She Dresses Too Skimpy To Bring Her Home To Mom! | KARAMO

Insecure. Why she would not wanna tell you if there's a year and 3 months, if there's a year and 3 months where my man has made me feel bad.

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Tell me about the day you met Shanice.

Well, the day I met Shanice, it was like fireworks, you feel me? Yeah. So, you know, we met at a video shoot and I saw her from afar. I was like, damn, who that?

Yeah. So how long y'all been dating now?

It's about to be 2 years now.

2 years. So this is a long-term relationship. Yeah, about to be 2 years.

Okay. The thing about her jobs that bother me the most is that, you know, she's around like celebrities, rappers in these music videos and, you know, she's a vixen. Anytime she's out, I can't really trust her 'cause I don't know who's actually going to try to talk to her. And I don't know if, 'cause, you know, again, these people are celebrities and again, I do trust her, but it's like, These people could be saying anything to her and I don't even know if she even tells them that she's in a relationship. You feel me? So it's like—

Have you ever asked her if she tells people she's in a relationship?

I tell her, I ask her, but she says she does. But who knows what she really tells people.

Well, she's telling you she does. Why can't you believe her? Why do you think she cheats on you?

Well, the thing about it is that she met me at a video shoot. So the same way I approached her, anybody else could approach her.

So what do you mean when you say she isn't wifey material?

Well, it's like I can't really bring her home to my mother.

Why?

'Cause my mom, she's really conservative, right? She's a real Christian woman. She doesn't even wear pants. So if I bring her to my mother, right, I need to like actually pick an outfit for her because the way she typically dresses, I can't bring her to my mama like that.

So you like that she looks this part for you?

Of course.

But you're ashamed that she looks this part for your mother?

It's not just my mother, it's for everyone too. 'Cause I feel like as my girl, you should be dressed like that for me.

So you don't want her to look only?

Exactly.

Okay. But you met her out in the world dressing as she liked to dress.

Of course. You right, you right, you right.

I'm just trying to cast a consensus.

You right, you right.

Does Shanice know you feel this way?

I tell her this all the time.

You tell her all the time? Yeah. Okay, and what is her response?

Her response is, yo, this is how you met me. I'm like, I feel you, but that's when you was single. Now you in a relationship. Things have changed a little bit.

Has she met any of your friends or family?

She met like 2 of my cousins before.

And what was their response when they met her?

Their response was, okay, cuz, all right, cool, cuz.

They said she looked beautiful is what that translated into?

Yeah.

Or was it shady and sarcastic?

Yeah, being sarcastic. Like, she's a little much, basically what they were saying.

Okay.

And the way that she was dressed.

Are you embarrassed of your girlfriend?

No, not at all. But the only thing about it is that When we go out, I feel like I'm about to get into an altercation all the time because people gawk, they even try to talk, they make hissing noises. So it's like every day I go outside, I never know what I'm about to partake myself into because you know how people are. You could never trust anyone.

Do you ever tell her how to dress?

Yeah, I do.

And what does she do when you tell her that?

And she says no.

She says no. Well, it's time to meet Lonnie's girlfriend. Please welcome Shanice. to the show.

You know what? You deadass full of it right now. You full of it. How the fuck you gonna sit there and say that I wouldn't be able to be introduced to your mother? Listen— Wait, wait, hold on, hold on, hold on. Before you start, how you gonna say I'm not gonna be able to be introduced to your mother because of how I dressed? I'm not fucking naked.

Oh my God.

I'm not fucking naked.

You're gonna lie though, she ain't.

No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. No, no, I don't want to hear it. How you gonna say that I can't be introduced to your mother? Are you serious? Boy, you better sit your ass down. No, no, no, sit down. I just said what I said. I just said what I said. How I'm dressed now? Can I be introduced to my little bitch?

At least you got clothes on. You actually doing good today. I'm not gonna lie, you doing good today.

You doing good today. But what is this? What you saying?

I'll tell you this, I'll tell you this. You look fly from head to toe. You look great.

She look good, she look good. She looks great. You see that, all that?

She looks great.

All of this, all of this. All of this gets booked. It gets booked and it makes money.

Exactly, I know.

All right then, so what you mean exactly?

