Program Yourself Thin Live 4-27-26

Everyone, welcome to today's Program Yourself Thin podcast. Today we're talking about simplifying your weight loss, and this almost has to become a very intentional focus for you. Because dieting has kind of made it a lot more complicated than it needs to be. And, um, you see that with a lot of— and now again, dieting a lot of times is gonna have one basic rule, uh, stop eating carbs, don't eat for 16 hours, count your points. You know, it sounds simple. There's one conceptual idea at the top, but then the actual activation of it, the following through on this thing, is really hard and complicated. If we go from, I'm gonna cut carbs out, the flip side of that is that I'm gonna completely change how I eat most my meals. I'm gonna eat something totally different, prepare something different, think of something different. That's what I'm gonna do. Well, that's really complex, right? And same with all of them. They all sound— are you kidding me with my voice? They all sound simple, uh, on the top level, but when you actually get to the ground level where you're implementing It's really, really complex, overwhelming, and difficult. So this is the trap a lot of dieters get themselves into. Like, on one level, it seems like, okay, this is simple. I'll just stop eating carbs. I'll just not eat for 16 hours. And it sounds simple conceptually, but again, on the ground floor, you're really expecting a lot out of yourself to completely and totally transform your eating in one day to be totally different. Is really overwhelming and difficult. So this is the simplifying I'm talking about, is that we go to the ground level and we start to look at how we can simplify that process. Now, I will let you know that the easiest way to simplify it is to break it down into smaller pieces, which may mean that you will not lose as much weight the first week, the first month, than you could have otherwise by changing everything. But where it really starts to shine is month 2, 3, 4, 6, 8, 10, 12. When you get to next year and you're still working on things, you're still improving and growing on what you've already developed. That's where the real amazing results exist. And again, as a dieter, you probably have never gotten to that point. You probably never gotten a year from now, a year on your keto plan. A year doing your intermittent fasting. Most people never get there because they can't break out of a week or a month. So the simplifying I'm talking about, again, the downside I suppose is what you'll think initially is that you're going to get slower results. But I want to challenge you to, you know, really challenge that way of thinking that sometimes when it comes to weight loss, you know, fast is slow and slow is fast. You know, trying to change everything all at once seems like it's going to be fast. But the reality, when you zoom out and look at it, is that you can't stick with it. So then you're not getting any results or you're getting really slow results, as opposed to if you take it slow, you will get faster results when you start looking at things within the term of a year, 6 months, 2 years. Okay. So once you kind of get this mindset down, it becomes relatively easy. You don't have to change everything all at once. You can start making smart strategic shifts in how you're eating, how you're living. That are comfortable. And you can simplify it by, you know, adding a bit more water to your day, adding an apple to your afternoon routine, adding a vegetable to your dinners. It can be simple. And the simpler it is, the easier it is to keep going with it. And so the alternative here, instead of just in one day changing everything, is that you slowly start to weave together a new way of thinking, living, and eating. And this new way is what gets you to your goal weight and then keeps you there once you're there long term. Again, it's the way everything in life is developed, whether you're going to play a musical instrument, learn a language, learn a sport. It's always small little things you learn that get layered together that allow you to rise to higher and higher levels. And it's no different with your weight. And when you start to approach it with this mindset that I want to make it simple, What happens is it starts to feel completely different because you're no longer just immediately overwhelming yourself. You're being much more realistic about where you're at and what you're able to comfortably take on. And this is the path forward. If you've never done it before, it is transformative in a way that's hard to explain if you've never kind of experimented with this. Because all of a sudden when you're not being stressed out by trying to change all of your eating all at once, you can actually start to enjoy the process. Because guess what? The things I just mentioned— let's just say you start drinking a little more water, you start going for a few more walks during the week, you eat a few more pieces of fruit during the week, you add one more vegetable to 4 or 5 dinners a week. What ends up happening is you're not overwhelmed and you start to feel better. You start to feel better physically because all of those things support your body, but you also start to feel better cognitively because you say, wow, that's not too hard. I look at me, I did some good stuff here this week and it wasn't that difficult. I feel confident I can do that again next week. That's the real magic, and that's some magic most dieters have never experienced because most dieters just go into absolute stress, white-knuckle stress state when they try and change their weight. And that makes it really difficult to stay with it because anything that's really stressful to us is something we're going to resist and want to stop doing, obviously. So it's really important that you consider this and start to create a simple way forward. I think it's one of the best things you can possibly do for your weight because it just makes it easier to do. And that can't be overstated. I know with dieting, we like to think that, you know, just tell me what to do and I'll force myself to do it. But if you look at the reality in your experience, that probably is something that's not really true. You can't get yourself to do things you hate doing, you know. So the alternative is to do things you don't mind doing that move you in the direction you want to go. So I hope this helps you. And if you want some support in going deeper into this whole way of approaching it is to click the link in your— in my bio there. Go get the free hypnosis session I give you and check all the stuff I give you. No one gives you more free stuff than I do. I got a training for you. I got PYT Daily, which can help you out. And so, yeah, go check that out. And if you're serious about getting your weight under control, realize there's a better way to do it. And if you have any questions, feel free to ask them. I hear me here every day, not sounding like this. I don't know what the hell is going on with my voice, but that's okay. So yes, I am here every Monday through Friday to answer your questions. And I was looking at TikTok because it's hard to find the questions on TikTok. What's up, Sonny? Sonny says, lost 40 pounds last year and I'm right back where I started. It feels impossible now. Why? Um, that's a great question. I appreciate you mentioning that. And that is probably everyone's experience pretty much who is a dieter, right? So if you're going to diet, you know this experience, you stick with it, you white-knuckle it, you force yourself to do it. Uh, and then you can't stick with it anymore. Even once you get to your goal weight, right? You dropped the 40 pounds, so it worked, but now you can't stick with it and you go right back to where you started. And that, that's exactly what we're talking about here is that Um, right back where I started in Program Yourself. Then we call this your normal, right? So for most of you, if you're struggling with your weight, it is normal for you to be overweight, right? I mean, if you're just kind of like, if you're not focusing on food, you're not focusing on exercising, you're just kind of living your life, you're overweight, right? And the reason why is because you have been programmed psychologically in your subconscious mind to be overweight. You've been programmed to overeat. You've been programmed to crave unhealthy foods. You have been programmed to, you know, avoid water and sleep and rest most of the time. So there's a bunch of factors that have been installed into you that are keeping you overweight. And so the diet mindset is that you're going to fight against this programming to lose the weight. But at the core, nothing changes. You know, so you can fight against for a while and eventually go back to normal. What's normal? Normal is being overweight. And usually when that happens too, it's one of the most devastating experiences a person can have because you put so much effort into dropping that weight that the fact that it comes back on is just devastating. And the idea of starting another plan at that point feels impossible. And why would— now let me just point this out. This is a protection mechanism. Right. Because the problem's not you. The problem is that diet doesn't work. You already know this. You know, you don't want to do that diet. You did it for 40 pounds. You're familiar with it. You didn't like doing it even though you lost the weight. And this is another factor, folks, that a lot of people never really consider is that what is your motivation once you get to your goal weight? Because what most people do is they trade the excitement and the pleasure of the food for the excitement and the pleasure of losing weight. So as long as they're losing weight, they're still getting excitement and pleasure. But what happens when you get to your goal weight? Now, a lot of people tell me, Jim, what happens when I get my goal weight? I'm gonna be my goal. I'm gonna be so happy, I'm gonna be skipping around all day. I'm never gonna overeat again. But here's the problem. You've all been at your goal weight, right? Everyone's been at their goal weight. And so if you're not there anymore, what happened? I don't say this to discourage you, but you have to recognize that you've already been at your goal weight, and most likely being there was not enough motivation for you to stay there. So again, I'm sorry this happened to you, Sunny, and it's so frustrating when it does, but use this as an opportunity to change the way you move forward. Whatever you do, please don't do the same diet again, or you probably get the same results again. So the answer becomes stop fucking dieting. Stop dieting. Dieting is a temporary thing. Your subconscious mind, um, interprets it as a temporary thing. I'm gonna diet until I lose the 40 pounds. And instead, start thinking about living at your goal weight. Living at your goal weight. Notice the difference. It's not about just getting there. It's about actually staying there. And that is why I wrote this book. Notice what it says: living, living at your goal weight, not getting to your goal weight, living there. That makes sense. You see the difference? It's a big difference. And when you start focusing on living at your goal weight, that's what prevents this problem from happening again. This is the difference from getting to your goal weight for a little while and then going back up and being able to stay there long term. Right, that's, that's the big difference. So again, I feel for you, Sonny, but make sure you go get that hypnosis session I give you. What's up, Jane? Jane says, I love playing pickleball and I'm playing about 5 times a week, but I am frustrated that I am not improving quickly, so