Lifestyle Habits That Make You Lose Weight

Goodness gracious. Hey, everyone, and welcome to today's program Yourself Thin Podcast. Today we're talking about lifestyle habits that make you lose weight. Lifestyle habits. And now I'm going to list these habits and import in order of importance, in my opinion, starting with sleep. Sleep, hydration, relaxation, breathing, nourishment, movement, meditation, gratitude. These, I believe, are the eight core lifestyle habits to lose weight and then ultimately live at your goal weight. And again, as I mentioned, I think they're in order of importance, starting with sleep. I think sleep is the most crucial habit to really get a handle on, because your quality of sleep and quantity of sleep are probably the biggest factors in how you function. The choices you make, the food you decide to eat, how much of them you choose to eat. Really, a lot of that comes down to the quality of sleep you're getting, because the quality of sleep you're getting is affecting so much. It's affecting you on a physiological level and a psychological and energetic level. And if you're not getting the right sleep, everything's harder and you're craving more unhealthy stuff anyways. So it comes, I always think, like, not getting the right quality of sleep is like a double whammy of you're going to be hungrier and you're going to have more unhealthy cravings and you're going to have less ability to stop yourself from giving into those cravings. So again, sleep really is the most crucial one in my opinion, because it affects everything else. It's like the foundational piece that everything else is built on, and if your foundation is cracked, the rest of the structure is going to be in trouble. So sleep's number one. Next one's hydration. Having the right proper hydration levels. Again, it's very similar to sleep in the sense that it's a foundational piece that's affecting you completely, cellularly, biologically, energetically, psychologically. Every way you can think of as who you are is being impacted by your hydration levels. And it's estimated that most Americans are at least mildly dehydrated. So getting your hydration levels up to the proper amount is really, really important for getting control over your weight and over your you're eating. And one other just kind of little factoid, I suppose, is that a lot of times when you're thirsty, your brain and body can misinterpret that for hunger. Because remember, in the natural world, we ate a lot of our hydration because foods had a lot more water content in it. So it's easy for our body and brain to misinterpret the thirst for hunger. And that's just an easy win. I mean, if you hydrate yourself properly, you're going to reduce your hunger, you're going to clear up your thinking, right? Because again, your brain is impacted by your hydration levels. You think clear, you think quicker, you're sharper. All these things going on, again, that supports you as well. The next one I'll chunk together breathing and relaxation, and I chunk them together because in order to breathe properly, you got to relax first anyways. And typically when you relax, you tend to breathe more properly as well. So I like to put those two together. But again, foundational, you know for a fact that when you get stressed out, you tend to go towards the food. So again, being tense uses more energy, makes you hungrier. Being tense and stressed out psychologically puts you in a place where you're not thinking straight and it's easier for you to justify or just go with whatever unhealthy option you think of in the moment. So again, getting relaxation and breathing as part of your life is just so powerful. I mean, imagine you living your life in a more calm, grounded, oxygenated way. You just are a better version of yourself, right? When you think, when you, when you feel relaxed and you're breathing more properly, you're just thinking more clearly, you have more perspective, you see the bigger picture, you're able to make better choices. So the reason I, these first four, I would say, are really just so important. And the rest of them are important too, but these are really, really key is they affect everything you are as a human being. And they affect you in ways that you probably don't even realize. So when you start to get the sleep, hydration, relaxation and breathing that your body really needs, a lot of times you're going to find that you feel just fundamentally different. And what was hard is a lot easier. And of course that's a good strategy, right, if you want to change your behavior. We get to the best side of the list is nourishment. We start with nourishment. And I like to think of nourishment almost as its own lifestyle habit. Because I think a lot of times when we want to lose weight, we think of eating and we think about not eating the wrong things, right? Not eating, you know, high calorie, fattening foods. But the other side of our eating is what we're actually putting into our body that's good and nourishing for us. And just like the previous things, you Know, the sleep, the water, the relaxation, these are things your body needs. And so it's easy in 2025 in America to eat a lot of food and not get a lot of nourishment. And for most people, that's kind of the norm for them. So when you step out of your way to really nourish your body and fuel your body with high quality food, right? So even if you're eating bullshit, fine, but you make it a point to really nourish your body with high quality fuel for it, you change yourself fundamentally. That makes everything else easier. And most importantly, in my opinion about nourishment, is that when I think a lot of people in America are eating a lot of calories and not getting a lot of nourishment, they're not getting the micronutrients that their body needs. And when your body doesn't get what it needs nutritionally, what message do you think it sends to you? It sends that you're hungry, right? Because your brain and body are back in the old evolutionary times. So they're thinking like, well, if I need nutrients, send a hunger signal, eat some food and we'll get nourished, right? So that same signal is being fired off now, but now you're in an environment where you can eat lots of calories with very little nourishment in them. And so if you're not nourishing your body at a high level, you're not getting the energy you need. And you probably are dealing with a lot more hunger than you need to because your body wants you to eat to get those nutrients, right? So nourish yourself and notice the difference. The next thing is movement, right? And again, I keep this vague in general. So if movement for you, you want to exercise and do, you know, intense cardio, fine, whatever, but move your body more, right? The more you move your body, because that's what your body was meant to do. And it could be from extreme things to simple things like walking or doing really gentle yoga, but just move your body more. That's the most important thing for you to do. It could be chores, it could be projects. It doesn't even have to be something. Exercise, right? Free yourself of that idea and get yourself to just move more. And the more you move, the more your body functions at a more optimal level, because that's what your body was built to do. Move around, use your muscles, get the blood flowing, oxygenate your body and feel good. So the more you move, the easier the whole process is as well. Next, we get into Meditation. And I don't want you to freak out, because I think sometimes people just think too much about meditation. You don't have to become a Zen monk to meditate. Meditating is a simple, normal, natural, easy thing to do. And all it is is you're just turning your attention inwards, becoming more aware of your body and your mind. And again, depending on what meditation you're doing, you're looking to focus your mind and kind of drown out the noise and quiet your mind down. And the more quiet your mind becomes, the more aware you become of what's going on in here, physically, emotionally, energetically, mentally. And the more awareness you bring into this process, the better, because you start to realize things you've been saying to yourself or believing that aren't true. And you start to make space for better thoughts and beliefs and ideas. And then finally is gratitude. And in a weird way, this might be one of the most important ones out of the whole bunch, because again, we live in a culture that does not support. It does not support gratitude. You know. And so as you intentionally work to develop a mindset filled with gratitude, it is transformational because it can literally change the reality you live in. You know, it's not unusual to look at a situation and feel really frustrated, annoyed by it, bring some gratitude into it, and feel grateful for it. So it really is one of the most magical things you can work to develop in yourself because it can literally transform your reality very, very quickly when you start to look at your reality through the lens of gratitude, because you start to realize and focus on the things that you have and the things that you're grateful for, as opposed to the things that you don't have and you're frustrated about. So put all these together and you're going to be in a much better spot to get control of your weight, your health, and your happiness. And so if you want support putting these in and learning more about them, click the link in my bio. Go get the free hypnosis session. Watch the video I made before I made you a video training you can watch. It's all free. Go check the emails I send you. I got a bunch of tools in there for you as well. But again, there's better ways to get control of your weight than dieting. And I give them to you for free. So if you have any questions, feel free to ask them. Any questions are welcome. I'm here every day, even when it's late, to help you all move forward with your weight, health, and happiness. I did miss yesterday. I apologize but here we are today, an hour late, but here. So yes, any questions are welcome. Anything you want to talk about weight wise is fine.

