159: Why You’re Not Where You Want to Be and the SIX Guiding Principles to Get You There with Angelike Norrie

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Welcome to the Earn your happy podcast. I'm Lori Harder, founder of The Bliss Project, 3 Time Fitness World champion, fitness expert and cover model, turned self love junkie, lifestyle entrepreneur and author.

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Thank you so much for having me. I'm super excited to be back. So like crazy since the beginning, right?

Oh my God. It feels like yesterday, but it's been, it's been a year and a half, just so you know.

And like 2 million downloads or something crazy. Like 4.

4 million.

I got a whale. It's moving that fast. It has scaled.

And you are my top episode. So not only are you like my massive earth angel, you are my top episode. Funny how that works. It's so not funny at all because it's literally. Of course that's how it works. Just the energy between two people when you talk. So you guys, I'm so excited for this episode. Number one I just get to have fun. Number two, I get to have Anne John again. And she just spoke you guys in front of 15,000 people and delivered what she is going to share with you. But we're going to dig in even deeper here and ask some questions along the way that I think you guys have. And if you want to know her entire story, you can go back to my very first episode, my very first interview and you can check it out so you can listen to everything we literally went from like birth to now. So if you want to know her life cycle and everything that came with it and it is an incredible story. So after this go back and listen. But we're going to give you a brief over overview right now in order for her to get into six guiding principles that we are going to talk about today. So these are the six guiding principles for her life, for your life that you can apply immediately. And if you could just give us a brief overview of kind of where you're at right now, where these came from, what's been going on in your life lately.

Yeah, well, just kind of the cliff notes of my story. You know, I was a college dropout turned professional martial artist for a decade that beat up her body and knew that I would never find a man because the average age of every student that walked in was about 11 for me.

What if you got like three of.

Them that would work really weird along the way.

Moving on.

So the professional martial arts turned into my career in conforming as you will in my profession in corporate world where I was a medical device sales rep and then regional sales director. But I really missed the idea of competing. So I immersed myself a little bit in the world of fitness and that's how you and I met. And so I started cross pollinating all of these different skill sets from the world of professional martial arts where you are kicking and punching and training for a living but you're also learning life skills like the life skills of discipline, integrity, self worth, respect for others, perseverance. And as I was in that world, I really just had this huge dream in my heart when I would lay awake at night and have visions, like big visions, real visions of a sea of people. And I just knew they weren't 6 or 7 or 10 or 11. I knew they were adults that really needed for me to change the atmosphere in their life. So I started to chase after that and when I got into corporate I didn't find them there. And so that's really how my story ends up to where we are now. And how I stepped into the world of network marketing professionalism that turned into where I am now in my strategic intervention coaching and working with people one on one and teams of people in our profession. But along the way, a ton, A ton, A ton of struggles and ton of life events, major life events. And so I've always kept these guiding principles in the forefront when anything got cloudy or overwhelmed. You know, people have asked me before, my gosh, how did you do it during that time? And it was the guiding principles. And the guiding principles really what get me out of bed every day so that I can maintain my mission. And that's really what I'm so passionate about, to help people and get clear on where they are and who they are.

Amazing. So what I want people to know is, you know, these guiding principles pulled you through some pretty deep, dark moments in your life. So while your life, you were having these beautiful, you know, things happen. You, you were getting married, your career was taking off, you started a network marketing business that, you know, now you're seven figures and you have two children. But there was also so many things along the way while you were creating a life that you love. But what else was happening?

Well, I mean, if the birth of two children isn't enough to derail your whole focus and your life, I know a lot of parents can understand that it will literally take you right off track because your whole world changes in the blink of an eye. But I lost both of my parents, both to really traumatic struggles in cancer. In that time frame, we had five or six. I don't if I've lost count moves four of which were across country in interstate moves, six. So there's a lot of things that could be looked at like a sedation. People get sedated in their life by different items, different events. And those were, some of them, you know, the sedation of my parents, like, just wanting to kind of crawl in a hole and numb out, you know, and lose yourself to that event and sort of lose yourself to the suffering versus, you know, focusing on, gosh, what in my life right now needs to. Where do I need to move the needle? How do I get through this and still maintain who I am? How do I get through this and know that when I come up for air from this life event that I have something going on and I'm not starting from scratch or starting from zero? And I think that's where a lot of people get it twisted, is they get so lost in the moment or so lost in the suffering because the pain is Inevitable. Regardless of whatever you're going through, the pain is inevitable. Everyone has their source of pain. Everyone goes through something where they're going to identify with the most painful, you know, catastrophic event in their life, whatever that may be. And you know, it might be something minute for one person, it might be something astronomical to someone else, but the pain is the same. It's just the suffering is the choice. So when we choose the suffering, we can't choose our guiding principles. Because if you're choosing your guiding principles, then you're actually choosing to flex a muscle that is going to bring more positivity, more abundance, more clarity in your life. But if you're choosing the suffering or if you're allowing that the agenda of that event to take over, you're. You're going to get lost in it. And that's one of the hardest things that a lot of people end up getting kind of caught up in.

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I love that you said that because it really is all relative. And the thing is, is that I remember so many times, like you know, when maybe I was going through something and I would just log on social media or think of you or text you or think of the talk to you, the different things that you were going through, especially as you were, you know, helping take care of your mother on her last few months or when you moved in to help take care of her. Just all of these things that you were still holding up because you had a team of how many people to still run. You had your girls, you had your family, you had, you had to take care of your own health and you knew how vital that was. What was that within you that pulled you through that? What did you tap into? I know that we tap. We'll go into your principles in just a minute, but what was that?

I really think that once you get an agreement and this is kind of where one of the guiding principles live, you know, is my faith is my first and Foremost guiding principle. And once you get in agreement with God and you get an agreement and what that call is on your life, it's. It becomes a critical decision to not deviate from that plan. And when you don't get an agreement, you go way off course. Is anyone listening right now? That just feels so way off course. And that's the primary answer for me, is like, when I don't have alignment in my life and I am so way off course, I know I'm way off course with my alignment and my agreement with God. That's the only way I can get an agreement with what I'm supposed to be doing here, is when I get an agreement with him. And so faith is my top priority and my top guiding principle. And that is what I tapped into. And if you're listening to this and wondering maybe where that resides, for me, it's a gut check. I know that the more that you develop yourself and the more you listen to podcasts like Earn your happy, and the more you understand who you are and what you're here for, the more that becomes more of a clear voice. But, you know, my mission is to crack people open to hearing that more and more and more. And even if they've never heard it before, go, oh, my God, what was that? Where did it come from? And how do I hear it again? That's my mission. And the only way that I know I can crack people open to that is to be really clear myself. So in moments of that kind of overwhelm, it was about tapping into that place. Where does that reside? Inside of me. And it lived right, like, right in my solar plexus, Right where your heart is, right where your spirit and your soul reside. I just know that. I know that. I know that when I'm that clear, I can hear it from that place.

