Imagining You're At Your Goal Weight

things you can do in order to manage your weight more effectively. It is stepping right into a future where you are experiencing the results you want to experience, because when you do this, it trains your subconscious mind to experience that reality. And there are so many benefits to doing that. We're going to do it in just a second here, but there are so many benefits. The first is that you get to test drive it. You get to practice Being the person you want to be. A lot of times we think when we're going to lose weight that we just need to be given the plan, then we'll force ourselves to do it. But we need to be able to practice. Yeah, you can write down on a piece of paper what you're supposed to do, but being able to do it's a whole different thing. I can write down how to swing a golf club, but being able to swing it smoothly and hit the ball right is a whole different thing, and it requires practice. And this is one of the big spaces that dieting kind of drops, is that Dieting doesn't allow you to practice. You either be perfect or you're not doing it. So this is a way to practice being the person you want to be. And the other thing that ends up happening is that you start to motivate yourself at a much higher level, because instead of steeping yourself in a body and a mindset that you don't like and you want to change, and expecting that once I get there, then I'll feel better, this allows us to step into the future and the reality that we want to experience. And the more we step into that in our imagination, the more motivating it becomes. It's no different than a commercial. Commercials work by having you imagine what it's like to consume the product before you've done it, and that creates desire, and that's what creates the behavior to go and get the product or the other thing. So it's the same with our weight. Instead of just feeling bad about ourselves and then expecting that once we lose the weight, then we can feel better, Let's feel better now. Let's feel better now in all the different ways that you expect to feel better when you're at the weight you want to be at. So this becomes very motivating. Another way to think of it, it kind of magnetizes your goal. It pulls you towards it because it starts becoming much more compelling and much more real to you because you're steeping yourself in what you expect it to feel like at your goal weight. And before we go through a quick version of this, and I want you to see how simple it is. I want you to realize that what we're doing is we're stepping into the subtle things of being at your goal weight, because a lot of times you probably have big, vague ideas of what being at your goal weight is. Oh, the scale will say this. I'll wear this size clothes. I'll look this way. People will comment and say I look a lot better. These are kind of the big, vague things we think about. But oftentimes the thing that motivates us most are the subtle little things. It might be the imagining of walking up the stairs at your goal weight easily and comfortably. It might be going shopping and being able to do it in a calm, way because you're buying clothes that you feel good in and you appreciate the size you're at. It might be getting in and out of your car. It could be little things that a lot of times are the things that really motivate us the most. So let's take a second and do this. Take a deep breath in, slowly let it out. Relax your face, your shoulders, your chest, and your stomach. Let everything relax. And I want you to imagine that it's tomorrow morning. Tomorrow morning and you wake up at your goal weight. I'm trying to— waking up at your goal weight before you even open your eyes, you're at your goal weight and you know you're in this body. I want you to just take a second. If that had happened, if you're lying in bed and you're at this weight, what would you do? Would you feel your body? Would you just feel lighter even just laying there? Would you feel excited to go start your day? How would it feel to wake up tomorrow morning at your goal weight? The next step is to imagine hopping out of bed. Imagine hopping out of bed and you get dressed in the exact outfit that you would love to wear. So whatever outfit you'd love to wear, fancy or not, whatever it is you imagine, imagine getting dressed in that outfit and notice how much easier it is to get dressed in those clothes at that weight as that version of you. And now imagine moving through your morning tomorrow at your goal weight. Notice the subtle things of how you move. How you go up and down stairs, how you get in and out of chairs, how you walk, how you breathe, how you hold yourself when you imagine yourself at that weight. And now imagine moving through your day, whatever you expect to have happen tomorrow. I want you to imagine the same thing happening, but you at your goal weight. I want you to imagine you at your goal weight going through tomorrow, whatever you expect to do, the people you're going to see. The things you're going to do and imagine doing in this body as this version of you. Again, it's not just that you visually look different. I want you to notice differently the different things on the inside, how you're thinking differently, the feelings that are different on the inside, the way you hold yourself and breathe, the little subtleties that you imagine being at your goal weight. And imagine moving through that day and allow your mind to generate the details of what that day would involve and include. Think about how you would eat at your goal weight. Think about how you would eat in terms of your speed and your rate. Would you slow down? Would you be more calm? Would you be more grounded? Again, the more you imagine yourself as the person you want to be, the more you become this person. And now bring your imagination tomorrow all the way to the end. You imagine yourself going to bed at your goal weight, reflecting on the day you had, and excited to experience another day just like it. The next one. Now you could say, well, I'm not that weight yet, so what's the point of this? The point of it is that it trains your mind what you're like at this weight. So again, it simultaneously is practice for being that person, and it's motivation to be that person. We're juicing up the motivation, and we're practicing being the person you want to be. This, in my opinion, is the best path forward to become the thin, healthy, happy person you want to be—is that you've got to practice it, and you've got to have the proper motivation. And in order to have the proper motivation, you've. got to maintain it. You can't just start off with motivation in the beginning of the process and expect it to last the whole time. It's not going to. So we need to be able to generate the motivation regularly. And this is one of the most effective ways to do it, because what happens as you start to do this more and more is pretty soon the lines blur between what's imagination and what's reality. And next thing you know, you're waking up tomorrow and you're making healthier choices naturally. You're just moving through your day, and you're moving through it more gracefully before you've lost a pound, making better choices naturally without even trying. And as you begin to live this way, that is when the results you're looking for really start to show up in a way that you truly want to experience. So I hope you do this more. And if you want some support in doing this process, click the link in my bio, go to programyourselfthin.com, or if you are in Facebook, you can comment. Mind, M-I-N-D, and it will send you the hypnosis session that I made for you. It's called The New Thin Me, and it walks you through this entire process in a much deeper way so that you can clarify and connect to the goal weight version of you. You can imagine what it is, get a clear idea of it, and kind of step into it. And once you step into this version of you, um, it's exciting, right? It kind of almost becomes addictive in a way because this is really what you're after. You're not just after weight loss, you're after this transformation from the inside out into becoming the person you want to be. So go check that session out, go listen to it, and let me know how that feels. Um, and if anyone has any questions, feel free to ask them. I hope you're all having a nice day today. How's it going, Pat? Uh, Pat said, are mindset and behavior interchangeable? Um, no, absolutely not. Um, they're 2 totally different things. I mean, to To me, I look at behavior is the external behavior, what you're doing. And typically it's the mindset is the behind the scenes of what's causing the behavior. So to me, it's cause and effect. Okay. So there's other effects other than your mindset to some degree. But to me, mindset's the big one ultimately, because when you're in the right mindset, it's amazing what you can accomplish and what you can do behaviorally. So