What's up, Angie? Good day to everyone. Listening in the car. Nice. Listen in the car. How you doing that? You got your phone set up or something? That's cool.

Deficit. I might have some streaming issues here today. We were having a little bit of technical issues on my side.

But I will tell you, I, I mean to go into it now again, this is a normal thing for a doctor.

And stick to 2000 calories a day, you know, Monday, stick to 2000 calories a day. Just force yourself to.

You know, you're not mindset work. You're probably thinking, understand I'm here to help you. Okay. And I would say that.

That is a very problem oriented statement, you know, which doesn't make you happy when I say it, but it's true, right? I can't even stick to 2,000 calories a day. No matter what I do, I can't stick to my deficit, you know, and so we stated as a declaration almost, you know, and that's how most people do it. And, or they state it as a question, you know, they'll say like, I can't even stick to 2000 calories no matter what I do, I can't stick to 2,000 calories. What is wrong with me? Why can't I stick to 2,000 calories? That's a problem oriented question. And the answers you're going to get are going to be completely useless to you even if you come up with an answer, right? Even if you ask the question, why can't I stick to 2000 calories? And you say, well, because I'm a sugar addict and I love food too much. Okay, great, there's your answer. And you're no closer to solving the problem, you know, so the first thing I want to do is I want to shift it into a solution oriented question and I want to start asking, how can I get myself down to 2000 calories a day comfortably, easily. What can I do? And I know at first you say, oh, I don't know, I don't know, I can't. There's no way. I've tried it and I can't. There's nothing, you know, but that's, you've got to open your mind up more because what you've tried to get to 2,000 calories has been, you've tried to like white knuckle, willpower yourself to eat less.

