SSP121: Unlocking Alignment and Flow: Lessons on Optimizing Presence, Decision-Making, and Essential Nature

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Hey. Hello my friends. Happy Sunday. I wanted to come on here and share some quick insights with you. I feel like Sunday is such a reflective day, constant contemplative day for me. I'm sure it is for you as well. And what I found is recently coming on here and just sharing some of the realizations I'm having in my journey through life. It brings me a lot of joy and fulfillment to be able to pass that on to other people. What's going on, guys? Welcome, Chris. Good to see you. Lifespy. Thanks for being here for me. Naturally, when I go through periods of transformation and transitions and I have lots of understandings or new breakthroughs about myself, my natural instinct is to want to automatically share that with other people. And over the last week, I feel like so much has been shifting and changing internally, and I naturally just want to come on here and share this with you. So if you're tuning into this, my intention is that you get to receive something that helps you unlock a deeper level of understanding of your own path, your own truth, and your own journey inwards towards your own being. And this has kind of been the theme for me this week, last week I came live and was sharing with you guys my juice fast. I went on a three day juice fast and received a lot of insight and clarity from that experience. And over the last week, it's really been about maintaining and containing that level of potency and truth and presence that it unlocked in inside of me. Mustafa. Now I'm still in Mexico right now, I'll be back in Toronto in July. And as I prioritize and commit to optimizing my life around being around presence, around stillness, I've really started to become aware of anything that pulls me out of that. And I'm going to share this with you because you'll probably realize as well in your life the little subtle ways that your reactive patterns pull you away from acting from a place of alignment and clarity. And what I mean by that is you'll know. Or what I've discovered is I know when I'm disconnected from my being, I'm disconnected from moving from that place of intuition and flow when I lose the joy, ease and lightness in everything that I do. So let that be a really clear indicator for you in your life. And everything that you're doing is there joy, ease and lightness in the process of the doing. And what I've uncovered in myself is when I lose that place, oftentimes the decision making is clouded, right? Really for us, we're making decisions every single day, right? You know, deciding what to eat, deciding where to go, what to wear, what to say, what to listen to. The quality of your decisions is really determining the future, right? It's determining the quality of your future. So we must get really clear on, okay, how do I make better decisions? How can I start to make decisions that are in alignment with my highest good? And what I refer to as your highest good is, is God's path, is the path of your soul, the path of the evolution of your soul, right? So when we come back to that moment, to moment decision making, clarity, it's all about how do I come back to clarity? And if you're finding that you don't have that, if you're making a decision from a place of reactiveness, and this is what I noticed, I'm gonna give you some examples as well. For me, I woke up on, on Saturday morning feeling I didn't have clarity. I felt a bit tired, I felt a bit irritable, maybe like I didn't, I slept too late or ate too close to bed, whatever it was. And when there's that irritability and, you know, judgment for me, I start to judge myself when I'm not in that place of clarity. And it's something I'm really bringing awareness to because it's the judgment or the resistance to what we're feeling which often blocks us from coming back to presence. And when you're in that place of judgment or what happens to me when I'm in that place of judgment or resistance is my mind looks to things external to try to get rid of this, this feeling that I have so that I can come back to clarity. And this is where the subtlety and the, the, the trickiness of the mind will come in. Because what, what's happened to me in the past is I will look for external things such as going to the gym, fasting, even not eating food, taking plant medicines to try to alleviate or escape the feeling that I'm not. That I'm experiencing. And that is a subtle form of bypass. It's a subtle form of spiritual bypass. It's a subtle escape mechanism because I'm not okay just being with the fact that I'm feeling irritable or discouraged or anxious or whatever the feeling is on that day. And our journey, our process is to really look at all of these ways in which we try to avoid just being with the experience that we're having in this moment without trying to change it and without realizing when we make decisions from this place of I need to get rid of this feeling. I'm going to the gym to feel better. Notice that I'm eating this food to feel better. I'm going to fast to feel better. I'm going to take mushrooms to feel clarity. Notice how there's an inherent, there's an inherent form of escapism built into that because we're seeking something in the future. We're seeking something external so that we can feel something in the future because we don't want to feel what we're experiencing now. This is, this is the awareness that I'm bringing to every decision that I make and the shift being. Before you make