Practicing Losing Weight

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Everyone. Welcome to today's program Yourself Thin podcast. Today we're talking about practicing, losing weight. This is one of my favorite topics to talk about because it's something that people typically don't put together, practicing and losing weight. Because most of the time people think they just need to be told what to do and then they'll just do it. So most people approach weight loss as this very conscious oriented thing like just tell me what to do and I will do it. As if all you needed was to be given a map to where you want to go and you'll just drive yourself there. Problem is, you never learned how to drive. So you can get all the maps you want. You don't know how to drive yourself there. And what do I mean by driving when it comes to your weight loss? What I mean is I can tell you what to eat, I can tell you what to do. The real question is, can you get yourself to do it? And getting yourself to do it is a process of practice. So again, I could give you a map to somewhere, but if you don't know how to drive a car, it's not going to be very valuable to you. You could understand, oh, I take main street down to left street and whatever. Oh, got it. But you can't do it because you don't know how to drive the car. And the driving the car in terms of weight loss is the equivalent of pressing on the brake, pressing on the gas. Is being able to connect to your hunger, knowing when you're hungry and getting hungry, knowing when you're satisfied and full, being more relaxed, being more motivated, being able to live a lifestyle that supports you, making better food choices, being able to control your speed, being able to turn the wheel smoothly, all these little skills that you develop for driving a car, it's the same type of thing you have to do when it comes to your weight. There's all these little skills, skills that you've got to develop, and the only way to develop them is to practice them again. It's easy to know what you should do. It's easy for me to give you the directions to where you want to go. But you have to have known or learned at some point how to drive or you can't get there. And I think when it comes to weight loss, most people don't really focus on practicing the fundamentals that really make the difference. This is why it doesn't matter what diet you follow, you're always getting the same results because it's not a matter of knowing what to do. If you were a robot and just programmed in what you were going to eat all day and then you just did it, you wouldn't have any issue with your weight. The problem is you have an idea of what you want to do, and then when it comes time to do it, you can't get yourself to do it. And that's because, again, you have not practiced how to moderately eat. You haven't practiced how to eat more slowly. You haven't practiced how to feel more calm and grounded and centered. You haven't practiced how to choose the healthier option. It's just, again, these are practices. They're not. It's not knowledge things. And this is one of the most fundamental distinctions you have to make because it's one of the crucial things that's causing you to, to fail with, with your weight loss is because you think you just need more information. You need to come to some new diet that comes as, oh, just, no, just do this with your macros. Oh, just do this trick. It's not that it's the basic fundamentals. Because when you're stressed out, when you're a fast eater, when you have no, you know, connection to your hunger fullness signals, these things make it almost impossible to successfully control your weight. You can't consciously micromanage and control all your weight. Real success and real learning comes from when you automatically know how to do things. Okay? Reading, writing, using your computer mouse, driving a car, riding a bike, and on and on and on. All the skills that you learned, think about them, because when you do them now, you just do them automatically. You couldn't tell me how you read or how you write. You don't know what's going on behind the scenes. You just know how to do it. Why? Because you practiced it, practiced it, practiced it until it became automatic. And once it became automatic, now you can do it without any effort. This is the secret to getting control of your weight. When everything is a struggle, when you have to fight against yourself, when you're thinking about every little thing, that is not the right path. It's never going to be. Because the way your mind works, it doesn't want to use that energy all the time. Counting calories, you tracking your meals, forcing yourself not to eat your favorite foods, that doesn't work well. So you have to practice developing the skills that give you the ability to comfortably live at your goal weight. When you approach it that way, the whole process changes. And instead of thinking, just because I know something, I'm going to do it, you Start to practice the fundamentals. So you do it automatically. And just like anything else, you know, the funny part is if you look at anything else in your life that you learn, this is what you do. Musical instrument art, dance, martial arts, whatever hobby you may have or skill you may have. How did you develop it? Well, you learned some things and then you practiced it. You practiced it, you made mistakes, you learned, you practiced some more, you got better at it, you made more mistakes, you learned, you grow, you get better. And what happens is you're really building on your subconscious learnings that have been automated, right? So again, when you ride your bike now, you don't have to think about it, you just automatically do it. You see? So this is the part we want to focus on. Because when you start focusing on this, it makes it way easier. You're not doing this right now. Subconsciously, you're programmed the wrong way and you're trying to fight against that. What I would want to do is I'd want to reprogram my subconscious mind. And that takes practice, repetition, reinforcement. Just like learning anything else, you need to keep practicing it. I think a lot of dieters confuse knowing what to do with being able to do it. And once you realize that, you can put your energy where it's really going to serve you best. And that's in practicing the little things that make you into the person you want to be. Instead of thinking that, just tell me what to do and I'll force myself to do it. That's not a long term effective strategy. Okay, we want to break it down and work on the little things. So if you want support with this, click the link in my bio. Go get the free hypnosis session I made for you. It's called the New Thin Me. It's completely free. Go check it out. There's also a video training I made for you. I send you emails. Pretty soon we're have a whole free community section of my app for you. So I give you tons and tons of free stuff to help you get control of your weight so you can live at your goal weight for the rest of your life. Go check that out again. Click the link in my bio or go to program yourself then dot com. And if you have any questions, feel free to ask them. Here we are on a Friday. I'm here for it.

