KMM 2026 Session 3 - COCI | Naren | Life School |

Some of you have been a part of KMM for close to 25 years, some for 10+ years, and some for the past few years. And for a few of you, this has been the first experience of KMM this year. As time goes by, sometimes we forget about some extraordinary things that we have discussed. And today I want to share with you the power of great stories. When do you say it's a great story? A great story refuses to age. And what do I mean by refuses to age? What I mean is it never loses its relevance. Context, then it's not a great story. A great story never loses its relevance. So let me share with you about one such story we shared quite a few years ago and how it has transformed and uplifted one of the most dedicated volunteers of KMM. Long time ago, we discussed that there was a young guy who came very excited to his office, and he told all his colleagues, he takes them down and shows them a brilliant car. Everybody is curious. You're so young, you're just starting your work, how come you have a car like this? And he smiles and says, well, my brother gifted it to me. One of the poor colleagues was looking at that car wistfully, slightly lost in imagination, and something about his face said that a deep reflection is getting triggered. After everybody had gone, an observant manager looked at this young poor guy and asked him, do you wish you also had a brother like that who can gift you a car? This poor young man looks at the car, looks at the manager, and says, no, I wish to be a brother like that. Who can gift a car. I don't wish to have a brother who will gift me a car. I wish to be a brother who will gift a car like this to my younger brother. We were speaking about abundance, we were speaking about responsibility, we were speaking about love. The story did its job. It created impact in the class, and for many, many years we have not taken that story inside the classroom. A few days ago, one of the most amazing pillars of KMM sends me a picture where the family has bought a new car, and he says, Narayana, I still remember that story. And he sent me the PDF file of that story and said, because of that, it triggered something inside me, and I have just bought a new car for my younger brother. Subbu, can we have the spotlight on that man, please? Most of you know him. Here is that guy, Harshad. Thank you so much for leading that session. You made all of us so, so, so incredibly, uh, proud of you. It's not that we come to know that somebody has taken something and implemented it, and implementation is about giving and caring. So would you like to say anything for all of us? Yeah, right now I don't have that words, I mean, but thank you so much. Thank you, Naren. Thank you, Joe. Thank you, KMM, all team. So, uh, one thing is definite that, uh, the school in which I am taking session right now, also after 17 years, in Cyrus Poonawala, I'm taking the same school. So that is privilege. Yeah, that is amazing, ne? That is truly amazing. You are taking the sessions in the same school, is it? Yeah, yeah. Ah, so in 2009, the first session of KMM, and you said, just after completing my batch, partner or speaker. So I have selected, and I'm a Actually shy guy. Thank you, thank you so much. And the rest is history, as they say. Yes, very, very, very well done, darling. Very well done, darling. I'm so proud of that. So proud that you have been taking this for so many years. That is just amazing, just amazing. Keep it up, darling. Keep up the good work and keep inspiring us. Thank you, thank you. So two very beautiful things out of this before we move to today's session. One, great stories refuse to age because they never lose its relevance. The story about a brother who is poor seeing a car being gifted by an elder brother to a younger brother doesn't create a desire to have an elder brother like that, but creates a desire to be an elder brother like that. I think this is a story which is timeless, and very soon we'll take that once again in KMM, who knows. In which class there is another Harshad Doshi sitting right now. And this happened in 2009 according to Harshad. So after 17 years, Harshad could do what was discussed inside the classroom. Can you imagine somebody holding on to something for 17 years? That is rock solid character. Rock solid character. So Harshad, very, very, very proud of it, Ali. It also brings me to something very, very critical, which is great reflections must be triggered. That story triggered a reflection in Harshad, and that he held on for so many years. So sometimes when I want to create a change in somebody's life, You and me need to trigger a reflection. It is not about winning an argument. It is not about hammering an idea. It is about triggering reflection. I repeat, it is not about winning an argument. It is not about hammering an idea. It is all about triggering reflection. So nobody hammered that idea to Harshit. Nobody argued with him. What happened in the session was great deep reflection was triggered. So extremely, extremely, extremely well done. I can't thank you enough for being a role model to what was discussed 17 years ago. I have been so excited since the time you discussed this, that this is the heart which is required, uh, which is what makes this world such a beautiful place to live in. Now let's move towards today's session. I will give you some hints about today's session. I'm not going to tell you what today's session is, but these hints should work. A woodcutter was famous, famous in his province because he could cut off trees before others could. So people would come from near and far to see how is this woodcutter able to cut trees so fast. A young apprentice who decided he's going to be like an Aiklavya, he want to watch him and watch him so well that he'll master the art of cutting the tree by observing the woodcutter. Woodcutter could see that this guy is watching, so he called him close and say, you don't have to hide somewhere, come stand next to me and see what I'm doing. Watch carefully, and if you have any questions, ask me. And as the woodcutter said, watch, he swung the axe and he hit the tree. The tree dropped in 9 strokes. The young boy counted every stroke, memorized the angle, memorized the grip, memorized the follow-through, memorized how the next round of the hammering happens. And he said, I have understood, thank you so much. And the woodcutter saying, ask if you have any question. And the young boy says, 'No, I have understood what has to be done.' Years later, this young boy, now a man, could not understand why we had a similar axe which was swung exactly the same way, took 30 strokes to cut the tree. After years, when his ego was finally down and out, he came with a lot of humility and asked his teacher that, did you hold something back? Did you not tell me what else you do? And the woodcutter said, I told you, ask. He says, no, there is something else. Now that woodcutter is an old man. The old man laughed and said, look at this axe. You copied my swing, but you never asked what I did the night before I swing it. He turned the axe over. The blade gleamed freshly sharpened. And the woodcutter said, everyone watches the stroke, nobody watches the sharpening. Everybody watches the stroke, no one watches the sharpening. You have spent close to 10 years perfecting what people see. I spent 40 years perfecting when nobody is seeing, and that is why I'm able to cut the tree even today in 9 strokes, which means two things. When I go in a war, I take up a task, I have goals, I want to do something incredible. It has two parts. Part one, that the whole world sees. Like right now, you're able to listen to me speaking This you are able to see. But what is the work that me and Joe do before this session happens? That nobody sees. When you go inside the classroom and you talk, that the children in the class are able to see. But what you do before that, that will define the quality of the session you are going to go and deliver inside the classroom. If the woodcutter does not sharpen the axe when nobody is seeing it, for him to fell the tree in 9 strokes will be impossible. He might say luck is not good. He might say, 'Aapna time nahi hai.' He might say, 'I've got the wrong tree.' But the fact remains, if the axe was not sharpened when nobody was seeing, the tree will never be cut in 9 strokes. Times can be changed, easy tree can be given, more technologically advanced axe can be there, but if the sharpening has not been done, that result will just not come. Today's session is an incredible session. Bitu is going to stun all of you with a very simple framework. She's thought about it so deeply in the last few days, almost for 10 days now, and every day passes, she says, this is a mind-blowing session. A couple of days ago, we were discussing, maybe this session will have the maximum impact in the life of volunteers and the students out of any session so far that we have had in KMMF. So very practical session, a session that you can implement 24/7, a session which has the power to completely change your life, a session that can prevent arguments, prevent wars Uh, prefer prevent heartbreaks, and it can push you to achieve what you should achieve in your life. It is a session which has the power to completely make you equipped to live a life of your dreams. This session is like that combination, something that you do with the world will never be able to see. That is the sharpening of the axe. And something that you will do which the world will be able to see, that is the axe hitting the tree. We get both right and we have got our life right. So to take today's session, let me invite with a lot of pride and a lot of pleasure somebody who's given her heart and soul to make this session a champion session for all of us. My darling and our darling, Ju.

