329: How Do You Become Okay With Letting Go?

Yeah, it's best just to wash your face and go to bed.

It is. It is.

Start over tomorrow.

Okay, you heard it here. Wash your face.

Wash your face. You'll be fine, girl.

Wash your face, girl.

Wash your face.

Rachel Hollis. Welcome to the earn your happy podcast. I'm Lori Harder, founder of The Bliss Project, 3 Time Fitness World champion, fitness expert and cover model turned self love junkie, lifestyle entrepreneur and author. Each week, I'll bring you a guest or a thought that will help you bust through your fears, connect to your soul, and get focused and clear so you can elevate your life, business, and relationships. We don't wait until we're ready for someone to tell us we're good enough. We take what we want and we anoint ourselves, get ready to earn, own, and unapologetically rock your happiness every single day. Are you with me? Here we go. Welcome to another episode of the Dueling Tigers. Just kidding. You have the right podcast. It is questionably awesome. Otherwise known as Q A with Evans and Lori Craddock. That's what our names would be if we were married. I think you'd be like, it's my last name. I'm sorry.

Take mine.

Carter's kind of a weird last name. Like, is life supposed to be harder? No, no, Craddock.

It is done.

So at least we have solved that. So I know that a lot of you started this podcast wondering if they got married, what would. Like, whose last name?

What would they do? Yeah.

So you can definitely scratch easy today. And now we're going to get to some other good ones, but these are lower on the list, so we like to start with the tough ones first. And that's what they say you should do.

Yep. Eat the frog first.

Eat that frog.

Which we just did.

Yeah.

Boom, boom. So, but for real, what do you do at the first part of your day that's, like, hard in order for you to make everything else easy?

Get up and take the early yoga class.

Oh, yeah. You do do that. I do. Yeah. But I can't say it's very hard when Josh Duhamel is there.

So, no, it's not touche.

But touche.

He's not been there lately, so it's actually tough.

Oh, my God. It's almost worse because you have an expectation and then that is torn away from you. So you have to show up in the class with your heart already have been attached to another outcome. Yeah.

I'm already broken when I walk in the room.

I just. I can't even.

I can't even top that.

That's probably, like, the most emotional thing that I've heard in the last five minutes.

Yeah, believe it because it's true. You have no idea what I go through.

I. You know what? I've done a lot of, like, I really try to help people, but I have no advice around that yet.

There's none besides child's pose.

Like, just. That's when they say you're like, screw child's pose.

I'm going back in.

I'm going in.

Let me in. Let me.

To any person around.

Let me get me in there.

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We are so grateful for your review. I especially love that you either like champagne or renamed yourself. Yep. People are doing that now.

Yeah.

By the way, we're going to talk about that in one second.

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I do, too. But she could put champagne in there.

She could.

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And be like to her boss. Like, yeah. It's what you do here all the time. You're like, coffee. And I'm like, it's fizzing.

No, it's not.

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And my brain hurts from you. From my bus. But speaking of changing your name.

Yes.

People do that here.

They do.

They literally are like, this name does not fit me anymore. And I get it. I totally get it. So anyone who has changed their name. I feel you. I've always. I've definitely always had the urge to change my name from Lori Wagner or Lori Harder to something like, really, like Rainbow Close. Starfish Star, maybe Star.

Ooh, like Star Rinaldi. Oh, yeah.

She's amazing. She's cool. Yeah, she's really cool. If you're listening, Star, we think your name is really cool.

Yes.

Yeah. What would your name be?

Prince Z with a C. I'm gonna.

Call you Prince Z. Prince Z from here on out.

Yeah.

Princess. Princess, Princess. Come.

That would be so nice.

Okay, Princess. Yeah. All right. I'll have to think of mine. All right, so we got some quoted quotes, some QQs.

QQs.

What's yours?

My quoted quote? Yep, it's. I'm reading this book called Come as yous Are, and it's actually a women's sexuality book.

Whoa.

Yeah, it's really good.

Whoa.

It's so good.

Okay, do tell.

It's by the authors, Emily Nagat Nagoski. And this is a quote from her book that I really liked. We know by now that there's no such thing as normal. Or rather that we're all normal. We're all made of the same parts as everyone else, organized in a unique way. No two alike.

I like that.

It's just the whole book is about how we're all normal no matter what. Everybody just is organized differently.

So what does that have to do.

