You Can't Fail Until You Quit

Everyone, welcome to today's Program Yourself Thin podcast. Today we are talking about you can't fail until you quit. Hear what I'm saying? You cannot fail until you give up and quit. Meaning that if you're not getting the results you want, if you're not getting them fast enough, it feels like nothing's going to work, you still haven't failed. As long as you are still moving forward. And moving forward sometimes doesn't mean you're moving forward in a measurable way. Sometimes moving forward is not quitting. Sometimes moving forward is feeling really shitty about how things are going. But the difference is not quitting. Keep going. So how do you keep going? Right? You probably know this, but you still struggle to keep going. And I want to talk about that because the more you can understand how to keep going, the more ways you have to keep going, the more likely you are to keep going. And of course, if you look at your life, anything you have gotten good at, you have had to go through most likely some phases of confusion and frustration and feelings of failure. but you kept moving forward. Uh, one of my favorite examples that we've all gone through, um, that we kind of overlook sometimes is reading and writing. One of the biggest and most challenging things we all have learned as humans. And if you reflect back on that, there were times when it felt like this is impossible. I'm never going to get this, but you kept moving forward and the moving forward allowed you to finally master it. And now you mastered it so completely and so well that you probably can't even remember a time when you didn't know how to do it. It's so automatic. And I share this with you because things that are difficult now can seem very easy and automatic in the future if we keep going. Now, of course, we have to do things properly as well, but going forward and being resilient and keep going and not quitting is the thing that gets us there. And so I think one of the biggest things— it's almost always two things for me— in order to keep going, I think you need to focus on two things: your mindset and your strategies. So what I've been saying so far really is more mindset-based, that you start to expect that there are going to be times when you feel like a failure. There are going to be times when you do the wrong thing and struggle to get yourself to do the right thing. That's part of your journey, and there is no avoiding it. You may avoid it for a few weeks or a few months and just really be on track, but guaranteed at some point the challenges are coming, the feelings of failure are coming. They visit us all. And so if we start the process knowing that, you know, when they do finally show up, we have a much better chance of moving through them, of keep going. But I want to talk about strategically as well how to actually do that when it visits you, because this is the important piece. I think a lot of people, we're almost like multiple personalities. And before we start the plan, we're one version of ourselves. And when we're feeling at the cusp of quitting, we're a different version of ourselves. Right? It's easy to say, I'm going to start Monday. I'm going to do everything perfect. I'm going to get amazing results. That version of us is much different than the one that's been doing this stuff, been struggling, been doing everything we think we have to do and not getting the results we thought we're going to get. These are two different versions of ourselves. And so we've got to step into the version that quits. And we need to recognize that that version of you feels overwhelmed, frustrated, like you've done everything you possibly can and nothing is working and nothing's ever going going to work. And we think of it that way, and we can't imagine doing another day of the calorie counting, of the not eating any carbs, of not eating any sweets, of not snacking. It feels too much. And so what I want to do is I want you, from the beginning, when you're that motivated, fired-up person, I want you to strategize and plan for that person who's gonna feel overwhelmed and like nothing's working, because that person is a-coming. I promise you, it's going to come. And the big problem is that you've got one strategy at your disposal as a dieter. You've got one strategy, all or nothing. And so when you start out and you're fired up, you do everything perfect. When you get to the cusp of quitting, you still believe you have to do everything perfect. And in that state, it feels like, what is the point? And you quit. So I think one of the biggest things you can do strategically to deal with that moment is to give yourself more options. Doing 5% is better than doing 0%. And I think if you start from the beginning realizing that sometimes in life you get overwhelmed, sometimes you get sick, sometimes you just hit rough patches and your energy drops, your ability to perform at the highest level goes down. That's normal. So we need to meet those moments with a more appropriate strategy. So that when you feel like quitting, you may say, you know what, fuck the food. I don't even care. I'm going to eat all the ice cream I want to eat tonight, but I still want to eat my— I still want to drink my water. I'm still going to get some sleep tonight. I'm still going to do my 2 minutes of meditation as quiet down. Give yourself more options than just 100%. Step out of the all-or-nothing mindset into the all-or-something mindset and prepare yourself that there's going to be a time, most likely, where it feels you can barely get out of bed. When you can barely get out of bed, you're not going to track every calorie, and that's okay. You just need to have another option available to you so you can at least feel like you're still on the path. That's one of the biggest things I see missing from dieters is they're so all or nothing that when they start getting close to nothing, it actually goes to nothing. They don't hold on to any of the stuff they were doing. And this is why the lifestyle pieces are so important— the water, the sleep, the relaxation, the movement. The nourishing your body. Yeah, I ate a whole pizza for dinner, but you know what? I'm going to have an apple because that's still nourishing me and it's still something healthy and I'm still going to keep that going. And that becomes the thread. That becomes the thread that allows you to keep going and it prevents you from flopping back into failure mode because you didn't quit. Again, there's a huge difference between when things feel like they've really slowed down. I can barely hold on, but I'm still eating my apple, so at least I'm doing one thing. And then you come out of that and at least it feels like you were still in the game versus I can't do this anymore. Fuck it. I don't want to think about any of it. And you completely quit for the next 3 to 6 months. Those are two totally different realities. And this is how you stop yourself from quitting. Imagine if you never quit again and you stayed in the game, even if it was just a little bit, where