How To Get Good At Losing Weight

Hey everyone. Welcome to today's stuff the podcast. Today we're talking about how to get good at losing weight. It's how to get good at it. And before we get to that, let's back and just focus on the aspect of getting good at it. I feel you somebody with weight loss people just assume they get good at it. We're just humble to them do it. You know, that's how this bull stuck the way our process. I'm good, you know, but the truth is that you only have the skill that you got. And if you're overweight, the skills you have to lose probably aren't great.

Basketball. You real play basketball. Just tell me how to do it. I'll just do it. Practice doing. But you can't just be whole.

To realize your motivation, your ability to track your eating habits, you know, your lifestyle routine. You have all different components. If you try break my heart and look at the bed another kitchen tomorrow day another good eating piece of fruit. I eat all natural foods regularly. Just okay on the cur at it. This is how you get good at losing weight components to make you good health.

You break apart and practice those things and get better at them. And that's the problem with anything. But wait, that's necessary.

Mindset, right? Your ability to hunger, your ability to change your routines and behaviors. It's probably not that great because you haven't really learned how to do it. You just jump 100% each time you do it for a little while and then you fall off track and that's what you so the real steps is changing your weight. In my opinion. Just start looking at something you're going practice and work on like hobby or a skill or like dancing or sport or martial art drawing. You know, it's one of these things that you engage with. You engage with. You see where you're at and you try basketball. Go and play the kiss I can work on. I wear my drools off a bunch of times. You know, break it apart. We work on little pieces. Better pieces will improve a whole. It's not reconciled if you do this in most areas. But what kind of weight loss gave a condition they don't practice. If you're serious, if you really want it, then just force yourself to do it. And again this is this way of looking at it. The huge stuff stuck, you know, because you just keep on doing the same thing. You know, break down basketball playing and sick harder and go back to the same situation.

And I don't think I still think is not it's not you the whole time to think about it as you doing this forcing stuff to do it as if there skills or abilities you have that you can develop that make the whole process easier. And we start breaking.

Water struggle getting sleep stress. Okay great.

Better. And if you approach like this it's game changing this way you've not approached it this way way off through is all or nothing whatever the plan is and when you can't do it don't go back and reflect.

How can you start something you're not good at and just expatriate you're not grad. You know I'm trying to be a little baby.

When you start breaking apart you're going to comfortably yourself getting better you're going to try to improve yourself so it'll flow and that is how you lose weight. But you are send yourself live at your goal. That's the key thing as well. Okay but back to looking at weight look at everything else in life if you like better something it gets a process of interacting with it breaking it down figuring out where you can prove those things go back into it it's the same thing never do.

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You've been less right you've been told the wrong things and it's a situation where you're struggling with a lot of things that you need stroll. Okay I'm not saying that I'm talking about process for sure but when to bed at you know then it says have completed experience it's a long term success. Okay so hope this helped you out if you any question feel free to ask them anyway welcome get on to people with.

No I'm an absolute weight loss master. There's no question about that so because any challenges you have being weight loss motivation.

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I have never declined did relax you know which chronic stress when you're chronic stress that just escalates all the difficulties you know in your honesty stress. So to me again thinking strategically I think some of the time.

And so constant idea is that strategic focus.

Will power and force in their change will power every more use to relax you coming down start hydrating yourself to start sleeping better start relaxing and when you start to step into that space physically yourself.

You start to have more ability to kind of manage and absorb mistake you make. Okay again I'm not saying that the last 100 and rested fixes the readings it doesn't okay but it changes a lot usually and it's usually the easiest way for you you know so and then people are always impatient or Rush to lose weight so this would jump.

But live at your old weight having a foundation of calm grounded, centered, relaxed energy phones for you is so helpful because you know even way can spend a little while you know to do. Okay so yeah what I if you were cyborg.

The problems you know how to get yourself do it consistently. Okay. So we're looking at weight loss need recognize what state are you in regularly now. If you're chronically stressed you're going to be hurt.

You're relaxing calm, you feel grounded your tender a bit. Most importantly increase ability to see things differently to make better choices naturally. So to me it's like in a fundamental focus to start seeing ourselves in comprehended state normal way. And we operate that stress. If you look at most.

Diet you're already depleted already chronic stress. Okay then diet. And what is that experience like right now Take you chronically stress up to here and now overwhelm you even more or to stress even more. I'm not telling you the first day plan and f grabbing your horns your calories restricting food. I tell that super stressful to you. I know it is yourself that you already just feel like and now fix it. You're going to overwhelm yourself stress yourself out more.