With women's sexuality so much? It's all about it. Like, why the difference between men and women and stress and how we handle things differently. It's really interesting. I'm only on, like page 40, but still.

Oh, my God. That's a whole other podcast too. Like, do you ever listen or. I think we did. We listen to Esther Perel together, I think. Esther Perel.

We heard her at Lewis House.

Yeah. That's a crazy. She is, like, got so much wisdom. If you guys have not heard of her, you can Google her TED Talk. But it talks about how, like, connection and intimacy kind of crushes sexual intimacy, but for the two different reasons why. And it's just so interesting because I think a lot of different people struggle with it, especially as women are really getting. Becoming super empowered and they're becoming business people and. Well, we have been business people for a really long time, but still. But even more so and how that can affect us. And I think the more, just like with anything, the more self awareness we have, the more books we can read, the more we can understand that we are so much alike and also talk about it with our partners and with our men so that they can be fully aware of what's, you know, going on in our emotional world as well. Because I think so often you Know, different people express love in different ways. And for men, it's usually way more physical than women. And a lot of times we're like, oh, hell no. I am tired and stressed out. Do not touch princess right now. Princess does not want to be.

No. Like, it's all about that. It's all about it. It's so interesting, Laurie. It is? Yeah.

It's crazy. It's crazy. If Prince Az wanted to be touched all the time, here's the thing. The world would be overpopulated. I don't know.

That's my princess. Don't have time for that.

Princess ain't got no time for that. All right, all right. So I think we've solved a few more problems. All right, So I love that quote. I'm going to read you my quote.

That's your quote.

There's three. I told you that.

Yep.

Told you. Prepare yourself. All right. But they're all in the same thing. It's all about detachment. And I googled this because I wanted quotes on detachment from just your identity in general. Because I think that if we're truly going to show up as the person and become the person that we are meant to be in this lifetime, that you have to let go of all of the ideas that you think about yourself.

Oh, yes.

Yeah. Like, Princess might need to let go of how she thinks she is to become what she thinks she is.

Ooh, that's a good one.

Because she may not even be that. She may be that way because of Aunt Princess.

Yeah.

Or Uncle Princess.

Uncle Princess.

You don't even know. All right, number one. Okay. Detect. Well, this is from. Oh, I cannot pronounce this, but I'm going to try. Okay. Al Ali IBN Abi Talib. I think I did okay.

I think you did a good job, actually.

That sound made me sound really smart. Ali ibn. Yes, Abi Talib. Okay. Detachment is not that you should own nothing, but that nothing should own you. What do you think, Princess?

I love it. I love it. Nothing should own you. No.

That's amazing. And sometimes we get something that we think defines us so much that we're like, who would we be without it?

Yep.

Or someone.

Yes. So true.

When Princess gets that prince and is like, I'm not a princess without my prince. And all of a sudden you're like, oh, my God, you still are. You still are. You still got your crown.

Yeah.

You're you.

You don't have to be as. You're Jasmine Prince. You're Jasmine no matter what.

Even if the rug is gone.

You don't need that rug jazz.

You don't even need that lamp.

No, you don't.

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Number two.

Number two. Detachment doesn't mean I'm trying less hard. It just means that fears and emotions that used to torment and paralyze me no longer have the same power over me. So detachment doesn't mean I'm trying less hard. It just means the fears and emotions that used to torment and paralyze me no longer have the same power over me. Over me. Kelly Coltrone. I've got one more. That one was. That one was like a six.

Six out of ten.

Yeah. I felt like I had to think about it. Okay. At first I didn't. Apparently I liked it at first. All right, number nine. Detach. Detached from needing to have things work out a certain way. The universe is perfect and there are no failures. Give yourself the gift of detaching from your worries and trust that everything is happening perfectly. Anonymous. Oh, so many people are named Anonymous these days. Yeah.

Who is this Anonymous person?

I don't know. It's like Socrates.

But I liked what they said. I really did.

Do you know where I could find a book by Anonymous?

Because I love all their quotes.

I have a ton of their quotes collected. I was just wondering, where's their book?

Like, I get a tattoo on my arm that's like, who's that by? Oh, it's by Anonymous.

Anonymous.

I've been trying to find a book, but no, candidly, it was probably just thousands and thousands of years ago, so it was probably written on a wall. Yeah. So everything's temporary. Yep. Forever. I heard a quote. It was like, forever. Everything is temporary. Just like forever and ever, Everything is temporary.

