioned to just believe what doctors say and not push back on it. And I think at this day and age, you've got to kind of co-doctor in a sense. You have to be engaged. You know what I mean? And be there and watch what they're doing. Hey, you know what they call the person who graduates last in medical school? Doctor. You know what I mean? Like, again, I, I, they, they're smart, they know a lot, I respect them, but I'm also kind of trust but verify thing. And I don't think— I don't know, I can go wrong that way. So anyways, that kind of just raised a little flag for me, Karen, when I hear that. So take, take it for what it means. Um, Marta says, I guess me not losing weight makes me question the whole, whole idea. Um, yeah, no, I'm sure, Marta, I'm sure it question— makes you question it. I think a lot of people that do GLP-1s that don't lose weight are just left to think like, could I ever lose weight now? If I can't lose weight with GLP-1s, is it even possible I could ever lose weight? And I think absolutely you can. Um, the best description I've heard of GLP-1s is that it's like you're in quicksand sinking and someone throws you a shovel. It's not a real true final solution. It's a band-aid on something, and it's a powerful band-aid. I think the GLP-1s are amazing, and I think for a lot of people they're absolute lifesavers. So I'm not shit-talking the GLP-1s at all. What I am saying though is that it's not a complete solution. Program Yourself thing, I, I think it was a kind of comprehensive, holistic strategy and solution to mastering your weight, and I don't think GLP-1s are, because at the least it's just an injection in your body and you eat different now. If it works for you. And, um, you know, it doesn't change your mindset, doesn't change your lifestyle, doesn't really change your eating strategies or patterns necessarily, um, besides just minimizing it. So I think that there's a lot more to focus on, you know. Yeah, Marta said, I'm totally lost now with my weight getting close to 200 again. Yeah, I get it, Marta. But again, like, you— even when you talk about it It's like, what's the holistic— I don't know. And I always— I bring this back all the time just to kind of— just to give you like a counterpoint, you know, because I think most people, when they think about weight, they think really just about eating. And they think— I always kind of say it's about that much of the weight— the goal weight pyramid— that tell me what to eat. And GLP-1s do the same thing. GLP-1s basically, they just change your eating because you're full now all the time. So you're just not hungry and you eat less. That's the— that's how they work. That's the theory. But to me, it's like, I think you need a comprehensive holistic strategy, and not just even to manage your weight, but really to manage your life. Program Yourself then takes the weight loss and wraps it in personal development, so it becomes about being the best version of you who weighs what you want to weigh. But by focusing on it that way, we make the weight loss and the weight secondary. We make you living the best, healthiest, happiest life primary. And that's really important because there are going to be times in your weight loss journey and in your goal weight journey where the weight stalls or you put a little bit on or, or you get a little stuck or whatever. And when it comes to weight loss, typically the diet mindset is if you're not losing weight, then what do you do? What do you do? What do you focus on? There's nowhere else to go. And you start to feel like you're feeling right. You feel totally lost. And so program yourself then, you know, when the weight loss stalls a little bit, we got other places to go. We're obviously— we're always working on our mindset in ways, but then a lot of times we're going to put our energy into our lifestyle. So you say, God, the weight loss is kind of stalling, I don't know what's going on, let me get my, my sleep— I haven't been sleeping so great, let me focus on that— all my hydration, let me kind of hydrate a little bit more, let me relax a little bit more, you know what I mean? So there's other stuff to focus on, you know. And then even the eating, the eating is much more of a holistic kind of approach. So it's not just, you know, you inject yourself and now I'm full. And so now I just eat less than what I typically ate. But we want to transform your eating, most likely. Again, everyone's at a different place with their eating, but, you know, how can we make it as nourishing as possible? How can we really flow, you know, with our eating, with our lifestyle, with how we're thinking, so that living at our goal weight just feels like the natural outcome of it, you know? So it's a much bigger question we're asking, but it's specifically because of this reason, Marta, right, is that you get to the point where it's like you feel like you've done everything But you haven't done everything. I'm sure you've tried lots of diets, but diets— again, there's no diet you've ever done that's addressed any mindset stuff in a significant way. Barely any lifestyle stuff, whether just giving it some, some languaging and then eating, which is telling you how to eat. And so again, that's why I say like you've done about this much of the pyramid and that's why you feel so lost because you've done this much, but you feel like you've done everything. And that's the illusion. And again, the GLP-1s are right there too, because