You met me like this and you had a problem. That's at work though. Okay, but what's the problem? Every second I work though. Every single time. No, stop. No, I'm not gonna stop. I'm not gonna stop.

Take a seat for me.

Every single time when I step out the house and I'm just however he wanna say, like provocative or whatever, it's because of my work, okay? I do video vixen, okay? But then you wanna call me out my name. You wanna go ahead, bring my name.

I'm not calling out your name.

You're gonna lie. So did you actually just say first of all nice to meet you? You look beautiful. Thank you. Like you look really great. This accoutrement right here, baby.

Sorry, I'm out of my character. No, you fine.

No, no, no, no, you can listen. No, but it's okay. Let me tell you the character. This this this you being this passionate is okay for me because anybody who's hearing that the person you're with doesn't want you to meet their mother, like if my partner said that to me, I'd be up. I mean, you get cussed out.

So I understand the feeling. So I would know to dress differently, but the fact that you already have that in your mind, this is the reason why, this is why we're here right now. 'Cause you have the nerve to talk about me.

You actually got clothes on today, so I actually like this. You finna make me sound like a bitch.

Hold on, so you, but you know she just came out here lying. I mean, like, she's doing better today. What do you mean she's doing better today?

'Cause usually it's like everything's out. You know why?

Because there's a time and place for everything.

But usually, but hold on. But usually you had no clothes on.

Yeah, because usually, because usually I'm working.

No, no, no, no, it's not. You said you were working.

No, it's not that. Can you tell me about your job as a video vixen?

Okay, so you know I anyways, I'm a video vixen. Mm-hmm. And you know I do music videos. Obviously, we already know we're in 2023. Everything's provocative. We be in bikinis. We be in you know like. Provocative clothes, we be dancing. On top of all of that, he met me that way.

Yeah, got it.

He met me that way.

I understand.

And it wasn't a problem when he first met me. So now it's like, okay, I get it. You know, I'm your girl and all this stuff and I know you want something different, but at the end of the day, like, this is how you met me. Like, you can't change me for who I am or what I'm doing.

Does he make you feel like he wants to change you?

Yes, of course.

Yeah.

He sits there and he calls me out my name. He wants to bring my past relationship and wanna call me all types of bitches and hoes and all this, et cetera, et cetera, which he's not saying 'cause he's saying this is my attitude, but he's not showing you the attitude that he went— he's not showing you what he shows at home.

Okay, what's the attitude he have at home?

Yes, what's his attitude, Lonnie?

I'm lovey-dovey.

I don't believe that for one second. Don't say that for your mama. I don't believe that for one second.

I'm lovey-dovey.

He needs to work on himself and his self-love and figure what the fuck he got going on in his mindset.

Yeah. Why do you think he doesn't trust you?

Why don't you trust me?

'Cause you're—

Honestly, because I dress. That's the only reason. But I feel like he doesn't trust me because of insecurities. Because obviously, you know, I am very voluptuous or whatever. Other than that, I don't, you know.

You look good, girl.

Thank you.

No, you do though. You do though. You look beautiful. You look beautiful. You look beautiful.

Don't be trying to soften me up right now.

So my producer told me you were very upset when you saw that he didn't have photos of you in his—

Oh yes. Okay, so we were supposed to send photos. My phone had broke not that long ago and I had to get a new phone. So I called him like, babe, like, you know, send some of our photos. He said, I don't have none of our photos. I'm like, how you don't have none of our photos? He said, oh, it's not that important. On top of that, we had an incident where he was going to the bathroom. He came back out to grab his phone and went back in the bathroom. I'm like, what you grabbing your phone for? He's like, oh, you know, being very suspicious. So I'm like, let me see your phone. He ain't wanna let me see his phone. I'm like, gimme your phone. I wasn't gonna, I'm not gonna lie, I was immature and I snatched his phone and I ran. And then he ran after me and he snatched the phone to the point that he almost dead broke his phone. So in my mind it's like, okay, you're hiding something. Maybe there's a reason why you're sitting up there not accusing me of things because maybe you're doing shit. Well, Then do you know, do you know you probably ain't got no business doing it.

Do you feel like he's, 'cause you said you feel like he's hiding something, do you feel like he's hiding you?