So real quick, for people, just as a reference point, one sentence or two sentences, what does it feel like when you're in and what does it feel like when you're out?

Physically, mentally, when you're. When you're out? Massive overwhelm. You know, everyone has an emotional home or a favorite flavor of stress. Like Tony Robbins puts it, mine is overwhelmed. I get really stressed. I feel like everything's everywhere. And all of a sudden, the first thing I want to go do is, like, clean my house. Because if I can find order in the physical, I feel like I can find order in the spiritual. And that's not always true, but if it helps me sort that out therapeutically, somehow in my head, it's what I'll go do. Unfortunately, a lot of people find and choose that activity, and then that's what they do over and over and over again. And they have order in their house, but they don't have order in their spirit. And that's when you start going after and putting your love and energy into the things that aren't loving you back. You'll have the perfect, clean, ordered house, but everything is messed up inside. So feeling out for me is just feeling like I can't get my schedule under control. There's multiple sensory overloads going on. Like, there's too much noise in my house. I want to shut off TVs, radios, everyone talking, everyone has to shut up. You know, like, it's just like this weird. Everything's caving in, and I can't hear myself think. And when you're in, it is like the best feeling when you can just go outside, put your feet in the grass, feel the earth under you, breathe in and out, and go. I'm clear. And being able to just make a decision without wavering, just. It's either a hell yes or a hell no. If there's anything in between, then something's off. One of the guiding principles is off. And if one of those guiding principle gears is off, the whole mechanism doesn't work.

Okay, love a couple things that you love the whole thing. But here's things that stuck out for me, so I so feel you. That's also my favorite flavor. Like. Like triple scoop, stress overwhelm. And it's. It's like people can look at you and be like, still think that you're getting things done. So it's also. You're tricking yourself, like, oh, this looks good. Oh, look at. Cleaning my house is still good. So those are the things that I do, too. I go clean my house or I go do something that I'm good at. And it's like, those are the moments. What do you say to yourself when you catch yourself doing it? Because I do it all the time. And a lot of times what I'll say is, is like, I'll go clean my house or go do something that still feels like I'm taking care of business. And I'll be like, stop, no, this doesn't matter right now. This actually is not important for what you're trying to get done. Like, this is the trap. So I try to call it out. What do you do?

Whoa. So you just said you do what you're good at. And I want the listeners to really hear what she just said, you do what you're good at. And this is going to make a lot more sense when we dive into the guiding principles. But ever know a serial fitness competitor or serial marathon runner or cereal, like, they just keep doing this thing that they're good at over and over and over again. Chasing it could be cereal, countertop upgraders and wood floors and carpet, like serial house cleaning. Like it could come in any form of sedation for them or a shiny object, if you will. And that is one of the reasons why we don't do do it. So for those of those people that you know do that and we all do it, I know we can. I get in that trap too. You go after something that you know you can accomplish and it's that science of achievement. Yet the art of fulfillment is so way off because you weren't feeding the, the guiding principle. You weren't moving the needle on the one thing that is missing in your life. Instead, you went and did it again on the path of least resistance for something that you know that you could do or count on to feel good in that moment. And while that's important, sometimes when you just, hey, what's gonna make me feel better right now? Make it 5 minutes. Please do not spend the next 12 weeks or a year devoting your time to something that isn't going to move the needle. Unless you're a professional athlete or countertop maker, like whatever it is like, then that's not part of your guiding principles. But if that's not feeding you and fulfilling you and nourishing you, and you're just gonna end up broke, spiritually broke. And I see that all the time. I'll talk to people and coach people and they'll tell me and spill their guts and get really clear and down to the root of the intimate details of what pains them. And then the next six months they disappear because they're renovating. I'm like, what happened in that conversation that we missed that whole mark? And it's because they just want to go do something that they can control because everything else is out of control.

You can see a difference, that you can see an upgrade that you can see it feels more immediate. And there's so many things that we can do that feel more immediate than that long term goal that you are. You have to have so much faith to hang in there with that long term goal because it could be a year, it could be 10 years. It's insane. And you, you might not even get there. And the 10 years leading up to. It could have all just been for something else. That takes 10 more years. But it's all worth it is the thing. It's just, it's so crazy. So, okay, so that was principle one. So let's move on to number two. Unless you have anything left to say about it.

Well, just whatever your principle, wherever your principles lie, you know mine aren't necessarily going to be yours. But find out what they are for you and for me, like I said, faith is the foundation of who I am. To always give my first and last to God. And knowing that everything in between is going to be in alignment and in agreement because I gave my first and last there. And that means for me, living in that world of self development as well. Because everything around us evolves and grows because it was meant to and created to. So if you're staying the same every day and nothing's changing and everything else around you is evolving and growing because it's meant to and created to, then essentially you're going backwards. Because if the world is moving forward and you're sitting still, you're going to be left behind. And if you ever feel like you're in that place of trying to catch up, it's because you haven't gotten agreement with that. So again, first and last to God and by every, you know, by the grace of God, everything will start pulling together in the center. That's, that's why the faith is so important to me. My second guiding principle is my family. They teach me to love harder every single day. And we live in a society now where we have over romanticized hustle and grind. And I would like to over romanticize loving again. Like I want those values to come back to where, you know, I can look at my children and know that later in their life they're not going to give me the middle finger because I wasn't there, you know, and I, and I don't have to compromise who I am as a mother and as a woman and what I'm supposed to do here to still do that. You know, I think that's where a lot of people, you know, oftentimes say, well, my children, my children are my why. Yes, your children are your why. But what are you doing every day to fulfill that? You know, I've coached people through that. Even this morning on our, in our rise with intention calls, we had woman talk about her children being her why. And then I dug deeper with her. I said, okay, what does that mean to you? How old are your children? They were 19 and 17. And so they were well on their way to adulthood. And then it was, well, I want to be better because I wasn't there, and I want to heal myself. So really, after she told me everything, it was really about her being better. And I said, so really, you. Your guiding principle is a little bit off kilter. They will then be more of your purpose and more of your why, if you can show them your ability to elevate where you're supposed to be. And that's what I choose for my girls. I look at them every day knowing that as a mother, I would be remiss not to say, dream as big as you want to dream, do as much as you want to do, give as much as you want to give, have as much as you want to have. But I'd be massively incongruent and out of integrity if I was not doing what I wanted to do, not being what I wanted to be, not giving it the level I wanted to give, and not having what I know I deserve to have. So that's why my family is so important. And then, of course, as a wife, to be better every day as a wife, I don't believe that you stand at the altar on your wedding day for the fairytale wedding, and then you screw up the rest of the time because it doesn't work well. You know, there's gonna be fights, there's gonna be situations where you're not communicating well. There's gonna be massive resistance. There's going to be events that can easily tear you apart. But if that's not one of your guiding principles, then it's gonna. It essentially will fade away. And I'm just not willing to make that compromise. So my family teaches me every day to love harder. And without them and without me being able to move that needle every day, then again, if that's off, if I'm not moving the needle in family, then everything else won't feel right either. My faith will be off. And all the other the guiding principles that are to come after it will be off, too. So all of these are just as important. If, come hell or high water, at least do one thing to move the needle forward every day.