I'm taking lessons to jumpstart that progress, but I have a much harder time getting myself to attack my eating the same way. Um, yeah, I get that, but I mean, I don't think that's really so true, Jane, because I know you're in the program, so I would say, you know, you're doing it both fronts. It's just both things take a little while, you know. So great job taking action. Um, yeah, I'm not improving quickly, so I'm taking lessons. That's, that's smart, you know, that's smart. But notice what the lessons are going to do. That's how you can get extra benefit from the pickleball lessons, Jane. My voice, man, I'm ready to take my esophagus out and strangle it. My voice has sounded Messed up for 2 weeks straight. This is not good when you live off your voice. It's annoying. Um, excuse me. Uh, yeah, Jane, so here's the secret to at least the pickleball lessons, is that when you start taking these lessons, notice what you do. I'm gonna tell you, and I've never even played pickleball, but I know how lessons work, is you're gonna break down pickleball into smaller pieces. That make sense? Right? You're not just gonna scrimmage and play pickleball the whole time. You're gonna break down— like, I know a little bit about pickleball. You're gonna break down your serve, and you're gonna practice your serve a bunch, break it down into smaller and smaller pieces, then put it back together. Then your serve will get better. Then you may work on your footwork, right? You might break your footwork down— what it feels like to move towards the net, what it feels to move backwards, side to side. Are you still— break that down. Um, then you break down how to volley or backhand, you know what I mean? But you're going to take pickleball and you're going to break it down into smaller pieces then you're going to work on that. And that process of breaking down to smaller pieces, focusing on the smaller pieces, and then building on top of them is how we get better at everything, right? But not dieting, not weight loss, because dieting, you're just going to go in on day 1 and be 100% better, and it don't work, you know, unfortunately. So there's that. So anyways, yeah, so I think you're doing it anyways, Jane, but use the pickleball thing so it's not just Um, it's not just about pickleball. You can also learn about your eating through there. Um, and again, that's called meta-learning, right? So it's meta-improvement. Um, the meta-improvement is that we can look at pickleball and say, okay, how do I improve at pickleball? There's a meta-strategy, right? So there's a— the, the process, the strategy of improving with anything. So again, that's how I can— I've never played pickleball really, But, um, I can— I know how the lessons are going to go, right? Because the lessons go the same for anything. You play the piano, what are you going to do? You break down into smaller pieces, get good at those, stack them up. It's the same for everything you're good at— art, dancing, sports, anything. And so the same thing should be happening with weight. But weight, again, it's not weight, it's your eating, it's your lifestyle, it's your mindset. That's why I say, remember, program yourself in the goal weight blueprint, right? We work around the goal weight pyramid. Mindset, lifestyle, and eating. And then look, if you look over here, you may not be able to read them so much, but if you look over here, we break it down even more, right? So there's 3 categories in eating we do, 8 categories in lifestyle, and 6 in mindset. We're just— we're breaking it down so you can improve the little pieces. It's easier to improve little things than it is improve everything. Would it— I mean, wouldn't it be great if we could just get great at pickleball, period? Every part of it. Yeah, but you can't. So you have to break it down. Okay, I'm gonna work on serves, I'm gonna work on returns, you know what I mean? And we break it down, and that's how you get better at it. Because something too big is overwhelming for your mind. You can't improve everything, but you can improve small pieces. Yeah, Jane says you're right again, Jim. Thank you, I try to be right. But listen, it's not because I'm so smart. It's because I've been doing this for so long, doing this so long that you start to notice patterns. And you start to notice patterns— there's a, there's a phrase, right, that success leaves clues. And I think that's true in most areas of life, you know. So if you start looking at the things you're good at or getting good at, um, and then apply those to weight, you can learn a lot. Because when it comes to weight, we've all been completely screwed. The diet industry is not your friend. The diet industry is your enemy. Because the diet industry is not really the diet industry. The diet industry is just a branch of the food processing industry. So, you know, you're really going to listen to Heinz and Nestlé, Oreos and, you know, Ding Dongs tell you how to lose weight. Would you do that? I wouldn't trust them. And you shouldn't trust them either, because Weight Watchers was owned by Heinz. Jenny Craig was owned by Nestlé. Atkins Food Products was owned by the same company that owns Onions, pretzels, Carvel and Cinnabon. SlimFast, owned by the same company who owns Ben Jerry's ice cream. You really think these, these companies are going to teach you how to eat right and control your weight and be healthy and happy and not eat their bullshit foods? Is that what you— that what you think they're doing for business? I don't think so. I don't think so. So what they do is they just fill your head with rocks when you try and diet. They give you all sorts of bullshit ideas that don't work. They clearly don't work, folks. 75% of the population is overweight or obese. So You know, it's not because you're not smart enough to figure out the diet, it's because diets don't work. They're not meant to work. They're not meant to keep you at your goal weight forever. So when you start to realize that and you go through the world with those glasses on, it's a whole different thing. So yeah, do any questions, feel free to ask. Tara, is that the Tara I know? I think so, because I know that name, like Canabis, what's happening? Funny blast from the past. But yeah, if you have any weight loss questions, feel free to ask them. It doesn't have to be about mental programming, about any diet you're trying. And, uh, now's a great time to get focused on it. I, I do feel that there's natural— if I could control the calendar in the world, what I would do is I'd make January 1st like May 1st or April 1st, maybe, because I think that, you know, the, the year has its rhythms, right? And again, I know it's different depending on where you live, but if you live— like, a lot of the country, I guess, has seasons to some degree, right? So I live in New England, so I mean, we get the deep four seasons. But to me, it's like putting January 1st in the smack dead of winter is the cruelest thing, right? Because Everything environmentally is telling you to slow down and calm down. Right. And then you're fighting against that and you're going to completely change everything, you know, in the darkest, coldest, most kind of, you know, letdown time of the year right after the holidays. And again, I think that's part of the whole, you know, the whole mindset that keeps people stuck. I get like the idea, you know, New Year, new me, you know, new beginnings do have a momentum to them. So I'm not going to, you know, I know that's a piece of it, but me personally, I would take the momentum of springtime. Springtime is genuinely— you're getting all the messaging from the environment that it's a— it's time to plant seeds, time to start something new. That's why I would put January 1st like May 1st or April 1st, because there's just an energy to it. So I hope you all are feeling that. Um, and if you are, utilize that, you know. Again, one of the things we talk about in the Thrive program is the concept of new month's resolutions. You know, I have no problem with resolutions. My biggest issue with resolutions, I suppose, is that people set them once a year, which is goofy. I mean, if something's really meaningful to you, you can't visit it once a year. You can't, you know, commit to it once a year. You have to commit to it many, many, many, many times a year, usually, because your, your commitment and motivation aren't just like a decision that just stick, you know, you think, oh, I'm really committed, I'm wicked motivated. Yeah, today, but next week, 5 o'clock might be totally different, right? So it's like you need to recognize that and you need to kind of bring into your process again and program yourself. Then this is why we talk about the mind, the mindset piece. The mindset piece, again, it's a pyramid because it implies importance, right? So that the base, the most important piece, is your mindset. And everything builds on top of that, right? But part of the mindset, the very first thing is motivation. And motivation is something that you have to, uh, cultivate and take care of. It's like a garden in a way. And so you can't just like plant the seeds and, oh, plant the seeds, I'm all done. Well, you gotta take care of them. Things change. And so I think that, um, You know, now is a good time if you're feeling some motivation that, you know, a lot of people are. Is it sunnier? It's warmer. It's nicer. It's brighter. Um, you're moving more. It just feels better. So you should ride that motivational wave if you can and make a change. You know, that, that's my big message even to you, Sonny, who, who kind of lost 40 pounds and put it back on. You know, don't give up. Let that be the biggest lesson you've ever learned, that doing it that way with the extreme white-knuckle bullshit that you gotta keep up every single day is not sustainable. And you don't need to do that stuff. You do not need to make yourself miserable in order to control your weight or influence it. You know, you need to figure out a way that's relatively comfortable. That's why in Program Yourself Thin, our goal is not just to lose weight, it's to live at your goal weight in the easiest, most comfortable, enjoyable way possible. It's a completely different goal than you've ever even set for yourself, most likely. And again, I know, hey, listen, if you're listening to this, you're probably a pretty smart person. I don't say it to flatter you. I say it because I've been doing this. I've been doing these podcasts for over 3 years. And, uh, the only people that ever stay and listen are usually people that are overthinkers. If you're an overthinker, you're probably a perfectionist. You're probably an action taker. You probably do a lot of stuff. If you care about your weight, you probably listen to lots of podcasts, read lots of bullshit, you know. You're, you're doing stuff. You're just doing the wrong stuff. You know, and once you start doing the right things, um, you get much better results. So everything I'm talking about really is built for a person who is an overthinker. I'm an overthinker and I would say 99% of my clients are overthinkers, but I want y'all to know that the overthinking is not the problem. I think a lot of people get it into their head that the overthinking is what's the problem. It's not. The overthinking is the solution. You just never learned how to use it. You got this supercomputer in your mind, but you've never learned how to program it. And so what you're doing is you're supercomputing broken programs. You're supercomputing programs that make you and keep you overweight. And you do it so effectively that you can't even stop it. You can't even fight against it. Well, that's, that's not the answer anyways. The answer is not to fight against your