Happy morning. First tell me, how many of you have done trekking? Okay, most of us. And I'm sure, what is this koki? Anil ji, you don't sing like Amitabh Bachchan sings, okay? So trekking, and I'm, I'm sure, have you gone through this experience? Sometimes we climb half the way and we wait there and look back down.

Have you done that?

And what happens when we do that? Some people get scared, but for most people it is, wow, such a wonderful view! I've climbed so far and I'm looking forward to go to the peak. When we go through KMM sessions, it's like trekking to the summit after the 7 sessions. And after every session, I think it's important just to look back and review what has gone by so that we understand the beauty that we have crossed and then the beauty that's going to come. So now, to begin with, let's recap the main pointers of the last session. Chintamani. These are a few pointers. Let's just— Ashu, help us with them. Everyday chintamani moments. No chinta, many chintamani. When does your chintamani wake up? When he wakes up, what do you do? If it becomes powerful, what do you do? Why is it important to be chintamani free? So we do box breathing, we do Find your bird's eye and observe the positives. OTP. Thank you, Ashu. Yesterday I was also told OTP means overthinking pattern. I don't want to look at that. My OTP is always look at the positive. So with a few pointers, recap the session in a couple of minutes. Here I have just said the pointers. In the classroom, we can ask the students Next, part 1. First is recap. Second part, have you all seen that, uh, a gift, a globe, particles float in the water. So one morning, now, when this beautiful little girl gets a snow globe from her grandfather— snow globe, okay. So it's got that snow mountain, small, small particles which look like snow, some houses, some penguins over there, and it's her birthday. So she gets that gift and she's very excited, and she takes that globe. And you know how 4 or 5-year-olds are, they can't hold something still. So she shakes that globe, and then she starts crying. Dadu, where is the house? Where is the penguin? I can't see it. And I can only remember, you know, imagine Narayan being there and he says, beta, shanti. And he takes that, grandfather takes that globe, puts on the table, and both of them sit next to the globe and says, he says, wait. And as they wait and watch the globe, the particles slowly settle down to the bottom of the globe. And they are able to see the house, the penguins, the mountains very, very clearly. So the girl asks the grandfather, 'Aree, kaha se aagya?' So Dadu gently replies, 'Beta, it was always there. We just needed to wait a little for the snow to settle.' In day-to-day life, with overthinking, too many chinta manis between us, our thoughts also become like that particles of snow. All over the place, and we need to make them settle down before we go to the next journey of learning. Dadu had the key, uh, elage of wait. I think KMM has a faster elage. It says do box breathing. So now it's time for box breathing. All of us, before we go ahead with the session, let's clean our slate, let's sit straight, Spine erect. Close your eyes. Forehead absolutely normal, no wrinkles. Palms gently resting on your, uh, thighs. Allow the snowflakes to settle. If I tie a string at the back of your neck and pull it up from 5 to 1, just stretch your spine a little so that it becomes absolutely straight. A small thread is tied at the back of your neck and now I'm pulling it up. 1, 2, 3, 4, 5. The stretch that is there right now, that is the straight spine.

Stay there.

Let's begin box breathing. Take in a deep inhalation.

Exhale.

One more time, deep inhalation. Exhale. Let's begin. Breathe in, 2, 3, 4. Breathe out, 2, 3, 4. Breathe in, 2, 3, 4. Breathe out, 2, 3, 4. Now we start box breathing. Continue taking a deep inhalation, 1, 2, 3, 4. Hold. Breathe out. Hold. Breathe in 2-3-4 hold— breathe out 2-3-4 hold— Breathe in 2-3-4 hold— breathe out 2-3-4 hold— breath in 2, 3, 4, hold. Breathe out, 2, 3, 4, hold. For the last time, breathe in, 2, 3, 4, hold. Breathe out, 2, 3, 4, Hold. Keeping your eyes closed, relax. Deep inhalation and deep exhalation. One more time, deep inhalation and deep exhalation. As I count 5 to 1, gradually open your eyes. 5 being your eyes totally closed and 1 being your eyes totally open. 5, 4, 3, 2, and 1. We're all back together. Awake and relaxed. Uh, pen and paper with us. If it is not there, go and get it because today's session is a little writing stuff. Fresh new blank paper, pen. Tyra, can you just close the windows please? So part 1 is the recap and part 1 is the box breathing. Part 2, we'll start right now. Now imagine with me, okay? There is a school and there is a match going on a cricket field. There are 2 heroes of our match. Arav and Gaurav. Now both of them are fielding, they are in the slips, and there is a wicketkeeper named Dilip. Just before the match, all of them have huddled together and they've decided, we are not going to let anybody, you know, take us this time. We are going to catch every catch that is there. And they are now in position. Ek ball, dusra ball, on the third ball there is a catch. Everybody is holding their breath. The catch goes towards the wicketkeeper. The wicketkeeper, in all his honesty, wants to hold it, and the moment the ball is about to land in his hands, something happens and he drops the catch. Dilip drops the catch. That very moment, Aarav looks at him and tells him, Meri dadi bhi ek catch pakkar sakthi thi, kya ho gaya teri ko? The others in the team start laughing. Everybody glares at Dilip. Dilip is getting frustrated and the match continues. After some time, a catch goes towards Aarav. In all his heroics, he jumps, he attempts to, you know, take the ball and he drops the catch. This time it is everybody else's chance to glare at him. And Aarav sheepishly says, my hands are useless today, it's okay. Same time, in another pitch, in the school next ground, there is a match happening. The person who is in the center of this is a girl called Meher. Now Meher is the wicketkeeper. Same thing happens. There is a ball, it comes towards her, she drops it. The girl standing just near her, another fielder, looks at her and Mhair says, the ball is swinging a little too much today. I've dropped this, but the next time I'll ensure I catch it. Few balls later, the ball goes to the girl next to Mehak. She drops the catch. Mehak looks at her and says, "It's okay, I believe next time you too will catch it." Lo and behold, after some time, the catch comes towards Mehak. Mehak, she holds it and she tells herself, "See, I told you, you will be better the next time." Now, in this entire scenario, if I ask you to choose one person whom you want to be as your team member, who will you choose? Second, Mehair, correct?

Why?

You raise your hand and I'll ask you. I need a couple of sentences. Why will you choose me? Anybody? If I choose Mehr, why will I choose Mehr? Yes, Madhu ma'am. Happy morning, Jo. Happy morning, everybody. I feel, uh, Mehr was very calm in dealing with this situation.

Uh, she motivated her teammate, and that motivation probably helped the teammate to give a better performance the next time.

Okay, well, well said, well said. Sangeeta? The motivation needed her to work positively. Absolutely. Uh, Ramesh Ji?

Same, motivation and positive.

What I learned from the story for her confidence in herself and calm and composed. Brilliant! You know, every time I say something to myself or to others, it's creating a future in me. Vijay, you want to add something?

Uh, she did not rob the dignity of the other than herself.