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I love that. And I think we forget that even it. It feels kind of like sometimes family time can feel like time off or you're taking time away from that thing that you know that you're doing for your family. So we get lost in this. Like, well, I'm doing this for my family. I'm doing this to try to change. And while that's so important, and there are times when, man, you are just in the thick of it.

Right?

You really are. Like, I don't know if there's much other word for it than you just feel like you are hustling. So what do you do during that time? Is it like you make appointments for something and then, you know, or you. You make family time and then everything else gets filled in around it or. What is that? I mean, even you and I like her, and I just got back from a trip from Greece, and I swear to you, if we did not just put those dates on the calendar and commit to them and put the money down, I don't know if we would have went because it's also easy for us to get into that mode because it feels good. We feel productive. It feels like we're helping people. So what does that look like to make both happen? When you do have a big goal and you are trying to really move the needle on your life?

Well, you know what? I am not going to try to paint this as, well, some Walton's picture perfect family. Like, we are one second away from chaos half the time, and then it's chaos. And then I go into that overwhelming place of sensory overload and want to shut down and start cleaning. So I feel what everyone that is listening feels on a daily basis. But there's sacred space. And I'd be lying telling you that during that sacred space that I don't easily get sedated because my phone notifications are going off and an email came through that needs attention. But if we can make a conscious decision to create sacred space, the same sacred space that you create around whatever job you're clocking into or whatever project you're trying to tackle, you have to create sacred space around your family. And children have a great way of doing that unconsciously to snap you back into reality. And one of the stories I actually told at our convention last week that you just mentioned was I was feeling so, like so much resistance, freaking out about holding space for these thousands of people. And I shut myself into our hotel suite and the other adjoining hotel suite was right where my girls and my husband were. And Phoenix, our two year old, came barging in in the middle of me wanting to either throw up or give up. And she had her hair all over the place, a chocolate bar on her face, and she reached down and tapped her diaper and goes, I poo pooed. And I was like, okay, so I'm out of that moment in that craziness right now, and I have to change a diaper. Like, it's just what happens. So you just, you get very clear on no matter how critical and how much pressure you feel in this moment, nothing was more important than right now than wiping her butt. It just has to happen. So you treat it like I get to do this because I would be missing these moments. Please, please, please. Whatever you're chasing after, if your guiding principles, especially your faith and especially your family ever take a backseat, you are building this empire that you're chasing in spite of the reasons that you started it. And that will screw you up as long as the day is long. I mean it. And I've been there and I've talked to moms that feel massive shame and guilt because they're not building this empire because they wanted to be with their kids, or they're not spending time with their kids because they're building this empire. I'm like, no, you have to learn a counterbalance. I think balance is bs. I really don't think it exists. I think you can do one thing great, two things, half ass and three things, you drop the ball. And if you ever watch a ballerina on her toes, there is a billion muscles going off there in counterbalance, not one over the other. It is just a counterbalance of so many different things happening. And that's what life is. So you just have to know that your focus can't be divided and to be as cognizant of that sacred space as possible and know and give yourself permission that you're gonna screw up. Have your oh my God moment and may it be five minutes. Just don't milk it for a year.

I love that. Okay, so number three.

Okay, Fitness. This is a big one. The best way I could sum up fitness, okay, is our look. You're here for a distinct purpose. Again, that's my mission in life, is helping people unlock that. But what good is it if you aren't nourishing and restoring the vessel that you carry it in? That doesn't mean you have to be a cover model. It just means that you have to, again, be better today than you were yesterday. What does that mean for you? And moving your body and nourishing your body? Because it's the one and only place you have to live. My saying that I live by is if the queen doesn't eat, the kingdom won't either. And if I don't restore that, if I don't nourish that, I am going to be terrible for my family. I'm going to be terrible for my business, my colleagues, my mentees, my clients. I'm not going to feel good about praying about anything because I'm going to be falling apart at the seams. So there's not much more I can say about fitness other than that. But just make it a priority. And even if it's not every day, that's okay. It's just as long as you're doing something each day to move that forward. If you have a bad day, have three good ones after it. Don't have a bad day. And then it downward spiral into 10 more. Then it's a month goes by and then a year, and then a decade later you go, what happened? And then this hidden resentment comes up. And instantly we blame our circumstance, our job, an event, a person. We complain about it, we justify, we rationalize the reasons why we didn't feed ourselves, nourish ourselves, restore ourselves, or build ourselves. That is a personal accountability issue. You gotta take a hard look in the mirror and know that you didn't take responsibility to taking care of yourself that day.

So this is so huge. This is a huge one for me. I mean, they're, they're all huge. But for me, even, I don't even necessarily feel connected to other people or connected to God when I am not moving my body. So this is one of the things that actually helps, helps me physically drop into my brain, to my body, feel my connection, feel My soul. So a lot of times I will do this immediately, immediately in the morning and combine it with maybe prayer or something like that, meditation, whatever that looks like for me that day, to connect. And what I. So what I think happens for people with fitness is they always attach a physical reward with it. We always attach wanting to look good. But I'm telling you, when you start attaching, wanting to get clear and wanting to feel happy and. And knowing that you just. You end up loving people more and being able to see them for who they are. Because I'm telling you, when I don't feel good, I can't even appreciate my own husband. I can't appreciate the world around me. It's like my world gets so small, I get tiny blinders. Like, I get blinders on. And I feel like I can't see outside of myself. I feel insanely selfish. And this happens really quick. If I don't move or do something, it's like all of a sudden you get in this bubble and you can't see outside of it. Does that happen for you?

