317: How Do You Turn Off the Cry Response and Communicate in an Intense Situation?

If you are in the right place in your life or in the right job, and I don't want you to take right the wrong way. But, like, I really feel like if you're growing, which I think is a great place to be, that you're gonna feel the intense cry response. Yes. Welcome to the earn your happy podcast. I'm Lori Harder, founder of The Bliss Project, 3 Time Fitness World champion, fitness expert and cover model, turned self love junkie, lifestyle entrepreneur and author. Each I'll bring you a guest or a thought that will help you bust through your fears, connect to your soul, and get focused and clear so you can elevate your life, business and relationships. We don't wait until we're ready for someone to tell us we're good enough. We take what we want and we anoint ourselves, get ready to earn, own, and unapologetically rock your happiness every single day. Are you with me? Here we go. Foreign. Welcome back to another episode of questionably awesome, where we answer your Q A. Questionably Awesome. What does that title mean? We've. That's what I've. I don't even think I asked you if it could be called that. So it's called that now. Questionably awesome. Because I really feel that a lot of people are going to question if it's awesome or not, and they're going to want to say yes.

Yes. They are. They're gonna say yes.

Please say yes. But someone else in their car might not think so.

They might say no.

Right. Which is. That's where it's questionable. And that's okay with me because my answer is it's awesome. Yay. So welcome back to another episode. I feel like we have some really good questions today that I'm super amped about. Like, I feel like this is your burning question listener. So if something's burning in your body right now, don't tell me where.

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All right, so we're gonna start off with our quotes for how we're feeling right now or just kind of where we're at. Or is this just a quote that you like? Or is this kind of where you're at right now?

This is just a quote that I like.

Okay, tell me about it. Tell me your quote first.

Okay. It's a quote by Ruth Bader Ginsburg. And there's a movie with her right now. Well, not with her. About her, but it's really good.

Okay.

And so I really like her, and I'm reading a book about her.

Tell me who she is. For everyone who doesn't know, she's on the Supreme Court.

And she just went through so many hurdles to get there. And she's this wonderful, wonderful woman. I can't even named Ruth. Yeah.

When she was a baby. Do you think they called her Baby Ruth?

Actually, her nickname was Kiki. I learned that in the movie.

Oh, well, that's totally different than Baby Ruth.

That is completely different than now.

She loves that song by Drake. Right, Kiki? Yeah. She probably has a video to that.

I bet she does.

Yeah.

We'll look. Okay. But she says you have to expect things of yourself before you can do them.

Oh, my.

Isn't that great?

That is so good. That is the story of my life. Like, I have to hold that expectation for myself, and I have to be willing to let it. Okay. To not hit that expectation several times.

Exactly.

Have you ever done this where you have this thing that you've been wanting to do, but, like, you kind of start it? Maybe it's guitar for me. Pick it up seven times throughout the year, and you put it back down. And then you're like, maybe that wasn't the year. And I think I've kind of talked about this before, but yes, it's like you have to have the grace to forgive yourself and come back to it again. Do you have anything like that?

Oh, yeah. I took improv classes for three months, and then I stopped taking them. And I really loved them.

Yeah.

But then I got scared, so you can always go back to things.

What were you scared of?

Just going to the next level.

What was the next level?

301.

What were you doing in that one? So the first one. Tell me a little bit about. Of improv 101. Is that right? Was it 101? Okay.

I did 101 and 201.

Okay.

And it's really fun, but it's just. You're really vulnerable up there because it's something new. And there are people that you don't know in your class. Just like with any new hobby, it gets kind of scary.

So tell me an exercise that you do in 101 and 201. You're blotchy right now.

Yes, I am. You get like a word or something, and then you and your partner have to come up with a whole skit about it.

Okay. Which you did with us once, right? I think.

I think so. They're really Fun games. Everyone should take a class because it's really fun.

So it's like you being goofy, you having to just do stuff on the fly. Yes.

Think on your feet. And then you can kind of, if you get in your head about it, you're like, oh, why'd I say that?

Yeah. And you can't. Like, there's no time for it because you're on to the next. Like, you have to do it again. Yes. So what is your biggest lesson from those classes?

That you can keep going, just to keep pushing through because something eventually will come from it. And even when you mess up, people are going to support you. So don't give up. Just relax.

You think you'll go back?

I think so.

To 301?

I would like to.

