The Most Pleasurable Holiday Possible

It. Hey, everyone. Welcome to today's program Yourself then podcast. Today we're talking about how to have the most pleasurable holiday possible. So I'm going to kind of flip the script a little bit because I think a lot of times if you're thinking about your weight, you're focusing on it, the holidays come and you start freaking out about it, right? And so a lot of times, because they're so worried that we're going to enjoy ourselves too much, we're getting carried away with things that we don't really have the most enjoyable time we could possibly have. Even though we may be eating a lot, right? Because even if we're eating a lot, if we're eating a lot, as we're going to discuss, first of all, you can eat in a way where you feel guilty and ashamed and frustrated and off track, right? And then obviously, you can eat too much and then feel crappy physically, right? So when we talk about how to have the most pleasurable holiday possible, where kind of flipping upside down, how we typically approach the holidays, if you care about your weight, you know, if that's something that you're focusing on, and again, you're kind of presupposing that you're going to be tempted and you're going to overdo it with all the cookies and the cakes and the whatever it may be that you may overdo during the holidays. And what we want to do is go straight to the heart of it, which is that we're looking to get the most pleasure possible out of the holidays. That's what we want. And a lot of people think that that's going to be eating everything in sight. But what I want you to do is I want you to think about another reality, a reality where you can eat anything you want to eat, okay? Any food you want to eat, you can eat it. Any drinks you want to have, you can drink them, okay? But I want you to imagine eating those foods in a more moderate way so you can continue to eat whatever food it may be and. But you're going to eat it more moderately. And when you think about that moderation piece, I want you to kind of relax, ground yourself, calm down, maybe even take a deep breath and let it out, okay? Because this, I think, is where you're going to find the most pleasure, where you can have the food you like to eat, but you eat them in a calm, relaxed way. You eat them, you enjoy them, you appreciate them, and you stop. That's what we're really looking for here. That, to me, is the highest level of pleasure. Because I will see you, you're eating every cookie in sight. And I will. I don't know, I always do this shit. I'm not a gambler. So I always. I always say, I'm going to see you and I never know how it ends. But again, I. I think that you'll find that this is a more pleasurable experience, you know? And again, I think dieters sometimes are fighting against overeating so strongly that they just presuppose that eating all the cookies is the most pleasure they can have. When in reality, eating overdoing it with pretty much any food feels kind of shitty, you know, Again, you feel shitty physically, mentally, emotionally. And it's not the most pleasure. It's the most pleasure in that few moments while you're actually eating. And then it feels terrible again. Remember, in program yourself, then we have three phases. We have anticipation, consumption, consequence. And most people separate the consequence out and just focus on the anticipation and consumption. And when you do that, that's when you think, oh, I just want to eat, eat, eat, eat, eat, eat, eat, eat. Okay? But we start to look at the consequence piece of it, which is always there. There's no avoiding the consequence phase. So, you know, again, you can ignore it, you can try to ignore it, but it's always there, right? So when you start to focus on it, though, and you start to ask the question, how can I have the most pleasure? We've got to take into account the consequence piece of it. And so how can I eat the cookies in a way where I get the most pleasure out of it? And what you're going to find is that when you dial down the consumption, typically, not overdoing it, not going crazy, the more close you get to moderate that. To me, for me personally and a lot of my clients, that's been the sweet spot where they're really able to get the most pleasure out of the food. Okay? So I want you to think about it that way. Now, once we get past the food, how can I get the most pleasurable holiday possible? Sleeping when you can, relaxing, drinking water, maybe going for some walks, eating a piece of fruit here and there. Right? These are things you can continue to do as well. So again, all of them are all pointing in the same way. They're all pointing at moderation, balance. Okay? So I think that's the secret to getting the most pleasure out of the holidays is to not to go too far in one direction of stress and tension and, you know, overeating, but to really Kind of live in that middle space where we get to do those things, but we do it more moderately, more calmly, more peacefully. And I think you'll find that this is absolutely the path to having the most pleasurable holiday possible. So I hope this helps you out. And if you want to go deeper into this process, this concept I'm talking about, click the link in my bio, get the free hypnosis session I made for you, and I will. If you're over on Facebook or YouTube, I'll put the link in in a second. But go get a free hypnosis session. And not only again, I, I, I pride myself on. I believe no one gives you more free stuff than me. And one of the things I'm giving away this week is my calm holiday hypnosis and training. So I'm just giving that to you for free. A calm holiday hypnosis session. So you can listen to that. It's 10 minutes long, and it'll kind of walk you through having a calm, peaceful holidays that you can enjoy more. Right. And so you get that in addition to the new Thin Me, which you're signing up for, and a bunch of other stuff. So go check it out. And I hope that that helps you out. And if you have any questions, feel free to ask them. Micah, like it says, this live is so needed. A real blessing. And that's something I understood too late. Overeating. Healthy food is as unhealthy as overeating. Unhealthy food? Yes. Y. Absolutely. Absolutely. I