This is a good week. I had a fun week, but it was kind of tiring. I went to the fair in the middle of the week and it took a little bit out of me. So I'm Kind of getting back, and then I'm going away tomorrow too, so. So it's a double. A double dose of busy week here. So I hope you're all having a nice week. And yeah, if you have any questions about weight, feel free to ask them. That is what I'm here for is to help you get control over your weight. Now, again, going back to what I was saying about the skill set piece. I mean, in reality, you don't really get control of your weight. You know, that's always an illusion because to be honest, you don't really gain or lose weight. Not really. Right. Gaining or losing weight is a level separated from what you do. Let me frame it a little easier. There's cause and effect and weight gain. Weight loss is an effect of how you're eating and how you're living. Right? So you can't gain or lose weight. You can eat different and it turns into weight loss or weight gain, depending, you know, how much time goes by and stuff, you know, what you're doing. So it's important to recognize that, because when we focus on the effect, it almost makes you feel powerless, you know, because again, you can't gain or lose weight. You know, short of chopping a limb off and being two or, you know, £10 light or whatever, there's nothing you can do to lose weight right now. You can't. You're not making yourself lose weight. It's a level above. You're making yourself eat different, live different. And I think when you get that, you know, just again, another. Another slight distinction in how you think about this whole process, you know, so. Yeah, but I know for a lot of people, it is funny. I always feel like the fall is really a time when a lot of people definitely kind of reflect on how the year is going. I don't know if it's the school conditioning, you know, sometimes we'll get that school thing going on, right. Take it back to fall, and it's kind of back to work. And so I do find fall really almost is. Is more. People seem to be more into it almost sometimes than even the new year, you know, in terms of their weight. But, yeah, any questions you're having doesn't matter what diet you're on. Feel free to ask any questions. Of course, it doesn't matter what diet you're on. The answer is pretty much the same for me. Most of the diets fail. I always say this, you know, most of the diets fail not because of the nutritional philosophy of it. Right. So it's not like, like the idea of, you know, cutting carbs out. Right. So again, I wouldn't argue that if you cut all the carbs out, you're going to lose weight most likely. Right. My problem with it is that if you're even going to try and do that, you're going to do it like a dieter and you're going to jump into that plan 100%, you're going to cut all the carbs out starting tomorrow, 100% and then try and keep that up as long as you can. And it's this idea of changing everything all at once that's really at the core of why most dieters struggle so hard to lose weight. So Invincible Singh says, do I really need to go to the gym? I want to gain healthy weight. No, you do not need to go to the gym to lose weight at all. Just please understand that you do not need to go to the gym to lose weight. Weight loss happens when you reduce your average calorie consumption and over time, so you do not need to go to the gym to do that. And as a matter of fact, a lot of, I don't know, that's really questionable thing, you know, there's evidence out there that the exercise doesn't really support weight loss. There's a lot of reasons and there's licensing effect, there's metabolic factors, there's just all sorts of issues with it. Again, I'm not saying don't exercise. I think exercising is great for a lot of reasons, but when it comes to weight, I think most people make. Now, again, my clients, most of my clients are women between the ages of 45 and 70. I would say that's the average client I work with. Most of them are very busy, have a lot going on and for them, the idea of adding hours of working out a week, it's just a huge commitment and a huge, huge use of energy. And we only have so much energy. So to me, most of the time, I think people are better served putting that energy into getting control of their eating. That's going to serve your weight loss better and for the short term and the long term. And of course you can exercise and work out. I think that's great, but I think you should put it in its right place, the exercising. You're, you're way going to get better results putting that energy into changing your eating than you are trying to burn it off. Right? There's a great saying, you can't out train a bad diet and it's fundamentally true. So it is really important that you, you know, strategically dedicate your energy where you get the most return on from. You know, Carol says, please suggest how to develop a new habit, such as stacking. Yeah, I mean, habit stacking is a wonderful way, you know, to add a new habit. But let's just break that down. Why? Because that explains habits. Again, we, you know, we in the program here, program yourself. Then we use what's called the goal weight pyramid, right? So we got mindset, lifestyle, eating, and in the mindset piece, which, where we really start with this, right, that's why it's the foundational piece, people always jump to the eating piece. But really if you want to get great results, we got at some point do the mindset. And the third thing in mindset is habits, right? So understanding the neuroscience of habits, how habits actually run in your brain and body is really valuable, you know, I would say so. Anyway, so habit stacking is basically, you know, you've got a toothbrushing habit and you want to, you know, add, I don't know, you want to practice your posture while you're breathing your teeth, right? That's habit stacking. You've got one habit where you're brushing your teeth and now we're going to stack, you know, working on your posture while you do that. That's an example of habit stacking. So we take one habit we have, we just put another one on top of it. So that's a really great strategy. Why does it work though? It works because what triggers habits in us is called cues. Cues are triggers and it's usually an environmental cue. Right. Again, when you think about your toothbrushing habit, you don't have it in your planner. You don't have alarm go off, say, oh, it's time to brush your teeth. It's just automatically installed in you and you do it at the same time. It happens in a very pattern oriented way. And it's probably related to your bed. Right? You get out of bed, that's one of the first things you do. You get ready to go to bed, it's one of the first things you do before you go to bed. Right. But it's linked up there so you don't have to remember or think about brushing your teeth. It's just linked together that you do it when you do it and you just automatically think about it and do it pretty much on autopilot. Okay. And so that's an example of a habit. And so once you start to understand the nuts and bolts of how habits work psychologically, you can start to Be way more strategic with your habits. And the most important piece of habit that you have to understand is that you can't get rid of bad habits. There's no getting rid of bad habits because neuroscience, one of the core rules of neuroscience is that you can't get rid of old wiring. You're not going to rip out old wiring out of your mind. That wiring is going to remain. The secret is to wire over a new behavior. When that cue and trigger fires off, that gives you a similar reward. So again, when you're more strategic with it, it's much better. So again, yeah, so the idea of habit stacking, though, is just what you said it's taking. So if you want to eat an apple, you know, I mean, you could do anything. Again, well, let's just say I want to eat an apple. So it's like I would associate that with some other habit I have. Maybe I go for a walk every afternoon for 10 minutes, maybe I'll stack those together. Once I get back from my walk, I eat an apple. And so it starts to become a whole health ritual for me, you know. So again, that's the idea of habit stacking is that when you want to add a new habit instead of just leaving out in the ether and saying, I want to eat, I want to eat more apples, good luck, right? Because that, that habit, that new idea of I want to eat more apples, it's just existing, floating out in the air by itself, right? When all of a sudden I said I want to eat more apples. And what I'm going to do strategically is I'm going to eat an apple when I get back from my walk that I usually take at two o' clock in the afternoons. You see the difference. It feels so different because now what you've done is you've installed it into your subconscious pattern and programming. So I'm gonna eat more apples. Vague, unattached. Now I'm say I'm eat apple when I get back from my walk at 2 o'. Clock. You see, now it's way more specific. And you're giving your subconscious mind way more cues and triggers to connect that new habit and behavior to. And the chances of it working go way, way up. Now, you can do more than that, but that's kind of the start of it.

Andrea says is it possible to lose the excess skin of an apron postmenopausal belly without surgery?

That's a good question. And I know a lot of people think about that. In the truth, from what I've seen, is that it just depends. The most unsatisfying answer, you know, but boy, bodies are just so different, you know, I couldn't answer that because what works for one person in terms of, you know, skin and, and all that is just. It's so across the board and different for each person. And I think anyone that's telling you anything else is probably full of. You just never know until you do it. So, you know, I can't answer that for everyone, and you probably can't answer that for yourself, perhaps, you know, so to me, it's like, do what you're doing and see what happens. You just never know what your body's gonna do.

So everybody is so unique, you know, especially when it comes to skin. You know, some people's skin responds one way, some people skin responds a different way. So get on, get on your results, start doing what you're doing and then see what happens and then deal with, you know, whatever you want to deal with then, you know, that's the path I would probably follow.

Jan says thank you. Have made notes from your post and I'm determined to make some changes and get my mindset right. That's awesome, Jan. Yeah. Again, yeah. I put so many videos out. You know, watching those videos will really help you think differently. You know, getting on my email list, really, really valuable. And I just have more and more stuff coming. I. I'm. When you guys read this book, I hope you love this book. I know my clients are absolutely going to love it. I was. Every time I read it, I'm so excited. So I can't wait. And it's getting closer and closer being done too. This is, I will say this is the fastest project. Well, it's not done yet, so I'm not going to do this to myself. But this has been the fastest project ever because I literally thought about this book like a month ago and it's just flowed right out of me and it's so cool. So anyways, that. That'll be another thing coming. I think in a couple weeks. I think we're going to have it out.

