SSS 179: Stop Asking “How”, Start Asking “Who” (how to attract the right people into your life)

All right, folks, today's video coming to you live from Hollywood Boulevard. I've just had a week in LA and I attended a retreat and mastermind out here. And I just popped out of Lewis House's event, the Summit of Greatness. And I want to make this video about literally how to put yourself in the right room, because that has been such a huge pivotal part of what's allowed me to attract the right opportunities, the right people into my life, following the threads of opportunity that show up. And I want to speak to how you can start to attune yourself to where it is that life is moving you, because I believe life is moving us in a certain direction. God is moving you in a certain direction. And if you become sensitive to the direction that he's trying to pull you, then all you need to do is say yes. Just say yes to it. The direction. Like today, for example, or yesterday. I was hanging out with Jim Carter. He's an amazing AI expert. He's good friends with Lewis how. And he said, hey, I've got a couple of tickets to Lewis House's event. You want to come? And I checked the schedule. I was like, oh, it's going to be a little bit tight. But I always loved to would have come see him in person. I said, you know, I got to make it happen. I got to come. That's an opportunity that doesn't come around too often. I just said yes. Got in an Uber for an hour from Venice to get here to attend the event. And because the energy of inspiration, seeing these amazing speakers like Gabby Bernstein and people who have inspired me early on in my journey by putting myself in the proximity of being around them, it keeps to awakening the next thread and the next thread, and the spirit of inspiration is in me. And then all I have to do from that point on is keep following the feeling of expansion as it pulls me into these different directions and being in places like L, A, I love it. You can love or hate L, A. I personally love the energy that it encapsulates out here because it's a testament to this energy of possibility which you can attune yourself to at any point in time. Now, if you're not feeling that sense of inspiration in your life right now, you're not really sure how to find the next invitation to opportunity. You come back to the simple thing. It's like, where does my heart come alive right now? What's the thing? What's the desire? What's the thing that I've. That you've wanted to Step into. It's a big goal or a dream or a vision that you want to move in the direction of. But maybe you don't know how to take that first step. The first step is put yourself in the right environment. I have just been on a week long mastermind retreat where, you know, at this retreat, I feel like the dumbest person there. My business is probably in like very early stages compared to these, some of these people who are making millions of dollars, tens of millions of dollars at this retreat. And I'm on the lower end of that spectrum. I'm on this retreat, I'm feeling like, wow, I've got so much to learn from all these people. And I loved being in that place because that's where I get to learn through osmosis. That's where I get to pick up on certain attributes or things that they're doing that I get to step into for my business that pull me closer to my goals. And I'm always reminded that it's not about how to get there, it's about who can help you get there. So if my path is who do I need to be around or who do I need to hire, who do I need to get in proximity to, that can plant the seed of inspiration, that can invite a new belief, that can bring a complimentary skillset to unlock this next level. So it's all about where do I need to go and who do I need to get in contact with. And you very often the who will tell you the where. Like my good friend Liam was the one that invited me to this retreat or he connected me with some of the, the person running the retreat, Anna, her name was Anna. So I said yes to the who first, which was like, yeah, fuck that person's dope. I need to be around them more. And she's like, yeah, it's here in L. A. So okay, cool, that's where I need to go. So start with the who, then you will understand the where, which is like, maybe you need to travel to some other destination. Okay, maybe you need to get out of your current environment, come to a place like LA or a place like New York or doesn't have to be in America. You may know where it needs to be, but by dropping yourself in the environment, there's an energetic shift then starts to occur. You start to access new ways of thinking and feeling. And all of a sudden you have realizations, you start to see things more clearly. And ultimately what these experiences do for me, because I'm only here for a week, it's been an amazing whirlwind of a week, but it helps me see the moment. I can see, oh, that's the path, that's the thing. That's the area that I'm stepping into. I can now see the outcome or the process of getting to the outcome. That's when I know it's becoming real. Because if you can see it, it's real. Even when I'm watching these speakers on stage and I actually have been in conversation with so many of these speakers that I look up to, we've been chatting in the DMs and my Instagram and I'm like, yo, I'm pretty fucking close. I