My Mother In Law Tried To Sleep With Me! | KARAMO

And that's when you had a job.

But when you don't have a job—

I don't need a job to get your respect.

No, you gotta keep a job to get my respect and keep a fucking job to take care of my grandkids.

Around 4 or 5 years ago, I had a party for my wife.

It was her birthday.

Her mother had backed me in the corner, drugged me, and sexually assaulted me at the party. I woke up and she was on top of me with another one of her family members that I really couldn't see 'cause I was drugged. So my genitals was out and they was kissing me and hugging me. My wife's mother accuses me of trying to come on to her, but she was the one who assaulted me at the party. My wife's mother gives her numbers to call to hook her up with guys, but we're married. We are on the verge of divorce 'cause her mothers hate me so much. Nothing been the same. My wife's feelings changed for me because I keep bringing up the subject, and I'm definitely telling the truth.

Everyone, please help me welcome Tara to the show. Tara, thank you for being here.

How y'all doing?

Um, I told you before, you look very nice.

Thank you.

But how do you feel about what you just heard?

He freaking lying.

Yeah.

4 years ago, where was you at 4 years ago? You ain't got nothing going on. And you say me and one of my family members, how do that even make sense?

So what happened that night?

What night? What party you give my daughter 4 years ago? What party you give her? 'Cause anything she do, she do it for herself.

Got it.

You ain't got no money to do nothing. Thank you for my 4 grandkids. That's about it. Other than that, he's a freaking bum. He ain't got no money. You can't keep a job over 90 days, okay? He need to leave the drugs alone. How about that? You talking about your marriage? Oh, your marriage is already over. You think you in love? That's not in love. Being abused is not love. Verbal, mental, or physical. That's not love. And that's what he does to her. So if you gonna tell the story, tell it right, 'cause I don't want your broke ass.

I hear you.

Okay. I'm not gonna be bothered with that.

Is he at least a good father?

I just said, anybody could be a dad. It takes a man to be a father. I'm the man and the father.

You right, you told me, you right, you told me.

I'm sorry, y'all.

You right.

I'm sorry.

Listen, I grew up in my mama house.

Okay.

I knew that response. That response was, didn't I already tell you, little boy?

Exactly. I ain't gonna say it again.

Okay, I got it, that's clear. How has this affected your relationship with your daughter?

I don't see her as much like I used to because I don't wanna be around him.

Yeah. What does your daughter tell you about their relationship?

There ain't nothing to talk about. I mean, she ain't happy. You fake like you happy with him, but the whole time you not. I want my daughter to wake up and smell the coffee.

Uh-huh, okay.

I ain't saying, I'm not trying to make them get a divorce, but at the end of the day, I know my daughter can do so much better so much better, even if she by herself.

Got it. Well, everyone, I think it's time to meet your daughter's husband, Elmer.

Oh, he need to sit his ass over there.

We're gonna meet Elmer and he's gonna sit on that side of the couch. So everyone, let's say hello to Elmer.

First and foremost, I have nothing to lie about. I was sexually assaulted. I was drugged. Can I say something?

No, you cannot.

I'm talking.

I'm talking.

I stopped using drugs a long time ago. I smoke weed right now a little bit. Ooh, you're freaking lying.

Listen, excuse me.

Excuse me, excuse me. Really? Excuse me, I'm sweating right now.

Really? What about your Percocets you pop?

Can I step over here?

Every day.

Let me step over here. What about that? I pop Percocets 'cause I broke my back.

Oh, really? Oh, you broke your back? If your back is broke, how in the hell you walking around?

It's a Karamo line.

Huh?

Tara, Tara, Tara, I wanna hear his side. Let me hear his side.

I didn't come here to make this a game.

Come take a seat down for me. I came over here to make it dead serious. Okay.

I'm on the verge of losing my wife. That bum shit. I'm far from a bum.

Take a seat for me. Let me hear your side. What about—

What?

So you're saying in this party that you feel like—

What party that you threw for my daughter?

Listen.

Oh.

At the end of the day, I don't wanna lose my wife or my kids. After my little experience, I told her to ask her mother a million times. Why would I keep saying this? Why would I keep saying it if nothing never happened to me? I'm not gonna lie about that. The only person who had keys to my apartment was her mother.

Oh no.

You're saying that at first, 'cause I'm trying to keep consistent with the story.