Oh, Invincible Sin says I want to gain weight. Oh, yeah? Yeah. Do I really need to go to the gym if I want to gain weight? Yeah, I would say so. You know, if you want to gain, I mean, what's healthy weight? You know, I don't know what your weight is now, but, you know, if you're looking to become, you know, if you're a typical guy and you want to get stronger and, you know, bigger, then, yeah, you're probably going to want to lift weights because you got to spur the muscle growth in order to use up those calories as opposed to storing them as fat. So, yes.

Jennifer says Thanks for your suggestions. 29 pounds since June 1st. Holy crap. Nice job, Jed. Jennifer, I don't want to short your name on you. Oops. That's awesome. Look at that. 29 pounds, huh? That's, that's. I love that weight loss. Let's see. June, July, August, September. Four months, £29. All right, not bad. It's pretty good.

£7Amonth.

It's about right. About the right spot, right? One and a half pounds a week. That, that's, that's a little, a little bit. That, that's quick and I like it. So I don't know what you did, so I'm thinking, okay, nice job.

That's. I think that's right. The money. I, I always look one to two pounds a week. Half a pound, half a pound to two pounds a week. You know, half a pound to one pound a week is kind of what I like. Of course, everyone's faster weight loss. I get that. But again, everything's a relative thing, right? So it's like the faster the weight loss, the more extreme thing you're doing. Do you know what I mean? So I always have to take into account both sides of it. We can't just want the fastest weight loss because that's the most extreme thing. The most extreme thing is hard to keep up. So we're really looking for that sweet spot where we're consistently. It's consistently going down, but it's consistently going down a way that's relatively comfortable for us. That is the magic spot. And so I'd say you're right in that ballpark. Jennifer, nice job. Great job. Jennifer says, best advice I learned from you is saying to myself, I'll eat that later. Yep, that's a good one, right? That's a big one. I'll have it later. Now, again, that's something I learned out of a study and that, that become a core, core central concept to program yourself, then is the idea that I'll have it later, right? We're not saying no to it. We're just saying, I'll have it later. And scientifically, that is a much more effective response to cravings than, oh, I can't have it. I can't have it. No, I'm on a diet. No, I can't eat that. So, yes, I'll have it later. As one of the most valuable kind of responses to cravings that you can have.

So nice job Jennifer, keep it up. I don't know what your final goal is, but it sounds like you're well on your way there. Again, I say that for two reasons. Not only that you've lost 28 pounds, but also that it's, you've been doing it for a number of months now. So love to hear that.

See here, Lori says.

Feeling so good about cutting out what you referred to as the 40 pound habit after dinner snacking, Starting small, but making a difference on the scale. Lori, I'm super proud of you for that. That's what I'm talking about. See when we can start focusing on the behavior rather than, rather than changing all our behavior at once. Program yourself then is so different than dieting because dieting is 100% improvement philosophy, meaning it's all or nothing. So whenever you start your diet, the core problem with your dieting is a mindset one and it's that you start whatever diet you're going to do. It does not matter if it's vegan, carnivore, South Beach, Jenny Craig, it doesn't matter what you're going to do to lose weight. The biggest problem is, mindset wise, you're going to jump into it 100%. 100%. You're going to change everything, all of your eating, everything changes. And it's like you can do that for a little while and then you just go back to what you always did. So instead of trying to change 100% in one day and program yourself, then we're looking to change 1% a day. We're playing the long game here. Okay? And when you start changing 1% a day, what happens is it's comfortable, we're not overwhelming ourselves. And what's going on is because we keep improving a little bit at a time, we start to get good at it and we start to build on our, our new behaviors and we focus ourselves strategically. So instead of trying to change all of your eating, we'll focus on your worst eating habit, the highest calorie habit. Right? And so that's what Lori's talking about. And so maybe it's after dinner eating. It was for me, right? It was nighttime eating was my biggest issue in the beginning. And so I focused on that for months and months and months and I figured out real genuine strategies that resolve that, that whole issue. And 30 years later, I don't eat at night. You know, I mean like I fixed it, I genuinely fixed it. I found the antidote to it. Now it Took me longer. Again, I didn't just say, okay, I'm starting my diet. No more snacking at night, you know what I mean? Like, like I'm on the front card of a roller coaster the whole time. It wasn't like that. It was like, okay, let me understand this habit. Let me try some different things. Let me figure it out, you know what I mean? It was consistently working out in a comfortable way. And what happens? I finally got to the point where it's like I just wiped it out. And once I did it that way, it lasted. So, you know, you say, oh my God, six, six months it's going to take me to get rid of my, my snacking at night. Well, who gives a if it, if it takes you six months to get rid of it forever, do you think it was worth it for me? Say it took me six months to get rid of my night snacking and now I haven't night snacked in 30 years. Would that be worth it to you? Wouldn't it? So again, dieting's got you all screwed up because you're so obsessed with getting instant results that you're doing goofy strategies, you know, And I try to point this out every day because the worst thing about dieters is they blame themselves. Dieters are always beating themselves up that they don't have the self control or willpower to do it. When in reality it's your horseshit strategy. You always use the example. It would be like if you wanted to learn the piano and for some reason you got it in your head that in order to learn the piano you had to play eight hours a day. And so you stop, okay, I'm ready to do it. And you sit down for your eight hours, right? Even if you got through the first day, you wake up the next day, your hands are gnarled and killing you. You hate the piano now, right? Another eight hours. It's like how long you do that till you quit. You know, it's just, it's overwhelming. And that's what you're doing every time you try to lose weight is. You are just instantly overwhelming yourself. Which, by the way, is the main reason why you can't get yourself to start a diet. Now, most likely you think about weight loss 24 hours a day and don't actually do anything to make it happen. And one of the big reasons why that is is because when you think about losing weight, you think about doing extreme, overwhelming things. So you don't want to, you don't want to do that, right? You're having a hard enough time just getting through the day, not even with the weight, just life itself at this point, takes pretty much all you got just to get through that. And so what are you going to do? Just add on top of it to just, just casually, I'm just going to completely change my eating, you know what I mean? Like, it's like the diet industry minimizes that so much. It's estimated you make over 200 food decisions a day. And what, because tomorrow, because you decided to be on a diet, now you're just all gonna make 200 totally new, healthy, great food decisions a day? It's like dieters, I always say this. Dieters suffer from diet or dementia. Like, you completely forget what the last diet was like, you know, and it's just like, I always use this other metaphor too, that dieting is kind of like, it's like you're going to run a marathon, but you're going to run it like a sprinter. And you're like, you know what? I got the ultimate strategy. I'm just going to sprint the whole time. How could I lose if I just sprint the whole time? And the gun goes off and you start sprinting in the first eighth of a mile, you're way out in front, you're like, I told you I knew this would work. And the next day of a mile just collapse and you don't even finish the race. But then in your mind, you're like, ah, I got to sprint longer next time, I need to sprint longer. And it's like, you can want to do that all you want, but there's physical realities we're dealing with too. And so when it comes to the dieting, this idea that you're just going to completely change your eating in one day and then just stick with it is so silly. It's silly to the extreme. And I think it's the core reason why people. Again, it's estimated 95% of dieters that lose weight, 95% of the successful dieters put the weight back on. And I think this is part of that, you know, is that it's not a strategy built for long term, it's a strategy built for the short term weight loss. And it doesn't take into account what your real goal is, because your real goal is not to lose weight. Just letting you know, I know you think it is, I know you say it to yourself a kabillion times a day, but your real goal is not to lose weight, it's to live at your goal weight. And those are Two completely different goals with two completely different strategies you need to follow to achieve them. So Nick says, excellent advice. Well, thank you. Appreciate that. What's up, Claudia? I know you. You wrote to me. I got it right back to you. I got caught up this week. I'm not gonna lie. I got a little bit behind this week. So anyone waiting for me? It was a kind of a crazy week. It's just breaking all around me, I will tell you that. I mean, things are breaking all around me, but I think I'm on the. I think I'm on the upswing here. But goodness gracious, what a week. Still got a lot done, though. Like, they get a lot done. But, yes, I'm. I'm treading water over here. But I'll get back to you. Claudia says, hi, Jim, how are you? How to stay in a calorie detective mode. Yes.