mean, the quantity of food we eat, it's just like, you have to understand, you know, we've been conditioned our entire lives to overeat. You know, that's the, that we just get that message constantly. And you get it from every direction. You know, it's just we're constantly. And we're just driven to overeat. You know, we do have the biology we're born into wants to overeat when there's food around. So there are multiple levels driving you and nudging you over overeating. But that being said, we can still work on it. You know, I'm a big, big fan of getting good at moderation. And I have found that people that practice moderation are the ones that succeed the most, you know, because, you know, moderation is a skill. It's a skill. And I think most people just kind of like, try it doesn't work. And then they say, I can't moderate, you know, but that's not how it works. It's a skill like Any other. And the more you practice it and the more, you know, you seek to understand it and develop it, the more you'll develop it, you know, and the easier everything else gets. So, yeah, I couldn't agree more, Micah, that it really comes down to the quantity. You know, what you're eating matters too. But yeah, you, you can overeat a bunch of healthy food and feel like, you know, and that's what we're looking to avoid. But put the link up and if you are on Facebook or YouTube, I'll put this link in there. If you want to get this, I would strongly suggest you do because we're getting closer and closer. If you're not on my email list, we're getting closer and closer to my book being released here it is, the Dow living your goal weight. This is going to be released and I'm giving free copies away in the beginning of the year. So if you're on my email list, I will be letting you know about that, believe me. And you're not going to miss out on that. You have free, free book. I think you're going to love it. So, yeah, go check that out. But I give you a bunch of free stuff and even in the new year, I have a bunch of free stuff for you as well. So, Shereen, Shereen says during the holiday season, I've been using your nighttime hypnosis for an afternoon nap. It's done wonders for my stress. That's a great strategy, Shereen. No, I think that's smart. Yeah. The hypnosis sessions, they're so powerful for so many different reasons. And I think people don't really understand this a lot of times. Obviously there's the hypnosis side of it, where the words I'm saying and how I'm saying them are, you know, looking to seep into your subconscious mind. That's part of the goal, but the other goal of the hypnosis sessions. Every time you listen to hypnosis session, you're relaxing, you're turning your attention inwards, you're breathing more deeply and slowly. It's just physiologically it's very beneficial and I think a lot of people overlook that. But physiologically it's very similar and beneficial, like meditation or breath work or even some real gentle yogas. All of those things are turning your attention inwards, practicing your relaxation, connecting to your breath. All of these things that they give you pretty important skills. So that's great to listen to that in the afternoon and it would be an interesting time to do it. So yeah, I'm not surprised, not surprised at all that you're noticing stress relief. Benefit from that. So that's great. Nice job, Shereen. Sandra says I clicked on your link, filled in the form, got your temporary video whilst waiting for the email with your hypno session, but I never received the email. All right, that's very strange, but it does happen. I will say weird things happen sometimes with emails. But, Sandra, if you want to email me a gym program yourself, then dot com. Oh, I put the wrong link in anyways, by the way, I'm running on half speed here. I would say I'm absolutely in the holiday mode officially. And I just ate a giant burrito. Let's talk about normal weird stuff. I just ate a gigantic burrito, which I never ever do for lunch. There's the right link. So I think all the blood's going to my belly and not my brain, but that's okay. Again, it's kind of like different days are different, but yeah, shoot me an email, Sandra. I'll get that fixed for you. Sometimes emails go in and there's a million, not a million different things, but there are a couple different things that can happen sometimes that kind of mess up the. You not getting the email. Good for you. Regarding the burrito. Yeah, definitely not. I didn't want it. I. I gotta be honest. My kid loves these. My kid eats these burritos three times a day. If I let them. I like them, but good Lord, you know, relatively hell. I mean, beans, rice and you know, they're good too. But it's just funny. I'm usually have a salad and usually I never eat before the lives either, so it is funny. Everything's kind of. Kind of different. Jody said, how's your cold? Mine is lingering. Yeah, I would say this is kind of a lingerer. I would say I'm kind of feeling it, but I'm blessed. I. I feel blessed that I've kind of had a little bit of a cold thing and it's like I feel lucky I've had it. When I've had it. You know, I had hoped. Well, you know what, though? I had plans. I had hoped to. To do the audio version of this book this week. But then I. My voice was all weird, so I was like, I didn't do it. But that honestly, it was a blessing in disguise because I've been wrapping up some stuff. If you all are in the program yourself, then program. I hope you all appreciate it. It's all kind of redesigned. Looking good, I would say, you know, so all the, all the, the daily cards have been redesigned. You know the, the color scheme, it looks nice, looking nice, new logo. I gotta say, Program yourself. Things looking pretty sharp for the new year. We're ready to go and everything's in there, locked in, been changing a couple things, upgrading, optimized a couple things. It's real good. Kingsmere says just come off of Manjuro. Any suggestion for keeping the weight off? I mean the only thing I think, I think there's only one. I don't know, I don't want to be like this. I'm not here to be self serving, just to sell my program. So I want to make that crystal clear. However, at the same time, I've never seen a program like Program