170: How To BECOME Your HIGHEST SELF

Foreign. Welcome to the Earn your happy podcast. I'm Lori Harder, founder of The Bliss Project, 3 Time Fitness World champion, fitness expert and cover model, turned self love junkie, lifestyle entrepreneur and author.

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Or a thought that will help you bust through your fears, connect to your soul and get focused and clear so you can elevate your life, business and relationships. We don't wait until we're ready for someone to tell us we're good enough. We take what we want and we anoint ourselves, get ready to earn, own, and unapologetically rock your happiness every single day. Are you with me? Here we go. Welcome back to the Earn your happy podcast and it is time for another quickie because there's always time to fit in inspiration. And you guys, I just want to say how grateful I am for all of you that I get to chat with all of you, get to know all of you and so many of you shout out on your Insta stories or on your Instagram. And I love getting to put faces to names and to be able to see the listeners and also to know what your takeaways are and what you want to hear about. So always reach out. I love hearing it. Let me know what you thought, let me know what you took away, let me know who you'd love to hear from and what's up for you right now. So, you guys, I put a post up last night and I've been thinking about it a lot because I have a lot of things in my life right now that are making me really uncomfortable now. I thought that I was already in a place where I was really facing my fears head on and I was getting outside of my comfort zone. But I look back and now I understand that I did not really even scratch the surface. So to all of you who are feeling like you are not comfortable at any place in your life because you are growing so much, I am sending you so much love today because I'm thinking of you. I am about to go speak in Las Vegas this weekend and I am speaking at something called Thrive and it is about making your money matter. It's talking to a ton of amazing conscious entrepreneurs. And while this is my audience, at the same time, it's not my audience because it's not my event and it's my. It's something that I've been dying to do is be able to show up at other people's events and speak. So it's definitely something I cannot wait to do, but it's pushing Me so far outside of my comfort zone that it's like, yeah, I, I'm feeling, I'm feeling the butterflies, I'm feeling the excitement. It's all really beautiful and really scary all at once. So I just want to talk about what that feels like when you finally get the things that you want to do, often what that life looks like. And the thing is, is that the. What I posted last night, it said you'll never grow into the woman you know you're meant to be until she's forced to come out. It's your job to create a life she can't hide from. So it's our job, you guys, to create a life that our highest self cannot hide from. That is the one goal. Put that up, put it on your post it notes, put it on your mirror. Whatever you need to do to remember that you're the one who has to create that life. And we don't wanna create a life from the person that we are right now. Now we want to create a life based on our future self. So you already are that confident woman. You already are doing those things you want to do. You already have that circle of friends that you want to have, right? So you're going to go to the places where those people are, you're going to show up and your A game will come out, I promise you. So right now if you're like, I don't have that skill set. I don't feel confident enough. I don't think I'm smart enough. Guess what? You will rise to the occasion when your butt is on, on the line. It's your job to put your butt on the line in a big enough way that it matters to you if you fail. Do you get this? You put so much social responsibility on yourself. You put so much responsibility as far as the impact that you want to leave, the legacy that you want to leave the pressure of performance. And that's how your highest self shows up. I was just on a podcast last night and I was talking about how I always have this fear before I speak because I don't quite feel the flow. I don't quite feel like it's gonna be exactly how I want. I don't feel like I'm in it yet. I don't feel confident about it. And the man that I was talking to, who was also talking in training on my podcast about NLP neuro linguistic programming, he said, you know, we have alter egos, we have many different personalities. And he let me know, he's like, you can't sit here as chill, calm, collected Lori, trying to put together a talk thinking that fierce stage presenter delivering this impactful message, Lori is going to show up while you're trying to create. So you have to have faith that you're going to be open to this completely different side of you, who's going to be turned on, right? Who's going to have that energy, who's going to form, whose brain is going to be totally open to hearing what the audience needs and being able to respond to those needs and looking at each person and understanding their energy and understanding their emotion. But I can't come from this place of sitting at home in my pajamas while I'm trying to write a talk thinking that I'm just going to be the same person trying to feel confident about this content. It's just not going to happen. You have to have faith that your highest self is going to come out when it is needed. And you can't do that and you can't trust it until you've at least thrown yourself into the fire once and you know that you did not die. So feel confident that if you do this, if you create these places where you have so much riding on your performance, your highest self is going to come out and no matter what happens, you're not going to die. And you're going to take that lesson and you're going to move on and you're going to do it again and again and again and again. Because that is the only way to meet your highest self, to become your highest self, to perform as your highest self. If you think it's done any other way, you're going to wait the rest of your life or you're going to think you just don't have what it takes. And I have to tell you, we all have what it takes. We're all made from the same thing. It's just those who have enough faith in their creator, who have enough faith in those who have gone before us telling us these messages. You guys, I don't want you to fail. I don't want to see you fail. I know your mate is the same thing for me. I know I'm not any more special than you. And that is how we know we are all capable of this. Stop waiting. You're going to wait the rest of your life and that is just going to suck because you're not going to do anything that you want to do. You are not going to be able to leave a legacy. This is our life, you guys. This is not just some talk or some podcast you're listening to. This is your freaking life. This could be your kids listening and watching how you're performing. You're creating a belief system right now for other people. Blaze the trail, lead the way, have some faith and know that at least if you fall flat on your face, you get to feel alive in this lifetime rather than the walking dead. And you know what? I'd rather be failing left and right and feeling alive and feeling different emotions and growing as a human being than walking around bored half dead feeling like I am not contributing to the world or growing as a human being.

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So choose and create things and places and people and tribes that you know you have to show up for. Bigger than you've, bigger than you've ever shown up in your entire life, it's going to demand your highest self. It's going to call it out of you. It's going to pull at you so hard it's going to scare the crap out of you. And that's when you know you are living a life of purpose and fulfillment. And you guys, I pray that you feel this today and you set an appointment that demands your highest self. You guys, I'm sending you so much love. Thank you so much for tuning in. It means the world to me. If you love this episode, I ask that you share it with somebody who needs it. So thank you guys so much and until next time, earn your happy. Bye everyone. Thank you guys so much for spending this time with me on the earn your happy podcast. I am so glad that you stopped by. If you could take one second to share this episode with someone you think would love it, that would be absolutely amazing and we would be forever grateful. Also, please leave us a review. If you feel so moved by going to itunes and leaving us an honest thought, an honest comment, tell us what you think, tell us what you want to hear more of. It would really help us out on our journey to helping thousands and thousands of of people. Until then, don't forget to earn your happy. Thanks again guys. Bye bye.