That's so true.

Constantly remembering. I am. Tongue twistering. Trede. I think I. I think it's literally only because I've been talking like waffles so much that I'm. You are? Yeah. Like, sometimes you shouldn't.

Yeah.

Yeah, but you should.

You're doing great. Keep going.

I agree. Let's keep going.

Okay.

Do we have a question from a beautiful listener? Because.

Yes.

Thank God for them.

Well, I got one for you from Mallory Lynn.

0.

She asked, how do you find balance between privacy and self disclosure?

Hmm. I think we found a little balance in the beginning. Cause I wasn't about to Tear into your sex life on here. But thank you for that.

Hey, Mom.

It's going down the road, Mom. Just kidding. But that's exactly it. Like, for real. Like, I'm gonna go to an edge that's maybe uncomfortable, but also says that I'm just like you or that we're just like you. And because I want to go to the edge of relatability. So in any story and in anything that you're sharing, use enough of story that says, I actually do truly get you. I actually may really struggle with this. This is actually a big thing in my life, but I don't need to disclose details or pull someone in who doesn't need to be in unless you've agreed to those terms. So if you've agreed to terms with people in your life that you're like, whatever you talk to me about, that shit is going on my podcast, so be careful. Like, I might have to start wearing a T shirt like that.

But no, that's not true. Because you would hold secrets. Well, not secrets. Not like secrets. It's like you go around holding secrets.

Look what's in my right hand and what's in my left hand.

Got a bunch of secrets for you.

I've got a bag of secrets. Just a bag of secrets on it. Your.

Trust me. Yeah, that's what I meant.

Right.

If one of your close friends confided in you, you wouldn't bring that on here.

No, of course not. And so that's really huge, too, is that there's many conversations that I know I could teach really well from and would make awesome podcasts, but I would never dream of it. I wouldn't even. It's not even a thing. Because you have to know what is valuable in your life to you, and that trust in those conversations are the most valuable thing to me. And also trust with my spouse and not ever making him feel embarrassed. And I'm sure I've said stuff that has, but those are also open conversations of like, yeah, hey, when you brought that up, I almost punched you in the shin. Donkey bag.

The donkey bag.

Yeah.

In your purse, in your satchel.

You just don't know what that is. It could be under the elbow.

Yeah, that's your wenus. Oh, wait, you know that part on your elbow, the weird skin? That's really your wenus. It is. No, it's not. Yes, it is. Google it. I'm telling you right now, I'm gonna.

Punch you in the weenus.

This episode just got. What's the X rating?

We already do Explicit on these.

Okay.

Because sometimes you swear.

Never know where it's gonna go. It's true.

The weenus.

Telling you, your listeners know.

I can't wait to use that word. I want to make T shirts, but that point to the elbow, that's like, something about it.

I don't know your wenus, it's that stretchy skin.

Have you talked to your kids yet about their weenus? And if not, here's where it is.

Here's how to check it.

So when wrestlers are doing that one move with the elbow, when they smack the bottom of their elbow and then they smack it onto the person's face, are they technically smacking their wenus and then smacking the person in the face with their wenus?

You know, I guess you did bring it there. And I think it's true. I think everything he said is accurate. But there. I don't know if it's so much the skin.

I don't know. I. You need to Google weness for me while you find me another question as well so I can change this whole topic.

Okay, Question number two comes from at baby steps for big results. We assume our closest circle should be the most supportive, but it doesn't always work that way. What did you find the most valuable through the transition of becoming who you are now?

Okay, so you and I heard an awesome quote this weekend from Chris King, who this question got. So at Chris's mastermind this weekend, this a question. This question got asked.

Right?

It was like, and this is the question that always gets asked of 2019 and of 32 BCE.

Yes.

Like, and every year in between, it's the question of the apostles were like, jesus, what do I do if my family doesn't support this message? And he was like, speak to everyone.

Yeah.

Until the. Until everyone is moved. And then your family will be like, hey, you must be onto something. Wow. I mean, I don't know if that's actually. But it's kind of true.

Yeah. That's a good.

Hey, I come from a religious family.

You know what you're talking about.

I do. And even though I wasn't on the Mount of Olives, I like olives. So.

You know, I don't like olives. I know.

Black or green or Kalamata.