It does. I mean, I think I've gone five days without doing anything right now. And so I could have huge guilt around it, but I don't. I've sort of let that go because I know that every day I've eaten really well, you know, And I've also known that every day that I've served in a different way. I've served my body in a different way. Don't underestimate the power of 15 minutes. And I think a lot of people get caught up in this thing. Like, well, I just don't have the time to carve out, to commute to the gym today and then do a 45 minute to an hour and a half workout and then commute back and 15 minutes. You all have 15 minutes. I do not care who you are. There are three sets of eight hours in the day. The first set that you sleep. The second set that you're working and doing whatever you do. In the third set, you're serving your family and other things. And you can't tell me you don't have 15 minutes. You cannot tell me. And I don't care if you're doing 15 minutes straight of jumping jacks. Straight. Try it.

Yes, Sometimes, especially during writing this book, because I will sit like, you know, anywhere from three to seven hours, sometimes in a row, and I will just get up and go for a walk around the block or get up and go for a walk to go get a coffee or a Tea or a salad or whatever that looks like. And it is amazing what just walking a couple blocks does. So I'm just talking about moving in general. Sometimes it could be a stretching routine. And ask your soul what does it feel like? Because a lot of times it's not. Especially if you're in a place where you're feeling like you have not moved for a while. Maybe you're feeling pretty low in your life. There's a lot going on. You might just need to start really gently. Maybe it's a stretching routine. Maybe it's five minutes of stretching. And that is far better than what you did the day before if you did nothing. So, like loving yourself and dropping into your body.

Oh my gosh. And you know, speaking of the story, you know, and if you go back to episode one, you'll hear more about it. But even in episode one, my mom was still alive. So since episode one, my mom has passed away. And during that time, I mean, I was trapped in a house that had no access to any gym. And I was, you know, 14 straight hours of taking care of a woman that literally couldn't feed herself, bathe herself, wipe herself, talk, you know, like nothing, nothing, nothing. Her bones were pulsed. And David would look at me, he's like, you gotta work out. And I would look at him like he had three heads. I'm like, oh my God, I have no, I have nothing. I have nothing left. But then I would have a little chat with myself. And I grabbed two paint cans and I went outside and did walking lunges and dips off the step of the house in New Jersey and ran around the block a couple times or some push ups or bicep curls with a single kettle pelt that I think weighed five pounds. It didn't matter. You know what? Whatever I had is, you guys. It's not for your lack of resources. It's lack of resourcefulness. You have to be resourceful. How can you move your body today? How can you serve that? And like, like Lori said, just drop into what that is for you. It doesn't have to be crossfit and all out, like, you know, some big wad for the day. It just means doing something, even if it's breathing for 15 minutes, to serve that so that you feel fitter. And fitness doesn't mean a six pack, Babs.

No, not at all. It's changing so much for me especially, you know, even living out in California has changed my perspective of what fitness is because people just like to be outdoors here. They love to get Outside and move and let nature do its thing. And it truly is so nurturing. So when I see people, it's like, like there are so many 70, 80, 90 year olds, no joke, all the time, every day, doing some form of something. Whether they are just twisting their trunk, like twisting at their hips with their arms out straight back and forth for 20 minutes. I'm like, yes, get it, grandma. You are moving in a way that you want to out in nature. Like, it just looks so different to everyone because it's what feels good. And following that, really magical things happen. When you do that, you're just happier and a whole world opens up that you did not hear in your mind before, which is really, really magical. So what is number four for you?

My financial freedom. Look, financial freedom to me is being able not just breathe better financially, but have a plan for later in my life and doing something that really fulfills me. Because I don't really believe that there's freedom in my finances. If I feel trapped in something I don't love, I could make all the money in the world doing something I don't love. And I'm not free. I'm not free. I'm a slave to something that's not serving me. So financial freedom is more than just making as much money as possible, as humanly possible that I can in a lifetime. It's about being free in myself and being able to create and serve and do the things that I know that I'm here for and allow ourselves to elevate that, you know, financial thermostat in our lives and change the landscape of what our future will look like for our children. So again, it's about moving the needle right on each of these guiding principles. And this is where we can get really stuck because they're like, well, I just don't know what that is and what I'm supposed to be doing. So you have to reverse engineer your entire vision. What does that look like for you and for me? I have to back into it because I'll see the big picture and then I'm very detailed. So I need to go all the way back to day one and figure out, okay, if I were to chop this, this down into the minutia that belongs here every single day, what are the actions that support moving that needle? And then create a list of what you're doing in your spare time or even in all of your time, what are you doing every single day, all day long, and then divide that list of those items because we are run by to do lists, and I just don't. I can't live by them. And we decide, okay, if this is not feeding that guiding principle in my finances, it's gonna go in the no money item list. Like, it's gonna go in the no money column. And then if this one's not no, any money as well, I'm moving that over. So there's no money and then there's mo money. And then in the mo money, I have to decide what's priority today. Like, what if I at the end of today, what will I feel good about getting done? And if I could just do that one thing, come hell or high water, even if I was run over by a million other agendas, if I could just move the needle on this one thing, what would that activity be? And if you're doing that every single day, regardless of whatever project you're taking on and being able to dissect what your day is and how you're spending your time, you're gonna see how many hours you actually sedate in a week. Like, and you'll go, oh, my gosh, I've been doing that over and over and over again mindlessly and not realizing how it doesn't serve anything. So find out what's on your no money list. And if you can outsource it outsources, if you can eliminate it, eliminate it. If you have to keep it, keep it. But don't. Don't let it be the first thing you do if it's running you over. If it's that easy and mindless, do it after you've done the stuff that's hard that you want to create that one thing around.

Okay, yeah, do it first. So I wanted to add that like, so. And it's really insane how small the mo money thing typically is. If you do it daily, it's almost like shape shocking how scary you're like, wait. So that was only an hour. And I have been in resistance over this. But it's about scheduling it in. So scheduling, Right. So every single day you schedule. And you can do that other thing that's wasting your time as long as you get this one thing done. So how do you make sure you're scheduling your mo money stuff in.