program. The answer is to reprogram your mind so that you start to do the things that get you the results you want comfortably and, um, enjoyably. That's the real secret. I think that's my opinion, and that's what I'm here to share. But if you have any questions about your own personal weight loss experience, feel free to ask them, because, uh, this makes a lot more sense when I can talk about it in context of your specific situations. Which, this is actually something I'm going to do. I'm going to do it this week. And now my voice already starting to sound a little better here because I was Gonna do this last week, but my voice was a mess last week. I wasn't gonna do it, but, um, is I'm gonna do some like a live calling thing. I'll do it. It's not only gonna be on TikTok, but I'm gonna do that this week. So if you see me on here and you want to talk to me, that would be kind of cool. I'm gonna do that. Jane says, I still find myself looking at new diet plans even though I know they don't work, so I have to keep reminding myself, progress, not progression. Yeah, I'm definitely an overthinker. Yeah, Jane, but you got to keep reminding yourself, you know, that's exactly right. I mean, that's a big part of what you're doing, Jane. Jane's in the program, so I talk a little more specifically to her. But Jane, again, so much what we're doing is changing our mindset. See, with dieting your whole life, what you've always done is just focus on the eating. I always say you've done about that much of the pyramid. See that tiny little part up there? That's what you've done. And that's changing your eating. And so there's all this other stuff to do. You know, and so for you, Jane, yeah, changing your mindset, reminding yourself that diets don't work, is, is just as important as reminding yourself to eat well today, reminding yourself not to eat the chocolate eggs. You know what I mean? Like, it's— we're working on all of them. And you've never done that before, but it's going to get you much better results ultimately if you keep focusing on that. Because as you start to shift your thinking, you know, that, that's where the stuff starts to flow. Where you don't need to focus on it so much. Um, Sonny says, I know the right things— weight food is a nervous system defense— and I don't know how to solve it. Um, yeah, but knowing the right things and being able to do them are two totally different things. And sometimes the right things aren't the right things. I think the right things are the things that we can do relatively comfortable. So if you're just, you know, when you say, I know to do the right things, because dieters always say that, that was, I know what to do, I just have to get myself to do it. Well, if you know what to do and you can't get yourself to do it, it might not be the right thing either. There's a lot of ways to control your weight. There's a lot of ways. And so I find that most people need to be more flexible. And I know you can't understand that because when you get into weight loss mode, all you can imagine is a plan that's going to allow you to always lose weight. But reality of living a human life is that you're going to have ups and downs. You can't always just be losing weight. You're not always going to be perfect on track. And I bet that's what happened, Sunny. I bet that 40 pounds you lost, you were like 95% on track all the time. And then I bet the weight came off, and then I bet some mistakes started happening. You didn't know how to respond to them. There's a difference between losing weight and living at your goal weight. There's most dieters, right? Let's just say your average calorie consumption is up here, right? So you start with your weight and what you averagely consume. What most dieters are going to do is drastically cut the calories down. They're going to cut it down 40, 60, 70% of their normal calories. They're just going to cut out on day 1 and expect to live there until they get to their goal weight. Then they're going to magically bring their calories up to some maintenance level, which is a bunch of bullshit because no one ever brings it up to maintenance level and lives there. Statistically, 5 to 15% of dieters are able to maintain their results, which is very, very low numbers. So this idea that you're going to drastically cut the calories out so you can lose weight as fast as possible and then magically bring them up to some magical maintenance level is a bullshit fairy tale that I very rarely see work out for people. And again, the motivation that you experience losing weight versus the motivation you experience when you're at your goal weight are two totally different things too. So if you require 10 out of 10 motivation to live your, your lifestyle, it's almost guaranteed you're never going to stick with it. So again, there's a difference between having some really strict, difficult white-knuckle plan that you have to follow and having a plan that really resonates with you, that kind of flows out of your typical mindset, lifestyle, and eating patterns. That's what I'm talking about. So did you have that, Sunny? Do you, do you have that plan? And the answer is probably no, probably not, but we'll see. Landon says you look like Jubal. I don't know who Jubal is. Oh, I always like to do this though. I never know if it's going to be a compliment or The most epic takedown of all time, and I'll never be able to not think about it. Let's see, who's Jubal? A biblical figure. You know, have I heard this before? A biblical figure? I don't know, it must be someone else. Oh no, there it is, the freaking Jubal podcast. I don't know, the Western I'm curious. I don't know, there's 3 or 4 Jubals. I don't know any of them. I don't know which one I look like. Yeah, it's funny. Uh, what's up? 66 Smurf says, I need help, just getting started, I'm absolutely procrastinating. Um, yeah, okay folks, yeah, why are you procrastinating? Let's, let's just ask that. Let's answer the easy questions. Why would someone procrastinate to lose weight? Why would someone procrastinate to start their diet? This isn't a trick question. I know you want to lose weight, so I already know that part's there. So why would you, why would you procrastinate? Okay, it's an easy answer because you don't want to do the plan. The last thing in the world you want to do is start doing your fucking keto plan and you resist it with every cell of your fiber of your being. The last thing in the world you want to do is not eat for 16 hours every day from now on. The last thing you want to do is count every calorie that you put in your mouth. And so you, you put it off, you don't do it. All right, so my suggestion, 66 Murph, is that you start slowly, right? So in Program Yourself, then we can start with simple stuff, right? We go to the lifestyle section. How about you start by drinking a little more water? Go buy yourself a bigger water container and get a fresh source of water. How about you start by going to bed earlier Monday through Wednesday? Get a little more sleep and energy in your body. Start by taking a walk. Start by eating an apple or a banana. I mean, start with something small. Yeah, 66 Murph says, how'd you know it was keto? Exactly, because your subconscious mind's trying to protect you. It's saying, fuck no, we've done keto, it doesn't work. What are we doing? Why would we do something that we can only do for a little while? You know what I mean? Like, like, your subconscious mind's so smart, it's trying to— it's trying to protect you from the keto plan because keto's a bunch of bullshit, folks. How about that? Keto's a bunch of bullshit. So yeah, so break it down, reduce to the ridiculous, go a different direction. 666 Murph, instead of setting up the most perfect plan ever and trying to do it 100% perfect, start with something easy and simple and small. Because if you do any of those things, never mind all of them, but you start taking a few more walks this week, drinking a little more water, eating a little more fruit, what happens is you start to feel like a different version of yourself. You start to awaken the healthy, happy person within you. And that healthy, happy person starts to want better things. Hope that makes sense. Yeah, 66 Mercy, I like what you're saying. Start it small. Yes, yes, start small. Start small, folks. If you start small— I know you don't want to start small. No one wants to start small because everyone wants the fastest results possible. But if you start small, what ends up happening is you have a much firmer foundation under you. And so the drops disappear again and program yourself. Then we go from all-or-nothing thinking. I can't move my hands fucking yet because I'm still— I've mirrored the video around after 2 and a half years and I'm still working on that. So here you go. Talk about programming. I have flipped my mirror around because when I started, when I wrote my book, I'm like, I wanted to show it. I didn't want to be mirrored, so I had to flip my video around. I've been doing that for 6 months now. I still can't use my hands. I still haven't figured out how to use them though. Anyways, so yeah, and most diets are all or nothing. Program Yourself, then we're all or something. All or something. So we're always doing something, and that something is something little. It could be the walk and the fruit, veggie, it could be anything, doesn't matter. But it always keeps you in the game, because that's the big problem with dieters is that they're either 100% in the game or they're not in the game at all. Well, those numbers are never going to work for you. Mathematically, those don't work. So we need to stay in the game. You're always going to have some times when you're able to do more, be more focused, you know, take more action, and times when you can't. So we need to recognize that. But again, dieting only gives you one mode, and it's all mode or nothing mode. And that's very intentional because again, the diets are there to sabotage you. Hey, what's up, Astrid? She says, hi Jim, going for my second knee on 5/22. That's so awesome, Astrid. Yeah, keep me in the loop. I want to hear about that. Astrid's so awesome. And, um, one of my favorite stories, I gotta tell you, one of my favorite— you always are, Astrid, you know this, but I'm gonna say it one more time. But Astrid is one of my favorite ones because her improvement the first year I got to work with her was so dramatic. It was like a 200-pound weight loss in a year, but it wasn't weight loss. It was emotional turnaround and transformation. It was, it was number one emotional shift in my mind that I've ever worked with, Astrid. And then the weight started following after that. And then, then she's getting to the point where she's getting her knees done. I'm so happy for you. So that, that makes me think that the first knee operation went well. The second one's happening. I'm so happy for you, Astrid. And, um, yeah, anyone out there that's dealing with that, you know, want the knees and you want to get them done, you're nervous about it, it's a lot, right? It's a tough thing, you know. But if you can do it, you can get on the other side of it, you know. For so many people, it's so miraculous. And if you can use it to really turn around your mindset and your weight and your health as well, that then it's just the ultimate. But I'm happy for you, Astrid. So that's, that's so great. Yeah, next Next month at this time, you'll be on— you're just gonna be on the royal road to not just recovery, but just this new thriving level you've never even been to, Astrid. I'm so excited for you. Gonna be wearing those jeans and that white shirt walking on the beach. I'm happy for you, Astrid. Sunny says, no calorie counting, whole foods, and walking. I