All of them. All of them. Just not interested.

I'm really not. Oh, love.

Anyway, back to oh, love.

So what did.

What did Chris King say?

He said, let me read this first. Friends and family won't support you until strangers celebrate you. Now, that was a. Mm for sure. We Were like, mm. Everyone in the room was just like, of course. Because this is how it has played out for all of us, for anyone who's done something that's outside of your family's ideals or beliefs. So even if your family is, like, doing amazing big things, but maybe they've all been doctors. So then an entrepreneur comes along and is like, you're doing amazing things. This is incredible. You're breaking belief systems of people, you know, exceeding expectations. Except now I'm gonna do something different. It's just about, you're something different. So when you break that pattern, they obviously only don't support you because they don't think it will work. So they want you to be safe. They don't want you to fail. Now, that isn't always the case. Some people are like, can't wait to see my brother fail. But.

And that's not very nice.

And that's not cool either. Yeah, but that's fuel for the fire.

Yes, it is.

So there you go. But that is when you really have to realize that you have to just stick to your past, because eventually there are going to be strangers who are thanking you and being so grateful, and your family and friends are going to see this and they're going to be like, wow, something must be working. Like, these other people are really, like, using this person's advice or they have wisdom to give, so they start to listen. The thing is, they just can't hear you. They can't, like, get the information from you because they're not viewing you in that light yet. Because to you, you're still, you know, little Mary or little Timmy.

Yeah.

Throwing sand. Like eating. Like eating, you know, like dog poop out of the sandbox.

Yeah. Play doh.

Yeah, I meant play doh.

You meant play doh.

I never ate dog poop.

I bet I did.

I think we both practiced it.

It's okay.

We were like, ooh, chocolate.

We survived.

We were fine.

Well, that was a good answer.

Did I fully answer that? Yeah. What was the full question?

The full question is, what did you find the most valuable through the transition of becoming. Becoming who you are now.

Oh, Literally. So creating my own, like, hanging out with other people who are on that path so that when I did default into my own, like, insecurities and fears, when I would share it or talk about it, I would then have the people whose, you know, like, they. They were there to lift me up for sure and only listen to positive things. And don't go back to your family that doesn't believe in you. When you're down, is there just going to be like, see, this is why you need to go back into chiropractics. And even if you are a chiropractor, that's awesome. That was an example, right? I love me a good adjustment.

Me too.

Oh, man. Feels so good. Like, I get addicted. I'm like, can you crack me?

Yeah. I've never been cracked, but I want to be cracked.

Oh, man. Well, you're not a. You're a nut. You can get cracked.

And I want to get cracked today.

You should.

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Speaking of cracking, want me to try?

Yes. Speaking of cracking.

Yes.

We're about to crack you wide open with this question.

I'm ready.

It's from Aitlin Hawkins. Love her. She sounds awesome. How do you become okay with letting go?

All right, we're gonna picture. What is Kate letting go of?

Maybe she's letting go of a relationship.

Okay, so relationship, a job, a person, a title, anything, right? But it's probably an old way of life. How do you get okay. With letting go? Is that what she's asking?

Yep. How do you do it?

How do you do it? Okay, so picture if you are holding on to, like, a rope on the side of a boat.

Okay.

Where this is going. All right. I'm picturing yourself on the side of a big, big cruise ship.

Okay.

And you see another lifeboat going by. Yeah. And the ship you're holding onto is going down. It's no longer for you, but this lifeboat is going to take you to safety. And they're yelling at you, and you know it, because they're like, we all did it, too. Like, we had to let go into safety. And we're going to, like, this is going to be the lifeboat to your next life. I promise you. We've been here before. This is what it looks like. So part of letting go is making sure people that you. On the next phase that you're going to, that you already are starting to set up your next lifeboat for where you're going.

Oh.

So as you are letting go, this is what it's going to feel like. You're now around the people who are telling you it's going to be okay, but they're also saying when you let go or before you let go, it's going to feel crazy. Your body's not going to want to let go. You just are going to have to count to three, and you're going to have to push as hard as you can off of this and, like, lean back and know that there's a point where you don't know if you're going to live or you're going to die. But you're. You're gonna live because we've been there before. I promise you. And when you land, it's gonna hurt, but you're gonna recover. And then we're gonna take you off to the next beautiful phase of your life that's gonna be even better than that ship that was already going down. So let go. That's what it feels like.