Look that list exactly. And then I put it goes on my calendar. I have to block it out. And I am just like everyone else. I will resist until kingdom come and eight hours go by and I didn't get it done. But instead of beating myself up at the end of the day, I create like this you know, a non negotiable item for the next day and ask yourself that question and that goes into all your guiding principles. Did I give my best of everything today? Did I give that an honest, fair best shot? And if the answer is no, forgive yourself. There's no reason for you to go on a downward spiral of beating yourself up and try to gain some weird badge of honor for suffering. Like move, you know, move your life in the direction of, okay, so I screwed up today and I didn't do it. Let me forgive it now and move forward. What can I do tomorrow to create that one item? So again, back to not underestimating the power of 15 minutes in your fitness or the power of 15 minutes in prayer, or the power of 15 minutes in a tea party with your kids. Like it's the same thing. How are you dividing up your time? Because in the world of social media that we live in now, hours, like probably 30 hours a week, sedating, guarantee you, guarantee you there is, there's seven days in a week. You can't tell me that collectively there are not 30 hours wasted in a sedated activity of scrolling, liking and commenting and watching mind numbing stuff. So if you can't take those 30 hours and put it towards something that's getting the one thing done, then you need to go back to square one.

At this point, it's like I almost, when I catch myself on social media, I would rather just put that towards play time because at least it's soul time. Like go out and actually do something that you can say, oh, that was fun. Go for a walk, go, go surfing. Just go mindlessly play outside in nature and do something. I mean, that is even a huge shift that will actually connect you more than the numbing stuff that you're doing. So if you can't jump into, maybe what you believe is like, you know, something that would make you feel really good about your business. Even small shifts and small changes are going to be really huge. So go play. Because play is actually something that's going to help you in the work. So I love that you said that because I am super guilty of it. And when I notice it I'm like, you know what, this would be so much better served for me, even just playing, like going and going on a date with my husband, going for a car ride, going and getting a coffee and going for a ride. Like it's really amazing what those things do over the time. Suck. You get in a vortex. It's like life is just slipping away from us. Watching other people's. And that feels like so.

Oh, yeah.

Oh, yeah. I'm like, I did not just go down this rabbit hole about what was going on over here because it's not even real. So it's just insane, the things that we do.

I watch myself do it. Almost like a third entity. And you're like, oh, God, Angelique, did you just do that for the last 45 minutes? It happens to everyone. None of us are immune to it. Not one. Not one.

So what is number five?

My fellowship. And you're a big part of that one. So for those of you that don't know Lori and I's relationship, she is truly my. She's my sister. But we're even better than sisters because sisters fight. And I don't think we ever. We've never, ever had anything like that.

We'd figure it out.

But honestly, you need to have people surrounding you that support, love, encourage, challenge you, respect you on these decisions and these guiding principles. If you take an inventory of the relationships around you and you realize that none of them are supporting, loving, encouraging and challenging and respecting you, then you probably need to compartmentalize what they do for you in your life. So there's a saying, you know, that you are the sum of the people that you surround yourself with, typically five of them. Who are those people? What are those relationships? And unfortunately, a lot of people examine that and they even see the ones that are closest to them that are dragging them down. And that doesn't mean you have to go and start telling everybody what a drag they are in your life and you can't be around them anymore. It just means you got to love from a distance and realize that you've got to be so damn clear on who you are and what's non negotiable for you, that you're not leaving anyone behind. They are choosing to stay there and you've got to move again, moving the needle forward in your life. The chain game, right, that comes out, you know, on a football field, like just. It's a game of inches, right? So the inches in your life, that compound effect is going to show up in the way your relationships feel. So all of these things, you need to be surrounded by the people that support and challenge that. And the reason why that's so important is A, you're stating those things and people are encouraging along the way and holding you accountable to them. And B, you'll find when you're not being fed in that way that you don't feel right. And there have Been times even when it been like, because we'll go on our workplaces and Lori and I, it would be a month and I haven't talked to you and it won't feel right. And then you go and you try to connect and you're like, oh my gosh, I feel so much better. And the reason why you feel so much better is because you just spent the last 30 or 60 days where people have drained you and then you went and plugged in to someone that actually gives that life back. Imagine feeling like that all the time or is more, more often than not. And so having those relationships that challenge and support you and hold you accountable is critical to your success in these areas. David holds me accountable to my fitness if I'm falling behind. You know, we hold each other accountable in our faith and our family. You hold me accountable and Kris holds us accountable in our financial goals. You know, these are relationships that are critical to you in your partnerships and what you're doing. And typically those are people that are going to be aligned in all the same guiding principles as well.

I love that. So let's talk about though, the people who are. Because, you know, you and I hadn't always had this at all. And I think there's a point where when you are transitioning from where you are right now, if it's not where you want to be to where you want to go, there is like this free fall. There's this gap, there's this faith, there's this. It can be a really lonely time. And also it's like when you go to find those people, that can be scary too, because that's vulnerability.

Right.

So what does that transition look like? What does it feel like? How do. How do you know who to even find or where?

Oh, there's. I wholeheartedly believe, like I look back in different times of my life, you know, 10, 15 years ago, where that same attraction that I feel to people now that have helped me up level my game, I felt with people that are way behind now. So I really think that it's about what level you're operating at. Like, so let's call level one like your bare bones and level five where you want to be. And I think you can attract a level five if you're operating a level five, but you're not going to keep a level five in your life if you don't maintain that, you're going to find you're going to be way off if you're not continuing to move those guiding principles in your life. It's going to be very hard for you to connect with somebody that's operating at a level 5 all the time, because if you drop down to a 2 or 3, it's not going to feel the same. So just the same as if you were operating at a 2 and your relationships at a 2 felt really good at the time. But then all of a sudden, you start up leveling and your game changes, and then you get around these people that were the closest people to you in your life that, like, did everything with you, that you felt that connectivity with and that synergy with, and all of a sudden it doesn't feel right. You're gonna go, whoa, whoa. And it's happened to me. And then you feel like a creep. You're like, why am I. Why is this not working? This is someone I spent countless hours in conversations with. Why are we not connecting? Because they didn't choose to go to a level five like you did. You can't force them to do it. They have to decide. So. And you're gonna find that in your life. And as you grow, too, you're. You're also going to learn that not everyone can be everything for you, including your spouse, you know, and Laurie, you and I have had these conversations before where you. You have such a great synergy, like Lori and I have such a great synergy. And then I almost create this weird expectation and other people that I connect with really well to feel the same way it feels when I'm with Lori. And then it doesn't. And then you're almost appalled, like, oh, my God, what? Why is this not working? How come? And you have this weird, you know, white knuckled grasp on wanting that relationship to feel as good, and it doesn't. So you got to compartmentalize and sort of Rolodex who those people are and. And just be grateful for what they bring to your life. Whatever they're enhancing your life with, hold on to that, Allow it, and be grateful for it. But if it's not enhancing your life, you. You have to let it go. You just have to let it go.