gained eating processed crap while knowing better. Okay, Sunny, so great. You're in a better position than I was thinking. All right. So, so nice job because a lot of what you've done, whole foods and walking, those are sustainable. Those are long-term. But I would almost guarantee you that again, you were stuck in this all-or-nothing mindset that once the crap food started, you got caught up in it. And a lot of the caught up— listen, you start eating crap food. Yes, there's a physical physiological effect to that, no question. But the biggest effect is the mindset one. That I can almost guarantee you, Sonny, that the first time you started eating some processed crap food, you started getting in your own head saying, oh my God, what am I doing? I'm gonna get all the weight back, I'm gonna get all the weight back. And I bet you have worried yourself right back to being 40 pounds heavier. And knowing better— please understand this— knowing what you should eat, knowing better, meaning I should— I know what to eat, I should just do it— is complete bullshit. The real secret and magic This is it right here. Again, when we talk about mindset and Program Yourself Thin, really is maintenance. Program Yourself Thin, we start with maintenance, day one, 'cause everything's about maintenance. And the most important parts of the maintenance section of this program are dealing with times of stress, dealing with how to get back on track when you make mistakes. And this is what most dieters never learn. Even if you lose the 40 pounds eating whole foods, walking, getting rid of the processed crap, The second the processed crap kind of creeps its way back in, instead of being able to deal with it effectively, it just sucks you right down. That's probably what happened to you, Sunny. And now you find it hard for yourself to get back on track because you feel so discouraged that you put the 40 pounds back on. You feel like a failure. You feel like you're trapped in this, um, you know, crappy food, uh, you know, tornado that's sucking you, sucking you up. Um, so again, a lot of what it is is mindset. And there's a difference between knowing what food you should eat, Sunny, and knowing how to run your mind so that you want to eat healthy food again. You know what I mean? Those are two different things. And that's probably something you've never learned, even though you dropped 40 pounds. Okay. So please, Sunny, if anyone else, please, out of everyone on here, Sunny, please go get the hypnosis session I made for you. Get in my world. Because what I teach you is the missing piece that will help you get back to where you were. Um, but to do it in a way that it's going to be a lot longer lasting for you. All right, so make sure you click a little picture of me up there in the top left. Go get that free hypnosis session. And, um, if you are over in Facebook or YouTube land, I'm gonna put that link— there you go. I'll put that there for you too. Go get that. Go get that hypnosis session. I don't care if you tried hypnosis. You can try my hypnosis. I'm one of the highest paid hypnotists on the planet. You should go check that out. Oh, let's see. What's up, Sanjita? How's it going? Maps8126 says, right thing is the crooked mindset, it's someone else's right thing. Right thing is the crooked mindset, it's someone else's right thing. Not sure exactly what that means. Failure continually. Um, Sarah says, I'm about to begin eliminating sugar and starchy carbs from my diet because I feel so much better without them. However, they are very powerful for a dopamine hit in times of difficulties. It's backwards— it's back, forwards, and forwards, and my weight is increasing, and I keep going back to them. Um, yeah, I get it, Sarah. Uh, and I, I wish you, you know, luck on whatever path you choose, but I would definitely, before you do I would reframe your goal a little. Take it or leave it. I think the idea of eliminating sugar and starchy carbs from your all diets is not really your goal. And I think it's the wrong language personally. I think what you want to do is you want to reduce, you want to reduce the sugar and starchy carbs from your diet. You use this all or nothing language there. I can hear it right away, right? You're, you're speaking in an all or nothing language because eliminate is all or nothing. You're going to completely eliminate. And that implies in your mind that you're never going to eat sugar again, you're never going to eat starchy carbs again. I bet for the rest of your life you eat sugar and starchy carbs. I have— I almost never meet people that never have eaten sugar or starchy carbs again in their life. I see people that are always trying to eliminate them. But I can't ever really remember many people that have actually completely eliminated those things from their life for good. So my goal would be that you make the goal, I want to reduce— listen, I treat, I treat sugar and starchy carbs, refined carbs specifically, like alcohol. I treat it with a lot of respect. I like doing it, but I can only do it this much if I want to have the quality of life I want to have. But that language is different. I'm not implying I can never have it again. The second you try to eliminate and abstain, that's why abstinence for most people is a losing process. And, uh, you can look at your own attempts to prove that most people have been trying to eliminate sugar and carbs from their diet for decades, and it hasn't worked, and you're not any closer to your goal at all. So again, my, my suggestion would be to moderate them, to reduce them to levels that are acceptable for your quality of life. And that is a completely different mindset and a completely different focus. And I've found personally, I've done over 6,000 private weight loss sessions, that that's a much more effective approach mindset-wise, because the other one's just like walking a tightrope and it's just a matter of time till you screw up and have some sugar or some carbs. You know, then you feel like a failure and then you start all over again. And you've probably been in this cycle for as long as you can remember, most likely. Sanjita says, hey Jim, I reached my goal weight of 58 kilograms, all thanks to you. Please suggest what mindset to live at my goal weight. Yeah, great job, Sanjita. It's doing exactly what you did again. I don't know how you lost the weight, so if you didn't do anything drastic, um, it's basically continuing that process, you know, forward. Um, but optimizing it. So again, program yourself then with the eating piece. The last phase that we really spend most of our time in is optimization. I'm optimizing my eating and always will till my last breath on earth. I will be optimizing my eating. I'm always making it better. And making it better doesn't always mean making it healthier. Optimizing can also mean that I make it easier to eat healthy. I make it more enjoyable to eat healthy. So that's the optimization. So great job, Sanjita. And now, um, now what you want to do is you want to start optimizing what you've done to get here so that it's more enjoyable, um, and easier for you. Uh, what's up, John? John says, any tips to help rebound from bad eating to get back to smart eating? Come on, John, you have the answer in your own mind. I know you, and I know you've got the answer. I will give you the answer anyways, but you've got it. It is already there. And it's the same answer I was just saying before. The easiest way to rebound from bad eating, the easiest way is to start small. You have to understand what most people are doing subconsciously with their eating is they're all or nothing thinking, right? So they're all— so their mistake brings them down to nothing and then they go and binge and then their idea in their mind is I have to get back to ketosis. I have to get back to not eating for 16 hours. It's this real purity level of perfection that they're trying to hit, but it's a huge jump from here to here. Again, I can't use my hands because I haven't figured this out, but, um, there's a big jump and that jump's overwhelming and scary. So again, all or something is a lot easier because we never go to nothing. We always do something. And oddly, when you get off track with your eating— I was off track with my eating last couple of weeks. I felt like shit. I was really sick. I had 2-week sickness. As walloped as I've been in a long time from just like a cold. Or it wasn't the flu, it was like a cold, but it walloped me. But, uh, so I got off track of my eating a bit, you know. So my solution is not to just, okay, tomorrow's Monday, now I'm perfect again with sugar coursing through my body, you know, carb cravings, you know, through my body. My, my goal is to get better, you know, maybe say no to one little thing here, say yes to something healthy there. Start small. And it's just amazing because, again, dieters can only think in terms of drastic calorie cuts as any— as being worth anything. But to me, it's like the smallest little shift. Like today, for example, I'll give you an example of what I mean. So I've been a bit off track with my eating. So today when I go to the grocery store, I intentionally stop by the fruit aisle and get something that I would like, you know what I mean? Like that I don't normally get. I mean, I haven't been eating many berries lately, so I got like a bag of grapes and I got some blueberries. And it's like, I start, I already started with the grapes and it's like, I know it sounds little, but it's something healthy I'm doing that I enjoy. And so all of a sudden, instead of my mind being just fixated on bad eating choices I may have made, I now focus on the good ones I can make. And I don't know, people overlook the power of small little positive changes, but they're just fundamentally, they can be so transformative. And you never know until you actually do it, but that's what I would do. John, John says, you're right. I know the answer. Just wanted to say hi. Thank you. Yeah, there you go, John. That's all right. I'm glad because I know a lot of people don't know the answer. So I'm happy to share that, that, um, again, it's the easy path, folks. I'm talking about the easy path. When I talk about the Dow of living at your goal weight, my book, everything's right in this title, right? So obviously it's all about living at your goal weight, but it's the Dow, the Dow of living at your goal weight. Is based on Taoism. This book specifically is based on the Tao Te Ching, and all it means is Tao is basically flowing. How can I live at my goal weight in a way that kind of just— I flow with, not white-knuckle, I can't eat anything I like, I can't eat sugar, and I can't eat that, I can't eat that. I don't want that energy. Fuck off with that energy. It doesn't last. Who wants to live that way? We want to figure out how can I integrate this? How can I think, live, and eat like a thin, healthy person in the easiest, most enjoyable way possible. That's the Tao. That's the Tao of doing it. And, um, it's not rocket science. That's the crazy— that's what I'm trying to tell you all. Like, once you kind of get what we're doing here, it's not hard. Like, it's really not. It's a new way of thinking, right? So it feels weird, but it's, um, it's not— it's not hard. It's like, what's the easiest possible way you can do healthier stuff? You've never asked that question because you've been trained since you were a little baby to diet to lose weight. And we've all been trapped that way of thinking, so we gotta escape from the mental prison that dieting has put us in, you know, to change it. Yeah, Angie says, yeah, so true, last thing I want to do is you name the diet. Yeah, exactly. Like, folks, the fact that you hate the diet and are putting it off and