210: How to Navigate the Puzzle Pieces of LIFE

Foreign. Welcome to the Earn your happy podcast. I'm Lori Harder, founder of The Bliss Project, 3 Time Fitness World champion, fitness expert and cover model, turned self love junkie, lifestyle entrepreneur and author.

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It is March 2nd through the 4th in Newport Beach, California and it is going to be a life changing weekend. If you've been wanting to bust through your fears and really meet a like minded tribe of people, this is exactly where you must be be. If you're feeling called to this, I want you to go check it out@theblissproject.info right now. It's also in the show notes and who is this event for? You guys really want to get clear on if you're feeling called to it. I want to make sure that you know what is going to go on there. So if you have always had a desire to do something big, but you've always been afraid to follow through, if you feel like you don't have the tools or the expertise to take the next step, if you wish you had that tribe of supportive people, if you're ready to take that next step into the next level, but you have no idea what that's even supposed to look like, or if you just want to feel more fully alive each day and this is absolutely for you, if you want a deeper connection and understanding in your relationships, if you want to become more fulfilled in your own job that you have right now and in daily tasks if you want to know the true desires of your soul and if you're ready to enjoy the journey just as much as the destination, and truly, if you are feeling feeling called to expand your spiritual connection, we're going to be doing some incredible exercises, meditations. We have some awesome teachers who are going to come in and really give you the space to understand what that feels like for you, because for everyone, it's so different. But to be able to do it together makes you feel even more connected than you've ever felt before. So if you're interested in meditation, if you want to create a solid foundation for all of your goals and dreams to be built on, or if you just need a mental reset, a confidence booster, and a really. Oh, own your own personal power, you guys, this is the place that you want to be. So there are still some tickets left, but they sell out fast. You guys, in this year will be the best bliss project that we've ever done. We have a really amazing team working on it, and we're adding so many more things than we have ever done in prior years, because I know that when I get the opportunity to put epic women into a room, I want magical things there so that you guys can truly have the tools to create your own amazing transformation and experiences. And you guys, what happens there is nothing short of miraculous. So if you're ready to create your transformation, if you're ready to step in, if you're ready to have your tribe, this is where you want to be. And I hope that you join us and that I get to meet you and hug you and see you there. So. Theblissproject.in fox welcome back to the earn your happy podcast. And it's time for another quickie because there's always time to fit in inspiration. And today I am having just quite the life experiences being thrown at me all at once. Do any of you relate? So I wanted to come on the podcast right now and really talk about what this looks like in real time, because I know that so many of you listen because you understand all of the guests and exactly how they're sharing in such a beautiful, authentic way of all the emotions that you go through in life, especially a life of chosen adversity, in order to reach your dreams and to reach your goals. And honestly, no matter what, it always choose a life of chosen adversity, because no matter what, you're going to get adversity, right? You're either going to choose it and you're going to grow and you're going to Elevate a little bit on your terms for the most part, or it's going to choose you. Right? Elizabeth Gilbert says you can live a nudge life where you can listen to those nudges and those soul hits and those gut hits, or you can live a two by four life where if you don't listen to the nudges, all of the nudges build up and you basically just get whacked across the head with a 2x4 over and over and over until you listen, start listening to those nudges more often, listening to those things that are waiting to have you grow. Because you guys know that we are a soul in a physical body here, having a physical experience. And all your soul cares about is full self expression. And if you are creating the experiences that are going to allow it to expand into its whole self. So really I'd rather choose those different things, choose those lessons and choose the path for the most part, so that I can say that's what I want to go, that's where I want to elevate to. That's kind of what the dream looks like. Bring it. Okay, so when you say that in life, when you say that's where I want to go, that's what I want to do, you proclaim it, you tell the universe, you sit, you visualize it, you start taking action steps and all of a sudden it gets delivered. Except when it's delivered to you, it is not delivered in its complete form. It's literally in pieces and shambles. And I just wrote a post about this, really talking about what it looks like, you guys, it looks like going to. Now, I can't stand IKEA for this reason and I refuse to shop there because I don't like putting stuff together. But it's the perfect life analogy. So, you guys, it's like going to IKEA and finding that perfect kitchen, picking out all of your furniture. You just bought a new house, right? You're like, yep, I'm upgrading. This is the house I'm going into. This is what I've decided. I finally have my dream. I have the money for my dream. Let's go fill this house. Let's go fill this great apartment. Whatever. Whatever it is. So you pick out your kitchen, you pick out all the furniture, you go home and it gets delivered to your door and it's in this big pile of pieces and it looks just like a mess. It looks like an overwhelming headache. It looks like you basically want to break down and cry because your dog is eating the directions and you have no tools. You realized, oh, my God, what am I doing? I just only bought the pieces, and I don't even own a toolbox. And I don't understand these directions. And my dog is eating what's left of the directions. Like, that is life, and that's how your dream is delivered. So it's delivered in pieces, it's delivered in lessons. And you have to spot the lessons. You have to actually figure out what each little piece is trying to deliver you, or you're never going to make sense of it. It's just always gonna remain a puzzle. So a lot of you right now, puzzle mode. Like, there are pieces floating all around you, and you're more frustrated and overwhelmed by it, thinking that these lessons that are showing up in your life are just obnoxious or that you're just getting the short end of the stick, when really that's not the case at all. These annoying relationships or these annoying things and obstacles that are happening are the pieces that you're meant to ask, how do I put you together? Why are you here? What part of the kitchen are you? Like, are you part of the sofa? Are you part of the chair? Like, what do I do with you? Could you one day serve as something that could be really awesome for me? And what you don't realize is all of these random pieces. If you ask the right questions and you really sit and analyze to try to find the lesson, you're going to realize that it's there to support you, that that random piece is actually the leg of a chair that's going to help support you, right? Or that random piece of furniture is something that you're going to sit on and find, repair, reprieve, and where you just feel so good and comfortable later on with it. But right now, it's just pieces because you're looking at it as obstacles. And they're not obstacles. They're beautiful lessons. And the thing is, is that these are being delivered in this way, because you can't just have all of these things without understanding how to sustain them and how to keep them in amazing form, right? So what happens is just like, when people think that homeownership is like this awesome, awesome thing that everybody's striving for, let me tell you. All of a sudden you get a home and you realize that you now have repairs and you now have to fix stuff, and now it's like every single week, even this new house that you have seems to be somehow falling apart in some way. And if you don't have the skill set to do it yourself. You're going to constantly feel like your life is in shambles. So what's happening when you're being delivered these pieces that you are meant to become the person that can sustain this type of structure, right? So once you get delivered all of these things, you then have to build the skill set who could be the person who can sustain, build, maintain and grow the structure, right? So then you're like, wow, okay, I've learned how to do all of this. I know how to put it together, I know how to fix it. But. And now what else can I do now? When you're delivered things, you now have the tools. You now have the skill set. You now understand how to build new, bigger, more secure things. And maybe later you can upgrade and go somewhere and get your furniture delivered as a as a whole piece. All right, guys, I'm out of analogies for the whole piece of furniture coming to your door, but I will figure one out if I sit and look for the analogy. I love analogies.