And it doesn't work. You Know, again, you all, you. You program yourself. Then we follow the goal. Weight, pyramid, mindset, lifestyle, eating. Right. And I make a pyramid shape because mindset's at the base. And it's the biggest part. It's the part the rest of them are built on. Then there's lifestyle. That's the next biggest part, that the eating's built on. Then there's eating. And I'm gonna guess y2k that your attempts to get to 2000 calories a day have been purely just eating. You're just saying, okay, tomorrow's Monday. That's it, 2,000 calories. And you don't change anything from the last time you tried to stick to 2,000 calories. You don't change your plan at all. You just say, this time, I'm going to do it. And you try and do it. You're already going into it believing you can't stick to it. You're referencing the times when it was stressful, difficult, and it felt impossible to you, and you're just repeating it. So, yeah, if you keep doing the exact same things, you're probably going to keep getting the exact same results. So the first thing I want to do is start asking better questions. Now, again, I don't know where you're starting from. So, again, I have a lot of questions. By the way, it's not just, how can I get 2,000 calories easily. That's not the only question. The first question I want to ask is, where are you starting from? What's your typical calories per day? 2,500, 3,000. 3,500. Do you have any idea? You probably don't. That's fine. So the first thing I want to know is how many calories a day am I eating? Because again, if you're eating 5,000 calories a day, to go to 2,000 calories a day is a 60% reduction. That's going to be really intense. If you eat 2,200 calories a day to get to 2,000 calories, gonna be a lot easier. So there's context, and I want to know where you're starting from, because that's gonna. Because let's just say I eat 5,000 calories. I want to get to 2,000. Okay, fine. But let's do it a thousand calories at a time. Again, this dieting idea that you're just going to jump into your plan 100% on day one and stick with it. I know that's what we're always taught, but it's silly to go from 5,000 to 2,000 calories is a ridiculous reduction and it's going to feel overwhelming. So, again, that's the first step we want, but then we get a sense of where we're at. And now I want to get my calories down. 2000 calories, I can never stick to. Okay, well. Well, how about 2,300 calories? Can you do that? 2,500 calories, can you do that? You know, you're. You're jumping into a number that you don't believe you can stick to and that you haven't been able to stick to. So why not start with a higher number? Why not start with 2,500 calories and get used to that, get some strategies for doing that, and then chop out another 250 calories, then another 250 calories, down to your 2,000. Now, I know you all dieters, you can't think that way because you have to do it immediately, right? If you don't do it, it's all or nothing. If you're not going to do it perfect and all immediately right away, then what's the point? But the point is that you can't do 2,000 calories, so stop trying to do it, you know? So, anyways, that's a starting point I would suggest you kind of go at, and if you got any feedback, let me know. But Melissa says, I love your videos. It's so helpful when you switch from diet and maintaining. Yes, like, more like a lifestyle, not a diet. Yes, Melissa, exactly. That's the point. And program yourself, then. Program yourself, then is focused and obsessed with maintenance. Program yourself, then. The goal is not to lose weight. It's to live at your goal weight for the rest of your life on your autopilot. And that's what makes it so unique, as far as I know. I'm sure there's maintenance programs out there, but I don't know what they are. Pretty much every weight loss program is a diet program about losing weight. It's about the drastic things you need to do to lose weight quickly. That's dieting in a nutshell. And yeah, when you shift from dieting to maintenance, it's much easier. And program yourself, then. We start with maintenance on day one, because that's the goal. I don't give a. I don't want you to lose 50 pounds and then put it all back on. Aren't you tired of that, folks? I know you've all lost weight and then put it back on. Is there anything more discouraging than that? So yeah. What's up, Paula? What's up, Wendy? Wendy said, love listening to your inspiration truth. Thank you, Wendy. I appreciate that. That's what I'm here for, help you all out. The main way I can help you is to see things differently. You know, Y2K says maybe 2600 to 3500. Yeah.

Yeah, there you go. Says God, you're so right. Thank you again. That's my goal here is it's just crazy how quickly you can solve a lot of your dieting problems. Dieting, folks, is not your friend. Dieting is as an industry, is the branch of the food industry. You know, a lot of people don't know this. Weight Watchers was owned by Heinz. Jenny Craig was owned by Nestle Atkins Food Products, owned by the same company that owns an Pretzels. And Cinnabon Slim Fast, owned by the same company, owns Ben and Jerry's ice cream. These companies do not want you to lose weight and stop eating their foods forever. So they, they've. The idea of dieting is complete. Again, I'm not, I'm not arguing that you can lose weight on a diet. Obviously you can. I'm arguing that you can't keep the weight off on a diet because no one does. And I see Melissa Race that maintaining is so hard. Any suggestion? No, maintaining is not so hard. I've maintained my weight for over 30 years.

Not sitting here bragging about it, but I've done it because I've done it strategically. And I've done it strategically because I've learned from people that have lost weight and kept it off for a long period of time and they don't diet. So yes, maintaining on a diet is virtually impossible. Again, the numbers of failure on a diet long term. You've heard these numbers again? I, I've seen, I don't even believe it. But whatever. We'll go with the best case to the worst case numbers, right? And the numbers I've seen are 84% to 98% failure rate of diets long term. To put it a different way, 84 to 98% of people that lose weight on a diet put it back on.

So, you know, dieting just is rip, dead and gone. It's over. Open and shut dieting is not an option, folks. There have been diets for a hundred years. You can't even name to me one good diet. What's the best diet for keeping the weight off? Go ahead, hit me with it. This is crazy that you can't, you're not gonna be able to Name a diet. What diet you gonna say? The best you'll say is Weight Watchers. And I have a bunch of people in my program from Weight Watchers. Again, Weight Watchers are the best of the group because they had the social thing. Take that out. It's a goofy goofiness. It's just a, a silly calorie tracking shenanigans. You know, instead of we won't call calories, we'll call them points. Then they gamify it. Fine. But the main reason Weight Watchers has worked at all is the social component. So whatever, you could say Weight Watchers if you want, even that. Again, if you look at the numbers of Weight Watchers, the success rates are very low. But let's just take that out of the equation. What would you say is the best diet over the last hundred years? This is crazy because I, I, is anyone saying anything? I know no one's going to say anything because there's no diet. There's no diet that rises to the top of the list. That's crazy. A hundred years of dieting and not one. You can't think of one.

That's a crazy thing. And yet how are you going to try and lose weight next time that. You see what I mean? You're in a diet trance. I tell you, man, when dieters tell me that they can't be hypnotized.

You don't think you're hypnotized. If you're a dieter, then why the are you going to do another diet when they haven't worked a hundred times?

That's a crazy stat though, don't you think? No one's even putting a diet.

That's how crazy it is. There's what, there's 70 people on here right now. Give me the best diet. What's the best diet for keeping weight off long term?

There you go. You know, they're not meant for you to keep weight off. They're meant for it to take your money for a little while, fill your head with rocks so you go back to eating the same, you know, and it makes me mad. What's that, what's that movie? I've Had Enough and I'm just not taking anymore. Something like that. But that's how I feel about the diets. I really, I despise them because they're ruining people's lives, you know, just like cigarettes did. So anyways.