Yeah, keep the story down.

Keep the story together. At first there was a party, but then you're saying she had keys to get in by herself?

Listen. Karamo.

So was there a party or not? I'm just trying to get this.

Yeah, I had, listen, my wife had a party. I could've said, I'm gonna throw you a party for your birthday because I know you ain't been feeling a little up to it or whatever.

Right, right, right, right.

But you didn't listen. That you can ask about my ex when she come out here.

Right, right, right, right.

See, you see what I'm saying?

Because you can't, because you can't, because you've lied so much you can't even keep your story together. I did not lie.

Have y'all ever gotten along in your family?

Hell no.

It been days she came to me and said, son-in-law, and gimme a hug that you doing a good job by the kids and all this.

And that's when you had a job. But when you lose your job—

I gotta have a job to get your respect?

No, you gotta keep a job to get my respect and keep a fucking job to take care of my grandkids.

It's been 14 years that you and your wife been together.

Yes.

Why would you think that she'd wanna break you up?

I mean— Because.

Because of what?

They ain't even together for 14 years. Because of her brothers. I know her brothers, I know her sisters. The other son, I can call him right now. His number in my phone. He don't fuck with his mother.

Oh yeah?

He don't fuck with his mother and he will come out and say, I don't fuck with my mother.

Oh yeah?

For your son to tell me that the one who you wanna stick on me when we going through something, to tell me that, man, I ain't got nothing involved to do with that.

Do you honestly think that she's the only issue in your relationship?

Listen, and listen, I've patched up everything I ever been through with her. I keep it so real that she know I keep it real.

Have you ever cheated on your wife?

No.

Never?

Listen, ever since I got married, I never cheated. Have I talked to a female on Instagram? Only on Instagram? Yes. Yes. That's it. That's it. That's all. And then when I got caught, I said that I would never do it again or I would never meet nobody else.

So you don't believe that talking to a woman on Instagram is cheating?

I mean, yeah, so I changed it. You feel what I'm saying?

So the question was, did you cheat? And you said no. So you have cheated.

Listen, 'cause—

Ha! Contradicting yourself.

It's not funny though.

Take notes.

I'm just listening. I'm just listening.

I'm just trying to—

I'm just taking notes. I'm taking notes to get both sides. Like, so in your opinion, why are you so close to divorce?

Because at the end of the day, It seem like that it doesn't matter what I do. Somebody in my wife's ear. I can see the change in her.

You think that your wife's mother is who's in her ear?

It gotta be.

I wanna hear from LaTara since it seems like she is in the middle of all this. I'm gonna ask both of you to go backstage for me so I can speak to LaTara alone for a moment.

Yeah. Mm-hmm.

So I had to ask them to leave the stage because clearly we're not gonna get any answers there and I need to speak to LaTara so we can get some real answers. Everyone, please help me welcome LaTara to the show. Hey, LaTara, how you doing?

Fine.

Ooh, I know what you're going through, girl. Can I have a hug? All right, take a seat for me. You look beautiful.

Thank you.

Yeah, you look very nice. So can you explain to me from your opinion what's going on here?

So my mom and Elmer never got along.

Okay.

The reason being my mom thinks I deserve better, which I do. I've been through a lot with him, cheating.

Oh, so he has cheated more than he said?

I can't tell you that he had sex with somebody 'cause I don't know. But between the Instagram for the last 14 years, it never stopped.

Okay.

I wanna say he tried to stop 2 months ago, but that's not enough. We've been together for 14 years.

2 months ago, got it. What else has he been through?

Him being in jail. I went homeless just for my daughter to be with him.

And I heard there's drug use.

He take Percocets.

And so what do you think happened between him and your mom that night at the party? Was there a party? Because I found inconsistencies.

There was a party.

There was a party?

For my 25th birthday.

Okay.

And no, I do not believe my mother did nothing to him.

Got it.

So yeah, my mom have a key, but why would she come and molest you? Like—

Got it. So now there's a pattern here. So, and you don't believe that he did anything with your mom?

Hell no.

Okay. Excuse my language, but what?

No, no, no, no. So do you think your mother is the biggest problem in your relationship?

My mother ain't no problem. She want better for her child. Like, that's what any mother gonna want, better for their child. Like, my mother seen me go, she seen me go through.

So what do you think the other issues are with Elmer?

He's controlling.