Yourself then. I've never seen anyone approach, I, I've never seen anyone approach weight their weight with a real systematic, strategic mindset, lifestyle eating plan and an ability to, a strategy to manage your mind. I've just never seen that. So I don't know what would you do to get the weight off? Because yeah, I mean this is what we're gonna, this is where we're getting folks. This is where we're getting with it. You know, these GLP1s have been on the market now. We're getting into kind of, you know, 16, a year and a half, two years, you know, where they've kind of hit critical mass. But what happens after about 16 months is you stop losing weight. And so we're getting to that point where, where a huge group of people, because they've never studied GLP1s, they haven't done a lot of study with GLP1s on people that don't have insulin resistance. So the GLP1s were studied for, for decades with diabetics and people with insulin resistance. And so they've never done huge long term studies on people that don't have those issues. And it really wasn't until about two years ago when they started releasing them that they really are doing large scale. You know, if you're on these things, you are the large scale study to some degree. And one of the things I'm always curious about is what's going to happen with people once they stop losing weight. Because we can put up with anything when we're losing weight. But once we stop losing weight, and I know you're thinking, well if I'm my goal weight I'm just going to be still fired up. Well, I don't think that's true. And so I think that we're going to start getting a lot of people. It's going to start right about now. We're going to start getting a lot of people coming off these medications because they got to their goal weight and. Or they stopped losing weight. And I think it's going to be very difficult for people to continue on these medications once they stop losing weight, because I think what most people do, what most dieters do throughout history, is they will trade the excitement and the pleasure of the food for the excitement of the pleasure of the scale going down. But the problem is, at some point you get to a goal weight and the scale stops going down. And it's estimated that 83 to 95% of dieters that lose weight put the weight back on. And I believe this is a core reason, because you give up the excitement and pleasure of the food for the excitement and pleasure of the scale going down. But eventually the scale stops going down. So where are you getting your excitement and pleasure now? And now I know what your brain says. Your brain says, well, I'm thin and healthy. I just. Every day I'm excited and pleasure. But that's not true, because there's a thing called hedonic adaptation. We adapt to whatever our reality is, right? Whatever car that was new to you at one point you couldn't stop thinking about is now just your car. And this is just a natural thing that's very difficult to. To. To deal with. And so that's going to be a big issue. So a lot of people are going to come off these medications and unfortunately, what they're going to find is that the suggestions for keeping it off to you, Kingsmere, is the same suggestions. I give it to anyone. So whether you're on a GLP1 or not, whether you have had gastric bypass or not, no matter what your weight loss situation is, if you're overweight now, if you're at your goal weight, you know, I'm not talking to you. But if you're a person who's been struggling with your weight, to me the solution is always the same, that you're going to need to have some strategic, comprehensive plan to change your mindset, lifestyle and eating so that you can think, live and eat like a thin, healthy person for the rest of your life. And on the GLP ones, you didn't learn any of that. The GLP ones, you just felt, you know, not hungry and so you didn't eat. But, yeah, you come off of it and you go, you're the exact. You're the same person you were before the Medicine, you just weigh a little less now, you know, but you've got the same mindset, the same lifestyle. You haven't had the same eating patterns, you know, but they're going to come right back because your hunger is going to come back and you're going to do what you did. And I don't say that to be pessimistic. I mean, every GLP1 study has shown the exact same thing, that no one keeps the weight off after you get on it, because you're not learning anything. You understand? You're. You're not learning. It's not even like steroids. Like, steroids are a supplement. The GLP1s are a complete and total alien experience that's not transferable to once you come off the medicine. Do you understand? And so, yeah, I mean, so to you, Kingsmere, I would say you're in the exact same path everyone on here is on. You know, where I think get on the path I'm on, I'm always working on my mindset, my lifestyle, my eating. You know, I've been doing it for 30 years, so it's like, you know, I've gotten good at it. But at the end of the day, you've got to learn how to think, live and eat like a thin, healthy person. So that's my suggestion, and good luck. I wish you the best with it, you know, but keep showing up here, you'll learn more here than you will most places, I would imagine, you know, but again, I'm not. I'm not anti GLP1s. I just want to make that crystal clear. I am absolutely not. I think. I think for a lot of people, they're a godsend, you know, but there are downsides, too, and they never talk about those, so you don't know about those yet. I always say, you know, whatever you think about GLP1s right now, you're gonna think differently about them over the next couple years because they've been all shine, they've been all sizzle, you know, I mean, this has been their no. 1's, you know, there's nothing negative about them yet, really. You know, but it's coming. It's coming. Ash says, how do I. How to stay consistent for two weeks? Well, if you're talking about the next two weeks, I'm gonna hit you with a different angle to look at it, which is that I think most people, when they ask that question, how do I stay consistent? There's two sides of that equation. I don't think they ever look at the Other side, Right. A lot of people say, how do I stay