I love that you just said that, because I feel like so many people are. That's the thing that makes us miserable. Right?

Right.

So instead of. It's like we're either feeling bad about it, or we're wondering why people are disappointing when we're totally missing the fact that they could be epic human beings, but we're not allowing them to be who they actually are, or we're not allowing them to Bring us the lesson that we need. Because I was just writing about this in a chapter because we actually, this conversation, what was that, like a month ago, really started spurring in my. In my mind about, like, like, okay, well, what happens when we hold people to this expectation and the standard of, okay, I wish these people would be these amazing couple friends, like, you know, David and Angelique, or I wish these people would hold me accountable, like my mastermind group. I wish these people would show up for me and pour into me, you know, like I've arranged over here. Well, these are all arrangements and agreements and, you know, people that you've. That are filling different parts of your life. And a lot of times we're lucky if you even get one life like this. And that's something I've also come back to, is like, we're so lucky to have even found, you know, another couple, another friend, other people who can fill these things. But honestly, I feel like when we lift that expectation, it's really amazing, actually, what people bring to you. Like, you can appreciate a woman in your life because you like her fashion. She might be a raging, but you might be able to look on her Instagram and really grab her style and be like, you know what I mean? So in love with this style. It makes me feel like me. She really helps me in this area and appreciate her for that and free her for the rest. And it's really insane. What that can actually do for your life is focusing on what is good about this person, what could be good if I really looked, what is good.

Yeah. And you know what, like I mentioned, we've been through some stuff. We've been through some major life stuff. And what's helped me get clear over time is the ones that were there that when we were down aren't necessarily the ones that are there when we're up. And then there's the ones that are there when we're down, that are there when we're up. And that's when you start to get more and more clear. And then there's also the people that run when you're down, and then they all of a sudden come back when you're up. So it's. You'll know and start being able to compartmentalize those things. And essentially you have to realize that it's a reflection of what's going on in their life. If they find any. If they. If they find your success or your. Your ability to move forward, any kind of threat to them, you're gonna feel that. And to be Clear enough on who you are. And again, where you're going. It's so much. It's so freeing to be able to just identify it and go, oh, wow, that was interesting. And then move on. Like, there's no reason to stay stuck there. And I know that feeling because I've done that to myself. And it's. Again, it'll take you to that Sensory overload, overwhelmed feeling where you want to go clean your house. It's the same thing. You know, it's the same thing.

Can we. Okay, I want to bring this up because I think this is something that people deal with all the time, especially when transcending. And when. And when I say transcending, I just mean growing. You know, maybe growing past where somebody is at. And that is not a bad thing. Like, if people are not ready to go there or grow with you, you guys, you're not like, oh, they're less than, or oh, they're not growing or they're into this self development thing or whatever. It's just not their time. And they've served the place in your journey for you. Thank them and go to where you're going to go. It's no less, more, better. It's all about are you happy and are you following what you know your soul is being called to. But with that said, a lot of times when you are moving yourself personally forward, we can tend to start to focus on. We were just talking about maybe passive aggressive posts when you start to move forward. Right in the world of social media, because we do spend so much time on it or with this could be from family or friends, but you start to think that everything that's being said on social media is about you growing or leaving them or doing something big, or it's everyone either trying to take you down or criticize you. So this is so, like, right in line with fellowship, because how do we make sure that that doesn't necessarily infiltrate our minds and that we don't go down that spiral? Do you use your people? What do you do?

You know, there's that song, you're so vain. You probably think this song's about. You.

Literally just wrote that in my book about this.

I did.

I have it.

Yep.

We share a brain.

No, what do I. You know, I think that it's okay to feel a certain way and there is passive aggressiveness in this world and know that you've done it too. Like, you can't sit here and say that you're sort of like in this victim world and you're Being attacked for this, you've probably put your own passive aggressiveness out there and said things that have upset people and made them feel the exact same way in a different capacity.

I might be doing it right now about passive aggressive people.

Yes. And that's so okay. But I guess again, it's about letting go and teaching lessons. So as a professional martial artist, one of the things, this is funny. We actually talked about this again. On our rise with intention call And I used to train with my master after classes. So in order for me to train, in order to teach at higher ranks, I had to train with high ranks. So he was obviously a high rank. And there were so many times, and I remember the first time specifically where we were sparring and he, I don't know if he kicked me. No, he, he either kicked me or punched me right in the nose. And I remember just going off. I was so angry that my teacher, my master, like I'm his grasshopper and he punched me in the nose. And I was like, why would you do that? How could you do that? And he goes, where I come from and you're a high rank, you're a martial artist. Like he was teaching me a lesson. He goes, you are to bow and say, thank you, sir. I was like, why would I thank you? He goes, because you've just learned your lesson for next time, not to stick your face where my fist is. That's my advice for people. Like, don't keep putting yourself in front of their fist. Don't keep putting yourself in front of the passive aggressiveness. Do not tolerate, separate yourself, allow boundaries and allow yourself to grow from that because it taught you a lesson. If we sit there and allow ourselves to go down a path of self destruction because of how someone makes us feel, then we gain zero wisdom. And if we gain zero wisdom, it's like standing with our feet pointed backwards, like we're not going anywhere. So we only, we point forward for a reason. It's because we need to move forward. And that. And if somebody is holding us back on our personal ability to grow, develop, learn and gain wisdom, then we just have to be able to hold ourselves accountable and responsible for the fact that we tolerated it. Shame on you. Right? Shame on you. So again, it's not to say that there aren't creepy people out there that do terrible things and make people feel awful, but again, feel bad for yourself for five minutes. Just don't milk it for a year. You didn't have a bad year, you had a bad five minutes. Get over it.

I am practicing this right now in my life, actually. It's been really. I'm so happy you shared that, because I think there's a lot of people who continue to throw themselves in front of those people because maybe they're family members or maybe they're really good friends. And it's like, you know, that's your sign, if you are in constant pain around this person, to move out of the way. I always think of it that way. I'm like, that is the bus. And I keep. Keep stepping in front of it. And they're not stopping, so get out of the way. Set your boundaries. And it's not going to be fun. It's going to be one of the hardest things you've ever done in your life because you're actually ignoring the person, basically stepping out of their life and saying, I won't do it anymore. I won't do it anymore. And sometimes you have to tell them.

Right? Yeah. And family's the hardest. Yeah, I get it. Just. You gotta love them from afar until. Until they realize what you're doing is not a flash in the pan and that you're serious about setting your boundaries and what you're going to tolerate.

Oh, man. Right there. I am right there.

Okay. Yeah.

Getting out of the highway right now. Okay, so number six.

