The Mindset Shift That Makes You Thin

It everyone, welcome to today's program Yourself Thin Podcast. Today we're talking about the mindset shift that makes you thin. The most important mindset shift you can make, I believe, in order to become a thin, healthy person for the rest of your life. What that mindset shift is is how long you think you're going to do this for. So again, you have to understand, your entire life you have been conditioned by the diet industry to think about your weight loss as a temporary, short term thing. You're going to diet to lose the weight and you want that to happen as fast as possible. So the faster you can lose the weight, the better. And what that leads to on the other side though, is the fastest way to lose weight is to do the most extreme thing. Okay? So the faster you want to lose weight, the more extreme thing you need to do. So thinking about weight loss as a temporary short term thing is the core mindset that is getting you in trouble because you're thinking about it as a temporary thing that you only need to do for a little while. And then, well, you don't really think about what then. Honestly, what most people will say is they'll feel, I'll figure it out then. I'll figure once I lose the weight, I don't know, I'll figure it out then. And yet no one figures it out then. Because what happens to almost every person that diets and loses weight is they put the weight back on. The numbers are really bad looking. If you want to lose weight on a diet and keep it off, the numbers are bleak. Again, it's estimated, I don't know, 84 to 98%. I've seen a couple different numbers. 84 to 98% of dieters that lose weight put it back on. And so no one figures it out. And I believe all of this starts right at the beginning when you're thinking about losing weight. You again, have been conditioned by the diet industry to think about it as a temporary thing. I'm going to diet until I lose the weight, then I'll figure it out. And that's the trick. No one figures it out. And eventually what ends up happening anyways is that you don't even want to diet. Because even if you win, you lose. Because if you have had three times in the past where you've lost weight and then put it back on the fourth time, your brain says, what's the point? We're just going to fail anyways. And now you can't even get yourself started. That's where a lot of My clients are at when they come starting to work with me. So the alternative to this is that you start realizing that you want to live at your goal weight for the rest of your life. This is not a temporary thing because you don't just want to get to your goal weight, you want to live at your goal weight for the rest of your life on your autopilot. That's what you really want. And that shift in perspective changes everything because the second you think of this as a forever process, I want to live my goal way forever, and I'm going to need to do whatever I do to get there forever. As soon as you think about as a forever thing, pretty much right off the bat, you're going to wipe out a lot of the extreme things. You're gonna be able to water fast yourself to your goal weight forever. You're gonna most likely stay in ketosis to be at your goal weight forever. You're not gonna intermittent fasting, I guess you could somewhat get used to, but most people are gonna keep it up. You're not gonna count your points forever to maintain your weight. So again, as soon as you put this frame around it that I'm gonna do this forever, it becomes real obvious that a lot of these things you've been trying to do to lose weight, you're not gonna keep up. They're unsustainable. And so when you start the process by saying, I want to live at my weight, my goal weight for the rest of my life, I want to get there and I want to live there forever, it changes everything because now it almost forces your brain to find strategies that are going to be long term, you're going to be able to keep up long term. And this is the big difference. When you start to approach your weight with the mindset that I'm only going to do things that are comfortable and sustainable long term. Now, I know at first your brain just says, well, nothing sustainable and comfortable. That should reveal something really important to you, that you don't have a plan to live at your goal weight at all. You've got a plan to do extreme shit to lose weight. When you get really upset right now, think about the last couple times you've actually died and stuck with it. Most likely something triggered that. What triggered it was probably some pain based event where you stepped on the scale, it was really high, you freaked out, someone said something mean to you, you went to the doct, something happened that made you feel so bad that you said, that's it, I got to take care of My weight. And you jumped into some extreme, overwhelming plan, did it for a little bit and then you stopped. And you have done that a bunch of times. So the alternative is that you realize I want to do this forever and I'm only going to use sustainable, comfortable ways to change my weight. And now all of a sudden, when that becomes your criteria, you