consistent? But what they're saying is, how do I stay consistent with my really extreme routine? Does that make sense? Right. So it's like we almost take that for granted that whatever you're going to do is going to be really intense and difficult and hard. How do I stay consistent with that? Okay. And so we never really consider that side of it. Right. So most people, the answer they're looking for is some magical motivation thing or some magical willpower trick or hack, you know? But I think we want to look at both sides. You can absolutely boost up your motivation. It's the very first thing we do in the program, Right. We talk about, we always start with mindset. And the very first mindset thing, if you can't read that, it's motivation, right? So we go through the science motivation. I bring you through some questions and show you how to motivate yourself, how to keep yourself motivated. So that's certainly one piece of the equation, is to be more consistent, you need to be more motivated. And so we want to boost up the motivation. That's part of the answer. But the other part that's just as important and most people just overlook is what is it that you're trying to be consistent with? And whatever you're looking to be consistent with, I would almost guarantee you there's an opportunity there to make it a bit easier to follow. And so if you make it less strict, less extreme, more comfortable, easier, that's going to support you to be more consistent, too. And most people ignore that because they just want the fastest results possible. But what they do is, again, they're not more motivated. They're trying to get themselves to the most extreme thing. They can't do it, and they just quit. And that's where most people land. So to me, I would much rather make it more comfortable for me, and I would think about it. Whatever it is you're looking to be consistent with, I would look for which parts of it are the hardest, and I would dial those down a little bit. So I hope that. Hope that makes sense. What's up, Angie? Angie says, I was on a GLP1, stopped losing weight, went off, and now gaining all 50 pounds back. I'm sorry, Angie. I, I. This is what I mean, though. This. This is going to be the story of the next two, three years right there. That's what you're going to hear. People are going to come off the GLP1s because they're going to get. I'm telling you, no one gives a shit when they're losing weight. No one cares what's going on when they're losing weight. But what's happening to these people, the reason this is working is a big part of what the GLP ones do is they boost up your aversion system. You know, your aversion system, it's when you feel nauseous, you know, because your body's trying to prevent you from eating things, right? And so you're not hungry at all. And you know, if you get really nauseous, you'll throw up, but. And if you feel, you know, kind of nauseous, your stomach's upset, you're focused on it, you feel like, right. So they dial you right down below. That is where they're trying to get. But so the. What that means. And no one's thinking about this yet because we're still in the weight loss phase of it all. I'm telling you, the next two years, the story of GLP is going to be all the people that come off and put all the weight back on. And that's. I'll still be here. I'll still be here talking my program yourself then. Okay. But yeah, because what happens is once you stop losing weight, either you get to the 16 months and or you get to your goal weight. Regardless what happens is now you start living your life. Now you've got to imagine your life the rest of your life. Think about this. You're going to live the rest of your life never really enjoying food the way you used to. Meaning you're never really going to look forward to a birthday cake. You're not really going to look forward to that fancy Italian restaurant you want, you used to go to on your birthday. You're not really going to enjoy the food at that, you know, the banquet place that you've always, you know, all the graduations are at. You're not going to enjoy the food, you're not going to give a shit. And I know when you're losing weight, that's amazing. But when you start thinking about the rest of your life, never looking forward to a meal, never truly enjoying it. I don't know. Not a life I'd want to live. I love eating food. So program yourself then. Ironically, the bullseye is all around eating our favorite foods. That's. That's the bullseye. We're aiming at getting the most enjoyment possible out of our favorite foods. Because you know how you enjoy, you know you'll get the most pleasure out of the foods you like, eat them at your goal weight. And so the GLP1s are a band aid, an effective band aid. Okay? Absolutely. For most people there is very effective while it works. But I think there's a lot of things people have not considered yet. And again, it. It's always devastating when you put the weight back on, no matter what. Even if you were told the GLP1s, once you come off and you put the weight on, it's still devastating as it's happening. So, again, you know, until you learn how to think, live, and eat like a thin, healthy person, I just don't know. I. I don't. I don't see a single solution out there, to be honest. I'm not trying to be like, oh, mine's the only solution. I. I don't want to sound that way. I'm sure there's other things out there. I don't know what they are, but. But I'm not saying I know everything. But what I do know, what I absolutely do know is I know diets. I know GLP1s, I know gastric bypass. I know lap band. I know those things very well. And I know across the board, there's not a single diet that's effective. Not a single diet. It's been a hundred years of dietings, folks. There's not one diet that rises to the top of the list. The closest we'd get is Weight Watchers, and it's simply because they have a social piece to it. So there's not a single diet that has come close to helping people manage their weight. And as far as the GLP1s, I just talked about them. And then as far as the. The surgeries, you know, that. That. That's got its own thing, too. So. Yeah. Oh, you see? I see. Just. Jody wrote that. Yeah. Jim. My work stopped paying for supplements, so