188: Relationships Are Our Biggest Teachers

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Welcome to the Earn your happy podcast. I'm Lori Harder, founder of The Bliss Project, 3 Time Fitness World champion, fitness expert and cover model, turned self love junkie, lifestyle entrepreneur and author.

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We have a really amazing team working on it and we're adding so many more things than we have ever done in prior years because I know that when I get the opportunity to put epic women into a room, I want magical things there so that you guys can truly have the tools to create your own amazing transformation and experiences. And you guys, what happens there is nothing short of miraculous. So if you're ready to create your transformation, if you're ready to step in, if you're ready to have your tribe, this is where you want to be. And I hope that you join us and that I get to meet you and hug you and see you there. So. Theblissproject.in fox welcome back to the earn your happy podcast. And it's time for another quickie because there's always time to fit in inspiration. And especially this time of year, the holiday season, right, we are going to make sure that we are going about this time of year in a way where we actually choose excitement over stress. But we know that we have to remember we are in control at this time, even though it may not feel like we are. I've already gotten some text messages from some friends who are spending a lot of time with their parents right now and as much as they love them, they are getting completely challenged by old beliefs that are coming up and maybe some old fears, some anxiety and parents not understanding why they do certain things on social media, et cetera, et cetera, why they have to possibly work while taking a week off, things like that. So with that said, I just want to remember or want to remind all of us, I am coaching myself right now that all of those things may still be there and relationships are our biggest teachers. So as we come to the time of year where all of our relationships are put into one room, and over a span of a week or a month, or however long that you are spending time together, you're gonna have a lot of opportunities. Notice I'm using opportunity in place of obstacle. Opportunities to grow. We're gonna have a lot of opportunities to grow from people who feel and see and think and may know us the best, but know our history and know the old version of us and maybe still treat us or speak to us are the old version. But we all know that we are evolving and we may be completely different and we, we may be getting very triggered, right? But we have to remember that we are in control this time of year and that we don't have to take the bait. We can just let it be. And also accept that these relationships may never change. And that could be potentially okay, right? We may never have a better relationship with our family, with our mom, with our dad, with our cousins, with our in laws. And that might be something that this year, instead of pushing to try to change someone or pushing to try to get a different relationship, maybe we just show up in an energy of, hey, that's okay, like, I accept you for you. I'm not going to let you walk all over me and I won't stand here and stand for it. If I am getting treated terrible, you know, I can walk away, I can have an opinion, but I can do it in the most loving way possible. But if it's just something where it's just not working and you wish the relationship was different or you wish someone would change something about themselves, it might be time to just practice this year. Just practice, see how much you can just accept that maybe it may not change and love them for exactly where and who they are in this very very moment. So just observe if you could start moving into that energy. And it's really crazy what actually happens when we start to do this, When I start to show up in this energy of, okay, well, instead of me thinking that I can change your health goals or that you can accept where I am and that maybe I don't want to do that, or, you know, maybe I'm driving you crazy or making you feel bad with my habits that might, you know, be. Be putting a mirror up to you or whatever that looks like, or thinking that, you know, maybe it makes you feel like, I think I'M too good for you. You know, I've heard all of these different things from different people and also experience them, whatever that looks like. Can you just show up in the energy of hey that's okay. Or you know, that's this is just what I do for me because it makes me feel better and let it go and release, change the subject or just see if you can really show up and love them. Like show up, give them a huge hug, allow them to just be who they are, just listen, try not to fix all their problems, maybe try not to give them advice, maybe ask them, you know, or have compassion. Hey, you know, I know, I know that really sucks or I'm so sorry to hear that or how could I help you? Or how could I just be a listening ear for you and just see happens this time of year if you just allow, accept and have some compassion. So I know it's interesting because this wasn't the advice that I wanted to hear back when I was feeling really frustrated around holiday time. Having to spend a lot of different time with people who maybe do not have the same ideas and beliefs and health goals and business goals and drives that I have. And this was really challenging for me to get around people who have completely different ideas than me and you know, still feel like we have things to talk about or still feel like I can be accepted or still feel like I can be loved even if I'm not going back to the old ways of me of drinking all the time, eating non stop, you know, sitting around, not having to do any, any type of work or anything like that. I'm not saying don't take time off or make people feel special. But I am saying start. Start communicating better. Start seeing if you can be a better listener. Start seeing if you can just accept and love.

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And you guys, I hope that this really helps this time of year because for me this is one of the most powerful times because it is one of the hardest times for me. I'm so routine driven so it is like a giant lesson for me to See how much I can grow, how much I can let go, and how much more I can love people, despite me wanting to be in my very strict routine. And also just, you know, seeing and lingering longer and staying for those conversations that maybe at first are not, you know, maybe something that I want to talk about and seeing what it offers you, right, Seeing if you can just be there for people, because that's a massive gift as well. So be the energy that you want to attract this holiday season and watch how you can change and shift the energy of the rooms that you walk into. You guys, I'm sending you so much love today and I just want to say I'm so grateful for you and I hope that this really helps knowing that we are all in this together. But we are so divinely blessed to have these people in our lives and we never want to forget that because, you know, I. To be honest with you, I look at every year as what if this is the last year that we are together? And it immediately locks me into insanely deep gratitude. So I just want to say thank you again and I love seeing all of you guys on Instagram, Insta stories. And until next time, you guys, earn your happy Bye. Bye everyone. Thank you guys so much for spending this time with me on the earn your happy podcast. I am so glad that you stopped by. If you could take one second to share this episode with someone you think would love it, that would be absolutely amazing and we would be forever grateful. Also, please leave us a review if you feel so moved by going to itunes and leaving us an honest thought, an honest comment, tell us what you think, tell us what you want to hear more of. It would really help us out on our journey to helping thousands and thousands of people. Until then, don't forget to earn your happiness. Be thanks again, guys. Bye Bye.