I don't think they're interchangeable, but they're intimately related as much as cause and effect would be. You see what I mean? So intimately related, but they're not interchangeable. They're not the same thing. They're two points on a kind of line graph. The mindset comes first and then the behavior follows. So I think that's a good way to think about it. But ultimately, you got to get your mindset right, folks, you know. And I would suggest that if you have struggled to lose weight, the number one thing that you have neglected Through no fault of your own is your mindset. There is no mindset weight loss training out there, really—not that I know of. You know, and you do all these diets, and they never—they never help you really get your mindset right. So what most dieters experience is every time you try and lose weight, you ain't changing your mindset; you're fighting against your mindset. And this is a battle you're never gonna win. You're never just gonna beat your mindset. You're not gonna beat your programming. That subconscious programming you have runs on a different level, and it runs in a much more efficient way than your willpower in your conscious mind. So again, in my opinion, long-term weight success really comes down to being able to reprogram your mind to create a better mindset for yourself—the mindset of a thin, healthy, happy person—and that's the difference. So again, a lot of dieters think, well, if I lose the weight, if I change all my behavior on the outside. That'll lead to a change on the inside, but that's not true. And it's I think that that's proven in an estimate that eighty to ninety five, eighty five to ninety five percent of dieters that lose weight put it back on. So if losing the weight transformed your mindset, that statistic wouldn't be real. You know. So again, unfortunately, we can lose weight and our mindset can stay the same. So we've got to focus on the mindset, in my opinion, right from the beginning, and. Make that the main really engine of the change that you're looking to achieve. What's up, Susan? Susan says, I just lost 1 pound when I got on the scale this morning. I'm at 143. I've been at this rate many times. I'm scared. So many times I'm at this weight and then I gain. It's almost as if I self-sabotage. How can I get over this hump? I've lost 7 pounds so far using your method. Well, nice job, Susan. And, um, I'm really— I really appreciate you asking that question because This is exactly what I'm talking about. Yeah, this is exactly what I'm talking about. Susan's— she's being successful, right? She's down 7 pounds. She just lost a pound. And instead of feeling grounded and calm and happy and excited, she feels scared. Do you get what I'm saying? Like, this is really important to understand because if, um, if we don't A lot of dieters think, well, if the weight— if the scale's going down, then everything's going to be great. But again, Susan just said it, the weight scale's gone down and I'm scared. This is what I mean. So many of my clients— I would say the vast majority of my clients are 45-plus women, you know, and at this point they have lost and gained weight so often that they now have become like apathetic permanent, you know. And how that shows up is Even if you start a plan and even if you start losing weight, you still— it activates the negative circuits, right? So what's the point? Oh shit, shit, I lost a pound. Now I'm going to gain it all back, right? So again, the first step is becoming aware of it. So great job, Susan. So you're already way ahead of the game because you even realize that most people never see this. Why? Because it's counterintuitive. Doesn't make sense. How the hell can I be losing weight and feel scared? Right? Doesn't make logical sense, and yet it's real, and it's very real. Susan is not the only person. This is not the first time I've heard this. This is, I would say, the norm. I find most people, for various reasons, um, as they start losing weight, they start getting anxious, they start getting stressed, they start getting nervous, they start getting scared. That's really important to notice. If that's happening to you, you've got to address it and deal with it. Because if the more weight you lose, the more scared and nervous you get, you're going to stop losing weight. Yes, it is self-sabotage, but not in the way you think. But it certainly becomes something that's going to prevent you from dictating your weight and whatever weight you want to live at. So Susan, the first step again is awareness. You're, you're recognizing this, so nice job, you know. Now the next thing I want to remind you of, and this is again what's so different with Program Yourself Thin than dieting, Is dieting? You're not learning skills. Dieting, you're given a plan and you're forcing yourself to follow it as long as you can. So it becomes kind of like there's the things you want to do, and then there's your willpower saying, "No, no, we're not going to do that. We're not going to do it." And dieting is basically this fighting against yourself process. And you've done this enough times, and you know now at this point that you can only do it for so long. At some point, you get distracted, you get bored, you get sick, and um. You get, you get tired of doing this and you go back to normal. And that's what you're scared of right now, Susan, right? That's what's highlighting here is your past memories are, are coming into the forefront. We've done this before and now we're just going to put all the weight back on. But what I want to focus you on is in Program Yourself Thin, what's really different is that we're developing skills. Dieting is not developing skills. It's just fighting against yourself, trying to make yourself do something different. And program yourself. Then we're developing skills, specifically the skills of mindset, lifestyle, and eating. Excuse me. Which we follow the goal weight pyramid here. Okay. Mindset, lifestyle, eating. And these are all skills. How do I think like a thin, healthy person? How do I live like a thin, healthy person? How do I eat like a thin, healthy person? How do I do it? And we learn those things, you know, if we're playing a musical instrument, right? Maybe this would be, well, what are the, the chords I learn, the scales I learn, and the rhythm I learn? You know, they're all their skills. We could break them down into smaller pieces, but as you develop the skills in those different components, your ability to succeed with the whole increases. So what I want you to remember, Susan, is that you're developing the skill of being more relaxed and calm. Mm-hmm. You're developing the skill of being aware of subtle little thoughts and feelings that have sabotaged you in the past because you didn't even recognize them. And if you did recognize, you didn't have any way to figure out the solution to them. You're developing the skill of running your own mind. You're developing the skill of having new structure and routine to your reading, to your lifestyle, to your thinking. These are skills that you're building yourself on top of, and what you'll notice This time around compared to previous times when you try to lose weight is that you feel more relaxed and calm and grounded. There's an idea in your mind that I could do this forever. It's not that hard, and I want you to really highlight that because you've got to realize you the part of the programming you're at now, Susan, as you start to gain some success here, is that you start believing it's going to work. But it's important to realize how it's working compared to how you've done it in the past, and in the past you've had to really fight against yourself. Every pound you had to fight for. With Program Yourself Thin, you're not fighting. You keep working on things, you keep getting better, keep developing skills, and you keep getting better and better results, you know? Yeah, Susan says, uh, yeah, your program's so freeing. I'm not tracking like I did with Weight Watchers. Yeah, it's frightening that it's not disciplined. I feel like I'm in a free fall. Yeah, no, I get it, and that's probably the scariest part, Susan. is that it can feel like— program yourself— that doesn't feel like discipline compared to a diet, you know, because diet, you need such strict discipline. But what I want you to understand, Susan, there's absolutely discipline in the program. It's just a gentle discipline. It's the discipline to listen to the, the 5-minute session in the morning. It's the discipline of doing the 60-second, you know, self-hypnotic technique at night. It's the discipline of kind of looking at your blueprint and You know, seeing what's working and what's not. So there's still discipline in there, but it's a gentle discipline that you can engage, you know, based on where you're at. Again, program yourself to remember we're not all or nothing; we're all or something. So there's always some