would you be at a year from now? 5 years from now, 10 years from now? What if you had done that starting 10 years ago? Just keep your water habit, at least keep your apple habit, at least keep your walking habit, at least. And once you start thinking this way, it's transformative and you get out of that endurance test kind of mentality of dieting where you see how far you can go being perfect. And instead, you can still keep that phase. You can still start off being perfect and hitting as hard as you can. Great. That's the all phase. Knock yourself out, but you can't live there. Sometimes you're going to be able to do less. Have some strategies and plans for what you're going to do when you can't do all of this, but so you can still stay on the path. And if you want support in doing this, make sure that you click the link in my bio or go to programyourselfthin.com. Um, or if you're on Facebook, I will, uh, put the link in here for you, but I give you a free hypnosis session and I give you a lot of free stuff actually, but that's the first kind of thing you're signing up for. and, uh, it will help you stay on track because there's another stay on track option for you that maybe your reading's kind of gone to shit, but hey, at least I'm still listening to my hypnosis session. Is it fixing everything? Maybe not, but is it still helping? Yes, right? Um, yeah, if you have any questions, feel free to ask them. I am here to help your questions. Um, Sanji says, you're the best, Jim. Thank you. Lost 5 kilos during menopause and all thanks to your videos. A little confused now as have 2 more to reach my ideal weight of 58 kilos. Need your guidance. Well, let's screenshot that. That's awesome. Um, and I love hearing that. You know, again, my clients, my clients primarily are in some phase of menopause. So that's been my clients for the last 20-plus years. And, um, like Sandy says, you can lose weight in menopause, just so you know. There's no— nothing that happens to your body that prevents weight loss. It may slow it down a little bit, right? It may change a little, but it— there's nothing that prevents you from losing weight just because you're in menopause. There's new factors, you know, granted, but, but you can, you can deal with them. Um, so that's great, Sanji. Um, nice job, 5 kilos down, 2 more to reach your ideal weight. Um, you know, first thing, and I see you follow up by saying, so you mean to never say give up? Yeah, never give up, right? And especially now, the beginning is almost always easier than the end. And that's true with everything. And I was talking about this a little bit yesterday. It's the concept of mastery. And if you think about the beginning of anything, you know, if you've never played the piano before and you start practicing, you get good quickly, like relatively, you know, like you don't know anything. And within a day you could play a melody on a song of a song, play a little bit more. You know, you can, you can learn things pretty quickly. Um, but you're kind of like a parrot. You're not— you haven't really learned them, you know, but it's kind of cool, right? And it feels good. We tend to get quick results in the beginning because we're starting from nothing, sort of. And it's called diminishing returns in investments. But as we stick with things and we get better, these higher levels are more refined. They take longer. And it's just the same for everything. You think about your job, right? The first month you were there, you got way better because you didn't know any of it, and you quickly Improved, um, but then the improvement slows down. Doesn't mean it stops, it just means it slows down. And I think this is where a lot of dieters never even really consider this, because dieters don't even look at this as a skill or improvement. They just think they start day 1 as the same person they end the whole journey with, and that's not true. Um, weight loss changes gears, you know, runs at different rates throughout the process for a multitude of reasons. And, um So, you know, to lose 5 kilos, I'm just picking numbers here, but let's just say it takes you 2 months to lose 5 kilos and it takes you 5 months to lose 2 kilos. That's normal. That's not— that's a— that, that, that kind of— I don't know what the word would be— that, that scatterplot. I don't know what you would call it, but that, that kind of graphical concept or idea of how when we start something new, we kind of like big gains. and then as we stick with it, the gains are relatively smaller over time. That's completely normal, and it's no different with weight. So that's the first thing I say to you mindset-wise, is to realize that, yeah, the next 2 might take longer, but who gives a shit? Because if you drop the next 2 kilos in a comfortable, enjoyable way that's set up for long-term, then you're gonna drop those 2 kilos for good and then live the rest of your life at your goal weight. So that's one of the main things I would share with you is to just relax and build on what you've been doing that's worked and optimize on it. Keep making it better and better and better. All right, what's up, Anna? Anna says, I managed to not eat for 2 days. I'm trying prolonged fasting. I'll eat after 60 hours and reset. Um, I wish you the best. I don't think that's a very good strategy. I think that's a desperation strategy, personally. Uh, people say it's gonna reset you, but I don't see how, you know, you're gonna you're probably experiencing a 4, and I can even hear it in the language. I managed to not eat for 2 days, implying that it was a real difficult thing to do. And so I don't see what kind of reset that is. You know, it's, it's using up a lot of your cognitive energy to get yourself not to eat. You're extra getting fixated on food. You're training yourself to get fixated on food. You're burning through your willpower, you're burning through your cognition, you're burning through your physical energy. You're not putting any energy in. Um, you've probably gone through modes of headachy, soreness, tired, lethargic. Um, so I'm not sure what the reset is, you know, because what's going to happen is however long— 60 hours, 2 weeks, the month, whatever period you pick— um, now again, if you're doing this for spiritual reasons, then, then that's totally a different conversation. But if you're looking to reset your metabolism, reset your body, I think it's the opposite of a reset. I think you're gonna find that you've kind of taken the pendulum and not eaten for however long you do it, for as long as you can, and then you just let it go. And just like you push a ball underwater, you know, you can feel it. And the further you try and push it down, the more unstable it gets. And I think you're just kind of pulling that ball back and then you're going to let it go and you're going to be super hungry. You're going to be super obsessed on food. You're going to be, you know, your body's going to want to eat because now it's been starved. And again, I don't know how that's a reset. It, but if it's a reset for you, then, then