is this why you don't believe you can lose weight?

If you don't believe you can lose weight, it's not because you don't believe in yourself. It's because you have a plan that you don't believe in. And this distinction is crucial, because so often people are thinking they're the problem, when in reality, the biggest problem when it comes to weight loss is the strategy you're using. You're trying to diet, you're trying to overcorrect, and do everything all at once, and you overwhelm yourself so that you don't want to do it. So instead, start slowly, strategically pick one bad eating habit and work on fixing it. And once you get a handle on that, move on to the next one. When you approach it this way, you're going to start to believe in yourself more, you're going to believe in your plan more, and you're finally going to believe to your core that you can actually lose the weight.