it's just, okay, I'll just inject myself and now I want to eat different. But eating different, again, there's all this stuff underneath it. I think, you know, that's my take on it. But, um, I'm ready, sign me up. Yeah, Marty, it'd be perfect for the program. You could consider it, you know. I don't know if you're in the— on the email list, you know, but, um, you should consider— I mean, that's where everyone gets— listen, I'm not the solution of first resort. I know that, you know. I, I— that's— we always joke in the hypnosis world We're not the first person someone comes to when they want help, you know. And it's the same with weight. No one starts with the hypnotist, you end up with the hypnotist. And, uh, so no one starts with programming yourself, then you end up with programming yourself, then after you've tried all the other things that don't work. I can't tell you the number of people that have gotten here after they've tried the GLP-1s, they didn't work for them for whatever reason. So I get it. Yeah, Marta says, I agree, we are too focused on weight, not life in general. Yeah, exactly, Marta. But that creates a lot of pressure on the weight, and so as soon the weight doesn't do what you want to do, you feel completely lost and you feel like you just want to give up and quit because you don't know what else to do. So I'm trying to say, but again, there's all this other stuff to work on, you know. All this other stuff matters. I don't know. Again, like a common one lifestyle-wise, it's so important for a lot of women, middle-aged women especially, is your stress levels. Are you stressed? Because if you're stressed, I mean, again, I'm not saying it is that, but it could be cortisol levels that are playing a big part. It could be stress that's causing you to overeat. You not even realize it. And there's just— I always say, like, like, weight loss is— it's, it's more complicated than you think it is. Dieting always simplifies weight loss to be like a bank account of calories in, calories out. And while on a very, very, very simplistic physical level that is true, there's so many other things that that That's to me, right? Calories in, calories out is this. It's this, it's this part of the pyramid, that top part, that tiny little piece that, that's calories in, calories out. And it's absolutely true. I don't care what you do at the end of the day to lose weight, you have to reduce your average calorie consumption. To gain weight, you increase your average calorie consumption. It's that simple. But that's that much of it. I can tell you that you've known that forever. Can you do it? No. You know, and that's all this part here. And so that's what I think. M says, do you know what to eat and when to eat if you have insulin resistance as a woman? Um, I mean, no, because that question's too vague anyways. Um, every person's different, so you've got to figure out what and when to eat for you. Uh, people just respond differently to different foods. I mean, you could start with the glycemic index as a starting point, but then you've got to test those things against your response to them. And you respond to it differently at different times of the month, perhaps different times of the week, different times of the day. Sorry to tell you, you know, but so I can't sit here and just tell you what to do because you're a unique being. But I could definitely say— now again, I'm going to assume that you're insulin resistant, so you've done some you, you know a bit anyways, but, uh, the glycemic index, you know, look at those foods and start measuring your foods against that. Track your insulin resistance and glucose levels, um, and start creating a map for you and which foods do what, and then start to build around that. So that's what I think. And I saw— yeah, okay, Sarah. Sarah says, exactly, so helpful, thank you. I'm really glad, Sarah, because I, I really feel for you, um, and I think, I think a lot of people are in that spot where the weight they think they want to be at is too miserable, you know. And we always— we, we do this with money, most of us, right? Once you kind of get to a point where you're able to survive and you're, you're comfortable enough, then the question becomes, well, how much more money do you want? Well, I want all the money I can get, Jim. Well, okay, I know that, but how much money are you willing to work for? Are you willing to pick up another full-time job? No. Why not? You said you wanted all the money you could have, right? Didn't you just say that? Well, yeah, but I don't— I have a quality of life. Am I gonna do just work all the time? Yeah, exactly. So why can't you apply the exact same thinking to your weight? You're doing the same thing. I want to be a millionaire. I want to be a millionaire. Okay, well, you better get it. You better start working more, get more, more jobs. Well, geez, I'm not gonna have time to enjoy it. That's my quality of life goes down. Yeah, exactly. Same thing with weight. I want to be down here. I want to be down here. Okay, well, you can't eat that. You can't eat that. You can't eat that. You gotta track everything. I do this, gotta do this, gotta do this. I don't do that. I'm not gonna have time to live. Exactly, exactly. There's more. We can't just pick the thing. Well, no shit. I mean, we all want a billion dollars You know, X amount of pounds, you know, I don't know, like, of course, most want all this perfect stuff, but are you