they stopped paying or supplementing the cost. Now you have to be diabetic or pay for it yourself. That's the other thing. That's what I'm telling you. I'm telling you folks, like, the next two years is, I'm. I'm here. I've been here the first two years talking about this stuff. I'm not hiding from. It never was because it was always a band aid. I always knew it was a band aid. A very powerful band aid and an important, essential band aid for a lot of people. There are people in life or death situations that are really struggling with their weight. I think it's a godsend. But if, you know, for. For most people, I believe it's just, it's not a great long term strategy and absolutely the money piece of it is going to be very interesting to watch. I've mentioned this a couple of weeks ago. I'm on, I'm a town meeting member of my town and our insurance, our health insurance rates went up 40% last year. Almost all of that was from the GLP1s and so almost within the year. It didn't last one year and we stopped covering it. We're not, we can't cover it. It's too expensive, you know what I mean? Like little bankrupt towns. So yeah, there's going to be a lot of insurance and places of work that are not going to cover those, those, those interventions, they're not going to cover the GLP1, you know, and so that's gonna be another factor. But even if they did, folks, I'm telling you, even if they gave GLP a one away for free, I think most people are going to ultimately choose not to want to be on that because I believe that once the weight loss stops and you start realizing this is going to be your life forever, I think it completely takes out a giant piece of pleasure and enjoyment for most people, which is food. And I don't know, I don't know if you're really going to, I don't know if you're really going to be able to live a life where you don't really enjoy food and look forward to it. I would not want to live that. Not interested at all in that. So I don't know. Anyways, Center says, how do you overcome weight loss? Well, actually I see I saw someone asked something over on Instagram land. Do you work out? I do some workout now, but I will tell you that my entire program was really built around not working out. So I lost over 50 pounds over 30 years ago at this point. So it's been more than 30 years and in those 30 years I have not dieted once and I have not consistently exercised at all. I do a very gentle yoga. I do do yoga, but it's extremely gentle version. And so it's not like a calorie burning one. And so no, I have mastered my weight by mastering my eating and I've been able to master my eating because I have mastered again, I master my eating because I master my lifestyle mindset which are the foundations of it underneath. And that, that's my approach, you know, so yeah, but, but I do work out more now. But now it's a different motivation. I mean it's more I'm getting older and so I'm noticing, you know, there's a little bit of a loss of strength there. So I do work out now. I do kind of push ups and squats and stuff. I'm kind of getting myself. I'm in way better shape than I was last year. I'm actually really proud of myself. That was for me this year, that was really one of the big things I did. Two of the biggest things I did is I started doing push ups Monday through Friday. I do push ups and body weight squats and I've been doing those now for probably like eight months and that's probably 10 months actually. I think I started in February and that's been amazing. I feel good, I feel strong. And so, I don't know, I might continue that this year or I might kind of kick it up a little bit, you know, and start going to a gym once or twice a week. That's kind of the goal. I would like to do that, but we'll see. And the other thing I did that, and this might be my, my habit of the year, I think I really love this so much, is that when I brush my teeth in the morning, I brush my teeth in a squat, so I'll squat down, brush my teeth. And that has made my legs, which have historically been kind of my weakest part of my body and especially my knees, but it's made my knees and my legs so much stronger and flexible and comfortable. And that's been a real game changer for me. Like, fundamentally I feel different in my body, so that's been exciting too. Sandra says, how do you overcome weight loss plateaus? I think, you know, the thing with weight loss plateaus is that they're kind of a concept, okay? So if you're a dieter, hitting a plateau is like the kiss of death. Because when you're dieting, the only thing that matters is weight loss. Because dieters think about weight loss in terms of getting to their goal weight. So they, most dieters subconsciously think about weight loss as a temporary thing they're going to do until they get to their goal weight. And so subconsciously it really highlights the importance of losing weight. This is why dieters, the second they hit a plateau or God forbid they put a little bit of weight on, pretty much across the world is going to quit. They just can't keep going because they're so discouraged and destroyed with it all and all the rest of it. So I think weight loss plateaus to deal with them. I think the first step is changing the way you think about this whole process. And what I would suggest is, again, dieters are focused on getting to their goal weight. Program yourself. Then we're focused on living at your goal weight. And the difference is everything, right? They're two totally different things, because the idea of getting to your goal weight is just about getting there. There's no idea about how you're going to stay there. It's just, what do I got to do to get there? And when you think that way, you choose more extreme things. And the weight loss is even more important to the journey. So when we focus on living at your goal weight, I think it sets you up better because, you know, ultimately, at the end of the day, just to reframe this even more, you're really looking to live at the ultimate weight loss plateau. That's what I call it. Right? Because ultimately, you want to get your goal and just stay there. So in a weird way, you want to stay at a plateau forever, but you just want it to be at the weight you choose. All