Brilliant. She did not rob the dignity of others and herself, which in Aarav's case was not. Towards the end of the match, 2-3 other team people, different team people, come and ask Mehair, next time will you be a part of our team? And why does that happen? People always want team members with whom they can feel comfortable, who make them feel they are capable. Who make them feel they are capable. Our sentences are not only shaping us, our conversations are not only creating our reality, but also the way people perceive us and whether they want us to be a part of their lives or not. And it's very important for us to understand what we say, how we say, and where we are, so that we'll be able to relate to people well. We become a person who is allowed to be a part of others' lives. Definitely, if we see Aara from a distance, we'll say, 'Isko thoda dur rakho, I don't want to be.' So today we are going to understand what are the different communication habits each one of us has and how is it affecting all of us. What are the different communication habits we have, and how is it affecting us and the people around us? Ready for it, all of you? So, aikam kareye, aapke page pe brand new page khuleye, and divide the page into two halves straight from 12:00 to 6:00. Draw a straight line dividing the page into two exact columns. Now divide the page horizontally as well, in the middle, so that there are 4— it's a plus sign with 4 quadrants on your sheet. 12 o'clock to 6 o'clock, one line drawn. 3 o'clock to 9 o'clock, one line drawn. Is the quadrant there? Okay, at 12:00, at 12:00, we will write communication outside with a plus sign. At 12:00, upper, at the top of the page, communication outside with a plus sign. 6 o'clock, what will happen? Communication outside with a minus sign. 3 o'clock will be communication inside with a plus sign. 3 o'clock, the horizontal line towards the right side of the page 3 o'clock, communication inside positive, and 9 o'clock, left-hand side, communication inside negative, minus sign. So this is what the quadrant will look like in the classroom. We draw it on the board.

All done?

Thumbs up, give me a thumbs up. Great. Now let's add, uh, certain titles to these quadrants. Okay, so jo left-hand side ka quadrant hai, left-hand side upper wala, communication outside plus communication inside minus. Title, people pleasers. People, P-L-E-A-S-E-R-S. Title, people pleasers.

Done.

Below people pleasers, where there is communication inside minus communication outside minus. We write cynics, C-Y-N-I-C-S. Okay, the column which is right side down, communication outside minus but communication inside plus, we write there as critics, C-R-I-T-I-C-S.

Uh, Jyoti, what quadrant does critic fall under?

Communication inside plus, communication outside minus. 3:00 to 6:00. Now which quadrant is left with you? If I'm right, 12:00 to 3:00. Over there you write in big bold capital letters Champions. Repeat please. All quadrants? Yes. Oh, and can you please show the quadrant that Yes, the quadrant image, please. This is the quadrant. So let's go, uh, clockwise. Okay, 12 o'clock and 3 o'clock, outside plus inside. My, uh, inside plus is champions. Champions, 12:00 and 3:00. 3:00 and 6:00 is cynics. 6:00 and 9:00 is— sorry, sorry, critics. Critics, cynics, and people pleasers. So champion, champion, critics. Critics ke baju mein cynics, or cynics ke upper people pleasers. Done. Now if you can, as I'm saying this, let's visualize people who have been in our lives who have been like this. And if you want, you can just note it down. You You know, there would have been some people, or probably even better, where have been scenes where we have been like that? Or right now, just let's go through the quadrants and we'll come to that later. So I'll just tell you what the characteristics of the quadrants are. Champion, okay? Who are champions? These are people who are positive outside, positive inside. Uh, Mehr is a champion. From the story. She pumps herself up also. She motivates others also. They are not people who are perfect, mind you. They're not always somebody, you know, who keeps smiling also. But their words and their conversations build their confidence and the confidence of people around. That is very important. When they have their conversations with themselves and others, they build So generally, you know, when somebody succeeds, what would they do? Well done. What can be done better later if something goes wrong? Wow, that's a brilliant idea. Somebody makes a mistake, they say, oh, that didn't work. It's okay, next time we'll become better. They learn from their mistakes. You know, they are like Wi-Fi with full signal, all chara dandi, download, upload, all working brilliantly well, connection is great. No voice loss, no disconnection, nothing. And people enjoy working with champions, not because they are perfect, because they make people believe they are capable. So the reason people want to be with champions all the time is they make people believe they are capable. You know that character, uh, in Three Idiots, Ranchoddas? And what is the statement he always says? All is well, all is well. He's continuously helping people to see their keep moving movement. Let's come now to the critics. Matlab, we are blessed to have critics around us. They help us become better. That's the conversation a champion does to themselves. But who are critics generally? I don't need to describe, but for the sake of the session, let me give you some pointers. So, you know, in the class, if one person is giving an idea, before the person completes the idea also— this critic will come and say, "Isse zada bo kwas idea maine nahi suna hai." If somebody says, "I don't know the answer to this question," "Seriously? You're so dumb? Patani?" And if somebody tells them, "You're being rude," what do they do? "I'm just being honest." Critics have to— people, somebody has to tell you honestly what's happening, right? Koi nahi bolata. No filter, absolutely no filter. For themselves, na, they'll always give 5 stars. For others, 0 star. Me 5 star, others 0 star. Totally negative about people outside, but for themselves absolutely positive. These are the critics. Next, let's go to cynics. Who are cynics? Mind you, this is the most difficult and the most, um, dangerous quadrant to be in, okay? Because in logoka ko chhunni sakta hai. Main Sangita, Naren, ham log sab bethi aur Sangita ko bolungi. Sangita chalna, picture chalte. Yarbod boring ho. For example, Sangita, I can take the liberty with you, okay? Uh, picnic jate hai. Ya hai, baad iske raat cheekar dekhya karna hai. Always negative. Or inke satna, they are like a volcano. In fact, cynics ko naam hai bracket mein volcano likhna. Kabhi burst hogana, malumine padta. Kabhi ne padta chale. If you tell them, let's go to Mars for a holiday, you know what they'll turn around and say? It's too crowded, I can't stay there. After COVID, it's too crowded, I can't stay. I mean, that kind of level of cynicism. They not only are unjust to themselves but unjust to everybody around, and hence people don't want to be around cynics at all. You know, they're continuously doing negative doom scrolling. Or negative doom scrolling, some people These are our cynics. Virus from 3 Idiots, you can nicely keep him in this quadrant, a cynic. And then let's go to people pleasers. Who are people pleasers? Yes, that's the name, narcissist. Absolutely. Chatur also would be a critic. Absolutely. Planning, plotting. So, uh, is a champion, is a critic, virus is a cynic, or people pleasers. People pleasers are which people? These people always do whatever others want. They will never give themselves a chance, never.

Brilliant.

I'm never good enough. I will never be able to achieve anything in life. 5-star hotel service desk, 5-star desk, or zero-star desk, they will never give themselves a chance. And eventually, now this becomes a little frustrating. So now these are our 5, 4 kinds of people that I don't remember the name of 3 Idiots, that Sherman Joshi, but beginning of this movie he was this kind of a thing, people pleaser. Raju, Raju, Raju, correct. So we have our 4 characters in place. Just explanation between the last session to the this session. Faran, even Faran with his father, absolutely. Even Faran with his father. Last week, we have to find out 4 or 5 incidents which have happened with us which have stirred a string, okay? Positive and negative, all. I'll tell you, for example, what will I do? We have to write these instances that have happened in our life. My mother, for the first time, decided to go with her friend to a holiday. Okay, in 67 years of her lifetime, this is the first holiday she's taken with a friend. And she doesn't go to Mableshwar, even, you know, Madhya Pradesh, or Kulumanaali, or Kashmir. She directly flies to Vietnam. Both these old ladies directly fly to Vietnam. So when she said, 'Janai,' we said, 'Okay, fine, brilliant, you want to go with your friend, it's very nice, go.' Made all the arrangements. Now I became the mother and she became the daughter, in the sense I gave her international roaming on her phone. International roaming, this lady sits in the flight at 7 in the morning, she's supposed to land in Hanoi at 11:00 in the morning, and from 11:00 till 12:00 in the night, I am like a full chinta money because her phone is switched off. She's not on the phone. And in that day, so much happened in my mind. I traveled from cynic to critic to cynic to critic to cynic to critic multiple times. So many times I told myself, and there is no way I can get in touch. That's why I said this session has been such a revelation. I realized the dialogues that I'm telling myself about people around. And you know, then my sister said, airplane mode off. So you know, my mind Again, I become like Chatur. Instagram rolling, airplane mode. Can you imagine? And yeah, you can imagine Joe being like that because I became the mother in those situations. And I can remember me switching my phone off so that my parents don't know where I am. All 7 days, my mother's phone was switched off. She kind of became rebel. You know, a rebel at 67. I care a damn about you, you know. Don't call me. You can talk to me only when I call you. That's the privilege that you have. And this one situation took me through both the lower quadrants. Like that, in the last few days, have there been situations First, write it down and then put it in the quadrant that you were there. I mean, write the quadrant. I was a cynic, I was a critic. Take 2-3 minutes and jot it down. It's very interesting, you laugh at yourself when you do that. So taking one step ahead from Chittamani, think of a few situations which have happened, certain statements we would have told to people around us, certain catches we dropped and we told ourselves certain statements. And in those situations, in which quadrant were— and typically when rains are there and we are driving on the road, this full traffic jam, and one truckwala will want to smash your car and move inside 4 inches of space. That time, what is the dialogue that goes in the mind and in which quadrant? Kia plotting. Yukti, are you here in the session today? Yukti, okay. She went through a very interesting situation which she plotted against all the things, all the quadrants. Right now, since she's not there, let me not arrange. It's okay, perfectly okay. How many of you were surprised in which quadrant you landed? Like, I was really surprised to land in the Cynic and the Critic quadrant in this situation. Anybody? Yes, Anu.