No, that strategy is not right for the situation that you're already chronically stressed and pleaded. And so the idea like oversteering yourself even more whatever die can you got going on it just to make sense. Because you're always with the strategy marathon always end up the same place that you burn out you out and can't finish. And so the sooner recognize this as soon start to approach this and.

To not break habit working let be done topic task for working. Yeah. Okay. So you know again, before you answer that I just want to point out the fact that most dieters who obsess losing weight. The core of your weight is your habits. Your weight essences are. No that's easier eating habits. Okay. So if you want to change your habits now here the interesting thing. If you have.

New habits, most likely you like no strategic understanding of habits and how to deal them. The question because if you no idea how habits work like habit how does it operate England.

Mind you can just override willpower. Obviously. Okay. Long term and almost never do habits lose fate and soul power. So do you understand yourself? So.

And basically there's trigger behavior and reward. Okay. And this pattern is patterns.

Okay. So there's patterns in your behaviors. And understanding those pattern really is the fundamental piece of gaining your weight. Because we're doing change your weight and focus it's not just lose weight and you learn how to influence habits effectively and long term and so be there transform it into either a habit you know is neutral or I have a position and so I don't know what habits you're working on I don't know but what a lot of people do is they're not think strategically not understanding habits works honestly habits and just never works.

Down on gas below down and the other you're trying to stop the harm your bushes and before the highest people try to change their behaviors it's the habits and those habits are just down running it's obviously a very stressful situation. You know idea what we want to do is first eat off gas and put down on the we're absolute power strategically we can't ease up yes our unhealthy bad habits.

Now yeah no habit you're looking to that we're wearing more is just I have to talk terms if you want to make me specific habits you're talking about more nuance specific answer too but again that's kind of big picture analyzed there.

Still that's another point so most diet is you think about 20 hours a day but you're probably not really motivated I don't know that and question are you motivated or not hold on.

You like that's not motivation. Motivation is reflecting what you do and so if you are currently doing things to improve your improve your lifestyle and move your weight down then you're motivated. If you think about weight loss all the time you don't actually do anything make happen you're not motivated. It's real simple. Do not confuse yourself I believe are tricking themselves the thing they're really motivated and they're not now because initial hurdle most.

True genuine game of it both sides are not reamovich if you're not doing anything actively to lose weight not motivated it's that simple. Let's keep this simple easy okay so again understand how to motivate yourself in those skills I was talking about and it's probably one thing you have no idea how to do. You're probably probably a weak skill for you if you like besides motivation really just at the mercy of you sometimes shows out of blue is falls bunch of bricks and now times you can't find motivation how you this question have you ever learned motion.

I'm here to point out if you're feeling FL your it's because you don't know what to do you ever broken it down and pieces and scales and Burn the scales and weight. Well you learned how to have no skills and then just flow some die out of the balloon trying to do that out of the clearly make no sense. And so.

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And in it right here you can see we get motivation. Yeah motivation's acting along. You know we go through.

Questions to help you genuinely motivated. You try to understand motivation as a process. So you learn the process so that all that you have motivated you know how to get your and I don't know.

Could not be you know if not motivated how are they going to get results?

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And he says changes after another proved to be a same change for me Chancey. Thank you for sharing that same for me. I hope everyone hear that. Okay.

You're not allowing small changes probably relying grand slam right about your life and how you behave and how you think about you do completely different person tomorrow on Monday. That's the problem. That's the idea and it's ridiculous. You can just come a whole different person tomorrow. Like just impossible.

Today, huh? How you do that?

Oh yeah. How two they would be I'm sore as hell tired how be God. So you know it's not that weight loss hard it's the way to do it is possible the example just give a limited contest. You know do.

Serious that's how you are. And they go trying to get through the day.

Absolutely. But I know I want real fast. How long do you want results fast for? That is at some point you got to line Wi of your experience in life loss one means you being overweight. Nothing good or valuable comes instantly. I never seen so yes it's not diet crushes stressful on woman. And so we have to protect the same and we start inform yourself and stressful. You start the first day session in the morning. You start last how bad you go in your mind. You start slowly systematically changing your reading strategically focusing on the biggest ice calorie habit you have.

It's not a surprise.

Yes, because look people do away quickly and then put them back on. Every diet is shown to be a failure long term.

We all know this and it's because I don't care if you listen to lost F probably a couple times and then put back on. And if those kind of must destructive because you struggle nutting with thoughts. But losing all weight and putting all back on is absolute destiny. And most people the point that what's the point why I even start diet successful fail you start losing weight in the back anyways.