please ignore everything I'm saying and live in that truth. Okay. But I think sometimes we try and convince ourselves that doing something drastically different to our body is a reset when in reality it's really stressful. It's re-stress, not reset, you know? So that's my take on it. But again, to each their own, but I think the fasting thing is a lot of bullshit. I think there's some good stuff to it, but I think it's a lot of bullshit. And I think that dieters just eat it up because on the other side of fasting is the promise of fast weight loss. I think it's funny that fasting in your— subconsciously you, you interpret as fast weight loss. Anyways, um, looks like a horse. I always fear that when I'm injured, I can't exercise, I'm going to gain all my weight back. Yeah, that's a legit fear, and especially if you are using exercise as what you think is the primary way, primary way you're managing your weight. Which is why for me, 30 years ago, I decided I'm not doing this through exercise. I didn't do any exercise for over 30 years. I've done almost no exercising. And I made a very conscious strategic decision that I'm going to master my weight through my eating, because as I get older, I'm going to get injured sometimes. I'm going to be tired sometimes. I'll be sick sometimes. I'm going to get older sometimes. I don't want to have to rely on my exercising to control my weight. I want to be able to rely on my mind and my eating. And so I think that fear is legit if you believe you're using, um, you're exercising to control your weight. That's a normal fear. That's a— that would be a legitimate fear, I would say. What's up, Sharon? Sharon says, I absolutely like what you say about fasting everything. Actually, it's not what we will do every day, so why are we doing it? Yeah, I agree, Sharon. Um, I made a decision a long time ago that I'm not doing anything for temporary results. I only focus and commit to things that I'm gonna be able to do long-term. And that has been one of the best decisions I ever made in my life, cuz I don't have any of this shaky ground that you dieters have. I, I, every day I'm building on the same ground I, I was walking the day before, and I've been doing that for over 30 years. So my, my base is solid as fuck. I mean, like, I, I, there's, I'm so solid with how I eat, how I think, how I live. It's rock solid. And the dieting thing— oh, this month I'm going to fast, this month I'm going to do Weight Watchers, this month I'm going to do keto, this month I'm going to do— and it's just so disorienting and it's hard to like build up momentum or kind of solid grounding with that approach. Nadine says, how can I avoid binging? You don't really avoid binging. You kind of resolve it. I think of binging as a symptom of a deeper problem. So I don't look at the binging as the core problem. I look at it as a symptom, and the two biggest triggers of bingeing, in my opinion, are you're too hungry or you're emotional and you don't know how to deal with it genuinely. Those are the two kind of starting points I typically go with. There can be other things, but those are the two big ones. And so you don't avoid bingeing, you resolve the core thing that triggers the binge. And what triggers the binge typically is over-restricting. That leads to being over-hungry, being obsessed with food, and then overeating. And that can also be working along with emotional stuff where emotionally, all of a sudden, you're— you got a big fight with your partner. Now you're just destroyed and you're so upset. Now you don't give a shit what you eat and use the binge to kind of numb yourself or manage the emotions you're feeling. And so those two seem to be two of the big ones. And so how would you avoid the binge? Well, we're not avoiding the binge. We're nourishing ourselves so we don't get too hungry and out of control. And we're learning how to manage our emotions genuinely so we don't need the food to do it for us. And a lot of times when you resolve those two things, the binging, um, you know, kind of works itself out. And if it doesn't, it at very least becomes much less of an issue, you know, than it was. Um, what's up, Jane? Jane says, Jim AI was hilarious to me last night. He told me to go to bed. All right, Jim AI. Jim AI is smart, dude. I'll tell you that. That AI— I've got the best AI on the market. I saw another person I follow who I, who I like. I think he's pretty good. He's a doctor and, um, I like his doctor stuff. His weight stuff's okay. He does some weight loss stuff too, whatever. But, uh, he had a chatbot and I was like, that chatbot's nothing to mine. My chatbot really is awesome. I use the best, uh, service available. And it's extra cool because with my Gym AI chatbot, you can literally have a conversation with it. Like, you can talk to it on the phone. It sounds just like me and it says all the same stuff. And that upgrade is coming too. I'm letting you all know that, that got a little bit delayed, but Um, that upgrade's coming within a week or two. Um, it's a big one too, so that's awesome. I'm glad, Jade, that, that's perfect. It sounds like the perfect, um, the perfect suggestion at the perfect time for you. Uh, Jane says he also gave me perspective on whether or not to quit the gym. All right, very good, very good. Uh, yeah, and, uh, Jane follows it up by saying I've been feeling like quitting because I haven't been getting there but have been playing pickleball because the weather is improving. Um, Yeah, Jane, I get that. You know, I think one way to kind of look at that is to— here's a, here's a thing I love to do when I have a decision to make. It's, it's a strategy I almost always employ. And again, as a hypnotist, I really like to utilize my subconscious mind as much as possible. I think my subconscious mind is a lot wiser than my conscious mind. So when I have a decision like, should I quit the gym or should I stay there? What should I do? Like you'll probably find it. I bet this is true, Jane. You've been just thinking about it nonstop, nonstop, nonstop. Um, and so what I like to do sometimes is to imagine, just take a moment, relax, and then I kind of go down one path and I imagine that I quit the gym and I imagine like what my life will look like, what I'll do with my time, what I'll do, how I'll feel, whatever. And again, I'm not, I'm not, I'm going into it as neutral as I can. I just want to imagine if I quit the gym, Let me imagine that reality. Go ahead, brain, imagine it. And I'll spend a few moments there imagining it, and I'll notice how I feel. Then I'll kind of let that go a second. I'll say, okay, let me imagine I stay with the gym. And again, I want to, I want to imagine it a neutral, you know, most realistic way I think it's going to go. And I'll kind of imagine that future for a few moments. And then a lot of times I'll compare the two feelings I have. And a lot of times, most of the time I would say, I get some really valuable information. And even if it doesn't, even if it isn't completely conclusive, it becomes a big part of, it becomes a big