I'm doing great, by the way. I'm doing really great. I'm so excited. I'm telling you. I've been working on this book really, like, like the last four weeks. Just. I love it. I love it, you know, so it's so close, but I'm excited about it. And what made me think of it as the calorie detective mode as well. But I'm doing great. So, yeah, calorie detective mode is really just paying attention to the calories you're eating. So how do you do that? Well, you know, Claudia, it's really built into the program, right? So if you start to focus on the redo rehearsal technique, that alone will help you stay in calorie detective mode. So again, in program yourself, then there's kind of like two main things. There's knowing what to do, which is really this here, right? So this is the goal weight blueprint. And so this is what do I do, right? What exactly do I do to lose weight? And let me break it down to mindset, lifestyle and eating. How do I think? How do I live? How do I eat? Like a thin, healthy person? Tell me what to do, right? That's what we figure out there. So there's knowing what to do, but the other side is knowing how to get yourself to do it right? So you can know what to do. I can sit here and give you a perfect plan for you, but if you don't know how to get yourself to do it, it's not going to make much difference. So in programming yourself, then we have the goal weight blueprint, which shows you what to do. And then we have the rehearsal technique, which shows you how to get yourself to do it. It's a self programming technique. Right. And so, Claudia, what I would suggest to you is you start dedicating more to that. Right? Start dedicating at night to taking that 30, 60 seconds to doing the radio rehearsal technique. And that is going to make you a better calorie detective. It's going to help you realize and appreciate where the calories are coming from more effectively and then deal with it as well. Okay. That's the number one strategy I could give you. Beyond that, I mean, certainly you could keep a food journal for a week or two, you know, just to get a sense of where you're at. Not, not forever, but, but just an idea where you're at. So those are kind of the two things I would suggest.

Rachel says binge eating on the weekends for me, probably because I restrict during the week. Yeah, well, there you go, Rachel. Yeah, exactly. You know, I always say this, that where the problem shows up oftentimes is not where the problem was created. So I get this on a weekly and daily basis. This is what happens. This is the most common pattern of dieters. The daily one I can't tell you the number of. I've had a nickel every time this has happened, right. Someone comes to me and says, Jim, I don't know what's going on. Breakfast at lunch, great. And then afternoon dinner, everything falls apart. And I say, okay, what do you eat for breakfast and lunch? Nothing. I said, okay, well, well, how's that going? Great. What do you expect to do? Just not eat anything all day? What's going on? And so what happens here is that a lot of times dieters will try and restrict, restrict, restrict, restrict. And then they get so hungry and so depleted that then they way overeat. That's the most common diet or pattern that there is. And it happens daily and weekly, typically. Okay, and so you got your answer right there, Rachel. This is that don't restrict so much during the week. You know, again, we have to look at our calories as our average calorie consumption. And again, in programming yourself, then we structure our eating, you know, so we, we make room for clean and pleasure days. So we kind of work with this. But basically the idea is this, that we want to look at the calories as a whole during the week. You know, we don't want to be like, oh, this week I did great. And then this weekend I'm not paying attention. We want to look at both types of days. We want to look at the week and the weekend together. And we want to see, like, where the average calories are total, and then we want to look at that week and figure out where's the easiest place for me to cut some calories out. And a lot of times, making some eating a little bit more during the week puts you in a much stronger position for the weekend. Comes to cut some calories down there comfortably. So I think you're already on your, your solution. I think you're close to that. So that's a great question on great awareness, by the way.