don't want to do it is just It's like, it's such valuable information. It's just, it's screaming to you wisdom. It's saying you don't want to do it because it's a miserable way of being. And if it's a miserable way of being to start, guess what? It's going to be a miserable way of being 2 months from now, 6 months from now, a year from now. It'll get a little easier, but it's always going to be this fight. You never eating sugar again, folks, is always going to be a fight. Eating sugar moderately doesn't feel as much like a fight. I still have to manage my sugar consumption. If I don't pay attention to it, I start, you know, I start eating more and more sugar. But it's like, I pay attention to it. It's the same thing with alcohol for me. It's like, if I don't pay attention to alcohol, it can start to like just— it creeps, it creeps bigger. So I have to pay attention to it. But for me personally, at this point, no alcohol at all, that's just not appealing to me. You know, I like having a bit of it. I like eating it moderately is like Perfect for me. And it's the same with sugar. Would I be healthier if I had no sugar? Yeah, sure. But would my quality of life go up or down? I feel like it would go down. I like having desserts at dinners, you know, special meals. I like having special occasion sugar stuff. That to me is the sweet spot. And I have not seen anyone that can't have sugar occasionally and be in control of their weight. But again, what you all are doing is the all or nothing flip-flop with the sugar most of the time. Where you're eating lots of sugar and then you're always getting ready to not eat any sugar. And I find a lot of people find that's the majority of their life. Jane says, I have a keto cookbook out on my coffee table. I'm going to put it back in the cupboard. There you go. Now again, listen, don't get me wrong. You can take inspiration from it, right? You can look at the keto cookbook and find a recipe you like, right? That's relatively easy to make, enjoyable, that's healthy. Because again, keto's got good parts to it. If you live in America, your number one source of calories is baked goods. So, you know, reducing the refined carbs that you're consuming, if you live in America, that's probably going to have to be part of your plan. It was for me. I'm a carb addict. I could just eat— I could eat bread and carbs all day long. That's more my thing than sugar and sweets. But again, it's got to be moderated if I want to have the quality of life I want to have. You know, so I take— I think keto has got some ideas in it that are, that are solid. I mean, keto is a diet, goofy, just, just so you know. The ketogenic diet was originally created for epileptics. It had nothing to do with weight loss. And the whole idea of being keto is just so silly in terms of there's not even one modern population that lives in ketosis all the time. And what are you going to do? First of all, the Inuit Eskimo, if you're going to reference them, They have a genetic mutation where they don't even go into ketosis. And then we're going to talk about the African tribe. Is that really who you want to model your health after? Because they don't have great health, even though their weight might be a little bit lower and they live totally different lifestyles, obviously, anyways. But you tell me the modern population that lives in ketosis. You show me the modern population whose health you want to emulate that has a high protein diet. Speaking of protein, speaking of protein. Because protein right now is the it girl for the diet industry. They'll put protein in everything. Why? You think eating more protein fucking Oreos is going to help you lose weight? That's what they'd have you think. So it's like, again, the diet industry is there just to tie your brain into knots. I mean, so you can't even think straight. And that's where most people kind of find themselves is you can't even think straight when it comes to weight loss. And it's so frustrating to you because you're a smart person. If you're listening to this, you're probably smart. You're probably successful with whatever chosen path you've chosen to take in life, either personally or professionally or both. You're probably really successful and smart in a lot of those areas. But then when it comes to your weight, you're stuck. And not only stuck, but you're just tortured by the— how is this possible? What is wrong with me? How come I can't figure this out? I don't get it. I know how you think, folks. I've been doing this for over 20 years professionally. It's simply because you have been programmed to think like a dieter, and dieting doesn't work. What's up, Patty? Patty says, I'm tired of chasing the same 10 pounds for the last 5 years. I weigh 190 and want— wanted to weigh 180 for my lifetime goal weight. Lately I feel like just living at this goal weight— I'm healthy blood work-wise, walk every day, sleep well, drink water, etc. I have healthy habits, but I must eat just a little bit too much. I just wish I looked a little nicer but want to just live my life. That's a great— I appreciate you making that comment, Patty, because I think it brings up really, you know, I say the number one thing most people have to figure out is their motivation, because if you're overweight, I promise you your motivation's not, not right. You weigh what you want. Let me put it real bluntly. You weigh what you want to weigh subconsciously. You know, we can go in there. If you don't believe that, you can tell me and I'll go into it more. But being able to choose the right goal weight is one of the hardest parts of the process, simply because you all have never learned how to choose your goal weight. Looking at a BMI chart is not choosing your goal weight. That, that's just figuring out the goal weight they chose for you. Do you understand that your weight is one of the most personal things you get to decide in life? And you've never learned how to choose your goal weight. How do you choose your goal weight? You wouldn't even know. You would say BMI chart, probably. But how about this? How about you choose the goal weight? And what your goal weight ought to be is the weight that gives you the best quality of life. I like that answer a lot because the highest quality of life is not just the lowest number. If the best quality of life was the lowest number, then 85% to 95% of dieters that get to their goal weight wouldn't put it back on. But what we know is that 85 to 95% of dieters that get to their goal weight put the weight back on. So how could getting to your goal weight be the best quality of life just because it's that number? It can't, because what most dieters experience is their number gets to the number they want to be at, but their quality of life goes down because they're miserable living that way. That makes sense. The number doesn't define the quality of life. So for you, Patty, that 10 pounds, which is about 5% of your weight— you're talking about 5% of your weight— you're like obsessed with it. But what difference is it really going to make? You want to look a little better? I mean, what's 5% of your weight really going to matter? Like, honestly, I'll give you an example. Like, like, I put 25 pounds on 14 years ago, and it was one of the most stressful, difficult times of my life. But at that time, 25 pounds was too much. I was starting to notice physical effects, you know, that I didn't want. So I took 10 pounds— no, I put 15 pounds off, but I raised my goal weight by 10 pounds for that period of life because living at that lower weight that I'd been at before kids and before work and before life was easier for me. And all of a sudden, when life just blew up in my face, kind of like it was really hard, Um, I, I raised my goal weight because again, the number is not— should not be the only thing you're deciding that weight on. So Patty, if you're not in my world, please, I literally, I give away a goal weight quiz half the time and it helps you choose the right goal weight for yourself. And I think it'd be really, really helpful for you. So if you're not, again, if you haven't got that free hypnosis session I give, you should get it because once you're on my email list, I send that goal weight quiz out every now and then. And it'll help you choose the right weight. Oh, look at that. Okay, Jane, Jane says, do it, Astrid. I had both my knees done and so glad I did it. Yeah, a lot of people said that. And again, I know that that surgery can be tough, you know, but if you can utilize that surgery also as, you know, motivation to really get your eating and health under control as well, you get even more benefit out of it. So, um, Nora says, your hypnosis session works so well for me that I fear it will suddenly stop because I never learned to succeed in reaching my goal weight. Um, yeah, I mean, that can happen too. I'm not going to lie. Most of the time hypnosis by itself is not enough because of the exact thing. You need to know what you're doing. You know, so again, the hypnosis sessions are almost always helpful as a supplement, but rarely are they enough by themselves. If they were, I would sell my hypnosis program on its own. I have the number one hypnosis program in the world. For weight loss. There's no question about it. There's no program that exists like this. The hypnosis program alone, it's 8 weeks. Every morning you get a 5-minute hypnosis session with a different weight loss mantra in it. And every week you get a core weight loss mantra session. Um, you get 8 of them. Those are 10 minutes long. The morning ones are 5 minutes. And this kind of bookends your day with all this good messaging going in your mind. And it helps you develop a thin, healthy, happy mindset just by sitting there and listening. Now, as effective as this is, I think at the end of the day, this is a process of mastery, and you need to know what to do and how to get yourself to do it. So you need to know what your plan is going to be. That's what this book is. That's what this Goal Weight Blueprint is— your little 144-page guide roadmap to living at your goal weight, how to think, live, and eat like a thin, healthy person. Right. And then you learn how to use the Program Yourself In technique, which is a 60-second mental rehearsal technique. You use that at night to program your mind to do the things you wrote in your book. And then you use the hypnosis sessions on each end to kind of reinforce all of that. That's how Program Yourself In, the full program, works. But I don't sell the hypnosis program on its own simply because, again, I, I've seen people lose a lot of weight with it, but I just don't know without having this other knowledge how you're going to maintain it. And I don't want to sell false promises or temporary solutions. And that's why I stopped selling the hypnosis program by itself. You're not going to sell the shit out of it. You know, I just, I don't think it's enough. You've got to know what you're doing. You need to know how to run your own mind. You need to have a plan that's specifically customized for you. I think you need those two things too, you know, but again, the fact that that hypnosis session works so well, Nora, makes me think that, A, you're pretty suggestible, which is good and bad. Um, when you're getting good suggestions, you internalize them, they make a big difference in your behavior. And if you can learn how to run that brain in your head, you'll take control of that power, you'll take over the steering wheel. But so great job playing with it. But yeah, go a little bit deeper, watch the training and, um, a few more things that I give you. Uh, what's up, Josh? Josh says, hi, Jim, I find that it's helpful to literally measure out what one serving is. You can still