way to engage, no matter how simple and easy it may be. And that's one of the big differences between this and dieting as well: is it's not this all or nothing thing that you can only do when you're 100% focused and motivated. We make adjustments. Sometimes we're sick. Sometimes we're tired. Sometimes we're bored. Sometimes life's just. Falling apart around us, we're not gonna be able to operate at the same level, you know, as when everything was going great. So again, understand that I bet, Susan, you are disciplined. Start to appreciate that and start to really build on this soft discipline where you're always doing something right. And again, focus on the easiest things for you to do, um, as a starting point. What's up, Jane? Jane says, how much do you How much do electrolytes matter when you're on Ozempic? I was so tired yesterday. Um, I don't know. I mean, I, I don't know. I gotta say, and this is— I guess you could say it's a weakness of mine. I don't think it's a weakness because I ignore it, but, um, you know, again, it's, uh, so funny. I, I almost have an automatic response of ignoring A lot of conventional wisdom stuff. So electrolytes, peptides, collagen, uh, gluten, keto, carbs, uh, I don't know, I, I'm blanking on all the other stuff that's been out there. But, um, it's, uh, I don't know, you know, I bet there's probably more. It could be electrolytes too, don't you know what I mean? Maybe it's electrolytes, but I bet that there's more I bet there's a more obvious reason why you might have been really tired yesterday. You might have been stressed. You might have eaten not too great the other day. You might have not slept well. Um, something might be going on in your life that you're worried about. You know, there's probably a better, more obvious reason than the electrolyte question. But what do I know? I'm not electrolyte expert either. Uh, so Pat Pat says, quote from you and May from Buddha: In the confrontation between the stream and the rock, the stream always wins, not through strength but through Through persistence, yes. I'm a big fan of Taoist philosophy, Taoism, and that is kind of an Eastern. I would say that that's a concept through a lot of Eastern philosophies and religions is the concept of water over rock. You know that the consistency of the water wears away the rock and shapes the rock, and so that is so fundamental to program yourself then. And really how I approach things is that I'm really. Building everything around resilience and consistency, because I believe ultimately it's the consistency of what you do over 6 months, over a year, over 5 years, over a decade. It's what you're doing consistently that's really going to show up in your results. And a lot of times the diets are really about intensity. How drastically can you change the— your behavior For a short period of time, so you can get these you know amazing results. And again, that's very seductive to us because of course we want instant results. But when we take a step back and you know evaluate it and consider that approach, it doesn't it doesn't succeed very often. How many people do you know that have lost weight on a diet and have kept it off for a long time? Probably not many. So it's kind of this illusion that's been sold to us by the diet industry. Uh, and the sooner we wake up from it and realize it's an illusion, the better. All right. Um, boy, these fruit flies sometimes are so, so bold. They, they fly right in my face. Uh, Susan says, okay, I'll try listening to your post and hypnotizing myself. Yeah, Susan, again, you just re-engage with the program. You can restart, um, you can restart the weekly. I don't know where you're at in it, but you can restart the weeks. You can join PYT Thrive again if you Want to join Thrive? If you want to get continuous, you know, new sessions and coaching and all the rest of it, PYT Thrive. There's a deal on that till Sunday. So hopefully you've gotten the email if you're if you're interested in it. But if not, you can just restart the program for free as well. Okay. Yeah, Susan says it was too easy to lose weight weight your way. Yes, it is easy. What do you want? Right again, we make it easy intentionally. Program yourself then is literally built. For easy weight loss simply because easy weight loss is the really the only path that works moving forward. You're not going to do hard things long term. Like, you're just not. If you haven't yet, you're not going to. Oh, sorry to say it. What's up, Mermaid? Mermaid says hi. What do you think about OMAD, one meal a day? I think one meal a day for most people is silly. And talk about like, that's the epitome of what I'm talking about. Keto, one meal a day, intermittent fasting, more extreme forms of fasting, severe restriction— all of these things are short-term plays for the vast majority of people. Now, there's always a few outliers that just thrive at these methods and can do it forever, I guess, but one meal a day for most people is extremely stressful physically, mentally, and emotionally. And all that stress increases cortisol, amongst other things, and makes it very hard to continue. Doing it, so you know again go try it out. The golden rule of programming yourself then there's no right or wrong; there's only what works for you. So if you go and try one meal a day for you know the next three four days and you love it, like you're just like holy shit this is amazing! I'm not hungry. I just have to make one meal a day. It's easy to do it. I never think about food. I just eat that and I'm good. I'm losing weight like crazy. Then then that's the plan for you. But, but if you try one meal a day and all you're thinking about is food and you're stressed out and you're getting anxious and you're irritable and you're hungry, then, uh, yeah, I don't know who gives a shit if you lose some weight with it. It's temporary. It's an illusion if you can't stick with it. So I, I would say again For most people, one meal a day is goofy town. And, you know, again, though, the diet industry really revolves around the idea that someone shows up, someone magically pops up, whether it's in a chat, you know, group, whether it's a friend of yours, uh, it doesn't matter, commercial. And so it's, oh my God, I lost, I lost 50 pounds in 3 months. How'd you do it? One meal a day, easy. One meal a day. It's, oh, that's what I'm gonna do, you know. And then you go and try and it's absolutely miserable. You can't stick to it. Then you say, oh my God. What's wrong with me? How come I can't do this? Why am I such a loser? Oh, I deserve to be fat. I'm a loser. I can't even stick to one meal a day. No, you're not a loser. You're a wonderful person who shouldn't do extreme things if you don't have to, okay? And there's other ways to lose weight that are way more comfortable. One meal a day for most people is extremely stressful, me included. I've attempted that, didn't like it much. Didn't like it much. What I found is I got Oh, I was a— I was really hungry. But beyond just being hungry, people don't really consider what hunger is a lot of times. It's not just a little the rumbly and the tumbly. It's far beyond that. When you're really hungry, every cell of your being starts to transform. Your entire nervous system and sensory apparatus gets dedicated to food. So it's not like hunger is this equivalent thing. As you get hungrier, everything starts freaking out. I say this all the time as the closest Kind of example I've seen of this to really drive it home is it's kind of like if you ever try and hold your breath, see how long you can hold your breath for. And if you do it, it's such an interesting experience, at least is for me. I will do it, and for the first 10, 15 seconds, I'm irrationally confident. I'm just like, this is easy, I could do this forever, right? And then, and then like, I don't know, I don't know the exact time, 30 seconds go by and I'm like, huh, uh, you know, I'll start thinking about a little more, right? And then 45 seconds go by, thinking about a lot more, and then I get closer and closer to the edge. It's like it exponentially doubles in stress until finally, you know what I mean? And my body takes over. So I don't see it as any different than hunger. And I find people are getting themselves way too hungry to have any chance of success long term. Long term. Now, again, you can fight yourself and starve yourself for a little while, right? We know this, but you're not going to do it for weeks, months, years. And so if you can't do it for years, what's the point? Who the shit wants to waste energy and time doing things that don't work? Not me. Not me. Yeah. Intermittent fasting. I kind of feel the same way. Yeah. Casey used to do that. And again, it works until it doesn't work. It's not built for the long term. One meal a day and intermittent fasting. Intermittent fasting is a little bit easier, but it's still very stressful for a lot of people. And for most