part of the, uh, the process of deciding that. So I'd suggest you do that, Jane. And that's one of the things you're developing too, because of the hypnosis you do, um, your ability to imagine those two realities, to step into the feelings that they each provide. You're going to have an enhanced and improved ability to do that, okay, because of that work. So this is what I was saying yesterday, that you can't just look— and a little bit today's lesson was a little bit for you, so if you didn't get to hear it, you ought to listen to it. Um, but when we're, when we're in the process— well, weight loss, let's just say— you can't just have the scale be the only thing you're measuring. You know, I know, Jane, you've been working the program, so I know other things have gotten better for you. So don't ignore those things. And one of those things is that you probably imagine a little clearer, you're a little quieter on the inside, you're a little more connected to how you're feeling, you're a bit more aware for sure. And so those are all skills that you've been developing. And so even if the weight hasn't gone where you want yet, those skills are the things that allow you to have a higher degree of control over your weight than you've ever imagined possible. And so it makes no sense to ignore those things as if they don't matter because your weight hasn't changed. But yeah, keep using Gym AI too. Uh, Yanzi says, does walking a lot help? Um, yeah, I mean, walking is definitely— I think walking is the best movement exercise, I think, for weight loss, period. I think it's the sweet spot. I think like riding a bike's in that ballpark. Um, pickleball is great, you know, these low-impact, relatively fun, easy things where you move your body more and you feel good doing it. I think are the, are the secret sauce. I see you write, does walking a lot. There, I, so I think there's a fine line with the walking because I think sometimes people get carried away with the steps and, you know, it becomes all about hitting the 10,000 steps or whatever the number that you choose may be. And sometimes that just creates this weird stress and this anxiety about it and it uses up a lot of energy. So I think the sweet spot is when you're able to kind of walk what I would say, I guess, in a somewhat casual level where you enjoy walking, you look forward to it, you feel good after you've walked, you feel good while you're walking. Um, and if you're doing that, I can't imagine that not supporting your weight loss in a number of ways. But walking too much, I think, could almost have a negative impact. So I think both are true. Oops, and TikTok, I am live. So if you've asked a question, I haven't gotten to it yet, it's just because TikTok questions are hard to get to sometimes. You have to stay on top of them. What's up, Don? How's it going? Let's see here, let me get caught up. Someone says the English so hard. Yeah, yeah, if you don't speak English and you're listening to me, good luck. I would not say that I'm one of the easier English speakers to listen to. I am a fast talker. This I know. Um, Froggy says, I'm 210 pounds. How long do you think it will take to get up to 120, 130? I also have Hashimoto's. Um, you know, I don't— I have no idea how long it would take, you know, but I wouldn't really care either, just to be honest. You all care so much about how fast you can get there that you use up a lot of your energy trying to figure out the fastest plan instead of just sticking to one plan and riding that out. And keep improving and growing and optimizing that plan. So I don't know. I mean, if you stopped eating completely and, you know, starved yourself and worked out every single day and took laxatives, you know, maybe you could get to 120 or 130 in a month or two. I don't know. But that's not long-term either. So, you know, again, do you want to get to 120 or 130, or do you want to live at 120 or 130? Those are two totally different questions, right? Chop your leg and arm off, you'll be at 120, 130 by about 5 o'clock, you know. So what do you want? Do you want to— you want to get there for a day, you know? Do you want the fastest way possible? Would you like to live there for the rest of your life? You know, these are important questions, aren't they? And so how can I answer that question honestly if I don't know the other context and details? I'm not being a wise guy. I know, you know, the question probably seems obvious, but it's really not. It's not because we all have choices. And we need to recognize those because a lot of times we don't realize we have a choice. You can choose how long it's going to take you. Um, oh nice, Don. Don says maintaining goal weight, life is good. Yeah, again, Don's put a lot of time and effort into creating a plan that works for her, and she has clean days, she has pleasure days she enjoys, she looks forward to them, she gets back on track, she likes both of them, she's feeling the flow. That's what we're looking— that's what we're talking about here, you know, is being in the flow, being able to be in the flow at your goal weight, not just to white-knuckle yourself down to your goal weight for 2 minutes and then have it go back up. We're talking about living there in the flow. If it would be easy— no, that's what we're talking about. It's a higher level goal than just losing weight. Just losing weight's a shitty goal, you know. It's like saying, I just want to make money, I just want to make money. Well, you say that, but okay, here's a gun, go rob that, that elderly person over there. Go rob them, you'll have money. Well, I don't want money that way. Yeah, exactly. It's the same thing with weight. Stop saying, I just want to lose weight. I just want to lose weight. I don't care what I got to do. I just want to lose weight. No, you absolutely care. If you didn't care what you had to do, you wouldn't have a weight loss issue. Don't lie to yourself. Don't tell yourself tall tales. It's confusing to your subconscious mind. So be honest. Say what you mean and mean what you say. You absolutely care what you have to do. Never, ever, ever, never. Dieters, please promise me you'll never say to another living person or to yourself, I don't care what I got to do. I just want to lose weight. Please swear off saying that for the rest of your life because it's 100% not true. And that's fine too, by the way. It's true for me. I wouldn't do anything. I wouldn't do anything to lose weight. I can't do anything to lose weight. I hate dieting with a white-hot passion. I hate it. It activates the worst of me. It makes me overweight. Ironically, that's the irony of dieting, is that it's there to actually make you overweight. But that's another story for another day that I'm not getting into today. Um, Sanjita says, can you share a meditation which we can do before sleeping, Jim, and first thing in the morning to set our intentions in mind? Yeah, I mean, that's what Program Yourself In is literally built around. We have the Program Yourself In technique we use at night, and there's hypnosis sessions in