I wonder what they'll make you do there. Like, if they'll make you cry on command.

They probably will.

That would be awesome. Like, I would love to see that. Except I do. I would do it with you. I would feel too left out to even watch. I love stuff like that because it freaks me out. But I also know it's so much fun when you break through to the other side. Like, it's almost like a euphoria that you don't ever get to experience anywhere else in your life unless you're doing hard stuff. So. All right, guys, go find an improv class.

Do it.

All right, so my quote, I took two quotes because they're both about paradox. Because right before this, we were talking about, like, because we always ask how to get our quotes. We're like, okay, where are we at right now?

Where are we?

What kind of quotes do we want to talk about today? And then we sit and we're like, where are we? Which is a really cool check in because I'm like, I don't know where I am. I haven't really dropped into my physical self and asked myself, where am I at today? How am I feeling? So I was like, I'm feeling like a paradox today. I'm feeling like. Like super happy and excited. And the sun was out, and now it's cloudy. And now I feel a little tired. And now I'm like, a little meh. Which now that this is recording and we're sitting here talking, I feel great.

Me too.

So there you go. So again, I'm a paradox, and I'm welcoming all of it and not thinking what I used to think. I mean, like, are you crazy? Like, you are nuts. But to be human is to really experience, I believe, the entire roller coaster in A day's time.

Yes.

And that's me. You're a human. This is by Carl Rogers. Thanks, Carl. He says, the curious paradox is that when I accept myself as I am, then I can change.

Carl. Oh, Carl.

Carl was in a valley of lilies by a waterfall when he wrote that. He definitely was eating a cheeseburger, listening to acdc.

He was living the dream.

Because that's a paradox right there.

Yes.

Yeah, exactly. All right, so I love that one. And then there's one more. And this is by John Grierson. Hopefully I'm saying that, right. No idea. The oblique paradox. I'm not really sure what that means. The oblique paradox of propaganda is that the lie in the throat becomes, by repetition, the truth in the heart. Now, I want to use this and say how. Basically, it's saying, like, if you say it enough times and see it enough times, it can become the truth for you in the media. Like, it becomes the truth of what everyone believes. But I want to take this idea and be like, yes, they've been using this forever, you guys.

That's how.

That's how you can become. Who you want to become is. I'm not saying lie about who you are, but you have to speak it into existence. Yes. So you have to say what you're doing. You have to set the date. You have to believe it. You have to speak as that person. So if you've started writing a book, even if you've written a sentence, you're an author. Welcome, welcome, welcome to the author world. So. And then it becomes the truth in your heart. So I want to take something that sounds very evil and turn it into something beautiful.

Nice.

Very nice.

I guess that could be. That could go for negative things you say about yourself, too. If you keep saying I'm this, I'm that, you're going to believe it.

It's.

I'm so glad you just said that because that's exactly what this is. Like, it's to a T what it is. And there's so many of us still, even who are listening. I know that just seems crazy, but there are so many of one person. There's one person who needs to hear that. And there's. There's so many things I still have to stop believing from my past. Oh, my God. Just happened. Just happened. Like, it's so easy for me to be like, do they have the right person? Because do they know who I am? I am not this person that they think. And sometimes, like, we were just messing with my bio, like, kind of tweaking it and I'm like, this feels not right. Like it doesn't feel true. But it is. But it is true.

That's you, Lori.

That's weird. But do you know what I mean? Like I could write a bio about you and you'd be like, really? And you'd have to speak it so many times until you're like, I am Evans Craddock. I am a world changer. I do amazing thing. I'm an event planner. I'm a podcast co host. I'm a.

Can you.

I am an improv professional.

Totally. That's not true.

Well, you are. You're an Improv 101 professional.

Improv 101 completed.

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All right, so those are our quotes. We have a review. I feel like we need one of those boards that you press that like brings in another voice that's like review of the week. And we also need a horn. Yes. All right. With a flag on it. Like in King's times.

Yes. Well, the king has arrived. Well, this might be a queen.

I. I think it's a queen. It's a queen.

Guessing the review comes from that cat chick and she says, earn your happy is my absolute favorite podcast. It's the first self development podcast I've ever listened to and it's helped me more times than I can count. My favorite episode is 297. You'll never be enough for the people. You're not enough. I can't agree with that more. Keep them coming. And I can't wait for Bliss.

I love that cat lady.

Cat chick.

