Why men shut down emotionally

Name: Why men shut down emotionally
Uploaded: 2025-11-19T18:41:54+00:00
Duration: 41 s
Channel: Jordan Candlish
Description: Jordan Candlish (YouTube video) explains why some men "shut down" emotionally: if a boy is raised with a mother who assumes the masculine role, he may…

19 Nov 2025 · 1 min

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Jordan Candlish (YouTube video) explains why some men "shut down" emotionally: if a boy is raised with a mother who assumes the masculine role, he may lack a relationship with the feminine and become disconnected from his own emotionality. This leads to a cognitive/flight response—thinking in logic rather than feeling—emotional numbness, and difficulty relating to a partner's emotions. Candlish frames shutdown as instinctual and survival-based (not a moral failing), emphasizing understanding origins as the first phase toward change.

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What do you think that teaches a young boy? When his mom is the masculine, he has no relationship with the feminine. He's disconnected from his emotionality. So his flight response is fully in his head. Doesn't even know what it's like to feel. He feels emotionally numb. So when his partner says something that pisses him off or he goes into logic, he's thinking logic and rationale all the time. He's missing the opportunity to relate with his partner's emotions and the needs behind those emotions. It so first phase is to understand why you shut down is important because just know that it's instinctual, it's survival, it's not wrong or you're not fucked up. There's nothing wrong with you. It's just how the body is programmed based on how you grew up and how you experienced emotions in your household.