Breaking the diet culture. Trying, Trying, right. Dieting is the dumbest ever. So I do what I can. I can't wait. Like I said, I, I. This has been, I don't know. Life is so fun. I will tell you this, too. I'm kind of talking a little ahead of schedule, and this is the thing I got to watch out for. Sometimes I talk about things as if they already happen. It takes the pressure off a little bit. So. I'm aware of that. Okay. What I'm saying is I have been doing this for over 20 years. And it's so funny. I had a real, not a U turn, but a path in my life, a Fork over 20 years ago. I was, I had a hypnosis office, and I always focused on weight loss for the whole time. And I'd create a program myself then program yourself then. I've been teaching for over 20 years, and I was teaching in hypnosis, my office. I was going out and teaching in different places to groups and, And a friend of mine had started get online. It was doing an online business. And so we started talking and we did some work together, and it just blew up online. And so at that moment, I said, I forget the book. I was about to write a book, and instead I went, you know, online, all the rest of it, happy with the decision. But hey, 20 years later, I was like, I got to write the book. But here I am in 2025, and it's potentially, if we want to call this a book, I'm definitely calling this a book. Right. It's not available for everyone to buy just for clients, you know, but this is 144 pages of book, right? So this is, I worked on the whole front of the year. This other book I'm about to knock out in another week or two here. And then I got a book, I got two books coming right behind that. It's like, it's crazy. That's why I say, folks, you got to stick with things. You know, sometimes they call it the planning Fallacy. And it's like when we start our journey, we kind of give ourselves the best case scenario. I'm gonna lose weight. So it's gonna be like this. I'll lose weight every week until I get to my goal weight. And we always think I have the best case scenario. Don't take into account all the. And there's always, you know, and so you just got to stick with it. That's the most important piece of succeeding with anything. But certainly with weight, it's not about like, oh, okay, a book in a day or a book in a week. I'm going to spend this month writing the book. That's great. But sometimes it doesn't work that way. Sometimes you just got like water on rock. And you just got to keep on, be resilient, you know, but it's easier to be resilient when you don't, oh, I got to do all this, you know, break it down into small pieces and just keep doing little things that move you forward and that. It's so fun because then you just never know. You just never know when things are going to happen. How could I want to write a book for 20 years and then maybe in eight months I make two or three books? Like, how is that possible? You know, just now, I haven't done it yet, so maybe I'll bullshit myself now, but it's just. Life is funny. It doesn't move linearly is what I'm saying. Do you know what I mean? And I think you need to realize how the weight loss, because I see that so much, that's like one. Oh, boy. If I could tell you, I used to track weight with clients and it was never, it was never this, it was never this. It was always this, you know what I mean? And so the moment to moments were this wild ride. But when you zoom out, you see a trend line going down. But when you zoom in, you see, you know what I mean? Up, down, straight, flat plateaus, all the rest of it. And I think you need to go into the process expecting that, you know, because it sets up, it makes you more resilient. And you need resiliency because the process of weight loss is never just a straight line. It starts and stops. You know, things work, things don't work. You know, ups and downs, backwards steps, forward steps, all of it. It's like the Wonka Vader or the Wonka Vader goes in every direction. And that's kind of how weight, weight goes, you know, because you're a real human being who's living a life and just things happen, you know, but if you stick with it again, the trend line will go exactly where you want it to go. What's up, Georgina? Georgina says this is reassuring. My worst habit is overeating when over tired and stressed. I haven't figured out reliable strategies yet, but I'm now more aware and once I am more rested, I jump right back to my healthy eating without thinking about it. Yeah, that's great, Georgina. Yeah, Georgina's in the program. And so that's what you learn to do, you know, so, so here you go, Georgina. Right? When what you want to start doing is. My worst habit is overeating when over tired and stressed. Okay, so let's talk about that for a second. We don't want to leave it vague in general, so we don't want to make it seem like, oh, I just randomly get overtired and stressed. So next time I get overtired and stressed, I'm going to pay attention to it. Because part of being overtired and stressed, it's like an inebriated state. So you have to understand that every time you go into a tired stress state, your, your awareness goes down. So the secret, Georgina, is to zoom out a little bit and start to notice your over tired, stressed patterns. So, you know, I mean, so you can start to expect it because I guarantee you, yes, there are some spontaneous over tired stress times. I'm not doubting that. But I also know there are very pattern oriented, stressed overwork times. Okay, so start to look for those. They might be on Fridays, it might be Wednesdays, it might be Saturday morning, it doesn't matter. It's different for each person. But start to notice the situations where you consistently get overtired or stressed and then start to focus on that and optimize that. Okay, so because, because what I'm saying is getting overtired and stressed in the afternoon at work is different than getting overtired and stressed at 9 o' clock on your sofa. You know what I mean? They require. They're two different situations that require two different strategies. You can't just have the same, oh, I'm not gonna get overstressed and tired anymore, huh? Yes, you are. And they show up differently in different contexts. So you need to recognize the specific context of where you get overtired and stressed the most and then go to work on that. So I hope that makes sense. Georgina, notice the number one time when you notice yourself getting over stressed and tired. And I promise you there's a pattern that probably Shows up almost daily, I bet. So start focusing on that and working on that. Don't try and just fix all the times you get overtired and stressed. Zoom into one specific one. Start working on that. All right, Jen says, what was your turning point that made you decide to lose weight?

I. I say that I haven't told the story in a while. You know, for me it was really just like, it felt like a miracle. You know what I mean? This is part of why I feel like this is my mission. This is literally why I get here every single day. Well, not every, Every Monday through Friday, I get here on noon to help you all out. This is a mission for me. And part of that mission is because I just feel so fortunate that this stuff just fell in my lap. I was 19, I was over 50 pounds overweight, heavier than I am now. I was binge drinking, I was miserable. You know, my father died of a heart attack when I was nine, you know, so this was extra stressful for me because I swore I wasn't going to do this. And all of a sudden, you know, my behaviors were starting to show up my body and I was feeling like shit. But at the same time. So I took a semester off from college. And this is why I feel like the luckiest person on the planet because this is really true. I'm about to tell you. I took the semester off from college feeling low. And all of a sudden, like in my life, like within a month or two, hypnosis, neuro linguistic programming, Tony Robbins, yoga, meditation, martial arts, guitar, all fell into my lap. Personal development, all, it all fell in my lap in like a month or two. And it really, really transformed me. And I began to think about my weight and one of the big differences was that nlp. So I, I got exposed to neuro linguistic programming. And the main idea of NLP is that you're going to model people that got the results you want. This was huge for me because up until that point, what I learned about weight loss, I primarily learned from people that were overweight. I always say this story. The number one person that taught me the most about diets was actually a 400 pound family friend. He was a great guy. He was a comedian, you know, and he, the last 20 years of his life, he lived in a wheelchair because he never got the weight off. But he would do a different diet each and every month, spend so much money. He would tell me about him, you know, tell me all the philosophy, this, all the rest of it never worked for him. And so I Always remember that. But then. So when I learned about nlp, I said, why don't I listen to people that actually got the results I want? So I began to look for people that lost weight and kept it off, though. That was the big difference. I realized I don't give a shit about losing weight. I want to keep it off. Where are the people that have lost weight and kept it off for at least two years? And I began to look for them. And I'll tell you, you'll find a lot of them usually at the Y. There's a lot of them at the Y. There are people at the Y. I say, at the highest percentage rate of people that have made this, their lifestyle, that have transformed inside out into a healthier version of themselves. And so I found a lot of them there and I began speaking to them and it was night and day, what they said about food, lifestyle, their mindset, how they thought about things compared to what overweight people trying to lose weight and diet said, they were night and day. They were opposites. And so that's what started me and my results. I was so happy because again, you have to understand too, for me, weight was always life and death. Yeah, sure, I wanted to look a certain way. I certainly had the, the superficial stuff too. But for me, my dad died of a heart attack at 54. The health piece and the weight piece was always meant more, you know, and so when I started to really get a handle on this and change my weight and transform, it was so important to me. I literally, I went to school and got a degree for finance and investments. So I went to business school and. But this stuff was happening around the same time, you know, and I worked a little bit, but then, you know, ultimately I finally got certified as master hypnotist, NLP trainer, yoga instructor, all this stuff. And I just had to do this, you know. So anyways, that, that's my story. And yeah, there it is. Jen says, what is nlp? Yeah. Neuro Linguistic Programming. Yeah. Laurie says, jim, you're the miracle for me. Bless you. Thank you, Laurie. That's nice to say. That's nice. And I really feel that way. I, I don't, you know, I mean, like, I, I genuinely, I didn't do anything. I wasn't particularly any great person. So for all this stuff to fall in my lap just literally felt like the universe just opened up and dropped it in my lap. Now I took advantage of it. I held on to it tight, you know what I mean? Like, when I found this stuff, I really Grabbed on with both hands and wrote it out. But yeah, I feel. I feel very fortunate. So RLT says I suddenly gained so much weight after eating lots of steamed chicken recently. Is it because too much chicken have additive effects? My body can store fat. What do you usually have for your protein source? Like what do you eat in a day? Yeah, I mean, chicken. Chicken is. It's interesting because the chicken you eat when you were a kid is different than chicken now. You know, I mean, it's always being, you know.