That cat chick.

Yes.

Okay, that cat chick. I don't know her first name, but we are gonna find out. I have a feeling we're gonna see her at Bliss. Meow. Meow. Right Meow.

We're gonna see you right? Meow.

So. Right.

Meow.

I want to talk about this review because she says a couple awesome things in there. Number one, that this is her favorite podcast. Number two, that she hasn't listened to any other podcasts so she has nothing to compare it to. I'M just kidding. So don't listen to any other ones.

Keep it that way.

That cat chick stay number one. That cat chick, don't change number three. I love that you're coming to Bliss.

Me too.

Yeah. You have to leave your cats at home, but, yeah, we want you there.

Yes.

Your cat.

How many cats she has?

I think she has two.

I showed you a cat video this morning.

You did?

It was funny.

It was great.

It was hugging a dog's butt.

You should have posted on your Instagram.

It's really funny. Anyway, this cat just loves this dog's butt. It's real funny. All right. It was very innocent, by the way.

Innocent butt hug.

Hashtag innocent butt hug. Hi.

I just love your butt.

Do you mind if I hug it?

Yeah, don't do that.

Please don't do that. You did not hear that on this episode. You tell them that you heard that on a different podcast.

Nope. Hey, do you want a question? Laurie?

I love that about you. So she's so good about that at team meetings as well. All right, let's get back on track. Okay. I would love a question.

This is. We're gonna kick it off.

Strong ticket.

This comes from cat Acadia. Champagne.

God. Cats and champagne.

Cats and champagne. This is the best day. She asks, how do you turn off the cry response and communicate in an intense situation?

I'm obsessed with this question. Same number one, because of how she articulated exactly how I feel in intense situations, which I really believe that if you are in the right place in your life or in the right job, and I don't want you to take right the wrong way, but, like, I really feel like if you're growing, which I think is a great place. Place to be, that you're gonna feel the intense cry. What was it again? The cry response. The cry response. The cr. The intense cry response.

Yes. ICR yeah.

Thank you.

You're welcome.

She saw me looking up ICR I really want to keep this around the ICR because it is, like, so accurate, so great. Okay. So the intense cry response. I know exactly what you mean. Because there's been so many times when either I've been confronted or I have to ask for something or I have to say something that I don't like, that's no longer working for me, especially to people that I love or people that I respect. And I think that a lot of times this isn't. They're not even conversations that end something or create a boundary. They're, like, just speaking up in general. Oh, my God. I Have trouble just speaking up in general. I do it, but I get the intense cry response all the time. And sometimes I do cry. So here's the thing. How do you manage the intense cry response? Number one, it's accepting that you might cry and that's totally fine. Yes. And to acknowledge it, like, be like, when I'm in, you know, a confrontational situation or a highly emotional situation, this is how, how it expresses sometimes. But keep going. Like, try to keep going and just ask for a moment. It is way more normal than you think. Like, honestly, we've done it with each other. People cry all the time. All of the time. I've done it in every single job I've been in. There's a difference between like a full on breakdown and not being able to like express yourself. And that's fine too. That might happen the first time.

Right.

And you might need to ask for space and say, I'm not ready to have this conversation yet. That's a sign that you're not ready to have the conversation yet.

Yes.

And what's gonna happen though is that even if you kind of get a really intense cry response in the beginning, it's gonna, it's gonna go by like, doesn't it? What does it feel like for you when it happens? Is it like really intense and then it kind of like starts to deflate once you get the words out?

Yes. Like that feeling in your throat and you're like, oh, no.

Yes, it's terrible.

You just take a deep breath.

Yep. Take a deep breath. Try to find the most comfortable way and place to have the conversation.

Good idea.

And I think also beginning with, I have something to ask you or talk to you about and it's really, really hard for me. I might get really emotional, but I have to get this out.

Yes.

Can we have this time to talk? Like something like that? Like, I might get really emotional. Again, it comes down to stating it. Does that help for you?

I think so. But what do you do? What if you're in a crazy work scenario and it's something that's happening to you, you know what I mean? And your response is like, ugh, this makes me so scared I have to cry.

So give me, give me another example. Like something happening to you. Are we in a meeting? Or are we in a meeting?

And you know, it can be really stressful and your boss says something to you and your first response is, your feelings get hurt and you start to cry. Do you have any tools you would use for that?