See some questions. They're there.

Melissa says, what do you, what do you do when you have a wild weekend and then trying to come back Well, I have a Wilds in quotes. I have a wild weekend every weekend, you know. Now, Wilder relative.

Christine said, slimming World. Come on. Slimming World is just the UK Weight Watchers, basically. But again, go, go take your social condition, you know, your social component out of your slimming world. Let me know how it goes, you know? But I appreciate the attempt. But what do you do when you have a wild weekend and then try, then trying to come back? I love this question so much that I built my entire program around this concept, because in program yourself, then we have clean and pleasure days, right? Now, I'm not gonna tell you how many clean days and how many pleasure days, because that's up to you. You know what I mean? You gotta. You start with a few and you end up with more. I started with one clean day and end up with the number I have now. I won't tell you how many. And so every weekend, though, I have a wild weekend in the sense that I eat the foods I like, I drink more alcohol. I. You know, I'll eat desserts and like that. Now, I want to be clear. It's moderated, right? So it's not a binge weekend, okay? But it's a. It's a moderated weekend where I eat the things I like and do the things I like. But then every Monday, I get right back on track, so I practice this. So when people ask me, well, how do you. How do you get back on track? Well, I practice it. I practice it every single week. Every single week. I practice getting off track, and then I practice getting back on track every week so that when I finally get off track, you know, for real, which happens, I'm way better at getting back on track. Dieters are notoriously awful for getting on track because you put you. You go, here's the example I always use. I love this one. Recently, I've been saying dieters, metaphorically, are. Dieters are basically sprinters in a marathon, right? So you're run. You're in a marathon. You're at the starting line of a marathon, Boston Marathon. You're at the starting line, they're getting ready to shoot the gun, and you say, you know what? I'm gonna. They don't know what I know. I'm gonna sprint this whole race, and the gun goes off, and you start sprinting as fast as you possibly can. And for the first eighth of the mile, you're way ahead of everyone. You're like, oh, my God, I'm winning. I really. I'm winning this. And My plan's working. This is great. And the next eighth of a mile you pass out and you can't finish the race, you can't run anymore. And that's dieting in a nutshell. So, you know, we, we can't just look at like, oh, I had a wild weekend and I can't get myself back on track. We need, no, we need to look at it in more full context. And when, by the time you get to the wild weekend where you get off track, you have usually two to five days before that been super restricting yourself, you know, and you've gone from 3000 calories to 1500 calories, you've cut your calories by 50, 60%, you know, and so by the time you get to the wild weekend, you're starving, you're frustrated, you're all off track because your whole reality is different because you're eating different. You're trying to force yourself to act different, think different, do different stuff. And you know, so by the time you go and overeat, you're now depleted. Just like again, you sprint in the marathon, you sprint as fast as you can, as hard as you can, for as long as you can until you collapse. And I say, well, I can't get up and run again. Yeah, because you're wiped out. Your energy went boop, it's that empty. And now you got to replenish. And so for most dieters, what they do, tell me if this rings a bell folks, is that your diets almost always start with a pain based motivator. Meaning what usually triggers most dieters diets is that they step on the scale, they see a picture of themselves, they look in the mirror and don't like what they see. Their clothes that they always swore would fit, now they don't fit. They got to go to the doctors, someone says something rude to them and now they're so upset about it that they say, that is it, that's it, I'm joining Slimming World. I'm going to join Slimming World. That's it, I'm going to change this. And you jump into your plan. And I don't care what plan it is, I don't care if it's Slimming World, Weight watchers, Keto, vegetarianism, Mediterranean, it literally does not matter what diet you give me. Doesn't matter. Because what makes them all exactly the same is how you approach it. And how you're going to approach all of those diets is you are going to jump into it 100% perfect on day one. Right. And you're going to try and be 100 perfect with this new way of being for as long as you can. And it has the qualities of like an endurance test, you know, like an endurance test. You can't beat an endurance test. It's just a question of how long you can do it. And that's what the diets feel like. So by the time you get to the mistake you make, which is usually a couple days to a couple weeks out in front of you, by the time you make that mistake, it just feels like. It feels like you're building a house of cards. And let's just say you stick with it for two weeks. You get two weeks into it, and now you're like, oh, I did it. And now you eat a cookie. All gone. And there's literally a phrase for it. They call it for dyers, it's the what the hell effect. They apply this specifically to dieters. Dieters notorious. They've done studies on this. There's a fascinating one. Milkshakes and everything. It's fascinating. But basically, as soon as a dieter makes a mistake, they go way overboard with the calories. More than just like a regular person who's not dieting, you know, all of a sudden they're eating some cookies or you eat a little more, they just. They're more normalized. Right? But a dieter, as soon as they make a mistake on their diet, they almost always now the calories go way up for a little while and then you ultimately just end up where you always are, you know? But so, yeah, again, the wild weekend. Getting back on track. You got to practice getting back on track. You got to practice. You got to develop strategies to help you get back on track. You can develop the mindset to help you get back on track, and you got to practice it. And how could it be anything else, you know, because dieting is going to tell you, no. You just got to want it, Jim. You just got to do it. You just do it. No pain, no gain. Just get back on track. You know what I mean? Like, folks, that's not a strategy. That's a bunch of marketing bullshit. Not to say, listen, there's a time and place in life that you got to just take action and do stuff. I get it. But you're not going to completely change your reading just through willpower and hope alone. You've got to have strategic plan. It's a huge undertaking. So Y2K says, what if you hate counting calories? I find it tiring and annoying and hard. Well, Y2K. There you go. If you hate counting calories, don't count calories. How about this? If you hate doing what you're doing to lose weight, stop doing that. Because you know what? You're never going to do what you hate long term, even if you lose weight. Do you not believe me? Do you not believe me? Have you not lost weight and then put it all back on because you didn't like doing that? Every single person here has one thing in common, and what it is, is that you've all lost weight doing something and you didn't want to keep doing it, and so you stopped doing it even though the weight started coming back on. You're never going to do things you hate long term, just so you know. So there's a million ways to lose weight long term. Long story short, in order to lose weight long term, you need to reduce your average calorie consumption. And there's a lot of ways to do that. But counting calories, I do not recommend. Most people find it exactly that. It's boring, it's tiring, it's tedious, it's. It just sucks. It changes your mindset, it makes food, it gives a weird frame around food, makes you feel different about it. I see very few benefits. Now listen, let me back up, though. Golden rule to program yourself, then. There's no right or wrong. There's no right or wrong. There's only what works for you. You know? So if you love counting calories, then you count calories, okay? But if you hate counting calories. Stop it. Stop it. You do not need to count. I haven't counted calories at all. I lost over £50 30 years ago and I, I would hate counting calories. It's just, I don't like doing that. It would annoy me. Now again, I, I think there's a time and a place. I think counting calories for a week or so to calibrate what you eat and get a sense of the calories that you're. Of the food you're eating. Typically, I think that's valuable, but I think the idea that you're going to track every single calorie you put in your body for the rest of your life is silly, you know? So, yeah, I would stop. I would stop counting calories and realize you don't have to count calories to lose weight. You absolutely do not.