start to find different strategies that you've probably never used in your entire life. Things like slowly changing your eating habits, improving your lifestyle habits, changing the way you think. And when you start committing to these things long term, it changes the entire process. Because when you do start to figure out the strategies that are comfortable and sustainable, everything changes. All of a sudden, the even potential that you could live at your goal weight becomes a reality. And so this is what I'm urging you to do is to please shift your mindset from this short term mindset to a long term one. Start thinking about forever. Managing your weight is a never ending marathon. And that's not a bad thing when the way that you're running that marathon is comfortable to you. I sit in front of you. I love. I've lost £50 and I've kept it off for 30 years of one blip 13 years ago. I love how I think, live and eat day to day. I love it. I love how I eat. I plan on eating this way to some way or another for the rest of my life. And happily I love it. It's natural, it's automatic for me. I enjoy it, keeps me at the weight I want to be at, gives me the best level of health. I love it. Why? Because I took the time to create a plan built around me. I'm not going to tell you what I eat. Who cares? I'm me. I like what I like. I live my lifestyle and you have to figure out what works for you. But if you take the time to do that, you've got that for the rest of your life and you never have to deal with your weight again. That's the beauty of it. So yes, it's a little bit slower than you may like in the beginning because you've been conditioned to think you can instantly get results. But it serves you long lasting so that next year at this time you're not getting ready to start another diet. You have a way of being that keeps you at your goal weight and that's the difference. And if you want some support with this, click the link in my bio. Go get the free hypnosis session I give you. Watch the training I made, read the emails I am here to support and help you. So go check that stuff out and use it. Or you can go to program yourself then.com too. You can get that there as well. And it's all free. So if anybody's any questions, feel free to ask them. I know I'm a little bit late here at a meeting I was in, but better late than never, right? That's what they say. What's up, Vicki? Yep. Glad you're on today. Yep. Got a little bit late, but here we are. Laura says I'm on. I'm on a plateau, a real one. And even if I happen to eat one meal daily on a busy week, nothing happens. I'm on a plateau, a real one. Well, okay, so plateaus. My first question is, how long have you been on a plateau? Always the first question. Because we got another time. I'm gonna. I get the feeling from you, Laura, that it's more than a week, just the way you're writing this. So I get the feeling it's been a couple weeks at least. But let me know if you're still on here. How long have you been in your plateau? And even if I happen to eat one meal daily on a busy week, nothing happens. Yeah. So plateaus are real, obviously. Okay. Because weight loss is inconsistent, unpredictable. It's not a straight line of success. People tend to think weight loss is a straight line down to your goal weight. It is not. I have done this where I have monitored people's weight, and it's always the same story. It's a story that looks like this. And now, again, what we're looking for is a trend line. We want the trend line of the weight going down. But most weight loss, if you're gonna. If you have any substantial amount of weight to lose, if you're doing this for a little while, it's almost guaranteed you're going to hit, you know, moments of plateaus. Sometimes I put a little weight on, completely normal. So the first thing when it comes to plateaus that I would suggest to my clients is that you treat it as maintenance. So basically, when you hit a plateau, it's your chance to practice maintenance. Because again, remember, you're not trying to lose weight, you're trying to maintain a lower weight. I hope that makes sense. And no, it's not the same thing. So I think that when you hit a plateau, it's important. So how do you practice maintenance? Here's how. And program yourself then, is that you would optimize what you did to get to your plateau. Right. So Whatever changes you made in your eating and lifestyle to get the weight down and to hit this new plateau, I want to look at those things and I want to optimize them. Now, what does optimize mean? It doesn't mean you just cut more calories out. It means that whatever you did to get to the plateau, you make it easier and. Or more enjoyable. So again, to lose weight and get to a plateau, you had to change your eating up. So I don't know what you changed up. Right. But whatever you did, the goal now is to look at that and say, how can I make it easier to do that? How can I make it more enjoyable? And if you spend your energy on optimizing what you did to get to the plateau, two things happen. First of all, you let time go by because you don't know when you're on a plateau. You really don't know. Again, depending