Yes, I do. He don't post me. He doesn't wanna, obviously he doesn't want the pictures of me. Like, he don't want me going through his phone for I don't know what. But even other than that, he don't post me. He don't want me to go to his mama even though I could. It's just clothes. Like, I don't, I'm a mother myself, so I don't understand why you would think that I can't change for your mom. And I feel like it's bigger than that. I love him because he spoils me. Don't get me wrong, he spoils me. We have amazing—

Yes.

Intimacy time. But like, I just don't like the verbal communication. He verbally abuses me and I cannot stand that. It hurts me. It hurts me real bad.

Well listen, one of the things that you both came here for is you both wanted me to unlock each other's phones, correct? Yes. Oh man. Wow. Well, you wanted me to unlock your phones and it's, I think it's time that we see what we discovered. Okay, it's time to unlock the phone. Shanice, you told my investigators you wanted to know if he was speaking to any other females. You wanted to search his DMs, his messages, his texts, and his apps. And so we were trying to unlock the truth in your phone, and Lonnie, you refused.

The reason I didn't wanna unlock my phone because You know, I sent her like pictures of, you know.

No, Lonnie, unlock your phone, bro.

We only go for what you ask us for.

See, I didn't know.

So if you're saying I'm looking for photos to see if he sent this to another woman, then we'd be looking for that.

Oh, but I don't got none of that though. I'm good.

You're a liar.

Well, we would never know.

You're a liar.

'Cause you didn't unlock your phone. So Lonnie, you told my investigators you want to know if Shanice had been talking to other men. You want us to search her texts. Her messages and her photos. That is what you want, correct?

Yeah, I definitely want that.

Okay, well, Shanice, we unlocked your phone. Well, actually we didn't because you refused for us to unlock your phone.

So why would you refuse?

I have a reason why I didn't unlock it.

Okay.

'Cause you're being suspect, that's why. No,

no, no, no, I'm not being suspect. No, that's

what it is. Hold on, can I speak? Well, Shanice, you did say, We talked earlier. When I first got into work, my producer told me immediately that Shanice was distraught in her dressing room and that she had a confession for me and we recorded it. I'm gonna show it now. So my producer said you needed to talk to me before the show. All

right, I'm not gonna lie to you. I'm so nervous. Like, I have a confession to make to Ilani.

Okay.

I don't know how to tell him. Like, my heart is beating so fast right now.

It's okay, love. This is a safe space. I got you.

Okay, so I gotta tell him I have an OnlyFans.

Okay.

I don't know how he's gonna react though. Like, he already be cussing me out and he already be like spazzing when I go ahead and come out the door provocative for my whole, like, you know, video vixen life and all this stuff. So I don't know how he's gonna react when he finds out I have an OnlyFans.

Don't worry, I can help you with that. That I can help you So your confession is that you have an OnlyFans. Lonnie, what is your reaction to that confession?

I'm thinking about that, right? I already knew, my boy told me. So that's why I was always suspect about you. Like, how you have an OnlyFans and not gonna tell your man?

Because it makes no sense.

Like, we could have been together on OnlyFans doing stuff, but like, but like, you gonna have an OnlyFans, so how can I really trust you? I don't even know, I don't even wanna look at your OnlyFans 'cause I don't know what type of content you have on your OnlyFans.

First of all, I would've, may have considered you on my OnlyFans, but because you are so insecure and you be giving me so much shit with your vulgar views.

Insecure?

Yes, yes, yes.

You mean you have an OnlyFans? Yes, I do. You have an OnlyFans, girl?

Okay, well that's why I started OnlyFans. Hold on, hold on, seriously. So I'm gonna ask you this.

Yes, yes, yes. Come on. But if you already knew, why didn't you talk to her about it?

'Cause I was waiting for her to tell me. 'Cause I'm like, yo, this is my girl.

But there's a bit of manipulation in that. It's like, oh, I know I got something over you, but I'm gonna hold it till you tell me. And while I'm not, I'm holding this information. It's a tactic.

It's manipulative. It's a tactic. Exactly. And I said this. He's a grand manipulator at 1,000. No, not at all. And guess what? At the end of the day, I still came out.

How long have you had the OnlyFans page?

I started OnlyFans in February.