If I was in that situation. I mean, you're a human, and that happens a lot too. When I worked in corporate America for a little while, that actually happened a lot with a lot of the people that I worked with because it was a brand new company and it was like, a lot of people were in positions that maybe shouldn't be in positions, and we're using different. I mean, I. I don't think that even matters. I think we. We're just all learning to communicate. So I would say I. I think that the. The mo. Most of the crying and emotions comes from the fear of crying. So, like, literally, it's like, yes, you're hurt, but then you add on top of it, oh, my God, they're gonna think you're a baby. Oh, my God, this is so bad. Oh, my God, I'm crying in front of everyone. And it can make it even worse than, oh, yeah. So I think if you can kind of let go of that resistance and just be like, take a deep breath and let it come if it comes. Because I'm telling you, emotions, when felt, they're not gonna stick around long. So if you. If you get the luxury of being able to excuse yourself, do that. Like, you have every right in a situation like that to just say, I need to excuse myself. I'll be right back. Yes. Like, you don't have to stay in the room.

No, you can go collect yourself.

Go collect yourself and come back. If there's a conversation that needs to be having, you know, it's just gonna be so insanely intense, whether it's with a boss or a loved one. I always say, like, even though this may not be super acceptable, if, you know you're not gonna get it out right, or, you know, you're gonna be an absolute mess and it's not gonna come across well or be understood or taken seriously, then I say either write it out on paper first or in a letter or in an email. Now, some people say that that's not very professional to, like, write something like, either quitting or saying what you need. But what you can do is always say, and I've had people write me this, and I was totally great with it. I would never ever normally want to do this over a letter or email, but because I'm so emotional around it, meaning I have so many, like, I have so much deep care for what I do or deep care for you, that I want to make sure I articulate myself well. And we can have a conversation right after this. So prep them, Prep them. And once, you know, they have the information. I mean, you're gonna feel like you. As soon as you send this email, you're gonna get diarrhea.

You're gonna feel so loose.

I mean, like, your. Your bowels will not. You will have no control down there. But then when they get back to you, they get back to you, you're gonna feel so much better. Like, you're gonna have the conversation.

I did not think you were gonna say diarrhea.

Yeah, well, I'm just being real. Like, I'm getting prepared for real life and what actually happens. Cause you're gonna be like, why did I send that? This is the worst. But here's the thing. Send it. Get it out there. The conversation is coming. It's guaranteed that it's coming. But here's what else is guaranteed, is that you don't have to live with that resentful feeling or that fear or that. Or heard or not having what you need or not quitting a job that you don't love or whatever. Whatever that thing is. It's like, it's never as bad as you think. So send the email or write the letter, or you could even write it down and sit with them in the room while they read the paragraph. I know that might seem really weird, but if that's what works best, just do what works. Like, these are all things that I've done. Yeah. I'm like, I love you. I care for you. I can't get all of my thoughts together, and I tend to overreact or say something I don't want to say. If I don't have all my emotions, like, if I don't have all the points written out. Good idea. So. Right. Like, I'm a better writer at first than I am speaker, so articulate what you want and what you need.

I like that.

I think we covered all the bases.

I think so, too.

Okay.

Great answer.

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You ready? Another one.

You're welcome.

I'm ready. Okay.

This is from hrishalife Design.

What a great last name. Just kidding.

Life Design. Her first part of the question is, were you ever upset at the universe and how did you overcome it?

Angry right now.

Just kidding.

I have an actual globe sitting next to me that I'm beating with a baseball bat. I'm just kidding. Oh, let's see. I'm trying to think if I've actually been mad at the universe because I think this question is. I think this is being asked as like, have you ever been Upset with. Have you ever been upset with God or your creator or the universe for not delivering what you want or for not going the right way or for delivering you a total shit sandwich?

Yeah, it happens.

Oh, God, it happens. And I'm like, I did not order this Schlosky's.

You did not?

No. And they're like, yeah, you did. Lesson of the day.

Diarrhea.

Yeah, I was about to sing the song. You all know it. You can finish it. Okay. So I know that I have, but I also, for quite a while now, have had the belief that I'm always getting an answer. And that answer is yes, no, or not right now.

There you go.

Always.

Yeah, you're always getting an answer.

Yeah. So even when you think you're not getting an answer, like when I was, you know, like, basically banging my head against the wall over, like, am I gonna be a New York Times bestseller? And then it was like, no. And I was like, that's an answer.