right, so along the way to getting, getting there, because this is important, reframe, but stick with me. So our. Our main goal is to get to the ultimate weight plateau, which is at our goal weight. And if we think of it that way now, as we're going through the process of losing weight, we're coming down. Well, of course we're going to hit plateaus. Right? And I always think of plateaus as kind of like base camp. Right. If you think about Everest, they don't just start at Everest and climb up to the top Everest, they'll climb up to the base camp, stay there a little bit, acclimate, base camp, stay there, acclimate. Base camp, stay there, acclimate, and they keep going up that way. And I think weight's very similar. I think as we're losing weight and it's different, different numbers for each person. But typically, people, especially if a considerable amount of weight to lose, you kind of lose some of it. And then I think you have to kind of normalize the things, lose some more, normalize. So I'm a bigger. In my world, I've seen that more often. That's more real to me. Okay. And so once you start thinking of it that way, when you hit a plateau, what I always suggest to people is that whatever you did to get to that plateau, keep doing the same thing. So most people, dieters are so obsessed with losing weight that the second they hit a plateau, they freak out. And what they'll typically do is how can I cut more calories out and then freak themselves out even more? I always say, when you hit a plateau, relax, great. Keep doing what you did to get here, but optimize it. What do I mean by optimizing? I don't mean cut more calories, I mean whatever you did to get to this weight, start making it easier and more enjoyable for yourself, right? So whatever shifts and changes you made in your diet and your lifestyle and you're thinking to lose the weight initially, focus on those things and make it easier and more enjoyable to do. You say, so I changed my breakfast. Great. Focus on your breakfast. How can you make it easier to make that breakfast? How can you make it more enjoyable? So you really look forward to it. And if you work on that for about a month, I would say then you have the opportunity to look and say, okay, did my weight loss start again or am I still at the same weight? Because sometimes when you're losing weight, you can do the right stuff, but your body just, it just, the weight loss stops for stalls for a little bit. But I've seen so many people or the weight loss stalls and they just keep doing the same thing and then just kicks back up again. I've seen that so much that we just don't know which it is. But the other thing as well can happen that you hit a plateau and it just maintains now. But if you get to a month now, you have a pretty good idea that, okay, my body's kind of equalized and now I can look at what I do, how I typically eat, where would be the easiest place to cut some more calories out, right? So that becomes a base camp. And now say, okay, let me, I'm ready to go to the next level. So that's how I suggest approaching plateaus. And I think it's a huge part of the process. Virginia says I gained double the weight I lost after I stopped them. I'm sorry, Virginia. Yeah, we're going to hear that a lot, you know, because I know that every life's like a pendulum. I use this metaphor all the time in the program. You know, life's like a pendulum and dieters make an enormous pendulum, right? So dieters are famous for over restricting and then overeating, right? Then, oh, super over restricting and super overeating. And they got this giant pendulum, right? And I think the GLP ones are going to mimic this to some degree. So again, you're not restricting, but you're not hungry at all, right? You feel so kind of shitty and full that you're not eating at all. But then as soon as you come off of them, you know that hunger comes back full force. And now it's like that hunger comes back and now you start eating more. And now I think you're, that I'm really fascinated by this question as well, that I think now you're swinging back. Now your hunger just feels raring because life's relative. Life's a relative game. And so if you go for a year or two years on these medications and you're not eating anything, you're not doing your old habits, all this stuff's gone away. Then all of a sudden you come off it. Now all of a sudden that hunger comes back like a 100 foot snowball at you 100 miles an hour. That's an intense thing to deal with. And I imagine it could very easily cause you get caught up in the food and then again go way blow past the weight you used to be at. So I'm sorry to hear that, Virginia. And unfortunately I don't think that's going to be an unusual story. I think we're going to hear a lot of people that are going to put more weight on again. You know what, I've been through this too much, folks. I've been doing this for over 30 years personally and over 20 years professionally. And every time there's some miracle cure, it doesn't seem like a miracle cure to me. And again, as I say this, I've been saying this since the first day of GLP1s. I will take the success stories of GLP1s all day long and I will put my program yourself in success stories against them every day of the week. There's no question which one's better. What do you think's better? Having to take $1,000 injection for the rest of your life and never enjoy food again or you know, be able to eat all the foods you, you want to eat in a more controlled way where you feel like a better version of yourself. You know, it's, it's obvious and one set up for the long term and one is not. And we're going to start to see the other side of the GLP ones again. Like I said, you've only been able to see the rosy stuff because it's, it's been really a narrative controlled by the pharmaceutical companies, you know. And again, you're not going to really see more of the truth of GLP1s until starting right about now. Right about now, especially over this year because now you're going to start to get the stories and you're going to start to know the people, all the people that have lost weight on them. You're going to see a percentage of them put the weight back on because they're not going to stay on