Short solo message by Kim Zoller (YouTube) about choosing accountability over blame. Zoller cites Brené Brown’s idea that blame discharges fear and anger, advises pausing to ask why something feels bad, cultivating curiosity and learning from mistakes, and reframes saying sorry as a strength that helps build stronger relationships.
Accountability. I don't think a week goes by where that isn't a huge topic of conversation between our clients. Hi, I'm Kim Zoller, and welcome to Wednesday's Wirings. I love when Brene Brown says that blame is the discharge of fear and anger. And I want to say, yes, and blame happens because we don't have the skill of accountability. What's the skill? The skill is when someone says something and it feels bad and there's a reason for it, we want to blame. Well, if we stop and we say, why does this feel bad, bad to me? What can I do? How can I learn? How can I be curious? What can I do to make it better next time? We actually learn, and we actually build stronger relationships. And by the way, if we need to, saying we're sorry is not something that actually makes us lesser. It makes us more. Because what we're doing is saying, okay, I'm learning. I'm sorry I did that. I'm learning. I'm getting curious. And I can move on, and we can move on together. Have the very best day.