Hi, good morning, Joe.

Morning.

So I, when we were specially taking classes during COVID classes, online classes, this revelation was done by my daughter that you are a people pleaser. And I told her that people pleaser, I can't help it, I have to. But she said that that thing stayed in my mind and Especially with our parents, they have not even taught us to draw a boundary. But now that when I am also teaching children that there is a— you have to draw a boundary. If you don't like anything, you need to say respectfully convey your viewpoint. It is so important, otherwise it gets all bottled up. So I am moving from people pleaser to trying to be a champion.

We will definitely get there this year. Suraj, so good to hear. Are you sharing today, Suraj?

Yeah, happy morning. Yeah, last time also I shared. Uh, okay, so 3 days back we went to Ahmedabad And before the trip was planned, we went to this Gift City. Uh, one of my friend kept the hotel for lunch on the other side of the city, and we were going to stay in Gift City, and this was other side, almost an hour apart. And then I thought, why he's keeping this, uh, on the other side? We have to travel 1 hour to get back to there. And, uh, but I could not tell it on the group, so I have to just say, wow, you have kept a good hotel. And this, but on the inside I was thinking Why is kept like that? It should not be like that. It should be near the hotel where we are staying. So that was one part. And then when we got there, there was all rains. It was a lot of waterlogging was there because that day heavily rained in Ahmedabad. And then again the mind started that scenic part. Correct. Kya, kida raha ke pas gaye huye hain. We have to travel to hotel, back to hotel. How we are going to do it? Because lot of vehicles were getting jammed in that waterlogging and everything. So I traveled from that people pleaser to scenic, and then critic also. So I was just, uh, attending. But the whole trip happened so good that day. We traveled to that waterlogging, and that day was one of the amazing days, a day of the 3 days. So We have to be a champion. So, but in this trip I never felt that champion, but now I am feeling it that the whole trip went very well.

Brilliant, brilliant, very nice. Raman, Mamta, I'll come to you after. Happy morning, happy morning. Just for a while. See, I have to practice champion now. Since 37 years, people pleaser category, and I was not at all aware of conditioning. People used to say me, but me reflect in like in a be one year, say I have totally be into the champion category.

Correct.

I feel positive, positive inside and outside, but 37 years people pleaser. Thank you. Thanks, thanks, Mamta.

Happy morning, Jo.

Happy morning. Actually, last week session, rebirth podcast preparation 40 years reunion. Thanks for sharing, Mamta, and I think We will, with this session, understand how to move from every quadrant to the Champion quadrant, one step at a time. Kuldeep, Siona, and then we move ahead. Kuldeep?

Yeah, hi, happy morning.

Happy morning.

I have realized that I keep shuffling between all the quadrants.

Absolutely.

And it's a beautiful journey, I would say, when you realize that, okay, I'm in this quadrant, but I need to move to Champion quadrant. Like, I'll give you an example. I'm playing a doubles match with my partner. At the start of the match, maybe I'm a champion, but when he makes a mistake, but I don't want to demotivate him, so I am a people pleaser then. And then when I'm making a mistake, then I'm a critic to myself only. So it's a beautiful journey, I would say. And there will be times where we will fall in a people pleaser category. Sometimes we'll be in the critics category. But till the time we are aware and making conscious choices to be in the Champion quadrant. I think that's what, uh, yeah, is important.

Very, very well summarized, Kuldeep. Very well. Thank you so much, Siyona. And then we move ahead.

Yeah, so, um, so the— I, I've been shuffling between 3 quadrants, which is the Champion, Critic, and Cynic, and I was surprised that I was in the Critic one the most. So like the past week for me in college has been very political because of everything that's been going on, and there's a lot of dialogue that happens and everything. So I used to keep thinking Cynic was obviously like— okay, I won't say stuff— but Cynic was obviously like negative thinking about the future. Champions was when we were supporting each other's opinions and we were like, yeah, we're gonna make this country a great place. Then Critics was when during the dialogues or discussions we had during about politics and about Indian reservation systems and everything. I used to think that I would— like, I used to overly think that I— oh, only my political opinions are correct, you know. I'm a whatever my association is.

So you were in the critic most of the time?

Yeah.

And I used to think down on other people, which is just so surprising because I've always thought of myself as someone who's very open to different opinions.

Really?

What I'm very happy about is that I don't fall under the people-pleaser quadrant anymore. Like, I think, you know, the best— I mean, apart from my mom, how much I was a people pleaser. But I've learned to say no and prioritize my own plans and everything. So I'm very proud of that.

Wonderful, wonderful. Thanks for being honest. And I think both Kuldeep— everyone shared, and Kuldeep and, uh, Siona brought two very important points. I keep shuffling between the quadrants. I've seen myself also. Sometimes I'm a critic, sometimes I'm a cynic. Sometimes in situations I do become a people pleaser, and then I end up feeling like I'm being victimized. Now the good news for all of us is this is not a map for lifetime. We are not stuck to any box. So every conversation that we have is a chance to move from a critic to a champion, a cynic to a champion, from a people pleaser to a champion. And that's possible, and that can happen when we just become a little aware. Okay, right now I'm being a little critical about my mother. So say, to make my example, I'm being a little critical about her. She's gone for the first time, maybe she's just let loose, and she deserves to do that. What will I do next time is a choice I have to take. So let's go back to the first church. In this situation, to become a champion, what is the choice that I make? Next time, I'll ensure I'll give her— I will ensure wherever she goes, I either have my aunt having an international roaming, or then keep calling her on WhatsApp all the time. I'll find some way out to be in touch with her, but I cannot dampen her enjoyment by saying, 'Punta chalu rakhne liya.' I mean, even if I don't say it loud to her, I might say it in my mind. Every conversation that we have with people is our chance to move from whichever quadrant we are to the quadrant of being a champion. Now the question might arise, then what do we do? We get along with people, just keep motivating them? No, we make a choice which is the right choice, and that is being in the Champion, Cokey quadrant. Who are these people? If something goes wrong, they don't criticize, they don't judge, they help people see a way out, they help people feel capable. When I make a mistake and if I am a cynic to myself and I want to move to the Champion quadrant, I help myself see a better future with the right kind of choices that I make, with the right kind of conversations. Remember, meh hai, I'll do it better next time. There's another opportunity. I'll catch the catch. I keep becoming better one conversation at a time with myself and with people around us. Now what we would want to do is two sentences we have to write down which are very crucial. If you are a person who drops the catch The catch may be a difficult conversation with a family member. The catch can be giving a feedback, a critical one. The catch can be you made a mistake and you want to come out of it. You drop the catch. It is metaphorically. When I drop the catch next time, what is the sentence I'm going to tell myself? Can we write that down? When I drop the catch next time? What is the sentence that I'm going to tell to myself? So I am aware and I find that I'm becoming critical about my mother. In that moment, what is that one sentence that I tell myself which reminds me to come back to Chen? It's okay. Brilliant. Anyone, what is that one sentence that you're going to tell to yourself? Aarti?