What's up, Heather? Heather says death, I reckon, Jim. Only, Only weight loss program other than yours, of course, only.

Christy says, what do you eat to be on track.

Now Again, what do I eat to be on track? I will share that with you, but I want to preface it by saying what I eat to be on track may be different than what you'll eat to be on track. Everyone's got different preferences, you know, and that's just another message that I hope you hear. Because in program yourself, then we've got the goal weight blueprints, mindset, lifestyle, and eating. It's a bunch of questions I ask you so that you can develop your own mindset. Lifestyle eating blueprint becomes your roadmap you use to get to your goal weight and live there for the rest of your life. But it's customized around you, and we can see the value of this right away with eating. What sense would it make for me to tell you what I eat? What if you don't like what I eat, you're going to try and force yourself to eat it? Because that's what I ate to lose weight. And that's what dieting is. The idea that I would just tell you what to eat without knowing you is so crazy to me. You know what's next? You want me to tell you what music to listen to, what movies to watch, clothes to wear. You're a human being who has preferences in your own unique lifestyle. And so you need to figure out what you want to eat to live at your goal weight. Okay, But I will tell you, for me, I mean, what I consider to be on track as a general rule of thumb and is the more whole natural foods you eat, the better. I just keep it really simple. I make a very. My core kind of food philosophy is the distinction between food and food stuff. And food is whole natural foods that grow in nature and you can look at them and know what they are. And food stuff is processed foods that take those natural foods and turn them into other things. So my main distinction in life is I look to consume, and especially my clean days, I'm looking to consume more whole natural foods. On my pleasure days, I'm more likely to eat more bullshit. But that's a big distinction I make. So for me to be on track in the most, simplest way, it's the difference between food and food stuff. That makes sense.

Y2k says, but how do you lose weight without counting calories? I'm really glad you asked that question. I thank you for asking that because it really. Just. Don't take this per. I'm not. I'm not insulting you. Please understand this when I say this. I know you're waiting for me to insult You. But I'm not, I promise you. But when a person asks, how do you lose weight without counting calories?

Take a step back and think about that for, like, really think about that. If I said, okay, Y2K, if I said to you, I will give you a million dollars at the end of the month, I'm gonna give you 30 days to lose weight. You cannot count calories, though. You can't count calories, okay, But I will give you a million dollars if you don't. If you lose weight over the next month, would you be able to do it? Or would you be flummoxed and have no clue how you could lose weight because you weren't allowed to count calories? What do you think? I bet you'd get that million bucks is what I think. And I think you'd figure out a way to lose weight without counting calories. Now, what strategy you pick is up to you. It's your own personal thing. Whatever pops in your head, fine. But I promise you, you'd come up with a plan to lose weight. Jill says this isn't live. Yes, it is, Jill. I've been answering, I don't know, like, people just pop on somewhere and say, this isn't live. When I've been literally talking to Y2K in real time. This is so funny to me. But.

Yeah, did you answer that? Y2K, would you, would you get the million bucks, do you think?

And I see, I see, yeah, look at Angie. Smaller portions, question mark. Yeah, sure, right. This is what I mean, though. Like, like, again, dieting. Don't take this wrong, folks. I'm just saying, this is. I, I'm not, I'm. You gotta understand, hate the diet, love the dieter. That, that's my mantra. Okay? So let me not conflate it. When I make fun of diets, I'm not making fun of dieters. Okay, but that's not a hard question. And what I mean is that diets have basically stopped very smart people from thinking. I know this because my clients far and wide are very smart, intelligent people. Most of my clients are overthinkers. Type A is perfectionist, action taking. Very smart people who are absolutely flummoxed. It is $25,000 to work with me privately. And you can imagine the people that have that money to fork over are extremely smart, intelligent, successful, action oriented people.