people, intermittent fasting is really just— and same with one meal a day. They're both wonderful ways to train yourself to be a binge eater, because I can't think of any better way to become a binge eater than to get yourself really hungry every day and then open the gates to start eating. You know, it's just, it's just the perfect plan to get obsessed with food and I think ultimately end up overeating. That's what I think. So, you know, the key thing I want you to see what Casey's saying is I used I used to do that. The, the reason I'm in front of you here, folks, is because what I dropped 50 pounds over 30 years ago, but I'm still doing it. I'm still doing the plan I'm on because I love it. I love it. Yeah, Casey says, I did it for a year straight, went from 210 to 150 in 5 months. And that's where— that's what, that's what I was just saying. A lot of you are gonna see that. What, what What, 60 pounds in 5 months? What'd you do? I say one meal a day. Oh, I'm doing that, I'm gonna do that. But then what happens? I'm not trying to be a dick here because it's like, listen, I want to celebrate success, but after a while, if it's just short-term temporary success, why— I'm not gonna— it doesn't work long term. Someone's got to tell you all this. Because no one's saying it. The diet industry is constantly just bullshitting, bullshitting. So I don't know what happened. If Casey wants to share the, the end of this story. Yeah, see, that's it. Mermaid says sounds good. How did you like it? Well, I'll tell you, Casey. I will let Casey answer. I'm curious to see what Casey answers. How did they like the one meal a day thing? But the keyword I want you to tap into is used. I used to do that. This is what I'm trying to say, folks. If someone tell you— tell you— if someone's overweight and they tell you, oh my God, I lost 60 pounds doing that, and you say, well, how did you— how'd you do it? Why would you ask them that? Because it's clear it's not— they didn't continue. If they didn't continue, why didn't they continue it? Well, you already know why they didn't continue it, because you've done this yourself. Every dieter has done a plan and then stopped the plan so many times. So you have to stop just looking at the beginning of the plan and the promise of fast weight loss for a second and just look around it and say, okay, how does it usually go? How does the intermittent fasting, um, one meal a day person end up typically a year from now? Where are they at? Are they at their goal weight continuing with that plan, or have they stopped and put the weight back on? You know, and this is— that's the cure to dieting. I think if I had to pick one thing that's the cure of dieting, that cures you of dieting, is when you stop looking at the beginning of the plan and you look at how every plan ends. Because every single diet has the exact same ending, that you can't keep it up or don't want to keep it up, and you put the weight back on. You can't keep it up. You don't want to keep it up. You go back to your normal behaviors and you go back to your normal weight. And so again, this is the the the main premise of programming yourself then is that your weight is dictated by your subconscious programming. And you know this because you have done many diets or you've attempted many times to lose the weight, and you have been successful with some of those, and the weight's gone down because you've changed your behavior. But you were not able to or did not want to continue changing your behavior. You went back to your normal behavior, and then you went back to your normal weight. So, you know, this is what I mean. Like, so it's, it's— and it's not me being a jerk to dieters, please understand that. It's, it's trying to point this out so you don't do it again. I mean, most people have done this. I mean, listen, I've done over 6,000 private weight loss sessions. This isn't just my opinions. I just get up today and just decide to just talk about things I thought. This is literally— I've been doing this for over 21 years at this point professionally, and you see the same pattern over and over and over and over again. And the ultimate ending pattern of every diet is that you can't keep it up, or you don't want to keep it up, and you go back to normal behavior, normal weight. So if that's always the problem with every single diet, then how do we fix it? Well, I would suggest that we start by focusing on how we're going to live for the rest of our lives. How can we live at our goal weight? Not just get there. Not just get there. Okay. And so Casey again did something extreme to get down there and now is unable to keep that extreme thing up. But now I would suggest is the best time possible to start asking, how can I comfortably Manage my weight. How do you comfortably manage your weight? Well, you have to comfortably manage the calorie intake you're doing, and intermittent fasting and one meal a day are just these one-size-fits-all simpleton concepts for dialing down the calories. Again, not arguing that they work when you're following it, but you're only able to follow it when everything in life is kind of supporting you. What happens when you get sick, when you get tired, when you get bored, when work sucks, when finances suck, when relationships suck? Are you able to stick to that plan? Does it have flexibility? Does it have the ability to kind of stick to it? That's the— that's what we need to master in order to live at our goal weight. And dieting never sets you up for that because dieting is always this extreme approach That you need an abundance of willpower to get yourself to follow, and no one is going to have an abundance of willpower their whole lives. And so the reason that I've been able to live at my goal weight for 30 years is not because I've used willpower and relied on willpower. I've relied on my programming. I've relied on my habits, my mindset, lifestyle, and eating habits, so that what I naturally do on near autopilot—you know how you brush your teeth on near autopilot, right? Well, I have a bunch of strategies and skills that I've trained into myself the same way. So the water I drink, my sleeping, my relaxation, my meditation, my nourishment, my movement strategies—all of these things—I've instituted habits that pretty much run on their own. My eating habits—I eat in a very kind of structured way that's comfortable for me. So it's not a strict meal plan type. mindset. It's a mindset of, this is the easiest, most enjoyable, best way for me to eat so that I can live at my goal weight in the most comfortable way possible. It's built for my preferences, my lifestyle, um, where I'm at. So because it's customized for me with a focus on keeping it comfortable, I'm able to do this comfortably with a low level of effort. I'm not fighting against myself every day. Um, Metaphorically, it's like every diet is you rowing against the stream, and you have to constantly use energy to row against it. And the second you stop rowing or get tired, you start going down with the stream. I've turned my boat with the stream, so sometimes I can paddle and go even faster, but when I get tired and I'm just doing my thing, I'm just going with the stream. The stream's supporting me. This isn't as crazy as it sounds, because when you strategically begin to transform your mindset, your lifestyle, and your eating, and you understand how to program your mind to make it on near autopilot, that's what awaits you is an ability to influence your behaviors comfortably in a way that's set up for the long term. And the only question is, have you ever done that at all? And the answer I already know is no, you know what I mean? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Casey says, obviously I can't do it because it's not sustainable. Yeah, yeah, that's really— yeah. So Casey writes, I feel like it was easier to stick to the plan at the start because I was big my whole life. It was like a high, um, that doesn't hit the same way anymore. I Thank you so much, Casey. Again, the technical term for what Casey's describing— you've all described this, even if you don't— you've all experienced this, even if you weren't really aware of it, is that there's a thing called hedonic adaptation. This affects all humans. We've all experienced it. You know, the new car you get after 3 or 4 months becomes just your car. Okay, so whatever kind of new exciting thing we get, we just normalize to it and it loses its luster. Okay, so the same thing happens with weight loss. You know, at first it's like, oh my God, I'm gonna lose weight. I'm gonna be this whole other person. Everything's gonna be amazing. life's gonna be so much better and it's gonna be crazy how great it is and everything's gonna be amazing. Well, it is at first, it kind of feels that way, and then you start to normalize to it and your weight's lower, but I still got work bullshit. Um, oh, I'm still tired. Oh, I've still got a relationship issue. Oh, I still got this going on. And you just start to— it doesn't have the same— just like Casey said, it doesn't hit the same way anymore, you know? Um, and that's so true. And that's what's really important to understand, is that when it doesn't hit the same way anymore, your willpower goes down, your motivation goes down. So, so what do you do? You know, I think the good news, Casey, is that you have— you've done so much good work, you know, on changing your behaviors. But now the, the game changes because now it's not about What extreme thing you can do? The question becomes: How can I influence my calories in the easiest way possible? How can I get myself to live at my goal weight in the easiest, most comfortable, natural way possible? That's the goal here. And in order to do that, we need to break out of the the kind of one lane thinking that is a diet. Right? Intermittent fasting, keto, one meal a day—it doesn't matter. Take your pick. Every diet is basically one lane of concept. It's just it's a tactic. We would put it a different way. So I think the path to genuinely changing your weight and changing your programming and making it easy and comfortable and natural is that you approach it in a more holistic, comprehensive way. I always say, like, like, out of this whole pyramid eating-wise, every diet's about— can you sell a little tiny point? That's about every diet. Just, just eat one meal a day. Uh, just don't eat any carbs. Just, it's like telling you just one thing, but you're missing all this other stuff. So how do you lower your calorie consumption comfortably? Well, I would suggest, I don't know, let's focus on the lifestyle piece. But if you're getting better sleep, you're hydrated properly, you're relaxed, you're nourished, you're moving more, you're meditating, quieting your mind regularly, you're practicing gratitude— if you start living a life with those things in it, even at a little rate, you start to relax and ground yourself more. Your cortisol levels go down. You tend to be more mindful, eat slower, make better food choices, have more cognitive energy to make better choices and better strategies. Maybe you focus it on mindset. Maybe you get your motivation proper so it's not just based around losing weight and people telling you how awesome you are, but it's based around real deep internal motivations that keep you going. Your self-image— you begin to shift your self-image to become the person you want to be. Casey's dealing with this a little bit. Casey lost a bunch of weight, has been overweight her whole life, but now she's struggling with who am I? Who am I as this version of me? It's not what you thought it was going to be. It's better than it was, probably in some ways, and probably not as good as in other ways as you thought it was going to be. So who are you now? You know, we gotta, we gotta answer that question because weight loss— and it doesn't even matter how much weight you want to lose practically, um, but obviously more weight loss is more obvious because you, you become a different person. You assume a different identity. That's a huge part of weight loss that diets never talk about. And if you don't address it, it can be very scary. I can imagine for Casey it's been pretty disorienting to go from 210 to 150, especially if you've been bigger most of your life. Personality-wise, identity-wise, it's weird. And you're probably dealing with a little bit of that, right? Again, habits. Do you know how to run your habits strategically? Do you know how to work your habits? Do you know how to replace, um, bad unhealthy habits effectively? You know how to handle your emotions genuinely without food. Do you know how to think like a thin, healthy, happy person? Do you know how to maintain, how to get back on track when you make a mistake? You know, that's the mindset piece. So if you start getting good at those things, guess what? It gets a lot easier to do the things that get you to your goal weight. So again, when you start thinking more holistically and comprehensively, I think it's a much better approach to managing your weight, aiming at the goal that we don't just want to manage it, we want to manage it the most comfortable, easy way possible. And that's how I think we do it, you know. Yeah, and Casey's still not happy at 160 because I know I can go lower again. Unfortunately, Casey, most likely— and this is just a— I'm gonna say it because it's so common, you know what ends up happening? Most people that want to lose weight don't start with what we call in NLP a well-formed outcome, meaning that your main goal is, I just want to lose weight, I just want to lose weight. I just want to lose weight. And you say that because you've been sold this story your entire life by the diet industry that losing weight makes everything better. What's your problem? It doesn't matter what your problem is. You're overweight? Lose weight, you'll get better relationships. Lose weight, you'll make more money. Lose weight, everyone treats you better. Lose weight, you'll feel better about yourself. Lose weight, you're going to love shopping. Lose weight, you're going to feel sexy and attractive and love pictures of yourself. Guess what? Guess what? You know, and so what ends up happening is there is no clear-cut goal. And Program Yourself Thin, one of the first things we start with, and that's the point I think, is in NLP we call it a well-formed outcome. And that's really a big part of when we talk about motivation over here, which is the first thing we start with because most people aren't properly motivated. The motivation is about what you want well beyond just, I want to lose weight. Okay, well, what do you want at your goal weight? Who do you want to be? How do you want to think? How do you want to live? What do you want to feel? What do you want to accomplish? What kind of relationships you want? Like the things that really matter to you most in your life that you value most are going to be dramatically improved when you're happy and healthy and feeling good about yourself. That motivation is way higher than unfortunately Casey's probably got, which is I could just go lower. I know I can go lower because you're trying to get that high and the only way you can get that high is from losing more weight. But unfortunately, there's no kind of floor because there's no— you're not aiming at something. You're aiming at just losing more weight because it's a cure-all, but it's not. So that's a scary thing, you know, because it dictates so much of what we ultimately end up creating for ourselves, you know. But yeah, I just want to go lower. I know I can go lower. What's going to happen lower? You know, you're 60 pounds down. What's lower gonna do? And I'm not saying maybe lower does a ton of different stuff. Maybe it does, maybe it doesn't. I don't know. But I think most people don't really know. They just kind of say it. Yeah, there we go. Casey says, yeah, crazy how you only remember the good parts. When I was 139, I was completely miserable. Exactly, exactly, folks. Our, our weight— our weight is one of the most like Yeah, okay. Said even my friend said I was like a zombie. Exactly right. And it's like, that's what I mean though. And I think it's important to sit with that because that's a real dynamic that's going on in your mind. You have one part of you that just keeps saying lose weight, that's the answer to everything. You have another part of you that realizes that that's not the answer to everything because you've been there and your quality of life went down. That's the irony I think a lot of people don't recognize, that a lot of times Most people, if you're overweight, a simplistic explanation of it is that you are not motivated enough. Meaning, yeah, you want to lose weight, but you more you don't want to change anything. You don't want to change your eating. You don't you don't want to do that. Okay? You really want to lose weight, but you really don't want to change how you're eating and how you're living. Okay? Because if you did, you would do stuff differently. And so what most people do is they set a goal weight that's so low. That yeah, they might like to be that way, but they don't want to live that way. And that is if you're struggling with your weight right now, I guarantee you that's that's your problem right there in a nutshell, in a very simplistic form. If you're overweight and not losing weight, I'm letting you know it's because you're not motivated. Let me put it a different way: you weigh what you want to weigh. So here's Casey partly being influenced by her subconscious mind, which remembers how miserable she was at 139. Protecting her. But notice, Casey, that there's no congruent goal that you're aiming at. Part of you is saying, just let's lose weight. I'm stressed out. I'm tense. Just let's go lower. I know I can go lower. Let's— we know we can go lower. Well, what's the value of going