That was awesome. And, Caitlin, I hope you're ready to let go now.

Let go of the Titanic. Caitlin.

Caitlin.

Because your lifeboat with beautiful Brazilian models is coming through, and they're taking you.

To Brazil, and it's gonna be warm and lovely and a party.

It's gonna be a potty, but a.

Little scary at first, but then great.

Then great.

Yeah.

So. But you're gonna have that freefall, and you're not gonna want to let go, and it's gonna suck, and it's. You're gonna cry and you're gonna think that you're gonna die. Yeah.

Yeah.

That's for real. Even if you're letting go of a relationship or a job or anything, you're like, everything doesn't want to because your whole mind is made for safety. So it's like. Like, don't let go. This is familiar. You don't know about the next thing. You're better holding on to this ship that's going down than letting go. Even though the people in the lifeboat are just up there looking at you like, is she an idiot? Right. Like, just let go because. Except they've been there before, so all they can do is yell to you. So.

Yeah, I like that metaphor.

I'm not sure how I feel about it. I think you could really get cleaned up.

I hope no one ever is on a ship that has to come to get on a lifeboat.

But it could. What if the lifeboat was going somewhere way better?

You know, maybe I need to let go of that bad daydream.

I think. I think there's some work to be done there.

There's some work there, and I'm letting go of it.

I think that we just need to get you on another cruise ship for seven days in a cabin with me.

Oh, that was fun.

Seven days in a cabin with me.

Yeah. Bingo. Every night. Bingo. Trivia.

Trivia. Every night. Trivia. Oh, if you haven't heard about that, I think it's somewhere. Yeah. Evans and I were on a cruise ship together for seven days.

Seven days and seven nights, I think.

Eight nights. Seven nights.

Eight nights. Because one night in Florida.

Oh, yeah. Two nights in Florida.

Do you know it was one of the most fun nights or days.

The last of your life.

What of my life? The day we were in Florida and we went and saw that movie, Bohemian Rhapsody. Yes.

Is now like, is it the number one movie and the number one actor? It should be. Because when I watched it, I didn't. I say when I came, I was like, that's gonna be like the movie of. If it's not, I'm gonna talk to somebody.

I think you did.

If not, I'm gonna talk to the crossing guard on Montana, and I'm gonna let her know. It should have been.

I love her with her little hat.

With her little red hair. Oh, my gosh. She would listen to me. She really would. You know, she's amazing. She's. She wears a visor.

Yeah. And she has her book, and she sits in her chair.

Do you think she's reading steamy romance novels? I wouldn't be surprised. And then when the kids come, she's like, dagnabbit.

She probably has, like, a fake cover on it. She does.

It's like Grover. And she's reading 47 shades of purple. Ooh, wait, is Grover purple? 47 shades of purple.

47 shades of purple. Out this spring.

Out this spring. Written by Big Bird. All right, Big Bird. Oh, Lord.

Oh, this podcast is X rated. Definitely getting a lot of X's.

Triple X, triple X, and Sesame street ratings. All right, so did we have another one, or was that the last one?

It was the last one. We did three.

Oh. People just breathed out a sigh of relief. Three.

It's over. Thank God I can let go.

Oh, God. I got a little uncomfortable there. I didn't know how many more Sesame street analogies we could have.

Sorry, everyone.

All right, Evans, I got a last qq. Okay, what do you do, like, in your super stressful moments, like, when you want to throw in the towel? First of all, I want to hear the quick language in your head. Like, when you have moments where you're just like, I like combustion in life. Whether it's relationships, work, everything imploding, like, just a lot of stress. And then what do you do to, like, get. Start sorting it out.

There was a bird that just flew by.

There it was.

What do I do? Okay. In my head, I say, I can't take this anymore. Everything's falling apart. I'm gonna die. Just something casual like that, you know? Not dramatic. No. Well, you know, and then what I do is I just fall apart for a minute. Yeah. And then after I have my fall apart stage. You know what really helps? What? Your dog. Yeah, Having a dog really helps.

Totally.

Taking a walk. Movement.

Always for me.

Chocolate.

Yep. For real.

Sometimes you need it.

Go walk and get a piece of chocolate. Don't, like, sit on your couch and eat a lot of chocolate. That could get a little worse.

That could get a lot worse. Because then you'll have a stomachache. Because I've done that. Me too. And it didn't turn out very well.