Uh, when I drop the catch in any situation, uh, I'll just give the benefit of doubt to the other person.

Brilliant, very nice.

And then take— stay little silent, take a back seat, analyze. Let me overthink. Let the chinta many come, but at least situation. But I will take that much of enough of time to understand. I'm not going to jump to conclusion, but I might take a distance understand, and then think how to go ahead.

Okay, if I may give you some pointer. Yeah, so see, we are saying every conversation is taking ourselves to the champion. Here I cannot say let the Chintamani come in. It's okay to say let's take a chance, let's take a stop right now, analyze, and move ahead. Yeah, so I won't judge people. Let them have the benefit of doubt. I will take a little step and then respond. Because then the conversation is again giving yourself that negative feedback. Yeah, yeah, okay, got, got your point.

Anil, I will tell myself I am not the only person who has dropped a catch. I will tell, feed myself with all the positive Next time I'll see that I, I'm better. Focus more.

Brilliant.

Sunita?

Hi. Hi.

Uh, yeah, hi.

So I will first, I need to accept what happened and then calm down first, understand what happened, and then decide what I'll do better next time. So like step by step, first take a pause and then go step by step. And then decide what to do next.

That's the process. What is the statement that you're going to tell yourself?

I'll tell myself, okay, now calm down.

This is what has happened.

And now, now think what you will do next time and be kind to yourself. I'll say, okay, no, I've been good in the past, I can do better now also. Let me first see what has happened and I'll just basically be kind to myself. Absolutely.

So I tell myself, be kind to yourself, calm down. This, that statement is important. That first conversation is important. Rest all follows.

Yeah, so quickly acknowledge and focus to next steps. That's what I'll tell.

Quickly acknowledge and focus to next steps. Brilliant, Vijay. I need more practice. Very nice in the chats, Vijay.

So it is not about being perfect, I'll say, but I have to focus and practice more.

I will focus and practice more.

Very nice. And reflect on it.

Very nice. I'll reflect on it. Vikas writes, as I am— Sudhir, I'll come to you. I'll just read Vikas's message. As I'm attending session, I realized to myself champions also make mistakes.

Brilliant.

That's the point. Champions do make mistakes. They rise again only because of the next statement, which is positive, that they said to themselves. That gives them the step forward.

So there I'll say that sentence like, this is certainly not the last catch, so there is always the next time for me.

Brilliant, very nice. See, Ramesh, and we'll move ahead.

Uh, yeah, happy morning, Joe. Yeah, the best opportunity will come, come to me.

The best opportunity. Brilliant. Rameshji.

Correct, correct, correct.

Very nice. All is well. Rameshji.

Something like this.

Very nice. Very good. So for ourselves, we've done brilliantly well with the statements. Last ball, match. It can be a relative which is hooked up. It can be, you know, certain times the younger siblings who've made mistakes. It can be a family member who's been rude to you. They've dropped the catch. Now what is the sentence you're going to tell them is very, very crucial, which can build the relationship. So say my mother comes back, and today I'm seeing my mother at 10 o'clock after she's returned from Vietnam. There's so much of turmoil statement. I mean, I should not blurt out phone on. So what is that one statement? I know what Naren will tell me if I goof up in a session. I had you back, B. Yes, Rajesh Ji.

Don't worry.

Oh, brilliant! I could have also done it. Don't worry. Anil, very nice. You'll get many more chances. Anu?

Yeah, I would tell that next time we need to be more careful, more planned, more focused. Absolutely.

Yeah, absolutely. And I think one of the sharings said that, you know, we need to be around people who don't rip our dignity off us when we are giving our feedback or we are saying something even which is motivating. We need to be careful that we don't rip the dignity of people when they make mistakes. I think that has been the key learning for me in this entire conversation that we've been having so far. Abharti?

We have made mistake, we have learned, we should see that we don't repeat this again in future.

That's it.

And give her tight hug.

Give her tight. Very nice. Or woh tabhi hagle nikale ready nahi hai toh, aapka hagwa hai sa hathadiya toh. It's okay, it's okay, it's okay. Yeah, it's absolutely okay. See, this is so important because as people react, what I'm telling the next is very, very important. I mean, you know, Bharti could have said, I'll tell her, go to hell, merko hagwa kuch nahi karna hai, javedar sii. I mean, that's being totally cynic, but since she says it's okay That's the most important next statement. As we are motivating people, you know, my younger brother, he's a little lazy. I'll come to Sunita and see, you know, little lazy. I don't want to be a cynic right now or a critic. 9 months pregnant, 10 steps and he won't move. And off late we've seen when we are motivating him also, na, He'll come and tell me, I mean, that's the dialogue that comes. Now I have to anticipate, if he's saying this, what is the next thing I'm going to tell him? And as I was preparing for these sessions, no, I have realized what I'm going to tell him. Ice cream, mango flavor. And if he says yes, I'll say, So I'm not developing negativity when he says, 'Tera gyaan wase likha.' I want to deal with it with a lot of love and happiness. Okay, he's not in the moment right now. Bharti, thank you for saying it's okay. He refuses my hug, it's absolutely okay. Thanks, Bharti, you made one nail into the bulletproof whatever thing today in the session. So thank you so much. Sunita?

Yeah, hi. So we need to help them believe that they are capable. So we will tell them, I'm sure you'll figure it out next time.

Absolutely.

And when we do that, the tone cannot be condescending. The tone has to be— they should know that I believe in them totally. This is now.

Yeah, it's me. Uh, yeah, so I would say keep on looking the next chance, keep on looking the opportunity. Like, I, I would love to give the example of the Bharti when we had a badminton tournament. Badminton turnament. Okay, and, uh, I missed the chance, okay, to hit the smash. So that time she told me, okay, don't, don't miss the chance now, okay, keep playing, keep playing. So I, I just remembered that sentence from the Bharti. She has told to me, so thank you for this.

Thank you to you.

Sorry, sorry, go on, go on.

So these are the two sentences that— I'm sorry, you know, you want to say something? Yes, please. Yes, please. Live right now.

I want to see.

Share your statement.

Sorry. Yeah, yeah, I unmuted myself. It's okay. Good sharing.

Good sharing is important.

I—

good sharing is important.

Yeah. So, um, one more thing. Yeah, so one of my close friends from college, Janvi, she keeps saying lightly, like I messed up in a huge assignment last year, last semester, and I was like, she's like, so I think she's the new Rancho, like all is well is the new lightly, all is well.

Yeah, lightly, that's nice. Interesting, interesting, very, very interesting.

Good.