the morning. There's also a hypnosis session at night if you want to listen to that as an extra thing. But, um, yeah, I think at night before you're about to go to bed and when you wake up, those are the two most powerful times to program your mind. And so I'll just keep it real simple. I'm not going to bring it to the level of meditation, but if you, as you're going to bed at night with the redo rehearsal, we use the redo rehearsal technique. That's the core program yourself then technique. And the redo rehearsal technique is literally what it sounds like. At night after you're done eating, you look over the day, and if there's any behavior you want to have, you only pick one. You can't pick yourself apart every day. You pick one. If you change one eating habit for the previous day, what would you change? Now, if you had a perfect day and said, I wouldn't change anything, then, then fine, we do a different thing. But, um, usually there's something I wish I ate a little less there, a little more mindful, a little slower, whatever it may be. And so you go back in that and you basically replay it and you play it the way you would like to have done it. That programs your mind for how you want to behave. In that scenario. Then we rehearse tomorrow the way you want it to go, right? You know what you're going to do tomorrow. You know where you're going to be. You know what food you're going to be around. You have a very good idea what you're going to do tomorrow. Problem is, you also subconsciously are imagining and rehearsing that you're going to overeat a lot of it. We live our lives on autopilot, folks. I'm telling you, if you're struggling with your weight, the core reason why you're struggling with your weight is because you are programmed to overeat, and you You know this because if you think about what you're going to eat tomorrow, if you're really honest with yourself, if you think about what you're going to eat tonight, a lot of you, let's be honest, you know you're going to eat too much at dinner. You know you're going to snack after dinner. You already know it. And subconsciously you're imagining doing it, which is creating a lot of the momentum and pressure to actually do it. And this is why, as it's happening, like, what, what's going on? I said I wasn't going to eat ice cream tonight, but some part of you feels like it needs to have it. And this is the struggle of all you dieters, is you can't understand why your behavior is doing what it's doing. You want to lose weight more than anything in the world. So why am I craving ice cream more than that? How does that happen? And again, if you don't understand how your mind works in a hypnotic sense, I think you have no clue how your brain's working. You're, you're not a logical, rational creature. I know you think you are, but that's what's causing a lot of the confusion and frustration for you. You are not. You are not a logical, rational human. You have logic and rational pieces of you, but your behavior is run by a part of your brain that is not logical and rational in the way that your conscious mind is. It has its own kind of logic and rationale. There is a method to that madness, but it's not the same as your conscious mind. If it was, you would be like Dr. Spock in Star Trek. If you know him, he was 100% logical. And if you were 100% logical, you would read a nutrition book, a diet book. You would read yourself. That makes a lot of sense. I'm not going to eat carbs anymore. And you wouldn't. You wouldn't. You'd be like a robot. I would say, like, imagine you were a robot and just programmed in what you're going to eat all day, and then you're a robot. So you just follow the programming. That's what being 100% logical would feel like. That's not what it feels like for you, though, is it? It feels like, okay, I'm not going to eat any ice cream today. I'm not going to ice cream. I'm not going to ice cream How'd this happen? How'd this happen again? And so to me, it's like, if you don't understand your mind in a hypnotic sense, you really have no real sense of how to influence your behavior. You're just flummoxed. And again, you're a smart person. I know if you're sitting here listening for any period of time, I know you're an overthinker. I know it because I talk fast and I talk in a way that only overthinkers seem to respond to. And, uh, so I know that you're in your head nonstop wondering what the fuck is wrong with me. How can I be successful over here in my work? How can I be successful running my home and doing all these other areas of my life? And then I can't get my weight under control. And it's the ultimate torture for you. I know this. You think about it 24 hours a day. I know this. I know you. I know your mind better than you do. I have been doing this professionally for over 20 years. I've done over 6,000 private weight loss sessions. I know what you're thinking about your weight, and it's not helping you. And honestly, it's the core level of why you're struggling. You can learn all the nutritional diet bullshit in the world. It's not going to make a shit of difference because you do not know how to run your mind. You could literally have a custom-made eating plan made for you by a nutritionist who did all sorts of genetic testing on you, preference testing on you, allergic testing on you, and give you the perfect plan. And it's not going to help you anymore. Than anything else because you don't know how to run your mind. And tell me that's not true. Yeah, Jane says, you're so right. That was about something else, but I'm right about this too. Pam says, been adding a 10-minute walk after meals. Small goal but doable. Yeah, that's wonderful, Pam. Small goals are the secrets to success. I will tell you this, what do they say? Inch by inch, life's a cinch. Yard by yard, everything is hard. And it's so true. And dieting has conditioned you to only think about giant steps forward, and they're overwhelming and they're unsustainable. And this is the core reason you ultimately are not living at your goal weight. And so much mindset stuff. And the diet industry is very responsible for this. The diet industry is not your friend. The diet industry is just a branch of the food processing industry. Yeah. Don says, yes, before meeting you here, I was on the diet train. Never again. Yeah. Yeah, exactly. It's like that. Good job. Proud of you. Uh, yeah, NutraFit says you're so consistent in your content. Powerful. Well, thank you. I appreciate you saying that. Um, and I agree. I, I, I don't— that doesn't— I don't miss that either. I, I see so much of my content, and especially when I look over the years, I've been saying this message for so long, and it just keeps getting refined and honed in. So it's very fun for me It's been quite a journey. And I was talking in the beginning that you can't fail until you quit. And the same is true in my business. You know, this wasn't an easy road being— I don't know what the fuck I am. I am a weight loss coach. You know, I am a hypnotist. I am a coach. You know, I do help people live at their