really willing to do that and work for it? Probably not. There's nothing wrong with that. Again, we've been sold this bullshit about the weight thing and we've never really considered where's the sweet spot for me. Just as an example, like 15 years ago, my life was just— became so stressful all of a sudden and I put 25 pounds on, but I didn't take 25 pounds off right away. I took 15 pounds off and I raised my goal weight 10 pounds because at that point I, it was a lot harder for me to live that same way I was living before the stress. And so I was okay with raising it, but that idea is almost foreign to anyone here because we've just given our BMI number and it can never change from that. It's always got to be that you haven't been there in 50 years, but that's the number I got to be. Yeah, it's crazy. It really is crazy, but that's dieting for you. Uh, Lois says BMI shows I should be 85 to 105 to be normal. Yeah, to be normal. Normal's bullshit on that BMI chart though. I'm here to tell you that if we're talking about health, if we're talking about health, that BMI chart, basically if you're in the normal or overweight range, you're going to be healthy. Just a basic. And I don't think people realize that. And, um, I mean, as you start getting obese, that, that's when the health thing starts showing up, you know, statistically. And as you start— when you're in the overweight category and you start getting— the closer you're getting to the obese thing, you know, that's more to kind of consider. But if you're in the— certainly the first half of overweight to the normal range, your health is pretty consistent across the board there. And then it just becomes a question, what do I want to look like? And other factors of why you choose that weight. But the health thing is really a BMI chart factor, and the overweight— it's just, it's, it's mislabeled, I think, more than anything. Because overweight, I think, is, is almost— why is it overweight if your health markers are, are similar to the normal weight? Why are you categorizing that as overweight? I don't know, that's my question. And again, it's not— it's not inclusive. It's not an inclusive chart. So if you're short, if you're, you know, person of color, if you're just an outlier in not that many outlier ways— you know, person of color is not really an outlier thing, you know, being short is not an outlier thing— and yet that chart's not really inclusive. So again, you know, don't, don't give it your soul, you know, by saying, you, you decide my weight chart. You know, again, a reference point. So Christine, Christine says, I think focusing more on eating healthy with the goal of health inside out can go hand in hand with weight loss. Numbers can just bog you down. I find letting go of that obsession can free me to naturally treat food as the medicine. I agree 1,000%, Christine. I think that's so much— I think there's something— I wish I could frame this and explain this more clearly, but there's something— the diet industry is not your friend. The diet industry is a branch of the food processing industry. It's there to condition you to think about weight in the most ineffective way possible because they just want you to eat their food. Weight Watchers was owned by Heinz. Jenny Craig was owned by Nestlé. Atkins Food Products is owned by the same company that owns Auntie Anne's Pretzels and Cinnabon. SlimFast is owned by the same company that owns Ben Jerry's ice cream. These companies do not want you to lose weight and stop eating those foods. Dieting doesn't work. And I think one of the other key reasons dieting doesn't work is this obsession with numbers, this obsession with weight. Is so toxic and it's all you've ever known, so you can't think of any other way. So it feels like you, you defend it subconsciously, but it's so toxic to just look at this process as only that number on the scale, that scale from the BMI chart, these disassociated, disembodied numbers we're chasing. They have no real subconscious meaning to us. That's a core reason. And, um, the solution to that again is to base your goal weight around the best quality of life for yourself. What weight gives you the best quality of life? Not just the number and the size, but the way you're living to achieve that too. You know, where's the sweet spot? Jane says I should focus more on just drinking more water, I think. Yeah, absolutely, Jane. Make that your main focus for the next 2 weeks. You can still think about food and other stuff too, but commit to one core habit. Drinking water would be a wonderful one. Drinking water will have a lot of other benefits to you as well. But I would absolutely suggest really dialing in your water habit. And I would— to do that, I would go into the program, I would watch the— in the Blueprint, um, Lifestyle Blueprint section, go watch the water training. It's 20 minutes. It'll put new ideas in your mind. It'll help you walk through the process of dialing in a water habit. I think that's a great idea, Jane. And then it'll give you something other than food to just feel bad about. You'll be able to drink water and feel good about something you're doing. It'll be a counterpoint. So I think that's a super idea. Um, Salim, Salim says— if I'm saying that right, against a lot of letters, I don't know where the, the words stop. Um, Salim says, I feel so guilty to have to put on weight so much, especially at my age, in 43, but I have heard women do not