have one serving of what you really desire. Yeah, absolutely. I mean, again, I'm not a big fan of measuring, but I think getting a sense of— getting a sense of what a serving size is is really valuable because a lot of times people underestimate what a serving size is. And it's built that way. It's intentional. But if you're— if you're estimating serving sizes way off, it's going to be hard for you to control your calories. What's up, Intelligent Gut? Yep, definitely a lifestyle. Yeah, it's definitely a lifestyle. Without the lifestyle piece, forget about it. I don't even know. Don't even know. I always say this, you know, when it comes to the Gold Weight Pyramid, I, I, I've been doing this for over 30 years, but most of my energy is really in the lifestyle piece. That's why I put a lot of my focus— that's really what I feel like is driving the bus more than anything, is how well I'm doing my lifestyle. So that's, that's pretty much my main focus day to day. Yeah, Sonny says ketosis is a metabolic disaster for women. It's like running on high stress hormone fumes. That is— Sonny, that is like the best description of ketosis I've ever heard. I really appreciate that. I'm literally going to take I'll take a screenshot of that. I love that. It's like running on high stress hormone fumes. I love that. I think that's the best description I've ever heard. I would agree with that. Thank you for sharing that one. That's a good one. I'll use that a lot more. Yeah, the stress hormones, right? I just don't know. Again, and that's like, you know, dieting has trained you again to be at war with yourself, you know? So most dieters are just looking for the struggle. They're looking for the misery because they associate that with they associate that with fast weight loss, you know. Uh, there's a map. Oh yeah, meaning follow— following someone else's right thing program, not creating your own. What works for me, not for thee. Always looking for the diet miracle. Yeah, agreed with all those things. Yeah, I think that's such a core point too, that again, that's another piece of dieting that they're— it's always this one-size-fits-all idea, right? So everyone should do keto, everyone should eat more protein, everyone should do intermittent fasting. Bullshit. Everyone's their own unique person, your own preferences, your own lifestyle, all of that. And, uh, you know, it's, it's just that, uh, you've got to figure out what works for you. You know, it might take a little longer. Like, obviously you just want the plan already give— created and given to you, obviously, but it's just not going to work because you're, you're a unique snowflake. You're just a one of a kind. So you got to figure out what's going to work for you, because what works for you is probably going to be different than what works for other people. So agreed. Sarah says, yes, it's a diet, I suppose. Definitely all or nothing thinking. Thank you. Yes, that was about the sugar. Agreed, Sarah. And again, you know what, eliminate the sugar. You know what I mean? Like, I'm not going to argue with you to not do it. You want to do it, go ahead and do it. Eliminate the sugar. But what I would say is— and the refined carbs— but check in with yourself a week from now and see if you've eliminated them yet. Check in with yourself a month from now, did you eliminate them or not? And if you didn't eliminate them, maybe keep the door open and consider reducing them. Might be a nice middle step and living that space, you know, and program yourself. Then we talk about the 3 Rs of weight loss: reduce, replace, remove. And I think most dieters only consider remove to be a valuable one, right? Whereas reduce and replace, in my opinion, in my experience, are the most effective ones. You know. So keep that as a potential option. Um, 66 Murph says he's right, it's too much of a shock to your body. I really felt like hypertension. Cut back slowly. Yeah, exactly, 66 Murph. So if you start with small things, I think you'll be surprised because again, they're easier and they make you feel better than you realize or think they're going to, and that's valuable. And then they can really be motivating because you start to think, okay, this isn't that hard, I could do this. See, most of you dieters think the opposite of that. Right? Most of you dieters subconsciously are like, oh my God, how am I ever going to— I can't do keto. I'm not going to be able to do keto. And you know that because you've tried it so many times. Oh my God. Fucking counting every point. Oh my God. Oh my God. I'm not going to do that. Give me a break. So it's like, what's built around your whole weight loss mindset is failure. I'm not going to be able to do that. And you're right. It's meant to be that way. But dieting says, no, no, you should— you got to keep trying. No, you don't. Stop fucking dieting. Stop dieting. Folks, stop dieting. It ain't working. It's never going to work. Little changes over time. Lori says, you're an angel. All right, thank you, Lori. Appreciate that. A little goal weight angel. That's how I think of myself. I think of myself as a little angel sent from the heavens to help teach people how to manage their weight. I really do. Let it be known, I do think that. But thanks for saying that. Uh, Pat says, what do you think about food addiction? Food you can't eat just a portion of. I think, I think that's true, but I also think it's overstated. I, I think food addiction is real to a degree. I think it's less the problem for most people than they think. I think it's in— your brain goes there sometimes because it just gets so overwhelmed, doesn't know what— how else to explain it. But let me just take it to the extreme too. I'm going to say this artfully because I don't want to get limited here on TikTok, and every time I mention substances, I tend to get limited and banned. But, um, I'm going to take it in a different direction than you may be thinking, Pat, that even if food was addictive, people have been addicted to some of the strongest substances on the planet. And yes, food can be addictive, but nothing's more addictive than certain substances that people ruin their lives for. And even in those situations, people have figured a way out. So again, I think usually food addiction is blamed too often when it's not really the core problem. And even if that was the case, you can still strategize around it and succeed. So I want you to feel successful, even if that's possible, um, that you can still get a handle on it. Okay. Um, but typically food addiction, yes, there are hyperpalatable foods and then there's certain foods for certain of us that just trigger us and we have real hard time controlling. Agreed. That being said, the state you're in. Your nourishment levels, your rest levels, your hydration levels. All of these things factor in how addictive foods feel to you as well. So that's another piece of the puzzle. So yes, agreed. Sometimes some foods are more triggering than others to us, but we can influence it. Amira says, I have 30 kilograms to lose to reach my goal weight. It feels so long and currently I feel so frustrated. I end up in super restriction mode. Not sustainable. How do I handle this first part, the slow part of weight loss? Yeah, but I mean, like, right now you're in the slow part of weight loss. The restriction, folks, the restriction is always followed by bingeing. The over-restricting is always followed by bingeing. Just a matter of time. If that wasn't the case, then people would be super restricting and at their goal weights. But what ends up happening is people always tell me the same story that I start over-restricting. And then I start overeating. And it's all because you're impatient. I get it. 30 kilograms feels like 100 miles away. I get it. Okay, but how long you been trying to lose the 30 kilograms? You know, time's a funny thing because it can feel like we've been trying to do this forever and we need to do something now, we need to lose it now. But most people have been struggling with their weight and been at the weight they're at for decades. And so, you know, you have to use your logical brain and say, hey, emotional brain, I know you feel like we need to rush this, but we've been in that mode the entire time. Dieting teaches you to try and rush everything because the more you try and rush, the more stressed you are and the less successful you're going to be. Dieting wants you to be overweight. So yeah, Amira, I mean, you got to sit down and you got to sit down with your patience and reflect on this. You got to look at your weight loss history and notice the patterns. And the main pattern you're going to notice is true for all of you. The main pattern you're going to notice is you're always trying to rush. You're always trying to hack your way to lose the weight as quick as possible. And that way of approaching it creates the mindset, the physiology, the biochemistry, the cravings that sabotage you. So in weight loss, fast is slow and slow is fast. Let me put it a different way. There's a great saying I love that most people overestimate how much weight they can lose in a month and underestimate how much weight they can lose in a year. And that's absolutely the case for you, Amira, because you'll over-restrict for a couple days or a couple weeks, and then you'll binge and overeat for a couple months. And that math's never going to work for you. So the real answer is to grow and evolve your mindset, to start thinking in a bigger time frame. Start thinking about where you want to be next year, and maybe next year you're 15 kilograms lighter comfortably. Easily with no over-restricting. And the year after that, you're 15 kilograms lighter than that, comfortably, easily, in a way you can sustain. And now you can spend the rest of your life at your goal weight in a way that feels good for you. That's what I would suggest is a better approach. Thanks, Vicki. Happy Monday. You sound great. Thank you. Yeah, I didn't start this off sounding too great. I don't know. My voice is— it's getting better though, so I'm all for it. Every day it gets better and better. All right. Yep. 66 Murph says yes, let's talk about protein. I don't know what you want me to talk about though, because I don't— I, I like protein. I mean, protein's essential, folks. I'm not saying I don't like protein, but we live in a moment here where protein is really being overhyped. It's just as— this is what the diet industry and the food industry always do. They highlight one thing and they shine a light on it, and now they're going to put it in everything because the implicit message is that protein is going to help you lose weight. You know, Sunny says, yep, like I said, I know my stuff. Just listening to your voice is bringing all that back. Very good, very good, Sunny. That's super. That's what happens. That's what I do. I am the voice in my client's mind. I'm very intentionally that. Most of you all have shitty voices in your head. You got Jillian Michaels, uh, David Goggins. You got these, these I don't know, these general voices, these fuck that. I mean, fine. Hey, for some people being yelled at and no pain, no gain works great for them. So I'm not, I'm not saying don't do that. Please understand. I think there's a right way for everybody. Okay. But what I'm saying is I know my clients, my clients, that's the wrong way for them. Beating yourself up, you know, trying to do everything perfect, pushing yourself as hard as you can. I know it sounds great on paper, but in reality, you're probably not getting the results you want from that method. So sweet, sweetest mystery says, what do you think about Mediterranean style of eating for weight loss? Um, I think it's great. I love Mediterranean diet. Um, I, I like, I like how you say it too, Mediterranean style of eating. I like that a lot. I don't like the Mediterranean diet because I don't like any diet because diets are literally built to fail. Um, but eating Mediterranean style, um, that, that plan I think is great because why? Because there's a lot of whole foods in it. Whole natural foods are really your secret weapon, uh, to dealing with your weight. So yes, I love that. Um, I love that part of the Mediterranean diet. I don't like the diet part of the Mediterranean diet, which is that you're going to change everything in one day and eat like you're from, well, what, from the Mediterranean just instantly. Oh, today's Monday. Now I just totally different. 