She's only had it since February. You've been together for 2 years, you told me. So what happened that first year and a half where you were doing things, you were calling her out, you were accusing her, you were doing this controlling behavior? And then now to hear this, so I understand why she would not want to tell you if there's a year and three months, if there's a year three months where my man has made me feel bad.

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insecure, insecure. Okay, beside the dance, she right. There is a bit of insecurity. The first thing I wrote here on my card was insecurities and controlling behavior. This is the thing. Why it's insecurities is because if you didn't want a woman who dressed like this, then you should have never gotten in a relationship with her.

No, no, I can't agree with that.

But to get into a relationship with a woman who dresses a certain way.

No, no, I can't agree with that.

And it ends someday. I can't agree with that. 'Cause again, I love that she, when I met her, it was like that, right? But again, but then as you're noticing.

Like I wrote down, it then goes from insecurity to controlling. Because for you to say, but then I like it when she dresses like this, but then when she's with me, you can't be that way. Now you're trying to control your woman.

Lonnie.

When you say things like she needs to dress only like that for me, I write down your words, okay? I like to fact check, okay? It's facts over feelings over here, okay? And so the fact that you say that, it just blows my mind. All right, so we took a social media poll. If your man said you're not wifey material, would you stay with him or would you walk away? And 92% of people on our social media said, if you ever told me I'm not wifey material, I'd walk away.

Well, I don't agree with that. I don't agree with that. I don't agree with that.

So why wouldn't you walk away? Because you clearly said, when I was back there, you said that I wasn't wifey material. I'm not gonna lie, that actually really hurt my feelings because I feel like at this point you're just playing games with me and you're stringing me along. So what the fuck is the point of having me around if you don't want me?

But I love you though.

Honestly, I will tell you this. There are insecurities that Lonnie has, unfortunately, because Lonnie, I think this could be a beautiful relationship. Even when you just made that comment about we could do the OnlyFans together, like, I'm all about people in relationships making choices that work for them. It might not be the choice that we would agree with, but if you two wanna establish a relationship where you both could be working together in that capacity, that's for your choice. But the fact that you've ruined it by manipulating and having these insecurities and controlling behavior, It's lost it. And so until you do some work on yourself, I mean, like you told your girl of 2 years that you wouldn't want her to meet your mom. That is so contradictory of saying, you're my future. She's not your future. She's your right now. Because if she was your future, she would've already met your mom and you would've stood up to your mother as a man and said, Mom, this is my woman. How she dresses is how she dresses. And that's just the truth. But Shanice, the real thing now, Is that as a young woman, 'cause I know there's a 10-year age gap or 9-year age gap, it's for you to choose. This is your choice. This man has told you that you're not wifey material. This man has told you that he wants to control how you dress. This man has told you that he doesn't trust you.

You know, my thing is I just, I have hope that maybe that might change.

You've spent 2 years in a relationship where yes, the sex is good. Yes, he's charming. Yes, I give you all of that. And it sounds like he's also a good provider for you. But do you really wanna be in a relationship for another 2 years where he's trying to tell you where you can't meet his mother, where you can't meet family members?

I mean, that's why we came here in the first place. Yeah. 'Cause at this point it's like, it's getting me to my breaking point that—

So do you think you can work on your controlling behavior?

I can.

Ultimatum, you either gonna show me to your mother or I'm gone.

Boom.

You're not going nowhere.

Denise, you gotta stay strong in this because if you start to bend boundaries now in the beginning, in the beginning of your relationship, you gonna be bending boundaries for the rest of your life. My mother told me from the beginning, she told me and my sisters, you show a man how to treat you, all right? You keep putting up with this, you gonna show him you're okay with him treating you like this, all right? Show him that you got boundaries, that you have self-worth, and you're not gonna allow this. One week for him to meet you to your mom, I'm gonna check up on you. Literally, let's make a note. And if he starts holding you down like this— We're doing a checkup. You got one week and I'm calling your phone and we gonna put you on that video screen right now. And if you ain't met his mama—

You don't meet my mama. You don't meet my mom. You don't meet her.

All right, well listen, I wish y'all the best of luck. You got a beautiful woman here with a lot of energy. I know that. A hustler. You got a beautiful woman here. Respect her and trust her. I got you. Okay? Respect her and trust her. I wish y'all the best of luck, all right? Yeah.