a decision, ask yourself where, where is this decision coming from? Is it coming from a place of being, a place of love and a place of, yes, I'm choosing this because I'm already whole and complete, but I'm going to choose this thing because that's when my, my body and soul is pulling me? Or is the decision coming from a place of I need to get something external, I need that thing so, so that I can get rid of this? Is it coming from a Place of reactiveness, a place of fear. It's so subtle. But moment to moment, we must constantly be checking in with ourselves and realizing, do I need to just be with this for a moment before I make a decision? And what that looks like for me recently has just been creating more time to just sit and be and relax into my own experience. And allowing whatever residue of the past to come up and be felt and be processed so that underneath it, what always arises is this clarity. When we get access to the clarity or the presence or just the. The connectedness with right now, all your decision making becomes aligned with something far greater, far greater intelligence then starts to operate through us. And that's what we're trying to optimize for. What is my purpose? What am I here to do? What am I here to express? We don't have to worry about the answer to any of those questions, or all we have to focus on is bring ourselves into this place of beingness and alignment. And the natural byproduct of that is we want to express, we want to create. Creativity is something that just happens through us. It's not something that we have to go and seek or claim that we are creative. Naturally, creativity flows through, and naturally our purpose emerges when we just discover who we really are. So we can recognize now that the path, the journey is to be in a constant state of union or harmony with who we really are. Underneath the surface of our mind, our emotions, our body, what we do, our identity, the recognition of your being, the recognition of who you are underneath all of it is the number one priority of everything. Because once you know that place, deeply know it, and you feel it and you can connect with it. All the attachment, you know, all the expectations on things outside of you start to dissolve. You literally stop giving fucks about the world because you know everything is down there. Everything. All the fulfillment, joy and love and gratitude, it's all there. So then we can act and move from this place without needing the result to define us, without being attached to anyone, needing to approve or validate us. It's a huge shift. And in relationships, it's ginormous. When we can validate ourselves through our relationship with our own being or God, then what starts to unfold in our relationships is a deeper level of love and trust and connection. So we're going to speak for a little bit longer, but if you have comments or questions, feel free to put them in. But whatever I'm sharing today, there might be one nugget, one little piece that you take that just unlock Something in you. And that's, that's my primary intention with all of this. Right? So the, the real focus here, as you guys can tell, is to come, keep coming back to being, keep coming back to presence, relaxation within yourself. And one of the things that I've noticed for me is the conditioning of the need to always be busy, the need to always be achieving or being productive. And society has really set us up in that way to always be looking to the next thing, the next thing. Something in the future is going to make us happy and fulfilled. And if you can start to catch and notice all of this conditioning and how it's literally dysfunctional, you can then start to consciously choose to stop it, to just not engage with it, to actually just sit. Majority of us, especially the high achievers listening out there, majority of us just need to sit. We just need to relax. We need to just be with ourselves for a little bit. Just sit outside and look, look at the tree or something. Just sit on your bed and just listen to what's actually going on inside of you. Because when you make that the number one priority in your life, you realize that there is literally far less effort you have to put into everything. The quality of everything that you do starts to dramatically improve when you're no longer seeking to get something. When you're, when you're, when you're acting from this place rather than trying to get something, you're acting from inside out. Meaning it's something is trying to emerge out of you rather than you trying to attain or get something from the world. It's a very subtle shift, but the only way to get to that shift is to relax deeper, to surrender back into what's, what's actually underneath this surface level. Mind, emotions, thoughts, body, experience. What's. What's deeper? Who am I beneath all of that? I'm sorry to hear going through a breakup, Emma. So what a beautiful again opportunity. Because the opportunity for all of us is when we get caught in the reactive patterns, when we get caught feeling the pain of making decisions that are out of alignment, right when we feel that pain. Because it's inevitable. It happens. It's human. We're going to make mistakes when the pain shows up. That's life's gift or God's gift to say, hey, it's time for you to just step back for a moment. It's time for you to rediscover clarity. Because when you're in that, that state of dysfunction, incoherence, dysregulation, that is not the state to be making decisions or engaging in intimate conversations. Those states are God's way of