lower though? That's the part you can't answer because you just hear the part that says, let's just go lower. Let's just go lower. Let's just go lower. And you buy into— talk about a hypnotic trance. You buy into this idea that going lower is going to fix things. And I'm not saying sometimes lower may fix things, so I'm not saying it won't, but you've already been lower and it didn't fix shit, and you know that. So there's part of you saying, let's just go lower, let's just go lower. There's another part saying, when we went that low, we were miserable, we were a zombie. And they're fighting each other right now, which means you're not congruent. It means there's 2 parts of you tugging a war— tug of war, right? One's saying, come on, let's go lower. No, we were miserable. Let's go lower. No, it's miserable. And you're stuck. So you wonder why you're stuck. You know what I mean? Like you got two parts of you pulling. You're not congruent. You have two horses that are going opposite directions, keeping you in the same spot. You need to get the horses all going in the right direction. I hope that makes sense because this is real. This to me, I love this conversation so much because this is the real. This is the stuff I talk about with my coaching clients. You know, is that it really comes down to the self-image piece. Casey doesn't have a well-formed outcome of what goals she wants to achieve. She has. The same outcome most dieters have. I just want to lose weight. I just want to be lower, lower, lower, lower, lower. Lower weight doesn't guarantee you're gonna feel great. It doesn't feel— if it did, folks, fucking 85 to 95% of dieters that get to their goal weight put it back on. So if getting to your goal weight and getting low weight is the greatest thing in the world, then why do people put it back on? Why did you put it back on? You've been at your goal weight. If it's so incredible, if everything's so amazing at your goal weight, Why does anyone ever put the weight back on? You— it's because it's not true. It's, it's great in a lot of ways, and it's not perfect. It doesn't fix everything. Holy shit, it makes me crazy because diet is always telling— oh, I'll say, what are you gonna do once you get there? I'll figure it out then. I'll figure it out then. No, you won't. You won't figure it out then. You won't figure it out then. That's why 85-90% of people put the fuck away. Carolyn says, love the honesty. That's a description of how long you will do hard things. Yes, yes, we don't do hard things for long. We just don't. And eating is just supremely, um, supremely complex. Jane says, do you have staff working for you or are you a one-man show? Um, a bit of both. I do have people that work, um, with me And, uh, I do all the important stuff. Well, that's not true. I, I, I put stuff out too, but a little both, I guess, is how I think of it. And yes, I have trained other leaders. Um, Jane says, one big plus on being— to being on Ozempic is that all my numbers have improved. I'm not out of range in any area anymore. Nice job, Jane. Congrats. Um, just to be clear, does that— that— I just want to be technical— that, that's one big plus That's one big plus of getting your, your weight down. Oh, I guess unless, unless you're saying that no weight has been lost, your numbers just improved without any weight loss. Um, but, but typically the improvements happening on Ozempic are happening because the weight goes down, technically. And there's multiple ways to get the weight down. Um, Carolyn says a well-formed outcome is great to really consider first than just a number. Yeah, of course, right? Absolutely. That's even one of the things, um, one of the things I've given away for free in the past is the goal weight quiz to help you Um, clarify what your real goal weight is. I find most people don't really know what their goal weight is, ironically, you know. Uh, Lois says, hi Jim, my motivation is to lose the weight and live a happy, healthier long life. My son and my grandchildren, I want to be there for them, watch them grow, and not burden my son with health issues and living a longer life. I think that's wonderful, Lois. Yeah, I think that, that, that's what I'm talking about. Now that's a That's a well-formed outcome, and that's a great goal. You know, as a counterpoint, you know what I mean? Because it's specific about what you want, and you could even build on that a lot more. But you know, here's here's the thing: if I put had to put it one way, I think most dieters try and make weight loss more motivating now, right? I haven't thought about weight, my weight, or really focused on it much for the last three months. But now tomorrow's Monday, and now it's the most important thing in the world to me. Well, that that's really evidence that that. Sometimes it's not important, sometimes it is. That's a bad thing to build around. I'd much rather build my motivation to lose weight around things I'm always motivated about. So for me personally, my desire to look a certain way is a distant, distant place to— I want to live as long as I can so I can be with my family and my friends for as long as possible. I want to be able to be the dad I want to be more than anything in the world. And maybe ultimately a granddad. I want to have the energy, the mobility, the flexibility, the stamina, um, all of these things to live a great life so I can have cool adventures and experiences with these people. Um, I want to be the husband I want to be for the same reasons. It's all woven in there. Um, I want to have the energy and the, um, productivity and efficiency and excitement and passion so I can run my business as highly as I can. So these are motivations that every day I'm motivated about, always. I'm always motivated to support my family, to be the best coach I can possibly be, to run a business, to do all these things. Okay. And then I weave the weight around those, similar to what, like, Lois is saying. So find the things in your life that would improve at your goal weight and then kind of zoom out a little bit because it's not just about what you look like at your goal weight. That's what the diet industry has conditioned you to do. There's so many other things that are impacted directly by your weight that are way more important than how you look. Can you believe it? Yeah. Okay, says I was 189 in January. I'm 162 now, so it could be worse. Um, that's what I mean, Casey. And I feel bad, like, Casey, like, the way you talk about this stuff breaks my heart. I mean, this is why I do what I do. I say this every day. The reason I'm here more than any other reason is for people that have lost weight and put it back on. I'm here for you. More than anyone, folks, those of you that have lost the weight and put it back on, because I know you're willing to do the work. And really what's missing is you just you don't have the plan. You don't have the strategy to get the results you want. It's not that you can't do it. It's not that you're not willing to do it. It's that you've never been given a real plan. You know, and unfortunately Casey's language kind of reveals that. You know, it could be so much worse. So Casey again is over here sitting fifty pounds lighter. Than they were, you know, uh, 6 months ago. They're, you know, 30 pounds lighter than they were, you know, 7 months ago. But they're terrified and scared. They're worried. They're anxious. I mean, listen, folks, don't you think if you were 50 pounds lighter, don't you think like it's gonna be just a magical fucking world? Like, oh my God, rainbows and unicorns. You're skipping everywhere and you're so happy. Happy and everything's amazing. Isn't that what you think? And Casey's here telling you. Casey's she's telling you the reality for most people. Yeah, Casey says I think I'm going through a binge eating episode right now and it's hard to break that cycle. Now again, the biggest issue for Casey is that Casey used an all or nothing strategy to do the weight loss. So it was a one meal a day. You're either doing one meal a day or you're not. She was doing it for a long time. But the problem with one meal a day is it's not flexible. So as long as your schedule is the same and everything's kind of the same, you can do it. But the second work changes, job changes, school starts, relationships stressing out, financial worries— as soon as there's a shift, something happens in your life, it's very difficult to hold that very strict plan. So again, with program yourself thin, for 30 years, I, I mean, I used to work at a restaurant, a bar Um, you know, 60 hours a week. And now, you know, the 2 bookends of the extreme differences, right? So it's like I worked, you know, 60, 70 hours a week outside of the house doing that. And now here I am, I work at home, and I've done that for, for 15 years. So 2 totally different realities, but because of the way that I approach my weight, it's very flexible. So even though my