goal weight. But it's, it's almost like this undefinable thing, which is not an easy thing to make a living at, you know, in a weird way. But, uh, thank God I've been able to do it and it just keeps getting better and better and better in terms of, you know, how I'm able to communicate it and how most importantly, how I'm able to communicate the solution, at least from my perspective, through Program Yourself Thin, uh, my program, it just keeps getting better. And if you're in the program, you see that. I mean, we just had the, um, the quick start guide, even I think last week or the week before. Um, and I, and I got some new things coming. It just keeps getting better and better and better. So I appreciate you saying that. That makes me— makes me feel happy. New Fit said, been a Weight Watcher forever, but guess what? I just changed my lifestyle. Nice job, I'm proud of you. And again, you know, the Weight Watchers stuff, it's not that there's not some valuable things there. There's valuable stuff with everything, but I think you need to interface with the other diets or plans or ideas with the mindset that I'm gonna take what's useful and discard what's not in service of creating a one-size-fits-one plan for me. And I think if you got that mindset and attitude, I think you're going to be unstoppable. But that's not what most dieters do. Most dieters kind of just, okay, tell me what to do. And then they do it for a little while and then they completely stop doing it. And then they wait a little while and then they go to the same diet again or a new one. Okay, tell me what to do. And they try and do it for a little while and do it, and then they stop. It's the same cycle over and over. You have got to stop that. Too much time passes in between your attempts at losing weight. And your attempts of being all or nothing are a recipe for failure, ultimately. So that's great, NutraFit. I'm proud of you for sticking with it and refining what you're doing, you know. So take the good stuff from Weight Watchers, internalize it, utilize it, build around it. And then again, you start to shift your lifestyle and continue to always improve your mindset, always tweak the lifestyle, always improve your eating strategies. That's, that's the recipe for success, I would say. Um, so that's awesome. I love when people just stick with it. And I, I don't know, I don't think he's here, but Vicki is, uh, she was a Lifetime Weight Watcher, um, person. So she'd mastered that system, and to a certain degree she'd figured out how to stay at her weight, but she knew there was a better way to do it, you know. And that's why she's in Program Yourself Thin as well, um, and she's really, really dialing in the mindset piece, you know, here. But of course, she's not going to forget all the stuff that allowed her to succeed before that, you know. So again, that, that to me is the real— that's what mastery looks like. You know, you start getting good results, but then you start getting good results in a better way, and then you start getting better results, and then you start getting better results in a better way. Then you start getting great results. Then you start getting great results in a better, great way. And it just keeps going up and it's fun. And I think that's a much more inspiring, exciting way to live in regards to your weight than the dieting thing. But, uh, we all get to make our choices. What's up, Robin? Robin says, you give such common sense with your advice, I greatly appreciate you. Thank you. Well, appreciate you too, Robin. I appreciate you saying that too. Um, that makes me— that makes me happy. So happy. I'm gonna screenshot that. I told you, I am getting ready to build my, my wall of testimonials. I don't know if anyone's ever gonna read it, but it's so— I'll read it. I'll make it for myself. It's, it's God, nothing makes me feel better, just to be honest. It's like when people share their success that they've achieved through the— either the program or the podcast or whatever, anytime that I had any hand in that, that is literally the stuff that fuels me in life, you know, outside of my family. Um, it is the most meaningful part of my life, and, and it's— I love hearing that. So great job, Robin. I appreciate you listening. Um, keep it up. Uh, Jane says, your podcasts really have been informative and helpful. I hate when I miss one. Uh, yeah, I appreciate you saying that too. And, and I I'm happy to get on here and share this. I say this every day. This is a mission for me, an absolute mission. And I think it's one of the things that makes me a little bit different than a lot of people in the weight loss area, is that I think weight is life and death. And I— that's why I show up here every day for free to help you all out, to get this message out, and why I'm constantly, you know, refining and optimizing and tweaking things to make them better and better and better and better. Because every time I do, it just helps more people. And, um, that's the most important thing in the world to me because I want, I want to help as many people as possible live as long as they can and have the best quality of life while they're here. And I think being able to manage your weight comfortably is one of the key things to making that happen, you know. So again, appreciate you saying that, Jane. What's up, Deanna? How's it going? Deanna says it's so much better to do it this way to make it natural and almost autopilot. Take the time to learn what works for you and to calm down and relax. Yeah, exactly. And that was a huge part of the process for Deanna. And again, you're seeing it now, Deanna, because you've been in it for a while, that it's like you're so much better than you were and you're still not as good as you want to be. And you're going to be in that spot forever. Do you know what I mean? Like, for the rest of your life, folks, you're going to feel like, you know, if you walk a consistent path— Deanna has been walking this path consistently, but at this point, I mean, consistently, she's been in the program for a couple of years. And so now it's when you can look back and say, holy shit, I'm so much better than where I started from. And yet I still feel like I got so much further to go, and I feel the exact same way every single day. And so you're always going to feel that. And I think dieting gives you this false sense of reality that you're going to just get to this goal line and everything's going to be magically amazing. You're going to be happy with yourself and never upset or question yourself, never have a bad day. And I don't think dieting sets you up to live a real life. And, um, so yeah, that's awesome, Deanna. And again, your ability to relax and calm down. Well, I know it's gotten better anyways, but even from what you say, the fact that your timeframes in your mind have expanded and they've expanded, A, because you've learned a lot of the stuff you've heard it, but B, the most important reason they've expanded is because you've been at this now with, you know, feet in this model for over 2 years. And