can see it. I can see how I'm going to write a book and I'm going to be on stages like this. I can access that possibility because I'm continuously putting myself in the right places and being around the right people that are nurturing these seeds that I planted five, six years ago when I first started out in this journey. Just know that if you've planted a seed or something that you want to step into in your life or you've got big visions or big dreams and you want to move in that direction, water the seed of possibility or the seed of desire by continuously seeking the right people out. If you don't know what that is right now, just keep asking yourself, who do I need to be in contact with? Who do I need to be around? Could be a coach, could be an event, could be a retreat. That is the unlock, my friend. I'm telling you, telling you, trust me, it's the reason why I run retreats now. It's because so much of my transformation happened through being in proximity. So you will learn the most through other people. Not a book, not a podcast, not a YouTube video. You will collapse like years of online learning into a three day event if you're around the right people. So just remember that, please. I'm giving you the shortcut here. Giving the shortcut. And your mind might come up with all these excuses, these limiting beliefs about like, I don't have time to do that. I don't take care of my family, I don't have enough money. Fuck that. Find a way. Find a way to make it happen. I remember I had These back in 2019 when I was like working in Toronto. I was living downtown Toronto. I just started out my journey. I left my corporate job and I was working at meditation studios downtown. And this is cool. Look, you just got to check this out. American football going on right now you guys can see that American football. Anyway, back to the story. I was living downtown Toronto and working at the meditation studio, and I just was in the energy of personal development. I loved it. And I didn't have the money to afford to go to these personal development events. And I remember at the time the med meditation studio I was working for was sponsoring one of the events, meaning we had a booth at Robin Sharma's Personal Mastery Academy. If you don't know who Robin Sharma is, he's one of the goats of this space. Written like prolific books. Just an amazing, amazing author. So I'm at the booth of this event and I can't remember who came up to us, but someone came up to us. And this, remember, this is a $6,000 event. It was two day, two day Personal Mastery Academy. No way I could have afforded that. But fortuitously, one of his team members came up and said, hey, we've got a couple of extra tickets. Do you guys want to come in to be a part of the event? I said, fuck yeah, sign me up. Let's go. So for two days, I got to be around people who were just like, so far ahead of me in that process. I got to be in that energy of proximity, of learning and osmosis. And I remember thinking, wow, like, I can't believe I just materialized that. This is insane. And it was from that point that I realized that you'll be given the opportunities if you keep taking the next step, even if you don't think you have the money. Find a way to. To be in the right space where these fortuitous situations or synchronicities, you could say, just pop up and open up in your life and then you'll make another connect or you meet another person and then just. It just continues to continuously evolves from there. Over the next last five years, I've been obviously seeking out more of these times, and I think that you got to be careful as well, because you don't want to just be attending every event thinking that you need to go to all these things. But you know, when there's a speaker or something you need to be at, you just know sometimes to me, the event that I need to attend is one of my favorite musical artists. If you love music and you're listening to your artists on Spotify or whatever, you need to go see them in person. Like, I don't fuck around. Go if they're in town, go out of your way to see the people that inspire you in the flesh. Like, I really believe that's the new way that we're progressing here like this is that we're done with the online stuff. The online stuff will get you so far. You need to be in proximity. In my case, I watched above and beyond in person a couple of weeks ago. Just it was a life changing experience. Being in person at a live event just unlocks something in my soul that birthed new inspiration that then I get to take into my life and share with my community or share with my friends and my family through how I create and how I express myself. All the creativity comes through experiences. Fresh inspiration comes through experiences. So if you're feeling stuck or staggered in your life right now, or you're seeking that next spark, get to something. Go to see someone who lights you up. I'm going to close it out of that. But to arrive here in N out Burgers, I'm about to have a celebratory burger because when in la, this is what you got to do. You know, my vibration is going to stay really high because I'm in the energy of gratitude and receivership right now. So it doesn't matter what you eat from this state, we're going to stay high. All right, baby, Big love, we'll talk to you soon. Let's go.