Yes. Well, number six is fun. And you already talked about playing, going outside and playing, you know, not getting stuck in that rabbit hole. And this vortex that you get st. Let me tell you this, Laurie. You taught me a really big lesson that the work is in the play. And, you know, you started picking up guitar lessons so that you could find your place to be inspired, because that's honestly the connectivity that we need in order to get clear many times, and whatever that is for you. And it doesn't mean that your whole life is about having fun and you don't get anything else done. It just means that it's part of your guiding principles, and you got them. You gotta laugh every day. You gotta allow yourself that yellow personality, if you're color coding, like, to come out and play a little bit. You know, where we start imagining and getting inspired and creating and enjoying. Because otherwise, you're building your faith, seriously. You're building your family seriously, and you're building your fitness with so much tenacity and hustle and seriousness that you don't enjoy it anymore. And then all of a sudden, you're working so hard to create this financial freedom that it's rigid and stern and you can't enjoy yourself. And Then your friendships and your fellowship don't have any laughter or fun or creativity or inspiration. And so what the hell fun is that? Like, why are we doing any of this if we can't enjoy ourselves? And that's something I personally had to work really, really, really hard on because. Because I'm serious by nature. I'm like a red by nature. And my husband is a big, bright, fat, shiny yellow. And if it weren't for him, I would be a dud. Like, I'm not kidding, but I have that fun inside of me. It's just that it took me time to work out. And I will say this, and if you're going through something right now, and I can so relate, because we were struggling for a really, really long time, especially with my mom's battle that I numbed out. I really numbed out the pain for so long because I had to function to be able to pull her through those moments, that it numbed out the joy. And I remember having a conversation with you and even with David at one point where I was like, I just don't know how to feel joy anymore. And he even looked at me and said, how can you look at your children and say that, that they don't bring you joy? I was like, I don't think you understand. It's not that they don't bring me joy. It's just that I can't feel it the same. And that's the danger of getting so numb. You start numbing out all the good stuff. The love, the gratitude, the joy, the fun. And that's because you've spent so much time exercising muscles of the spirit like fear and anxiety and frustration and overwhelm and stress and all of this stuff, because you were so rigid that in stern about those things that you didn't allow yourself the freedom to laugh and enjoy. And that joy is where you're going to find more ability to create and love and inspire. And, I mean, how do you show up to the canvas? You're going to show up there angry and pissed off that you have to show up to the canvas today. Are you going to show up there inspired? Because you just went out and laughed and played and rolled around in the grass, you know, And I just. It's something that you have to work on because someone like me, it takes. It's actually a struggle, like, I have to go force myself until you actually get into a place where it's something you chase like anything else, you know, Now I chase all these things.

So many stories about this and, well, I'll just use the one with you guys, because this was hot and it's right now, and it's. It was just pressing. So going to Greece before that. So you guys, what was. I'm trying to figure out what my deadline was after Greece. Was it two weeks or something?

August 15th. And we were there till the 30th of July.

Okay. So not like, technically, like, let's just say like three weeks afterward. And I basically think I had half a book or what I'm looking at now. I wrote more than half, like three quarters of a book when I got back. So what I want to say is before that, I feel like I was pushing this book out. I was just getting it out into the world. And while I was enjoying myself, making sure I. You know, because this play was in. The fun was in my mind. I wasn't really doing much. I didn't have a life on the weekends. I was writing like a maniac. I was still having some fun within there, but only like an hour here and there. And all of a sudden, here's this trip that we had planned smack dab right before this book is due. And all I could think of was you talk all about how the. You know, it's just the play is such a massive part of creativity. And I thought, I just have to go and release and know that this trip is going to fill my soul up so much, and I'm gonna have so much fun that when I come back, it's gonna flow out of me. And right before I left, I was like, okay, you know what? It's okay. Cause I'll ride on the plane. Maybe I'll wake up and I'll write. Every morning that I'm there, I'm gonna get stuff done. So, like that. That.

You so said that, too.

Oh, my God. I wanted to get. I was like, I'm just gonna. I'm gonna write. I'm gonna find time to write. They can go off and do their thing for a while. So I get there and I was like, no, absolutely not. Like, surrender to all of it. Go and play. And know that this. You need this entire space to just go play and have fun and be creative. And. And you open up, you tap into something that you didn't even have access to when you go and let go and release, thinking that you have to be productive. Play is more productive than sitting down and trying to push something that is not coming out. So I kept on saying, play is productive. Play is productive. And letting it go and getting Lost in the plane. I can't even tell you. I came home and I know you had your speech that you just did in front of the 15,000 people. I had this book and it was like, I feel like we both stepped into something and tapped into something that we would have never been able to tap into if we would not have danced on table almost nightly and smashed plates. Like we needed to go and do that and just eat carefree and drink champagne and be on the beach and do whatever we wanted and needed and talk and just have an amazing time.

Because there's so much freedom in that. And if you're not feeling that level of freedom, what are you doing? What? You know, what are you doing? And I. And people do this a lot, you know, kind of going back to what we were talking about before where like people chase and go see like cereal fitness and cereal this and cereal. And it's not. It's not fitting into their guiding principles. So ask yourself that question. I mean, are you going to the gym out of obligation? Are you going because it's fun for you? Are you eating out of obligation because you got to eat on schedule and out of Tupperware and portion it out? Or are you doing it because it's for purpose and to nourish your body and allow yourself that freedom so it can. It really falls into all of those categories. Are you praying out of obligation? Are you praying because you want that relationship to be deepened and nourished? You know, are you same thing with your family. Are you doing because you have to sit down and color with your kids or because you get to and it feels good and you can allow that to flow out of you to show your love and that quality time in your business, the same thing. So make everything fun by doing that. So it's not like you have to just carve out time to have fun necessarily. Although that's not. That is critical and important. You can actually weave it into all the other ones. Don't make everything else so rigid that you have to carve out fun like an obligation. You know, weave it into what you do and you'll feel so much better about how you do it. It's just. There's so much more freedom in it. You just otherwise go back and, you know, sit in a. Sit in a box. I mean, I don't know how else to fix your life if that's what. If you're not willing to do that. That's what it feels like to me.

I feel like, because self development and starting businesses and, you know, trying to be a doer or change who you were. We also think we have to change if you're light and fun and all over the place like those are. I'm not saying all over the place is fun necessarily, but those are the gifts. You don't want to lose those parts of you as you move forward. You know, we really try, I know just in. In life and business and network marketing and all that we do together, to weave in fun, to make it fun, to bring your personality in, to allow all parts of you to come through, because it's not. I think in the past, people thought it was taboo to bring fun into business.