That's the answer.

And I was like, oh, that is not the one I wanted. But clearly it is, because it is either meant for later. It is not meant at all. Because maybe I would have defined myself by that and then felt like, who knows? Like I had to keep going. Maybe it wouldn't have been enough. Maybe it wasn't the right time for the book. Maybe it would have brought a lot of unwanted publicity around. Something. Who even knows? I've literally thought of everything, why it could be a great thing. And I've come up with. And here's the other thing. I have a belief that we are all meaning making machines and story building, like robots. So I'm gonna build a story to justify wherever I'm at. And I'm gonna make it be the best story that I possibly can for wherever I'm at, as long as I'm making sure I'm not fooling myself. And I am, yes, growing and obviously, like, trying to take care of myself and make sure that I'm doing things to the highest good. La la la la la. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Whatever. Fill in the blank with your favorite word. I like to give them the flexible freedom to play along with us.

It's like Mad Libs.

Yeah, you guys fill it in now. What's your favorite? That's a good one. Mary, Susan, Sherry.

Those are the three listeners.

Wanda. Four.

Oh, wait, there's another part to this question. Okay, okay. When you first started this journey, were you expecting to be where you are today?

No, I was Expecting to be way further, actually. And that's just the honest truth. Like. Yeah, I think, honestly, that's the honest truth.

When I.

When I truly started this journey, when I was like, I want to be in the fitness world and the fitness celebrity, and I want to be a Jillian Michaels, and then I was like, I want to be an Oprah. And to.

I want.

I wanna have a platform like this and that. And now I'm 38, and I thought I'd be there by now, and I'm like, wow, actually, that's pretty young. And some people get it when they're 25, and some people get it when they're 50, and some people decide it wasn't for them. So I'm kind of in this crazy place of. I don't think that that was, like, way. What my projection was. Was not meant for me yet, because I had a lot of lessons I was meant to learn along the way. And a lot of that lesson was to be happy with or without the thing. And I'm still learning that.

That.

Ooh, that's cool stuff. So I don't know if it'll ever be delivered because I don't know if I'll ever learn that. So. Because I'm always going back and forth with like, oh, you're so happy. You're just happy being. And then I'm like, no, I'm not. So there you go. That's just part honest truth. It's just the honest truth.

Well, thank you for sharing the truth.

You're welcome. Wanda.

Susan, we have another one.

Okay, let's do it. Okay.

It's from at. God is God is the only original artist.

Amen. Amen.

And they ask, what is your biggest or most challenging Overall goal for 2019? That's a hard question.

Any other year, I could have answered this, like, any other year, because this is the first year that I don't have, like. Like a crazy goal.

Maybe that's your answer.

I think it might be.

That's the biggest challenge for you.

Yeah, it's very challenging. I would like a goal, and. And really, I do have goals, like, around the podcast. So my biggest goal would really to be to get my podcast literally in, like, the top of the top charts. Yes. So that's my biggest goal.

But I think that's an awesome goal.

I love that goal. Yeah. Because that means more people will hear this from Wanda, you know.

Well, I also think that we are so focused on the end goal, but every book you read, every single speaker you hear all the good Stuff comes from getting there.

It is. And it's right now. So really, it's literally right now. Like, the whole purpose of everything I do is to enjoy the right now. And I can honestly say I am.

Well, that's good. That's all there is to it.

That's all there is, Yeah. I mean, like, we could walk out of here and that could be just, you know, done. Yeah, that was morbid. Have you seen. Have you seen. Did we talk about Bird Box?

No, I didn't. I did not watch that.

Gonna pass on it.

That's a movie with Sandra Bullock on Netflix, right?

Yep. Blindfolds.

I'm too scared.

Are you gonna watch it ever?

I don't think so.

Okay. Well, you know me. I hate scary movies.

Yeah, I'm really surprised that you watched it.

Chris wanted to see it, and I was like, at any point, can I have the permission to turn it off? He's like, that's fine. But it's a weird scary. It's like a thriller scary. And I also was like. But I was anxious the whole time. Like, if you're anxious anyway, like, it just put that. It cranked her up. Like, I could not. My solar plexus was like. You know, that one face, that one art piece with the hands on the face and the face is like.

That was me. The whole.

My solar plexus that was tattooed on my solar plexus the entire time. Time.

