SSP162: Why Avoidant Men Pull Away & How to Make Him Come Back (Quantum Relationship Secrets)

Now, there is a reason why men with an avoidant attachment will often pull away, withdraw love when they feel like they're being smothered by their partner. And it's very often that the partner who wants more of them, wants more of their connection, wants them to open up more. They have a tendency to reach out, to want to grab, to want to take up the energetic space. And these types of men will very often pull away, very often shut down. And this leaves the woman or the man who is in this relationship feeling confused and frustrated and not sure how to approach things. And in the video, this video today, I going to break down with you on an energetic level what's happening here and how you can best support your relationship by giving your man the space that he needs so that you can come back to a greater level of attraction, harmony and union. Through understanding the energetics of polarity and understanding the model of a quantum relationship, how you can actually implement that into your life. So stay tuned with me throughout this entire video, I'm going to break down some really high level concepts that is going to transform how you see your relationship. Also how you show up and give your man the actual support and love that he needs to take your relationship to the next level. Now, the first thing I want to break down for you is understanding this energetic field of a relationship. Because you have this energetic field and your partner has an energetic field and you come together and you create this overlapping waveform that then becomes the attractive field of your relationship. And it's so common for women and men to get so lost in the relationship that they enmesh their energy field with their partner and they lose connection with the space in which the relationship is operating out of. If you remember that and what happens is the woman sometimes feels like she's not getting enough from the man. And if a man is an avoidant attachment style, he's very often going to isolate himself. He very often needs space to process his own emotionality. So when the woman reaches out, wants more for him from him, usually that's coming from a distorted energy field. Usually she's projecting her feelings of lack or unworthiness or lack of wholeness onto him, which then results in the reflection of him pulling away and her perpetuating the disconnect or the lack that she's feeling in that exchange. So it's so important for you, if you're in this dynamic and you want your man to be able to come round and lead you in the ways that you desire, then it's important that you connect back with your own energy field when you notice this tendency to want to reach for him, for probe him and push him, step back and connect back with your energy field. Are you coming from the field of abundance? Are you whole and abundant in your heart? Because if you're not, that's it's going to. You're going to perpetuate more of the fear that's back there subconsciously. So nurture your own energetic field of the relationship first. And remember, the energetic field that you're tapping into and supporting and feeding in your own life is also on a connected. Your partner is connected to that energy field as well. We're all resonating and we're all pulling from the same source. When you disconnect and detach, your partner is actually going to pick up on that energy too. He's going to pick up on you not needing anything from him. And that's going to feel really attractive for him. So it's so important that you understand that, okay, this energetic field that's at play, whether you realize it or not, he's picking up on your energy. And whether you realize or not, you're picking up on his energy, separate yourself, get some space for a moment. Now, what makes the feminine so magnetic to a man is something I really want you to understand here, that your magnetism really comes through via you not needing anything from him by you just being in your natural radiant flow and honoring when he needs his space and just allowing him to have that space and sometimes picking it up intuitively. Remember, if you're tapping into this quantum field and you're able to unlock the abundance and unconditional love for yourself, you will pick up on these things early on. And it's up to you to trust that, hey, maybe he just needs some space right now. And staying in your own feminine flow with honoring his personal needs is going to become immensely attractive for him. He's going to start to to see the lack of neediness in you and in his own time. With faith and trust, in his own time, he will start to come around because the masculine processes things differently. An avoidant man needs his personal space to come back to clarity. So honoring that, a man's going to be different. And usually if he is being quiet, then probably you can help guide him or help him understand. Hey, are you needing some space from me right now? Are you just needing some space to process your emotions? Or are you needing some space to be on your own or be around your friends and accept that with unconditional love and know that it doesn't mean the relationship's in jeopardy. It doesn't mean the relationship's being compromised. You'll only think that if you're coming from a place of fear and scarcity and doubt. But if you're coming from wholeness, you'll be able to fully understand and allow him to take what he needs. And that, trust me, coming from a man who goes through this dynamic with his partner, like, my partner and Matt are so good at giving