saying, hey, just stop and slow down and just go in and allow this to pass for a moment. Because there's a lesson in this for you. This is clearly some sort of reactive pattern that's playing out. And when we break that cycle, what we do is we start to completely shift our timeline of the future. Because what happens to most of us, we just keep attracting the same experiences that trigger these reactive patterns. Because our subconscious is trying to heal itself. Our subconscious is trying to bring us back to wholeness. So it's attracting people, circumstances, things that trigger or bring to the surface anything that is in the dark, that is getting in the way of us really knowing who we are on a deep level. Does this make sense, guys? So you can. You can rest assured and knowing if something negative or something you know out of your expectations happens to. To you and it brings up discomfort in your body, you get to acknowledge that that is a gift that your subconscious has brought into your life so that you can look and see and feel and move through that pain that you've been carrying on to. This is really the idea behind spiritual evolution and something that I'm just so committed to in my life. It's really the simplicity of it. But the danger is in the distraction. The danger is in the noise. Everything out there telling you that this is what you need to do, achieve, attain and get. But if you can learn to tune all of that out and just listen to your own soul and your own essential nature, you'll realize that you don't need to worry about how to get the things that you want. You naturally start to move from a place of ease, joy and peace. And everything that you do is. It permeates that everything that you do touches with this higher quality, this higher frequency. And you never have to worry about money when you get to that place. I know that may be hard to comprehend if you're struggling with money right now, but you never have to worry about money. You never have to worry about finding the right relationship. Everything shows up when you're no longer pursuing the thing. External. It makes sense. Yeah. Lindsay. Glad. Glad. It's resonating and splinter. Q. Thank you. That's it. Relax. Relax into your inner voice. That's a beautiful way of putting it. I like to think of it as just surrender deeper into your own being and notice when. When the world pulls you up into your mind, into the world of fear and thinking and doubts and worries, that's your opportunity to just like pull back, pull back into your being. What is this residue or this frequency I have to just move through right now and, and literally, guys, all you have to do is, when you're in a dysregulated state, you're in fear and worries and doubts, is find somewhere where you can just sit and wait. And I always am reminded of one of my favorite quotes. I think it's from the Course of Miracles, which is infinite patience produces immediate results. Let that one land for a moment. So if you can be infinitely patient with waiting for whatever needs to move through you right now, that's cutting you off from God, from presence. If you could be infinitely patient with that, the results will show up almost immediately. And often it comes in very synchronistic forms and it's beautiful when you can practice that. So my invitation is try to make, make this a priority, to just slow down more, to distract less, and to welcome all of the, the triggers, welcome all of the things, all of the times when you're like, fuck, I'm in it right now. I'm struggling, I'm doubting, I'm worried. They're your times to really inquire, inquire, just go into that, okay, where is this fear coming from right now? What is this emotion that's coming up inside of me? Get really curious. Be like us, be like a scientist. Just like study yourself. Anytime you're away from that peace, joy, ease and lightness. Interesting. Study it, go into it. Right? Let's just be with it, inquire into it. Because once you have this level of relationship with yourself and your own nature, all of a sudden you become very sensitive to what life is trying to bring out of you. Remember, subconscious mind is always trying to bring you back to wholeness. So there's no experience that you can have that's not meant for you. Everything that's happening to you is meant for you to bring you back to wholeness. So all you can, all you get to say is thank you. Someone crashes into your car, someone breaks up with you, some, like something happens. Cool, thank you. This is for me to come back to wholeness and the moment you can catch the resistance, which is what I'm practicing. Just notice when we're in resistance to these lower frequencies because it's normal. It's normal to resist them because they're uncomfortable. But if you can catch the resistance before your mind pulls you down a reactive decision making path, which could be, I'm going to distract, I'm going to eat, I'm Going to go on social media. I'm going to work out for me. Sometimes I jump in ice baths because, like, I want to feel clear. But if jumping in an ice bath is coming from. I don't want to feel what I'm experiencing now. It's a form of bypass. It's a form of escapism. So just notice how every decision that you make should come from this place of. Of, yes, I'm already whole, but my being is now moving me into this direction for more expansiveness. And that's how you stay on the path of your highest good, your highest truth, your highest purpose. And you never have to worry about money. You have to. Have to worry about the right. What's the next thing