Not them that's broken. It's the Diet the concept of dieting is broken from the start. And unfortunately for most people dieting being weight loss for Most can mean 13 things dieting 3rd injections who didn't know it's going to show you how to change your weight by changing mindset by strategically approaching it. So you want her diabetic every day.

You've been focused on and this session with fastness and results is what ties you to consciously to three planes you can't stick with. So we let go of the instant assault focus we start to reframe. Our actual goal is from want to lose way to want to live at our goal.

For the rest of your life in a way that's comfortable and enjoyable for you ways for second nature the ladder of the best life hustle the best version of yourself you can be now because the goal the strategies automatically shift because she's not going to bring to that place.

The goal is to change right from the gang. And once that changes yeah we really.

Die every day I help many kids possible there always and I literally every month Friday I got here free. I'm happy to help anyone out and I do this because you know.

Directly related lifestyle related and so for me what's more just wearing your skinny jeans it's really as long you can having here. And I've do this personally for professionally over one years. And it's exciting to know that there is a bad way to do this thing. So many people struggle with to know there's a better way you know is literally the reason I here can I share that Because I believe a lot of people struggle primarily because now learn how to do it properly. You know it's like dieting is the equivalent like G now whereas every quick you understand them in context because most people eat traditional route of developing some skill or ability of value that they're compensated for. And there's.

Way off. You've never been given this tradition log rational approach not really all you've given is eat non stop parade of D and true is the diet fill stuff different but always the same with the diet no matter what you do you're going to be vegan you're going to watch doesn't matter any always the same but always use it is that you're going into it 100% on day one you're gonna go for being a meteor D and vegan you're gonna go for being hard. You know you're gonna every single point they put in your body all of a sudden it's overwhelming and you Very quick out of it. So again we want to find ways that they're longer one way. You know there's no way to ob only work for you. That being said if you're actually losing weight obviously just f stuff every day that works for some people I'm looking with it but to me one of cool thing you could do if you never w yourself daily fluctuates every single day and so we yourself once a week you know because you might be you just wear yourself on a Sunday night and you're down two pounds. Okay and then over the week you lose three two pounds say and loss show up.

So now over the week if you.

Down the scales their be lowest points and it doing there's nothing worse than you know.

So to me is just for people's go me and to me that just highlight the fact that your mindset is not really set up for success. You know I mean if you're so emotionally connected to scale it's like total power over you in in the ideal world with scale just a bull just a reference point you know like when you I know.

You don't know how to manage emotions don't afraid to scale you if you're scared they avoid it but to me the fear of the scale just reveals a lot of mindset work that needs to be done.

You're gonna need to have more ability manager. Okay so yeah every day.

I was coming out of my everyday and.

Okay so.

I'm not putting all pressure on measuring from successor so.

Important it's like what weird what here it's just weird. I don't like so much fear how fear people have when the cells will come to their weight there's such huge emotion that oh I don't have weight. You're terrified. I mean terrified that's the word I'm ch very specifically if you're terrified of sale do you think terror is supportive for you to master your weight.

Every day what happened is sometimes other times it feels like it's going up the same same but we waste every day you just start to be a little bored.

Which is that really not so you just. You're very superstitious the ultimate you know arbit of weird excess or not it's not that way for me because I'm very aware of my behaviors so I know how I know how my ideas.

Less it usually takes out two for that to show my weight. Do you know that valuable because it is because now I know like if I want to lose weight.

Last night I'm not playing better let you weapon this ale. I'm trying to eat better because I'm a little lighter.

Feel pretty humble. Feel good. Let's see what the weight shows and before it I didn't expect to see the results for two weeks.

This is a £25 14 years ago started eating I was myself and I'm like oh God, what's going up and holy.

For a while and it was five and eight pounds of.

Knowing what your body and how your body loses weight is really crucial because everyone believes folks if you don't know this I just want to point out that however see you don't know stuff you just I. Most buyers just like they're a dark room try findings you know and pull out see to do that they're just f around so know that people lose weight. You know that have you read a metal they take a group of people put metabol and count for every single cal the same levels and after four weeks, eight weeks they pull them out they all different way. So an unpleasant fact of life that you may fast weight lose you may a slow weight loser. If you're so you got to realize that instead of crying sleep just accept it and just if you know £50 your friend all 6 you2 years who give a hair doesn't matter.

It's not that coming at all. Now the video is they usually eight pounds is going to go away quickly. It's pretty difficult to put or lose legitimate pound overnight. You know I mean so.

Lot of reason this can happen, you know. But yeah.

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So but again this is perfect example how I am every day. If I binge yesterday I know next week I think that's the worst decision you can make because I have an opportunity to see your body more. Jesus Christ.