Genetically influenced, you know, breedingly influenced, environmentally influenced, you know, to be, you know, when it comes to livestock, it's all about how quickly can we turn it into profit, you know, and so it's not about how can make the healthiest, tastiest food possible. But anyways, that's another story. What my protein source. I'm not a big protein guy, so I think that there's a lot of. I think there's a lot of over emphasis on proteins. I think there's a lot of money, big protein, right? This is a real thing. There's a lot of money being made from people selling protein in whatever form. I think protein's overstated. I think I'm a big fan of the blue zones, which. All the blue zones, the healthiest places in the world, none of them were high protein diets. They're all high carb diets, you know, low protein. So that's what I follow. I think it's a pretty, you know, established diet. High, high carb diet is the diet of every healthy civilization in history. And I don't know, I ask this every day. I've never. No one ever gives me an answer. I gotta research it myself again. But give me the civilization we're referring to. Who ate a high protein diet that thrived? I don't know him. So anyways, my main protein sources, I do eat fish here and there, but my main protein sources is beans. Beans are my. My main protein source. All the different kinds of beans. So, Vicki, because I. Jim, you've been transformative for me. Well, I'm glad that's what I'm here for. And Vicki's a superstar. So Vicki uses the program and she was awesome before she even got to the program. Weight Watchers, lifetime member and all that. So. But again, you know, it's always success leaves clues. And successful people are always improving and getting better. So Vicki's one of them, says, I appreciate. Well, thank you.

That'S all nice. You.

Little Miss user says hello all. Thanks for your time. Jim, you're welcome. Welcome. Well, this user says, my problem is liquid hidden added sugars. Yes, absolutely. Everyone's problem is liquid added sugars, liquid calories if you're eating them. Okay? So I think that that's important to remember. We evolved in an environment where there were no liquid calories. We weren't drinking milk, you know, for most of history, so there was no liquid calories. So our bodies are not good at like, like when you drink liquid calories, 200, 300 calories, your body doesn't measure it the same as if you eat 200 calories, 300 calories. So right off the bat, it's gonna be, it's gonna make it harder to regulate. Right, because you're, what I'm saying is this, you could drink 200 calories and not get any satiety from it. It's not satisfying you. So the, you know, you drink the 200 calories and you're still hungry. So I, I, I, you know, I drink beer occasionally, wine occasionally. But really, again, I, I think liquid calories for, for most people ought to be a focus because it just makes everything so much harder, you know, like, so, again, I'm not saying like, you have it like I do that with everything that's hard, like sugar, alcohol, carbs, like refined carbs. Right. Flour. These things I respect, you know, and I will enjoy them sometimes, but I enjoy them. Model moderately with a strategy behind me. Me, you know, I'm just letting them go through. And liquid calories would be right on the top of that list of things I would really pay attention to and start to dial down, you know, because everything else get easier. Claudia says now I'm anxious about the reader rehearsal technique since it's been time without doing it. Oh, no, don't be, don't be anxious, Claudia, because I'll tell you why. Perfect. Perfect timing. What I would suggest going to the circle app, go to PYT system, watch the Q A replays. The last two weeks I went through the redo rehearsal technique. I would watch that because it was really good training. I just keep, I, you know, this is what I do. I am always iterating this program because I'm always teaching it. You know, I mean, like, I'm constantly going through the program, teaching and teaching and teaching. It's always tweaking it, making it better. In the RITA rehearsal technique, I'm working on making that better. So go watch that, Claudia. Don't, don't be anxious. Don't be stressed at all. I think, I think I've gotten Better at explaining it. So go into the Circle app, go to PyT system, the Q A replays and watch the last two. And there's notes there too. Okay. But I'd watch them and I take you right, right through them. Right. And you'll be right back in the game with it. Okay. What's up, Lisa?

This is same for me, Jim. It's been a miracle for me finding you and I really appreciate it. Well, that's really nice. That's a screenshot worthy. Gonna go wobbly one though. Yeah, always nice hearing nice things. That's another thing on my list is I've got literally gigabytes of testimonials that I've got to post so everyone knows what's up.

But anyways.

Yes, RT says thanks so much, Jim. You are always my inspiration. Well, that's very nice of you. Thank you. I will say that's why I do it. You know what I mean? I love helping people out and I love being able to share this stuff. You know, I realize my life's work. So I appreciate you all listening. It makes me happy. What's up, Carmel? Carmel says I keep hearing of people using MCT Oil to curb cravings while fasting. Not sure about it, to be honest. Yeah, that's.

You know. No, there's no one thing that's gonna do it for you. You know what I mean? So save your money on MCT Oil and just buy fruits and vegetables and eat more whole natural foods and you'll, you'll do better.

Just a quick laugh. I worried about my mosquito bite.

Wait, that's you, Christina, what do you say? Oh, I worried about mosquito bite. That's funny. Yeah, it is funny. I don't know. We're talking about worrying I should do. I got to do a whole podcast on worrying, right? Because we worry ourselves right into. The worrying basically is, you know, program yourself. Then we talk about programming our mind, right? So intentionally kind of focusing our mind on what we want to accomplish, how we're going to do it, right? Just solution oriented what we want. And worrying is basically the opposite of that, you know, so worrying is basically imagining the worst case scenario over and over again, you know, so. And it's funny when you do that, when you worry, you feel like shit, right? So you could imagine or think about something that hasn't even happened or happened 10 years ago and feel bad about it. So again, this is the power of your imagination. You use it all the time. You just, most of the time people are using it in the wrong direction. They're using it to worry, feel bad, scare themselves, be depressed, whatever. So, again, learning how to run your mind is so crucial. But, yes, when you start paying attention to it, a lot of times you realize, you know, you may not be aiming in the right direction. So that's funny.