that to me. It's so attractive when I'm able to receive that, because I know I can take the space that I need and she's not going to take it personally. And that is such a critical undercurrent to healthy relationships that go the distance, but also evolve together and transform together. Now, I want you to understand that the masculine nervous system processes through stillness, through solitude, and sometimes through being around other men where he can feel seen in his emotional expression. So if your man isn't creating times for himself in that way, or he's distracting himself, or he's like, getting stuck in his own kind of monotony and laziness, you can nudge him, be like, hey, I feel like it'd be great if you go to spend some time with the boys this weekend. Or, hey, I think you just need some time in nature sometimes. It's wonderful for me when I received that from my partner, where she nudges me towards something I know I need intuitively, but I'm too in my head to get there. So a nice little nudge can be a beautiful gift that you can give to him. But the nudge means that you give the nudge and then you step back. You don't keep nagging him. And truthfully and hopefully, if you are living from this place of energetic abundance, your partner is going to absorb or pick up in that frequency on some level. And he will have his own little mini awakening to discovering what he needs to come back to full presence and full alignment and openness so he could be there for you. So just remember that, that he processes things differently from you as a woman. Most of the time, the first place of processing is through communicating, through speaking. Men are different. Men need to have that energetic environmental space, but they also need to have the mental space of sitting, maybe in a meditation or something alone before they go and talk about something. So allow your men to have that if he needs that. And naturally, he will start to come on back online and you're going to feel, or you will know when he's back online. And that's when you can start to re engage with maybe an open dialogue if there's something specific you guys want to talk about together. But just make sure he's emotionally available for that before you probe him and nudge him. Now the next thing I want to share with you, this principle of energetic polarity. It really thrives when you're in that intuitive nature, when you're in that feminine radiance, when you're embodying the playful, light, creative spirit that allows you to show up in the place that feels natural. Now, your naturalness is really key here. Whatever it requires for you to tap into your naturalness via music or dance or being in nature or being around your favorite friends, even if your partner's having a difficult time, the best way you can support him is stay in that natural, creative, feminine, joyful, playful energy that's nurturing. He needs that even more during the times when he's feeling closed off and isolated and disconnected from the world. Because you can be there from a distance to support and almost show him where what's available when he starts to open up to receive what you're there to provide. And this is really where relationships become this team dynamic. You can be there as that awakening life force energy for him when he's feeling low and dull. And it's the ultimate gift of generosity when you're able to provide that without needing anything in return or without kind of withholding love because he's not being the leader that you need for him in that moment. So just notice how as you raise your frequency, you step into this place of natural generosity and it's this natural gift as a woman you can provide to a man to awaken his potency, to awaken his life force in a way that he can't get from anywhere else. So just remember, you have that unique power as a woman. You have a unique ability to provide this tremendous gift to your man. And my challenge to you is can you support your own environment and energetic foundations to allow this natural feminine energy to flow through you unimpeded as best as you can. Now, the caveat is right, if your man's not showing up and doing he consistently is not showing up for you in ways in which you need or he's neglecting certain aspects of the relationship. Even when you're providing this devotional love consistently and you're looking beyond some of these flaws and you're keeping to, of course there's some boundaries that need to be set up there. Of course there's going to be a time where it's not. If it's not reciprocated, you need to express that and create an ultimatum for him. But you know when that time is. Very often, if you're embodying this frequency as a woman, you probably are starting to attract or you're probably starting to call forward these aspects of your man who is of higher consciousness and who is aware of some of these principles and is willing to do this work. So my suggestion is be patient with him in the times where he's feeling low and disconnected, because he probably just needs this mini awakening that sometimes you can provide from afar just through who you're being, not through what you're doing, but through who you're being. Remember that. What else we got here is looking at to see what else do I want to share with you to make sure that you're getting these nuggets of wisdom? If you want to go deeper in terms of what I'm sharing here, like I have an email series. The link is in the description below. It's a five day email series that I made for high performers to really understand how to navigate some of these relation relational complexities, how to