It's just. It's so strange to have a fearful used to accomplish a goal.

£5 pretty much pretty quickly. So I would use I want to scale every day.

But again.

You d always fade into appearing where you freak out and quit. And you got to manage that because that manage.

Very difficult very difficult to get your weight when you're eating a high diet very difficult. You know so great for him.

The old before the diet routine really works out. Yeah.

To me it's a core part of yourself like when the be learning how your mind works. You know like one of the. For example you got these water near horn make harder and so you ought to learn those. You really ought to know about that because.

And the way it works is you know just Keep progressing you know.

But kind like your final fate. It's like that you know about your negativ how impact you no chance success losing weight because one triple up there's like that the more you understand yourself more you can strategize that to do it.

And I've not seen it. I find maintenance science and focus is almost non existent. It's really weird But I believe 1000% of blog.

That me support that number one is microbiome dramatically transforms because yeah the weight loss comes from the changes in reading. So even if you just eat it down it's so much better for your body. So when you start consuming less food and if you start eating all your food transferring healthy as well you change yourself systematically. Like the whole system changes your metabolism, your insulin resistance, your cellular functioning, your microbiome your hormonal functioning. I mean it's gone on and then body your cells completely generates.

Kind of male flipples necks that flip and change depending on our environment. So as you stick this longer longer you could have become a deeper deer and deeper level this U version yourself. And I think the initial that I'm going to they all go to make easier. So I I great question and there's no question like thing I just said epigenetics functioning psychological literally just va or skills mastery all of the things get better the laundry and do things different. So but it's imagine the case.

So she feels you know feels that third pound stitch palm way more than she feels the 40 pounds ultimately she lost. That's the good by the way you do a lot of that because what happens for K2 what you're struggling with people struggle with is they just said oh the issue can't believe I put.

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To sustain.

To me you know solutions are always the same. There is some resistance hypothyroidism as PCOS just whatever physical menopausal issues what to the solution is always the same initially and then you read them and so so often whatever is your issue hypothetism you don't really know how much your lifestyle how much type of operating this you know. And so you don't have a so to me like personality is one of 13 and then see what happens you take from there. So the ide of looking at is much better because what results you are going to be real to you. Rather than telling you some idea. You know. So you can have experimenting on mindset lifestyle eating and see what happens. Because every thing I see everyone succeed way of g things maybe longer you may not get to the same result as I p ultimately but I've seen some mag results.

The part that's always to me the most important piece is your mindset and even you succeed you can feel that override a kilogram weight loss and delete it and stab so I can control the means is crucial.

Every day.

And beginning you every day.

That'S the other side of the emotional amount of fear.

What are your thoughts on the value of weight term out there on Maria I should say I think the social effort watches probably probably the most effective weight loss non medical intervention that existed okay that being said move forward.

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Real value and useful but they're not really learning new skills they really change in the long term and I say this because I had I program I pull their lifelong members that maintain for years and have membership program why because never really teach you how to let your goal weight in easy way possible isn't about mastering or psychologically sty eating we're talking about and so yeah takes that thing out there but I think as well.

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I don't you know I personally don't buy that stuff I think that what I mean that is that I don't believe in bells for virtually anything friend foods definitely hold with a lot of good guy so I definitely think being friend is fine but the most important thing process foods first and I think that's much probably and don't worry about either the idea of friend food or health I just think you know that's fraction of this.

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Nutrient dense variety of.

Me want like going on you got a lot of it's normal by the way obviously you have adjusted for situations job losses do relationships health stuff you know responsibility changing you're going to get.

The ability to flow with.

To share this with you and so knew what was going on but I and you know.

And you start a new job and you throw things but regardless thing IG months yeah so this is what I mean for two years so what you know and what happens is you can't eat the same way you be for two years and instead of acknowledging that and dealing with it just start freaking out you and this using the energy to look at the situation now and just and find somewhere for your new situation right after being way back on so yeah this is it's a living breathing process you know so.

Right what we do go back to this able to rate the eating session because if you were on this plan you had a structure eating plan right now structure my schedules change and so find structure to fit your new reality in it's not like a magical sh where you never throw away again it's a system to interface with the things that control your weight so when you all of a sudden job dangerous you're not CL off hard you're clearly aware of it.

Is that this is a blueprint for a thing like person when you do this the first time you fill this out you're filling for example she fills all this out with her old job.

Over you get to change a couple whose blueprints to dust and new environments find yourself in that makes sense you know because buyers again.

Doesn'T make any sense in the context and because they don't have the ability to see that it does again just hand put it away on so watch that it's very common so all right.

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