Forgiveness Is Not About Them—It’s About You

5 Apr 2026 · 1 min

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In this video, Jo L. explains that forgiveness is primarily a self‑serving practice rather than a gift to the offender. She argues that holding onto unforgiveness stores harmful energy within the body, which harms the holder more than the target. By choosing to forgive, we release that stagnant energy, freeing ourselves from emotional burden. Jo emphasizes that this process is deeply somatic: it involves physically discharging the trapped energy through bodily sensations and movements. Drawing on personal experience and therapeutic work, she frames forgiveness as a concrete, embodied practice for emotional healing rather than an abstract moral act.

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Because I think when we, when we do not forgive, we're harming ourselves. It's an energy within us. It doesn't do anything to the other person. We're not forgiving that anyone else free. We're setting ourselves free. So that's, I mean, that's something that you, I mean, trust me, I've, I've, I've been doing this work and, and a lot of it is somatic. A lot of it is literally having to discharge energy through the body. So this isn't something that I just came to. This is, no, but that's a really good question.