this. They're not going to like how they feel. They're not going to like paying that money. They're not going to be able to pay that money, you know, and, and we're gonna see. We'll see. You know, Let's see. Yeah. So anyone's got any questions, feel free to ask them. I got all through the tick tock ones. Oh, I missed them. Oh, God. I got him. All right, we got all the questions. Good. We get out of here. Well, I appreciate y' all hanging out with me today. I know we're right before Christmas, so. Yeah, it's kind of fun. And I always. Oh, there's Vicki. Vicki. What did I say? Vicki said I think of maintaining is managing to stay at my goal weight range. Goal which I guess could be considered a plateau. Yeah. And when I get to the higher level of that range, I recognize I need to dial down and adjust consumption. Yeah, I do the exact same thing. I do the exact same thing as Vicki. I, I think, I don't think of my goal weight as a number. I think of it as a range. And when I get to the high end of that range, I start kind of. Usually I'll kick into gear. Last year I got, you know, £10 off of that, you know, and you know, 14 years I got £25 off of that. But other than that, I pretty much write in that range. But, but that range thought concept is really important. So I hope you all internalize that. That's a really key one. Jane says, I'm curious about your academic background in terms of this. I'm not criticizing because I think your program is great. Yeah, my academic background in terms of this, I, I quickly want to say nothing, but let me, let me, let me speak. I, I consider myself a learned man, but I consider myself a self learned man in this area. I mean, I do have a finance, you know, I'm in a finance and investments degree from one of the top undergrad business schools in the country. You know, but you know, at the same time, my story just real quick, you know, when I was 19, I was 50 pounds heavier. I was binge drinking. I was. Took a semester off from school, discovered hypnosis, yoga, nlp, neuro, linguistic programming, Tony Robbins, personal development, yoga, meditation, martial arts, guitar. I Started doing all this stuff within a couple months at a very low point in my life. And I was smitten with it. And so I, that, that semester, next semester I went into school, you know, to, to do my business stuff and, but I was just obsessed with this, you know, and ironically I remember this, I remember the first day of school, we had an orientation thing at this business school and they hired a hypnotist. Imagine this, right? Just, it's so funny how life works sometimes. And this guy was so great. Jerry Valley, I always remember because he lives an hour and a half away from here. But anyways, he, he was amazing. He wasn't like a typical doofus, you know, stage hypnotist, goofy. It was like almost more of a demonstration. And I was like, wow, this is really, really cool. And so anyways, I got my degree. But then I, I, the whole time I was just obsessed with all this. And so I would say most of my learning from this has really come from self study but obsessive stuff. I have been obsessed with this stuff for over 30 years. I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm a certified yoga instructor, I'm a certified master hypnotist, a certified NLP trainer, a certified strategic coach. I mean I, I've done certifications and all those things. I, I don't, I, I, I consider them a little different than, I don't consider them academic, I hate to say, I mean I was in academics, my, where I went to college was an academic, you know. And I gotta be honest, I mean my, my certifications were amazing. But you know, I mean, come on, they're two different worlds. So I, I resist saying that. So I would say that. Yeah. But I learned a big lesson with that because I will tell you, even back then I remember I was so passionate and obsessed with this work and I used to just read, I would go to library, I mean I was, I've learned how to speed read, you know, I mean I was reading, you know, 50 to 100 books a year for a while there. I mean I was obsessed with this stuff. And so I did a big lesson I learned is that when you're really passionate about something, you can learn so much easier. So yeah, I would say that's it. And then I've done almost 6, 000 private weight loss sessions. Been doing this professional over 20 years. But I don't know, I will tell you and I don't want, I don't want to start sounding like a, you know, delusional, you know, egomaniac here. But I. I do believe there was a great book I read one time. I'm gonna blank on the name of it, but it was something like, oh, my God, now I can't remember. But it was basically about paradigm shifts in science. Science. That's not the name of it, but it was something like that. And basically they were going through huge paradigm shifts within the scientific community over, you know, 2,000 years. And one of the patterns that arose is that a lot of times the paradigm shifts within science came from a person who was from outside the discipline. And I will say that I think it served me very well to have taken an alternative path. And I'll tell you a funny story. This is a true story. I don't know if this will impress or disgust you all. I don't know. But I'm going to share it anyways because I think it's funny and it's. It really puts a pin on this whole point, is that I remember being. I was a sophomore in college and I was taking a psychology course. And I remember we had to write a paper about a psychological situation thing. And it wasn't like a concept, like a Freudian thing. It was just like. Basically just something. I got to pick a thing. But I wrote something. I was so confident about it. I was like, this is really good. This is a good thing. And I remember the psychology pressure. Looking at. He gave me, like, a circle. And I was like. I was shocked because I knew, like, I truly believed in myself that it was really good. And I didn't really feel that a lot with school, like, either. It. I don't know, it was like, okay, maybe this is good. Maybe it's bad. I don't know. Tell me what. Whatever the grade is. But I remember the psychology class. I was like, oh, I know this. I know. Psycho. I always felt like I knew it, you