so you now have a, probably the longest timeframe you've ever been in any plan consistently. And of course, consistently, it's— you're not always 100%, but you're always in the game at a pretty good level. Even when you feel like you're not, you realize, yes, I am. Holy shit. And that's the difference. Um, the secret to success— so this is the all-or-something that most dieters live in. Here's all, here's nothing. Did I just say all or something? I meant all or nothing. Dieters live in an all-or-nothing mindset. And so usually they're nothing. So I always argue with people about this. They really ought to be called nothing or all mindset would be more descriptive. We want to give spotlight to the nothing because most dieters are doing nothing a lot more than they're doing all. No, no judgment there, but that's just the truth. And so what happens is they think dieting makes you think that the success comes from going from nothing up to all and staying up at all. So dieters think all or nothing. I need to be all until I get to my goal weight and beyond. Okay. Now, the problem is that you can't be all the time. You can't be perfect all the time. You can be perfect for a little while, but you can't be perfect forever. And so this core idea in your mind of how you're going to manage your weight is flawed right at the get-go. Just the way you think about it. You think you need to start a diet on Monday, follow it perfectly. That's how you're going to lose the weight. And right off the bat, you've already lost because that's not even real life. What are you going to do when you can't be all? You say, well, I'll be all. What are you going to do when you get tired or sick? I'll just do everything perfect. Okay. And it's this, this denial of actual reality that stumps you all. And so you think getting up to all and staying there is the secret to success. It's not. The secret to better results is to raise the bottom. So it's less about jumping up to all and it's more about increasing the bottom. And what do we call it in Program Yourself Thin? We go call it from going from nothing to something. So all of a sudden, a dieter is down here where they're going all or nothing. In Program Yourself Thin, we're going all or something. You see that difference? This difference alone could be 10, 20, 30, 40 pounds for some people. Now, of course, you can still go all— you're still gonna have your times when you're motivated and energized, focused, all the rest of it. You want to do everything perfect, go ahead. You always have that option here. But the big difference is that we've raised the floor. You no longer are going to go to nothing land for months or years. We're always going to maintain at least something that makes you feel like you're in the game. And that is usually what makes the biggest difference over time. Hope that makes sense, but great job, Deanna. What's up, Jackie? How's it going? Jane says, I ate a lot of ice cream this weekend, but when I looked at it, why, I realized it was because it was my daughter's birthday and that she probably wouldn't answer the phone when I called, and then she didn't. Um, yeah, okay, Jane. So again, I, I would gladly trade eating ice cream for a weekend to realize what you realized. You see, so I think it's sinking in, Jane, right? That the eating is a symptom of something deeper. You recognize the something deeper. Whether you fixed it or not is secondary. The first step that you did that is new, that you have not done before as clearly, is you're aware of the process that led you to do it. So it's just, instead of just saying, I shouldn't have done that, and not learning anything about what's going on inside of you, you now have a much clearer idea of what actually triggered that. And that allows you to go deeper into it and understand it and ultimately resolve the core problem. The core problem is not eating a lot of ice cream. The core problem is the daughter, the relationship, the communication, those things. Hope that makes sense. So great job. Okay. Yeah. Jim AI helped me to get to that. Perfect. Perfect. Jane, that's what you want to use Jim AI for. Um, that is another thing that's coming. As I said, Jim AI is going to get a huge upgrade in the next couple of weeks. And on top of that, there's— I'm going to put a training together about how the best way is to use Gym AI. So I cannot wait for that because to be completely honest, Gym AI, as amazing as it is, is also been something that I haven't been able to give my full attention to. And that again is on the docket within the next couple of weeks as a huge, huge improvement. And again, I think you're right on the money, Jane. So Gym AI helping you recognize that, I'm going to assume, was extremely helpful. And powerful for you. So great job using Jim AI. That's exactly what it's there for. Used it perfectly. That's great. Because that's what I do in my coaching sessions. We go deeper. Um, we're not just going to say, oh my God, I ate a lot of ice cream last night. What should I have done, Jim? Oh, you shouldn't have eaten it. Look at your vision board. Just fight through it. Come on. I'm not saying that shit. You know what I mean? I want to get to the deeper stuff so we can resolve it for good. I don't want just managing symptoms, fighting against yourself. I want you to learn how to get in a flow state when it comes to your reading and to your health and your weight and your quality of life. I want to get to the deep stuff so that you can live this, not just, you know, pretend it. And that's what dieting is. Dieting is just pretending. You're just pretending for a little while to be this person. And you know it because 85% to 95% of dieters that lose weight put it back on. It's because they're not really changing. They're just pretending to eat better for a little while. And nothing changed in their heads. You all know this. You've all lost weight before, and you get to your goal weight and you feel like a fraud. You feel like an imposter. It's because the transformation hasn't gone into your mind. You know, never on a diet do you practice thinking about yourself as a thin, healthy person, learning how to think of yourself as a thin, healthy person. You don't think about that at all. You just force yourself to act different. And so it's not a real transformation. It's just, it's just parroting. A parrot doesn't know what it's saying. It's just imitating the sounds it hears. And that's what dieters do. Dieters are just like the parrots. They're just imitating behaviors that thin, healthy people do, but they're missing the most important part. You're not thinking like a thin, healthy person. That's the core problem. The Real Max says, I lost 90 pounds back in 2021, have put most of it back on. It was just calorie restriction. I'm sorry, Max. And that's why I'm here. I'm literally here for you. And I mean this genuinely. I will tell you, the person I show up here every day for more than anyone else is the person who has lost a lot of weight and put it back on. Nothing is more devastating. Nothing