Now comes a very dear part of me, part for me from the session. Discussing about somebody, or discussing— let's test, you know, let's test if somebody whom I really admire has stood up to these 4 quadrants when situations didn't go well in his life. Most of you may be knowing him, some of us may not know the very important parts of his life. I'm speaking about Nelson Mandela. All of us know him. Who was Nelson Mandela? South African— late South African president who fought against apartheid, who fought against racial discrimination, and dedicated his life to get freedom for his people. What really interests me about his life story is 27 years he was restricted to a single prison cell with a small window. 27 years solitary confinement. No birthdays, no weddings, no family functions, no friends to talk to, and he is just restricted there. You know, most of our class students are around 14, 15 years old. This guy lived twice their entire lifetime in a prison cell. He had the moral right to be a cynic, a critic, all negative all the time. But what happened? Did Mandela become the Cynic Mandela? No. On his release from jail, he could have walked out saying, the world is not fair, 'No one is truly bothered about me. Why should I work with anybody?' He didn't blame anyone. Did he become the critic Mandela? Did he start criticizing the whites? Not at all. He could have used his speeches to attack, insult, take revenge. He didn't do that. In fact, when he became the president, everyone expected him to remove every single white working member of the government. He didn't do that. He chose the capable white and let them be together. Why? He had not forgotten what had gone wrong in the past with him and his people. His focus was on building a better future. And to build a better future, I need these white people who are capable, hence take them along. He's not becoming a people pleaser. He's not saying whatever you are saying is right, whatever you are saying, I'll do it along. He didn't even say, 'I will not fight injustice.' He fought injustice. If he disagreed, he said it, but respectfully. When he negotiated with the whites, he did it firmly but respectfully. When we have difference of opinion, when we are not seeing eye to eye with somebody, when somebody behaves not the way that we like, It's absolutely okay to disagree, but to carry on with respect. Through all the trouble and the trauma that he went through, he chose to be a champion Mandela. You know, when he was in prison, the local guards used to speak a language called Afrikaans. He learned that language. He could have very well said, I care a damn sitting in that prison cell, but he said, if I know their language, I'll be able to communicate to them, and sometime probably they might even respond to He wasn't changing his values, he was changing his conversations. Values pe kabhi pichha nahi hai, telekin conversations definitely change kya. From going from cynic, people pleaser, critic to a champion. It so happened that later in a free South Africa, they had— they were going to hold the World Cup rugby match., and people were wanting him to ban that match. Instead, he came onto the ground wearing the all-white celebrated Springbok jersey. Springboks is a group of rugby which was totally white, very, very celebrated. Everyone wanted him to ban that group. He came wearing that jersey on the ground, not because he agreed with the atrocities that the white did, because he wanted a united future. So, you know, one gesture— can I wear a jersey which belongs to them? And that will help me build a future together for my country, because my country wants to develop. We have to move forward. It was so easy for him to slip to become a cynic, critic, or a people pleaser, but he chose the cocky quadrant of championship, and that's why his name rests as one of the greatest leaders of the world. He chose champion not because it was easy. He chose champion because it was the right thing to do. You know, when the friend drops the catch, Mehr could have rebuked her, but she encouraged her instead. Our life and our conversations are built one statement, one sentence at a time. She dropped one catch. In the coming week, we'll have 100 more catches to catch, you and I. We get up in the morning, we prepare to go to the session, we get out, we don't get a cab, we sit in the cab, the cab is too dirty, the window is open, the mudwala water is thrown through us, one other passing truck. Hundreds of balls to drop. Am I willing to take the catch?, and that's going to decide in which quadrant I am. Any situation happens where it's not according to what I want, my question should always be, what quadrant am I choosing of the Cookie Quadrant right now? And that will decide the conversation that I have with myself or I have with people around. You know, champions are not people who don't fail. Champions are not people who don't fail. Champions are people who choose the right quadrant and better conversations every time. Champions are people who choose better conversations every time. Sometimes in the mind also, the cynic or the critic starts working. But I listen to that, and every negative statement I listen to remains with me, right? I am in the room all the time. And surprisingly, the way we relate and speak to the world is the way we relate and speak to ourselves in our mind too. So, Jo, is it just to be a champion when people are wrong around me? No, Mandela didn't do that. He said, I want to be the right to myself, hence I'm going to be in the Champion quadrant. People will make mistakes, people will be unfair to me, people will be unjust. What is my choice? And if I choose the Champion quadrant, I am helping myself become better. Any situation which goes wrong, one choice I rebuke, the another choice I become a champion and relate better with a better conversation. End of it. Forget about what the other person goes through. I end up feeling better. Brilliant, Vikas bhai, what you write. Always see Narayan asking, am I missing something? Very, very powerful. The onus is on me in every conversation that I have, and that builds my future. So when we say the next statement, choose carefully, because somebody out there is listening to that statement, and most importantly, somebody inside me is always listening to that statement. Hence, my choice needs to be the champion portrait. Ultimately, the choice is mine to to be in the Champion quadrant. Wish you all the best to be champions in the next 15 days before we go to the classrooms. Thank you. So let us now go through the parts of the session. I didn't want to drop the flow of the session Hence, after every part, I didn't say this is the first part, this is the second part. I believe this was a journey which was very important to go seamlessly. Now let's go through the parts of the session, and then I will ask you what are your main learnings from the conversations we've had today. First part recap: we start with the trekking example, and then we do box breathing with the snow globe exam. Okay, second part. What did we do in the second part? Anybody remembers? The Kochi quadrant. Absolutely, we discussed the Kochi quadrant and we discussed the different characteristics. That's the main second part. The third part, we wrote those two— we wrote situations where we were in the past one week and plotted it in the quadrant. That's the private plotting. And then we answered, where were we? Sharing happened. So that's a sharing part of the entire session. Last part of the session, we wrote those two sentences. When somebody drops the catch, what will we say? When we drop the catch, what will we say? And we ended with the example of Nelson Mandela. Where he chose the champion quadrant in every situation of his life. Simple, 4 parts. Timings are given in the PDF. Any questions with the parts of the session? Any confusions there? All good? Does anybody want me to repeat the sequence? I think it's pretty clear, but if required I can. Good, very nice. Joe, you have done it. Tell you, uh, before I hand over to Naren I will definitely want to hear what has been the best or the most important learning for us through the session today. Yes, Kuldeep.

I think brilliant session, Jo. Thank you so much. Very well structured. Being a Sindhi, so I had koki many times. So biggest learning for me also was koki quadrant. But it reminds me of a statement which, you know, Novak Djokovic has said many a times, that, you know, no one can be positive or can think positive all the time. We are human beings, it's impossible.

Absolutely.

But the biggest difference in the players who make it to be the biggest champions and those who struggle with is the ability to not to stay in that emotion for long. I think that has been the big—

absolutely—

biggest learning, that realizing in which quadrant I am and moving to a champion quadrant and not stay in that quadrant for long. So that ability is something we have to develop.

Brilliant, brilliant.

And Nelson Mandela's story is—

sorry, sorry.

Yeah, I think if anyone has to make the right coffee, the right balance of Yes, yes.

I think the movie Invictus, uh, is a brilliant movie. I have seen many times, and the character which Nelson Mandela has been portrayed in that movie is brilliant. Like he says, uh, then Rainbow Nation starts here, reconciliation starts here. Absolutely brilliant, brilliant. I think before the session, I would watch that movie once again so that It's fresh.

Absolutely.

And we wonder, no, what must be the steel of the man in the brain. Wow, thanks Kuldeep. Invictus, right? I'm going to watch it today itself.

What is the name of the movie?

Invictus. I put it in the chat.

I—

yes.

Yeah, thank you, Kuldeep. Suhail?