'Now I only eat Mediterranean food.' That's too overwhelming for you to do all at once. But I think to start introducing more and more whole natural foods is great, and Mediterranean is just one version of that. So, but I like it. Um, Shereen says, 'I think fiber is coming into the limelight. Move over protein.' That would actually be great. That would be the one macro, if we want to call it that, um, that will actually move the needle. I think fiber is the number one thing missing from people's diets, and it's simply because fiber does not process well. So most food processing companies remove it from their foods. So, yes, I think fiber— whole natural food gives you fiber, and that fiber helps you to control your weight for a lot of reasons. And I would welcome that one. Yeah, Joshua says, yeah, there's literally cookies and cream protein powders. Yeah, exactly. That's what I mean. It's just the protein powder is just Don't fall for that one, folks. You're gonna just spend a lot of money and you're gonna be just as much, if not more, weight-wise. Um, Sanjita says, I agree with you, Jim. I'm at my best when I'm at my goal weight. I'm confident, feel sexy, and love my body. That's wonderful, Sanjita. So steep yourself in that feeling and in that mindset, and then use that to move yourself forward. Um, Angie says, goal weight equals best quality of life is the number. Wow, never heard that. So insightful. Um, yeah, you're welcome. Yeah, a lot of people never heard that. That's why I want to share that. That's why I'm here every day sharing these things with you, because this is my mission. In life is to help as many people as possible with their goal weight. And, um, I know the main thing stopping you from that is that your mindset— you think like a dieter. And so I get on there every day to try and help you kind of snap out of that, and as best I can. And, uh, yeah, even starting with goal weight, right? That most of you don't even know how to choose your goal weight. You didn't choose your goal weight. Your goal weight was chosen for you. And choosing your goal weight's the first step. Um, Map8126 says, men don't understand 10 pounds. For me, 10 pounds is a full dress size. Arm break equals 20-pound gain. Been 2 weeks. No, I get— I get a full dress size. I get it. But, you know, like, I'm just saying, I don't think it makes as much difference as you may think it does. And I think that if your quality of life would go up here and you could live at peace knowing you're at a weight that you are able to comfortably maintain and live at, it might be worth being a dress size bigger. What are you getting out of that one dress size smaller? And this gets back to motivation because most of us have been trained to focus on extrinsic motivation, which is people looking at us, oh my God, you look great. Oh my God, you look great. That's what the diet industry has built itself around your entire life. Oh my God, you look great. Your friends look great. Would you give a shit about that dress size if you're the last person on the planet? No, you care about it because you want people to say something about it. And the truth is, who's going to say anything between one dress size and the next? Maybe they will. I don't know. You're right. I'm a man. I don't know about dress sizes. It's true. But you, in your own life, how much difference genuinely is one dress size going to make in your day-to-day quality of life? This is where you listen, and this is specifically for women. I don't know. So you feel free to be like, Jim, you know, you had me and now you don't know what you're talking about. Okay, fine. But I've worked with a lot of women. I've worked with a lot of women over the years, and I want you to honestly ask yourself the question: how much difference is one dress size going to make in your life? Is it worth the extra stress and strife to get your weight down to that level? If it is, then go ahead, start getting your weight down. But if it's not, then enjoy where you're at. You're at your goal weight. Congratulations, enjoy your life now. How about that, folks? Because I find especially for women. Most women, there is no fucking goal weight. You want to know why? Because you're always going to feel bad. How about that? I'm just going to say it out loud. And you know who taught me this? This was a person I had certified as a Program Yourself Thin coach years ago. At one point, they'd been a competitive bodybuilder. Okay. So technically we're talking about someone who's in the fittest shape possible. And I said, hey, what's it like right before you go on stage? You're right at that moment. You've been planning, you've been working on this for years. You've been planning for months for this moment, dialing down your salt and your water. You're ripped. You're as ripped as you can possibly be. I'm like, you look in the mirror, what are you thinking? She goes, you wanna know what I'm really thinking? She goes, I'm noticing the flaws. So there's another question, you know, is there a perfect weight where you never feel bad about yourself again? I bet there's not, folks. That's another piece of the mindset here that I think Uh-oh. That I think you got to figure out. I think you get the mindset figured out because I think there's a lot of people— now, by the way, I think this is another part of why 85 to 95% of people that get to their goal weight put the weight back on, because I think they get to their goal weight and they say, oh my God, I still feel fucking bad about myself. I don't want to burst your bubbles, folks, but you've already fucking been there. You've been at your goal weight. Can you think of a time in your life when you just thought you looked absolutely amazing? You felt so amazing about yourself, you didn't feel any any insecurity? Can you think of ever that time? Because you already been at your goal weight. Not only that, you've been less than your goal weight. I don't say this to discourage you all, but, but it's like we got to recognize this because, you know, the numbers and the reality for most people, they can't make sense of it. So, yep. But yeah, what's that one dress size gonna do? Lori says, my doctor loves the BMI, and when he brings it up, I hear Jim's voice. I just listen but follow Jim's directions. Yeah, that's a good strategy. Doctors don't know shit about weight. Doctors don't know anything more about how to control weight than you do. They don't know any— they don't study that. They don't study how to control your weight. They don't study nutrition most of the time, unless your doctor has some personal, you know, interest in it. They don't know anything more than you know about how to actually control your weight. That's why when you've gone to the doctors your whole life, they say, oh my God, you're kind of overweight. You should think about losing some weight. Okay. What should I do? Oh, eat better and fucking exercise. Oh my God. You went to medical school for that? You know what I mean? They just don't know. They know they can fix your, you know what I mean? You got a broken arm. Great. They're great for a lot of things, helping you manage your weight and be nourished and be healthy and happy. That's not really on their radar. That's not really part of their specialty. So yeah, the BMI chart is great if you're a white Middle East, uh, a white European man, because that's who the BMI chart was based on originally. So it's not really inclusive. It's not representative of all the populations, people of color, short people, bodybuilders, different situations, you know, and even, and then beyond that, the BMI chart in general, if you're normal or overweight range, most people in those two ranges are going to typically have healthier markers. Okay. So it doesn't have— you don't have to be in the normal weight to have healthy markers. And so once you're in the healthy range, then how do you decide your goal weight? It's based on what you want to weigh. So Jane says, instead of measuring out a serving size, I'll use what my thinner friends are eating to help me judge how much I should eat. Yeah, that's a great strategy. That's a great one. Uh, Kelly says, I gave up chips, started it because my husband has terminal brain cancer, so I gave it up for him, but started following you and listening to you and decided to give them up mostly forever since that was a very strong weakness of mine. Now it's sweets, was never a problem before. Now I eat things that I would never have before. I don't understand my thought process for this. I need to be healthy and not even worry about my weight, but I also need to lose at least 50 pounds on top of getting healthy. I always feel stuck no matter what I do. Um, yeah, I get that, Kelly, but first off, I gotta tell you, I gotta push back on something. You don't need to lose any weight and you don't need to be healthy. I did a lesson, and just so you all know, this is a podcast too. So if you go to any podcast platform and search Program Yourself Thin, um, you will see all podcasts I do. But I did one probably 2 weeks ago, but the 3 words that sabotage your weight loss, and the 3 words are need to, Have to, should. Okay. So right off the bat, Kelly, your motivation's a little off-center. Um, you don't need to lose weight. You either want to lose weight or you don't. And this is a very clarifying question because when you feel like you need to lose weight, it feels like something outside of yourself is putting that pressure on you. And then you tend to fight, fight against it and resist it. Whereas if you want to lose weight, that comes from inside of you and it's a cleaner form of motivation. I'm not saying that fixes everything, but I'm saying that's the starting point. All right, so spend some time, Kelly, and really reflect on why you want to be healthier, why you want to be 50 pounds lighter, and really step into that. It'll help you out. Yeah, Sarah said that's helpful. Good, I'm really glad, Sarah. That makes me happy. I'm glad you got something out of that. Um, Vicki says, do I need to do anything at this time with my current Thrive membership? Confused by an email I received. Uh, Vicki, you shouldn't even receive that message, so just ignore that. You're fine. So sorry about that. I— yeah, I gotta— that was a whoops. Just ignore that, Vicki. Uh, Pat says triggering food's so true for me. Not a whole category such as sweets or carbs or very specific foods. My mindset changed and I stay away from triggering ones. Yeah, I think, um, that's what I mean. You— we all have different triggering foods for us, and it doesn't have to be a logical thing. So it's not something you have to figure out. Just notice your patterns. And when you notice foods that really trigger you Um, you know, then you go to work on them, you know, kind of strategically dial them down a little bit. Um, Sylvia says, I'm not seeing a change in my thinking, what am I doing wrong? Um, I'm not seeing a change in my thinking, what am I doing wrong? I don't know, are you in the program, Sylvia? Because