Has Elmer ever been a good partner?

Yeah, like we had good times, we had bad times, but the bad is outweighing the good right now.

So why did you marry him?

Because I love him. Like, I do love him and we have 4 kids together. It wasn't always bad, so.

Do you wanna make it work with him? Enough said. Well listen, let's bring Elmer back out to the stage right now so we can talk to him. All right, so I'm gonna disregard the party and the allegations. And the reason I'm doing that and I wanna do that here is because tracking this, We don't have clear evidence to make accusations like somebody sexually abused you. And I just wanna make sure that is, that's not saying that I don't believe you, but I would need more facts to go deep in that. But what I do have facts on is that you two in this marriage, it's not working. Do you still want this marriage to work?

I love my wife. At the end of the day, I changed the whole, and she can really tell you honestly, I changed over a lot to be with my family and to be with my kids. I didn't have a father really growing up. So me and her sat down before anything had made it past the guy, I said, I will never leave my kids 'cause I was raised in a broken home. You feel what I'm saying? I get it. So I made a pact with her, you know what I'm saying? Like, we really did that. Nobody, all I'm saying, 14 years. You could have left me and moved on. Her mother really didn't like me in the beginning. And in the beginning that she used to tell me, oh, son-in-law.

But I don't think it's about the mother because your wife just came out here and told me that you've been controlling.

And listen, because at the end of the day—

Are you controlling?

Can I tell you why? Why you controlling? Listen, I know it's not controlling 'cause listen, The pandemic happened. I seen a lot of shit happen. Her weight went up and down. I'm talking about, listen, listen, I'm telling you, I'm not talking about—

So now there's a problem with my weight?

Baby, I'm not saying that like that. Come on. You know I don't see no other woman but her.

That's it, every day. That's not true, 'cause if you didn't see no other woman, you wouldn't be on Instagram.

Now tell me the last time I was on Instagram, boo.

2 months ago, but we've been together for 14 years.

So the thing is, is what I know in relationships, It's very easy for somebody to get derailed from a conversation so they can change the narrative. I asked you if you're controlling and we went down a whole path of her weight and also Instagram. I'm gonna ask you again, are you controlling?

I'm gonna say I'm also protective. Listen, I've been in a relationship with my first baby mother. When she went out, shit happened. You know what I'm saying?

Whatever.

And I always gave her credit. She had my back since the beginning. No woman has stuck behind me like, I always say this, you my backbone.

So you're saying your past relationships caused you to be controlling in this relationship or protective in your words?

Yes.

And that's because she did good the entire relationship, stood by your side.

Yes.

So then why are you still being controlling?

I just wanna be with my wife. At the end of the day, I'm willing to do anything to make it work. The reason why we argued the last time, because I seen a guy number in her phone. So of course I would get a little bit, you know, on edge.

Well, what about all the numbers I seen in your phone? Yeah, you did. All the girls you talk to on Instagram.

What about all that?

We're getting a ping right now. My producers are telling me that you have a confession that you wanted to share.

Elmer, I have a confession to make. 3 weeks ago when we got into the big fight, you went through the diary, you seen that I had another man in our bed. Sorry to tell you, but it's true. I did have another man in the bed and I slept with him. I wanted to tell you I'm sorry, but honestly I'm not because all the things you put me through the last 14 years, And I'm not gonna stop talking to the person 'cause you put me through so much. I just want all this to be over. Like, we could get the divorce and it is what it is.

Okay. Here you go. What's going on in your mind?

I ain't got nothing to say. She got it. She got it.

Just everything I've been through with him. It's like he forced me to do that and I'm sorry that I'm not sorry, but it is what it is.

Yeah. I mean, hearing what you said has been the symptoms of your relationship, of course I will never excuse anyone, male, female, cheating, but I do understand 14 years of being frustrated and tired. And if I've experienced it in 30 minutes and I'm exhausted, I can only imagine what you feeling in 14 years. So I wanna bring Elmer back out. Elmer, do you wanna come back out? Elmer, your wife's done.

I understand. I totally understand. I can't even get mad. At the end of the day, I knew what I was coming for. We talked about it. No matter what, I wanted to work on it. You know what I'm saying? No matter what. She told me that day, she said that it didn't go that far. You know what I'm saying? And I believed it.

Yeah.

You know what I'm saying? I never had sex with another woman when we was in a relationship.