easily lose weight in their 40s. I want to have a healthy weight loss, but I am never consistent and I give in to sugars and processed food. How do I overcome this? Um, yeah, I mean, that's big questions though, you know, like, again, um You know, I want to have a healthy weight, but I'm never consistent. I give in to sugars. But a big reason why none of you are consistent is because what you're looking to be consistent with is so overwhelming. You know, I always say, like, if you want to learn to play the piano, if you were taught your whole life that the secret to playing the piano is to play 8 hours a day, well, guess what? You're gonna have a really hard time consistently playing the piano. And dieting is the equivalent to that, right? Because dieting, you start on a Monday and you change all of your eating all at once, all of your eating. And it's overwhelming. So it's very difficult to be consistent with that versus what we were just talking about, like Jane, for example, to focus on adding and implementing and dialing in a water habit. That's way easier than changing all of your eating until you lose the weight. That's wicked hard. You've been conditioned that it's easy and normal, and if you're serious, it should be no problem, but it's not. It's really difficult psychologically. The way you're wired to all of a sudden just change all of your eating is, is I, again, I always say it's the equivalent of waking up tomorrow and saying, I'm going to use my phone with my other hand. I'm going to brush my teeth with my other hand. I'm going to use my computer mouse with my other hand. You can do it, but it's going to take a ton of extra cognitive energy. And very quickly you're going to get irritated with it and you're going to go back to your normal hand because it's just easier. You have to think about it. And it's that same thing at play when it comes to your eating and you try and change everything. And the diets know this. That's why they teach it to you because they don't want you to actually change your weight. They just want you to fail in sneaky ways. So my big suggestion to you, Celine, would be to break it down, you know, instead of trying to change everything. Oh, it's Salima. All right, I was close. I missed the last day. So Salima, what I would suggest is, um, break your— what you're looking to change, right? Is it that you're not consistent, or is that what you want to be consistent with is too overwhelming? And you say, no, I should be able to be consistent. Okay, fine, be consistent with it. And then as soon as you're not able to be consistent with it Instead of trying to be consistent with all of it, pick one thing out of it that you will be consistent with, and then you'll find out that it wasn't a consistency problem as much as it was you were trying to do too much at once problem. Yeah, and Salima says, I also lose motivation so quickly. Yeah, but it's all tied together, Salima, because you have— and this is where most of you are. Most of you can't find the motivation now. Most of you are probably in your mid-40s. That's usually when, when people start to work with me. Because you've tried all the diets, you've tried starting everything at once, you've stopped doing it so many times that you now don't even believe it. You're just filled with apathy. And so that affects the motivation you feel, that affects your inconsistency, that figures into your giving in. It's just, again, it's a terrible strategy you have, Selima, because you're trying to change everything at once. And I don't even know Selima, but I know she's trying to change everything at once. And I know that's one of the core reasons why she can't stick with anything. So again, it's not that you can't stick with it. It's that it's a crazy plan that you're following. Um, yeah, okay. So Marta says, yeah, plenty of stress hormones or optimized shift in my 26-year marriage dynamics. Yeah, I have insulin resistance, that's what got me on Monjuro and optimized hormones. I use CGM, that's helpful, but no weight loss. Um, yeah, Marta, again, and like I said, sometimes everyone's got a different path in front of them when it comes to their weight. That's another factor to take into consideration. And the diet Diets don't really focus you on that. Diets make you think that everyone's the same, and if I do this plan, I'm gonna get the same results as my neighbor got. That's just not how it works. And so for you, Marta, it sounds like you're really kind of on your health journey here and doing lots of things, so that's great. Um, but a lot of it's kind of outside in, right? Injections, hormones, all the rest of it. What are we doing here? Now again, only you can answer this, and you can answer this in your own head. But in addition, what are you doing in terms of your mindset? How's your motivation level? How is your, your self-image and identity? How do you think about yourself? Um, your ability to influence your habits and get them, you know, dialed in and flowing. Your ability to manage your emotions genuinely. Your ability to think like a thin, healthy person. Your ability to maintain when things get tough, to stay on track. Again, how much do you work on that? How strong are those things in you right now? Um, lifestyle, right? How good is your sleep? How good is your hydration? How good is your relaxation and breathing? How good is your nourishment levels? How good— how much are you moving? You know, are you moving