True kindness in parenting means giving honest correction, not avoiding discomfort. When Timmy hits at a party, staying silent lets the behavior continue. A calm, public correction like "we don't hit people" feels awkward but actually guides him toward better behavior.
Back to what you were saying though, if somebody is trying to give you truth and it may not feel very kind, kind, I mean, think, think about parenting. Any of your listeners who are parents, anybody who's tuned in, you know what I'm about to say. Uh, you're trying to talk to your kid and you're trying to be nice. You're trying to be kind. But if you're nice, you don't say anything and then they just continue to do the bad behavior. If you're kind, you say, "Hey, you know, Timmy, we we don't hit people. You know, that's just it's not okay for us to do that." And I know it's embarrassing for me to call you out in front of you know this room filled with partygoers. You're trying to talk to your kid, and you're trying to be nice. You're trying to be kind. But if you're nice, you don't say anything, and then they just continue to do the bad behavior. If you're kind, you say. Hey, you know, Timmy, we don't hit people. You know, that's just, it's not OK for us to do that. And I know it's embarrassing for me to call you out in front of this room filled with partygoers, but you can't hit another person. And I, and I, you probably didn't mean anything by it, but don't do that. And gosh, I mean, that takes a little bit of courage. It may not feel very kind, but boy, it's the kindest thing you can do.