And when it comes to weight, though, they're just fluming. I don't know, I don't know. I don't care. How do. And it's like the dieting industry is literally, it's like a psychological operation. I hope you guys know psychops, but it's like dieting is a psychological operation on the population. One of the greatest ones ever pulled on us. And this idea that we need to count calories to lose weight is ridiculous. Now I get it. It feels real because that's what you've been taught your whole life. So again, I'm not, it's not a comment on you, you've been trained literally since birth that dieting is how you lose weight. Right. But for example, Right. So I, I like what Angie said. Smaller portions.

And then.

To be honest, probably not Y2K. Come on, give me a break. Come on. To be honest, probably not a million bucks. Let me flip it around. What if the person you love most was kidnapped and the kidnapper said, if you don't lose weight this month, I'm going to, you're never going to see this person again. Would you be able to lose weight now?

Right. I want you to just imagine you were motivated beyond all motivations.

And then think to yourself, what would I do? I want you to really think that I'm not. The answer might be obvious to some people, but I want, I want Y2K to break out of the diet prison they're in and realize they have a lot more answers within them than they realize. What would you do? I mean, it's a million bucks in the line. The person you love the most, what would you do?

Yeah, but I've tried to eat smaller portions. Just end up starving. Yeah. So Y2Ks in the diet mode that any reduction in calories is equals starving, which is what diets train you to do. Right. Why does diets train you to think of any smaller portion is going to feel like starving? Because every time you do a diet, it's a drastic reduction in calories. Right? I mean, the average dieter is going to reduce.

I, I, I'm throwing these numbers out, but I. Would you find out if they're in the ballpark? We wouldn't know because you don't know your normal average calorie consumption. People only track their calories when they're dieting. So they have a skewed view of how many calories they typically consume. But regardless.

You know, a dieter's, when a dieter starts a diet, they are typically reducing their calorie consumption by 40 to 70%. And so it associates in your mind that weight loss is extreme difficult thing where I'm starving. So Y2K now has the association that losing weight is Starvation. And this is what most of you dieters have. You have the association that dieting is miserable, it's starvation, it's horrible, it's frustrating, it's stressful, it's boring, it's really hard. And you have this association, which, ironically, the irony of where this leads you to is that most people, most dieters, as much as they want to lose weight subconsciously, the nervous system association they have to losing weight is negative, that losing weight is painful. And this kind of brings us to the idea that.

Most people weigh what they want because they have mistaken assumptions. So I've tried to eat smaller portions, but Y2K, every time you've tried to eat smaller portions, I'm going to guess, just based on what you said, you're going from 3,500 calories to 2,000 calories, which is a 40% reduction in calories. That's extreme. It's going to feel extreme to cut 40% of your calories out. So Y2K. Every time you've approached weight loss, you've done it. And this is what happens with dieters, that every time you start dieting, it triggers this stress response in you. The fight, flight or freeze. Sympathetic nervous system, right, gets activated every time you think about weight loss now, because you associate weight loss with pain and, and with failure, so you can't even think straight about losing weight. Most dieters, you know.

I lost the same weight four times. I'm tired of dieting. I need a new way. I love being thin. Yeah, yeah. Losing the same weight four times sucks, right? And putting it on four times sucks. So, you know, I'm tired of dieting. I get it. Stop dieting, then. Stop dieting. That's my message to you all. Stop dieting, please. Dieting doesn't work again. I just asked this, give me one diet that works. I got Slimming World, which I will respectfully disagree that it doesn't work any better than the rest of the diets. I've worked with a ton of people that have been in Slimming World, you know, and Slimming World, again, it's like Weight Watchers. It's a psychological thing, you know, because you're going, if I. Listen, if you go, meet me every week and we berate you and celebrate you when you lose weight or gain weight, you know, then, yeah, you're going to lose weight or gain weight more than the average person on their own, but the second that disappears, you're going to go right back to. It's just. It's like psychological ozempic in a way, you know, I mean, like that's what those people act as. But yeah, I need a new way. I love being thin. Well then you love program yourself then go make sure you get the. Go get the free hypnosis session I gave you. Watch the training video I made. I give you a bunch of free stuff. I will show you how to be a thin healthy person. Honestly, I am probably on the planet of Earth. I am probably you're all's number one chance of ever living as a thin healthy person. I don't say that with delusions of grandeur. I say that because I rarely in the weight loss world find people focused on you living at your goal weight for the rest of your life on your autopilot. I find everyone thinking about losing weight as fast as humanly possible.

So I don't find a lot of people focused on living at your goal weight forever. And by the way, they're two totally separate things. So if you think about losing weight as fast as possible, you think, I'm doing extreme because I want to lose weight quick, I'm gonna cut the calories really fast, I'm gonna stop eating carbs, I'm gonna stop eating for 16, whatever. Okay. About losing weight as fast as humanly possible.