Business.

And now it's like fun is the business. Everybody just wants to be happy doing that thing that their soul is calling them to do. Because I don't want to. I don't want one or the other. I don't want soul time, fun time, play time. I want business to be all of that as well. You know, you gave us a poem. You get what? Oh, I wish I had that poem. The master. I should know it because I spend a lot of time in that bathroom. The master in the art of living doesn't separate work and play.

They're both the same to them. They're doing both. Yes, I couldn't agree with that more. And, you know, just kind of going back to what you were saying just now in the work, being in the play and weaving it, and it's. To me, it's like having. Having a strategy and a map for your life and then not. Not stepping off that strategy to take pictures and breathe in life every once in a while, you know, it's why it's. It's barren. It becomes this infertile ground. To me, it becomes very barren, and I don't know how else to put it, but lifeless and barren without the spirit enrolled, without the spirit of who you are and the clarity on that spirit and what that is for you in your life with. Because the spirit wants to play. It wants to play. It wants to love, it wants to be thankful, it wants to enjoy, you know, it wants to worship. It's. That's what the spirit does. But if you're. If it's just strategy and just mapping and just hustle and just grind, then there's no love, there's no thankfulness, There's. There's no play, there's. There's no fun, there's no joy. It just becomes. Becomes. I don't know. It just. It irritates me so that's me personally. Some people like to just hustle hard. That's fine, I think.

I think play is actually completely our natural state. If you look at animals, that's all they do basically all day when they're together is play. And when you look at children, that's all they do all day together when is play. And the thing is, you're most tapped into your imagination when you're young, I believe, because you're constantly playing all the time. So when we play, we get imaginative. We move our body in ways we would never normally move our body. We would play. We play with our conversation, we play with ideas. Like you're around those up leveled people within the fellowship, right, where you play, like, allow yourself to play with ideas. Go have conversations you would normally not have that might seem crazy and just see where it lands. Allow, allow. There has to be so much allowing that happens in order to truly play and tap in. And if you're a serious person, surround yourself with not serious people for a while and let go. And ang, I know that you do that because you are like literally surrounding yourself, yourself with Sagittarius is in your life, which are known to be really goofy.

I mean, if that wasn't a lesson in itself, that God was like, all right, if we're gonna do this, gotta have fun along the way because I'm gonna give you an assignment and it's gonna be a big task. And if I know you and you're gonna be like rigid and live out of Tupperware, and I had to learn that. And the only way I was able to be taught that was through my children and my husband and you guys. And. And thank God.

I know, I know. I hear you. And I need someone very grounding. So thank God for your rigidness and so does David. But see how beautiful this all works? Okay, so thank you so much for sharing all of these with us. I loved being able to dig in a little bit more to them. Is there anything that you want to share before we go?

No, I guess. Well, the final effort is your future. And I just think of all those guiding principles, like the pillars of a table, you know, like if there's six of them, you know, three on each side. If you're missing one, it's gonna be a little wobbly. You know, if it's. If it's the gears to a clock that's ticking on your life, if one gear's off, the whole mechanism is gonna stop working and then you're gonna feel like you're stuck in Time, you know, so the gears are really important and they all have to be in motion. It doesn't mean that they have to be like moving at mach speed all the time. It just means they have to be going forward. So regardless of anything that's going on in your life, at least do one thing to move them forward. Some days are going to be way better than others, you know, and, and you're going to realize it. But it's like the 80, 20 rule in life. Like if I could just. If 80% of the time they're operating pretty damn good, then the other 20% I can forgive myself for. It's just that it's when we swap those, those entities and we allow 80% to rule on the other side. So, you know, I just wanted to share those with all of you because we talk a lot of times, especially in the business world and self development and entrepreneurship is why we do what we do. And the why, the golden circle operating from the why and when I had to do a talk on that, that was what I wanted for people to tap into. Like what does that mean to you and where does that live and what are the things that fit into that that get you out of bed every day? It doesn't. They're like mini whys, you know, they're just pieces of the big overall mission that we don't deviate from. Your why is a command on your life. It is not just an idea. You have to assume your position not because I grant it to you, not because somebody waves a magic wand over you. You're just certain on who you are. And my guiding principles allow me to be clear on what that is.

I love that is so true. One, one is out, you'll know too. And your, it's your brain, your body, your soul is constantly communicating that with you. So thank you so much for that. Where can we find you? Where can we follow you?

Well, Angelique nori.com is my website. Stay tuned, make sure you opt in for that because I'll be doing some evergreen coaching programs and working with people on a larger, more scalable platform and then on social media, just, you know, Angelique Nori on Facebook or Instagram. And I look forward to hearing from people and connecting with new people. Let me know if this helped you in any way. We all know that Lori is changing the landscape of earning year happy. So I'm just grateful to be a part of it and more importantly, grateful to be in your life and, and doing this thing along with you. Because I think the World needs a lot more of it.

Thank you so much. And you guys will put that in the show notes. And Ang, I just want to acknowledge you for the woman that you are, the amazing epic human and friend that you are, and mother and wife. And honestly, you have become so fun. You've always been fun to me, but you're fun, you're playful, you're changing the world. You're powerful beyond measure. Not because of the fact that you are an amazing coach, an amazing speaker, an incredible human, but because you help people step into their own power in such a beautiful way and you remind them of how powerful they are. And I think that is when a leader creates other leaders instead of disciples. And that's exactly what you do, is you lift people up, up. Even if they go even further than you, you're going to be their number one fan. And I love that about you. I feel that from you and that support and that love. And I'm just so grateful to have you in my life.

I wouldn't be able to do any of it without you alongside. That's the true story, guys. So find. Find your Lori, find your Ang.

Okay, so I have to ask you one last question, because everyone's going to be like, you didn't ask her the question. And the question is that we close on is, is if you were in an. I'm like, what is my question? If you. If you were in an elevator with someone, total stranger, and it's like a three floor elevator ride, it's like 20, 30 seconds, they look over at you and they ask you, how can I make myself happy? What do you say? Whoa, 20, 30 seconds.

I would say get in agreement with God. I really, like I said before, I really just want to help people hear that voice inside of them and. And know that it's God. And I know that if they've never heard it before, that they go, I don't know what that was or where it came from, but I want more of it. And just chase after that for the rest of their life. Because once you get solid on what that sound is, you'll be clear for days. Not for days. Forever.

Forever.

Forever.

Thank you so much. But perfect. And you're off the elevator.

Okay.

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