breaks my heart more than that, because I know that person is willing to do the work. And I also know that you just haven't learned the right things. You haven't learned how to think like a thin, healthy person. You learned how to restrict calories for a while. And again, it's the same story for a lot of you, you know. So again, if you have no idea what I'm really talking about, I make it pretty easy to figure it out. I give you a free hypnosis session. I made a training for you. Um, I literally have a program now called PYT Daily that's free where I send you little support things, little videos I make, trainings I do, all the best ones, right? So like the videos that get millions of views, like the things that people really resonate with, I send that to you to support you and help you, um, and show you there's a better way. And that's just free, you know? So again, if you, if you opt in, I'll put this this link in here. If you're on TikTok, you can, uh, just click my picture up on the top left and you'll see the link in the bio. And Jane says, Jim AI was really helpful. Yeah, Jim AI is super helpful. It's, it's, it's eerie. It's eerie. But I mean, it was trained on like 10 million words of mine. The update's going to be a killer though. I'm— wait till you see this, you know, and the training I'm going to put together. I'm going to knock your socks off. So get ready, everyone. I'm going to do that quick. You know what I'll do? That might actually even be a Thrive lesson I'll put together within the next couple of weeks and, um, get that to you because I've wanted to do that and I have a good plan for how to do it so I can do it quick. So hold me to that, all of you Thrive people and PYT people. I'll get— I'll give it to all of you. Um, yeah, real max. Yeah, slippery slope with sugar. Yeah, for sure, for sure, Max. But again, it's not— I get that, right? But it's the dieting thing. And listen, that can happen in Program Yourself Then too. It happened to me 15 years ago, 14 years ago. I put 25 pounds on. So, you know, we can all get off track and then things can unwind real fast. You know, I put like 25 pounds on in like 4 or 5 months. Um, so things can happen quickly. Uh, but you know, I had a strong foundation and I had skills and strategies at the ready to get myself back on track. So, um, understand, Max, that yes, this is a slippery slope with sugar. Uh, but what preceded that was it was a slippery slope with your mindset too. That was the bigger piece. So just remember that, you know, and focus on your mindset for when you were succeeding. What was going on? What were you doing differently? And yeah, it says you're so true. Thanks, Anna. I'm glad you said it, Anna, because I wasn't trying to be an asshole in the beginning either with the question. Please understand that everything I say, I promise to you all, comes from my heart. Um, sometimes I come off like an asshole, sometimes I'm wrong. And so I, I always try to acknowledge that, you know. But if someone asks me a question, I always take, you know, I'm gonna give you the no bullshit oath. I'm not gonna bullshit you, at least from my perspective, and I'll give you my take on it. So I'm glad you were able to kind of receive that, he had to not get all mad and freak out on me. Uh, JD says, love the book. I asked my daughter, ordered, and plus 4 for others, lost 50 on maintenance since November. Stay within 6 pounds of goal. What foods or changes from losing to maintenance? Thanks for your help. Medical does not know how to help. Well, thank you, Janie. That's awesome. That is awesome. Great job. Proud of you. Yeah, drop 50. And remember, you didn't lose 50, you're living at your goal weight now, right? Nice job. And thanks for buying a bunch of books. Yeah, the book, uh, she's referring to— I just want to reference this, uh, for anyone who may want to get this because this is probably right now easiest way to just get kind of an overview of what I'm talking about here, it's my Tao of Living at Your Goal Weight. And, uh, this is a book I, I wrote, and it's, uh, 40 chapters. Each chapter is a page or two. Each chapter is a hypnotic story. So it's a very unique book in the sense that it's not just telling you what to do, it's, it's kind of showing you what to do through stories. And the difference with that is that you experience stories different than you experience just like information given to you. And so these stories are very specifically written as kind of an experience, and they rewire your brain as you think about them, because our brain primarily thinks in terms of stories. And so this is written very, very specifically that way. So yeah, if you're interested, check that out. But thanks, Janie. I appreciate getting a bunch of these books and giving them out as well. Um, yeah, and great job. I can, I can tell by even what you wrote that you're working, working the, the system there. Um, and that's super. Yeah. I mean, since November, that's not— that's really impressive. That's great. And remember too, though, I'll give you one little thing to move forward. Maintenance is something we can optimize too, right? So it's like, I know a lot of people get focused on the weight loss phase, but I'm obsessed with the maintenance phase. But maintenance, you know, just by nature of the word, maintenance implies kind of staying at the same level, but I like to optimize my maintenance. Which, you know what I mean? I want to push you a little bit further so that whatever you're doing to maintain, let's optimize it, let's make it easier, let's make it more enjoyable. And if you keep doing that, it's amazing where you end up. But great job, Janie, proud of you. Um, because says, what I love is your humanity. You never pretend to be infallible. Well, thank you, Vicki, I appreciate that. Definitely not infallible. I am one fallible person, and, uh, that is true. All right, gonna get out of here. Um, thanks so much everyone. Again, if you're not in my world, please click the link in my bio, go get the free hypnosis session I made for you, watch the training I made, watch the free stuff I give you. Um, go check that out. If you like this, I'm here every Monday through Friday, usually around noon Eastern, um, to answer your questions, to coach you along, guide you forward in any way that I can. Uh, if you can't make the live, it's also a podcast. You can go to any podcast platform, search Program Yourself Thin, and you'll find it. And yeah, finally, this book is available at Amazon. So if you're looking for a book on getting your weight under control for good, this is the book. I think we have over 85 5-star reviews so far, right? So go check that book out if you're interested. Um, I think it's $9.99 for the book, so it's pretty inexpensive, and the Kindle version is even cheaper. But I'd splurge for the physical version. It feels nice, and it's nice to have in your house and just be able to open up and read it. Um, that's the energy I think you'll get the best results from. So all right everyone, have a super duper day, and we'll talk soon. Bye!