know? And I remember I got that grade back, and it didn't even phase me in the least. I genuinely felt like that professor was wrong. So that's why I say, I don't know if you're impressed by that or not. I don't know if it's a good or bad story, but it's a true story. And I remember that being the beginning of really feeling so confident that I was right and he was wrong. And I would say that I've ridden a lot of that confidence. I feel very confident in this field. I would say much more than other areas. I've done much more than finance and investments and economics and all that other stuff, I just felt like when it comes to practical psychology, I feel like I've always been pretty good with it. And so I have studied a lot too. Don't get me wrong, I've studied a lot. A lot, a lot, a lot. But I've absolutely taken a, an alternative route. I would not deny that, but I think that alternative route has really been one of the primary reasons why I'm here in front of you talking about program yourself then. I mean, for example, you know, I mean, like, this is the goal weight blueprint of the program, right? This is 144 pages. This is the blueprint we go through. So again, my program is not for the faint of heart. I mean, this is, you know, there's a lot of stuff in here, but this is all stuff I came up with from 30 years of studying people had lost weight and kept it off. You know, I think coming at things from an alternate angle is what makes this unique. I'm not studying how to lose weight as quick as possible, which is what 99% of weight loss is all about. I started studying people that lost weight and kept it off for at least two years. And so I have a completely different, I'm grounded in a completely different space than most weight losses because most weight loss just wants you to lose weight as fast as you can right now. And what happens though, with that methodology is it's typically something that's unsustainable and, and that, that, that leads to a lot of issues that people have with weight. So my, my difference is that I'm really about how can you live at this goal weight. That's the key thing. And so I do think that that alternative path has served me very, very well. And I think it's the reason why I'm here, hopefully, you know, sharing something different with you, you know, than you always hear. You always hear the same stuff. I mean, God damn if I had gone to school for like nutrition or a dietician or psychology, you know, because again, you know, my path. It's funny. I'll tell you one other quick, funny story is that I, when I opened my hypnosis office, I was right down the street from. It was Antioch, I believe it was called. And it was a, it was a school that was like their big thing was having PsyD. A Psy D is like a PhD in psychology, sort of. It's like a hair lower than it, but it's basically a PhD. It's like a five, six year program, super intense. All the rest of it But I used to regularly get those students coming in doctorates in psychology and they'd have to come to the hypnotist because they had test anxiety, you know, stress, you know, they couldn't control their certain habits. And I thought that was another thing that was really eye opening that I think there's a big difference between understanding why things are happening and having some real genuine strategies to actually help people change, you know. So, anyways, but I appreciate that question. Michelle says, what's the title of your book? The title of the book is the dao of living at your goal weight. So again, I will be giving these away for free. Well, the Kindle version, I should say. I should be clear about that. I will be giving the Kindle version of this away for free the first week of January, not the first day, because I'm going to do it like Sunday to probably Thursday. I think I get five days. I can give it away for free. But again, if you get on my email list, I'll be letting you know all about it. You will not miss it, I promise you that. But this is a good book. I've started to get some reviews from people and they're validating everything I'd hoped and dreamed of. I think this book's really good, I gotta say, and I want you to have it. So again, that's why I'm giving away for free. So make sure you join my email list if you're on TikTok and click the little picture of me up on the top left. If you're on Facebook or YouTube, you can go to that link I posted, the hypno one. I posted two. One was wrong. But you can go to the one with hypno on the end and that will get you there. They'll get you on my list. You'll get a free hypnosis session. I'm giving away a free comm holiday session and training. I'm just giving you this week. You're gonna get a free training. Three steps to master your weight training. I just give you. So I give you a bunch of stuff. So go check it out. And if you like listening to this, I'm usually here Monday through Friday right around noon Eastern. Obviously this week is a little, little wonky. So we'll see if I'll be here tomorrow or not. I might pop on. Just say hi to everyone. Wish everyone a merry Christmas. Yeah, so go check that out. This is also a podcast, so if you do miss the live tune, you like listening to it, you can go listen to the podcast whenever you want. It's called Program Yourself Then, so any podcast platform will have it. Janie says lost 50. Enjoy your messages. Learning maintenance. LOL. Yeah, very good, Janie. But you are learning maintenance, right? Maintenance again, I will say, and program Yourself. Then we start practicing maintenance right? On day one. That's why it is, right? The last thing in the Mindset section that we work on, maintenance. Can you read that? Is that clear? Coming in clear. I promise you it says maintenance. So maintenance is key. So nice job, janie. Congrats that £50, that's a big accomplishment. So yes, I hope you're on my email list too. Because if you are on my email list too, like the daily emails are going to start up again. Those kind of lagged off a little bit, but they're going to start going. Got a bunch of cool stuff coming for the new year for you. A lot of cool stuff. Program Yourself. Looking nice. So there we go. All right, everyone have a super duper day and we will talk soon. Bye.