regularly? How's your meditation? Your mind, can you quiet it down? Your gratitude, are you grateful? Again, I don't know, you can answer these for yourself. And then finally, eating. You know, do you like how you're eating? Do you have a sense of understanding of it? Do you feel satisfied and, um, full throughout the day? You know, or satisfied, I should say, throughout the day. Um, so again, these are just— this gives you more than probably what you've been thinking about. And you can now evaluate yourself. Have I been doing those things or not? And if you haven't been doing any of those things, well, shit, that's a whole lot of stuff that has an impact on your weight. So again, I don't know what your, you know, level of commitment and focus is, but those are things to take into account to get a more realistic picture of it. Um, hey, what's up, Paula? Paul says, hi, Jim, thank you. Thank you, planning my strategy for Easter buffet on Sunday. That's great, Paula. Yeah. And if you are going to a buffet too, I think that understanding the buffet effect is helpful because you go in there with just more understanding. Awareness is always the door we walk through to, to success. And so, you know, even if you're going to a buffet, it doesn't mean you're going to eat everything in sight. But if you take into account, I'll probably eat more than I normally do, the buffet effect's real, what can I do? I'll give you a few trickeries on buffets is to take smaller portions of each thing you're taking. Um, get something and say, I'll have— oh, I'll get this later, right? So get a couple things on a plate and then say, then I'll come up back up, because you'll say that enough times and you just won't go back up, right? But there's a couple of ideas. Um, Selena says, you're right, I want to get everything done all at once at the same time, but I've started walking, especially 30 minutes a day, and that I find, um really good and I crave for it. Okay, Salim, you just proved my point. So you do have consistency, it sounds like. It sounds like you've been pretty consistent with the walking. And why? Because it's not changing everything, so it's not so overwhelming. It's you taking a 30-minute walk, and so it's just a lot less cognitive load, a lot less time, a lot of energy. And so that kind of frees you up to realize, oh, I feel a lot better, I like walking, this is nice. So stick with walking for a month or two, build that up so it's kind of solid in you. Then you can work on water, then relaxation, then add an apple to your afternoon, whatever. Um, but instead of trying to do everything at once, you can't do everything at once. I always say it's like college, you know, college, just to say a bachelor's degree, you're gonna get 4 years. It's gonna take 4 years. You said, no, I want to do it this month. I want to do it this month. Come on. No, you can't do it this month. What do you want? There's just time frames to things. And I think with weight loss, we've been just sold this bullshit idea that you can just do it all at once. For our entire lives, and it's bullshit. And so we go into the process just already screwed up because we're thinking we get a bachelor's degree in 2 months. And when you tell me it's gonna take 4 years, it feels like a, like a million years to me because all my whole life I thought you get a bachelor's in 2 months. You just got, you got to work really hard. You got to go to school and, uh, study, uh, you know, 20 hours a day. But I thought I could do it in 2 months. Well, you can't. That's what it's like with weight for you. And as soon as you calm the fuck down Relax. What is your rush? The irony is you've been trying to lose weight for decades at this point. Jesus Christ, take a year, take 2 years. Just relax. Calm down. You're trying to do too much at once and you wonder why you can't be consistent. So it sounds like you already— Salima, that walking is the perfect example I'm talking about. Are you not consistent? Because it sounds like you're walking and that sounds like you're consistent with that. Notice your difference between walking and getting consistent with that and the idea of starting another diet and how you can't imagine being consistent with that. That should prove a lot of what I'm saying to you. Salima says, I guess all my life my relationship with food was psychological, and I am an emotional eater. So whenever I feel stressed, I eat chocolate, I drink sodas, and in such big quantities. Well, there you go, Salima. So now we're really getting somewhere. So it's not about how much you can stick to a diet. One of your biggest eating challenges, calorie-wise, is that sometimes you're using food to manage your emotions. So you get stressed, and because you've never learned a better way that works for you to deal with the stress, you turn to chocolate. Chocolate's your best stress reliever. Sodas are your best stress relievers when you get really stressed at this point. So again, the emotional eating is not the problem. It's a symptom of a deeper problem that you don't know how to manage your stress in a more effective way. So you may notice that the walks actually help with that, cuz that may help your management of stress better. And you'll need some strategies to be able to use when the stress hits you acutely as well. But, um, and says, I went from 86 kilograms to 67 kilograms and my goal weight is 50 kilograms. Again, I mean, that's a, that's a huge goal. That's— and I'm not, I'm not judging it. We all get to choose what we want to weigh. Um, but you know, just take some time and really reflect on why you all chose that goal weight. 