on how long you're on a plateau, but up to a month, you really don't know if it's because your calorie reduction, that's where you just end up now, and that's that and, or your body's just adjusting. I can't tell you the number of people that were in a plateau for three weeks, just maintained everything the same three weeks later of staying the same. Then all of a sudden the weight loss started again. So that's a real thing. And you don't know. Again, I don't know how long you've been in the plateau, but that's the first you want to keep in mind. But if the time goes by and now the weight doesn't stop coming off, okay, now we got to adjust things some more. But you spent the previous time optimizing what you've been doing. So now whatever you've been working on, you know, hopefully you, you've gotten better at it, you've made it easier, you understood what you're doing more. And now we ask the magical question, where else can I reduce some calories comfortably? And then we work on reducing the calories more to kickstart the weight loss again. So I hope that makes sense because you have to have a strategy to deal with plateaus and freaking out and trying to cut things down even more and wondering why this week I didn't lose weight. You need to zoom out and look at the bigger picture, okay? And approach it strategically and calmly because plateaus are completely normal and natural. Again, you don't really know initially if it's because you haven't reduced enough calories enough or if your body's just adjusting, it's gonna kickstart again. I cannot tell you the number of times people, again, have gotten to a plateau, kept everything the same, and the weight loss kickstarts again. Why does that happen? I don't know. I don't know. I studied weight obsessively for 30 years, and there's just. Weight itself is fascinating for what we don't know about it. All right? So again, just stay relaxed, stay calm, and keep optimizing what you've done to succeed. And congratulations, by the way. Nice job taking action, losing weight, and getting to a plateau. And I'll share one last thing with you, metaphorically. Again, most people think of weight loss like this straight line of success. I think of it much more like Mount Everest. Where? Mount Everest. You can't just climb up to the top of the mountain. You have to climb up the base camp, acclimate. Next base camp or next camp, acclimate, next camp, acclimate, you know, then you go to the top. And so it's very similar to weight, that there are times it seems like people's bodies, mindsets, you know, biochemistry needs to acclimate, you know, to the new thing. And then it starts losing weight again. So that's a real thing. And I've seen it over and over again. Can I explain why it happens? I cannot, you know, but. But it's real. And so don't. Don't freak out when you're on a plateau, okay? I can't. It makes me sad to think of the number of people that were successfully got to a plateau and then quit because they couldn't. They were just so distraught that they weren't losing weight, you know, and if they just stuck with it, they would have started losing weight again. So hopefully that helps. What's up, Shereen? How's it going? I know. Late, late. What's up, Dana? How you doing? Anne from Ontario. Ontario. I like to be in Ontario. It's 10 million degrees out here, but it is humid, you know, and they say it's not the heat, it's the humidity. They're right. It's the. It's the humidity. User. More. Hi. From France. All right. Thank you for your videos. You're welcome. Yep. Some French people, nice people all over the world. That's always cool. Hyperthyroidism and Hashimoto can't lose. You can lose. Okay. It's important to understand and remember that. That again, I'm telling you this. Having insulin resistance, type 2 diabetes, Hashimoto's thyroid Issues. All of these things don't prevent weight loss. They may slow it down, they may make it harder for different reasons, but they do not stop weight loss. They do not prevent weight loss. Again, they are factors. I'm not ignoring them as a factor. They are, but they don't prevent weight loss. Again, they may slow it down and you may lose weight slower than you used to. You may not lose weight as quickly as your friend does. But if you stick to a reduced calorie consumption, then your weight will start to go down. So don't give up just because you have that and it's not true that because you have Hashimoto's, you can't lose. That's just not true. So don't think that because it become a limiting belief that makes it true. Make it seem true. Anyways, Vicky says the normal fluctuations, when I eat more, I weigh more and need to make adjustments accordingly. Yes, absolutely, Absolutely. When your weight goes up, usually it's because you're consuming more calories. Laura says, I starved ages ago due to events. Lost four stone, obviously gained it back and ever since I'm stuck. Yeah, I mean, the starving yourself can absolutely throw things out of whack for a little bit, but if that was ages ago, I would not blame that anymore. That the starving yourself again, depends how extreme it was. You know, I mean, like there are famine