So I don't find a lot of people focused on living at your goal weight forever. And by the way, they're two totally separate things. So if you think about losing weight as fast as possible, you think, I'm gonna do extreme because I want to lose weight quick, I'm cut the calories really fast, I'm gonna stop eating carbs, I'm gonna stop eating for 16, whatever. Okay. And the other side of it though is that that's not long term, it's not sustainable. And you wonder why you can't keep it up. And never have you learned a real. I always say, like dieting is like a get rich quick scheme for weight loss. But the difference is that get rich quick schemes, you have a comparison, right? Because we got get rich quick schemes within the context of, you know, going to school or getting a training or develop some skill set, something of value they can offer employer people and then being compensated for it. And so we compare those two and we see how ridiculous get rich quick schemes are. But when it comes to weight loss, all you have is diets, surgery, you know, injections now, but you got diets and there's no, there is no weight. Strategically, systematically, conceptually, holistically, mindset, lifestyle eating based, you there, you couldn't none of you can name me a system. Give me one name, one name of one programmer person outside of me who's going to teach you about how to change your mindset, your lifestyle and your eating so you can live at your goal weight. Give me one name, one program. That's all I'm asking for. And then when you can't do that, then argue to me that those things don't matter. Yeah, mindset, Jim. That. Woo woo. I just need to be told what to do and I'll just do it. Well, has that proven to be true in your life? Has being told what to eat been enough for you to stick to it and lose the weight and stay at your goal weight? I know the answer already. You know?

So.

What's up, Joyce? See, Joyce says, I feel like this is the only way to be truly successful. Totally agree with you. So far, nearly 30 pounds lost. Not dieting, just changing my eating. Yeah, nice job, Joyce. Eating less. More quality food, less processed, more veggies and protein. There you go. There you go. This is not rocket science, I promise you. The rocket science. The hardest part of this whole process is freeing yourself of the diet mindset. You, you all, if you're dieters, you're literally imprisoned in a diet mindset. And it's, it's got you trapped and you don't even realize it, you know, but again, it's really, it's not as hard as you think it is. Dieting has made it all seem harder because dieting again is sprinting in a marathon. And so every time you think about losing weight, you're overwhelming yourself. I can guarantee you that. One thing I know about you all, regardless of what plan you might use, is that whatever plan you consider to use for weight loss, the idea of doing it is overwhelming to you, which is why you avoid doing it. Right? That's where most of my clients kind of come to me from, is that they, they think about losing weight 24 hours a day and never actually take any action. You know, and that's how you know you're in. You're in trouble. Okay? That's called apathy. You're apathetic. And the reason isn't because you don't have the willpower or the motivation or the focus. It's because you don't have the system. You don't have the strategy. You've never learned how to change your mindset, lifestyle and eating so that you can live as a thin, healthy person. And so what you all are doing is you're trying to force yourself to eat different so that you can lose weight for a little while.

Yeah. Heather says agree, Slimming world does not support mindset. Easy to lose weight is all about how to maintain. Yeah, exactly. And again, I mean, slimming worlds, it's the same shit. It's just they celebrate the weight loss, you know what I mean? And you kind of get like, you know, you get really obsessed and fixated, but the only feedback you're getting, this is why diets don't work long term. Is the only positive feedback you're getting is the weight loss. Okay, let me put it a different way. Most dieters trade the excitement and the pleasure of the food for the excitement and pleasure of the scale going down. And you think, you think that once I get to my goal weight, it's going to be such a magical reality that I'm not going to need any of that anymore. I'm just going to be so happy that I won't eat, I won't put the weight back on. But what happens is you trade the pleasure and excitement of the food for the pleasure, excitement of the scale going down, all the way down to your goal weight at best. Now where's your pleasure and excitement coming from? I know you think, well, just being thin, Jim, now I'm just, I love being thin. Okay, well, when you lost the weight, why didn't you stay there then if it was so amazing, if, if just being at your goal weight was just the end all, be all, and it was, if it answered all the questions, then why does 84 to 98% of people that lose weight on a diet put it back on?

Right? And that's not a question I have to answer. It's one you would have to answer if you cared, you know. So this is what I mean when I say that no diet out there is very successful long term, you know. See, Ryan says, is your approach similar to intuitive eating? Would love to know your opinion on this topic. No, intuitive eating is again, just an idea. Honestly, it's not even a weight loss system. Right. Then they're proud to say that fine. And it's fine. I, I like aspects of intuitive eating, but I think it's because a, if you're overweight and have been overweight for a while, you're gonna, what, trust your intuitions? What do you think you got you into this trouble in the first place? It wasn't your intuitions. What intuitions exactly are you gonna trust when you're overweight? Yeah, it's like a gambler, like, oh, intuitive gambling Addiction support. Just listen to your intuitions. Which ones? The ones that want me to gamble everything. What intuitions are you listening to if you're overweight to lose weight? A, okay, B, I think that if you got the wrong intuitions to start with, how are you going to have the right intuitions? Oh, no, I got the right intuitions. They're just down low. Why would you have the right intuitions? How would you have. Because intuitive eating is just, I get, I get aspects of it and I agree with like a couple little pieces of it, but when you put it all together, I think it doesn't really explain a lot of things because what in what intuitions are you talking about? I think it's a broken model. This is what I mean. I think intuitive eating conflates things. I think intuitive eating makes you think back to.