I need to do? It just moves through. Notice how just. It requires a high level of faith and trust. But once you practice embodying and applying. Applying this understanding in your life, guys, the faith and trust just get stronger and stronger and stronger. So that's my sharing for this Sunday. Just a gentle reminder just to relax back into your being. Try to abide in the place of. Hey, I'm. I'm good. Everything's okay. Every experience that I'm having is okay. It's beautiful. It's peaceful. It's lovely. You get to. You get to relax into all of it. All right. Thank you. Thank you for tuning in. I really appreciate it. If anyone has a question, feel free to drop it in. I'll happily, happily answer it. Before we. Before we sign off, Lindsey, tell yourself, oh, the mind is doing that thing again. Yeah. Yeah, that's exactly, exactly something that I hear one of my mentors, another creator, Kyle, sees, he talks about this. Whenever you feel anxiety or fears or heavier emotion in your body, you can say, you're allowed. This feeling is allowed to be in my body. This feeling is allowed to be in my body. This anxiety is allowed to be in my body. And you can even say, I love the fact that this feeling is coming up right now. And it almost breaks the resistance because our minds, in this, like, habitual pattern of, like, not wanting to experience certain things. But if you just say, hey, this. This feeling is allowed to be here. I'm actually going to welcome it. I'm going to love it. That breaks the pattern. You'll be amazed at how quickly this energy will dissolve from your body when you give it your unprecedented attention and your presence. That's all that's required most of the time. But without realizing the technology that we're using, the. The. The stimulation that's around us gets our nervous system so activated, so like riled up that it can be quite challenging to actually just sit and be. Has anyone else experienced that? 100% experience, experience that. You know, when I burn my nervous system out too much and I try to apply this understanding and just relax. Because your nervous system is so exhausted, it can actually be quite torturous, you know, in the short term because the body has to recalibrate itself because we're so overstimulated and it makes that process of being present a lot harder. So just know that, that hey, maybe it may be challenging because your nervous system is so dysregulated because of all the stimulation and distraction that's been going on. So it's just going to require you to get over that initial hump of discomfort and your body is just constantly trying to re regulate itself. Yesterday I sat on the beach for like five hours because I realized my nervous system was getting a bit exhausted. And I measure it through the oura ring. You can track your nervous system with your heart rate variability. If you notice that heart rate variability is getting quite low, your nervous system is usually getting quite, quite worked up, quite drained. And for me, nature is the ultimate recalibrator. So you just apply this understanding go, okay, I need to just be, I need to just let my body do what it needs to do. And instead of me distracting with all the things and pulling me away from this, this built in ability that the body has instead of distracting, just sit in nature and wait. Literally wait. Don't have distractions. Just listen, be breathe, breathe. Allow your breath to start to circulate some of the energy and, and you'll be amazed at how quickly your body comes back online. And then you'll discover that that feeling of peace, joy and ease within your system. It's a feeling of like I'm okay and everything's okay and I'm good. And all the fears that used to occupy your mind, you no longer start worrying about, you no longer worry about them because you realize underneath all of it is just the joy. Is this the joy for existing, the joy for being alive? You know, Eckhart Tolle says it's the life underneath our life situation, right? We've got this situation, whatever, wherever we are in the world right now, we have this current situation that's happening in our minds. This horizontal dimension where we're thinking about the past, the future, all the things that we're going to do. That's our last situation. All the fears and the doubts and the worries Live in that horizontal timeline, which is thought. Thought is time, right? When we're living from thought, we're stuck in a horizontal dimension. And the minute we step out of that and we go into this place of life, which is now vertical dimension, infinite space, infinite time, all the fears and the doubts and the worries dissolve in that place. So find the life underneath your life situation. And if you can drop deeper and deeper into that place, this frequency just fills you up. Just fills you up like next level. And it starts to overflow out of you into everything that you do and everyone that you connect with. And this is how you really take your relationships to a whole new level as well. Just connect from that place. I'm just gonna read some of these messages. Alo Shay, Untethered Soul. Yeah, bro. Great book. Read that. It's a. It's one of my favorites. Recommend that one a lot. Let's see. Kyle. Emotional and intimacy connection has been poor, mainly because of me not being emotionally open enough, learning to be more vulnerable so I can actually get stronger. Yeah, man. I almost wouldn't say vulnerability is needed for intimacy. All that's needed for intimacy is, is a deep knowing of your essential nature, which is just pure joy, peace, and love. And sometimes vulnerability is like. Vulnerability can sometimes come across as weakness because it's that saying, hey, you're sharing your struggles, right, with your partner or whoever it is that you're sharing with, which can be helpful. But most of the time, you need to just go into your struggles. You need to just be with them and love them and feel them. And as a natural byproduct, you become more intimate with yourself, and that translates into more intimacy with everyone that you're around. So I hope that makes sense. Brother Splinter. Q. Always trust your soul. It's always happened for a reason. To ourselves. Happy Sunday. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. What a blessing it is to be here. Isn't it? Blessing to be alive? Straight out sometimes. One of my favorite prayers. Pray. I pray every day and praying to God for all the gifts and the blessings that we receive. You know, the fact that we are. You guys are here tuning into this content. You're deeply blessed. Just know that your soul is. Is on a beautiful path if you're receptive to this information. And that is such a fucking blessing. I'm so grateful for that. This gift, that my soul is able to come onto this journey and be receptive to learning and evolving in such a way. And if you guys are here listening to this, just, like, take that in and such a beautiful gift you've been given. There's so many people struggling and challenging and stuck and just disconnected from their souls and their path. So the fact that you are here, God bless you. God bless us. Yes. Dobbs Law. Glad it resonated, brother. Thanks for being here. All right, guys, I'm gonna wrap it. If anyone's got one more question. I'll answer one more question. If you're here and if you tuned in late. This live has been about some of the lessons I've had recently in the last week. Just coming back to, you know, abiding in being abiding in an understanding that you are connected. God is connected with you and works through you, expresses through you. And every time that we lose that sense of joy, ease and lightness, all we have to do is sit back and wait and watch and allow the heaviness to leave our body. Because that's what our subconscious is trying to do. It's trying to bring up and out all the heaviness so that we can come in closer union and harmony with ourselves, with God, with everyone else. Because we're all expressions of the same place, the same essential nature. It's the same within all of us. That's why you're here listening to this. This. It's resonating because I'm speaking of the same place that's also within you. Otherwise there'd be no resonance here. You'd be like, what the fuck is he talking about? What place are you referring to? This place is in you. It's within all of us. We all connect. We will unify at that place. So the more of. The more of us that start to come together and really do this work to come back to our essential nature, the more you start to connect with other souls. You know, when you meet someone, you just like. I feel you. I feel like I've known you my whole life. Well, yeah, we have. You know, we're from an infinite, eternal place where we've all known each other our whole lives. And the more we, like, come bring that online in this human experience, the more effortless connection becomes. All right, Dobs Law, last. Last question. I'll answer. Do you have experience with coming from a depressed state of mind back into presence and gratitude? I never. I never hit, like, the darkness. I've never been in the real darkness of depression, where I was having suicidal thoughts and things like that, thankfully. But of course, I've been in deep states of. I won't even say depression. Deep states of heaviness and Pain. And it's natural and necessary for us to be on this path. I would say there's not a single person here that hasn't experienced an intense amount of pain in their life that's like clicked or unlocked this willingness to learn this knowledge. So yes, I've been in the pain, different levels and severity to it, but the first pain for me was in my first breakup from my partner when I was 19. I was in a really, really intimate relationship at such a young age. And heartbreak really pulled me into some dark places, but ultimately brought me onto this path of discovering these truths, these, these understandings of myself. So yeah, bro, just know no matter how dark it gets, it's all happening so that you can rediscover, discover the wholeness that's underneath. And oftentimes the darkness, the heavier the darkness, the greater the light. The deeper the pain, the more the light that's going to come through on the outside. Guys, thank you so much. Happy Sunday. Thank you for being in here on here. And if you want to dive deep into any topics with me around relationships, I'm hosting a relationship workshop on 15 June. You can click the link in my bio to register for that. It's going to be gonna be amazing. I'll bring together a lot of these understandings and philosophies and teachings and share in the context of relationships how to connect with other people, understanding masculine and feminine polarity. And I'm really looking forward to sharing it because I've been in a relationship a long time and I'm realizing, okay, cool, it's time for me to share these teachings with you guys. So click the link in the bio if you want to learn about that. But as always, thanks for being here. I'll share more, share more lives with you soon. Peace. There we have it, my friend.

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