23D says, I try tapering off and it comes back the weight with a vengeance. Well, what's tapering off mean? You know, this is what I mean. Like, most dieters have their average calorie consumptions up here. They go on a diet and cut 60 to 70% of their calories off. Tapering off, what's that mean? You're eating more again? You know what I mean? Like, but where? Relative to what? So I get it, but— and I'm not, I'm not trying to be an asshole, but I think some dieters, they're just so fixated on the losing weight part that they don't think about living at their goal weight part. But I get it, it's a common thing. Yeah, the food noise is astronomical. Well, there's almost no way to increase food noise more than by going on a diet. I will say that too, as well. Um, oh, and you're on a Monjuro? Yeah, yeah, it tests my blood sugars after taking it. It does. Yeah, I hated Zep Bound, losing weight by nausea bullshit. I stopped and doing it right. Yep. Great job. Yeah, no, I get it, I get it. I, I think a lot of people have that experience too, that they, they get on that. I mean, that's what it is though. Again, you have to understand that your desire for food gets turned down, you know, and, and they try and keep it right. They don't want to make you nauseous, but your, um, oh, I'm thinking I'm blanking on the word. They don't want you to be nauseous, but they want to keep you right below nauseous. So that's a big part of how these, um, these GLP-1s work is they activate your, um— I don't know why I'm not thinking of the word here. I just can't think of the word. But basically, it's the level below nausea. So, so you're not feeling great. That's the point. And you're not feeling— again, I know people, people losing weight— no, I feel amazing. I love food as much as I ever did. No, you didn't. If you love food as much as you ever did, you wouldn't have lost weight. You'd be eating the same. But you don't, you don't love food as much as you ever did. I love the food noise is gone. That's fine, I get that you love that the food noise is gone right now though because you're losing weight. And once the weight loss stops and now you're living in this reality where you never enjoy food again like you used to, I am curious to see where people come out with that because that, that's a factor. So 2025 says I want to go from 135 to 124. It's hard. Yeah, it's hard because again, you're looking 135 to 124. I don't know how tall you are, and it's not for me to tell you whatever, um, but we're talking about— you're talking about an 8%, 8%. You want to drop 8% of your weight, and as soon as you get into that range, you're talking mastery level. And mastery level for anything in life is the hardest phase. It's the longest phase. It's the slowest results phase. So the big mistake dieters make is they think of how the first 5 pounds they dropped and the last 5 pounds they drop are gonna be the same. They're not. It's just like, you know, if you learn to paint, you never painted before, the first month you get better faster than any other time during your journey. And when you get 90% of the way to mastery, that final 10% is the slowest amount of that— is the slowest time. So yeah, it's hard if you want to get down to some real perfect, perfect weight that that's really what you consider to be perfect and it's hard. Yeah, it's hard. And take it on as such. It's like demanding straight A's from yourself. It's— do I mean like there's a huge difference between getting, you know, B's and A's and just getting A's? You know what I mean? Like that they seem really close, but the effort in order to go from one to the other is like this. Does that make sense? It's the same with the weight. And I don't think people look at it that way. Then they get all frustrated and discouraged sometimes. So make sure you don't do that. Plus, I think though, speaking to that point, that I think if you're going to really master your weight, you are absolutely going to need a comprehensive, robust, holistic plan as well. And I am reading TikTok comments. I just read that, but it's a hard— the TikTok comments are like hard to track because they show like everything and I lose them sometimes. But Caramel says, I think we should eat like children. They are most in tune with their bodies. Sounds weird but true. Um, yeah, I mean, children are in tune with their bodies, but we're not children, we're adults, and we have adult nervous systems that we've developed in a food environment, um, with shitty processed addictive foods, constant non-stop marketing, and the culture. So I, I— it sounds good, like, to say we're gonna eat like children But what does that mean exactly? You ain't a child. You can't go back to having a child's nervous system. So you'd have to be really specific about what it means to eat like a child. And I know what you mean. I kind of get— I think I have an intuitive sense of what you're trying to say, but it's really— it's completely not helpful to say eat like a child. I mean, it's not specific enough in my opinion. But I think I get what you mean. Like, I think because it's like intuitive eating, people say, oh, you should eat intuitively. What the fuck does that mean? Eat intuitively. What do you think you've been doing? Your intuitions are going to make