Yeah, um, you know, I thought I was created to be a critic, uh, all my life, a born critic. And, uh, I justified it by saying that, yeah, but I'm improving, you know, trying to point out this, but I realized today the learning was that, you know, you can move through the quadrants to be a champion. At the same time, to, you know, get the same effect that you would be getting while being a critic, you could get the same thing done while being a champion as well.

Wow, wonderful. How wonderful. Thank you for sharing this. How wonderful. Vijay, happy morning. Happy morning.

This session really made lot of clarity. From Chinta Mini, we go to communication with ourselves.

Correct.

So yesterday I won the finals, 55+ singles at Vedang. So that time, lot of critics were going, simple match, and I'm making silly mistakes, just putting it outside. Then again, that communication of critics, what I've learned, itna practice waste. Then again, stick to the basic point by point. And then I went through it. So I just record everything, points and one. So very, uh, beautiful session that this Sinta many will bring from people, critics to this. But I have to focus on to be champion in everything. And what I say outside will also reflect inside.

Yeah, absolutely.

Then what I reflected inside came outside. Stick to the basic, go step by step, and it reflected. So give me a lot of reflection in this session. Very beautiful and nice session.

Thank you so much. Thank you. And what you say, that the reflection outside is what I'm going to reflect inside, is— it's so true. I mean, lived it for the past 10 days since we've been preparing the session. Or kitni baar hai, say, thaad thaad thaad hai, say, na, kua hai. So I'm so glad all of us— thanks to Naren, of course, for creating this session for all of us, and it's been such an opening, opener of our mind, idea. I listen to Vedwati for the first time. She's raised her hand today. Yeah, hi. I think we have discussed everything. One thing which struck with me was in every conversation I have The onus remains with me. So that's the key takeaway for me for today's session. Thank you.

Thank you for sharing.

How wonderful! The onus remains with me. And Parag writes, great realization that unknowingly I can turn cynic, critic, people pleaser at times. Of course we go there, but good we have tool now to make us move to the right champion spot. It's all about moving to the right champion important.

Uh, Bharti, Bella, session choice C. Dusra, Chinta Mani, C. Tisra, Cookie, C. Wow, this is so nice. But yeah, what I pick up from this session which I am planning to implement in the next 15 days is the— I, I myself also can be a cynic, critic, And in all 4 categories. But I should also be kind enough to myself that it's okay.

Ho gaygal thi. Absolutely.

Now just move fast. I should not remain there and keep overanalyzing. Just move fast. Move fast. Being kind and telling myself it's okay, that is more important. Because only then I will be able to give an impactful session in the classroom.

Absolutely, absolutely.

Ramesh Ji, how to react to such situations?

Immediate.

Absolutely, absolutely. Anu, thank you, thank you.

Yeah, um, I always believe that, um, I cannot let anyone take that peace of my mind.

Yeah.

Or even to hate someone or to think about someone so much is paying attention to that person.

Absolutely.

And Invictus movie I saw when my elder brother had shown it to me, and when I was going through a rough time of my life.

Correct.

And it's a poem, William Henry, and in the last he says that I am the master of my fate. And, uh, I'm the captain of my soul, so I can't let anyone take that away, the peace of my mind.

Absolutely.

When I became a counselor in the school, like, lot of colleagues were— they showed. I didn't expect, um, but not everyone is like that, correct?

Correct.

So I kept my calm and let my work show. And I'm getting there.

All the best, all the best. Monica?

Uh, thank you, Jo. Such a powerful and such a simple session. Like, isn't it? Yeah, simple, very simple, but yeah, very, very deep. And I realized that, uh, in my life, when I look at the broad picture, I've moved from people pleaser to being a cynic to being a critic, and I am getting to the champions with every mindful pause that I take.

Absolutely.

What really was very powerful for me was the last sentence that when you speak, someone is listening, and that someone always is you.

Yeah.

True. Thank you, thank you, thank you. We'll listen to Amit, Anil, Tasneem, Siona, and then we'll move on. And thanks for all the messages in the chat box also.

There are—

I sit and read them after the session gets over. So thank you for that, Amit.

Uh, yeah, I think what stayed with me from this session is the initial snow globe example. Most of the time, the solutions are always in front of us, but when we are being critical and cynical, they're like that dust in front of it. Usually, the time is the biggest healer.

When we wait and things settle automatically, and when we become a champion, automatically, things become very evident and clear to us.

Absolutely. Absolutely.

How true. Anil?

I like the way Bharti connected CCC. Yeah, see, my journey— I am responsible for my journey. I go in the right direction. When I go to Chinta Mani, I'm going in the right direction. When I have the right conversation So everything lies within me. People are not going to change me to come to the positive or be a champion. It is my responsibility. I have to take charge of myself. People may say anything about me, but unless if I am responsible about my life— all these things are connected in such a beautiful way, I become a champion.

Wonderful!

How wonderful! Thank you. First name? Yes, hello. This session resonates with my first— our first session choices. The statement, 'Yad bhavat tad bhavati'— it is all about our choices, what we choose to become, whether we want to— ultimately, it's a choice to let go of our panic situation or our critic situation. Phoenix, every time we have to choose to move from one to another. Life happens, but we have to choose the right thing forward. Absolutely, absolutely. See you now.

Yeah, so I'll go first. Both of us want to share a bit, so short and sweet, huh?

Yeah, yeah.

So I just want to say two lyrics that I— of my favorite rapper that I could really relate with this session. So the first one is, but know that it was— but know that it was a thorny path with enemies everywhere. I hope you never forget the one who threw flowers on the road for for you. So like Champions, um, like, right, she encouraged the co-fielder who dropped the catch. Similarly, throw flowers on others' path, don't make their lives more difficult. And the second lyric is, don't forget the world isn't very patient, don't ever laugh at other people's misfortune because that might happen to you someday. So when you're a cynic or a critic and you're putting other people down, you're also going to be at the receiving end of it someday because Yeah, the world is around, please. Circle of life.

Thank you.

Uh, yeah, beautiful session. First of all, Joe, thank you so much. I like the America story and the Nelson Mandela example. So on that base, I just, uh, um, I learned from this session is, uh, I have seen The Princess Diaries movie, okay? In that Queen and Princess was actually the main character and all. So Princess doesn't want to be a princess, but accident, and she made an accident, okay. It's okay, she was the Queen of Genoa. Okay, we will pay for that. And, uh, behavior and all, authority, correct. Granddaughter, and she was amazed because, and after that she have decided to become a princess. So sometimes in this type of situation, when we are better off, don't push someone down, okay? In the critical situation, pull them up as a champion. So absolutely, that's what I have learned. Thank you so much.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I think before I hand over, I would personally like to say a couple of things which have been very important to me. Like Monica said, uh, that statement in the last of the session that someone is always listening to you, and that's me. And I realized that even in my mind, if I'm critiquing somebody, that statement and those words are in my head, and I don't deserve to have them in me because anything negative is going to— you know, one bad apple in the basket destroys everything. So one bad thought, even if it is for somebody else, will destroy everything that's good about me. And you know, it's like that 'Dimag'— it keeps eating without even me realizing, and suddenly one day the wall will fall down and we realize it was infected with 'Dimag.' So, 'Mujhe mere dimag mein nahi chahiye dimag,' or 'Itna ata hai, matlab every immediate sentence, ya baara hai,' because of awareness I'm saying, 'No, no, no, you're listening to the dialogue, don't be there.' I mean, transform it, change the conversation. And for me, the next most important thing was 'When I drop the catch, what is it that I'm going to tell myself?' That moment, the sentence that I'm going to tell myself, that's going to change everything. So I think when somebody drops the catch, or when I drop the catch, I'm going to be very aware about what's the most immediate next statement, because that will decide everything that happens later on. I believe I have stopped feeling like a victim a long time ago because of my circumstances. But this session made me realize, subconsciously, being a critic and cynic, I was feeling like a victim. So for me, the challenge I've taken up to myself is remove all these critical and cynical thoughts, and even if they come, jump to champion almost instantly, because I don't want to end up feeling like a victim. I will want to live like a champion every day of my life. So thank you so much that we have had such a wonderful session, and thank you, Naren, for giving this brilliant, brilliant session to us. Handing over to you now. Thank you, love you all, have a great time in the session.