support your man and how to man can support his woman. So just click the link in the description if you want to learn more about that. But this quantum polarity that I'm referring to, I'm sure you understand that on internal level there is masculine and feminine inside all of us. And understanding how to support the polarity of the relationship comes down to the quantum polarity that you're tapping into now. At a quantum level, there is just neutrality, there is nothingness, there is the infinite void which is neutral in polarity. There is no masculine and feminine, there is just the space of nothing. There's the zero point field. And as you tap into that through meditation and as you leave the world of duality, hopefully maybe you have a practice in your life where you're able to do that. You tap into this infinite void where all kind of recharging and recalibration can happen. And in that place you can play with possibilities, you can play with thoughts and imaginative frequencies that then move into the 3D reality and then move through your physical body that start to shift how your partner shows up. It starts to shift how you speak, it starts to shift the way in which you move yourself and present yourself because you're tapping into a new emotional frequency that's in alignment with more of what you want to have in the world. You shift Your polarity. Through tapping into the quantum field, you balance out your masculine and feminine energy. Maybe you need a little bit more feminine energy. Maybe you need a little bit more masculine energy. You tune into what it is that you need. It's almost like plugging your. When you plug your iPhone back into the charging outlet, you're going back into the source, you're charging the battery. Then when you do this and you tap into a practice which connects you with the quantum field, you're charging your battery, your energetic quantum battery that allows you to step back into the world with way less friction, way less effort, way less struggle, way less doubt and confusion. And remember, this naturalness that I shared before is like you get to be the most natural, vibrant expression of yourself. And in just doing that, the polarity of your relationship will be fixed and rectified. Not even fixed. It was never broken. It would just be restored to the place that it naturally was built upon. In my own relationship with my partner, Amanda, we. We always remember that when we are not having sex, often when we are not feeling this spark between each other, when we're not, like, all over each other all the time, because usually that's the case. We have lost connection with this natural polarity within us as an individual. And I take responsibility for that myself. I go, hey, where am I off? Which is causing our disconnection, which is causing this loss in attraction. Where am I internally off? And I step back and go into my own world to figure out, where am I out of alignment? What am I holding on to emotionally? Where am I blocking the flow of my naturalness, of this elevated frequency of who I want to be as a woman, you should be doing the same thing. Get counsel from the woman in your life to do that. Get counsel from someone who you can talk about this and open up like, where are you blocking the flow? Where is your practice to restore the flow in your life? But because very often that's all that's needed. It's not something in the relationship that needs to change. Usually it's something on an energetic emotional level inside of you that needs to change. And I would love it if hopefully your man is tuning into this kind of content too, and taking in. In this kind of knowledge and taking responsibility for this as well. Because when that is done, if you've attracted a person into your life that foundationally when you first met, there was passion, there was attraction, there was connection, there was playfulness. There was all of these things that brought you together, that's still there. It's still there beneath the surface. And you can always come home to that place through embodying these principles that I'm sharing with you in this video today. So don't lose sight of that. Remember that the only reason that gets lost sight of is usually because this lower frequency or this, this limited level of attraction has been allowed for too long. The only reason you lose sight of that natural spark and passion that you have in your relationship is because you've tolerated a level of connection that isn't up to the standard of which you deserve. You've tolerated behaviors that shouldn't have been allowed for this long, or you've tolerated certain aspects of yourself for too long. It's become the new norm. Maybe it's the new norm for you only have sex once a month. Maybe it's the new norm for you to swear at each other or whatever. Maybe it's the new norm for you to just coexist instead of co create. It's time to change that. You change that by taking responsibility for it and stepping into the elevated frequency of devotion, love, playfulness, connection, joy, passion that's inside of you already. And then being that change you want to see in your partner and hopefully that causes the awakening or the initiation or the shift that allows him to come to this realization as well and want to show up for you. Remember, that's out of your control sometimes. So if he's not at that place, unfortunately, then maybe it's time to consider the longevity of that relationship. So I hope you found the video useful today. And of course click the link in Description if you want more support. 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