reality changed so dramatically, my mindset stuff stayed very similar. My lifestyle stuff had to be adjusted but stayed similar. And then my eating was somewhat similar and also had to be adjusted and tweaked for the new reality. But I was able to do that. For Casey, what Casey's feeling is, okay, when everything's like that, I can do it perfectly. It's very rigid. It's very all or nothing. It's— I can do it all perfectly, I can do this, but as soon as it starts to waver, anything wavers a little bit, it feels like a big drop-off. I don't feel that, you know what I mean? Like, even if my eating gets a little carried away, I'm— that's why this, this pyramid's written like this, for a very specific reason. Because I have, I have good and bad eating times. I sometimes overeat, sometimes I get off track with things, sometimes I put some weight on. That happens. But even when my eating gets a little wonky, it's happening still within a structured Eating plan to some degree, and it rests on top of the lifestyle and the mindset. So I'm kind of caught. I'm supported even when my eating gets a little out of control. I kind of land on my lifestyle, and that supports me until I kind of get back and I re-optimize and dial in the eating. But I'm always working on. I'm always working on my plan, but my plan is able to shift and be much more you know kind of malleable. Compared to pretty much every diet out there, and that's what you're in for now, Casey. Yeah, Casey says even some days when I do a longer fast, I forget how cold and weak it leaves you. Yeah, exactly. Yep. Like he says, that was exactly my thoughts today. How I will look is no longer enough willpower. Is not enough willpower. Yes, yes. Thank you. Oh, yes, yes. I'm not sure if I'm saying your name right. Like he like he um. Yes, yes, I want everyone to hear that because that is so important. That's exactly my thoughts today. How I will look is not enough willpower. This in a nutshell, folks, is why I regularly tell you all that you don't have enough motivation. Don't get mad at me because you can study— there's a science of motivation. Like, a guy wrote a book on it, Deci, D-E-C-I. It's very important to read this if you care about your results. Don't you think motivation matters? In the program, we refer to motivation as kind of the engine of the car. You know, you got a little, uh, lawnmower engine in your car, you ain't getting up the hill. So, so focusing on the engine in your car, your motivation, is extremely important to the results you're going to get. And most of you have been conditioned by the diet industry to get your motivation from how you're going to look. Think about it. We've all seen literally millions of diet ads at this point in our lives. Every diet ad is the before and after picture. Which trains our brain to think about our weight loss motivation as being an aesthetic, extrinsic, external visual thing. And in the science of motivation, there's extrinsic and intrinsic motivators. Extrinsic motivators are the weakest form. Extrinsic motivators are how we look, waiting for people. Oh, look how great you look! Oh my God, look at you! You look amazing. External validation is the weakest form, and I know you don't believe me because you've had a whole lifetime of being steeped in that shit. You said, "No, I really want to. I really want to look good, Jim." I'm real. No, no, Jim. Now I'm really motivated. No, not me. I'm really mo— Well, are you? Are you actively losing weight or are you not? Because if you're not actively losing weight, you're now if you just started, if you're a little plateau, that's a different thing. But if you've been at the same weight for the last six months, don't tell me you're motivated. Don't confuse thinking about weight loss all day with actually being motivated. Biggest mistake dieters make. And the biggest reason you all aren't motivated is because you think of your weight loss primarily through looking better. And deep down, you don't give a fuck about looking better. Not biologically. Not biologically. You care about it because you've been conditioned. But never in history— I mean, beyond the last 1,000 years— did it matter what you look like. We weren't— we didn't evolve with mirrors and pictures and videos of ourselves. We didn't evolve with scales to measure our weight. These are arbitrary ideas that we give meaning to now. What really matters to you is your survival, your stamina, your energy, your quality of life, things you get to experience. Those are intrinsic motivators. The reason you go to work every day, even when you're tired. The reason you make your kids breakfast, even when you're sick. There's deeper levels of motivation in you, and you've never tied them to your weight loss. So thank you, like, yes, it's very common. Most people do not have the motivation to succeed. And the biggest problem isn't that they don't have the motivation. The biggest problem is they think they do have the motivation. Nothing is more damaging than when you think you're motivated up here when you're really motivated down here, because that's where you start to develop the belief, I don't understand, I want this more than anything in the world and I'm not getting it, so there must be something wrong with my body. There's nothing wrong with your body. There's something wrong with your motivation, and you're not motivated enough To move in the direction you want. It's not judgment. It's not blame. In my experience, it's a statement of fact. Yeah, Casey says, "Yeah, when I graduated, I couldn't do the long fast anymore." That's what I mean. So Casey's schedule changed, and her ability to do that method changed. So I mean, another thing you can look at if you want to continue with one meal a day—I mean, you can just start to. I'm sure you've been thinking about this though. It's just sometimes things just don't fit together either. So it's like when you're in school, uh, one meal a day works. Then you get out of school and you work, uh, you know, get— you start a job or your schedule changes. Now all of a sudden it just doesn't work. You say, what's wrong with me? How come I can't stick to it? Well, that strategy doesn't work in this new reality. So we gotta, we gotta optimize the strategy and update it for the new reality. See, that's what I mean. Like, again, but dieting doesn't teach you, you know, it's the classic of, uh, You know, give a person a fish, feed them for a day. Teach a person to fish, feed them for a lifetime. And so it's like dieting is kind of like giving you the fish, right? It doesn't require any thought. Even one meal a day, conceptually, it's as simple as it can be. Just eat one meal a day. Now doing it's a lot harder, but conceptually it's very simple, and that's very appealing to people that are overwhelmed and stressed about their weight. I'm coming here telling you the opposite. I think you need a holistic, comprehensive plan to master your weight. And I think one one note diets are never going to do it. But again, it gets back to the point that with the diet, you're just given this plan, then you force yourself to do it. There's no customizing it to you. There's no figuring out what works for you and what doesn't. And so, in essence, you're always trying to put a square peg into a round hole—a plan that's not built for you. You're trying to make yourself fit into it and follow it, and it's this never-ending battle. So I'd much rather take my time and energy and invest it into figuring out. Building a plan around me, creating a one-size-fits-one plan, and understanding that once I have this plan, things change. I'm not immune to this. I put 25 pounds on 15 years ago. I moved into a new house that I completely redid, um, had a baby, um, who didn't sleep well, uh, was running a full-time business. You know, there was a lot of stress, whatever. Put 25 pounds on. New reality, new stresses, new things, whatever. I got caught up in it. So again, that happens. I never freaked out. I never freaked out because I was grounded in my rock-solid mindset, my motivation, grounded in my lifestyle, even grounded in a lot of the eating routines I had. Now again, I get caught up with some stuff, but I dial it back in. Being able to put some weight on calmly and then redirect ourselves back on track is another piece of the puzzle. Ultimately, in my opinion, the ability to get yourself back on track is the most important piece, but It's got to be get yourself back on track with a plan that's built for you. Getting yourself back on plan with keto or one meal a day or intermittent fasting, that shit is just a never-ending endurance test, and it's just a measure until when you quit. For 99% of the people— there's always outliers that will do it for the rest of their lives and love it, fine, if that's you, do it— but if it's not you, there's nothing wrong with you. It's not that you need to give it another shot, it's that you need to Use a