I felt anxious during the entire movie. Meet the Parents. And I feel like that's as much as I need. That movie makes you so anxious.

It really does. In fact, there are times when I watch movies like that, and I'm like, I can't take another problem that's gonna happen in this person. I'm like, at this point, flee the country. Yeah. I'm always like, you can't. You're just now a magnet.

Right. It's just too much.

Those are too much. Like, I love that. I like some I love meets parents is good, but some are just way too much. I'm like, no, I can't handle more problems for this person.

Yeah.

Yeah. I want to help solve them by removing them from the situation, but they just keep coming back for more.

Well, see, those movies are just another example of how the journey is where it really is.

Yeah. And that is truly the journey of life, too. Like, if you keep coming back for more pain and stepping in front of the bus, you need to move out of that situation.

Yes, you do.

That's a real thing. Like, people do that daily.

I Don't think that's a good idea.

They're like, why do I feel tormented and hate my life and hate my circle of friends and don't like my family? Now, some of it is because you need to change your attitude.

Yes.

You need an attitude change. AC AC Slater.

AC Slater change.

All right, guys. So was that. Was that her? Our last question.

That was the last question.

All right, Evan, so let me see if I can think of a question for you.

Okay. What?

Okay, I think we're out of time, Lori. I gotta go. It's getting dark in here. Which it is, isn't it?

Yeah.

Can I tell you how many podcasts I've been on where it's, like, sunny and all of a sudden I'm sitting in a pitch black room and I'm sweating and I'm like, this has now become something very different than when I first started.

Little do people know.

They have no idea. I'm in the dark, I'm sweating profusely, and I'm like, I gotta get the light on, I gotta pee, and I need to cool myself off.

You do a lot of things.

Yeah.

For this podcast.

Really do. I mean, it's sacrificial up in here.

And we thank you.

Okay, let me think. I would like to know what is something that's been on your heart that you want to do this year? Oh, Lord.

Oh, Lord.

Ooh. Traveling to where?

Well, we've been talking about traveling to Japan. Oh, I really wanna. At first I was scared, but then I don't know why I was scared. I was just like, I've never been there. I'm scared. I don't know the language. It's one of those places you don't know and you can't speak. Yeah.

And I heard a lot of people don't speak English. Right? Is that right?

I'm not even sure.

I'm not sure. But I've had some fears around it too. But I would love to go there as well. I feel like maybe it's because it's been on my radar, I've been seeing so much more of it. Or because so many people I know have been traveling there. Yeah.

Yeah, I want to go there. So that's been on my heart.

Yeah. That is amazing. I would love to go there. Who did I have in my podcast, she talked about living in Japan.

Melissa. Did she love it?

She loved it.

That's what everyone says.

She, like, got me so sold on some of the desserts too. Oh, my gosh.

And the people are lovely and everyone's so respectful, and it's really quiet on the streets and everything, and so orderly. This is just what I've heard.

Okay, well, you know what's funny? I was sitting behind someone in a coffee shop. We were actually on the street down at Prepaid.

Yeah.

And he was talking about how he's traveled to, like, everywhere because I was totally eavesdropping. This is one of my favorite things to do. Love doing that. What'd you do today? Eavesdropped all day?

Yep.

So he was talking about how, like, he loves Australia and he loves all these other places, but he said the most amazing place that he's ever experienced in his whole life was Japan. And he said mostly because of how lovely the people are, but secondly, just how freaking stunning it is. That's what I've heard. So maybe Japan. We could do a Japan ad. Yes. And Japan will pay us to go over there.

Yes.

Like, maybe the country will be like, we saw your ad or we heard your ad.

Welcome.

About Japan. We're sending Japan AM to pick you up.

There's the bus.

I think we have the accent wrong.

I think we have it right. Here's the bus.

Here's the bus, ladies.

Hop in.

All right, so we're not gonna look like tourists there at all. So that's great. We're not gonna sound like it either. Nope. And we're gonna fit in.

Yes.

On Japan am. Japan am, that's the airline, right?

I have no idea.

I'm pretty sure it is.

I don't know what it is, but I'm getting on it.

All right, so you heard it here first. All right, so. So, you guys, thank you so much for joining us for another episode of questionably awesome. And there's no question that today was awesome.

It really was. Thank you.

Signing off with Evans Craddock.

Lori Harder.

Have a good one.

Bye. Bye.

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