3 Reflection Questions That Make You Feel More Connected

I think it's really important to consistently romanticize your life. I think it's important to romanticize your life, your relationship, the business that you've created, because it doesn't matter what business you guys are thinking of creating or that you are in right now, it all turns into a job if you don't choose to romanticize it and remember that it's fucking awesome that you started it. Sometimes we just look at it as this week was hard, it's a headache, oh my God, I'm so challenged right now. So connection questions like this really help you romanticize your life.

And we're back with another episode of He Said, She Said. Okay, last night Lori and I did our typical Friday night date night, and we don't do the same Friday night all the time, but we're usually tired on a Friday and we usually want to have like that local, uh, like comfy food feeling And so there's one of two places we'll go on a Friday. It's either a place called Bandera in, you know, Newport Beach there, here, or it's a place called, actually, I don't want to tell you this name of the sushi place because I don't want anyone to go. It's a tiny hole in the wall neighborhood joint. I'm not going to tell you where it is. It's awesome. But it's like your perfect neighborhood sushi joint where you walk in, they yell, hey, and they know you and the waiters and waitresses know you and it's the best sushi on the planet. And so anyways. Yeah, I'm going to gatekeep that one. So we go there last night and Lori and I have always been very good at asking each other questions and we've been very good at like, "Hey, let's reflect on your week." And you already know that we have the Power 9, which is 3 things you're grateful for, 3 things you're excited about, 3 things that you're trying to manifest, right? We do that in the mornings. But last night in particular, we asked each other 3 questions. They just kind of happened organically. And it led to the best conversations. So we're gonna share those 3 questions with you right now, because whether it's a date night, whether it is you and some business partners, whether it's you and some people you're trying to get to know, this is the best weekly recap template ever.

I love asking different questions because at the end of the day, there were so many things that happened in Chris's week that I don't know about.

Mm-hmm.

Like, even though we go on walks and we ask questions and things like that, we're tired sometimes on our walks. Sometimes we don't talk a lot. And I think it's really important to consistently romanticize your life. I think it's important to romanticize your life, your relationship, the job that you have, the business that you've created. Because it doesn't matter what business you guys are thinking of creating or that you are in right now, it all turns into a job if you don't choose to romanticize it and remember that it's fucking awesome that you started it and that you still have it and that you're growing it and that you've put so much effort towards it. And sometimes we just look at it as, this week was hard, it's a headache, oh my God, I'm so challenged right now. So I think it's important to romanticize your life, and you do that through questions, you do that through connecting with other people, you know, obviously through changing your attitude and your perspective and all of those things. But I really think connection questions like this really help you romanticize your life.

So I think you recognize the first one, but the second two are pretty awesome. The first one was this. I said, hey, what are 3 wins from the week? You know, we always ask what are 3 wins at the end of each day. Mm-hmm. But when you say, hey, what are 3 wins from the week? It forces you to go back and remember some of the awesome things that happened that week that you otherwise don't take inventory of. Yeah. And I'm such a huge believer. Matter of fact, if you're in any of our masterminds, we start every single call out. We're like, all All right, share your wins. We're gonna, we're not gonna answer any questions. We're not gonna have the guests come on. We're not gonna do anything until we hear 5 or 10 wins from you as individuals. And it's weird cuz if people are like, they have a hard time thinking of them at first. And then when they think of, they're like, oh yeah, I'm proud of this. Oh yeah, I'm proud of that. Right? So we always start it with, or last night we started with, hey, what were 3 wins this week? Like what were accomplishments? And it just, it allowed us to reflect and be like, oh, that's right, this happened. Oh, that's right, that happened. Oh, that's right, this thing finally came true.

Like, I'm doing really big things in my business right now, and because it's just kind of like big thing after big thing, if I'm being completely honest, it can start to feel like stressful projects. And I would have dreamed of— I just did a massive photo shoot for our rebrand and new flavor launches, and I'm like, oh my God, I want to really sit in that and think of the day and what I, you know, what that felt like and share with Chris about how that felt and like, you know, what it was like and who was there and all of the things. And these are things that I just would have kind of like, oh my God, I'm tired. It's Friday. I'm exhausted. Like when you're constantly busy, it's easy just to get caught up in the momentum of things.