different approach, and hopefully it's an approach that is a more holistic, comprehensive one that takes into account your mindset, your lifestyle, and your eating, and is built around who you are and what your lifestyle is and what your routines are. Yeah, yeah. Casey said definitely struggled doing them working nine-hour shifts on my feet all day. I had to eat. This is what I mean. So all of a sudden you go into a much more active thing. And you're trying to eat one meal a day, and so you're just riding the roller coaster. You know what I mean? It's like you're getting absolutely exhausted from it, and then you're not allowing yourself to eat, and you got all this conflicting stuff. Doesn't feel right. It's not the right plan for your new reality, and you're trying to make it stick because I lost weight doing it. So I can't change anything. I can't change anything, and it's this tense hunkering down, trying to ride it out. Maybe it'll work. Maybe it won't. I don't know, but I'd much rather want to be flexible. Oh, okay, shit. Now I'm working a long hour shift. I need to eat more. I, I need to eat more frequently. I don't need to eat more calories necessarily. And again, for you specifically, Casey, and for all of you intermittent fasters and one meal a dayers, managing your hunger is central to program yourself. Then we're managing our hunger. We're not fighting against it. And I would bet right now, Casey, you feel like you're fighting against your hunger. And I would suggest that anytime you feel like you're fighting against yourself, you're fighting against your body. You are on the wrong path. Well, no, Jim, no pain, no gain. You gotta stick to it. Just do it. Fuck that. Fuck that. You want to do that? Knock yourselves out, folks. I'm going to take the easy path. Yeah, like he says, no one will say in your funeral, wow, her weight, she was so beautiful. That's not what it's about. Agreed, agreed. It's just so true. And on top of it, listen, I don't really work with 20 and 30-year-olds, to be honest. You know, most of my clients are 45 plus. Most of them are 50s, 60s, 70s. And one of the best parts of working with people in that age group is that at least a little bit is we become more focused on our functional aspects of the weight loss. You know, we still want to look good. You know what I mean? That never goes away. But it's easier to start saying, holy shit, if I don't take care of my weight, my mobility goes down, my stamina goes down, my quality of life goes down. You know, all these things go down that really affect the day-to-day life. So it's not hard to find real motivation, you've just never been trained to do it, you know. I'm trying to go back to one meal a day. It's a start. I don't find it too hard. It's familiar. I won't kick myself if I'm not perfect. Yeah, great job, Casey. But you know, one meal a day, it's the essence of perfection. It's just you're saying I'm gonna be one meal a day is, uh, just in its essence perfection. So I don't know how you're gonna try and not be perfect with a plan that's built around perfection. That, that's what I would say would be— I would have a— my big question to you would be, it's like saying I'm gonna run a sprint, I don't need to be perfect with it, you know what I mean? I'm just gonna— I'm gonna run a sprint, I have to sign myself up for the sprint, I want to win it, but I don't need to be perfect with the— I'll stumble a little bit out there, I don't have to get out the blocks Perfectly. Do you know what I mean? It doesn't make sense because the context is perfection. One meal a day, keto, intermittent fasting to a certain degree are really built around perfection. Restricting calories really low— these are built around perfection. There's no room for slip-ups. So it's hard to, like, again, have a goal of perfection and then be like, ah, but if I'm not perfect, that's okay too. So what's the solution? Well, the solution would be To me anyways, wherever you're at, and I don't know where you're at with your eating, but to make some progress. And again, I would never aim at one meal a day, especially now. But you know, keep fighting it. Maybe it'll work for you. But that is a little bit of a contradiction. Casey, I used to come home at 8 p.m. and say myself, I'll fast for the day, but then be so tired and hungry and would just binge. And that led me to gaining a lot of weight. I'm so aware what I'm doing, yet still don't really change. Um, yeah, but you're not really aware what you're doing, Casey. You're kind of aware of like when they get to a certain point, you're aware of it. But I think you're missing a lot of the stuff before that. So for example, if you're working a 9-hour shift, I would suggest you'd probably be way better off taking your one meal a day of calories and divvying them up a little bit more so that you're energizing yourself before your shift or at the beginning of your shift. I think you could use those calories more strategically. to manage your hunger and your energy, your emotions and your mindset way more effectively than trying to stack them all into one meal a day, especially working a 9-hour shift. So I don't think you're really aware of the subtleties of what's leading to the behaviors that you're aware of and can't stop. So, for example, if I don't eat breakfast and lunch and I say, man, breakfast and lunch are going great, the afternoon and dinner, everything's falling apart. Why can't I do better in the afternoon dinner? What's going on? I'm so aware I don't want to eat an afternoon dinner. Well, what? Why am I doing it? Do you see what I mean? And so it's like, yeah, you're aware of where that part, but you're not aware that your hunger is just cranking up throughout the day to the point where you get where you can't control it. So I would I would aim a little more awareness at what's happening before those behaviors because I think you're very um yeah okay well here we go though Casey says I'm afraid to eat and work because I used to binge a lot on my breaks so I don't even want to risk it. This is what I mean though. This is exactly what I'm saying, that you're still living in the old Casey. The old Casey used to binge, also couldn't just eat one meal a day. I hope you've proven to yourself that you can do big things when you're congruent and really motivated and you have a plan that works for you and your reality is different now. And the idea of one meal a day doesn't seem to be a good strategy for this new reality you live in. And this fear that I'm going to binge everything is preventing you from having a better strategy for the situation you find yourself in now. So again, you know, my goal would be how can I eat on a break in a moderate way? You know, you're so scared about overeating at the break, but you're consistently going to be binging when you starve yourself all day. So, you know, to me, They're both risks, and I would rather take the risk of training myself and practicing eating moderately at breaks. That's the next evolution. Casey, you've done things this year that you probably have never done in your life. Eating moderately at a break is probably small potatoes compared to some of the things you've done over the last year. So if you make your focus eating moderately at break time and you master that, how much better would that set you up for long-term success? Not only because it's the more appropriate strategy for the situation you're in, but also because it's going to remind you that I can tweak and optimize and change what I'm doing. I can make sure that it's fitting my reality at the time, my situation at the time. Well, thanks, Pat. Pat says, want you to know that we all really need you and appreciate you. Well, thank you. I appreciate hearing that. That's my goal in life, is to help as many people as possible live at their goal weight. So I appreciate hearing that. I'm happy to be here and happy to be able to do it. Um, ah, Julie says love listening to you. Thank you, thank you, appreciate that. It's nice words. All right, there's Vicki. How's it going, Vicki? Happy to hear you. Hope you're doing well. Well, thank you, thank you. Um, yeah. Yeah, Casey's been doing the fasting since I was 17. I'm 20 now. Yeah, again, but it's, it's, uh, you know, it's not for me to say, you know what I mean? It either works for you or doesn't work for you. And so, you know, I'll let you decide. But my point is this, that one meal a day, you know, it's just a way to consolidate our eating to try and influence, reduce the calories we consume. But again, at the end of the day, if you take those calories and divvy them up in different ways, you might find that it feels more comfortable for you. So I'll end on that idea and let you sit with it. Um, but again, if anyone— any of you are not in my world, please, uh, click the link in my bio and go get the free hypnosis session that I give you. 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