500, what your grandparents ate, what, what cave people ate, what Paleo man ate, right? And you think about person just, just living off the land, eating natural, normal food. I'll listen to my body eat enough, stop when I'm full, all the rest of it, right? So I think a lot of people in their mind, when they think of intuitive eating, they create this fantasy scenario where they're living in like a natural environment and they're just eating the right amount and then they're full and they're satisfied and they listen to their body and they stop eating and great, okay, but that ain't the reality we all live in. What? The reality we live in is that we're constantly surrounded by hyper palatable, hyper addictive foods that are literally engineered to get us to overeat them by preying on your fucking intuitions. So what, how do we fix that? You know, like, you know why you love donuts and cookies and high calorie foods? Because your intuitions say let's eat as many calories as possible. Because we evolved in a food scarce environment where the amount of calories you consume was the primary thing that was going to dictate how long you lived. So, you know, you want to know what your core intuition is in your body is to eat everything in sight because you don't know if you're going to get access to more calories. Again, that's your core intuition when it comes to food. Do we want to listen to that intuition? No, no, not that intuition, Jim. The fullness. The fullness satiety signals. Okay, well go eat some fast food, go eat some junk food and let me know how those signals work. Because those foods, go eat a bag of Cheetos, for example. Cheetos are considered to be one of the miracles of modern food engineering. Why? Because as soon as you put the Cheeto in your mouth, it starts melting down and dissolving on your tongue. Just from the saliva on your tongue, it just starts melting down. What in nature can you eat that just melts down on your tongue like that? Well, I'll give you a clue. Nothing. It's engineered. So what hunger signals are you going to rely on? What intuitive hunger signals are you relying on to eat a bag of Cheetos? It's throwing off all your intuitive signals. That's the point of processed food, is to manipulate you by appealing to your intuitions and your biology and to override them. So again I, I get intuition as a general concept that every person kind of just makes their own philosophy up. But I think you're going to find that intuit I will put program yourself then up against intuitive eating a million times out of a million. It's going to win. Intuitive eating is not a real strategy. And it's just, I think it's just, it sounds nice, it sounds good in fantasy land. And I think as soon as you start to really rely on it, you're going to have a harder time. Now if you have already done a lot of research on food and you already know about healthier normal foods and you eat a real whole natural food diet and now you start practicing to eating, you're probably more likelihood of success. But again, depending on where you're starting from, if you eat a standard American diet and now you're going to try and eat intuitively with your stressed body, your Ottawa hormones, your emotions all over the place. I don't know, I just don't believe in it much. So. Yeah, just Jade says exactly. If I intuitively eat, I'll gain weight quickly. Unfortunately me too. If I listen to my intuitions, I want to eat all the time. Like I'm never satisfied if I'm being honest. I could just eat all day long and I literally used to do this. I used to literally eat all day until I went to bed. Basically I could always eat. So what intuitions was I listening to? I, there's always room in me for more. There was always room for a cookie, there's always room for a croissant, a muffin, a soda, a bag of chips, some pizza. There was always room for that. So again, for me personally, no, I need to have structure and intuitive eating. You know, at this point I could probably do it because I've Trained my intuitions for 30 years. So I do know now what it feels like to feel satisfied and not full. You know, I've trained my intuitions so I can rely on them more now, and that makes it easier. But if you're overweight and your intuitions and your normal. What's normal is that you stuff yourself. That's how I know I'm done. You know, if your intuitions are that your palate is, you know, calibrated to hyper palatable flavors and processed foods, I would be very scared to trust my intuitions. But that's me. What's up, Don? Don says it's baby steps. My diet's completely transformed over the last two years. Yeah, Don's a master of her weight. She's been in the program a while and she's just a superstar. And so it's like, you know, and it's like just she does the same I do now we're in the same spot. The way we talk about eating, you know what I mean? Like, it, it doesn't take that long. Again, diets you've been conditioned to just always look for shortcuts and hacks and, you know, know the quick fixes. And it's like if you would just do the work, you know, Again, it's the get rich quick scheme versus the traditional path. And it's like, yeah, get rich quick scheme is appealing because that's how it's built to be. But it doesn't work. And so the sooner you really just like, accept this and just start walking the real path, the sooner you get to a place you can't even believe. But most of you have been literally chasing the get rich quick schemes that the lose weight quick diets your whole lives, you know, so.

Y2K says, but if you're not counting calories and just eating smaller portions, how do you know you're not eating too low of calories to end up starving? Y2K, first off, I just want to be clear in program yourself, then we're not just eating smaller portions. I just want to be crystal clear. There's way more strategy and thought put into this. The eating plan.

The eating blueprint you create and program yourself then is it's very, I would say, robust psychologically and strategically. So there's never any one thing that's, again, that's a diet thing. Diets are built around the concept of the one thing, right? Because diets know they're appealing to people that are overwhelmed and, you know, just want a quick fix and just don't have a lot of time and energy to think about this shit. And that's why every diet's the one thing, right, Keto? Just stop eating carbs. Just stop eating for 16 hours. Just count your points. Just track your calories and just don't have a lot of time and energy to think about this shit. And that's why every diet's the one thing, right, Keto? Just stop eating carbs. Just stop eating for 16 hours. Just count your points. Just track your calories. Just eating meat. Just start eating meat. Just, you know, I mean, it's always one thing is how they make it seem. I don't believe that. I believe that you're gonna have to have a robust, comprehensive, holistic plan to really, truly change your weight for good, you know? So I just wanna make that clear. That being said, when you ask the question Y2K, how do you know you're not eating too low of calories to end up starving? Come on, you know the answer to that too. How do you think you would know if you're not counting Cal? This is what I mean, though. This, to me, Y2K. I really appreciate asking these questions because they really illustrate the big, big, big problem with dieting. And the big, big, big problem with dieting is that you stop thinking for yourself, you stop paying attention to how you feel, and you start living off of what other people told you. So what Y2K is saying is that if I'm not counting my calories, I don't know if I'm going to eat too little to be starving. Well, I will you give.