More importantly, I wouldn't have known how awesome the photo shoot is, guys, even though we live under the same roof. We don't see what each other's doing all week because we're so busy with our company. So I got to sit there and get like a play-by-play, like, oh my God, here's the first place we shot and it was so cool. Look at this. And you pull out your phone, you're like, here, look at how some of the photos turned out. And you're like, oh, here's the next place we shot. Oh, we're in this celebrity's home. And I didn't realize that was her home until I was in the home and I remembered the pictures. And you're like, look at this. Look at— and all of a sudden it was exciting. I was like, felt like I was there with Lori and the models and the photographers and everything. Literally in the photo shoot.

Realize what he's saying and it just sounds so funny.

Um, anyhow, it was so freaking cool because that was a big, expensive, awesome shoot and we wouldn't have even talked about it as if it never happened if that wasn't one of her answers to, hey, what were one of your wins this week? So that was the first question.

Yep.

Second question that we pulled out was, what was a moment that you were really proud of yourself this week? And this is different than a win. This is like, when did you show up in a way that you were so proud? When did you overcome something? When did, like, when did you pull out a win when it was headed for a loss? When did you keep your shit together when you were about to lose it? And so I love this question because it really makes the other person think, oh, when was I proud of how I showed up? And so Lori asked me, I asked her, and for me, it was a leadership moment. And I won't get into the details, but I was like, oh, when this thing happened, instead of me flying off the handle or being negative or doing one of my do this or else type things, I showed up in a really cool way. I said, hey, you know what? I believe in you individuals. I believe you're gonna figure this out. I believe this is gonna turn out really, really freaking awesome. Here's a couple of ideas that I have, and here's a few reasons I believe that you are the people for the job. Mm-hmm. And then it turned out really, really good. And the response, we got a different result because, right? So I was, my answer to Lori is like, I was really proud of the way I showed up as a leader in this one particular moment this week. And then Lori had a cool one to share as well.

Nice impact moment as well. I also don't want to share details because it's people in our life, but it was like a, a really awesome moment of, wow, I'm at this point in life where I really get to make some really cool impact. And if I don't sit and notice it, it's like these things would just go by. And I want to really focus on the fact that I get to make impact on people and that every day, no matter where we show up, somebody's watching. Somebody's watching. It was just kind of a moment of somebody saying something back to me of like learning from how I show up. And that is just a moment of, wow, this is so cool that I get to do this. And it made me want to be an even better person now to go, what's the type of just like legacy and impact that I want to leave? And I just want— I want to truly leave people better. I want to teach them how to make money. and they want to leave them better.

Yep. Yep.

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And then the third question, and this was kind of fun, it was What was something that totally surprised you this week? And it's a great question because, you know, a lot of times you'll talk about wins, or a lot of times we talk about something, but to say, hey, what was a time this week that you were just straight up surprised? What surprised you this week? And that prompted two really good conversations.

You know, with what, what surprised you this week, I had to dig really deep for that one. And I have to tell you, I actually had a realization when he asked me that question that I was like, oh gosh, I might need to kind of like do some, some more different things. I do a lot of, you know, newer different things in my life, but I mean, I might have to do some more either challenging things or some things even further outside of my comfort zone so that I can be more surprised.

Yeah.

By experiences or surprised at how I show up or surprised at how I handle things, because I realized I'm actually in a place where I do a lot. I'm getting very comfortable with the uncomfortable. And so I had a moment of, oh crap, I have to go get uncomfortable in some places again somewhere.

Yeah.

Which sucks, but is also great.

Listen, that's the routine of life. It's the routine. If you're not constantly doing something that makes you uncomfortable, then you're falling behind and you don't realize it. It's the weirdest joke of life of all. Like, when you sit there, you're like, "Hey, everything feels good. I'm not doing anything that's uncomfortable." You're actually slipping behind a little bit and you just don't realize it yet. But when you're out there, you're like, "Okay, what's the next uncomfortable step? What's the next uncomfortable conversation? What's the next uncomfortable, I don't know, hire? What's the next most uncomfortable investment? What's the next—" then you're actually getting ahead. Mm-hmm. And I'm a big believer in life, you're never staying the same ever. You, there's no such thing as staying the same, even though it might feel like it just cuz you're zoomed in at the moment. Mm-hmm. You're either falling behind and you don't know it, or maybe you do, or you're getting ahead, but there is no staying the same. Anyhow, that's a tangent. The 3 questions, try 'em out with your business partners, try 'em out with your friends, try 'em out with a significant other. It's an awesome weekly recap. What are 3 wins from the week? What was a time that you were surprised this week? And what was a moment that you were really proud of yourself this week? And if you guys have some cool ones, share them with us. We love when you DM us. Questions. Yeah, we love them. Thanks for listening. We love and appreciate you.