Very well done. Congratulations on yet another Exceptional session. For many of us, communication fundamentally meant the sound that we create when we talk to somebody else, right? Talking. But an integral part of communication is a communication which happens inside, where the world may not know what is happening. But something is happening inside, and that is what I meant when I shared about, uh, the story today, that the person who could, uh, cut the trees spoke not only about what happens when the world sees it, but also what is happening when the world is not seeing it. You know, I become a cynic critic a people pleaser. There is something happening inside over here. Now, in that context, let me leave you with just one question. We don't have time to go deep today, and I would love to take this deeper in the coming life lesson. The question is, what does victory cost the victor? Let's say I'm a cynic and I tell somebody, so let's say I proved my cynicism, I won. What did it cost me? Let's say I become a critic, I don't appreciate, I only find faults. And I could very successfully point out everybody's fault. What did that cost me? Let's say I'm a people pleaser, and like Beto said, normally people pleasers feel like a victim. So what did that— your ability to please people, you emerge as a winner in the world outside— actually cost you? So what did victory cost the victor? Is a question which we have to reflect deeply on. You know, the need to prove a point, the need to win an argument, the need to be heard, the need to complain— what does that cost us? Is a very beautiful, simple question. Now all of you know about PV Sindhu, and, uh, PV Sindhu went through a title drought, which means for 19 months she could not win any tournament. And recently she won the Japan Open where we defeated the world number 4. You know, between the earlier victory In this victory, how many tournaments she played in? I think it was 31 tournaments. And in many of these tournaments, she came out in the first round, in the second round. So one of those days, she called Virat Kohli and she asked him, what do I do? Because imagine somebody who's become world number 2 who's got world championships, and now she's losing in the first round, second round. What does a coach express? What is she thinking about herself? What is her family going through? Are people looking at her and saying, you're beyond, she's past her prime now? You know, when you're not able to perform at your peak, everybody has doubts about you. So she asked Virat Kohli, how do you deal with this? Virat Kohli said something very simple, which to me is a beautiful way to handle the cynic, the critic, and people pleasers. Virat Kohli just said, find your own source of joy. Anybody who has a source of joy in the heart these negatives won't be a part of our life. And unknowingly, subconsciously, these negatives are nothing else but an attempt to find a source of joy. So if I can criticize something about today's session, let's say to B and say, so in criticizing and finding falls, I'm getting my joy. I proved my intelligence. One of those days in life lessons, I'm going to talk about how virtues should drive intelligence and not the other way around. Intelligence without virtue is completely useless. Intelligence with virtues is what is useful. But that topic for some other day. If you can also find your inner source of joy, it could be meditation, it could be memories of the past, it could be what you learned out of this experience, it could be how blessed I am in my life, it could be going for a run, it could be having a Bourbon biscuit, it could be anything. If you can find your source of joy— if Bitu had her source of joy, she wouldn't have become chinta mani when mom was in Vietnam. It's profound. Find your own source of joy. And the fact that we are alive and doing well, there is enough for us to be joyous about. By the way, do you know that these musicians, uh, Atul and Ajay, they were also a big fan of, uh, Mandela? Yeah, and, and they always wanted to play with Mandela also. And, and that is why— I, I don't know how many of you know this, but 2000, uh 10 in that movie, Natrang. They also created a song, uh, dedicated to him called Khele Mandela, Khele Mandela. I, I really believe they were inspired by Mandela and they were saying, come on, let's play like Mandela. Springboks t-shirt and all, you know. They were saying, learn from Mandela and play like Mandela. Did you hear the latest PJ? Because Siona was speaking about youth and, uh, movement and party and, you know, all that. Do you know the latest PJ? Our education minister is a PJ, Pralhad Joshi. The latest PJ news, Pralhad Joshi. P is wondering, where is my session going? Sita, find your own source of joy. Sachin is a new education minister. By the way, do you guys know that though Dhirubhai Ambani was not a Sindhi, but he also used to love koki? Boom, boom, boom, boom!

Finding his joy.

I have so much joy in my heart now. The trick to all this is find your joy, anchor yourself on joy. And I know some So much so they got the Hindi cooked then. Okay, this week has been very special for me, and let me complete, uh, today's session with speaking about this week. And this week had enough opportunities to implement this session. Um, Tuesday was my birthday, 21st July 1969. I was born and Tuesday was my birthday. And how did I welcome my birthday? Since it was on 21st, I ran 21 kilometers in the morning. First 21, of course, practice. Authorized, but I ran 21K. And every birthday I want to bring in by running a 21K in the morning. Thanks to TJ who gave me this, uh, entire keeda about running. I mean, I'll be grateful to TJ for the rest of my life. Every day I ran 21, and you know, I was so happy I was not born on 31st July. As I was running, I was saying, thank you, Mom, thank you, Mom, thank you, Mom, thank you, Mom. And after 10K, I thought also, I was born in July, and I could see what is happening over here. You know, when you want to push yourself outside comfort zone the mind will pull you back. And there, session number 1 comes in. We have to make a choice. As I live my life in a difficult situation, the mind will pull you back. And again, you implement session number 1, make a choice. It is always about make a choice, make a choice, make a choice, and it really nudges you ahead. And how beautiful this week has been. Uh, this week, for the first time ever in my life, I have ran 50 km. So my total running this week has been, uh, 50.10 km. So I began running on my birthday and I completed running on my son's birthday. So today is Niru's birthday. So I woke up at 4, went for my jog, came home, did— got ready and came to Life School office for this session. What is important is, as today morning also when I was running and my coach had told me run 1 hour, and suddenly I realized if I run a little more, I will be able to cover 50 km. And the mind immediately said, you know, all those things come. And then you make a choice. Okay, not right now, but 1 hour later when this run is complete, what will make me feel very proud of myself? And that helps you to make these choices. So internal communication is as critical as external communication. In the internal communication, if you are not finding a source of joy but source of hurt or a source of ego, then internal communication will never become right. In external communication, as long as there is respect for the other person, the external communication will also come out right. So for me to ensure great internal communication is fill yourself with joy. Great external communication— fill yourself with respect. In finding source of joy, I have to look at my life and see what is good. In finding respect, I have to look at you and see what is good. It's not simple. It's not simple. If I can see the good that I have And if I can see the good you have, it will be effortless for me to implement today's session. Will a thought come or not? Thoughts will come, but as they come, I make a choice. Today's session will become effortlessly a part of your life. So when you go inside the classroom, by that time, see if you can practice these two. When you look at your life source of joy. When it comes to others, see the good in them and see what it does to you. TJ, thanks so much for inspiring all of us to run. I really, really, really enjoyed running my first ever 50 km in a week. Wish you great glory as you experience this session. Wish you an amazing kind of a confidence in yourself as you implement this session. And when you go inside the school and impact the children, may you succeed beyond your wildest imaginations in seeing those sparks in the lives of kids. But thanks so much for taking this so beautifully well. Looking forward to listening to your stories about how well it went for you. Thank you so much, darlings, and love you all.