situations that literally change your genetics, you know, so there can be extreme enough situations that can negatively impact you. But again, the key thing for you, Laura, just based on the little bit you've told me, is that your brain is really locked into a diet mindset where you do extreme things to lose weight quickly and calm down. Okay, great job again, I don't know how much you lost to get into the plateau, but great job taking action to making that happen. But now's new territory for you. You know how to do something extreme and lose weight. You've done that a million times. You have never been able to maintain it, though, to really get where you want to go. So now is your chance to start stepping into new territory. And that territory is relaxed, calm down, okay? Celebrate your success. One of the hardest things people have, I will tell you, it's so crazy, I cannot tell you the number of people I worked with. And let's just say they'll be like, I'm 40 pounds down, but I've been on a plateau now for a month and it's miserable and I got 20 more pounds to go and it's just terrible. It's like you know, 40 pounds ago, to lose 40 pounds is tremendous. And 40 pounds ago, you would have been over the moon to be 40 pounds lighter. So I get it. You want to go, you want to lose more, I get it, Fine, Okay. But you don't have to. I think so often I find with dieters especially, they hold their good emotions hostage until they get to their goal weight. So I can't feel good until I get to my goal weight. I can't feel attractive or proud or any of the positive things until I get to my goal weight. And I think that's a terrible strategy. I think the secret is to learn how to feel good now and still be motivated. And you can absolutely do that. And here's your chance. So again, when you hit the plateau, now's an opportunity to say, okay, what did I do to get here? Let me optimize that and let me work on some other components here, too. I've lost some weight. I feeling better. Let me work on my sleep. Let me improve my sleep a little bit. Let me make sure I'm hydrated properly. Let me move a little more, Let me practice my relaxation. There's so many other things you could focus on that will make you feel better and most likely will again, support kickstarting your weight loss again. Okay? So again, feel the pride for what you've accomplished so far and just stay on the path, okay? Relax and stay on the path. And the way you stay on the path is making it easier and more enjoyable. So I hope that helps. I hope that makes sense. I know it's weird to think that losing weight could be easier and more enjoyable, but I promise you, it can be. If you. If you turn your attention to that question of how can you make your weight loss more enjoyable and easier, you will get those answers and strategies and it will happen. It's not rocket science. It's just that most people have never been taught these things and they don't stick with it long enough to get those results. Funny girl Yaya says. What about if you have food fatigue? How do you deal with someone who has food fatigue? Food fatigue. I'm gonna assume what you mean by food fatigue is you're tired of eating foods that have lost weight with. Is that what you mean? Because there's also decision fatigue. There's diet fatigue. One in the same. And diet decision fatigue is a very big problem for dieters. Your brain is not built. It's estimated you make over 200 food decisions a day. So as soon as you go on a diet, those 200 food decisions that were being made on autopilot in the background and now have to be made consciously, intentionally. Okay. And so it's overwhelming now, I always say this to you, all that changing your reading. I know a lot of times you think losing weight and dieting is difficult because you don't get to eat your favorite foods. And that's partly true. But a bigger part of it is that you're changing automatic behaviors to be conscious behaviors. So it would be the equivalent of if you woke up tomorrow and said, I'm going to use my other hand to brush my teeth with, to use my computer mouse with, to use my phone with. I'm using my other hand. And you can do it, but it would take a lot more energy and effort. Right? Because you have to think about it. Now you got to think about brushing your teeth. Whereas before it's just autopilot, you're just doing it automatically. Now you got to kind of think about it. You're jabbing your cheek, you feel like you're not cleaning all the teeth. Right. And it's stressful. And so a big issue with losing weight and changing how you eat is primarily that it's behavioral change. And the way you're doing it is terrible. The idea of dieting, of changing everything all at once, is the worst strategy that exists, in my opinion. And that's why it fails 99% of the time, practically. So. So the fatigue. So. So again, you said correct, funny girl, But I'm not sure if you said correct, too. You have food fatigue. Like you're tired of eating healthy stuff and. Or you are tired of making food decisions. I'm just going to assume you mean you're tired of eating healthy stuff. I'm going to talk about it anyways because I know