you overweight like they've been doing. So if you're an overweight person, the last thing in the world I would suggest to you is to eat intuitively. I think that's what you've been doing. So I think like eating like a child is right in that ball. What's that mean exactly? What's it mean? And what child, a 1-year-old? Because plenty of kids, by the time they're 5, all they've been eating is fast food and junk food. So you want to eat like them? Because their intuitions ain't going to help you either, probably. Something in Greek and I can't read Greek. Uh, Rab says, I started by not snacking after a certain time. That's great. No seconds on meals too. See, that's— that to me is a smarter strategy because it's not everything, it's something. And something you can stay consistent and get better at. Everything, you get overwhelmed and quit. I think that's That's a much better strategy to break it down. Sophia says it takes a lot of effort and you have to just accept that. Yeah, exactly, exactly. But you don't have to accept that that has to be the goal though, either. That's the other piece, you know what I mean? Like, if you choose some really, like, low goal weight for yourself, that's fine. That's your right. But please, you have to say, okay, it's going to take a lot of work and effort and focus. Okay, cool. I'm willing to do it or I'm not. But you can also make the decision, ah, but for what? 10 more pounds on me, what's that going to change? And my life's so much easier up here. You can make that decision too, though, you know. I think people, they forget about that part. Um, user 84484 says, do you believe in cheat days where you get to indulge? Um, I don't like that languaging at all, but yes. Um, cheat days to me is just right off the bat semantically don't like it. I always joke, why don't you call them adultery days? How's that feel? You want to have an adultery day? Cheat day is just, it's It's negative connotations right down to your nervous system, and I don't like it. And I don't like indulge either, because that implies that, you know, cheating, you get to eat this stuff, you get to indulge in things you never get to eat. I don't like it. In Program Yourself, then we call them pleasure days because we're aiming after like how to get the most pleasure out of food. So we're working on multiple levels to get our eating under control, to eat the foods we love, but also to learn how to eat them differently in a way that we get the most pleasure out of. So there's a lot of reframing going on. I, in a sense, yes, I absolutely believe— I know what you mean when you say cheat days and indulging too, by the way. I'm not an idiot. I know what you mean, but I cannot accept that framing. I don't like those words at all. And the words I use, you know, we use in the program is clean and pleasure days. We eat pleasure foods. There's no off-limit foods. We eat whatever we want, but we practice eating it in a different way. We eat it more moderately. So yes, I kind of agree with what you're saying in one sense. But I reframe the hell out of it, and that fundamentally changes the whole thing too, to the point that I wouldn't agree with what you said, probably. So sorry, I can't just give you a simple answer. I don't know why I'm like this. Um, she says the GLP-1 is heightened the satiety response, so it appears way earlier than no GLP-1. Um, Well, it heightens the satiety response. Well, yeah, but what's that mean? Satiety again, satiety is not like— it's just, it's a more complex concept than just like, it's just this limit it gets to and then you just hit it. Now we're good. Same with like food noise. I mean, it's just, it's a universe of things going on, but that's kind of how people experience it ultimately. So it appears way earlier than GLP-1. I just, I don't, I don't like that framing. I don't like it. It's like there's some truth to it, but it's also not— it's not complete in my opinion. And it's, it's up for— I, I just don't like it. I think it leaves a lot of space for people to project ideas and thoughts into that, and I don't think it's a complete idea, even though there's some reality to that. Do you have diabetes? No, I do not have diabetes. Um, Loser 484 says losing it isn't hard, it's maintaining it, knowing if I lose track I will gain it back. Um, no, but you— what you just said, really, if you go back and reread that, there's a lot of wisdom. Well, I wouldn't say wisdom, but there's a lot of information. What you said, losing it isn't hard. Um, that's not true. First of all, don't ever say that. I'll give you that losing it feels easier for you all than maintaining, but wouldn't you also agree that you never, ever, ever, never learned how to maintain ever in your lives? All you've ever been focused on is losing weight. So wouldn't it make sense that losing is easier than maintaining? Because one you've learned and focused on and one you've never practiced or learned about, you know? Um, so yeah, that, that, but that's a big reason why, um, if I lose track, I'll gain it back. But that's because the way you think about weight loss is that you have to do it like a dieter where all of your focus is on dieting. And once you get to your goal weight and your eye slips a little bit, you go right back to what you always did. And that's because in the dieting model, you never change your subconscious programming. In dieting, you can never trust yourself. You never start to believe in