Kim Zoller reflects on how judgment shows up in conversations and suggests replacing it with curiosity. When you catch yourself judging, ask "what am I missing?" to build real connection instead.
Are you ever in a conversation with someone and you're thinking about, like, why are they doing this? And I wouldn't have done that. And you start to realize. Well, maybe you don't even realize that really you're judging. But then all of a sudden, you become mindful that I'm judging. And all that does is take a connection, any connection, and just throw it away. And so the next time you find yourself doing this, ask yourself, what am I missing? What don't I know? Which takes you out of judgment and forms an amazing connection.