Santina. Hey, Santina. What's going on? My friends still love starting over. Yes, we all love starting over. I mean, every day, starting over. I think that's one thing from the AA world is the idea that one day at a time, you know, I'm a huge believer in that. When you really internalize that, it's one of the greatest gifts you could have. You know, just always living in the moment is really what it means, and living in the moment's really the goal. Mindfulness really is a part of pyt, no doubt about it. But it's the idea, like, each and every day, you know, we're trying to make the most of it, and we have good and bad days, you know, I mean, like, that. That's in obvious and expected, but each and every day, we're looking to just kind of get where we're at. So each day is an opportunity to start over again. And I think that's very freeing, you know? So I agree. Jen says, what's your favorite healthy food snack? I mean, if I. I don't really snack very much anymore. I really do have figured out what meals satisfy me. So most of the time, I'm not snacking. But if I was gonna snack now, you gotta understand, this is a journey I've been on, you know, so it started with healthier snacks. What I thought was healthier snacks like Clif bars, which weren't really, but so. And then I would switch over to, oh, geez, I don't know, like, maybe raisins and almonds for a little while, dried fruit sometimes, you know, healthier snacks, you know, sometimes. And as I kept figuring out my meals, more and more and more that the snacks just kind of faded away. So it's pretty rare now. So when I say what the snacks are that I eat now, you have to understand the context that I don't really snack much, okay? But the snacks I rely on now, if I am hungry in between meals and I want to eat something, most of the time, what I'm going to snack on is fruit, okay? So that's kind of what I rely on now. And I don't really eat very often between meals, you know, because, again, I've dialed in my meals so much that when I eat my Breakfast, it satisfies me to lunch. When I eat at lunch, satisfies me till dinner comfortably. And when I eat dinner comfortably, satisfies until the next morning. So there's not a lot of snacking anymore. It's that. But on the, on the way here, yes, I did optimize the snacks and yeah, almonds and raisins I was a fan of. I, I don't even remember what I used to eat anymore. It's really, it has been a while. Just to be honest. What kind of exercise do you focus on for your weight maintenance? To be honest, none. I don't rely on exercise for my weight maintenance. I rely 100 on my eating. So I decided 30 years ago I didn't want to exercise the weight off. I hated exercising back then, okay. And so what I did is I put all of that energy into mastering my eating. And so I have since started to exercise more like push ups and you know, like body weight squats and stuff. I started doing that. I have always done yoga, but it's the gentlest, softest yoga ever. So I, I don't really like to think of it as exercise. My heart rate even hardly goes up. I've consistently done yoga for 30 years and that's very helpful with the weight. But in terms of burning calories, I've never done anything exercise consistently in that regard. Now that being said, I am a very active person. So I do lots of stuff. I play basketball, I walk, I take my dogs out, I go kayaking, I hike around a little bit. I'm always doing stuff. I love doing projects. Mowing the lawn, cleaning the garage. I love doing stuff like that. I'm a person that's got a lot of energy naturally, but I really have not had any consistent exercising routine. So I prefer to do things that have a purpose. You know, that's what I've liked. Like I said recently, I'm getting older so I am starting to focus on muscle. You know what I mean? But exercise wise, in terms of burning calories, exercise for the things you want to accomplish. But in terms of calorie wise, I think you're better off really dialing the eating in.

Real Woodville says. Where did you go for your NLP training? I did Bennett Stellar University. I don't even think they're around anymore. It was. Geez, when I do my. That must have been 25 years ago. Holy 25 years ago. I am turning 51 tomorrow. My birthday is tomorrow. It's weird. I'll tell you it's weird. It's like, I know everyone says this, I'm just gonna share my story. It's the same as everyone's. But I was at my mom's yesterday. I look at her calendar and I see my name written. It says 51. I'm like, what's that mean?

You're 51. Right? So it's still weird. It's still. I think we rage is always weird. And I guess it gets weird as you get older because you always feel like a kid, you know. Anyways, anyways. So yeah, 25 years ago I went to Sedona, Arizona and it was awesome. One of the best experiences of my life. I will say it was interesting because I had a different experience than a lot of people because for years before that, probably six, seven, eight years before that, I was obsessed with hypnosis, change work, personal development, all this stuff. So when I went into my NLP training, I really went in very well versed in it all and it was a great experience. I really. One of the best experiences of my life doing that training. Wonderful people I got to do it with. It's very special group. Very magical. I would say Sedona is a very magical place and that whole experience was very magical. I actually got engaged.

I got engaged right before that too. So I drove across. I drove across the country and went to Vegas and met my wife. Flew out there and yeah, asked her to marry me. She said yes. Had just one of the best times of our lives. And then I went to that training. So that, that's a very, very fond memories. I don't know if he's still doing it, which is unfortunate. I just wish there was better NLP training. There's not as good as much good as NLP training as there should be, I would say. But Natalie says, I love all your ideas you have. I love how you explain things. I love your voice. I love how real you are. Because of you, I am not giving myself negative feedback. I love how you focus on the whole person, not just a small piece. When you explain things, it really clicks with me. Love to catch your post. Thank you for your good work, Natalie. Thank you. That's really nice of you. That makes me happy. So screenshot that for sure. That's very. That's very nice of you, Natalie. That makes me happy. All things I kind of work on. Yeah, I mean that's what I'm here for. I've tried to be a, you know, a ray of light in, in a world where especially weight loss, that it's. I don't know, just the weight loss industry sucks so hard. I hate it. So it's like a real guess. But thank you. That's very nice of you. Michelle says my favorite, most successful thing to say to myself from you is skinny tastes better. Yes. Yes. Technically, we say thin and healthy tastes better because of the skinny thing. Gets me into the Kate Moss territory, and then people misconstrue what I say. But, yes, the idea is the same. That nothing feels better. Oh, man. Than feeling thin and healthy. It just feels great. When you're happy with your weight, when you feel good, when you're just living the way you want to, you. Nothing to me tastes anywhere near as good as that, you know? So, yeah. Greed, Michelle. I love that. Okay. Look at that. Yeah. Rio went to Tad James. Yep. The first time I heard you, I was like, that's nlp the word program, and gave it away. Yes, absolutely. Y. Y. Tad James is awesome, too. A big fan. His timeline therapy, I actually got to. I didn't do his timeline therapy, but actually the guy I trained with was a certified instructor from tad, and so we did do a section on timeline training. We didn't really go too deep into it. You know, it was so fascinating. But we definitely use that, and it's fascinating stuff. So. Yeah, that must have been a fun training. Yeah. Thank you, everyone. Yes. Jen says in two weeks, I'll be going away for a week, and I'm concerned about gaining weight. Any suggestions how to keep losing while traveling? Yeah, I mean, I would stop worrying about losing weight while I'm traveling. You know, it's like if you're going on vacation, you know, it's like. I don't know. I know. Again, I don't know how often you travel, so if you travel every week, then it's a little different. But if traveling is an unusual thing for you to do, I wouldn't be that worried about it. So I would aim at. I wouldn't be worrying about losing weight, traveling. Absolutely. I would say, you know, I'm looking to stay somewhat moderate. I don't want to put ten pounds on, so I don't want to lose control, but I'm not looking to, you know, I might eat a little bit more than I normally do, and that's okay because as soon as I get back to my normal routine, that'll come right off. So I was thinking about that today, you know, in program yourself, then we really try to get comfortable here with the fluctuations of life and of weight. You know, I mean, that's. It's very normal. I wouldn't say like, like no one ever thinks about this, but actually living at your goal weight and living there is almost like surfing. And what I mean by that is it's you have to constantly be engaged with your weight. You know what I mean? Like, you can't.

You never get to this point, like, oh, I lost the weight and now I don't need to think about it anymore. You know what I mean? Like, it's like having a garden or it's like surfing. It's like you have to be engaged the whole time because things are always changing. So you have to stay active and engaged and adapt to things, you know? And so when you go away on traveling, you already have so much in your mind, you know what I mean? Like, if everything's new, you're using your mind a lot. We're gonna get coffee today. Oh, we're at the paper. Like, little basic things that you just do on autopilot now. You got to think about. And so there's more stress, there's more uncertainty, there's, you know, just different situations. You don't have your normal food there. You're just not set up for success when you're traveling. And so the idea that you're going to go into it be like, I'm gonna lose now. I gotta lose now. It's like, ah, I. You know, that's how I am with vacation now. Vacation's a little different. So I don't know what you're traveling for. I don't know if you're traveling for work or if you're traveling for fun. But if you were traveling for fun, my goal would be like, I want to go and enjoy myself. And if I put a couple pounds on, I don't care, but I'm not gonna worry about losing weight. That's. I feel like that's one of the worst strategies you can have because it stresses you out, you know? So again, remember, I mean, you're gonna go out and that week of traveling is going to be kind of an outlier, I'm assuming that. And so when you come back, you're gonna go back to your normal routines and the way it'll come back off, you know, so. So don't worry too much about that. Two weeks of. Or the week or whatever of traveling.