yourself. You never start to naturally think, live, and eat like a thin, healthy person. Dieting is a top-down— you're controlling and fighting and forcing yourself to do things. And the second you lose a little bit of focus, you just go back to doing what you always did. So I agree with that, which is why in Program Yourself Thin, the goal is totally different. It's not just about losing weight as quick as we can. It's about creating a way of life where we think, live, and eat like a thin, healthy person naturally, so that, um, how we're thinking, living, and eating naturally creates the weight we want, you know, because that other thing is a factor, you know, for sure. Yeah, User 44 says, I agree. Yeah, yeah, right, we all know that, right? I don't know, it's like, this is the truth, right? So we need a different plan. Um, Karen says, 5'5", they want me to be 135. I look thin now, I never drank liquor, I am now I'm going to have my labs repeated. Yeah, good for you, Karen. So yeah, yeah, okay. I— they want me to be 135. I will tell you that, that— now, now I'm triggered, Karen. And I told you, I literally told you 135, didn't I? Because I know, I know how this works. I've been around the block. That's up for you. But, but I definitely wouldn't take them as they know everything. And yeah, what those 25 pounds are going to do for your health, I would want to get them to be very, very specific. Because I just got lots of questions in my mind now. Um, Carol says, I love listening to you, thank you for all you do. Thank you, Carol, I appreciate that. It's nice of you to say. Um, Jane says, where in the Blueprint is it? It is, uh, it's in the lifestyle section of the Blueprint, and it's the, what, second thing? Sleep's most important, water is second most, so it's the second thing. But in addition to that, if you Jane, go to the mindset— no, go to the blueprint section in the members area. Go to lifestyle and then scroll down. You'll see the training. It's a video. It's a 20-minute video I did. Watch that too. All right, um, Nude Blush says, hi, how do you encourage the benefits of long-term weight loss and those who use that as an excuse to start tomorrow in perpetuity? Sense of urgency versus slow and steady. Um, well You know, listen, I'm not going to argue with you all. You all want to— I know you all want to start everything all at once because that's what you've been trained your whole life. So go ahead, Monday, start on Monday. Okay. But if you can't start on Monday, here's the— here's what I'm going to say to you. If you can't start on Monday, start— so give yourself two plans on Monday. Either I'm going to start my keto plan, my intermittent fasting, tracking calories, all in. Okay, that, that's there, it's available for you, go ahead, do it. But if Monday comes and you find you're not able to get yourself to do that, have a plan B. And plan B may be— plan B may be, I'm gonna drink water, um, I'm gonna drink 40 ounces of water a day, 20 ounces of water a day. I'm gonna take a 5-minute walk every day. I'm gonna eat an apple every day. All right, so give yourself a Plan A and a Plan B. Nude Blush is what I would suggest. And if you can do Plan A, go ahead, more power to you. But if you can't do it, have Plan B in place. That's one way. So Jenny, Jenny says, thanks so much for all the time you give for free to try and help everyone. Dale, thank you, Jenny. I appreciate you saying that. Yes, a passion for me, I would say. Lois agrees. Well, thank you, Lois. Don says, thank you, you helped immensely over the last few months. Well, thank you, I appreciate that. And I help even more folks. So again, if you're not in my world, click the link in my bio and go get the free hypnosis session I give you. Not only do I give you the hypnosis session, I give you a bunch of free other stuff. And one of the main things I give you is PYT Daily, is a brand new thing I just started. I give it to you for free. Every day to send you a little something. It might be a support email, it might be a video I made, it might be a TikTok I did. Just little different things to kind of support and help you out along the way, completely free. And, um, if you sign up for that hypnosis session— I'll put it in the link here— um, if you do that, I will send it to you, and then you'll be on my email list, and I'll give you the other information. If you're on TikTok, you can just click my picture up there on the top left, and, uh, it'll bring it to you. All right. Um, so yeah, go check that out. And I hear every Monday through Friday I'm here right around noon Eastern. So if you like this, feel free to pop in, ask whatever questions you may have. I'm here to help you as best I can. If you can't make the lives, it's also a podcast. You can go to programyourselfthin.com. Um, you can search that in any podcast platform, it'll pop up, listen to whenever you like it. And, uh, finally, yeah, my book. I got a book available. So if you're looking for something to read that will help you with your weight, this is the book. The Tao of Living at Your Goal Weight, um, is the one. All right, so go check that out, and, uh, it's at Amazon. You can get that, and, uh, there's a Kindle version, a regular version. Go check it out, get it. And, uh, yeah, have a super weekend. I hope you all have a nice weekend and, uh, celebrate Easter if you're celebrating Easter. I hope you have a wonderful Easter, and we'll see you all next week. Bye, everyone.