No, you'll get diarrhea. Yeah, neither do pints of ice cream.

So that's a start.

Same out.

What do you do?

Yeah, I. I tend to cry. Like, I just feel it in that moment, and I'm like, what are you feeling? You're feeling crazy. And I let the crazy, like, wash over me in a moment of, like, wherever I can find it. I try not to do that in public. I'll do it with friends. Like, I'll do it with friends or even here sometimes. But I'll try to, like, go and do it alone so I can actually let it out.

Yeah.

If I'm here, I'll either go for a walk or sometimes I'll just go shower. Like, sometimes, like, a shower will reset you. When I'm, like.

I'm just.

It's almost like resetting the day for me. Sometimes Water. Yes, I hear that from a lot of people. Like, water can be really resetting. It's almost like, rinsing it away. Like, energetically, too. Because, you guys, we are so, like, we're so energetic that your energy can be measured from 5ft. Like, your heart energy can be measured from 5ft outside of your chest. So I'm always, like, just washing whatever energy is, like, in your field away. Yeah, I feel like. Can really reset me. But always walking prayer. So a lot of times I'll just start saying things out loud. Like, the prayer won't even make sense at first. It's like, please, God, I can't do this alone. Like, just take this. I'm so overwhelmed. Like, just. This is for you. Like, this is not. You gotta. You. This one's yours. Yeah. Like, I literally picture just, like, I'm tapping out. And that prayer has always been, like, my literally most powerful. Like, saying those things out loud while doing those other things.

I agree. And I think I know when I get upset and call my mom, she's always. It's always at night when I get more upset. Have you ever noticed, like, night makes it terrible?

You have no willpower left. You're tired.

You have, like, your anxiety. You're just. Your willpower's down.

Right.

Like, your normal. If you picture, like, a human, like, your battery pack on the back, it's like, super low, so. And. And those things take, like, a whole battery. Yeah. So if you don't have it, you just kind of are like, you just die.

Not die, but it's best just to wash your face and go to bed. It is.

It is.

Start over tomorrow.

Okay, you heard it here. Wash your face. Wash your face.

You'll be fine, girl.

Wash your face, girl. Wash your face. Rachel Hollis, do you have a question for me?

Yes. Qq. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Hmm. There's so many. Let me think. The ability to not care when chosen.

Wait, you chose when you didn't want to care?

Yeah, I get to choose when I don't want to care. Like, it's like, if I have to go ask for something big, press the I don't care button. And I just go big and just ask.

Whatever.

Yep. When I go to speak, it's just, I don't care. This is gonna be awesome. And just do whatever I want. If I wanna, like, someone says a mean comment or I judge my body or I judge where I'm at, I'm like, I don't care.

I don't care.

I don't care. And it's just like, freedom. And you're like, yeah, yeah. It's like it just to not feel attached to the very human side of caring. While I think that keeps me rather grounded and I would no longer have a podcast, but I would be doing no, but I wouldn't know what to talk about.

Maybe you could do a mental switch in your head and be like, press. Pretend you're pressing the I don't care button.

Like the easy button at Staples.

It's very similar, except it says I don't care on it and it's pink.

Can we make a button like that for the podcast? So, like, when I talk, you just hit it. I don't care.

I don't care.

But that's powerful. Just those words, like, I might adopt that. Like, I don't care.

Yeah, I don't care.

I don't. Right.

You do what you need to do.

On that note, this is your permission to not care as much.

Exactly.

Because nobody else does.

Right. Just let it go.

Oh, my God. We're all consumed.

Let it go. Let it go.

I don't know the rest of the words.

Me neither. But it's a great movie.

It's a great movie, guys. And this was an ad for Frozen yogurt. Just kidding.

Frozen yogs.

Frozen yogs. Sponsored. Sponsored ad by Frozen yolks, which I would love.

Me too.

Don't send it to me. Just kidding. Please do not. My friend Rob Murgatroyd just sent me a bunch of ice cream, and it has cookie dough brownies. It's coconut ice cream and chocolate chip, and it's been a problem.

Is there any left?

Oh, yeah. Do you want to try it?

No, for real.

If you don't try it, I'm gonna send you home with a pint. You're gonna die.

Okay, great.

It's the best ever. Right?

On that note, we gotta go.

So until next time, everyone, earn your happy.

Bye. Bye.

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