Oh, look at that. And there you go. Listen to Lori. So this is great. Lori says I always lose on vacation. Reason is that I walk more. So there you go, you know, so there's also that added that there's that perspective, too. So, yeah, if you. There's another one, you know, if you're able to walk more. But again, each situation is different, you know, so traveling is different. It depends. Yeah. Some places you might go, and it's amazing food that's really healthy and natural. You walk a lot, you're out in the sun, you're sleeping a lot. And that's more conducive, you know, to your weight and losing it potentially, than other times, you know, maybe a business trip and you're working the whole time, you're stressed and you don't have places to go, and you got to go out to meals with people. Well, that's not a setup, you know, so, again, it's just kind of relaxing and realizing the things, they're always unique, the contexts are unique, and we kind of kind of meet the context with where we're at, you know? Yeah. Jen says that's true. Thank you for your advice. You're welcome, Jen. Yeah. So just be relaxed about it, though. It's not a big deal. Whatever. You. Let me put it this way, that whatever you do during that week is going to have as much effect on your weight over the year as if you dieted for a week. It's not about the week, it's about what you do over the year. So start thinking that way.

Yeah. Vicki says whenever my motivation feels wobbly and fluctuates, I remember all. There's something now. Yep. All or something's a core strategy of program yourself, then. Yes, you're welcome for being introduced to that concept. Yeah. It is transformative. RLT says exactly. When I feel fat, my mood is low and everything seems so frustrated. Yeah, of course. Right. So, yeah, it's. And when we stress, we gain weight, you know. Now, again, when we stress, we don't gain weight as much as when we stress, we eat more and then we gain weight. Okay. Unless maybe there's the idea that you stress and the cortisol goes up and you hold on to weight. That's kind of true, but it's way more true that you stress and then eat more and then you gain weight. That's way more the reason usually. So just to make that crystal clear.

I said the same for me, Jim. It's been a miracle for finding me. I really appreciate it. Well, I appreciate you all. Yes. And I'm glad you're all here. And I feel the same as you all do, you know, like when you all stumble on me, when my clients stumble on me and. And I get to work with them and just watch them transform. I'm happy to. I feel like I'm facilitating it, you know, I feel like a conduit. The same kind of like just lightning bolt that hit me 30 years ago that I did nothing to. You know, I'm just so lucky. I just feel like I'm kind of paying it forward, you know. So again, even what I'm saying, I mean, don't get me wrong, a lot of it I've kind of come up with, but it's a lot of I'm sharing from people I've heard. So it's like I'm just kind of paying for the stuff that people that succeed and walk before me told me. I just kind of systematize it, you know, and give it to you. But I know exactly how you feel. You know what I mean? So it's like I get it when you certain people find me and it's like it's life changing. It's not me, it's the information I'm giving you. But it's like it's no different than what I went through, you know, and it's just like, thank God, thank goodness this happened to me. I mean my life like, it's like literally just a completely different path I'm walking because of this information. Now I try to say that point. I was the same person, I'm the same person in both paths, but totally different versions of myself because of what I think live and eat. And so my eating, the way I think, the way I live, the way I eat is like 180 degrees different than when I started. So.

It'S that. My point being that it wasn't about my willpower or my self control. It was about the knowledge I had, it was about the strategy I had access to. So that's what I try to be as a conduit, to give you better, better strategies and knowledge. You know, um.

Carmel says, is breakfast important or is two meals a day? Okay? Um, just depends, you know, some people, two meals a day and they feel satisfied and great and amazing and it's awesome for them. Other people eat two meals a day and they're stressed, you know, it's, it's all they're thinking about is eating. So it just depends, you know, I suggest test them both out, see where you're at. What, what matters more is the overall calories per day or per week. So, so don't, you know, I mean like, like you can, if you give yourself a certain amount of calories for a week break, it down to days realizing different days. Typically, it's easier or harder to eat a certain amount of calories.

Then. Then however you want to structure the meals, whatever works best for you. So on my clean days, I eat three meals a day, and on my pleasure days, I eat two meals a day. And each one works great. So on my, my clean days, I love eating three meals a day. On my pleasure days because I eat more at dinner than I typically do the other nights, I eat only two meals a day. So I wish I had just a simpler, easier, you know, thing for you. But nothing's really simple and easy. Everything's got to be kind of customized to you, personalized to you. Thanks, everyone for that. Birthday wishes. Yes.

Yeah. RLT says every time I feel so sad that I gain weight, then I see you live. And you make me so happy, motivate me to start again. And not losing weight is possible. Well, that makes me super happy again. Another reason I'm here for is to keep you all motivated, keep you on track. And I. I got so much cool stuff coming out that's going to help you with that. I'm just so excited, I can't even tell you. Starting with the book and then. I'm not gonna. I was gonna say ending. It's never ending, seemingly, but starting with the book next and then the circle app. I've got so much free stuff coming for you. It's just exciting. So anyways, Carol said you speak so much sense, Jim. Thanks. You're welcome. Yeah. Again, that's what I try to be here, you know, is because in a world of weight loss, it's all dumb, like, I don't know else to say it. And so I try voice of reason here. You know, it's just so you can realize that this is a path like any others. I always say, you know, even if you have no mechanical ability, if you sign up for mechanic school and go to it and do the classes and do the work, you're gonna come out as a mechanic. You got no numerical skills. You sign up as accountant classes and you take them, you come out an accountant. And so it's like when you learn again and program yourself, then we have a real plan here. So it's like when you have a mindset plan, a lifestyle plan, an eating plan designed custom for you, and you learn it, you can get way better results. You don't have that plan right now. You're just. You're over relying on willpower and focus. It's, it's doesn't work well so, anyways.

Jen says, has anyone ever tried a protein shake warmed up like a hot chocolate? That does sound interesting. I really don't like protein shakes and stuff, so I don't. I don't really rely on those. I couldn't give you that answer, but, yeah, Lord, just walking those huge airports for sure. All right, I gotta get out of here. Busy day, so. All right, everyone, thank you so much. If you're not in my world, please click the link in my bio or go get Go to program yourself. Then dot com, go get the free hypnosis session I made for you. It's called the New Thin Me. It'll really help you get excited and motivated to lose weight. It's a kickstart session. And then there's also a training I made for you. Go check that out. And, yeah, then get on my email list. I send stuff out all the time to help you out. So go check that out. And then if you like this here, I'm here every Monday through Friday, usually around noon Eastern, to answer any questions you have to guide you in any way I can. And.

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