194: The Soul PULLS, The Ego PUSHES - Goals and New Year's Resolutions

Foreign. Welcome to the Earn your happy podcast. I'm Lori Harder, founder of The Bliss Project, 3 Time Fitness World champion, fitness expert and cover model, turned self love junkie, lifestyle entrepreneur and author. Each week I'll bring you a guest or a thought that will help you bust through your fears, connect to your soul and get focused and clear so you can elevate your life, business and relationships. We don't wait until we're ready for someone to tell us we're good enough. We take what we want and we anoint ourselves, get ready to earn, own and unapologetically rock your happiness every single day. Are you with me? Here we go. Welcome back to the Earn your happy podcast. 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And what happens is it can feel so insanely exciting, but also so incredibly overwhelming. And we know what typically ends up happening to, like, 99% of the population every single year, and that is that they fall off by the end of January of their goals because it was that all or nothing mentality. So something that I want to tell you before, I will do some more podcasts on this in the new year for sure, on manifesting your dreams and how to reach your goals. That's something I definitely want to cover with you guys. So stay tuned for that. That so that you can have step by step. But what I want you to focus on right now, because right now you are in the holidays. You're in the thick of it. If you're listening to this or maybe you're just coming out of it. And it's not so much about the how. It is about following and knowing what you desire, just getting really clear on what it is that you desire and how you want to feel in this next year. So it's not so much on the how sometimes we get so caught up in, I need to do this. I have to be on this health program. I have to be enrolled in this. I need to make sure I get the certification, I gotta go to this event. I need to make sure this program is out. And we can get so caught up in thinking that we have so much to do when really, it's just really getting so clear on what those one or two goals are and making sure that they are in alignment with how we actually want to feel this next year. Because if we are making those goals set on maybe financial goals or set on what we think we should do, we are probably going to miss the mark because we are going to lose that initial energy, that initial flame that comes with the fact of being in alignment with what it is that you. You are desiring. So, you guys, some things that you can start doing right now are just sitting for like five minutes in the morning and asking yourself what it is that would bring you the most joy to be able to do or to be able to be of service to other people. What does that look like, to be in service to people in a way that brings you the most joy that you can possibly think of. And typically that is where you want to start focusing all of your energy around. Because a lot of times when I have focused in the past around things that are not bringing me joy because I'm doing them for financial reasons, I create some blocks there. Or maybe you already have a program that's spectacular, but you're thinking that you need to do more things because it's not bringing you the income that you want. And maybe you just need to rekindle. That program that just happened to me recently is this last year was spent focusing on rekindling my excitement and joy around my body and soul program because it was a great program, except I wanted it to be doing more. I wanted to be having more members. I wanted to be attracting a much bigger tribe. So I thought, well, if it's not attracting this much bigger tribe that I'm desiring, then maybe I just need a new program. Maybe it's this thing over here, maybe it's that thing. And I really sat down and I went over it with some amazing coaching from my husband and from a very close, incredible business friend. And it was really learning to get so refocused, reframe something that is already amazing and really putting all of my energy and focus into making something that's already great into something incredible. So when I did that, when I took my energy off from thinking that it needed to be all of the these other things and realize I already have a thing that is spectacular. And if I just focus on it and if I send it attention, if I send it love, if I get really grateful for the people that I already have, then I'm going to be manifesting more of what I want because I'm grateful for what I have. And my focus is being shifted because we know what we focus on, we get more of. And I was, I was focusing externally, right? I'm like, what I don't have. I want these people who aren't here yet. Why aren't they here yet? Do I need another program? What's going on? So I was getting more lack. I was feeling like I was burning out. I was feeling like I was just spinning my wheels and I was getting nowhere. So you guys don't focus so much on what you don't have, right? So focus on what you do want.

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So right now, before you even set those New Year's goals, maybe you already have them. I know you guys are all a bunch of overachievers and I love that about you. So maybe you do already have them. But if you don't, or if you're just going to enjoy this next week during the holidays, what you can still do is just start to really picture what it is that you want to feel in the new year. How do you want to feel that way? And how can you be of service and still have that feeling? Be of highest service, fulfilling your highest potential, and that is the alignment that you want to get in and that is the energy that is going to create more finances. It's going to bring more people. You're going to bring more impact to the world because you are following that soul's calling and not focusing exactly on the how and Then once you do that, you have to look right. We have to start looking for the clues every single day that that is the alignment that we are meant to be in. So, you guys, I hope this helps you. And for now, just enjoy this incredible season. Give your loved ones an extra hug. Know that I am giving you the most giant bear hug in the world right now, because I am just completely grateful that I get to serve in a way that I love. That's how this podcast started. I didn't even think about the how. I thought of how I wanted to feel. Instead of thinking of, how will people start listening? I was like, how can I add value and feel the way that I want to feel? I want to feel like I'm having conversations with the people that I love, right? I want to feel like I'm having these epic conversations about topics that actually matter and that people are hearing them who actually care. And that's how this began, and that's how the people showed up. It's like I focused on what I wanted to feel and what I wanted to give and how I wanted to feel while I was giving. And then all of a sudden, the audience showed up. That's how it works, you guys. That's how it works when you are in your highest potential, in your highest alignment. I hope that you are getting excited. I hope that you are getting breakthroughs even while listening to this. I hope that you're getting, like, those pops of popcorn. Like, this is what I could do. This feels good. Oh, my God. Don't lose that, because that's the thing. That's the stuff. Those moments, right? Those kernels, those popping moments where you're like, yes, that's it. That soul hit is what I call it. So now what's going to happen after you get the soul hit? It's going to fizzle just a little bit, right? That popcorn is going to cool off, but you have to hold on to that initial popping feeling, because that is going to get you through to the end, and that is what is going to pull you to where you need to be. So your soul is going to pull you. Your ego is going to feel like you have to push, right? Your soul pulls. Your ego pushes. So just remember that you should feel like you're being initially pulled to that thing that you want. All right? You guys have the most amazing holiday season, sending you so much love. And until next time, earn your happy. Bye, everyone. Thank you guys so much for spending this time with me on the earn your happy podcast. I am so glad that you stopped by. If you could take one second to share this episode with someone you think would love it, that would be absolutely, absolutely amazing and we would be forever grateful. Also, please leave us a review if you feel so moved by going to itunes and leaving us an honest thought, an honest comment, tell us what you think. Tell us what you want to hear more of. It would really help us out on our journey to helping thousands and thousands of people. Until then, don't forget to earn your Happy Thanksgiving. Guys. Guys. Bye. Bye.