But don't nobody know that but you.

Okay, I'm telling the honest to God truth. That's all I wanna do is tell the truth.

Yeah. Making a video and doing it with another woman is cheating. Like, what are you talking about?

Listen, listen. I really admitted that I had problems in the past, but she really said and told you, like she can tell you I've changed a lot of shit.

Yeah.

I changed a lot of shit. All I wanna do is my wife. All I want is my wife and my kids, man.

But you do understand how for her 14 years of frustration.

But she say it haven't been like that for a whole 14 years.

It have not.

Come on, let's be serious.

It really is not.

I didn't just go out cheating. Everything I've been through with you, you got problems with your hands and everything. I didn't just go out cheating. Come on, we not about to do that.

LaTawna, you done it too though, boo.

Yeah, I hit you.

Yeah, okay.

I did. Okay.

But what you do 3 weeks ago?

Then we got into an argument. I snatched her phone or whatever like that. So she started yelling. I grabbed her by her thing and I put my hand over her mouth just so the building and the people in the building wouldn't hear her scream.

What am I screaming for if nothing going on?

I'm done with this, man. I'm just done.

Well, she's done first. And I think it's the best actually, to be very honest with you.

You want me to walk away?

You want me to hear I'm dead?

No, I don't want to walk away.

I love you. I really love you.

And you still gonna love me and I'm still gonna love you. Love ain't just gonna go away like that.

It really can't just go by. I love you, Slim, for real. And I'm sorry to even say Slim 'cause I'm not like, I can't even get my words out.

I'm not like this.

And she really know that. I'm not like this.

We're not supposed to be together.

That's the thing.

Can I give you a piece of advice? Can I give you a piece of advice? Because there's children involved in this.

And that's all I want.

And I know you wanna be a better parent, but part of the thing for you to be a better parent is you're gonna have to stop this narrative that I'm not like this. And I'm just an outside perspective.

I am, but don't I accept the blame when I'm wrong?

I admit I'm wrong.

I guess.

See, she came with—

But 3 weeks ago, for there to be still a physical altercation, you are like this. The more you keep saying I'm not like this and then going back to the same behavior, all you're doing is keeping yourself in a pattern where this always would be unhealthy. And what will happen is your children will pick up that behavior and they'll do something and then they'll be like, but I'm not like that. And you'll see that behavior later on. So what you have to do first as a man is say, I am like this. I am like this and I need to get better help before I could ever be the man you need me to or I could ever be the father these kids need me to. And until you make that step, this will never be right.

You're right.

You're right.

I wish you the best of luck. I wish you the best of luck. I really do. So I'm gonna talk to her for a little bit and I'm gonna wish you best of luck. Good luck now. I'm gonna bring your mama out real quick too.

I love you, baby.

I will say this right now. I witnessed what you could have been seeing this entire time.

Mm-hmm. And I was right. I know what I'm talking about because I went through it with her dad.

Mm.

And one thing I told her a couple of weeks is, I see me in you and see him as your father. No. My kids went through a lot. And the dad, like you just said, 3 weeks ago, she ain't even tell me till after the fact. I called her and it's 7 o'clock in the morning. I called her, all I hear him screaming, screaming, hollering, hollering. What'd I do? Jump up, put on some clothes, jumped in my Cadillac and hauled tail. You not about to keep arguing around my grandma. I got grandkids, that plays a big part. That plays a big part. I don't want my oldest granddaughter to think that it's okay for a man to talk to you like that, 'cause it's not. It's not healthy.

Are you willing to now help your daughter stay firm in this decision?

She don't have a choice.

Your mother said she gonna be there for you.

At the end of the day, you know what?

Can you stay firm in this decision?

She gonna stay firm. Even if that mean me come to her house and stay a couple of weeks with her. I miss our bond. We got her and she knows that.

Are you gonna be able to stand firm in this decision?

Yes.

Good job. Listen, I believe, I'm so happy because at the end of the day, what I witness is that he has a lot more growing to do as a man. I know he do. But he has to start acknowledging the man that he is.

Right.

Not that he believes that he was.

Right.

He is still today. And that's gonna be the first step of him being better. And you just gotta stay firm in the decision. I wish you all the best. the best of luck.

Thank you.

You got a strong mama right here.

I ain't going nowhere.

Okay, she ain't going nowhere.

All right.

I wish y'all the best of luck.