that'll help me. I'm going to assume you are because I don't know, right? Because I'm not seeing a change in my thinking, what am I doing wrong? That would assume you're in the program, that's what I feel like, but are you? Let me know, because if you're in the program, I'll have one answer. If you're not in the program, I'll have a different answer. So let me know and I'll answer that. And if you are in the program, make sure you get on the Tuesday live Q&As, and, uh, I will help you think different. I promise, I promise you, I will help you think different. That's what I do. What's up, Christina? She says, I'm listening and all I keep thinking about is the Magic Mirror. Ah, yes, yes, Magic Mirror is a chapter in this book. It's so good. Oh man, one of my favorites. I love it. This book's awesome. Again, if you don't have it yet, um, you might want to rethink that, okay? Because, um, yeah, something else. 40 chapters. Each chapter is a page or two. Each chapter is a hypnotic story, and each one is designed to change the way you think so that you naturally and automatically start making new food choices that affect your weight. Um, yeah, Sylvia says yes. Okay, I'm not seeing a change in my thinking. What am I doing wrong? Okay, um, well, I mean, the first question is, are you using the program yourself then technique? Because it's pretty hard to do the reading rehearsal technique 5 nights in a row and not start to see some shift in your thinking. So that's, that's kind of my big question is, are you doing the reading rehearsal If you not, that's fine. But that becomes the focus is how can I get myself to do the redo rehearsal technique more consistently? Okay. Listen to the hypnosis sessions are great, but I would definitely suggest that the PYT technique, the 60-second rehearsal, redo rehearsal technique is the cornerstone of everything. And it's really difficult to do that day in and day out and not start to feel a shift. Right. So that's my first thing to you. Um, second thing is make sure that you get on the Tuesday Q&A calls that we have at 2 PM Eastern, 3 PM Eastern, my bad. Um, get on that live Q&A because I'll go back and forth with you and I'll directly aim you at the program. Uh, and then if you can't make that call, you can email me questions. Give me a little more detail what you're doing. Um, and you can use here, I'm happy to kind of help you out here, but I can go a little bit deeper with you, um, on the Tuesday call. Uh, and again, even if you just send me a question, I'll answer that on Tuesday call and I'll be able to go deeper. But again, I promise you will change your thinking. There's not a question in hell. Uh, there's not a chance in hell that you won't change your thinking. And then after the redo rehearsal technique is then getting into this, um, getting into the blueprint, right? Because again, it's very difficult to go through the mindset section and not, not to start shifting your, your mindset and how you're thinking. Because again, we're going to talk about what motivates you, your self-image, and how you think about yourself. We're going to talk about your habits and how to approach them effectively. We're talking about how to manage your emotions genuinely. How to think like a thin, healthy person, how to maintain. So again, as you start going through that, there's no rush, please understand. But if you start going through a little bit of that regularly, that, that's all going to contribute. So work on all those things, then get more specific. Let me know what's not changing and we will change it. Um, Amira says, is your book available as an EPUB online? Um, I don't know, it's a Kindle, it's Kindle on Amazon. So if you want to get it, there is a Kindle version and there's a physical version. I'd recommend the physical version. It feels nice. Like, this book just got good energy to it. Um, Map says, how much difference? Quite a bit. Um, wearing an 8 versus a 6 is not my goal weight and then becomes your goal weight, not mine. You just told me my goal weight isn't important. 10 pounds less and my blood sugar drops and my hypertension disappears. Health Matters. Oh no, I'm— I didn't tell you your goal weight's not important. How could I ever tell you that? I have nothing to do with your goal weight. Um, I said for most people, a dress size isn't going to be that important. For you it really is. So I take that back, you know. Again, I'm speaking in general terms here, obviously, because I don't know you. Um, but now that you tell me everything else— when you're 10 pounds less, your blood sugar drops, your hypertension disappears, your health matters tremendously, your dress size from an 8 to a 6 is, is dramatically different for you. Okay, great. So now that 10 pounds becomes a lot more important, right? But by recognizing what's at stake here specifically for you, for a lot of people, 10 pounds isn't gonna make much difference with their blood sugar and their hypertension, and they're not gonna lose a dress size from an 8 to a 6. A lot of people, that's not gonna make that big of a difference. For you, it does. Okay, so now what happens is when you're looking to motivate yourself, all you need to do is you need to shave out 10 more pounds of calorie consumption. So look at what you typically eat and shave out the easiest places to cut some extra calories out. And then use the motivation to have lower blood sugar, have better health, be that size, dress down, and all the reasons that matter so much to you. So steep yourself in your goal weight and why it matters to you. What I say about a weight doesn't matter at all. Okay. You particularly think that that, that 10 pounds is going to be life-changing practically. So steep yourself in that belief and that reality to power the moves forward that allow you to get there. But you started this by saying, um, oh, maybe that's not you. Never mind, never mind, that was someone else that had something else. But anyways, yeah, if 10 pounds matters that much for you, then, um, yeah, then you should be really motivated. Um, Amira says, you're right, I, I say I have to lose 30 kilograms. It's more 14 kilograms for me to have a good quality life. 30 kilograms is just the weight BMI that people around me make me feel like I gotta lose. Yeah, there you go, Amira. But again, that's very, very, very common. Most people did not choose their goal weight. It was chosen for them. It was chosen for them by a BMI chart, a doctor, a friend, a parent. You never really sat down and decided what weight's gonna give me the best quality of life. You just kind of internalized a number and have been chasing it for as long as you can remember. So again, really figuring out a weight that really resonates deep in you is one of the most important things you can do. Because again, now you can say, Amira— I would set up two goals. I would say, Amira, my goal is to get 14 kilograms down. That's where my life really, really improves. That's the real sweet spot for me. I want to get there comfortably in a way that I can sustain and live there. And then at that point, if I decide I want to lose more than I can deal with that then. But for right now, my goal is to drop 14 kilograms. And notice how much more congruent you feel. Right? It just feels like, yeah, that's what I want to do. And again, that's a shorter time window as well, but your motivation is way cleaner when you look at it that way. And the next 14 kilograms, you can decide then. All right. Um, yeah, Sylvia says thank you, see you Tuesday. Yes, yes, yes, get on the call, uh, Tuesday, Sylvia. Um, do I order that book? Um, this book here is, uh, it's available on Amazon. So this one here, you can just order anytime you want. I mean, it's pretty cheap. It's, it's $2.99 for the Kindle and $9.99 for the physical version. So I kept it about as cheap as I can make it. Um, but you can order that from whatever country you're all into. I want y'all to know, sometimes people will look if they're in a different country and it'll, um, it won't show up. So you have to go to your Amazon. I don't know, I always thought people just kind of knew that. I guess I, I never considered it really. But yeah, so, and then you can just order that and you'll have it tomorrow. Um, Josh says, Winton Marcellus had some good advice in general. You have to align what you can do, what you want to do, and what you should do. The answers are not always easy to find. Yeah, I love that. I love that. And I think that again, so often, just in general, a lot of times how I'm approaching things, I'm upleveling our thinking. A lot of times dieting's trained us to kind of look at things down here, and it's really hard to see the full picture down here, you know. So a lot of times I'm kind of encouraging you and helping you kind of see things from up above. We'll go down here too sometimes, you know what I mean? That's necessary as well. But I think Dieting Miss is kind of the big overview. Um, the biggest overview is it's not about losing weight, it's about living at your goal weight. But we kind of jump up and look at the bigger picture stuff, you know. Um, and I think that can be really, really enlightening a lot of times. Um, Marta says, I love this. I don't have to, I want to. Yeah, of course. Um, remove the pressure. That's part of the psychological pressure, and it's just, it's, it's semantical, right? Where we say, oh my God, I gotta lose weight, I have to lose weight, I need to lose weight. No, you don't. And again, you experience pressure when you say it that way. So I want to lose weight just sets you up completely different, and it's real. It's a real difference. All right, there it is. I'm going to get out of here. Um, Amira says, thanks, Jim, so glad I came across your channel. Yeah, I'm glad you found it too. And same with all of you. I really appreciate all your comments, your questions. Um, I do this every day and it's because I really enjoy it. I really enjoy getting to talk to you all and speak with you. Um, hopefully help some of you and, uh, move you forward because again, uh, it's Your weight issue is not a weight issue. It's a programming issue. Okay. And when you start to think differently, you start to behave differently. When you behave differently, your weight is different. Hope that makes sense. And, um, I love being able to share this with you. So again, if you're not in my world, please go click the link in my bio and go get the free hypnosis session. I'm going to put that in the chat window over there. Um, go get that. It's free. I give you a bunch of free stuff. I really do. Um, PYT Daily, every day there's an email coming if you want that. I mean, I have so much support that's just free. Yes, I still have a program too, but, um, I am here to help you for free as well. And I'm here every Monday through Friday, usually around noon Eastern. Um, I will be a little late tomorrow. Um, and if you can't make the live, it's a podcast, so you can search any podcast platform, search Program Yourself Then, and, uh, you can listen whenever you like. Okay, because these are put up every day. And then finally is the book. Yeah, if you're looking for a real simple, easy way to kind of access this information, uh, this book's the easiest, simplest way. It is designed to be read multiple times. Each chapter, like I said, is a page, page and a half. Um, it's easy, easy reading because each read— each chapter is a story. Okay. Um, Utah Reynolds says, why don't I see the chat window? I'm not sure, actually. Maybe because I just put that in there, so there's the link. I put, I put it in Restream, but maybe it didn't go out through to Instagram, so go check that out. Um, so yeah, all right, I want to have a super duper day and we'll talk soon. Bye everyone.