it's a common thing for people. Okay, Now I will tell you the reason you're tired of eating healthy stuff for most dieters is because that's all you're eating now. I would have food fatigue. I would have healthy food fatigue if I said to myself, okay, from now on, all I eat is healthy food, three, four days in, I'd be ready to kill someone. Okay, so, yeah, most people get food fatigue. Oh, both. Okay, great. So, yeah, in both, I'm glad you met because they're both issues, whether you would have said yes or no to both. Anyways, so again, you have to understand, folks, most diets, a person starting their diet saying, okay, that's it, that's it. And it doesn't matter what diet you do it literally doesn't matter. Right? So if you're keto, it shows up as, okay, no more carbs. Now you say no more carbs in your. Your subconscious mind says, oh, my God, no more cookies. Oh, I can't eat potato chips at night. Oh, I can have pizza. Right. So it makes it much more emotional and real and it's terrifying. Yeah, no, that's it. No more the foods I love. No more the foods I use to deal with my emotions, you know, and it freaks you out. And so, yeah, you get two, three, four, five days into that, you're ready to kill someone. Which is why I don't suggest dieting. Trying to change everything all at once is silly. And on top of that, trying to change everything a hundred percent is even sillier. So again, in programming yourself, then we structure our reading. We have pleasure days, we have clean days, and we have pleasure days so that it. We don't. We avoid that. Again, that's a very. And I don't give a. You can know all about it. You say, oh, food fatigue. Oh, I might get bored eating a healthy thing. Well, I'm just going to fight through it. No, you're not. No, you're not. You're not going to fight through it. You might fight through it for an extra week. You ain't going to fight through it. Folks, you're listening to me because you've never been able to fight through that. You talk a bunch of beforehand, but then when the time actually comes, you have to change your eating. And you're actually dealing with the reality of just eating healthy food and never getting to eat the food you love. Talk to me then. And you're going to be talking much different because you ain't going to like it. I wouldn't like it. So for me now, again, I worked up to this, by the way. I started with one clean day a week. I worked it up to now four and a half days, clean days a week. And I've optimized my pleasure days, too. Okay, so they're healthier. They used to be, but yeah, think about my reality. I wake up on Monday and say, okay, I'm gonna start eating clean for the next four and a half days. Oh, let's have a cookie. I don't have a cookie now because I want to. I want to control my weight, my health. I want to be happy. We can have a cookie this weekend. What kind of cookie you want? Let's have a chocolate chip cookie. Maybe I'll make them even. And so it's like I never have to get past four or five days of eating healthy because I know I got foods I love waiting for me. Now, that being said, I also work on moderation. So the weekend comes and I'm not just binging crazy either. Okay? I want to make that clear. But I have no heart. There's no food that I cannot eat. That right away relieves so much stress and pressure from me. And you can all ignore this because you're all so tough and you're all just. When you do something, I do it right. When I do something, I do it all the way. Jim. I'm an all or nothing person. When I do something, I'm perfect with it. Okay, great. That sounds so great when you talk your. But let me see what happens when you actually do it, if you ever actually do it. You bullshitting yourself. Dieters. Because you're always. I. Because I know I'm talking to. Because I know the only people here listening to me are people that are overthinkers, type A perfectionist, action oriented people. I know you and I know that in your life, when you do something, you do it all the way. Great. That's great. In a lot of areas of your life. Not with weight. So the fastest way to get yourself off track is. That's it. I'm going to be perfect. No, you're not. No, you're not going to be perfect. Good news. You don't need to be perfect to be successful. Little, you know, teaser for people in the Thrive program. Next week's hypnosis session is I'm imperfect and successful. I love this session. I can't wait for you to get it. But again, you've been. Listen, folks, this only makes sense when you understand the diet industry is bullshit. And let me explain why. The diet industry is a branch of the food industry. The diet industry does not. The last thing in the world the diet industry wants for you is for you to permanently be thin and healthy and happy for the rest of your life. Not eating their foods, you say? What? What are you talking about, Jim? Hold on. Weight Watchers was owned by Heinz. Jenny Craig was owned by Nestle. Atkins Food Products was owned by the same company owns onions, pretzels and Cinnabon Slim Fast, owned by the same company owns Ben and Jerry's ice cream. These companies do not want you to lose weight. It's the last.