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Okay, so I wanted to just let you guys know that today because right now I've got basically what feels like a massive IKEA delivery at my door that is just like in massive shambles. And I' the bottom of it with no tools, no instructions. And I feel like I'm about to go put all of this furniture on display and people are going to be like, what the hell is that? Like who did that? That's how I'm feeling right now. So I'm going to go figure out what that looks like. I'm going to go allow myself to get frustrated, to cry, to kick, to scream and to be a beginner and put some more hours into some of these talks, put some more hours into my events, put some more hours into some new things that are coming my way. Because I know it's just putting the work in, it's just putting the time in. It's just putting. It's just having the patience. It's just letting go of the frustration. It's just really feeling into the feelings and asking what they're here for and knowing that they're here to serve me, not to, you know, try to break me down. So the other side of a breakdown is a breakthrough. Awesome. Okay, so you know what? I'm totally. Bliss Project is coming up and I am already picking my jams out like, so that I can find the power to just really channel what I need to channel and the energy that I need to be in for public speaking, for my Bliss Project event, and for quite a few things that are coming up with the book launch, which, by the way, you guys, my freaking book is finally ready for pre order. It's lorihutter.com forward/Amazon if you want to see what it looks like in the COVID Oh my God, I'm so excited. But anyway, I have my jam picked out and I just found it and it's Glorious by Macklemore. So if you just want to go find that right now after this and crank it it up, that is exactly what I will be doing. So we'll be listening at the same time, belting out I Feel Glorious. Yes. You're going to do it with me. Okay, you guys, thank you so much for being here. And I'm pretty sure you're resonating with me because you're a human and I know that at the end of the day, no matter where I'm speaking, no matter what I'm doing, if I speak to the human side, then I'm connecting and that this message is being felt. So sending you so much love today. And I just want to say thanks again for always being here, for always sharing, for always sharing your mind. And that's how this podcast gets out. And I just so appreciate you. I'm so glad that I followed this nudge of starting a podcast instead of getting whacked over the head by a two by four to start it, it. So if there's something that you want to do, follow the nudge. You guys, follow the nudge because it's, it's bound to free you up of a lot of pain on the other side and it's bound to offer you some massive blessings. And maybe that's my couch. Like maybe that's my completed piece of furniture is I followed a nudge and my whole piece of furniture showed up in my door. Okay, I will talk to you guys on the next episode. And thanks as always for tuning in. And until next time, earn your happy. Bye, everyone. Thank you guys so much for spending this time with me on the Earn your happy podcast. I am so glad that you stopped by. If you could take one second to share this episode with someone you think would love it, that would be absolutely amazing and we would be forever grateful. Also, please leave us a review if you feel so moved by going to itunes and leaving us an honest thought, an honest comment. Tell us what you think, tell us what you want to hear more of. It would really help us out on our journey to helping thousands and thousands of people. Until then, don't forget to earn your happy. Thanks again guys. Bye Bye.